#Bunch of friend!

[loveisinthebat]

Friend Trio

#Leaf Nosed bats #Bats #Bat #Bat of the day #daily bat #Cute Animals #Bunch of friend! #Bats of South america #bats of Central America #bats of North America #Tiny lil' buddies #-w-

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[bluedelliquanti]

is this anything

#art #fanart #delicious in dungeon #dungeon meshi #taskmaster #my tm watching friend and i have a bunch of theories about how that series would go down

[alpacacare-archive]

he dont bite

#repostober #day 13 yyaayy #deltarune #undertale #gaster #wd gaster #what inspired this was an old dadster painting i saw that drew the skelefam as realistic skeletons and depicted gaster as #a skull without teeth #so i looked up what a skull without teeth looks like and !!!! look its uncanny!!!!!!! i had to draw him like that #i love looking at this cus while drawing it i was in a super nostalgic mood and listened to a bunch of my childhood songs (in my native) #so while this could be interpreted as me trying to draw something scary #whenever i look at it i immediately feel the warm fuzzies i felt while drawing it and listening to songs kid me liked #to me this is a drawing of a childhood friend #anyways jhdks.. #i tried to make the triangle shape under his head in the og sprite his rib cage #sort of morphing and contorting out of his melting body #also i tried to make the body of the sternum of this rib cage (the piece between the two sets of ribs) look like his soul #just some details i liked about this :'))))

[flowercrowncrip]

Shout out to people who can’t follow sleep hygiene rules because of their disability.

Shout out to people who need to rest in bed without sleeping because being in a wheelchair/ chair for too long causes problems like pain, fatigue or pressure risk.

And people who can’t sleep in a dark room because their medical devices and equipment have essential lights.

And also to people who need a PA/ carer to frequently come in during the night and disturb you.

Just in case you need to hear it – you aren’t doing anything wrong 💜

#this post is inspired by the able bodied person running my friend’s chronic fatigue group #who told a bunch of physically disabled people their fatigue was caused by them resting in bed

[kedreeva]

A friend of mine managed to breed her Saharan sand boas, something which... is extremely rare in the USA, because it's difficult to do and not a lot of people know how in the first place. Almost all Saharans are wild caught, which is not ideal. But! She managed it, on what info she could find, and the eggs have been growing and were SUPPOSED to hatch at LEAST 5 days ago, but the clutch is quite large (9 eggs!) so we think they came out earlier than typical.

Of course, she expected them to be well hatched already, and had made plans to be out of town with her family today and tomorrow, so this morning was the day they decided to Start Hatching. So, I'm over here babyssssssitting these extremely precious little babies.

#snakes #my pets #friends pets #saharan sand boas #I will share photos soon #I was instructed to take a bunch of photos for her #since this isn't well documented #snabysitting

[echojedis]

Some sibling hugs

#A friend sent me a whole bunch of hug references and I’ve been having fun with them and I have more to draw #the bad batch #clone trooper tech #arc trooper echo #clone trooper crosshair #Hunter tbb #omega tbb #art

[ink-the-artist]

Girls Night

#this is obv based on those famous paintings/illustrations of witches #specifically witches sabbath #those paintings to me always look like some fun nice ritual or interaction w some pagan spirits #up until I notice the dead babies or smth in the painting lol #like that one where theyre in a circle with the goat who has flowers on his head? #absolutely just looks like a bunch of friends hanging out until i notice they are giving him babies to eat #anyway #this is an illustration of that interpretation of those paintings #girls night w some spirits #art #illustration #colored pencil

[canisalbus]

hi i hope you don't mind me asking! who are some of the artists that inspire your work and if any art movements too, which ones? i absolutely adore your work and wanna dive into the artists that inspire you because you fill me with so much inspiration 💫

Duilio Cambellotti

Paul Jouve

Norbertine Bresslern-Roth

J. C. Leyendecker

Théophile Alexandre Steinlen

Akseli Gallen-Kallela

Harry Clarke

Nico Marlet

Mike Mignola

Carl Otto Czeschka

Alphonse Mucha

Klaus Haapaniemi

Sanna Annukka

Takato Yamamoto

Ivan Bilibin

Gennady Pavlishin

Evgeni Rachev

Ludvig Hohlwein

Tove Jansson

Just to name a few that have influenced me a lot and continue to live in my head permanently! Sorry about the long post, I thought it'd be helpful if I included examples.

