#CW: money

[lilliths-httyd-blog]

in reference to that last thing i reblogged, i'm so fucking socialist every time i find myself pondering what i'd do if i won lottery or some shit (i've never bought a lottery ticket in my life and probably never will but it can be a fun daydream occasionally) my immediate instinct is to a) buy a house (completely reasonable), b) toss a large portion of the money to @ruewoo (hopefully enough so they could buy a house too), and c) throw the rest of the money (if there is any) to people who need it (friends & family, decent non-profits etc). like i'm keeping none of that shit for myself. the larger the sum i receive the less percentage of it i'd keep. i genuinely do not understand why rich people keep so much money like wtf you can help so many people??? unless it was a smaller amount i received like maybe $50,000 or something then i'm splitting it with rue and keeping it for bills/retirement etc to help ensure that i'm not gonna be suddenly thrown into severe poverty (reasonable thing to do - $25,000 NZD is not a lot, you could buy like. one car for that much, maybe two if you're going for a used car and you go real cheap). do i have a socialist instinct or am i just a reasonable person? both?

#money #cw: money #socialism #i am never going to obtain this much money rip im prolly never gonna own a home #my ultimate financial dream is to have a secure retirement

[scarlettgauthor]

[to the tune of Tom Cardy's Big Breakfast]

I don't regret ordering the BIG BATH TUB I know I'll feel so good when I'm... INSIDE THE BIG BATH TUB

OKAY SO if you've read anything I've ever written you might be aware that I have a deep and abiding love of a Big Bathtub. Tragically, this was something I did not have access to in my personal life, as the house we bought had a baby tub for babies who don't like baths. Seriously, this thing was 15" tall on the outside and maybe had 12" of soaking depth if you were lucky. I still took baths, but I complained about it the whole time.

No more.

Now I have Big Bathtub!!!! Look at it! LOOK AT IT!!! I can get my boobs AND my knees underwater at the same time! I'm gonna be making cauldrons of lady soup in there! My 6'1" wife is gonna be able to take baths and be comfortable!

If you can't find me, look for me in the Big Bathtub.

(Don't look for me.)

"Scarlett!" I hear you (a rhetorical device) saying, "I love that for you, but I am also jealous! How do I get a Big Bathtub of my very own?"

Well, my friend, if there's one thing I love more than Big Bathtub, it is oversharing about home improvement projects.

SPECIFIC MONEY TALK TO FOLLOW

Given how absolutely fucking impossible it is to find any guidance online about how much this shit costs when you're just starting the research, I'll start here: This cost us $11,466.16 and took two days to install. We live in a very high COL area, and from what other research I did and estimates we got, $10-12k was about what we could expect to pay for a new bathtub and shower surround that wasn't The Same Fiberglass Shit We Already Had, AND we would have had to bring in multiple contractors.

Some necessary background: My wife and I bought our house about eleven years ago, when house prices in Seattle were at a historic low. My mom gifted us money for the down payment, which was a huge privilege, but if she gifted us the same amount of money now it would buy us precisely jack and shit. We have the stability we have due to a rare combination of privilege and luck, and I am grateful for it literally every day.

The incredibly low price we bought this house at also allowed us to manage to stay afloat through our last seven-ish years of chronic under-employment. I won't get deeply into the details, but we spent a lot of time in a place where buying myself a package of nice butter was a luxury I had to plan for. A little over a year ago my wife got a really good job (after a year of unemployment) and this summer I got a much-overdue promotion at my day job and a significant raise! Between those two things, we've finally been in a place where we can save money for house projects instead of going into debt for them, which still seems like a fucking miracle! It hasn't gotten old yet! I don't know if it ever will!

Flush on that success, earlier this this fall I got quotes for an addition on the house (something we've wanted almost since we moved in, since it's 800 square feet and has just the one tiny bathroom) and learned it would cost AT LEAST 150% MORE than we paid for this house in the first place!!! Like we could buy a whole-ass house in a cheaper area for the cost of adding on to this one! HAHAHAHA NO!! 😭😬

After a couple days of crushing disappointment I decided this meant we could pursue smaller improvements to make the house we have into a house we love, and first on the list was Big Bathtub!

Being generally handy people (ask about the shed my wife built sometime) we looked at buying a nice tub at a showroom and having a plumber install it, but plumbers don't install shower surrounds. Okay, so we figured we could probably install a shower surround? And my dad (a retired general contractor) could help? But this isn't a kitchen counter, this is a bathroom, and in this house we don't fuck with stuff that need waterproofing. We decided we wanted someone who could handle the whole thing, so I requested quotes from remodel contractors but they all told me my project was too small!

