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gloomypoetry · 5 months ago
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Sometimes all we need is someone whom we could let out our emotion to. We don't seek validation of what's happening in our disastrous mind, we don't seek some distraction or escape, we just need someone to understand. Yes, understanding is a simple act yet contains an irreplaceable deep value: consolation.
I don't believe that the term first aid kit only belongs to physical injuries. Our mental needs first aid likewise and I believe, understanding is one.
Understanding can save a life.
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cookiesanddonuts17 · 3 months ago
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Repost @repairing_the_nervous_system

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It isn’t your fault if you’re experiencing dysregulation from what happened in your past. Your nervous system moves away from a regulated baseline following chronic and traumatic stress.
 It may need support to come home again to the place where you feel a sense of inner security and trust, and the place where your recover your innate capacity for resilience.
Dysregulation also impacts the way the immune system works, how the endocrine (hormonal system) functions and it reduces vagal tone. It impacts the way the survival brain detects danger and this happens outside of conscious awareness.
Returning to a regulated baseline is the essence of resilience, and can change how you feel in your body, how you connect with other people, and how you feel in the world.
The key to this is bottom-up regulation that recalibrates the nervous system and allows the survival brain to recover.
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bluestarscribbler · 6 months ago
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Writing Characters With Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD)
Hi everyone! :) How are you doing? 🥰💕 Today I'll be outlining the main do's and don't's of writing characters with SAD, as well the definition and the main symptoms of SAD.
DISCLAIMER: I am not diagnosed with SAD myself; however, all of the following information had been obtained from different posts and sites of people that have first-hand experience with SAD. I will be linking those at the end of today's post, please feel free to check them out.
What I learned from the intense research I did is that nobody has social anxiety the same. Some people feel like they can't breath. Others tend to laugh in awkward moments. Nobody is the same. No character is exactly alike. You can't get it "right," because it's not an exact science. So don't feel too pressured while writing a character with SAD, there's no "one" way to write them. A helpful approach is to think what about how the SAD fits into the story you want to tell because the topic is really as complicated as any other and you can view it from many different angles and go as deep as you want - depending on what this story you're trying to tell calls for. So rather than trying to get an objective view of this complicated topic, focus on the aspects that are relevant to the story.
What is Social Anxiety Disorder?
AKA Social Phobia, SAD describes an intense fear and avoidance of negative public scrutiny, public embarrassment, humiliation or social interaction. This fear can be specified to particular social situations; such as public speaking, or more typically, is experienced in most/all social interactions. Those suffering from SAD will often attempt to avoid the source of their anxiety; this is particularly problematic and in severe cases can lead to complete social isolation.
Symptoms of SAD:
person paces a lot
very fidgety
stops talking mid sentence...a lot
wrings hands
angered by slightest infractions of others
finds fault in others a lot
hard to breathe when focus/attention is shifted to them
sweating profusely
mumbling
shrinking to hide
lack of eye contact/wandering eyes
painfully shy and withdrawn
picking the nails, picking the skin
always the person in the back of the room or in a corner
gravitating toward the first person they recognise and following them everywhere
headaches
finding ways to avoid certain situations
crying before or after social events
feel dizzy and the entire world becomes very far away
feeling like chest was caving in
assuming that everyone is focusing on them
assuming that people are laughing about them
grind their teeth a lot
bite their knuckles
tap out drum patterns with their feet or fingers
nausea and vomiting
muscle weakness
migraines
heart arrhythmia
increasing nervous tics
Keep in mind that social anxiety exists on a spectrum. Not everyone is paralysed at the smallest conversation, but some are. Others feel mild discomfort at certain types of socialising. It’s all relative.
