#I hate my aro ass I hate my aro ass

[piss-stained-jorts]

saw some clown on here whining about other people not liking kissing and reducing it to the gross parts and that it’s indicative of a society that fears flesh (which yes it does but that’s not how to go about making the point) and blah blah fucking blah

anyway instead of being a salty bitch and getting into an internet argument with some stranger I’m gonna be a Big Adult and use my rage and spite to remind all of you that

hating kissing is okay, you’re not weird or broken or a prude,

whether you’re asexual or allosexual it’s fine if you despise swapping spit with another human being, it doesn’t mean you love them any less, and you’re FINE. love is expressed in different ways. humans celebrate each other differently, love comes in different forms, it’s fine if you only want to kiss people you’re close to or not at all or literally anything in-between, and shaming people for hating an act of intimacy is fucked up. show love how you want. enjoy the company of others how you want. you don’t have to see kissing as anything more than the gross parts, and “reducing” it to that or whatever is just as okay as romanticizing it as something more. it’s just some ritual humans made up, and we’re allowed to feel literally any fucking way in the world about it.

live your life. be free. 

#kissing #aro #aromantism #asexuality #love #romance #some rando: hating kissing is weird #my kissing repulsed ass: and i took that personally #i don't WANT to feel the meat and slime and teeth of another person i WANT to intertwine my fingers with theirs and lay on their chest #i don't ENJOY the clink of teeth against teeth and the feeling of someone else's spit in my mouth and a slimey squirmy tongue #and if you feel that way you're not weird or invalid god dammit #piss stained rants

[maerhiya]

in regards to the constant dismissal of his aroace identity, i hate it when alastor 'fans' say and use the excuse: "he's fictional, he won't get offended."

like, you're right, but it can and will offend us.

when you see yourself being represented on screen, of course you'd feel enthusiastic about it — representation allows individuals to see themselves reflected in the media they consume, validating their identities and experiences. but when so many people take that representation and decide to disregard and discard it, it is so fucking frustrating. we finally have another character to be part of the tiny amount of representation we have, but then people don't even care about how much it means to us? like yeah, alastor won't get offended because he's not real, but it frustrates and annoys us. do you realize that it's also technically invalidating the aroace community? that you're invalidating our feelings? imagine feeling like you're finally being seen because your orientation is finally being represented in media, and people just decide to blatantly ignore, discard, and invalidate it.

media has such a powerful influence on real life, representation being a prevalent factor of it. there are numerous posts that dictate how people went to watch a movie/show or read a book just because a character depicts their identity in it — obviously, being represented is an incredibly uplifting and validating experience.

which is why seeing an aroace character in a popular show is so meaningful to us because we live in a world where romance and sex are literally everywhere and prioritized above all else. (and it's pretty obvious that alastor's on the repulsed end of the spectrum, but even if he wasn't, at least make an effort to acknowledge his sexuality instead of continuing to portray him as allo; aroace folks can be in relationships but it's not going to be the same thing with allos' experiences.)

any and every representation matters, but why does that seem to stop at people under the aroace spectrum? like y'all can't even let us appreciate the scraps of representation we have. we barely have any, so are we really that dramatic for being upset at how people easily disregard and dismiss our identities that are being depicted on screen just like that? is it truly wrong of us to want to defend and maintain the little representation we have?

#like imagine if i asked you ab your fav character and then i said i hated them and proceeded to insult them #wouldn't that irritate you even just a bit and maybe even come to their defense? #like why would you be offended when they're not even real lmaoo #they're fictional and won't get offended but if you love that character then YOU might feel offended and maybe even defend them #ok now take that situation and put it into this context #except it's much more meaningful bc it's about representation #just a random thought #i'm not against shipping him or finding him attractive (bc same LMAO) or the fanart btw #i just hate it when people use bs excuses to justify their obvious dismissal & indifference towards aro/ace rep #like at least acknowledge his identity :(( #sorry for the long ass rant and if some parts don't make sense i'm not in the best mood rn lol #and i've been wanting to get this off my chest for a while #didn't know double standards were a thing when it came to representation.... #but here we are #alastor #aroace alastor #aroace #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #arospec #aspec #alastor hazbin hotel #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel alastor #aroacespec #queer

