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[ID: Ten pixel ampersands of various flags in order being TraumaEndo and DID by monstersandco, OSDDID, Adaptive, Quoigenic, Spontaneous, Willogenic, OSDD, UDD, and inclusive plural. End ID]
All created by our spouse& @monstersandco via the same app we use. We will still add these to the rentry under spouse& made pixels :) They are willing to make people's personal system flags (possibly simplified depending on complexity) with this shape!
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noah-liketheboat · 11 months
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I’ve recently begun using a wheelchair. Here’s the scoop.
I also started using forearm crutches even more recently but we’ll get to that in a second post bc this one got too long
I got my chair for $325 on OfferUp. It’s a motion composites Helio A6, and it has some fancy cushions on it. All in all I got it like 88% off of original price and it’s in pristine condition. Well, it was, until I brought it home and within 24 hours my cat scratched the (pink!!) paint job and put holes in the cushions. Thanks Misty. It now lives in the back of the car for its protection.
I put a clip-on cup holder on it and purple/white spoke covers. It’s pretty sick.
I use my wheelchair instead of walking/standing probably 30-40% of the time.
Personally
Oh my god it’s helped so much. I have so much more energy. I don’t flinch when I stand or walk. I can wait in line for food. I’m not dizzy, embarrassingly sweaty, and spacey just from standing in line anymore.
Because the previous owner spent literally $1,000 on special cushions (seat and back), I have the comfiest seat in any room 96% of the time. 10/10 would recommend. It helps with the back pain too obvi but first and foremost it’s so comfy.
I can go to the zoo. I get into the zoo for free because college but I can’t ever go because I can’t tolerate walking and standing for so long. But now I can go to the zoo!
I have more energy at the end of the day to participate in household chores and life. Before this, all my time was spent either in school or trying to recover enough to go to school again. Even doing my homework was difficult because of the fatigue, let alone date nights, hobbies, cooking dinner, sweeping the floors… it caused a lot of tension between me and my partner as well as my general being miserable.
Very steep learning curve. Very steep strength curve.
The ramp to my math class isn’t a steep grade but it’s long. When I started using it, I had to wheel up backwards. I got out of breath very easily and my shoulders were always aching something awful after going between classes. Now that hill is quite manageable and I only have sore shoulders if I’m going really fast or really far.
Wheelies. An unexpected but important skill. One that I am not good at. It took me weeks to get my wheels off the ground at all, but once I did I had a huge improvement and quickly was able to get my wheels ~6 or 8 inches off the ground. I still can’t sustain it though. I use them to go over bumps and get started up awkward ramps sometimes.
It’s been an amazing improvement to my life. I’m more independent, in less pain, happier, and more energetic. I should’ve done it earlier.
Observations:
People are weird. They talk to me more. Like, strangers ask me how my day is going in the elevator, people make small talk when they hold the door. This isn’t necessarily negative, but it is weird.
Kids stare. Adults also stare but they try to hide it. I don’t mind when kids stare though. They’re just curious and unaware.
I’m always a little nervous to ever stand up or walk out in public in case someone either thinks it’s a miracle and starts praising the lord or like hate-crimes me for “faking.”
When I wheeled in to all my classes after spring break, my teachers and seat mates were all instantly “oh my god what happened are you ok???” It’s a little awkward to explain that it’s just nerve damage that’s been getting worse.
People usually say “I’m so sorry” or “I hope you get/feel better soon!” And it’s like. I know their intentions are good, of course, but I don’t want people to be sorry! This has been an amazing life change for me! Also I’m not getting better, certainly not any time soon, and conversation gets awkward after that.
I think when I tell people it’s not really a “get better” thing, I think they at least subconsciously think it’s terminal or something?? Like. I’m not dying of nerve damage. I had nerve damage before spring break too. It’s just I finally decided to do something besides suck it up and hope I can make it through the day.