DO'S:
DO write in a lot of internal dialogue. People with SAD say that most of their anxiety is created by their own internal rumination. So, add a lot of overly self-critical internal dialogue and have them think about trivial things that they may or may not have gotten wrong for hours after the fact. People with SAD also tend to avoid initiating with anyone, instead preferring for them (the other person) to initiate — because then they know they're not inconveniencing them (the other person). If a person with SAD does have to interact with people then they tend to plan and rehearse what they're going to say to them. However, once the social interaction has begun, there will be very little internal monologue. In those situations, the character is very much relying on instinct. After the interaction, if the character feels that they messed up (which is likely; be sure to pick up on even the slightest fumbles or awkward pauses), they should keep thinking about how they're an idiot and they want to never have to talk to another person again, because they know it'll end the same way. If they feel like they did a good job, they should express surprise at how well it went, congratulate themselves, and say that they should maybe do this more often — although they probably won't.
DO let them have observational skills. Part of the anxiety stems from not always knowing how to/being good at socialising. Thus an anxious person will watch others closely for clues to their performance and acceptance. While it doesn’t always tell the person how they are doing, it does teach them a lot about the people around them and how they feel about each other. The person in a group with SAD may actually have a better idea of who in the group are friends, enemies, annoyed with the others, think they are better, have crushes, and so on. Having SAD doesn’t mean that a person doesn’t know social cues, it means that they underestimate their ability to use them. Don’t confuse SAD with autism.
DO make it influence all decisions. This is one you can do as the writer and not include every bit of internal dialogue. Just keep in mind that Every decision an anxious person makes is put through the anxiety filter first. Even if they are doing things by themselves, they have to evaluate the chances of meeting people, meeting people they know, having to talk to people when they are done. Keep that in mind when writing these characters in order to keep their personality consistent. That said, in general you can think of someone with SAD feeling physically, mentally and emotionally uncomfortable and "out of place" in ordinary social situations - they want out of it, looking for the door, excuse to leave, cut the interaction short. There could be a sense of shame, guilt and self-loathing about not being "good enough", or that there is something broken and wrong with them (or society).
DO give them other traits. Make sure you give them other traits that influence their decisions and drive their motivations. Someone can have anxiety and also love adventure, want to save all the stray dogs, want to help orphans, want to be a basketball hero, etc. One of the big problems with SAD is that it interferes with a person’s desires to do and be other things. It doesn’t always win though. And sometimes a person may decide that an awkward encounter or two is worth taking part in some other activity they love. Just remember to keep your characters balanced.
DO let them find each other. SAD is probably more common than you’d think. Not everyone has a crippling case. You can have characters share their anxiety with each other and comfort each other and help each other through tough times. SAD can make a person feel isolated but they don’t have to be, and often aren’t as isolated as they think. That observational skill can also help them find the right people to share their feelings with. Not all socialising is terrifying, it can often be cathartic.
DON'T'S:
DON'T make them hate people. Social anxiety does not mean that the person afflicted doesn’t like people or always craves solitude. One of the harshest aspects of SAD is that a person may want companionship and friends but still have uncontrollable discomfort when faced with making friends or spending time with the friends they already have. This constant tug-of-war between wanting friends and feeling the anxiety around people can cause a lot of internal pain and lead to other emotions and conditions such as depression. Someone with SAD can have friends. Even a lot of friends. But certain factors may influence how a person with SAD chooses friends more than they influence others. The level of contact is different for everyone and there will be some friends who can take up more time while not taking up more energy on the part of the anxious person. However, SAD can get so bad that the person with it is unable to leave the house for days at a time, ghosting on all social engagements, not answering their phone and ignoring all texts; but that still doesn't mean they hate people.
DON'T always make them succeed. If you are writing about a person with SAD and they are forced again and again to go outside their comfort zone, make them fail. Have them go to a meeting and then duck down a side corridor at the last minute and disappear. Have them talk to a person and then freeze up in the middle of a conversation, at a loss for words. The longer they go without knowing what to say the stronger the anxiety gets and the harder it is to think. Or have them execute the socialising brilliantly but then go into the bathroom and cry from the overwhelming sense of effort it took to look normal. And just because they have had a few successes doesn’t mean that they will start succeeding every time. Sometimes, the energy it takes, even when the interaction was a success, means that next time they are reluctant or too exhausted to do it again.
