#Dealing

[thepersonalquotes]

Big deal. Death always went with the territory. See you in Disneyland.

Richard Ramirez

#Richard Ramirez #thepersonalquotes #Death #deal #dealing #territory #quotes #literature #lit #prose #life quotes

[randomreasonstolive]

Reason to Live #9183

  Dealing with daunting things one step at a time. – Guest Submission

(Please don't add negative comments to these posts.)

#sad #help #hope #reason to live #depressed #depression #empty #alone #mental illness #anxiety #trauma #guest submission #mental health #dealing #progress #daunting #strength #steps

[randomthinkerposts-blog]

How to love someone with anxiety

Someone with anxiety is inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. So much so, sometimes they might be the ones to ruin a relationship.

Truth is, they battle something they can’t control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships.

First of all, remember they’re worth fighting for.

It might be hard sometimes; there might be stupid fights of scenarios they’ve created in their own head. But more than anything, they’re worth fighting for, if you can fight with them through this, it’ll come back to you ten folds.

The phrase ‘It’s okay’ can never be used enough.

It’s two words. Two words that stop every thought running through their head. And honestly, you can never say it enough. So just say it, all the time, and seriously MEAN IT.

Sometimes you just have to listen.

They’re going to play out these situations in their mind and jump from point A to point B, sometimes you’re not even going to know how they got there; best thing you can do is let them go off on their tangent even if there’s no solution.

Don’t tell them ‘you’re overreacting’.

To you, it might seem irrational. But to them whatever they open up to you about, it’s something that actually keeps them up at night. So just take it as best you can.

They probably won’t sleep through the night.

Whether it takes them a while to fall asleep or stay asleep, you’ll be woken up by them at 3 am as they lay there wide awake. Just hold them close and the comfort in your presence might be enough to get them back to sleep.

Remember it’s not that they don’t trust you.

They’re scared. You say it’s an ex and in their mind they jump to cheating. You say it’s a friend and in their mind it’s someone trying to break you two up. It’s not you and your relationship that isn’t trusted, it’s every worse case scenario automatically playing out in their head, and they hate themselves for it.

Answering texts timely does help more than you know.

You’ve probably noticed they answer embarrassingly fast and they know not everyone is like them but it helps when people understand it. It helps when you say ‘I can’t talk now this is why I’ll text you later’. Silence kills anyone with anxiety. It creates problems in their mind that aren’t even there. It ends in apologies that aren’t even needed. And it adds a layer of stress to their life they wish they could control.

Don’t be mad if they send a double text.

You might turn your phone on to four texts. If you can, remember it’s not that they’re trying to be annoying. They care. They care too much and they know it makes them look bad.

Accept their apologies even if you don’t understand.

Whether it’s a night out gone wrong, a triple text, saying or doing the wrong thing, they’re so observant. They’ll pick up on slightest shift in you and before you even realize u might be upset and they’ll apologize.

Help when you can but know when you can’t.

They would rather have ten meltdowns, biting off more than they can chew and they will never admit they can’t handle something. They’ll always say yes and never turn anyone away, in those moments where it seems like they are going to fall apart and break just hold them. Help them if you can but know they’re inclined to not ask for help. They’re used to dealing with things on their own.

Once trust is gained they’ll love you unbelievably hard.

If there is something someone with anxiety is really good at it’s love. If there’s something they’re strong in, it’s their ability to show you how much they adore and appreciate you. It might take them a while to trust you but once they do their capacity to love you will fill you in ways you didn’t know you were empty or even missing something.

Maybe this makes sense for anyone who is dating or wants to start dating someone with anxiety. And always remember: Love breaks all barriers.

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[jasab]

#Carl Jung #philosophy #darkness #psychology #dealing #other people #picture quotes #quotes #inspiration #message of the day

[weeblmaodotcom]

[Digimon Tamers/Digimon Frontier] You're not dealing with average knight anymore, Lucemon. I am the Royal Knight, Dukemon! , Meme by Weeblmao.com

#anime #Animememe #Animememes #Animeme #Animemes #anymore #Average #dealing #Digimon #Dukemon #Frontier #GoodAnimeme #GoodAnimemes #Knight #Lucemon #royal #TamersDigimon #Youre

[il0vey0urm0th3r]

yeah i understand you lavigne, nobody’s ever home

#dealing #depressing shit #2000s #avril lavigne #Spotify

[whimstria]

emery is growing up!!

#lakes legacy #gen three #to be completely honest #i played this over six months ago and she's moved out in my current save #so i don't remember her teenage trait lmaoo #we're just #dealing #the sims #the sims 4 #ts4 #ts4 gameplay #ts4 legacy #the sims gameplay #the sims legacy #maxis match

[quotationsworld]

I am tired of being a person. Not just tired of being the person I was, but any person at all. I like watching people, but I don’t like talking to them, dealing with them, pleasing them, or offending them. I am tired.

