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#I Am Worthy
fly-care · 1 year
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selfhealingmoments · 7 months
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lavendeluxe · 5 days
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euesworld · 1 year
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creatingnikki · 6 months
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When you love yourself enough, meaning when you understand your needs enough and believe that they are worthy, you will no longer find attractive people who cannot fulfill those things for you.
— Mayim Bialik
Over 50% of those in my life do not fulfill my needs. What does this say about them? What does this say about me? Why do I find them attractive? Do I really not love myself? Do I really not understand myself? Think my needs are not worthy of being met?
Why was I obsessing over the possibility of this new friend when he is so flaky and bad at basic texting? What about him did I find so attractive? The idea of the kind of friend he could be and the idea of the kind of friendship we could nurture. But that's the thing — if I keep being attracted to the idea of what can be, falling in love with the potential of people I meet, that's not seeing the glass as half full. That is seeing a mirage in a desert. I may think it's an oasis but it's only an illusion. It will not even leave me thirsty but dehydrated. And we all know that can be fatal.
What are my needs? My basic needs in relation to another person are consistency, communication, effort, and sincerity. And whether or not a person is capable of meeting these needs...time is the only way to know. You have to give people time. You have to give yourself time. Haven't you learned this lesson time and again?
Time is the best revealer of a person's personality and intentions. Not your intuition, not the spark you may feel with them, not their words, not even isolated actions. Only time.
Also take some time to understand your needs better, to understand yourself better. You are someone who wants to be seen, understood, and loved. You are someone who wants to feel safe. You are someone who wants to be taken care of. You are someone who wants to spend quality time on a regular basis with those you like.
You are someone who wants to hear the other person express how much they like you, what makes them think of you, the things they want to do with you, how they felt about spending time with you. You are someone who wants the other person to remember the little things about you like how you don't eat mushrooms and how you get when you drink wine vs vodka vs whisky. You are someone who wants them to plan things to do together and to be proactive and exert themselves and not put the headache of all the logistics on you.
You are someone who wants long hugs and reassurance. You are someone who wants to feel wanted and needed and desired and devoured.
I don't know if this is all just the bare minimum or if it's all too much. I don't care. All I know is these are my needs. And I know for a fact that they are worthy of being met because I am.
And there are no double standards here right. These are things I do and will do for those who mean something to me. And take the effort of understanding their needs and seeing how I can fulfill them.
I know it probably can never get to 100%. I cannot have 100% of the people in my life who fulfil most of my needs. But I at least want 20% of the people to meet 80% of my needs. Because those 20% of the people will mean the most to me. My friends, family, and partner.
But right now it feels like 80% of the people in my life don't even manage to meet 20% of my needs. And that's a very horrible feeling. And a sure shot recipe of feeling lonely, dissatisfied, and jaded. And 26 is too young to feel this way.
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mango-on-a-string · 6 months
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I never said, 'God made a mistake,' I said God made me the way I am, so I'd learn to love myself.
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champagneoceann · 1 month
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I feel so proud of myself when I successfully cook & eat a meal or be intimate w myself or my boyfriend. I deserve the little luxuries of being alive. I don’t have to be perfect to deserve food or love.
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travelersrest · 8 months
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My value is not based on someone’s inability to see my worth.
And often it’s “too late” when they do.
I’m the one who got away in my past relationships, and instead of looking at that as a negative capacity that just validates to myself how worthy I am and the capacity of love I have to offer someone.
I’ve learned that the quality of my life is worth more than the quantity of the people that are in it. And I’d rather continue to sit alone at my kitchen table than to have it filled with people who don’t see that value.
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fly-care · 1 year
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selfhealingmoments · 1 year
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idk who needs to hear this but you're really not in a competition with any of them.
it's a delusion, your mind playing tricks.
you just keep on doing you 👏
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joyboythehopepunk · 7 months
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worthy (bmblb pt 2)
full disclosure: i've been listening to this song on repeat for the last half day.
was anyone going to tell me how much of a balm for my soul this was gonna be? or did i just have to find out for myself after listening to it 3x in a row last night?
i'm still in ... a lot of emotional and mental anguish. but for some reason this song is helping.
maybe because it's a reminder of what i'm looking for. a soulmate. a magical experience. someone who will see all of me - faults and all - and love me because of them. someone who will understand
someone who is a compliment to me and a match in all the ways that matter. someone who i'm attracted to on the outside and inside equally. devastatingly
i haven't met her yet. i know i haven't.
and like.. i've had ACTUAL paranormal experiences which are supposedly much rarer than finding the love of your life.
i definitely should be able to meet this woman before i'm 40.
goddamn i'm probably gonna be jacked by the time i'm forty, by the way i'm going...
anyway: everyone should listen to this song. everyone
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Du hast es schon einmal raus geschafft, also denk gar nicht erst dran, dass dich das hier jetzt gefangen hält.
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