#Ironhusbands headcanon

[ironhusband]

Thinking about the fact that Tony shows his love to Rhodey by physical touch and a good time, because he knows the military doesn’t grant him the intimacy of touch, or the fun of them hanging out, and meanwhile Rhodey shows his love to Tony by words of affirmation, because he knows Tony doesn’t hear it a lot.  

#it's about the love language #if you want ill write a little meta over it #also i have much to add over pepper and how she shows love to tony and vice versa #ironhusbands #rhodeytony #james rhodes #tony stark #iron man #war machine #iron husbands #rhodeytony headcanon #ironhusbands headcanon #iron patriot #iron bros

[superhusbands4ever]

Ironhusbands?

wOW okay these got really long and specific lmao (I love me some ironhusbands they are so underappreciated)

Who said “I love you” first

Tony, as he falls asleep the day of his parents funeral when he was drunk. Rhodey didn’t think anything of it because it’s Tony and he always gets super affectionate when he’s drunk and he’s emotional and it probably didn’t mean what he thought it did. Tony never mentioned that night afterwards, so Rhodey thought he didn’t remember. Over the years Tony will say it to him casually, in a seemingly friendly manner and Rhodey will respond in kind. Every time Rhodey sees another tabloid talk about Tony’s recent conquests and  drunken spectacle he’ll think of that night. And the first time Rhodey really tells Tony he loves him is when he’s holding Tony after he woke up from a nightmare of Afganistan, and he keeps saying it and kissing him until Tony stops shaking in his arms.

Who would have the other’s picture as their phone background

Both of them would, but they would be really dumb, ugly picutres of each other that would make anyone else go “????” but when they see them they are like “yes this is the love of my life look at how perfect-”

Who leaves notes written in fog on the bathroom mirror

They both do. Though, Rhodey’s tend to be more of the cute, romantic kind. He’ll leave little hearts, smily faces, I love you, etc.

Tony will write in the fog but usually what he writes are notes or equations about a project he’d been stuck on for awhile that he had inspiration for while in the shower. Rhodey will shake his head fondly whenever he sees these (and he makes sure JARVIS takes a picture for Tony to look at later)

((on one notible occasion, Tony had drawn a crude, full bodied war machine armor doing finger guns and written “WARMACHINEROX” at the bottom with a winky face. Rhodey will get revenge for this one of these days))

Who buys the other cheesy gifts

Whenever Rhodey comes back from deployment he brings Tony all kinds of stupid, touristy souviners. Tony’s favorite is the flamingo pen wearing sunglasses with a pink afro that says “Bon Voyage!” on the base of it. He has no idea where Rhodey even got that monstrocety, but it sits proudly on his desk next to the picture of Jarvis and Ana. (fun fact this is an actual pen my sister bought me when she studied abroad in France in 2011)

Who initiated the first kiss

The first time Tony ever kissed Rhodey was back in MIT. Rhodey gently pushed him back and explained to him that Tony is like a brother to him and he just doesn’t swing that way. From that day on, Rhodey tries to ignore that burning pit in his stomach whenever he sees Tony with someone else. The way his hands get clammy whenever Tony walks into a room. The way his hands twitch to run through that messy, curly hair whenever Tony comes into the room all ruffled and fluffed from sleep.

Fast forward 20 years and Rhodey is grabbing Tony in the middle of an Afghan desert and kissing him without caring that the entire search squad can see them. He was done pretending he didn’t know what the pit in his stomach meant, what that warm feeling in his chest when Tony laughed was, what that flutter in his heart meant whenever Tony would smile at him. He had spent too long denying this, he had almost lost Tony, he was not going to hide how he felt any longer, consequences be damned.

Who kisses the other awake in the morning

on the rare occasions that they are both still in bed when one of them wakes up, whoever woke first will kiss the other awake. Tony will kiss along the back of Rhodey’s neck and nibble on his ear until Rhodey wakes with a moan. Rhodey will press kisses all over Tony’s face until Tony wakes with a smile, pushing Rhodey’s morning breath face away from him with a laugh.

Who starts tickle fights

Tony is extremely ticklish, especially around his tummy, and he knows this and can not stand it. Rhodey takes full advantage whenever he has the chance.