— Susan Sontag, I, etcetera

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[9ofspades]

I’m so confused…

#screenshot #unreality #drugs #guns #cw drugs #cw guns #dealing #faux-dealing #What is even up with this blog

[castawaycurls]

If I lay here, if I just lay here… would you lie with me & just forget the world? - chasing cars // snow patrol

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[bishopforeman]

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[d-i-x-i-t]

Got the cards in my hand, I hate dealing.

Mac Miller

#life #life quote #mac miller #mac miller quote #act #react #action #cards #dealing

[hadassahspath]

Something new I'm trying...

I can always sense someone's hurt and pain. Sometimes words are limited based on the social environment and privacy is necessary. I want to make myself available for anyone, at anytime, and no matter what time it is because I realize that life's circumstances can be a serious inconvenience to being able to ask for the help that we really want...or sometimes we just need a listening ear.

#counseling services #couples counseling #counselling #calls #someone help #please help #im hurtin #ptsd problems #ptsd #ptsd recovery #recovery #drug rehab #sex and drugs #drug blog #addiction #lifecoach #grieving #dealing with grief #dealing #rapevictim #witchcraft #warlock #i am angry #forgive myself #sadgirl #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqipa

[orangerosesinhospital]

i’ve been drinking

and i guess i should stop

but it’s the closest rush

i can get to

how you feel

and it’s not a problem

but i don’t know how

to deal with

missing you

i can do better

i guess it’s just not

right now

— “dealing” a poem about the long process of healing

orangerosesinhospital

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[lonelyshark]

HOW SHOULD I EVER DEAL WITH MY FUCKING SELF??

#therapy #girl help #therapy memes #idc lol #myself #dealing #feelings #therapydiary diary #tumblr diary #diary #diaryposting #struggle #the strugge is real #depressing quotes #depressing memes #tw depressing stuff

[nofacenocaseblog]

𝗗𝗼𝗽𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 #4:  Italy / From War to War

Part One

NO FACE NO CA$E - Dope Stories is back.  A collection of articles on our society through the lens of the drug trade.  After Berlin, Marseille and Barcelona, this time we're going to Italy. Titled From War to War, this 4th installment sheds light on how the migrant crisis has been fueling the drug trade to the profit of criminal groups.

Organized crime has demonstrated deceitful ingenuity when it comes to capitalize on the news and on-going crisis.  Human trafficking is one of their most lucrative activities.  Unlike drugs, the commodity here -human beings- is used (and abused) repeatedly, making it an infinite revenue stream.   The never-ending flaw of migrants comes from all parts of Africa , Middle East and Asia through Lybia. They end up rescued in Italian waters or dead at sea. The “lucky” ones are then brought to the shores of small islands such as Lampedusa all the way up to the regions of Calabria andPuglia in the South of Italy.

Up to the 15 of March this year, 6,701 migrants disembarked in Italy.  A staggering 66,770 people arrived in 2021.  The first five countries of origin were Tunisia, Egypt,Bangladesh, Iran, and Ivory Coast[1].

Italy has repeatedly requested aid from the EU in managing refugees, but has been turned down, left completely alone in dealing with this growing crisis.

Most of asylum seekers, given their countries of origin, don’t qualify for the refugee status and many will remain illegal once on mainland Italy, entangled in an administrative web.  The presence in those regions of some of the most powerful crime syndicates the world has ever known makes this human crisis an opportunity for pushing their products in less "controlled" area areas such as city centers where the risk of being apprehended by the authorities, and for some deported, is high - yet worth takingfor many of them after the journey out of hell they had to undertake.

Like any commodity, illegal drugs are traded in a market where buyers and sellers need to locate each other to conduct a transaction. Two types of marketplace exist:

- Person-specific, using communication network (phone, social media…) to get information about vendors, locations and time.

- Place-specific, operating in geographically well-defined areas so buyers and sellers can locate themselves easily and proceed with the transaction.

We chose to focus here on place-specific retail markets, also called open-air drugmarkets.  What does that entail?  An easy access to anyone who looks like a potential client, buyers can weigh quality against price and sellers maximize customer access.  The downside is that all “players” are vulnerable to police interventions.  

Criminal groups, to minimize that risk, set up 2 sub-models operating in very differentlocations and fashions:

Let’s call the first model: “High control” open-air drug market. It is set in public housing or low income buildings on the outskirts of major cities.