My campus is not as accessible as I once thought. The main culprit? UNLEVEL SIDEWALKS. They are the bane of my existence. My right arm will be pumping like my life depends on it and my left will be almost doing nothing. And then later when I’m doing the other way it’ll be the opposite.
There’s no ramp on the other side of one of the buildings I walk through to get to class. That was awkward.
There’s also a lot of cobblestone-type walking areas. Not only are they hella bumpy to wheel on, but they’re old and not well maintained. The cracks between slabs and the potholes can and will eject me from my chair if I’m not careful.
Funny story #1:
I rolled into the disability center on campus to take a test, as per usual (extended time and testing environment accommodations) and they had me wait while they got everyone else seated, which was weird, and then the testing coordinator came over to me and sat down next to me and was like “heyy how are you?” And I was like “I’m good, I’m good! Ah, well—*gestures to chair* yknow.” And she goes “Yeahh of course… so is this… new?”
Is it new??? Ma’am you see me every three weeks on the dot for tests, and every time for the past two years I’ve walked in on my own two feet, and today I come rolling in as I’ve transgendered into a vehicle. Yeah it’s new!!
Don’t worry I didn’t say that. I said “yeah, well, kind of. The chair is new, but the reasons aren’t. It’s just helping me a lot and my life is easier with it.” or smthn like that and she was like “oh ok good cool great”
Anyways, she just needed to tell me essentially that she would have me take my test at a height-adjustable table. Same room, same everything. Just instead of sitting in a test cubby I’d be at what’s essentially one of those standing desks. I was all nervous just for her to sit me at a table I can crank up and down like an old car window.
Funny Story #2
I’m rolling across the courtyard(??) in front of the library where they were having one of those random college of business things with tents everywhere. You’re aware. Just trying to get to class.
I hear “Hey! Excuse me, hey!” from behind me and I turn my head to see a girl frantically waving me down running across the grass. Naturally I’m intrigued.
She gets to me, a little out of breath, and then goes “Would you be interested in playing tennis?”
I look down at my chair. I look back up at her. “Ah… no…”
She was talking about adaptive tennis. Which I could’ve guessed probably but I was caught so off-guard and I was real confused.
She invited me to join the adaptive sports program/club thing, which is headed by a disabled professor but run entirely by able-bodied students (who get a class credit for volunteering with the organization, essentially). I told her I was really new so probably not, but I was willing to look into it. She gave me the professor’s email and I sent him an email like “hey one of your students flagged me down to talk abt adaptive sports but I’m shit at wheelchairing so probably not but I’d love to meet up and chat and get to know more about the program and stuff.”
It’s been a month. I haven’t gotten a reply or acknowledgement or anything.
All the stuff I can find about the program is obviously directed towards able-bodied students wanting them to volunteer or take the class. The Instagram has a post with each student in the class getting a slide with their lil intro and stuff. The professor only appears in group shots. At any rate I’m not that invested.
Personal Relations
Abled ppl when I told them I’m getting a wheelchair: oh no!! I’m so sorry!! What’s wrong!! That’s awful!! :((((
Disabled ppl when I told them I’m getting a wheelchair: omg that’s amazing I’m so happy for u :)
One exception to the able bodied trope: my youth group Bible study, surprisingly. I was sharing that I was really feeling a lot of turmoil about my decision and all that jazz and they were like “just do it. you already know it’s the right choice, and ur strong enough to do it” and they all “oohed” and “ahhed” when I rolled up with it next week. 10/10 queens.
My wheelchair has caused so many personal relationship issues in my life. So many.
Suddenly everyone’s a medical expert in me specifically. Everyone besides me knows what’s best, and what’s best is not a wheelchair. People who used to ask me what was wrong with them when they had a tickle in their throat or fell on their foot funny have apparently become scholars on complex hashimotos, nerve damage, neuropathy, and any and all suspected other conditions I may have. I wonder when they had time to do that, since they still don’t know how to care for a simple kitchen injury.