(rhodey won’t admit it ever but he had extremely ticklish feet so tony always gets his revenge)

Who asks who if they can join the other in the shower

The first few weeks and months of their relationship are strained and tense because they got together right after Tony got back from Afghanistan. One of the things Rhodey notices in those first couple weeks is that Tony is hardly bathing, only staying in a shower long enough to do the bare minimum to keep himself clean. When Rhodey brings this up to Tony he quickly (and understandably, if Rhodey’s hunch is correct) clams up about it. Rhodey doesn’t dig or push about it, but the next time Tony decides he’s put off getting clean long enough, Rhodey asks to join him.

Tony is hesitant at first but agrees (rhodey’s already seen the reactor, the scars, it’d be fine). They step in and Rhodey quickly moves Tony out of the way so that Rhodey’s back is facing the spray of water, protecting Tony from it at least from the waist up. Tony looks at Rhodey with this grateful, awed sort of look, his eyes suspiciously bright.

Rhodey leaned forward and kissed Tony’s forehead before leaning down to grab the shampoo to get to washing. He keeps his eyes on Tony’s while he lathers up the gel, and he uses his hand to block the water from getting onto Tony’s face, whispering words of affirmation and encouragement until its over and Tony is burying his face in Rhodey’s neck as he shakes in silent terror. They stay like that for a good while in the hot water. (”you did so good Tones, it’s okay, you’re safe, you’re not there anymore, I won’t let anyone else hurt you” Rhodey whispers as he buries his face in Tony’s hair)

Who surprises the other in the middle of the day at work with lunch

Sometimes Tony will fly the suit out to whatever base Rhodey is stationed at just to see him or have dinner with him. A couple of the brass will glare at them sometimes but they don’t do anything to stop Tony or say anything to Rhdoey because, well, Iron Man and War Machine. Besides, Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell had been repealed so if they did have anything to say about it they could all take their homophobic asses and shove it.

Who was nervous and shy on the first date

Rhodey is super nervous when he and Tony go on their first date. Which make absolutely no sense, Rhodey knows, because its Tony. Its not like they haven’t done anything like this before, its not like they haven’t been best friends for over twenty years. But even now, years down the road Rhodey gets butterflies in his stomach whenever Tony looks at him like that.

Turns out he had nothing to worry about because 20 minutes into the date Tony gets so nervous he knocks over his wine glass right on top of the candle and the table sets fire. Rhodey spends the rest of the night laughing his ass off as Tony congratulates DUM-E on finally using the fire extinguisher correctly for once.

Who kills/takes out the spiders

James Rupert Rhodes absolutely despises spiders. Whenever he sees one he’ll run from the room and refuse to enter again until Tony goes in and kills the damn thing.

Tony thinks this is fucking hilarious and one time he chased Rhodey down with the dead spider on his shoe. Rhodey didn’t talk to him for the rest of the day.

(tony also has JARVIS scan the room to make sure no more spiders are around before telling Rhodey the coast is clear, but he doesn’t tell Rhodey that)

Who loudly proclaims their love when they’re drunk

Tony. Tony always gets a bit more loose, a bit more honest, and a bit more affectionate when he’s drunk. Unfortunately, he also gets a bit more… morose when he’s drunk, often following proclamations of love by declaring that he doesn’t understand why anyone like Rhodey (a literal angel sent down from heaven) would want anything to do someone like Tony. Once it gets to that point Rhodey will take away the booze, take Tony into his arms and hold him close, showering Tony with kisses and cuddles. (tony is essentially a lovable octopus at this point so he just latches right on)

(rhodey also tends to loudly proclaim his love whenever he gets really drunk, but in a weird, roundabout way where he goes on long spiels about how great Tony is, and how smart he is, how brown his eyes are, how he’s obviously destined for greatness and how he just thinks Tony is the greatest thing since sliced bread)((tony just sits back, rubs his hand along Rhodey’s neck and back, and listens with an indulgent smile while trying to will down the blush that always climbs his neck and onto his face))

#cady writes #ironhusbands #tonyrhodey #headcanon #ironhusbands headcanon #genderfluid-pigeon

[shipskicksandgiggles]

Ironhusband headcanons or ironspouses (Pepper/Tony/Rhodey) headcanons.