The 2nd model is more of a “Free” open-air drug market. It takes places in city centers with train stations and parks as epicenter of the illicit trade

I “High control” open-air drug markets

In this scenario, the area, often low income buildings or public housing, is controlled by a criminal organization, making it “less risky” or more foreseeable when it comes to police interventions .

Exploiting the buildings intricate architecture and the usual one way in & out of those complexes, criminals make sure to occupy  vantage points on roofs and roads and to own strategically positioned apartments (converted into stash houses or clandestine laboratories etc…). They are able to store, process, pack dispatch and distribute the product in a single place with little concern regarding the authorities.  They have thesector under surveillance. At the first sign of a suspicious car or person and warningsspreads like wildfire. Nonetheless dealers make sure to carry little to no drugs on them (hiding them in nearby hollow pipes, staircases etc…).  The unique layouts of those developments almost look like they were made  to facilitate illegal activities… you won’t find any migrant working in those neighborhood  but only locals, Italians. I could witness this type of operations in two cities: Naples and Rome

Napoli - Rione Traiano

Direction Naples, not Scampia but to the lesser known Rione Traiano. Although within the city limits, the closest train station is a 20-minute walk on deserted roads, over-paths, roundabouts, railroads and…a carabinieri station. After wandering through high-rises, we reached a low-rise area.

By then, my partners and I have been spotted, watched, checked by few kids roaming on scooters… in other words, we’ve been vetted and “let through”.

We ventured in a courtyard where we see another kid, 16 years old at the most, sat on some steps leading to a metal door. We looked at each other and he asked me if I needed anything. After exchanging a few words he shows me the reinforced door behind him.

Security cameras have been watching us all along, we approached and were buzzed-in before I even knock, we climbed down a few stairs, pass another see-through metal door and in a tiny room with a couch, a table and a couple of screens, sit a large pit-bull and two, nice but “not to fuck with”, fellas.

One guy is staring at the CCTV monitors covering the area and the other weighting and serving cocaine before you while giving you two options: to consume on premises or “da portare via” -to take out.

The atmosphere is chill, they’re joking, making small talks, no fear or paranoia, just a well-oiled operation. The complex structure of buildings makes it only harder for the police. The room where the dealing takes place had back exit doors, the courtyard, on the contrary, has a single entry and exit road making it easier for look outs with the higher ground to check who comes and goes, making sure there are no five-O. And it works, the operations have been going on for years, few hundred meters from a police station… The entire operation is run by locals, no migrants can be found.

Roma - G.R.A. uscita 17

A bit over 2 hours drive North of Naples, before we enter in Rome city limits, we find another notorious example of High control open air drug market. On the peripheral ring (Grand Raccordo Anulare) a.k.a. “Raccordo” -as they call it here, take the Exit 17 to Tor Bella Monaca (or “Tor Bella”), a development from the 80’s, made of low income and public housing.

Let me give you the lowdown: 15% of minors are under judicial orders, a third of the 28,000 inhabitants lives under poverty level, unemployment rate is 19% (twice the city average)[2]. Yet, the social chasm that has emerged here is essentially physical: the remote location, poorly connected to the inner city, enables not only a geographical, but also and most importantly a psychological and financial ostracism. The perfect breeding ground for organized crime.

“Don’t you worry, we’re all friends here…”

This is high control open drug market at its finest: One road in and out, a puzzled architecture with path and bridges in between building, outdoor staircases, 15-story towers, hidden courtyards and parks, abandoned urban layout…. The risk is well managed, the lack of fear from dealers is here to prove it. I literally passed by and witnessed a “blitz” (a police bust as the cops call it…), with carabinieri handcuffing in plain view over 5 people at the feet of one of the first towers[3]. Meanwhile, two blocks down the road, it was business as usual. Seeing the concern on my partner’s face, one of the dealers shout at us with a smile “Don’t you worry, we’re all friends here…”. It, indeed, re-assured us in some way...

Always a step ahead of the police, this business has been going on for decades. Here as well, the distribution is fully handled by Italians from the neighborhood, like in Traiano, you won’t find any migrants dealing here.

It’s a game of cat and mouse the police can’t win. They rather direct their resources and attention on another -easier- target: migrants working on the way riskier “free” open-air drug market in central areas of town.

Stay tuned for part two of Dope Stories #4: From War to War. We’ll be going to Genova, Torino, Bologna, Napoli (again) and Bari to witness a very different scenario.

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references

[1] https://euromedrights.org/migrants-and-refugees-in-italy-2/

[2] https://labgov.city/theurbanmedialab/perspectives-on-tor-bella-monacas-planning-outcomes/

[3] https://www.ilcorrieredellacitta.com/news/spettacolo/disney-plus-novita-maggio-2022-serie-tv-film-cartoni-animati-in-uscita.html

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