When I point out that the alternative to the wheelchair is constant+worsening pain and ask them if that’s what they think is best, these overnight medical experts get all huffy and don’t have an answer.
I have done extensive research about all my diagnosed conditions and possible ones over the course of many years. I’ve been in and out (mostly out) of at least a dozen doctor’s offices and done several rounds of different types of PT. I also live in my body 24/7. One of my earliest memories is of waking up my aunt at night during a sleepover because my nerve pain wouldn’t let me sleep. I wasn’t any older than 4. Back then the only words I had were leg cramps and growing pains.
I didn’t know my pain was abnormal for a long time. I’m good at hiding it. I’m good at “pushing through.” I experienced severe medical neglect, to the point of it being life-threatening, for nearly 2 years in the TTI and I was punished any time I tried to advocate for myself and my needs or really even talked about how I wasn’t physically well.
Basically I gave up trying to truly tell people how bad my quality of life was when I was about 16 because I wasn’t believed and I was often punished and/or had it used against me.
Nevertheless, everyone (read: my partner, my parents, and my partner’s parents) in my life thinks that I’m terrible awful wrong bad lying etc. for using the chair.
I’ve been using it for ~2 months and this is the first week my partner hasn’t argued with me about it or made an unnecessary comment. #1 worst thing they’ve said is that I’m “neglecting half of my body” by not walking 24/7. Oooh that made me mad. I do my PT almost every day, I stretch every day, I know exactly what almost every ache and pain originates from, I check in with my body constantly throughout the day. But I’m “neglecting it.” Not to mention that after my second appointment my Doctor specifically said he wants me using the chair until at least June.
My partner was originally very supportive, but then they talked to their mom and suddenly everything changed and they are borderline vindictive about my chair. Their mother is a Doctor, true, but most of her career she was a PICU nurse and also knows exactly nothing about my medical history except that I’m allergic to pecans and walnuts. Oh, and their dad has a friend who cured hashimotos by going gluten free, so obviously I’m just not trying hard enough or smthn. ((I’ve been almost gluten free before. No change.))
I cried every week about their attitude towards/comments about my chair except for this one. Every time I felt confident about it I would remember everything they said and my shoulders would physically slump. But no matter how many times I brought up how hurt and uncared for I was feeling, it ended up with me crying and them being either the same or more solid in their beliefs.
My therapist is a saint.
On the brightish side, my family and partner have finally begun taking my health and chronic issues seriously. I went to the Doctor two weeks after I got the chair and got started on a new medicine (a loop diuretic if anyone’s curious).
My mom keeps asking if I’m “better yet” and it’s really hurtful for some reason? She wants to know all my improvements, but when I start to say how my chair has helped so much, she cuts me off and says “no I mean the medicine.”
I am on the lowest dose they make, and I only take it every other day. I haven’t lost any weight since starting it (loop diuretics work by flushing excess water out of your body via peeing every twelve seconds, and this leads to weight loss. It’s estimated I’m carrying ~30lbs in water weight). Again, it’s been nearly two months. I’m the pissmaster 9000 every other day.
My mom at some point said she just “can’t accept that I’m in a wheelchair at 20.” My brother in Christ, what does that even mean? I’m not even using it full-time, or even the majority of the time.
I’ve had a follow up with my Doctor since I started but he kept me on the same dose even though I told him I haven’t lost any weight. Cest la vie.
He did tell me he wants me using the chair until at least June, and if all goes well he’ll start me in (another round of) PT, and it sounded like he wanted me doing decently intensive PT because he asked if I was in school in June and said it was good I wasn’t. If I go to PT, the chair usage advice will be passed on to them.
This post got far too long. I’ll split my crutches experience into a separate post and link it here once it’s up.
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The chair herself. Yeah it’s in a bathroom don’t worry about it.
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v-is-for-vivienne · 6 months
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I LOVE ENDOS !!!!!