DON'T always give them "tells". Anxious people can be very good at hiding it. In the example above of the person who socialises brilliantly and then cries in the bathroom, no one knows how hard it was. They only saw the brilliant “performance.” Keep that in mind. Not all people uncomfortable with socialising are bumbling awkward goofballs. Sometimes they actually appear very cool and collected.
DON'T suddenly make their anxiety disappear when they're at the end of their character arc. This pisses me off, anxiety is a life-long condition. It cannot be "overcome" easily. However, the person with it can learn to live with it. They can visit a psychiatrist, get pills prescribed or change their lifestyle completely to fit around their SAD. A person with anxiety always thinks about their anxiety. Even when they are happily at home reading a book, sometimes they will think about an upcoming engagement, or wish they made friends like the characters in their book. Every time a person with SAD makes plans they have to run through a list of criteria before nailing anything down. Will they have time before and after to prep for and cool down from the experience? Is it something they have done before and feel comfortable doing? Can they back out at the last minute if they feel too overwhelmed that day? These are just a fraction of the things that go through an anxious person’s mind before committing to plans. Again, this isn’t an absolute, but for many people with SAD it is a defining characteristic of who they are. They don’t talk to a single person, even a spouse sometimes, or make a doctor’s appointment without the anxiety affecting how they feel, think, and behave. It is always there. Always.
That's it for today folks! I hope everyone has an absolutely fantastic day! 😊❤
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byond-insanity · 6 months ago
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It took me so long to get people to realise I had mental health problems because I always seemed so well put together. Little did they know inside I felt like dying. Little did they know inside I was a trembling mess.
People call me a control freak without really understanding why I do and have things the way I do. I manage my anxiety and life in a world where most people will never understand it.
Just because someone seems well put together doesnt mean there aren't cracks. Doesn't mean they dont need you to care and understand.
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nyepodtok · 2 years ago
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Me: *tells a "completely normal" and "kinda funny" annecdote from my childhood that totally wasn't traumatic at all and probably happens to everyone at some point*
My Therapist: *winces*
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caffeinatedlittle · 2 months ago
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Anxiety has ran hard through my the last 24 hours, little to no sleep last night, suicidal thoughts all day long, bickering with the one person Iothe bickering with, the want to end things has been draining. It's mentally and physically hard to stop yourself from ending your life when it's what you desperately want to but also want to continue to live... for reasons unknown, hope? I don't know. But I'm exhausted and craving being held and to feel safe again.
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ilyalish · a year ago
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just want everyone 2 know, if i make a post that specifies ADHD it is 10000% okay to reblog + identify with it if you are autistic, depressed, anxious, or otherwise neurodivergent!! this is for everyone!! please feel free and safe to identify with what we have in common!! i love you all!!!!!!!
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didiareyouokay · a month ago
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mental disorders & friendships
a lot of people hold back how they really feel especially mental health wise because they feel like a burden, the truth is individually the world revolves around every one of us & seeing as a lot of us have a chemical imbalance in our brains = mental disorders, we feel the need to hold back because no one wants to feel like they're taking anyone's time/ to be perceived as crazy or inconsiderate or even selfish but the truth is people with these issues need a 100 percent attention and love. btw if you watch adventure time princess bubblegum is a virgo b**c*
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the-halloween-babe71 · 6 months ago
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Just another informative thing on how anxiety can affect people. I know I’ve done a lot of these and it’s hard when no one understands around you.
This isn’t my post but I felt it was important to post it here
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beauty-by-tyy · a month ago
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hope-strength-courage · 5 days ago
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Anxiety - 29/11/2021
When people don’t read my messages but I know they’ve been online I start panicking and overthinking that they’re ignoring me or I must have done or said something wrong. I convince myself they must hate me now or don’t want to talk to me anymore. I know there are so many reasons why people might not look at my messages and I sometimes don’t open messages straight away until I can reply so I don’t forget but I just worry about it so much. I always just hope the other person is okay to be honest, I worry something is wrong very easily. It’s complicated, but just part of my Anxiety that I struggle with. I feel ignored / rejected / lonely very easily - it’s my own issue that I’m working on.
