Tickle rp - green and red flags
Hello dears, I’ve recently had a few conversations with my new lers and lees. And I wanted to make a checklist on how to stay safe during rp
Remember consent is given before, after and during all types of intimacy, so here are a few examples:
Before:
Age and pronouns
What names and nicknames may be used
Ask about boundaries
Decide what spots are going to be tickled
Spots that are gonna be avoided
What tools to use or avoid
Restraints, pinning and how close the lee and ler should be
If both parties should have a safe word
During:
ONLY tickle or mention spots that have been chosen
ONLY use tools and nicknames that have been chosen
Regularly check in and ask questions
Give options for breaks and changing position or technique
Respect safe words and boundaries
If someone changes their mind about a spot stop and talk about it
After:
Cuddles and reassurances
Relax and talk about calming things while both parties recollect themselves
Don’t evaluate instantly since both parties are still full of dopamine and the brain needs time to come down from a high and flustered mood
After a few minutes or even the next day evaluate how the session went for both parties
Stay in contact and don’t just disappear after you’ve gotten what you wanted
Tips for the ler:
Remember you are in a position of power and it’s your responsibility to be in charge since your lee is in a different headspace at the moment. Be carful not to go with the flow. The lee might say yes or keep giggling if you ask them something but afterwards they might regret it. In a flustered headspace you can’t think straight nor consent to a new thing. So that’s why boundaries were sett before. Stick to the script!
Tips for lees
Be on the lookout is your ler asking for boundaries, checking in and staying on track. Are they prioritizing your wants and needs? Do you feel safe to be vulnerable or does it feel forced? If you at any point get an icky or uncomfortable feeling, use a safe word and speak out. You can change your options before, after and during. But remember it’s harder to change something afterwards so speak up. And if you feel like you can’t be open with your ler, then why are you with them!
Please stay safe and rember people lie all the time online and in real life about their age, personality and intentions. If at any point someone feels disingenuous you have two options:
confront them
or
ignore them
A few last tips
Don’t laugh at or make an overstepping of a boundary into a joke, you’re valid to sett a stop and guidelines so don’t discredit yourself.
If an apology is mostly self centered and not taking your feelings into account it’s not genuine.
You don’t owe anyone anything: no pictures, no roleplay, no reactions and no time.
Be aware of gaslighting, manipulation, narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies and how to spot these actions.
Say no, use safe words, speak up, ignore, ghost, leave behind and move on, you deserve only the best
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable they aren’t worthy of your time and that’s period!
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