Regarding Dess, I think it’s possible her disappearance is, you know, something deeplore like Gaster or Bunker...
...but it’s also possible that it’s something mundane by the standards of a magical world. She could have gone no-contact with her family.
Deltarune has a lot of themes of abandonment.
Abandonment not just by the people you love, but by the people who love you.
And unfortunately, Dess would have reason to not want to be at home.
Noelle is afraid of her mom. And not in a good way.
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Noelle doesn’t feel safe asking her mom for the key when she gets locked out.
Noelle says she’s afraid of people, but...
...she says “I guess you too” and then says Susie is the good kind of scary. Noelle wasn’t talking about Susie when she said she was afraid of people.
In the hospital, she talks about healing her dad, and, with a scared expression, says then it wouldn’t just be her and her mom at home.
Rudy tries to make some kind of excuse for her mother, but then gives up.
Later, in a low voice so Susie doesn’t hear, Rudy confides to Kris Dreemurr, of all people, about this.
Rudy loves Noelle’s mom, but is so worried about not being at home to “balance it all out”...
...that he feels the reason he has to get better is to protect Noelle. Not to live. But specifically to protect Noelle.
In Chapter 1, he even asks Kris Dreemurr, of all people, to keep an eye out for her.
There is something very much not okay going on at home here.
I don’t know what the cause is, but it’s like with King and Lancer: whether or not they are ever in any “””actual””” danger, if your kid is afraid of you, I have a problem with it.
And it’s not like the Mayor doesn’t exhibit questionable behavior outside of this.
As for Dess, Noelle doesn’t seem to think she’s dead. This isn’t how you talk about a dead person:
...and Noelle’s search history indicates she’s been searching “December Holiday”, like someone might do to try to find a relative they’ve lost contact with.
Whatever the case, it’s likely Dess disappeared when they were both pretty young, as by the time the spelling bee happens, Noelle’s too broken up over it to speak her name:
And Noelle’s not much taller during the spelling bee than she was during her flashback with Kris, when talking about missing how she, Dess, Asriel, and Kris used to explore.
To get the important thing out of the way: there’s no question in my mind that Dess loves Noelle.
She’s protective over her...
She comforts her...
She wants to take her to new places...
...and in some echo flower dialogue from Undertale about two sisters making a wish that could be from that universe’s Dess and Noelle, both clearly love each other.
It seems like the options are that...
Dess’s disappearance was Deeplore and her abandonment was involuntary
It was Deeplore and she chose not to come back
At a young age she had enough of her mother and either ran away or went to live with someone else and then went no-contact
It might not make sense for someone who loves their sibling to leave them to a home life like that voluntarily, but...
...although the circumstances are very different, Asriel left Kris, and their home life isn’t perfect - there are still echoes of the divorce haunting the household, and they seem to have major depression.
And Asriel may have left Kris for a lot longer than they expected him to.
(It is currently past Summer. It’s Autumn.)
And, in general, in cases of neglect or abuse or problems at home, sometimes people do choose to leave their family, and they can’t always take their siblings with them. Or sometimes their siblings don’t want to come.
Nothing about a situation like that is good. I don’t have the right to pass judgement on that.
Whatever the case is, it seems like the police got involved, and it resulted in Asgore getting kicked off the force...
...even though, according to the townsfolk, he had a legacy that would apparently be hard to live up to, meaning this was likely a personal decision by the mayor.
There’s now been a rift between the Dreemurr and Holiday family for some time.
Dess’s disappearance and fate are critical to understanding Noelle and probably the entire relationship between the Holiday and Dreemurr families, so I strongly believe it will have an effect on the overarching theme of the game.
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i see a lot of ya’ll self-depreciating over how much you cry and like...generally speaking, crying is a very healthy process. it’s an important means of
expressing & processing strong emotions
relieving stress
experiencing catharsis
moving on to a recovery period
this mindset that people just need to train themselves out of crying...that really worries me. bc the alternative is to repress those feelings instead of expressing them...and from firsthand experience i can tell you it is very much not worth doing that. i’ve been there, i’ve done it, i’ve bought into that mindset. i thought it would make me stronger and less vulnerable. instead i fell so out of touch with myself, it took years of therapy for me to learn to identify my own emotions again. i literally forgot how to tell when i’m upset or sad, bc my body had been trained out of expressing it. that’s an extreme scenario but it’s not uncommon, and if you spend too much time criticizing yourself over your own emotions, it can creep up on you.
i like to think we all know how harmful it is to tell children to just “stop crying, dammit.” turns out, the same is true for adults.
just. please change the mindset that being visibly upset is somehow shameful. if you find yourself crying a lot, that probably means something in your external and internal experiences needs to change: you don’t deserve to feel angry, frustrated, frightened, sad, or upset so frequently that it distresses you. those are only supposed to be sometime emotions.
but telling yourself to just. stop crying, or to stop feeling what you’re feeling? that’s harmful, and it doesn’t work. no one controls their emotions out of sheer will--at best we shut them down, and then pay heavily for it later. if we want our minds to feel better, we need to give them assistance, not threats. threatening or bullying our bodies and minds to behave the way we want them to will always backfire.
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