The first time i was pregnant i lost my shit... and kept losing my shit every day for a week... i packed a bowl and smoked till i was numb... i wasn't in a good place, i wasn't ready and i just knew i couldnt be pregnant. I terminated my pregnancy the day after i told my husband (bf at the time). Its been 7 year and i wonder what could have been, but i have never regreted my choice and my husband never once made me feel any anguish... i was 9 weeks pregnant when i found out
The second time i was pregnant was very soon after that and the birth control failed, we were so careful and still... i was 5 weeks pregnant when i terminated and I've never told anyone because i was so frustrated...
The third time i was pregnant i found out like 2 weeks after hurricane María destroyed all semblance of normalcy my life had. There was no power, no food, no water, no gas in Puerto Rico... people were so desperate and sad and it was so utterly bizarre, like suddenly we woke up in the middle of a fucking really bad disaster movie.
I owned a little café at the time and we were able to keep operating during the worst of it. I found out when after a really bad day i went to have a cigarette and it made me so nauseous ( I'd smoked for like 10 yrs, so that was not normal), the next day i woke up and lit up with my coffee and almost fainted. 3 tests later and yep...
I gave myself a week to think about it, even with the work load, the bad things happening, (after maria i didnt have power in my house for 6 months!!!) I was looking forward to being a mom... i told my husband and my friends and my family and never regreted it. I have an( almost) 3yr old...
Sorry to make this so long, i dont know you, i read your work but usually dont interact much on Tumblr... but i wanted you to know that in my opinion, its ok to freak out but if you cant stop freaking out... its ok to say you're not ready and don't want it. Kids are fucking hard core and they should be had willingly and happily. Its OK to not be ready.
I have no idea if where you're from abortions are legal or not, but you have complete control over your body and it should be your CHOICE to have a baby.
I wish you much clarity and all the best.
Oh my god thank you for sharing your story with me, I’m fucking in tears, this meant the world to me right now. I’m sorry you had to go through that but I’m so happy you’re in a better place now. I don’t know what my plans are, I don’t know if I’m ready or if I can or ever will be able to handle this, half the time I don’t even know what to feel or if what I do feel is alright to feel.
I know I have support with whatever my decision is but it’s the inner turmoil that’s really messing me up. Lmfao my self is my worst critic these days.
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Just reblogged a post about math and it got me thinking about how math is probably a subject that I should be good at, but my brain cannot handle it in the slightest. Like it’s entirely logic, I’m usually great at logic.
Idk if it’s bc of the way it was taught in my math classes or what, but at this point I genuinely cannot wrap my mind around the existence of numbers and how they work. Makes me wonder how things might’ve been different if it was something I could do.
Back in elementary school in the third grade, I was placed in an advanced math class, and at a certain point the teacher was moving too fast which made me start crying in the middle of class.
Instead of helping me catch up or slowing down or anything like that, their solution was to just move me to a less advanced class. This in fact did not help me in the slightest and while it was a slower class, I still didn’t understand any of the material.
I genuinely have no idea what I would change about how math is taught (outside of getting rid of the various teachers who are horrible at teaching), but it really does seem like there should be a better way to teach the subject
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I just realized why your buff sticks look so off to me (/lh)(/nm) its because they still got the got damn tiny circle "=D" face head and its just completely disproportionate
Not hating on your style i love the buff sticks with all my heart I just thought that was funny
it’s probably because i’m still learning how to draw muscles and different body types too fyuwfgwuy
but yeah the mfs don’t have a jawline or anything after you get to the neck it’s just ⚪ so that probably doesn’t help contrast wise
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