#In the closet

[seeminglydark]

He needed a ride, so Caro offered to drive him to the show.

Turns out those cheer moves work great in the pit.

#original characters #the punk and the cheerleader #making friends where ever they go #punk rock show #punk fashion #neon lights #milliminal #nonbinary can look like this #in the closet

[graycious-tea]

So are we just not gonna talk about Tommy’s fan-fucking-tastic in the closet joke or????

#evan buckley #911 abc #evan buck buckely #buck buckley #911 show #911 spoilers #911 #9 1 1 #9 1 1 abc #tommy kinard #buck x tommy #bi buck #episode 5 #like very gay #the gay is strong in this one #it’s so funny #i luv him #he’s so silly #in the closet #narnia waved hello #eddie diaz #edmundo diaz

[cowboyjen68]

Hi, I want to advise you, Miss Jen . I am a 19-year-old girl, and I am a lesbian, but unfortunately, my family does not accept this idea and do not like gay people, and I have not yet told them this. I don't know what to do. I want to tell them, but at the same time, I'm afraid of their reaction. The problem is that I don't have close friends to tell this to.

So can you please give me some advice?

Because I have been following you for a while, and you make me feel comfortable when you share your stories and advice here or on TikTok. I really love you and wish you all the best 💕💕

I had a few moments on Monday so i did a quick Tiktok addressing your question.

My advice it to not tell them. Your first priority is to stay safe and maintain stability (housing, healthcare, education, etc. You don't owe them that part of your life.

I completely understand the desire to share such an important things with our parents and family. We love them and we want them to know all about things that are important to us and that includes such a core part of us, our sexual orientation. You are not any less of a lesbian if you keep that part of yourself private from them.

Put your focus on a job, a driver's license, a bank account, collection documents like your social security card and birth certificate and finishing your education. Once you are on your own and are paying for housing, health insurance and other necessary things then you can make the decision to tell them. Even once you are on your own, you do not have to. If you fear loosing them there is no shame in not coming out to them, now or ever.

You will eventually meet friends at jobs or school who will understand you and love you for all your core values and you can be yourself. Or choose what to share and what not to share. You are allowed the boundaries of some things being private with some people.

Even back in my youth the line of "Silence equals Death" was used by some to force others to come out when they were not ready or not in a safe place to do so. To be clear, that is not what it meant.

To this day I see others encouraging younger people to be "out and proud " because "we" will support you. The fact is, strangers on the internet are not able to take on the truly hard stuff of parenting that goes well beyond emotional support. It entails being responsible for a young person's mental. physical and monetary well being and it does not end at early adulthood.

Stay in the closet at home, seek friendships at work or in school that are fulfilling and trustworthy. You are not being shameful to stay safe in your home.

I am glad you found me on social media. And remember, just because I am out and loud now does not mean I always was. Taking our time to get to a good and safe place to be out takes time and courage.

#coming out #not coming out #in the closet #family #lesbian

[farmerlesbian]

How long was it between when you knew or realized you were gay before you came out?

I know coming out is a process for a lot of people, so just choose when like the biggest moment for you was. Basically I'm asking about how long you knew you were gay but were in the closet, however you define being in the closet

#reblog or comment if it's complicated or you want to talk about it! #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #queer #coming out #closeted #polls #farmer lesbian #mod alfalfa #lesbian #gay #wlw #sapphic #homosexual #in the closet #bi #pan #bisexual #pansexual

[kausstar]

#♰ ݁.﹒porn material #oh my fucking goooood #in every position. #on the table #on the bed #on the couch #in the closet #on the counter #on the floor #aaron hotchner #aaron hotchner edit #aaron hotchner x reader #just being thirty before i to work

[recka24]

#garic soldatov #in the closet #short shorts

[genderqueerdykes]

I really like the reminder that "being out" or "being in the closet" isn't a zero sum game where you have to let absolutely everybody know everything at all times or else be totally hidden. You can choose to only disclose parts of your identity to certain people or in certain situations for any reason, that's been really helpful to me ad a queer person with a somewhat complicated personal identity that very few people know all the layers of.

this is a super awesome reminder! thank you, i think a lot of people can benefit from being reminded of this!

#asks #answers #queer #trans #gay #lesbian #transgender #transsexual #closeted #coming out #in the closet #stealth

[imagine-mokey]

A great colored photo of John and Paul!