My favorite art movement is art nouveau, I like poster art and antique fairytale illustrations a lot, and in terms of art history I'm most interested in renaissance, early baroque and gloomy 19th century romanticism.

#answered #sunnygang #long post #probably missing a number of longtime favorites but there's so many #I didn't include any artist friends and mutuals despite admiring and being inspired by them deeply #it didn't feel right to pick favorites and I thought I'd forget a whole bunch and then feel bad about it

[chipchopclipclop]

paying my ichinan dues after four years

#chipchopdraws #yakuza #yakuza like a dragon #ryu ga gotoku #ichiban kasuga #nanba yu #and their best friends (polycule #*hacks up blood on the floor* i reread a bunch of fics again...oogh

[evercelle]

warm ups feat bachira :)c 

#blue lock #bachira meguru #ever makes art #i watched bllk bc a bunch of friends recommended it. and a bunch of them were like ur gonna like bachira #they were correct. i adore bachira #he's just sooooo cute AND deranged. winning combination every time

[entnoot]

“𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩? 𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩.”

Finally finished this piece of a very cool Magda moment from our dnd campaign! 🔥

#drawing #digital art #dnd #dnd character #fantasy art #oc #magda #dungeons and dragons #elf #eladrin #backstory: Magda is an eladrin who was trapped in her winter form all her life #and the catalyst for her shifting into summer rage mode was seeing a bunch of women about to be burned at the stake #(campaign is in a puritanical witch hunting type setting and her childhood friend/first love was falsely accused of witchcraft) #so yeah she went sicko mode and telekinesis’d an inquisitor upside down in the fire meant for witches

[ottosbigtop]

Newsflash, asshole!

#monkey wrench #Beebs #shrike sanchez #their friendship is so fascinating to me and their personalities make me wonder. #what navigating being friends with someone like each other would be like. #ok.? #did a bunch of mw scribbles tonight but this one was melodramatic enough to warrant its own post. #art :0] #cw blood

[dragonbonez]

And what’s the first thing I do after finishing finals? Indulge in a little meme redraw of my favorites. 💚💛

Honestly Aang is going to be right there with Toph for these mugshots. The guy went to prison and made friends with all the other prisoners like it was nothing! That and I’m sure whatever they did was probably Toph’s idea and worth it.

#taang #toph x aang #aang x toph #avatar aang #toph beifong #atla #atla fanart #my art #they probably have a bunch of these from each nation #they probably make it their yearly picture they sent to their friends #kinda like people send pictures during Christmas in movies #like ‘Happy Avatar Day from the Earth Kingdom!’ #and every year someone has to remind aang that he should be setting an example as an avatar #and they do eventually stop but not before getting one last hoorah and sending their last (last in the liberal sense) mugshot #and Aang has a plate that says Toph will you marry me? #and Toph’s sign says ‘DUH!’ #and behind their picture is a note that says there won’t be a wedding ceremony but everyone can send cash to Sokka #and they’ll go crash at his place at some point and pick it up #… ok I’m stopping now

[inkskinned]

it is all chaos and entropy. the thing is that the chaos and entropy make it beautiful and lovely.

yes, it's true that nature and the universe are uncaring and unspecific, and that is terrifying. i have lived through some of the unfairness - i got born like this, with my body caving into itself, with this ironic love of dance when i sometimes can't stand up for longer than 15 minutes. i am a poet with hands that are slowly shutting down - i can't hold a pen some days. recently i found a dead bird on our front porch. she had no visible injuries. she had just died, the way things die sometimes.