Shout-out to endos and pro endos and mixed origins systems and parogenics and nontraumagenic adaptives and nondisordered traumagenics and spiritual systems especially traumagenic ones and weird systems and monoconscious systems and fictive heavy systems and plurals who aren't systems and medians and mediples and polyplurals and everything everywhere in between
you've all changed my life for the better and made me a more patient and tolerant and open minded person. I'm so glad we are no longer who we were when we hated you.
None of you will ever deserve to be judged based on the stereotypes and bigoted generalizations of anti endos. Each and every one of you& are your own beautiful selves and deserve a chance to prove yourselves as kind and patient and understanding and well informed and open minded. I wish I had known that sooner.
Okay that's enough I just wanted to say I'm endlessly grateful for what this community and it's occupants have done for me and you all so seriously do not deserve to be generalized and loathed the way you are. you're just people being people. being anti endo was the worst mistake I've ever made
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sophieinwonderland · 6 months
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What does an adaptive system mean? I've heard of it a lot but I've never been able to really. Find a definition?
From the coiner:
Green: Adaptive. We see green as a healing color and for us we feel like that is what is really central to the Adaptive experience: adapting to, overcoming and healing from trauma and adverse experiences. 
It's basically a broader form of traumagenic, where the system is formed to adapt to any sort of adversity, whether traumatic or otherwise.
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random-xpressions · 2 months
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The ability to instantly adapt, readjust and comeback is something I would count as one of the greatest human traits. Nothing is ever constant in this life and as such to evolve constantly is absolutely indispensable. A sharp intellect, a quick disposition, a clear assessment of how events around you are taking shape - all of these must be seen as essential tools for one to even survive. To thrive is an all together different ball game. All of the above are just minimum prerequisites...
Random Xpressions
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toacody · 10 months
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Dragonfly Lewa Nuva
Adaptation can go many different directions.
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Creator: Metalknightrider
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dndtreasury · 7 months
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Traveler's Cloak by Timmi's Treasure Vault
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night-wyld-system · 1 year
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Introduction
We are pro-endo but anti-tulpa (term)
Hello everyone this is our main blog where we used to talk about syscourse- now we are trying to use it to just talk about general system stuff primarily. We are working through a lot of healing and are mostly active on other accounts and discord.
We as a system..
Any/All
bodily 20
trans & on HRT
Multigender
ADHD, Autism, Anxiety, Depression, PTSD, C-PTSD, OCD, suspected ASPD & HPD
System
HC-DID & RAMCOA survivor- we talk about trauma sometimes with multiple tags for trigger warning
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earthling-wolf · 9 months
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Adaptive: agreeable Fe
Universal Love / Compassion
Although anyone may come to this conclusion, adaptive types more often leads the individual to believe "we are all one family", one humanity and we all have an intrinsic connection to one another as well as a shared narrative of joy/pain and a moral obligation to our fellow man. It believes more powerfully in the ability of everyone to make a difference in the world, and to be a force towards that difference. It believes that if everyone lent a helping hand to everyone else, we would have no need for wars or conflict. Nobody would be left out, and by the simple fostering of good-will, solutions would arise to any social problem. This translates more generally into good-samaritanism. Taken to a deeper level, this can mean an advocacy for global peace and democracy. Adaptive types will tend to prioritize the group over any one individual, and will also see it fair and necessary for resources to be distributed more or less evenly. If called forth to serve, it will serve. It will heed the call both to satisfy a personal value of goodness, and to affirm their character and trustworthiness to the collective. Acts very much define this facet, and an adaptive attitude feels one only truly cares if they act out that care in deeds and words. This also leads adaptive person to be very verbal, and perhaps overly saturated, with its expressiveness in order to ensure the sentiment is communicated.