!!!! I'm giving you both bcuz yes

Rhodey saw this tiny ass little idiot at MIT and just. didn't want to deal with him. have you seen Tony? he's a dumbass with the highest iq in the room, Rhodey wasn't about to handle it

unfortunately Tony saw Rhodey and latched onto him fucking immediately, so he had to

tony didn't have other friends, but Rhodey's friends were cool with him, and he eventually just got used to bailing his little idiot out of less than ideal situations

that's kind of how they got together in the first place. Rhodey was pissed about whatever Tony did, and Tony just kind of kissed him to make it better

it did not make it better

(they kept kissing anyways)

when Pepper started working for SI, Rhodey praised his lucky stars and got her phone number immediately. they became best friends so fast, Tony got whiplash

the two of them have one night a month where they get together and drink and complain about Tony's antics

it wasn't until they both bailed tony out one night that anything happened. he proposed it to Rhodey one night in bed bcuz they both make him feel safe and cared for, and hell, they're already friends, what's the harm in trying

turned out those nights Pepper and Rhodey spent together (although Tony joins them more now) were a lot better when it wasn't so innocent fun

#ironhusbands #ironspouses #pepperrhodeytony #headcanons #dylan laken tag #please I love them #ellis writes

[thompsborn]

do you have any spare ironhusbands or sambucky headcanons?

ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY

oh my god okay i’ve been so fucking wrapped up in both ironhusbands and sambucky and absolutely nothing else for WEEKS because of tfatws (obviously if you have seen my endless spam of reblogs but can you BLAME ME) and the portal closed has ironhusbands so i’ve been just. oh my god i am happily drowning in this and them and i do not need nor want air. ok.

also these are all hc’s based just in canon not au, and lol warning this got so long help me, though my brain is so scrambled from tfatws finale that all sambucky thoughts are scrambled and jumbled so i wasn't able to coordinate them as well as ironhusbands so the ironhusbands section is definitely longer pfighf i'm so sorry i'm like this

ironhusbands:

when they met at mit tony didnt know shit. like. like nothing. he didnt know a single god damn thing about anything. like he was a genius he could solve any equation given to him and baffled professors when he was handed like two supposedly impossible equations to this fuckin fourteen year old and he just looked at them with like a mcdonalds burger or some shit hanging out of his mouth and just answered them no problem, but he was still such a hopeless idiot, and rhodey, also a genius attending as a sixteen year old, had to teach him the basics of life, like. making toast. tony how do NOT know how to make toast. its TOAST. you put it in the TOASTER. have you NEVER SEEN A—OH MY GOD HOW DID YOU FUCKING CATCH IT ON FIRE—

he does not perfect the clearly impossible task of making toast until he is 17 and rhodey buys him a cake to celebrate the momentous occasion even though tony went though 528 toasters

you are gold by the national parks. thats it. thats all i have to say. listen to the song and look up the lyrics. you’ll get it.

and also paper planes by jon bellion but specifically for after rhodey tells tony he’s gonna join the air force and tony is worried but doesnt know how to show it and they have like a chill night in and all tony can think about is how stupid he is and how he’s such a coward because he cant get himself to tell rhodey that hi!! i love u!! and im scared to lose u and that you’ll get hurt and maybe die or smth!!

when rhodey finds out about how tony was raised (going with mcu, where tony wasnt physically abused but more emotionally neglected and ignored by howard and always talked down to and compared to others and wasnt treated like he was worthy and never was told he was loved and everything like that) he gets PISSED. like he is MONUMENTALLY angry. and it takes YEARS for him to find out about this too. and it actually puts a bit of a strain on their friendship for awhile when they meet too

like rhodey knows about the starks obviously and he assumes tony is going to be this obnoxious arrogant rich boy asshole and is so not looking forward to being roommates but he was raised to have an open mind and give everyone a chance, but tony was raised to be wary of everyone and keep his walls up and his emotions in shackles because whatever he shows can be used against him, so they clash, you know? they dont fight or anything but theres tension bc it isnt right and they dont get each other.