Enter Bath Planet. They're a one-stop shop that does custom full bath surround installs with a ton of options. The sales guy who did the estimate had color and material samples with him and dug through all the options to get me the deepest bathtub possible. This sucker's 22" tall! The cost included wrapping the entire window so the sill would be waterproof! If there was damage to the subfloor, they'd repair it before installing the tub at no additional cost! The warranty is really good!

(Oh man I've become such an adult.)

Not gonna lie, the quoted price was 😬😬😬 when he was done, but we couldn't argue with the quality or convenience and we were looking at a cost of close to $7k if we bought a big tub, had a plumber installed it, and then DIYed the surround (with no guarantees about how long that would make our only bathroom unusable!) so we bit the bullet and put down a deposit.

In related news, my wife and I are giving each other very few presents this Christmas, since the tub was our main gift 😂 Our savings are... Very depleted right now, so we're gonna have to hunker down for a few months to rebuild before we can think about any other house projects or expensive fun stuff, but what we lack in money, we make up for in bathtub!

As far as the timeline went, we got the initial quote on 9/20, put down our deposit that day, and then the install happened over 12/6 and 12/7. The installer was great, the work happened exactly as it was supposed to, and now we have BIG BATHTUB.

This was a wall of text, I know! If anyone has questions I didn't answer here, though, I'm happy to answer them. It's so rough trying to find home reno information out on the wide internet, and contractor websites are worse than useless for the purpose.

Meanwhile, I will be in the Big Bathtub.

#home improvement #CW: money #BIG BATHTUB #personal

[notherpuppet]

Been thinking a lot about a radioapple human AU today

#a serial killer radio host x an old money architect perhaps??? #and they raise a child together #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #alastor #lucifer #human AU #radioapple #appleradio #cw: blood #my doods

[sprucetreeconspiracy]

feeling annoyed because the things i wanna get cost money and i have the budget of nothing actually.. i can just scrape by in terms of rent and food, maybe even bills, but the next decent amount of money i will have will be next year once my holiday cover pays out wages

#treewhispers #cw: money #fucking hate this #i should work more but i don't have time this month #always concerned of health also like when will i be in the burn out zone again #i have some physical symptoms but brother i don't have the mental resources to care #cw: health #lol

[wandersongbkwks]

sometimes, you just have to stand in your shower at 4am and exist?

i think. i need a vacation? like, i haven't taken more than a three day off since last october, my pto is capped, and i haven't slept more than two hours a night in like... a week? it's time i think?

like, i've had to become this one-step-short-of-a-power-tie pseudoleader that has a backbone and has to delegate; thanks i hate it? and anything that i think i want vacation-wise get snapped up like six months ahead. (i swear, if these hoes take samhain, i will burn down the sky)

i need a n x i e t y to let me breathe for a second, truly. just got done holding down the entire household on my money for like six months? and i made it happen, big flex, but i need brain to stop panicking,

you can have luxuries without panicking, remember? your bills are paid, you are gucci, it's not just you anymore. stop pulling extra hours. breathe. get a massage. get some really, really good dick maybe. chase some ego death. reclaim yourself. you got this. hhhhhhhh.

#fuzzposting #cw: anxiety #cw: money #looking for money as a cw brought up cw: monsterfucking and i just think that's neat

[cookinguptales]

You know... I had an experience about two months ago that I didn't talk about publicly, but I've been turning it over and over in my mind lately and I guess I'm finally able to put my unease into words.

So there's a podcast I'd been enjoying and right after I got caught up, they announced that they were planning on doing a live show. It's gonna be near me and on the day before my birthday and I thought -- hey, it's fate.

But... as many of you know, I'm disabled. For me, getting to a show like that has a lot of steps. One of those steps involved emailing the podcasters to ask about accessibility for the venue.

The response I got back was very quick and very brief. Essentially, it told me to contact the venue because they had no idea if it was accessible or not.

It was a bucket of cold water, and I had a hard time articulating at the time quite why it was so disheartening, but... I think I get it a little more now.

This is a podcast that has loudly spoken about inclusivity and diversity and all that jazz, but... I mean, it's easy to say that, isn't it? But just talking the talk without walking the walk isn't enough. That's like saying "sure, we will happily welcome you in our house -- if you can figure out how to unlock the door."

And friends, my lock-picking set is pretty good by this point. I've been scouting out locations for decades. I've had to research every goddamn classroom, field trip, and assigned bookstore that I've ever had in an academic setting. I've had to research every movie theater, theme park, and menu for every outing with friends or dates. I spend a long time painstakingly charting out accessible public transportation and potential places to sit down every time I leave the house.

Because when I was in college, my professors never made sure their lesson plans were accessible. (And I often had to argue with them to get the subpar accommodations I got.) Because my friends don't always know to get movie tickets for the accessible rows. Because my dates sometimes leave me on fucking read when I ask if we can go to a restaurant that doesn't keep its restrooms down a flight of stairs.

