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aresaphrodites · 6 years

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Hey but sorry to bother u but could give me those book recs? Relying on u girl

of course!! sorry bout the long wait, dear x

you said you preferred trilogies or series’ (which i don’t read much of tbh) so here are a few of my favorites: (( some of these will have full on summaries and some… not so much, i got lazy lol ))

The Lux Series by Jennifer L. Armentrout : Meet Katy and Daemon! Katy is a funny, down-to-earth book blogger who has just moved to West Virginia. And Daemon? Well, he’s her hot and arrogant next-door neighbor. He’s also an alien. This one is cheesy, yeah, but it’s so FUN! Follow along as Katy and Daemon try to figure out what they mean to each other while trying not to get killed by the Arum; the Lumen’s enemy. In this world, the DOD is well aware that aliens exist and that they live on Earth. However, they are unaware that the aliens known as Luxen actually possess powers that make them.. well… powerful beyond means. This isn’t just a romance story; it focuses on family and friendships and it has a bunch of kick ass action and the entire plot with the DOD is so interesting.

The Pine Deep Series by Jonathan Maberry ; I’m only on the first book but this one is a bit more mature in terms of horror and things like that. If you like scary books or feel like being spooky in time for Halloween, you should definitely check this one out!

The Mortal Instruments Series by Cassandra Clare : I’m sure you know about this one, but if you don’t! Angels, demons, warlocks, vampires, faeries, werewolves? What more could you want? When Clary Fray discovers she’s actually a Shadowhunter; an appointed warrior of the Angel Raziel and has angel blood coursing through her veins, her life is about to change forever. Join her and the rest of the Shadowhunter gang (and even a few others) as they team up to rescue her mom and stop an all out war from happening.

The Darkest Minds Series by Alexandra Bracken ; I’m only on the first book but I absolutely love it! It’s an intense read that has me on the edge of my seat constantly. I adore Ruby and she’s easily become one of my favorite female characters of all time.

Dorothy Must Die Series by Danielle Paige ; Okay. I know, I know. Really? Dorothy Must Die? Hear me out! This book is FUN. Trashy? Perhaps, but fun! The first book is really fast paced and honestly? I am living for a world where Dorothy is evil. So basically our main character is named Amy and she is the other girl from Kansas. She’s sent to Oz to save it from Dorothy Gale who has become power hungry and is now pure evil along with the Tin-Man, the Lion, and the Scarecrow. The rest of the series doesn’t really live up to the first book, but I would say you should read the first one anyway. It’s a lot of fun.

Did I Mention I Love You Series by Estelle Maskame: Sixteen-year-old Eden Munro decides to spend the summer with her father in Santa Monica as her parents are divorced now. Once there, she meets her father’s new family and that includes Tyler Bruce; her new asshole step brother with a short temper and a huge ego but as she gets to learn more about him, she finds herself falling for him. This trope isn’t for everyone and I know the whole step sibling thing is super taboo but this series is awesome and I read it during a huge reading slump and it really helped me get though it.

Perfect Chemistry Series by Simone Elkeles: When Brittany Ellis walks into chemistry class on the first day of senior year, she has no clue that her carefully created “perfect” life is about to unravel before her eyes. She’s forced to be lab partners with Alex Fuentes, a gang member from the other side of town, and he is about to threaten everything she’s worked so hard for―her flawless reputation, her relationship with her boyfriend, and the secret that her home life is anything but perfect. Alex is a bad boy and he knows it. So when he makes a bet with his friends to lure Brittany into his life, he thinks nothing of it. But soon Alex realizes Brittany is a real person with real problems, and suddenly the bet he made in arrogance turns into something much more. (Each book in this series focuses on a different Fuentes brother.)

Fighting to Be Free Series by Kirsty Moseley: Jamie Cole has just been released from juvenile detention. Determined to go straight, he tries to cut ties with crime boss Brett Reyes - but Brett has no intention of letting him go. Jamie’s life is already more complicated than it needs to be, yet it’s when he meets a beautiful stranger at a bar that Jamie knows he’s really in over his head. Ellie Pearce has just come out of a terrible relationship and isn’t looking for anything serious; until she meets Jamie. Their attraction is overwhelming and intense - she can’t seem to shake her growing feelings for him, even though she’s trying to keep it casual. But when fate goes horribly wrong and Jamie’s family is faced with ruin, he’s forced to strike a deal with Brett. Despite his struggles, he wants nothing more than a future with Ellie. That’s until Ellie finds out that he’s been hiding more from her than she could ever imagine.