[wickedlittlecritta]

it's so funny to me that everyone complains about the daine/numair age gap and not alanna/george when george was like, 19/20 and alanna was ELEVEN when they met

tammy just has an age gap kink leave her alone

#also numair and daine are so howl and sophie coded to me #i do love them #also when i started reading these books i hated romances #bc i was 12 and didn't realize i was aro/ace spectrum #and these were the first time i remember reading romances that weren't just like 'the girl is a prize for the hero doing the thing' #george and numair looked at those feral ass girls and went 'that's the love of my life' with their whole chests #it was good for me #anyway. if this shows up in the tags after all these extra rambly tags i will be #so annoyed #tortall

[vixenicks]

"aromantic matt murdock" i say into the microphone as the feedback proceeds to echo throughout the empty auditorium and shatter my ear drums

#NOBODY ELSE SHARES THE VISION #except alfie hey alfie #maybe its just me being aro but hes so fucking aromantic dude #“i cant keep any relationships with anyone it must be because of my trauma and attachment issues” no youre aro buddy #i mean thats also the reason you cant form lasting relationships but its not just romantically man i hate to break it to u #uhhh scratches ass elektra is a lesbian and also aro ok bye #daredevil #daredevil comics #ace spectrum karen page too #im gonna say something controversial i think maybe the only reason alot of people ive spoken to about aro matt dont like aro matt is becaus #they want him to date them and or their fave #mattfoggy can still be a thang my sweet summer child..... do u know what a qpr is.... #they can still bone and make out and be in love if hes aro........

[notsogoodangel]

This is what I did during my spare time... I'm fine.

Side Notes: I didn't add any of the actual players for simplicity's sake, but I did add characters played by the CCs that aren't their main characters such as Arin, ElQuackity, and Sapo Peta.

It will be too complicated to add ex-alliances and spy-related stuff... but if I did! Jaiden will be between the "knows the federation" and "sides with the players" and Etoiles will be between "understands the codes" and "sides with the players" just because there are no real secrets about it if you watch their POVs.

#qsmp #this is what I did in Valentine's Day because my aro-ace ass couldn't think of anything better to spend my time on #also the thing that shock me the most out of this is THAT THE FUCKING DOG WORKS FOR THE FEDS WHAT #also the Watcher may hate the Federation and stuff but only really knows about Egg Island and nothing else #so he is included in the same area as Cucurucho Mr Duck and the Bunnies #and the Fed workers are in between because they LIKE the players 80% of them are friends or more that the other workers ARE NOT #Creation is so new but I think I'm okay in the placement for now just because is not attached to the Players enough to move to where Arin i #also there's a glee on seeing Ayrobot and SOFIA (Max's robo-daughter) in the same place just for perfectly for my little aymaxo brain #also I'm putting all the Cucurucho's on the Feds because there's not much distinguishing Cucurcho from Osito Bimbo and Ourson #also that's Madagio not naked Slenderman... although both of them would be in the same slot #and all the individual gods like Mine Kristin/Mumza Matt and both Cellbit's and Philza's individual god entities are still there #because we know them as the audience but we don't know what the fuck they know and what they can do even if they canonically exist #also I don't know what the fuck is @v@ so clearly deserves that spot despite being able to infect players federation works and the codes

[nadia-cannot-think-straight]

Mel and Viktor fans were either too busy hating on each other or making them both fuck that they did not realise how interesting it would be if they just let them talk.

#no hate for people who enjoy this type of stuff #or that ship them in general #but my aro ass craves some fanfics where they just have an interesting conversation #without making them besties or a couple #*signs* i have to do EVERYTHING by myself here huh #arcane #txt #arcane viktor #mel medarda

[aroacesigma]

yall aros ever just yearn but very queerplatonically

#ramblings #pls i want a partner but not. like that #god if u dont hate my ass pls give me an aro bf to be very t4t with . thank you <3 #or an aro gf to be t4t with . i aint picky

[nooks-cranny-mogai]

Anyway, as an alloaro, greyromantic, aceflux and non-communal Aro: Happy Valentine's day. You are not "Aro/ace/Aroacephobic" for celebrating your love. You are not doing Valentine's Day wrong if your celebrating your platonic love or love for yourself instead of a romantic and/or sexual partner. You're not hurting fellow LGBT people by enjoying your love and celebrating it. Valentine's Day can mean many things for many people.

And for those who will spend today tearing them down, trauma dumping, complaining, calling people aphobes or other insults for celebrating or trying to claim this day is unnecessary and exclusionary.... I hope you heal. I hope you can learn to love yourself.