rhodey tries to be nice and tony doesnt understand nice because his only example of nice is jarvis and his mom and even then his mom and jarvis are always off with his dad so he barely sees them so its still rare for him to experience the nice of them so he doesnt know how to be around someone nice all the time, and so he gets defensive and thinks about how howard drilled it into him to be wary and he thinks maybe rhodey isnt ACTUALLY nice but someone PRETENDING to be

and rhodey starts to feel justified in assuming the worst about tony stark because tony is all cold and distant and rude and is about to stop the keeping an open mind thing about a month into their first year but then he comes back to their dorm early from class one day and tony doesnt come in so rhodey is just standing there and watches for a minute as tony sits there staring down at his twenty sixth attempt at a letter he wants to send his mom becauss he knows his mom likes letters even though he could just call but they havent really called him (howards fault but he’s fourteen still and its hard to rationalize that howards busy life and controlling thumb extends past his son) and rhodey is just confused because tony just suddenly sighs and sniffles a bit and murmurs “this is so stupid” and crumbles up the paper and throws it in the garbage and rhodey cant help but peer into it and barely sees the words hey mom scribbled at the top and that. that. hm. okay.

so rhodey keeps trying because he wasnt supposed to see that but he did and now he kind of has a feeling that maybe tony isnt all that cold and distant and rude as he seems, maybe he just doesnt really know how to be any different, so he thinks about all the subtle little ways that his family has shown him they care about him and starts to invite tony to go get food or to study together even though neither of them really need to study or to help each other with assignments or just anything thats mundane enough to not raise suspicion but still starts to open the door and make tony relax around him just that little bit and then before tony realizes it the end of their first year is there and theyre like friends or something and it hits him that he’s gonna miss rhodey.

for the first time ever there’s someone other than his mom and jarvis that he’s actually going to miss.

rhodey grins at him and says that they’ll be roommates again next year because they have to be and that the summer will be over before they know it and the sentiment is nice but tony spends the summer alone wandering around a house too big and empty after being in a dorm that’s small and has a friend.

but rhodey doesn’t know this. like he knows that tony isn’t the kind of guy he originally assumed but he doesn’t know that he’s literally ignored and neglected and like emotionally and sometimes verbally abused so he’s kind of surprised when the next year begins and they DO end up being roommates again (because tony kind of asked his mom, on a rare day when he got to see her and howard wasnt around, to get mit to make sure they could be) and tony just HUGS him like its been years and they’ve known each other forever but he goes with it and hugs him back because maybe tony’s just more affectionate once he gets to know someone and rhodey is okay w that.

they get closer as the years go by and they graduate from mit together and they’re BEST friends and at the end of the year rhodey invites tony to spend new years eve w his family but tony cant bc howard is having some kind of gala starting at 5 because hes weird and dumb and tony hates it and he also isnt given the option of not going even though he doesnt want to but the entire way there howard drills into him about not fucking up and berates him for all the times he has in the past and when they get there tony is already just not feeling it so he’s like nope!! no!! i simply cannot!!

so he goes in and finds an exit thats in the back and he leaves and finds a fucking payphone of all things and he has rhodeys home number memorized for years now and he calls and someone he doesnt knoe answers and theres music in the background and voices and tony’s entire stomach is in his throat and his heart is sunken into his twisted gut because he just wanted one night where maybe he could smile next to his parents and feel like he fit with them but he couldnt have that and he asks to talk to rhodey and then he is and asks if its too late to accept his invite and rhodey is like yeah of course do u need my address bc its still only 5 pm and its a 2 hour drive between south philadelphia and manhattan so he’d make it with plenty of time before it got to midnight so yay

and tony is like. oh. hm. i dont know how to drive actually. that was a thing that no one ever thought to teach me even though i asked about it about ten million times. and rhodey is used to tony not knowing how to do things that most people their age can (see: the toast) and plus its not uncommon for people from new york to not drive anyway so he doesnt think anything of it and instead asks for tony’s address to come pick him up instead and they’d still make it back by like 9-9:30 so that would work too

and thats when tony is like. well.

about that.

he might be calling from a payphone.

on a random street corner.

