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migleefulmoments · 5 years

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"for those of you are are drinking the Kool Aide, you all believe that he shares his entire private life, because we see him all the time and constantly out and about." I can't get over how black and white she sees everything. Darren has to share every part of his life or share nothing. It's just not how things work for any celeb or even people we know irl. I don't know every single detail of my own friends lives and I don't need to, people are entitled to share/not share as much as they want.

Isn’t it incredible? She really has a very literal interprotation of words- several times a week I am still shocked by one of her revelations. That entire ask was pretty interesting.

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It perplexes me that stans try and say we read too much in to D's friendships with people like AC, HS, etc and that they're only his PR friends when they do the same thing with the SKs and others. Just because D says RR and the SKs are his besties on social media doesn't make it true in the same way us believing in a friendship based on social media doesn't make that true. Funny how they use the same tactics as we do to prove their side but we're chastised for it!

Nonnie, the stans are desperate right now.

I love how she always claims were are shaking in our shoes because we know she’s right-it’s so childish. I think that was the argument strategy I used with my younger sister when I was in middle school. Abby projects her own anguish by claiming “they are desperate”. Except I'm have never said #Iamveryupset over something in Darren’s life, I don’t hate 2019, and I don’t come up with derogatory names to bully his friends and disparage his wedding and the show he created.

One of them spent hours researching each person we posted about to tell us where said individual was on the day of the horror film Hours, her post is laughable, because she needs to feel better about the fact that she too knows that the guest list was off.

It’s hilarious that she believes I spent hours searching for where each person was on February 16. First of all, I mentioned that my fairy godmother sent me those links and second of all, they were from Instagram so not hard to find.

Not to mention she completely discounted that D&M were ecaged for over one year,

Then she lays on some classic Abby logic- they were engaged for a year so their “friends” (as defined by Abby) should have known to get the day off. Of course they should have because that is what she did for her friends’ wedding. I’m sure that those who wanted to be were there. But some times work gets in the way (Why are we taking about this 7 months later?).

and most people who wanted to be there would have been there, not one of the excuses she names to me was something that had to happen.

Wow...the people who paid to see the live performances and the costars and crew who worked those show would disagree. Alan, Lena, and Laura all had live shows that weekend soooooo not exactly the same as Abby getting a coworker to cover her at a conference while she was in a wedding last weekend. But more importantly, isn’t this an argument in my favor? I agree, everyone who wanted to be there would have been hence those people You believe are his real friends- that I'm arguing are coworkers- weren’t there (X) (X) (Xk)

I have gotten countless anons saying D is “private” and we don’t know who he hangs out with. Not true, if you believe in the marriage, he is not private”

FACT: Each and every time I debunk a cc trope, I methodically lay out the proof and provide evidence showing why and how ccers are wrong. I include links, dates, photos and quotes- all which can be double checked for accuracy. There is nothing fun about making up facts- it’s only fun if I can prove I’m right. Here you are “taking me down” with some sweet cc proof (X) Take note- they are all gifs.

I get it, you believe Darren’s closest friends are his former coworkers because those are the people you’ve seen with him in so many photos on social media. Those are the people he said such nice things about while promoting the project but of course, that is what you do when you are drumming up publicly for a show. While I have no doubt he likes those people and they are friendly acquaintances- friends even- they aren’t his closest friends. If the only time he is with those people are when they are working or promoting a project-that is a pretty good hint that they are not his ride-or-die friends. You have to look for consistency-are they hanging out while working on a project or have thy been friend for 16 years? The people he has literally called “one of my best friends” are also the people he travels with (Vegas, Palm Springs, overseas, Ann Arbor, NY), they attended each other’s weddings and performed at each other’s ceremonies. They are the people he takes to shows in and around LA. see various music and theater shows in and around LA, Do they mention Mia on social media? All of Darren’s close friends have a friendship with MIa.

If you really want to have a clue about what is going on in Darren’s private life, you have to look a little deeper. You have to listen to what he says in his interviews-even if there isn’t a gif-worthy moment to manipulate. You ignore the audio and print interviews- even those where he divulged a lot -because they can’t be altered- there is no video to crop, slow-down, and make into an emotional gif.

Another telltale sign -does he talk about the friends in relation to his future? He calls writing a show with TheStarKid “the most fun thing to do”. Taking in all of the evidence, it is clear to me that the people at his wedding were the people he considers his closest friends. He hired Nick Lang and John and Jennifer for Royalties because he likes them.