it is also true that nature and the universe are uncaring and unspecific, and that is wonderful. the sheer happenstance that makes rain turn into a rainbow. the impossible coincidence of finding your best friend. i have made so many mistakes and i have let myself down and i have harmed other people by accident. nature moves anyway. on the worst day of my life she delivers me an orange juice sunset, as if she is saying try again tomorrow.

how vast and unknowing the universe! how small we are! isn't that lovely. the universe has given us flowers and harp strings and the shape of clouds. how massive our lives are in comparison to a grasshopper. the world so bright, still undiscovered. even after 30 years of being on this earth, i learned about a new type of animal today: the dhole.

chance echoing in my life like a harmony between two people talking. do you think you and i, living in different worlds but connected through the internet - do you think we've ever seen the same butterfly? they migrate thousands of miles. it's possible, right?

how beautiful the ways we fill the vastness of space. i love that when large amounts of people are applauding in a room, they all start clapping at the same time. i love that the ocean reminds us of our mother's heartbeat. i love that out of all the colors, chlorophyll chose green. i love the coincidences. i love the places where science says i don't know, but it just happens.

"the universe doesn't care about you!" oh, i know. that's okay. i care about the universe. i will put my big stupid heart out into it and watch the universe feast on it. it is not painful. it is strange - the more love you pour into the unfeeling world, the more it feels the world loves you in return. i know it's confirmation bias. i think i'm okay if my proof of kindness is just my own body and my own spirit.

i buried the bird from our porch deep in the woods. that same day, an old friend reaches out to me and says i miss you. wherever you go, no matter how bad it gets - you try to do good.

#writeblr #warm up #i can't write rn but i have SO much words in here bc im reading the chorus of dragons books #(just started book 4) #and this woman's writing is just LIVING in my brain. let me out!!! #(i read roughly like 2-4 books a week usually bc i go on long walks with my dog but when a book is REALLY good like. it eats my life. ) #anyway ...... so like here's a story that idk i've tried to explain to other people as being wild #but maybe im the only one who thinks it is wild??? #so i play pokemon go (i just started in jan) bc i love pokemon and as i have mentioned i walk goblin for like an hour in the morning #and i don't like a lot of fitness trackers due to the fact it makes me .sad. but i also wanted the little digital rewards. enter pokemon go #anyway so they make you make friends to complete quests. so i used a reddit thread. i do not usually use reddit. i don't have an acct #i lurked. i just googled like ''pokemon go reddit '' and randomly added a bunch of numbers #i was on that page for all of 15 minutes. there are THOUSANDS of responses on that page. #here's what's wild: in that group of people. even though i am not on reddit and it was one random event once #it turns out one of those people lives in the town i live in. or at least very close. i only know this because #when we send each other gifts. it's from the same freaking area. #i can't ask them to meet up bc pokemon go doesn't have a messaging app lol but like . what are the fucking chances that #a random person posts in a random reddit thread and HAPPENS to get added by someone ELSE from their SAME TOWN #who by pure fucking CHANCE is ALSO playing pokemon go and looking for friends #i googled it there's only 42000 people in my broad region. the .......... smallness ! of the world!!!

[65810-29]

hey sorry but they goyified your inherently jewish written character. yea. yea no they tried catering to a wider audience. yea they made him scorf down a pile of bacon. i’m so sorry

#star trek snw #spock #judaism #leonard nimoy #also apology to leonard nimoy #i’m not even at the episode yet but i saw a bunch of spoilers on twt. and That clip #not to mention the nonsensical exaggerated gen z talk paramount put in the caption #not to ALSO mention the way they try so desperately to make him straight #quite harrowing from everything i’ve seen #yes i’m aware some jewish people don’t keep kosher and i don’t mean offense with this post #but many jewish trek fans feel it important to keep spock’s unabashed jewishness in tact #DISCLAIMER: i am not jewish. this post does not have significant weight and i do not wish to speak on behalf of jewish friends #lamb of blog