#fanfiction #the beatles #fanfic #beatles fan #john lennon #paul mccartney #sexy #so cute #cute couple #cute #cute af #mclennon cute #mclennon hot #young paul mccartney #young John Lennon #1960s #mclennon fanfiction #mclennon #mclennon fanart #in the closet

[sweaterkittensahoy]

On the third day of pride, I just want to remind you that it is not shameful to be in the closet. Not this month. Not any month. 

It’s shameful that people have scared you with their words and actions to the point that you need to hide who you are. 

It’s shameful that people are outed against their will by people who they trust. It’s shameful that people are outed by strangers who are just assholes. It’s shameful that people are forced to come out because they’re manipulated by people who can’t respect boundaries. 

The closet is stressful and tiring and can feel suffocating and alienating. I don’t know of a single queer who has enjoyed the experience of being closeted.

But it’s not shameful to protect yourself. it’s not shameful to make the best decisions for you that keep you safe until you can find a better, more open, more joyous place. 

And you can still have joy in the closet. You are as queer in that closet as you are outside of it, and I’d rather you stay safe in it until it’s safe for you outside of it.

To all my closeted queers: I love you. I see you. Pride is for you, too. 

#queer #lgbtqia #closeted #in the closet #pride month #you deserve safety #you deserve respect #you deserve love

[pluralprompts]

Prompt #1,342

Headmate A has a very comforting presence and always knows just what to say. When someone the system knows begins showing signs of distress, Headmate A steps in to help them.

Bonus: the system isn't out to this person, and a few days (or hours) later, they begin questioning where that comforting nature came from.

#pluralgang #plural system #plurality #pluralprompt #prompt blog #prompt #hurt/comfort #in the closet

[prideplus]

Hiiiii

I have a really big favour

Somewhere around two weeks ago I saw a post on Instagram, it was a turtle which had a rainbow flag in his shell, it was clear he was closeted, with a text "this month is for you too" (or something along these lines)

Have you seen it? Please help me, I can't find it, I forgot to save it! Thank you xxxxx

Hey @ilwiwbysmv, is this it?

#asks answered #lgbtqia+ art #lgbtqia+ artist #smatterbrain #pride flag #pride flag art #in the closet

[chirpsythismorning]

Tribulations walked so Destroying the Castle could run.

In the Closet (at Rink O Mania) walked so Surf that Tasty Pie could— *gunshots*

#byler #stranger things #st music #st score #anyways #byler endgame #surf that tasty pie #being a response of sorts to #in the closet (at rink o mania) #actually makes sense… #in the closet #try before you deny #aka #SURFS UP!

[thestoppingofaheart]

Sometimes my heart goes really fast thinking about the fact that I own Heartstopper V3 & V4 and I put them at the bottom of my nightstand drawer… what if my parents find them one day? Questions will be had that I’m not ready to answer. That I’m not quite ready to admit to myself or others.

#heartstopper #heartstopper fandom #alice oseman #osemanverse #charlie spring #nick nelson #nick and charlie #solitaire #tori spring #heartstopper comic #lgbtq love #lgbtq problems #in the closet

[aphroditesanxiety]

Being in the closet is

Living in a house that you do not call your home.

Knowing it's a lie everytime your parents say you can tell them anything or that they'll love you no matter what.

Talking about your future knowing you will not have them in it.

Hating yourself, then hating them, then being sad and angry.

Knowing that, if they ever found out before you could move away, you would be disowned.

You might be tortured

You might be killed

By your own family

I live in a house that I do not call my home.

#Tw murder #in the closet #lgbtq community #lgbtqia #Lesbian #spilled poetry #writers on tumblr #writing inspiration #quote submission #quotes #quotes on tumblr #poetry #writing prompt #stories #book quotes

[the-waterbclean-from-wattpad]

good, I hope it makes me look lesbian MOM I mean um manager…

#lesbian #lesbian memes #funny #wlw #wlw love #wlw post #funny memes #memes #lgbtq #in the closet

[blessedarethebinarybreakers]

Hi, I hope you're having a blessed Good Friday and Holy Week. I have a heavy question that may be difficult to answer but I'm hoping you could provide some insight.