Fact, they can’t have their cake and eat it too. If you accept that m/iarren is real, they you must accept that D has lied repeatedly about privacy being precious. I feel like i went to JLB’s wedding. I felt like i went to MS & BH’s wedding. And like I was on the great family honeymoon in the Philippines. And both European trips. I see that he has been with the creepster and his “not gf” repeatedly over the past few months. And I lived the sham mockery we have so much footage.

(starts beating my head against the wall) “He’s private so we don’t know who he hangs out with” except we can see with our own two eyes who he is with. Do you imagine that he stays home so he can hang with Edgar, Jane, Alan and Elvis privately? Oh wait, I know they all have invisibility cloaks. For the 9000th time, “being private” means he doesn’t share his intimate life secrets. All celebs have to give up some level of privacy. Darren keeps mentioning it to explain why he doesn’t post on social media more- it’s something he thinks? worries? about a lot. He isn’t telling us he’s private because he thinks it’s our responsibly to worry about it.

He is actually private-compare him to Kylie Jenner or Gigi Gorgeous who share everything. He does however leave his house and we can sometimes see who he’s with. The only person in your list of “friends” that we know he spent appreciate time with when they weren’t working together is Ricky Martin. He has spent personal- non-working time- with StarKids, Ricky, Ben, and Ashley .

(still beating head against the wall) You didn’t “almost go to” any of thoseweddings. You saw a few short videos and some photos because you stalked all of the people who were invited to those weddings. Darren had NO control over any wedding outside of his own and he clearly wasn’t worried about his privacy at his friend’s weddings and that isn’t something for you to worry about. Darren is an adult and he is making choices in his life. You let him handle his own life- you will be way less anxious.

If they insist the people we see are real friendships like SK, they can’t then go the opposite way and say he is hiding his very private friendship with JC, AL, BF, and PA. It doesn’t work that way. If you accept what they repeatedly show us, weekly, often daily, then you accept D is an attention whore. Plain and simple.

(hitting my head against the wall EVEN HARDER) I can absolutely accept that Darren feels like privacy is precious AND also feels very comfortable that what he shares about his life AND is happy about his life choses. I do not believe that he is hiding his relationship with Jennifer, Ben kor Pamela, and whomever else your initials represent (my brain hurts from all the hitting). Darren’s personal life is private and there is no doubt he has relationships with people we don’t see- they might also be Mia’s friends. Or he knew he was hiring Jennifer for the show and invited her. There are lots of solutions to the equation-it isn’t my job or yours to solve it. Your need for everything to be “all” or “nothing” is what is tripping you up here. It absolute can go both ways. He sees Ricky, Ashley, StarKids and Ben more often because they are friends who and out, they have a lot in common and enjoy seeing time together because they are at the same stage of life. Pamela and Jennifer can be special to Darren even if they aren’t people he spends a lot of time in public with. People can be very special even if we see them very rarely. Relationships aren’t predicated on spending time together. But the fact is WE DO SEE his friendship with StarKids, Ricky, Ashley and Ben and we know they are good friends because he’s told us so. We have verbal confirmation and we have seen physical evidence. With Jennifer, Ben and Pamela, we have not seen evidence of a friendship besides the wedding but they were at the wedding and it isn’t our responsibly to figure out who each person is friends with and how special that friend is. The message is that that person meant enough that they invited them to the wedding. As for you list of “friends” Alan, Elvis, Jane, Ricky, Edgar etc, we saw a ton of interaction while they were promoting their projects but then it stopped. They also weren’t at the wedding which leads me to believe that they are friends but they aren’t al that close that they would fly to NOLA for a wedding.

It is Darren’s responsibility to decided how much he wants to share and to know whether he is sharing too much with his fans. It Is NOT my responsibility -as a fan- to make sure he is comfortable or to determine what he means by “private”.

I don’t agree with you that “If Miarren is real then we must accept that Darren is lying repeatedly about the privacy thing”. What I will agree with is that you constantly misconstrue what he means the says he is private. I also believe that as a general rule, those of us who grew up before social media have a much more restricted definition of “private” than those who were younger when it became popular. So what you think is “private”, younger people willingly share.

What I don’t understand is that you claim over and over that everything out of Darren’s mouth is a lie. You claim he isn’t straight, he is with Chris or married to Chris, he is not married to Mia, his wedding was a sham, and that he doesn’t own or even like TSGs, that he doesn’t live with Mia in the home he show off as his home, and that he lies during interviews because he team forces him to interviews

Sp the question is what lie are you willing to accept? Because either D is lying about his sexuality or he is lying about his desire to keep his private life private and off of SM.

My question to you is “what lies are you willing to accept?”