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Adaptation
As the name implies, another quality of adaptiveness is adaptation -- specifically the adjustment of oneself in order to meet any necessary social conditions. An adaptive attitude carefully tracks the energies of the social environment and intuits what is the acceptable protocol, then proceeds to blend into that energy. The adaptive person may wear many faces and will switch between faces depending on the crowd they're in, in order to seamlessly adjust to the needs of each setting. They may excel at Pickup Artistry and at reading the nuances of social and sexual energies. And while this can help them create a highly prosperous social network, it can lead to a somewhat vague or diminishing sense of self, as they slowly start to lose their center to the many personas they have created for themselves. But adaptive Fe's adaptability is not limited to the building of personas, and can also be motivated to adjust as is necessary for their own ethical convictions. If one's personal relationships are suffering from frictions stemming from their own behaviors or habits, adaptive people will take measures to correct themselves; going through transformations of character. Whenever they discover areas for improvement, they may remake themselves according to a higher image. The adaptive person will feel that they are prioritizing the ideal (often God) above themselves, and submitting themselves to the requirements of the ideal.
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Politeness
Following from the aforementioned, adaptiveness is prone to manifest politeness and the automatic assimilation of a social programming or etiquette in order to maintain their rapport. Adaptive types will feel a strong anxiety whenever they are out-of-step, and this feedback quickly shapes their behavior in an unconscious way. "That which will offend" is not said and in some cases not even consciously thought. It becomes necessary to provide everyone with a smile and to be on good terms with all people. Adaptive people may not be able to stand the thought of having enemies or being disliked. This can be terribly debilitating and restricting as adaptive person may feel they are always walking on eggshells. They may secretly resent having to always yield and not show their true opinions, even if this self-regulation was their own choice. It may even be the case that non-standard or non-polite forms of expression are indeed socially acceptable given the right execution, however the adaptive person will not be the most daring to risk experimenting with alternative outcomes and will feel most safe following a known set of words and expressions. Over time this can lead to psychological distortions and to a splitting of personality due to how the darker aspects of directiveness have been repressed and not given true representation or validation. Words are minced; criticisms are withheld. And this fragmentation of self can lead to intense volatility when the person falls under stress.
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Social Cowardice
Adaptiveness often manifests as cowardice; an inability to confront problems, challenges, difficult situations or people. The most straightforward expression of this is lying. Rather than saying "no" to something one is being asked to do, an adaptive person will lie and say they will do it even when they know they will fail at it later. They may downplay the negatives of something in order to retain a positive image, or aggrandize their accomplishments in order not to lose face. When asked if they still love someone, they will say yes to prevent hurt feelings in the immediate moment. When confronted and asked to explain, they'll say nothing is wrong or will make excuses. This cowardice can become very distressing and troubling to their life, sabotaging many relationships both personal and professional. They may not consider that they are in fact damaging the situation rather than helping it by their concealment and dishonesty. However, they will rationalize their actions as being for the greater good even though fear is the truer motivator in them rather than a genuine wish to aide the situation or the people involved.
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Martyrdom
Another negative effect of adaptiveness is martyrdom. Like the aforementioned cowardice, adaptiveness will often not have the spine to speak up for its own needs and will be prone towards quietly taking abuse. They may be paid a very low salary at work and never ask for a raise, or ever complain about their position. They may take on all church responsibilities and bury themselves in obligations to everyone else. If this behavior is neurotic, they will work themselves down to an early grave for not knowing when to stop giving. At other times, their own ideology may persuade them into this martyr behavior as they sacrifice themselves for a greater cause. But adaptive Fe's martydom is not always a result of heroism; it can at times be just as much a result of shame and failure. The adaptive person may not feel they have the personal value or right to assert themselves due to a feeling of low self worth. This can cause them to take on the attitude that they "deserve" what is happening to them; that it is fair and that they're in the wrong. In severe cases this can lead to suicide where what seemed like a perfectly kind, beautiful, polite woman is found dead from the excessive toll she incurred for living a life of emotional debt to herself.