Mind if I drop in a few stand alone’s? I’m trying to read more series’ but I’ve always been more of a stand alone kind of girl, so here are some of my current favs:

#MurderTrending by Gretchen McNeil : WELCOME TO THE NEAR FUTURE, where good and honest citizens can enjoy watching the executions of society’s most infamous convicted felons, streaming live on The Postman app from the suburbanized prison island Alcatraz 2.0. When seventeen-year-old Dee Guerrera wakes up in a haze, lying on the ground of a dimly lit warehouse, she realizes she’s about to be the next victim of the app. Knowing hardened criminals are getting a taste of their own medicine in this place is one thing, but Dee refuses to roll over and die for a heinous crime she didn’t commit. Can Dee and her newly formed posse, the Death Row Breakfast Club, prove she’s innocent before she ends up wrongfully murdered for the world to see? Or will The Postman’s cast of executioners kill them off one by one?

One Small Thing by Erin Watt : Meet Beth and Chase. Beth is entering her senior year and is still trying to move on from the death of her older sister three years ago. In a small town with parents who have suddenly become her wardens; that seems nearly impossible. And then she meets the mysterious and hot Chase who immediately draws her in. Their attraction is instant and he’s the first person who makes her feel like Beth Jones and not Lizzie; the young girl who lost a sister and is somehow broken by it. But as she falls harder for Chase, she’s hit with the reality of the part he played in her sister’s death. It’s about forgiveness, love, and moving on. It’s sad and sweet and such a fun, quick read. Definitely good for trying to get out of a slump!

Autoboyography by Christina Lauren : Fangirl meets Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda in this funny and poignant coming-of-age novel from New York Times bestselling author Christina Lauren about two boys who fall in love in a writing class—one from a progressive family and the other from a conservative religious community. If you read one book off of this list, PLEASE let it be this one. This book is so… amazing. It’s been months and I still think about it constantly.

Fault Line by C. Desir : Trigger WARNING: THIS BOOK CONTAINS A RAPE. It is not shown, but it’s the main conflict in the book. Over the years I have struggled with if I liked this book because it was good or if I liked it because of how much it fucked me up. I read this book in one sitting and when I finished, I sat in my bed for a good hour and just…. didn’t move or do anything. You will NOT be rooting for the main couple. The narrator is unlikable and you will HATE all the characters in this book. The ending is NOT happy and I don’t know why I’m recommending this but GOD. This book, after so many years, just stuck with me because of how fucked up it was. It deals with the whole “recovery” process in such a dark way that we normally don’t see in YA fiction and I think that’s what makes it stand out so much. If you want something darker, read this. But read it with caution. If this isn’t something you like then please, don’t bother reading it. It’s not happy and it’s sure as shit not fluffy. Summary : Ben could date anyone he wants, but he only has eyes for the new girl—sarcastic free-spirit Ani. Luckily for Ben, Ani wants him too. She’s everything Ben could ever imagine. Everything he could ever want. But that all changes after the party. The one Ben misses. The one Ani goes to alone. Now Ani isn’t the girl she used to be, and Ben can’t sort out the truth from the lies. What really happened, and who is to blame? Ben wants to help her, but she refuses to be helped. The more she pushes Ben away, the more he wonders if there’s anything he can do to save the girl he loves.

Meddling Kids by Edgar Cantero : If you like Scooby-Doo or Archie’s Weird Mysteries this book is probably for you. 1990. The teen detectives once known as the Blyton Summer Detective Club are all grown up and haven’t seen each other since their fateful, final case in 1977. Andy, the tomboy, is twenty-five and on the run, wanted in at least two states. Kerri, one-time kid genius and budding biologist, is bartending in New York, working on a serious drinking problem. At least she’s got Tim, an excitable Weimaraner descended from the original canine member of the team. Nate, the horror nerd, has spent the last thirteen years in and out of mental health institutions, and currently resides in an asylum in Arhkam, Massachusetts. The only friend he still sees is Peter, the handsome jock turned movie star. The problem is, Peter’s been dead for years.The time has come to uncover the source of their nightmares and return to where it all began in 1977. This time, it better not be a man in a mask. The real monsters are waiting.