I had one professor who ever did research to see if I could do all the coursework she had planned, and who came up with alternate plans when she realized that I could not. Only one. It was a medical history and ethics class, and my professor sounded bewildered as she realized how difficult it is to plan your life when you're disabled.

This woman was straight-up one of the most thoughtful, philosophical, and ethical professors I've ever had, one who was incredibly devoted to diversity and inclusion -- and she'd never thought about it before, that the hospital archives she wanted us to visit were up a flight of stairs. That the medical museum full of disabled bodies she wanted us to visit only had a code-locked back entrance and an old freight elevator for their disabled guests who were still breathing.

And that's the crux of it, isn't it? It's easy to theoretically accept the existence of people who aren't like you. It's a lot harder to actively create a space in which they can exist by your side.

Because here's what I did before I contacted the podcasters. I googled the venue. I researched the neighborhood and contacted a friend who lives in the area to help me figure out if there were any accessible public transportation routes near there. (There aren't.) I planned for over an hour to figure out how close I could get before I had to shell out for an uber for the last leg of the trip.

Then I read through the venue's website. I looked through their main pages, through their FAQs to see if there was any mention of accessibility. No dice. I download their packet for clients and find out that, while the base building is accessible, the way that chairs/tables are set up for individual functions can make it inaccessible. So it's really up to who's hosting the show there.

So then and only then I contacted the podcasters. I asked if the floor plan was accessible. I asked if all the seats were accessible, or only some, and whether it was open seating or not. Would I need to show up early to get an accessible seat, or maybe make a reservation?

And... well, I got the one-sentence reply back that I described above. And that... god, it was really disheartening. I realized that they never even asked if their venues were accessible when they were booking the shows. I realized that they were unwilling to put in the work to learn the answers to questions that disabled attendees might have. I realized that they didn't care to find out if the building was accessible.

They didn't know and they didn't care. That, I think, is what took the wind out of my sails when they emailed me back. It's what made me decide that... yeah, I didn't really want to go through the trouble of finding an accessible route to the venue. I didn't want to have to pay an arm and a leg to hire a car to take me the last part of the journey. I didn't want to make myself frantic trying to figure out if I could do all that and still make the last train home.

If they didn't care, I guess I didn't either.

If they'd apologized and said that the only venue they could get was inaccessible, I actually would have understood. I know that small shows don't always get their pick of venues. I get it. I even would have understood if they'd been like "oh dang, I actually don't know -- but I'll find out."

But to be told that they didn't know and didn't intend to find out... oof. That one stung.

Because.... this is the thing. This is the thing. I may be good at it by now, but I'm so tired of picking locks. I'm tired of doing all the legwork because no one ever thinks to help me. I'm tired of feeling like an afterthought at best, or at worst utterly unwelcome.

If you truly want to be inclusive, you need to stop telling people that you're happy to have them -- if they can manage to unlock the door. You need to fucking open it yourself and welcome them in.

What brought all this back to me now, you may be asking? Well... I guess it's just what I was thinking to myself as I was tidying up my phone.

Today I'm deleting podcasts.

#I guess it did save me a lot of money #I'll still probably go up to nyc to visit with friends for my bday but I won't go all the way out to brooklyn for the show #and I probably won't need to get the hotel room #and I DEFINITELY won't be supporting their patreon like I was planning lmao #I'll buy myself a new tarot deck for my birthday instead #cw: #disability #ableism

[a-being-of-chaossss]

Tumblr I need help.

My friend who I will not name is in an abusive household and needs to leave. The problem is, their parents control their bank account and will shut them out of it if they leave. What can I do to help raise money to help them leave?

The money would have to be in cash or be able to be withdrawn to cash. We need to raise approx. $4000 dollars by September so they can leave and have a bit of a safety net while they look for a job. Please spread this around and help me think of ways to raise money.

#the chaos speaks #tw abuse #cw abuse #please please please spread this around we need to start collecting this money

[little-pup-pip]

25 Days of Agere Moodboards! Day 2: Favorite Stuffie!!

#This is based off of my stuffie Kos! #He's the first one i ever bought with my own money #I named him after a Norwegian word with no real English translation #it basically means a warm or cozy feeling #Kos (pronounced like goose with a K) #anyway this was fun #sfw interaction only #moodboard #sfw agere #age regression #agere #sfw littlespace #agere moodboard #babyre #age dreaming #baby regression #cw food #food cw #food mention #food #25ageremoodboards

[brown-spider]

Btw what was her problem

"Struggling immigrant family" about two citizens with stable careers and their kid attending a private school

Why did we let her get away with that 🤨

#and they were BOTH in their work clothes!!!!! #it rlly don't matter who you are or what you do or what school ur at #white ppl will take one look at you and be like Oh you dont have money and also this isnt your home #racism #cw racism #atsv #across the Spiderverse #rio morales #jefferson davis #atsv rio #atsv Jefferson #miles morales #atsv miles #c weber #atsv c weber #atsv counselor #spider speaks #clips/screens

[alliumdykes]

The fact that when I came back from the cinema wanting to see some cool art and people talking about interesting stuff after something so flipin awesome and the first thing i see was the dream team being so fucking rude during a CHARITY EVENT for their DEAD FRIEND is honestly so disheartening.