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Making others Dependent
A different result that might arise from an adaptive attitude is an encompassing feeling of importance in the eyes of others as nurturer. The ego becomes fixed in an identity as "provider" and "supporter", giving their life a purpose. In order to feel valued, adaptive individuals may want to make others dependent on them in order for them to feel they have some greater meaning to others or the world. If she is a mother, then she will be possessive and use her children as her reasons for existing. This expression of adaptive qualities crosses over with what Jung called the dark mother archetype; the over-protective woman that suffocates and consumes her children. This expression will work to unconsciously make it difficult for the other person to leave them. While outwardly wishing for the freedom of their dependents, their actions will speak otherwise. In a million subtle ways, they will secure their value to the party in question. They may say "we can use my car, you don't have to buy your own" and thus ensure their place in the morning drive and its conversation, as well as pave the way towards a more difficult emancipation. The same will happen in romantic affairs. In its worse form, this obsession with the dependent party can lead to jealousy. Other friendships or connections are discouraged or even prohibited, isolating the individual beneath the adaptive person’s faint smile.
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bar-marv · 6 months
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bar-marv is a haven for cocktail enthusiasts & disabled individuals! we are committed to making the mixology process more accessible for people with disabilities and chronic illnesses and want to show that disabled people enjoy luxury & libations as much as anyone else! Cheers 🍸♿️
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autumn-rain-co · 1 year
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What's the difference between traumagenic and adaptive?
While traumagenic is just... Formed from trauma. Adaptive is a much broader and less because of trauma and more because of struggles in general.
We personally use it like "Our system was formed to adapt to our trauma" rather than "Our system was formed from trauma".
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This week I walked a forest path using a mobility aid, and for the first time in years I was able to make it the whole way without my hip or knee giving out.
Similarly this past month when the hall bathtub needed to be replaced the spouse suggested that we get a walk in tub. It’s been installed now and I can’t believe how easy it is for me to take a proper bath without getting stuck.
The moral of the story is: use the mobility aid, turn on the captions, buy the wheelchair, sit to cook, wear compression gloves, whatever will make your life easier. You deserve a life with all the ease and comfort of an able person and whatever you need to give you a piece of that is good. It is right. It is important. Take care of yourself, you deserve it. I promise you won’t regret it.
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elgaberino-mcoc · 1 year
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PRODIGY (DAVID ALLEYNE) has been added to the MCOC Wishlist
New X-Men, Young Avengers, and X-Factor, and a recent run in #XMenVote? This brilliant leader and ability absorber has earned his spot. #BlackHistoryMonth #BHM 
Last seen around Wishlist page 5: http://tinyurl.com/mcocwishlist?page=5
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asg-stuff · 8 months
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What if we valued human difference? What if we stopped asking people with atypical bodies and minds to pass as “normal”? How might we revise the built environment—our schools, our offices, our cities? (via Sara Hendren: The Body Adaptive | Guernica)
More info - https://sarahendren.com/about/ - and a YouTube talk
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sophieinwonderland · 1 year
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starting to get frustrated at syscourse being so set on only two different origins, trauma and not trauma. like, adaptive doesn't equal traumagenic exactly. yes, one may fall under traumagen when using the adaptive label, but not all adaptive experiences are traumagenic. they can def fall under non-traumagen labels and even include "fully endogenic" experiences/system members. ugh. rants to you bc i dont have a syscourse friend and sometimes people in the syscourse tag piss us off
Same! The adaptive system discourse is really some of the most nonsensical gatekeeping I've seen in syscourse. The creator of the term specifically references that it's for systems who form from both trauma and other adverse experiences. @thelunastusco spoke directly to the coiner of the term and confirmed that the label was meant to be inclusive to more adverse experiences than just trauma.
If people want a label that means the exact same thing as traumagenic, they can make their own or just call themselves traumagenic. People seriously need to stop gatekeeping inclusive terms.
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otpassionproject · 1 year
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Let's talk about our SPED teachers! Our Special Education teachers are truly amazing! They go above and beyond to educate and care for our children and ensure that each child has a safe place at school. We dedicated a collection to all of our educators and specifically our SPED teachers on our websites!
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