Fatal Throne by Candace Fleming ; A book about Henry VIII and his six wives. If you like historical fiction then this book might be for you! It’s told through the perspective of his six wives (and even Henry himself) and it’s a really fascinating read.

Okay, I think I’m going to stop here. Let me know if none of these speak to you and I’ll give you some more recs! I didn’t know what kind of genres you liked, so I tried to throw in a little bit of everything.

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russellthornton · 6 years

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How to Make the First Move on a Girl: 20 Must-Know Tips from a Girl

If you are wondering how to make the first move on a girl, you came to the right place. Because girls know what girls want.

When it comes to knowing how to make the first move on a girl, you need to understand that it is not as complicated as you might think. In fact, it is pretty simple. Maintain respect and go for it.

But if you are looking for some more specifics like should you wait until the end of a date or go for it at dinner? Or should you go in for a kiss or a full makeout session? Then continue reading for advice from a girl who has made the first move and has had guys make the first move both successfully and not so much. [Read: 15 best ways to ask a girl out and get her to say yes]

Should you make the first move on a girl?

Before getting into figuring out how to make the first move on a girl you might be asking yourself, should you even be? And the answer is yes. Why not?

Whether you are scared of rejection or scared you are coming on too strong, there are ways to take that risk without so much risk. If you are interested in a girl and feel a connection, go for it.

Some girls like making the first move, but many of us still love that old-fashioned guy who makes it clear what he wants. So, if she hasn’t made the first move, she may very well be waiting for you to. [Read: Do girls like a shy guy without bold moves?]

How to make the first move on a girl

Going into to your big first move is nerve-racking. It would be weird if it wasn’t. So take a deep breath and go for it. The worst thing that could happen is she turns you down and you move on. No biggie.

Whether your first move is asking for a girl’s number, kissing her, or asking her out on an old school date, you can do it. Here’s how:

#1 Read the signs. If she isn’t looking you in the eye and tries to change the subject, she isn’t interested. But if she strokes your arm, laughs at your jokes, and makes eye contact, go for it. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she likes you]

#2 Stop overthinking. You do not need to write out a script in your mind. Go with the vibe of the conversation. Do what feels right in the moment.

#3 Take it slow. Yes, women like a guy who can be bold, but don’t just do what you want. As I said, read the room. If you had a nice date and feel the chemistry you can go in for a goodnight kiss. But don’t take it beyond that. [Read: How to be the charming guy who slowly seduces his girl]

#4 Don’t fight the awkwardness. Lean into it. If you are awkward or shy, let that be your thing. Don’t fight it or you could come off even more nervous.

Awkward does not have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite endearing. So go in to hold her hand. If you miss, laugh about it and try again. Awkwardness is actually a great starting point.

#5 Give her your number. A lot of guys ask girls for their numbers. And although that is fine, it can take more than a few moments for a girl to really know if she is actually interested.

Instead of asking her, offer her your number. That way the ball is in her court. She can decide if she wants to reach out or not. Yes, this can make it a bit more of a waiting game for you, but it lets her accept or decline your offer on her timetable. You are still making the first move, but giving her the second. [Read: How to get a girl’s number every single time – The no fail moves you need to know]

#6 Appreciate her. The mistake many guys make when it comes to making the first move is expecting a certain response. A lot of men think a woman should automatically be flattered by the interest, but that is not how it works.

She could be in a bad mood or having an off day. Maybe she is in a relationship or not interested in men at all. Don’t assume your compliment is always something she wants. Show her you appreciate what she has to say. Ask her opinion on your outfit or what he favorite food order is.

#7 Be okay with a no. One of the first things you need to do when it comes to knowing how to make the first move on a girl is to be realistic. Don’t go into the first move with a negative outlook, but rather a realistic one. There is a very real chance she could reject you. But go in with confidence.

