#Alterous

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

For me being in a qpr lately is like. No we're not dating. Yes this is my boyfriend isn't he great and lovely and handsome aren't I lucky. No I don't want anyone to mistake us for romantic partners. Yes I want to marry him. No we're not "just friends". Yes I don't want people to think our friendship matters less than our love. No I don't care what people think. Yes I want you to know that we're each other's and each other's alone. No I've never had a crush on him. Yes, I love him with all my heart and soul.

#i could go on #i am so in love with this ridiculous boy #alterous attraction #queerplatonic relationship #queerplatonic #<<<this is how i love him but also so much more #aroace #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic boyfriend #qpr #alterous #lgbtqia+ #qpp #love #transgender #boyfriend #acearo #demisexual #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #demiromantic #demialterous #alterous yearning #alterous relationship #platonic marriage #queerplatonic marriage

[alterouslyinlove]

what if we cuddled for so long we were both warm and we smelled like each other. what then.

#touch starved #t4t mlm #mlm #mlm yearning #gay #gay mlm #mlm sfw #t4t sfw #t4t #queerplatonic #qpr #qpr relationship #queerplatonic relationship #alterous yearning #alterous #achillean #mlm thoughts #🌀 #my demolition lover <3 #hall of gay

[finns-gay-thoughts]

i just want to cuddle. i want our limbs to be so tangled you can’t tell where one of us ends and the other begins. i want our fingers to be interlocked. i want to feel your warmth. i want to stare into your pretty eyes and tell you things that make you blush. i want to be with you.

#finn rambles #gay #mlm thoughts #mlm sfw #t4t sfw #gay yearning #alterous #queerplatonic #qpr #boyfriend #achillean #t4t mlm #trans mlm #mlm positivity

[frogtimebabeyy]

queerplatonic attraction is so weird. i wanna friend this man so bad. i wanna put him in my pocket. heck, I wanna play DND with him.

#aro #aromantic #aroallo #arospec #alloaro #aro positivity #aro pride #aroace #aromantic asexual #aromantic allosexual #queerplatonic #queerplatonic attraction #qpr #alterous #alterous attraction

[klavierpanda]

"QPRs and other non-romantic committed relationships are not inherently amatonormative because there existence challenges amatonormativity" and "the way that some people frame QPRs as inherently more than friends is recycling amatonormative rhetoric like 'they must be in a romantic relationship or at least a QPR because friends don't do that' and is no more helpful" are statements that can co-exist.

There are phrases like "romantic relationships for aros" that completely miss the point of QPRs and frames it like aros need to make up for not experiencing romantic attraction (at the same level as allos). Ignoring the way that some people treat QPRs and other non-romantic committed relationships as a stand in or a substitute for romantic relationships is ignoring the hurt this causes non-partnering people.

Notice the nuance in what I'm saying. I'm not saying that QPRs are amatonormative. I am saying that the way some people talk about them is. Also notice I'm not talking on an individual level, this isn't about people who feels their qpps are more important than their friends. I firmly believe everyone has the right to choose what relationships are important to them and how important they are. I am talking about people who make generalising statements that do a disservice to the point of QPRs and other non-romantic committed relationships and harms non-partnering people

#I saw an iffy post that just didn't sit right #not least because of it's lack of nuance #but what can I expect from the allergic to nuance website :/ #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec #relationships #relationship anarchy #qprs #queerplatonic #alterous #panda's post

[thatnerdyqueer]

People get so confused when I try to explain the type/s of attraction I feel. But let me put it like this: I "fall in love" with someone's character. I don't want their body - I want their presence. I don't lust after them - I admire them. I don't want a romantic relationship - I find them fascinating. Interesting. Fun. They challenge and compliment me. They're loyal. They're funny. They're not two-dimensional, they're a well rounded character. I fall in love with someone as a character, as an arc, as a person. As a friend. People seem to read this one of two ways - it's romantic, or it's just platonic and I haven't found the right person yet. *sigh* the definition of platonic is 'deeply affectionate but not romantic in nature'. So yeah, it's platonic. It's deep. It's affectionate. It's not romantic. It's just as good though, so can we stop saying 'just'?

Like, you know when people have gay panics? I want that, and frequently experience it, but in a platonic way. As in, wow what you did was really impressive/intersting I want to get to know you and spend time with you kind of way. Not in a wow I want to kiss you way. Someday I want to meet someone in a bookshop and 'flirt' with them or whatever allos seem to think it is, and get their phone number. And then, instead of asking them to see a movie as a date, I'll ask them to come and eat pop corn with my friends and watch a movie because I think they'll find it interesting. Make no mistake - I'm aroace, but I still want my meet cute. I want a platonic meet cute where I find someone, who's character is so full and interesting and bursting with life that I get their number and send them memes and geek out with them, and get to know them and admire them until we feel comfortable around each other. I just want to live with someone. To read together, watch tv shows together, listen to music together, go to the theatre together, without them being considered 'dates'. Because I don't want them because I want their body. I want them in my life because I like their character.

