Heather!!! Oh my dear fellow ‘bertan, this warmed my heart ❤️ even though we’ve only known each other a bit, you’ve definitely got me nailed pretty well! You are so kind and welcoming and are always looking out for others and taking care of people too, thank you for being such a good and kind and talented friend!
Complicated feelings on the institution of marriage because at the same time
a) it’s vital to have some way to legally recognize non-blood relationships
b) I think it’s entirely possible that two people could want to be committed long-term life partners and rely on each other near-exclusively for companionship for the next five decades or whatevs, with friendships being limited to one three-hour hangout per month OR whatever watercooler conversation you have with your coworkers
c) I think most people do not want this. I think most people want to have multiple close friendships and spend time and energy on those friendships in addition to their life partners or instead of them.
d) marriage has a long history as a tool of the heteropatriarchy in Western culture. For a woman, marriage meant that you got a new owner who could either free you from a bad family situation or could make your life a new kind of hell, and that decision was almost entirely out of your hands. Even now, a majority of m/f still balance in favour of men (get free cook, housekeeper, and therapist) and against women (get second job as a babysitter)
e) anecdotally, most of my parents’ friends or friends’ parents have marriages that are boring, lonely, cold, controlling, mildly abusive, or, again, balanced in favour of men
f) the idea of marriage is: you put all your eggs in one basket, which you should ideally choose when you’re young and inexperienced. If you don’t, you forfeit any positive human interaction for the rest of your life outside of the alotted 1 hr/week catch-up. If you make a mistake in choosing your basket, you have to spend your days and nights for decades in the constant company of someone you might my even like. If you want to spend time with anyone else, you have to spend a lot of time and money carrying out a tangled legal process.
I know people can be perfectly happy with a life partner and are able to commit to and nurture long-term monogamous relationships. And I know that this doesn’t happen often enough to still have the entire legal framework for social relations structured around it
I’m anxious *drinks an energy drink and coffee back to back and doesn’t get enough sleep*
millies fucking five today! habby pday silly girl u r so old and yet so baby.. stupid ass
Just finished binge watching Tiny Pretty Things and it wasn’t even good, I just needed to know who pushed her and now that I know, I’m left with who stabbed him and maybe I’ll get an answer in 2022? 😡
Some character comparisons
Happy Garreg Mach Establishment Day to me! ;w;
christmas (day and season) is always some fuckery but i love hearing about drama so its ok
“ If I may say a few words. ” It’s impressive how strong his voice can be if he so wishes, surpassing most of the accumulating chatter across the tavern and silencing it gradually. Though it’s a bit of a spontaneous speech, it seems the best moment to give it, now that so many patrons are coming in for a night of celebration while others are getting ready to leave to attend their own.
“ First and foremost, I’d like to thank each of you for supporting this establishment, whether on a regular basis or for the single drink a year you currently have in hand. As you all know, every single coin of Mora spent here partly finances the order that keeps our country safe. The importance of your contribution, no matter how small, cannot be overstated. ” A small nod at the few Knights of Favonius present. A mandatory mention, however unpleasant.
“ That being said, I imagine none of you are here specifically to fund our defenders. And I don’t blame you. ” Clears throat. “ Whether you are on your way out or just arriving, you are here for festivities, for today is cause for celebration. Celebration for home and family, celebration for making it through the year and for gearing up to support one another through the cold season. A sweet holiday for most, bitter for an unlucky few, and a mix of both for others. ”
“ It’s important to keep in mind that your home needs not be the house you grew up in, nor your family those who share your blood. Home and family need only be the sentiment of what feels right, where you feel you belong and who you feel you belong with. Whether you can indulge in them for the holidays or have to make-do with a different situation, make sure they are aware of how they matter to you so that the point of these revels is not forgotten. ”
A short pause - some might say hesitation. “ …And remember that whoever you are, wherever you come from, so long as you have an open mind and honest motives, you are always welcome in the city of freedom. ”
A glass is raised; the same cherry-red sweet drink with sprinkled ice around the rim that has been distributed to all those attending. “ To your loved ones, and may the thousand winds of Mondstadt watch over them, and guide them home if need be. ” A sip and a nod. “ Please enjoy your evening. ”
just downed an iced coffee i am now PREPARED
Long time followers might be wondering if my ability to wrap presents has improved in the year 2020 and I’m happy to inform you that, after doing this for well over 20 years
It has not
i know that plenty of ppl move out when they’re 18, 19, 20 but as someone who is 21 and depressed i rly don’t know how on earth to even go about it. other ppl progressing forward in their lives absolutely flabbergasts me. idk how they do it. idk how ppl manage to move forward in any way when so many little things are exhausting for me and i can’t stand the idea of living in this house for another 5 or even 2 years but. i have no idea how to leave. i don’t know how people do it i rly don’t.
this is just depressed rambling. please keep scrolling thank youuuuu