The thing about confidence is that it comes from within. So even if she isn’t interested, you will keep your cool, be respectful, and be happy you tried. [Read: We’re so glad you want to know how to respect a woman]

#8 Be funny. Humor is something that puts just about everyone at ease. If you can make her genuinely laugh and the conversation is flowing, making the first move shouldn’t come out of the blue.

If you are laughing about The Bachelor, for example, challenge her to a bet on who gets sent home next week. Make it your way in. [Read: 43 conversation starters that work perfectly with girls]

#9 Talk about it first. If you can’t think of an original way to ask her out or go in for a kiss, just be straightforward and talk about it. Let her know you want to make the first move, but aren’t sure what she would be comfortable with.

Being respectful and open about this is a great way to start things off physically and romantically.

#10 Compliment her mind. Yes, we all love hearing we are beautiful, but that doesn’t show a true interest. Compliment her determination at work or her loyalty to her friends or even her devotion to school.

#11 Don’t put down other girls. “You’re not like other girls,” is a phrase so many guys go to as a compliment, but it is really just a way of saying, “I don’t like most girls, but you are different.” Saying this is a turn off to most girls.

So instead just compliment her. Don’t bring other girls into it.

#12 Get consent. It is 2018, you know better than that. And if you aren’t sure what you have the green light for, simply ask. It is not that hard.

#13 Let it be natural. Just go with what you’re feeling in the moment. Don’t try to force a cheesy line or say something you think she wants to hear. If you chat about her favorite restaurant mention you’d love to take her there sometime.

And if you are talking at the end of a date and feel like a kiss is appropriate, but aren’t sure how she would feel say you’ve been thinking about kissing her all night and want to know how she feels. [Read: How to kiss a girl for the first time and not screw up]

#14 Be honest. Trying to find the perfect way to make the first move is impossible. There is no one way to always get it right and have her return your interest. So just put it all out there and be honest.

Let her know you’re interested in going out. Let her know you have had a great time getting to know her but want to take things to the next level romantically.

#15 Ask her to teach you something. Mansplaining is a real issue. And men seem to think that they know so much and have to explain it to women in a patronizing way.

Instead, let her teach you something. If she says she is amazing at baking, ask her if she would be willing to give you a beginner’s lesson because you’re new to baking. Or even let her know you’re trying to become more aware of what’s going on with the feminist movement, but don’t know where to begin. [Read: Are you a mansplaining jerk?]

#16 Make a small gesture. I know this is generic, but buy her a drink or bring her flowers. It may not be groundbreaking, but it is a classic that has worked for guys for ages.

Offer to buy her a drink at the bar. If she is a friend or coworker, bring her a bouquet of flowers or even a single red rose and ask her out. The gesture is very sweet.

#17 Do it via text. We all get nervous, but thankfully texting was invented for these exact moments. Of course, you do have to have her number already, but if you are friends or you even have her email, go for it.

Let her know you’re interested, but weren’t sure how to let her know. So you are just putting it out there so you won’t regret not making a move. [Read: 15 texting rules guys need to follow to impress a girl over text]

#18 Ask about her family. This may sound weird but stick with me for a minute. When you are interested in someone, you talk about your job, what TV shows you watch, and maybe your pets. But asking about someone’s childhood or relationship with their family is intimate.

Getting to know each other on that deeper level takes you a step closer to the next move.

#19 Talk to her friend. You may not always have access to her friends. If you do, ask for some advice. Some girls like a super bold guy and just goes for it. Others prefer a guy to move slower.

If you share a friend group, work together, or even know her friends, ask someone if she would be interested in you and what you can do to make the first move. Getting that inside scoop gives you a leg up. There are plenty of ways to make the first move on a girl, but with specifics from those that know her you are more likely to come off well. [Read: 15 subtle clues to tell you your crush likes you back]

#20 Let her make the first move. I know you found this feature so you could find out how to make the first move on a girl, but sometimes the best thing to do is wait for her to make the first move.

[Read: The obvious signs she’s got a crush on you and is waiting for you to make a move]

Learning how to make the first move on a girl is a process. Every girl appreciates respect and kindness, but every girl wants something different when it comes to romance.

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