And if you think about it, I'm very lucky in this way. Because, while not everyone has a super-model body, the vast majority of individuals are so bursting with life that I am very, very, likely to find people, many people, whose character I love. To be honest, I've already found plenty. But, ever the "optimist", I hope I find more :)

#oriented aroace #grey aroace #greyromantic #aromantic #aro #ace #asexual #greysexual #demiromantic #demisexual #alterous #quoiromantic #neuroromantic #queerplatonic #platonic #platonicise #tertiary attraction #aesthetic attraction #found family #aroace

[themostfangtastic]

my chemical queerplatonic relationship. my chemical alterous. are you seeing my vision.

#my chemical romance #my chem #mcr #my chem romance #alterous #alterous relationship #queerplatonic relationship #qpr #queerplatonic #alterous attraction #aromantic #aro #arospec #aromantism

[alterousuggestion]

because the truth is. i do want to be held and i do want to be loved. and i want to hold and love too. find me someone who will understand this and choose to be with me anyways. let me pour myself into them.

#text #admin post #alterous #alterous attraction #aro #aromantic #tertiary attraction #aroace #queer platonic partner #txt #IM SUFFERING TREMENDOUSLY #VERY GAY FEELINGS TODAY

[imighthaveadumbcrush]

I often imagine what it will be like to hold your hand, to kiss your knuckles softly, to have your palm gently cup my jaw

#love #yearning #falling in love #gay yearning #queer #gay #queer yearning #gay love #queer love #queerplatonic relationship #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic #queerplatonic love #alterous yearning #alterous love #alterous relationship #alterous #long distance qpr #long distance relationship #ldr #🌸

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

Let's go to the aquarium together and I can draw the sharks while you tell me facts like how sharks keep swimming even when they're asleep and you've got that excited look on your face and then we can go home to our house and cuddle on our couch while we watch our favourite shows and play video games and cook each other dinner and go to coles together and spend every moment of our lives together because the look on your face when you see me is infinitely more beautiful than all the sunrises we'll watch together

#alterous attraction #qpr #queerplatonic #alterous #lgbtqia+ #qpp #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic relationship #love #transgender #aroace #aromantic #aromanticism #asexual #asexuality #demiromantic #demisexual #demialterous

[gothfatherr]

me sweating nervously when I feel things and I don't know what type of feelings they are...is it alterous? platonic? romantic? sensual? sexual? what is it?

#aro #aromantic #queer #lgbt #aromantic spectrum #arospec #aromanticism #aro positivity #aroallo #alterous

[alterouslyinlove]

daydreaming isn’t enough i need it to happen to me in real life

#🌀 #my demolition lover <3 #alterous #mlm #queerplatonic #alterous yearning #queerplatonic relationship #achillean #gay #alterous relationship #mlm thoughts #mlm yearning #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic yearning #yearning #daydreaming #mlm positivity #mlm textpost #gay mlm #soft mlm #gay yearning #hall of gay

[finns-gay-thoughts]

the cold weather lately just makes me think about cuddling up next to you under a blanket, drinking hot cocoa and putting on a movie that we dont really pay much attention to. we have each other, and thats all that matters.

#gay #finn rambles #mlm thoughts #mlm yearning #mlm #qpr #queerplatonic #alterous #t4t sfw #mlm sfw #t4t mlm #mlm love

[gengernoway]

˗ˏˋ cannilterous ´ˎ˗ [pt: cannilterous end of pt] — A type of alterous attraction that's connected to cannibalistic urges. Like wanting to eat the one you feel alterous attraction to, or be eaten by them. —

— COINED BY ROACH —REQUESTED BY: ME —TAG : @gengernoway @webby-mogai

[pt: coined by roach end of pt] [pt: requested by: me] [pt: tag : @gengernoway @webby-mogai]

[ID: a drawing of a grey simplified cockroach drawing with closed eyes and a speech bubble with text in it saying "READ OUR DNI. . ." end of id]

attraction template by @webby-mogai !!! also helped us with the simplified ver. :3

#alterous #cannilterous #liom #mogai #（ cooin ） #attraction mogai #attraction type #attraction coining #cannibal attraction #cannibalism tw #alterous attraction #>> honestly... the flag was horror to work with. the original alterous flag is very ugly. i hope i made it look good.

[shinyasahalo]

Queerplatonic and alterous relationships may be above friendships but they are not below romantic relationships.

The whole point is to stop having romance be at the top.

#QPR #Queerplatonic #Alterous #Aromantic #Amatonormativity

[alterousuggestion]

alterous attraction is like,, i know you exist. i have felt you before. please stop by again

#i hung out with an old friend #who was the person i first felt alterously towards #and maybe still do deep down and #it’s such a peaceful feeling. and i felt so safe. and warm. #there were no butterflies or anything like that just a sigh of relief like ! oh ! i’d forgotten what it felt like to be loved how i want to #text #admin post #aro #aromantic #alterous #alterous attraction #aroace #tertiary attraction #queer platonic partner #txt