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byond-insanity · 4 months ago
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At some point you just stop talking about how you feel. At some point you just internalise everything to deal with alone.
There are certain aspects of my past I will never share with those around me. Not for fear of being judged but because I don't want to see that pain in their eyes. I don't want to shatter their world view. I don't want to have them worry about "normal" aspects of life.
So I smile and act "normal" so they don't suffer like I do.
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pursuerlife · 4 months ago
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pursuing prayer & peace
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October 18, 2020
Writing this post didn't start now, but actually about a year ago this December, when I asked my grandma how to become a prayer warrior.  
She's known for always praying for everyone else, so I was not surprised when she said that "all through the day" she talks to God.  Her response led me to research, and while doing so I found an ebook called, "Becoming a Prayer Warrior" by Elizabeth Alves.  
I had the ebook sent to my email and left it sitting in my inbox for months, until this summer, when I hit what had felt like rock bottom.  
I had just come back from the Philippines in May, trying to move past the incredibly difficult two month COVID-19 quarantine lockdown and the emergency response of teaching online, where we were not allowed to leave our houses.  But I wasn't moving past anything; I was actually suppressing everything.    
I was anxious all the time, feeling like I was in danger. I couldn't breathe, I couldn't sleep, I could barely exist in my own daily life.  Nightmares woke me almost every night and kept me awake because of the horrible things I was seeing in my mind--it came to the point where I was afraid to go to sleep.  
Then I had my first panic attack and everything changed.  Shortly after that I was diagnosed with adjustment disorder, anxiety, depression, and my nightmare sleeping disorder.  
I knew I was never going to get through any of this without God, and I had not spent time with him in months.  I had felt too anxious and overwhelmed in my mind to even say a prayer--opening my Bible felt like the heaviest of tasks, so I would quit before I even began.
So, I took a quick look at my life and my fragile state and suddenly remembered that prayer ebook I had never read.  I believe it was the holy spirit that prompted me to search through my cluttered inbox to find it.
After doing so, I read with an urgency I had never experienced.  The only way I can explain this (or maybe it's just because I'm reading this book with my students right now) is that it's like when Harry Potter first finds out he's a wizard and has magical powers. Elizabeth Alves was my Hagrid, telling me of the deep and divine communication that can happen between my soul and God, and I was little Harry, struck with awe.
I very quickly realized there was much more to prayer than I had known and I couldn't believe it.  Why weren't people speaking more deeply on this topic?
I needed to know more, so I searched for more books and came across one entitled, "The Hour That Changes the World" by Dick Eastman (read my post about this book here).  I read it through once, and I was convicted and inspired and knew I needed to immediately read it again, only taking notes the second time.  I now have a journal filled with notes just on prayer, and I'm not stopping here.  
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In his book, Eastman claims, "Prayer does not require advanced education...but prayer is more.  Prayer is the vision of the believer.  It gives eyes to our faith.  In prayer we see beyond ourselves and focus spiritual eyes on God's infinite power."
That's just it--prayer is MORE.  It's more than the shallow prayers I pray when I need something or before I have a meal.  It's more than the typical "Lord, help me get through this day" prayer, although those prayers can be honest and heartfelt.  It is "divine communication" with the creator of the universe.
This blog will be used as a space for growth--both spiritually and mentally, as I strive to dig deeper into what prayer with God really means and finding my ultimate peace in Him.  I don't claim to know anything high and mighty.  I don't have a doctorate in theology.  All I have is this hunger deep in my soul to pursue and know God in a whole new way that I didn't know was possible, and I hope you will be there to join me so we can be pursuers together.  
Peace,
Mal
https://www.pursuerlife.com/post/pursuing-prayer-peace
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iamashakasketch · a year ago
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With all that's going on in world, know the signs and approach with care and understanding ❤️.
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