And when your done healing, I hope you learn that some things just arnt about you and just because they arnt, doesn't make them bad. It sucks to not feel personally included in a wildly celebrated holiday but many people survive st. Patrick's without being Irish, Easter without being Christian and the 4th of July without being American or having American pride. This isn't any different and you don't have to like Valentine's Day, but understand for many gay couples, interracial couples, trans couples, interfaith couples, polycules and so many other people whose love is oppressed and destroyed, this day is a day for them to show their love.

No one likes a Grinch.

#clover speaks #im trying to be so nice but my fellow aroaces act like fucking christians during halloween or when hannakah is mentioned #it all dosent sound as deep as you think it is and its abit lowkey annoying #they try and pull up thanksgiving to natives and i want to scream as an aro native #not even lowkey high key fucking annoying #i understand your struggles but fr? its not even offensive to us it just dosent include us #and my whole community turns into but what about meeee 🥺🥺🥺 #it aint about us and that dosent make it bad or exclusionary #if valentines day makes you hate yourself thats a sekf hate problem not others #get your shit together in therapy aint no body elses problem #just one block of the reasons why im non communal and its so irritating #you sound self centered and hostile and nothing they put forward as reasons to why the holiday is supposedly #problematic are actual reasons other than it hurty their fweelings they arnt incwuded #grow the fuck up yall act like toddlers at a kissing scene like 90% of the time and its so fuckin annoying #not even in a cringe way just in a completely disconnected from reality not seen the sun in 5 years way #its not cute and you make no sense at best and at worst come off so terminally online i cant stand it #anti fuck anti Valentine's day people all my aro homies hate their pretentious victim complex asses #this blog is pro Valentine's day #honestly im making a bigger deal out of it than it is but the thin veil some aros aces and aroaces wear to hide their #boiling hate for allos in their lives and for love and for other aros aces and aroaces who like love is some puritan ass shit #i see you in there :) #ur being fukin weird :) #you look like you said some questionable shit to lesbians in 2018 :) /neg #the type that think a lesbian icon equals terf or all lesbians are aphobes type shit #i remember that era but i aint gettin into it #no thank you 💀 #that was traumatizing #clover vents #clover hates #i will turn this post into a block chain if need be dont test me

[tragedyuri]

computer how do i get rid of the rotting in bed syndrome . quickest route no freeways

#brie speaks #biting and scratching and clawing and maiming #my mental state has been so ass lately and idek why!!!!!!! #im on tiktok again and i hate it and i kinda havent felt anything but a sense of heaviness for the most of the last two weeks #i also !!!!!! dont have a good relationship with being aro so that is the cherry on top of everything rn lolzor 👍🏼

[yallwildinrn]

It genuinely really sucks when I see so many people frothing at the mouth to admit being aro isn’t a real queer identity. Esp as someone who is both a lesbian AND aro.

I’ll agree, I face more discrimination as a lesbian. However, the lgbt community isn’t defined by our suffering and pain. It should be defined through queer joy and solidarity in the face of a society that refuses to accept us and making that society accept us!

I don’t want my queerness to only be valid when it’s bc of pain. And even then, being aro WOULD be valid. Because you wanna know what fucking sucks? Knowing I can’t reciprocate feelings. Knowing I’ll be called a heartless masc, awful like the rest of em, by women who will ignore that I won’t fall for them. Knowing I’ll probably be pushed to the back burner in relationships bc of you aren’t dating or married, you’re not a priority. Knowing my options and wants are limited bc a lot of lesbians want a cute, sweet romance - and I can never give them that, and they will never ever want me.

Yeah. No one’s gonna try to kill me for that - and I’m grateful! But shit, it separates me from so many damn people and relationships and options in ways being a lesbian doesn’t always. And again. I don’t want my queerness to only be valid by how many people want to fucking kill me. No offense, I’m not centering my identity on pain. I want to find the joy in it.