#cc #ccer #cc fandom #crisscolfer #darren criss #debunking cc lies #cc nonsense #explaining relationships

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thereallygoodblogshow · 5 years

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MA Fashion and Textile Practices Major Project Path - 20th August

My final T-shirt was initially based on the concept of silence vs expression, I liked the idea of confliction between the need to be expressive and the need to be secretive. I had done some prior research into folds and pleating, and had developed a Pinterest board on concealing words/text within folds. It was the idea that as human beings there are parts of us which we wish to keep hidden and aspects of ourselves we wish to show to the world that I liked, essentially we are contradictory. I thought that using the text I had developed previously - ‘Space is the fold’ would emphasise this notion because the text could be utilised as my expressive side - the part I want people to ‘read’, but yet it discusses the fold - the part I want to keep to myself.

I didn’t want to create a T-shirt which looked like the other ones, this was meant to be a personal piece. I began to think of how, after completing this MA where I would fit in this world, deep I know, but taking this MA has been challenging in many ways and has forced me to consider what I want to do next in life. I’ve been involved in design in one form or another since I was 16 and had some really positive experiences. I love design, although my love of it has been challenged at certain points in my career, and my confidence knocked because of negative experiences.

I worked at a company in Leeds called E.B.I from October 1993 to December 2005, almost 13 years. I began as a confident designer - having just come from a company working up from design assistant to designer within 6 years - designing mainly men’s, women’s and children’s lingerie and nightwear. I loved my job and the small design team we had. It was incredibly varied work, I was involved in designing everything from the garment itself to the packaging and labelling. I was quite high pressure, we had to ensure deadlines were met and the manufacturers critical path was adhered to, often working late to make it all happen. After a few years I was promoted to senior designer - from starting out as a design room assistant on a Y.T.S training programme back in 1987 this was a big achievement for me.

It was during this time that things started to go wrong for me creatively, and our design team as a whole. This was partly due to company expansion and the way they viewed us as a creative team, and partly because they had employed a design director who was controlling and manipulative. There is no other way of putting it - we were bullied in the workplace. There are many instances I could recount here but it would be a very long introduction to my final T-shirt piece! I think on a whole we were made to feel worthless, undervalued and that the creative aspect of our jobs was the least important. The term ‘cad monkey’ was bandied about, of which the Urban Dictionary (2009) states:

‘Somebody who has gone through years of difficult and strenuous education in engineering, architecture, or a similar field only to wind up with a mindless and repetitive job where they do one task on a computer drafting program over and over again.’

Miragestudio7, n.d. (2019). Dilbert Cad Monkey And The Truth Of Sitting At Your Desk For 9 Hours A Day. [Illustration]. Retrieved from https://blog.miragestudio7.com/dilbert-cad-monkey/301/.

With myself in the role of senior designer I was answerable to the design director and company directors, so I took on an incredible amount of stress which I didn’t pass on to the rest of the team because it would have been unfair. I was the one being paid the most, so I took the brunt of it. In the end I was looking for a way out. My husband and I decided we needed a fresh start - from each other, but I didn’t realise that at the time - and moved, or was that escaped? to Spain. We bought a property north of Granada in a traditional Spanish town called Iznalloz.

This is our house in Spain, with my (ex) mother-in-law at the front door.

We were relatively happy there for around a year - our initial settling-in time and getting used to our new environment, it was hard but fun. I think nobody really knows what it’s like moving to another country unless you experience it yourself. It is wonderful, yet terrifying! My husband had planned on becoming a DJ in Spain, he had a huge vinyl collection of dance music and all the equipment required, it would have been a good source of income if he had managed to get work out there. I set up a little freelance design business making greetings cards to sell to locals and customers at home, which was doing OK and kept the creative juices flowing whilst I worked out what else I wanted to do.

Living in a country where you don’t know anybody else apart from the person you are with for 24/7 puts an incredible strain on the relationship. My husband became frustrated with the lack of work, and resentful of me managing to generate some - albeit small - amount of income. He was nursing his own demons, suffering from depression since he fell ill with a sudden brain tumour a few years before - it had affected us both deeply. He became increasingly verbally abusive towards me and then to my friends and family - some of whom were very worried for my well-being miles away in another country. So after a visit from my mum in February 2006 I decided to leave him and Spain and move back to the UK. Unfortunately this didn’t happen until the August that year as I had to save any money we had, as well as my mum putting together some funds for me to return home. The time in-between was incredibly stressful, we lived together but had separated, it was a surreal situation but we had to make it work.