How do I lean on Jesus to keep me strong in an abusive situation? I am a closeted trans guy living with alt-right conservative family. I am doing my best to escape the situation but for now I'm stuck. It feels impossible to stay strong knowing these people already hate me, and would hate me even more if they knew my true and actual self. They're supposed to love me, we're family, but they never have. I want to be like Jesus and love them no matter what, and I want to forgive them, but I don't know how. I feel like I can't forgive what they do when it's continuous and they are not sorry. Can you point me in the direction of any verses or lessons that can help me stay strong in the face of pain and hurt?

TW: unaccepting family, conservative family

Ach, so sorry I didn't see this till now. My heart aches for you in this painful situation. I will be holding you in my prayers; may God enfold you in love and courage to get through this time, and send support your way to help you out. If there is anything I can do to help you get out of this current living situation, please let me know.

The fact that you want to show forgiveness to people who have failed to give you the love and care you deserve shows what a big heart and courageous spirit you have. It's a powerful thing to go through hurt and still seek grace even for the ones who hurt you. That kindness is a rare and precious gift; hang on to it for the future, when there will be people in your life who are actually open to receiving and responding to your kindness.

In the meantime, you are correct in pointing out the impossibility of forgiveness when the ones who hurt you are still hurting you, probably have no plans to stop any time soon, and haven't shown any remorse. Despite how mainstream Christianity has watered down the concept of forgiveness into an abstract statement, to a one-off, simple "forgive and forget :)" attitude, that is not actually the kind of forgiveness that Jesus instructs us in.

Mainstream Christian culture has warped forgiveness into a weapon against the wronged, pressuring them to "just move on" so we don't have to live in the discomfort and challenge of dismantling the kind of power dynamics that allow for harm to take place.

Meanwhile when Jesus taught forgiveness, about reconciliation between a wrongdoer and the one they've wronged, his challenge was to the wrongdoer. It was up to them to show remorse and seek forgiveness, to show they'd actually changed by lowering themselves to an equal field with the one wronged so that the harm can never happen again.

In this post, I talk more about Jesus's idea of forgiveness, and discuss how one might "love one's enemies" as Jesus instructs even when forgiving them is not possible.

One thing that has stood out to a lot of people is that when Jesus was going through his greatest agony, being tortured and murdered on a Roman cross, his words of forgiveness are not "I forgive these people who are in the midst of murdering me" but "Father, forgive them." When we are unable to forgive for any reason, that isn't sinful or a sign of weak faith or any such nonsense. It's recognizing the complicated realities of relationship, where reconciliation isn't the responsibility of the person being wronged. And we can let go of any sense of burden on us to do the forgiving — ultimately, that's not our job, but God's.

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As you survive this difficult situation, I think about Jesus' fraught relationship with his own biological family. His situation was much different from yours — we know his parents did love him, as did his cousin John, and presumably other family members as well. But they didn't always understand him, and they didn't always accept him. They wanted him to be what they expected him to be, not live into who he truly was.

In Mark 3, as Jesus is gaining steam as a teacher and healer, some of his family gets worried about the fame he's gaining — they say, "he's out of his mind!" and seek to "seize control of him." They think what he preaches is some kind of mental illness, and they're either embarrassed of or scared for him. Jesus, come back home! What will people think?? Don't you know what they're saying about our family??

When people tell Jesus his mother and siblings have arrived, he retorts,

“Who is my mother? Who are my siblings?” Looking around at those seated around him in a circle, he said, “Look, here are my mother and my brothers. Whoever does God’s will is my brother, sister, and mother.”

Jesus recognizes that family is much deeper than blood; that family is about who supports you in your God-given identity and gifts, and helps you grow into the person God created you to be. When biological family fails to do that, your family becomes anyone who does not fail you.

Jesus knew, at least to some extent, some of the pain you are going through in being misunderstood by your own kin. I pray that one day you will be surrounded with an outpouring of love, with people who celebrate all that you are. For now, know that God is that supportive presence holding you close, even when you can't feel Them.

As the psalmist in Psalm 27:10 says, "Even if my father and mother left me all alone, Holy God would take me in." To me, that whole Psalm can be read as a message of encouragement to those currently in the closet — the psalmist experiences God giving them shelter in God's own dwelling place, tucking them away "in a secret place in God's own tent."

One day, you'll be free; for now, I hope you take comfort in knowing God is with you in the closet.

Sending you love and solidarity, anon. May you find moments of joy in the midst of this pain; may God lavish you in love and courage until you're able to leave. <3

#forgiveness #trauma #family tag #in the closet