My grandfather was so lucky to get cancer twice and survive both times, I knew someone who lost her dad to cancer. I know someone who survived childhood cancer. One of my great grandparents died of cancer, my family on both sides is extremely family oriented if he never died I would have met him. The fucking disrespect that they showed should not be laughed at, it shouldn’t be encouraged.

The fact they were playing airhorns during Technodad’s speech, one that should have been respected and really quiet durning and no one interrupting is the fucking worse. I don’t care if dteam fans say that it’s funny and Techno would have laughed because it’s not the fucking point!!!

The whole festival was a charity event in honour of their friend, and for Technodad his fucking son. No one should have gone though this. I don’t care if this comes across as rude or overreacting because the dteam need to grow the fuck up and learn that their actions have fucking consequences for once.

This isn’t supporting a brand that’s actually a scam, this isn’t saying something offensive by accident. This is being rude and disrespectful.

And it even hurts that none of their fans are going to care a single bit because I don’t fucking know maybe they’ll say “but it was a joke” or “dream has ADHD your being ableist” because none of that shit matters when you realise that neither of those things matter when it’s about respect.

These are the same fans who will defend these mother fuckers to the grave but when someone like Niki Niahchu accidentally uses avae because she doesn’t know about American history or what avae is because she lives in Germany(or any non American country because the world doesn’t revolve around you fuckers) and is called overreactive during mcc and having a lot of stress put onto her and BREAKS DOWN ON STREAM it’s ok because they think it is.

I want dteam fans to see this post and be uncomfortable, I don’t care if I’m being mean to your pretty white boys because they have been allowed to do anything with a platform that is way to big for them for too long. I’m allowed to be angry as well, I’m allowed to be mean, I’m not apologising to you if you feel sad that I’m being mean about them because they need to grow up.

Charlie had every right to tell dream to shut up during that stream.

Edit: I’m not going to be answering anymore asks about this post, I want my blog to be a personal space for me. This post wasn’t supposed to get as big as it has and just for me to rant. I’m only going to be accepting art requests and general asks and nothing about this. I’m 14 please leave me alone.

#dream situation #george not found #gnf neg #dream neg #dream #festival of voices #Technoblade #cw cancer #I just want to be clear how fucking angry I am about this #this is adult men who need to realise that the world isn’t them for once #they can’t keep getting away with being immature rude fucking bitches #the charity money goes to people who need it #making a joke about how you a rich person who could own multiple mansions talking about people who need that money to live #I don’t know if I’ll be able to own an apartment when I’m old enough because the housing market crashed #and Australia’s iron industry cannot find any more iron #I’ll be lucky to be able to get a shitty apartment

[kitkatabasis]

Grace. Grace what is your backstory. Grace what happened to you.

#Freddie bandi #Stray gods #grace stray gods #stray gods grace #freddie stray gods #stray gods freddie #cw drugging #(Just in case) #greddie #i love them so much you don't even know #Also the fact that the choice that locks you into the “lost girls” path is “i know your type” #*shaking summerfall studios like a 90s movie bully looking for lunch money* give me the lore bible!!! #/j #D's notes

[taleswritten]

Opening commissions to help out with the cost of bills, bipolar medicine, and pet care this month. please see this link for my commission info.

if you don’t want/need to commission and you want to donate, that’s totally acceptable too and my paypal is paypal.me/writteninthestcrs and my cashapp is $stories writtcn(without the space)

even a reblog will help me, thank you.

#psa #money cw #don't worry i'm not reblogging this a bunch rn

[dear-ao3]

remember the saph needs to apply to grad school arc?

well saph applied and got into 4/4 schools. (thank you everyone for bullying me into writing my personal statements) but they are expensive :/

#not a tag #from saph #if u feel so inclined venmo me grad school tuition money @cw-13 #i would be eternally grateful

[cypric-rat-hyperfixation]

#CHRIST ALMIGHTY CAN YOU IMAGINE #BRUH THATS TARGETED THATS DELIBERATE #/j #rats #fancy rat #ratblr #r/RATS #fucking gross #cursed #caps cw #god the picture really sells this though #not only is it the epitome of the owes you money grip #but also #it's literally the YOU twitter cat