#dear diary #vent #arophobia #homophobia #not as much for that one but still it’s discussed #just need to get this off my chest #bc yes I won’t be attacked for being aro #but that doesn’t mean it’s not queer and there’s no disadvantages and pain involved #bc it’s not a fucking choice #its something I’ve had to learn to love and accept and it has not always been fucking easy #I hated it for a while #it was freeing but also felt like a death sentence #but I’ve accepted it and I love who I am #it was honestly a harder battle in terms of self acceptance than my lesbianism #which was harder to accept bc I just didn’t want to deal with my homophobic ass family (and still don’t ugh) #so yeah #obv I’m discriminated more for being gay but goddamn #THAT DOESNT INVALIDATE MY ARONESS

[maepersonal]

yeah okay haha just gonna block the hazbin hotel tag

#just saw the literal worst take #y'all goin to the TENTH circle of hell for the weird ass mix of aphobia and sa #idek why I'm surprised; aphobia and sa have always been conflated #leave my boy alastor ALONE #and keep ur shit out of the ace tags #DO NOT PRETEND TO SPEAK FOR US #I WILL GUT YOU WITH A GODDAMN LETTER OPENER #ur not even queer and u just...?? #ew ew ew ew ew #fuck off #stay far far away from me #it's the unapologetic hate speech for me #also!!! also!!!! they completely misunderstood what op was saying #reading comprehension level ZERO #hazbin hotel #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #aromanticism #asexual #asexuality #acespec #aspec #aromantic asexual #queer #lgbtq #oh mae oh my

[sea-jello]

so how did echo and morro come to,, like what was the correlation that started it

#was it like a ‘‘yk what would work’’ typa moment #‘​‘just for funsies’’ #no hate!!! im just asking!! #why is it called citrus #sweet and sour or something #it's not for me personally #cause they're literally not correlated at all and it doesn't make sense for my aro ass #and i don't wanna put morro with anyone romantically #cause he's like 14 or 15 in my eyes and that is a child and Far Too Young #also he's dead and echos literally a robot #but the ships not specifically made for my tastes!! yall like it if you want!! it's literally not my business #ninjago #lego ninjago #citrusshipping #morro ninjago #ninjago morro #morro wu #echo ninjago #ninjago echo #echo julien

[im-smart-i-swear]

aroace nika mickiewicz. is this anything

#fnin #just. this concepts really resonates with me for some reason.. #maybe shes aro maybe shes ace maybe she identifies with some other label #idk #this post was brought to you by my ass being fucking done with net #hes funny hes silly but also im so so tired of his romance with nika. its SO ANNOYING IM SORRY #i mean its not rlly that i HATE this ship but its that after the umpteenth book it gets so fucking exhausting #YES net we GET IT youre jealous and dont like it when she talks to other dudes. cool. shut up for 5 seconds PLEASE #i dont hate net. i like him! hes funny! hes a little shithead and thats very entertaining! but oh my god #there are times when i just want to kick him in his fucking face

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is thinking valentines day peaked in elementary school where you just got some cards with like, a pun and maybe if you wanna be fancy, some candy for everyone. that was neat but then boom, romance came into the mix and its sorta weird feelin now

still love the pink n red n heart shaped objects though, those r cool

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #valentine's cw #oh i hated it the whole time #got bullied really badly around this #kids would like. solidly sneer at my little neurodivergent ass as they were forced to be nice and give me one of the candies they brought #but to be fair [bullying tw?] these kids also like. physically would exclude me from everything and if i managed to get it anyways #they'd often physically shove me over and complain about how [redacted term for my own sake]s shouldn't get to play with the fun stuff #valentine's: it's bad all the way down for me

[memorydragon]

What games think I want: You can choose the romantic pairing with the main character and have cute romantic scenes with them!

What I actually want: Give me scenes with the female characters that flesh out their characters as much as the male bonding does you cowards. Romance is the least interesting thing you could have done.

#this is Mem's life #gaming stuffs #aka Mem is far far too aro/ace for this #especially since the romance is so half assed in pretty much any game that does this #I just looked up cold steel to see if this trend continued because I hate it #and yes it does #just let me have my found fam #don't ruin otherwise amazing story telling to have fan service

[redysetdare]

Idk if it's just because I'm aroace or what but dating shows are so embarrassing like idk how anyone can watch them i can barely sit through someone reviewing/making fun of one they are so boring (the shows not the reviewers) 😩

#text #mostly talking abt the dating shows like love in blind and what not #because i been trying to watch videos on them but every time i cannot finish #because it's all just boring ass drama shit #like god how are these shows about LOVE??? they all seem to hate each other #are the straight ok like seriously #is this just an aroace thing or does anyone else feel this way abt dating shows #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #tagging those just in case it is my aroaceness that is causing this lmao