I had lost any impetus to be creative at that point and was just counting the days and weeks until I could come home. Looking back, I think that I associated that time in my life to creativity being a bad thing. Maybe I subconsciously blamed it partly for the breakdown of my marriage, when I knew in reality it was the abuse that was the contributing factor. When I eventually got back to the UK, I lived with my mum in Lincoln and got a part-time job in BHS as a Christmas temp. In the August of 2009 I was thrilled to land a job as a senior lingerie designer at a company in called Crew 2000 in Bradford. It meant moving back up to Yorkshire, but it was the best for me and my mum to enable us to start living our lives for ourselves once again. I moved in with my best friend Mel - who I had been friends with since our days as designers for E.B.I and began this new chapter in my life. I felt I had fallen in love with design again, it had been present in the good and bad parts of my life, it had been the constant throughout.

One of the repeat prints I designed for Miss Selfridge whilst I was at Crew 2000 in Bradford.

I was at Crew 2000 for around 11 months before I was made redundant. I hadn’t been made redundant before and it was a huge shock. The company had employed me knowing the lingerie department was in trouble. They decided to dissolve the department and move any further lingerie business to the swimwear department - as the two were seen to be similar in approach. I felt my final chance at having a successful career in lingerie design had been taken away. The industry had been increasingly utilising the talents of in-house designers at overseas factories, thus the need for a ‘middle man’ designer like myself was significantly diminished. I worked in retail for a few years afterwards, trying to find work within design but I found employers were, and still are, very blinkered in their requirements for creative employees. I found I had to fit their specifications exactly or I didn’t get to the interview stage. Using creative agencies proved to be fruitless as they themselves became the middle man between the designer and the employer. They had the power to dismiss your CV before the employer got the chance to see it, regardless of how many versions you developed!

In September 2012 I began a BA (Hons) in graphic design at the Batley School of Art. I had managed to secure a place on my previous experience alone and felt that this was another new start - maybe this was what I was meant to do! I had already had experience in branding and packaging design whilst at E.B.I and had thoroughly enjoyed it, so thought that a career in this area of design was the way forward. I had gone straight into work after leaving school at 16, so had never experienced the whole ‘student thing’. I loved my years at Batley School of Art, I was the only mature student in our group of 12 but I loved mixing with younger people. I was never made to feel old or excluded, they felt like my contemporaries. I graduated in 2015 with a first class BA (Hons) in graphic design - the only one in the group - so felt confident I would land a job in the industry within months. Sadly, this was not meant to be. I applied for numerous jobs but to no avail. What was wrong with me? The rest of my group had secured jobs within graphic design soon after graduation, so why hadn’t I? Was it my age?

My winning design chosen to represent the Batley School of Art End of Year and Degree Shows for 2015.

Fast forward a few years and here I am almost at the end of an MA in Fashion Textile Practices at the University of Huddersfield, which again has been a fantastic experience. The thing is, I still don’t really know what I want to do once I leave university, and at 48 years old you think you should. I have been knocked back many times and have picked myself up, but how much more experience and qualifications do I need to have a career in the creative industries? Sometimes I have wondered whether it is design I love or because it’s the only industry I have known since I was 16. My love for design is so strong some days and then other days I couldn’t give a monkeys, I suppose it’s like any other long-term relationship, it has its highs and lows.

The Space is the Fold T-shirt is meant to represent the conflict of silence vs expression, but it is also indicative of the struggle I have regarding my own abilities and creativity. It’s a representation of ‘self’, so I thought keeping the text almost unreadable against the background would represent how I am currently feeling at this point in my life, I feel like I’m fading into the background, that I’m being replaced by something better, more talented and younger. But the fact that you can still read the text is a sign that I haven’t totally gone, that I’m still here trying to figure myself out. Hidden messages within the folds reflect my insecurities regarding my creativity. They say ‘No confidence in my abilities’ and ‘Am I too old for a creative job?’ because that is how I feel. I wanted the fabric to look aged, also a representation of my status - a mature creative - so I ran it through a strong mix of tea to achieve a yellowed tone.

Strong tea mix in the fashion spray bottle. Tea is a surprisingly good dye, although it can be hard to judge how the finished results may be. I felt lucky with the mix I did and then used the remainder once cold to spray over the top of the finished T-shirt.

I had quite of a lot of white and off white leather pieces to use, so used the same font a before as the main body of the text. I did want this T-shirt to look different than the others, but still have some of the same features - such as this font - to link it to the other pieces.

I had cut out the patches prior to sewing on the T-shirt then folded and pressed them to see where the fold lines would be. After stencilling it was easy to see where to re-fold and sew on the patches.

Front and back views of the finished T-shirt. I sprayed over the top with the tea and it had mixed slightly with the black that had previously been in the bottle. It gave like a dirty tea effect which I liked, it added to the worn and faded aesthetic I was after.

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