and its kind of raining. and he’s cold. and he’s a bit dulled out from everything so he doesn’t really think about the fact that admitting this is going to lead to having to explain what happened and also why and that is happens often. but that doesnt matter because he kind of just wants to be with his best friend and not back at that gala with his dad right now.

rhodey is like,,, ok. ok. wheres a coffee shop nearby u can wait in. and tony thankfully is by a 24 hour one and tells him the name and the street corner its closest to and rhodey is like i’ll be there asap and tony goes and he waits.

a two hour drive turns into an hour and a half because rhodey is Worried™

but when he walks in tony goes from being all dulled out to being all HOLY SHIT because rhodey has a SPLIT LIP and he’s like WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED WHAT THE FUCK WHAT

and rhodey’s like no no its good my uncle was having fun and trying to wrestle with me and he accidentally elbowed me its all good man dont worry about it

tony isnt used to accidentally being hurt tho so he’s still like hmmm but he takes rhodeys word on it and they head out and tony wont say what happened or why he was calling from a payphone ?? which btw tony literally only was able to do bc there happened to be dropped change on the ground because boy would not have change on him ok, but rhodeys like alright lets go with this for now

so they gets to the rhodes house and it is in full swing with family and extended family and adopted family bc they are 100% the family that just adopts the neighborhood kids and the people who have no one else and like ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends even after the relationship ends bc they still are family despite not dating whoever it was they had been dating in order to be introduced to them so its a LOT of people and tony is like. this is semi familiar in terms a lot of people but this is NOTHING like what he has ever seen before holy fucking SHIT

rhodey is just like oh u have a small family then? so ur used to smaller gatherings?

and tonys like wtf are gatherings

and rhodey is starting to get a feel for what might be wrong but just takes tony inside to get him changed because he’s not spending new years eve at the rhodes house in a fucking expensive suit ok

tony is completely out of his element and like he’s not the only white guy there bc again the rhodes adopt people and those people are of every race and nationally you can imagine but he just isnt used to the vibe there are people laughing and sitting close together and playing games and theres music playing but not like classy music its music people can dance to and are dancing to and the food isnt the food he’s used to at galas and shit and nothing is what he’s used to and he just sticks to rhodey’s side like a fucking lost puppy and tries his best not to look like an idiot when rhodey introduces him to people and a lot of them know who he is but dont judge him or assume shit about him bc obviously if he’s friends w rhodey then he’s a good guy and they want to know him and thats enough

but tony is v overwhelmed bc what the FUCK IS HAPPENING this is nothing like anything he has ever experienced EVER

so eventually rhodey can tell he’s getting overwhelmed and takes him inside and lets him have a breather and then asks him about whats going in and thats when rhodey learns about what tonys life at home is really like and. anger.

SO MUCH anger

because not only has every single assumption he has ever made about tony been proven wrong, but now he knows that the best person he knows has never been treated the way he deserves and has never known a true home and comfort and love and safety and

and he’s gonna fix it

and this is the first step

so he takes tony back out and they’re still just friends but this is the day they both quietly realize they might kind of definitely like each other as more because tony is still so confused by the fact that what he knows isnt the normal and overwhelmed by how much there is and how different it is but rhodey holds his hand as a grounding point and whenever it might be too much they move off to the side where they arent completely gone but its less hectic and a bit more quiet and its just nice

tony goes to rhodeys house for every holiday despite whatever howard says

rhodey decks howard the only time they ever meet before tonys parents die and he has the most shit eating grin on his face afterwards that tony cant help but lose his shit laughing his ass off

anyway i didnt mean to ramble for so long about that specific idea so i’ll end the ironhusbands ramble with this one last thought, which is as follows:

rhodey gets hurt in the air force at some point, and it isnt that bad tbh but he does have to go the hospital and shit and gets stitches or whatever idk i dont know what specifically happens i just think it’d be just bad enough that it takes him a few weeks to be able to go back to work but he’s not like OH GOD HURT yk?

but like stated above tony was scared and worried when rhodey told him he was gonna go into the air force so he hears about this and they’re probably like almost 30 at this point because they’re dumb and it takes them forever to get their heads out of their asses (i say this even though in the portal closed it takes them even longer but i digress) rhodey has like his mon his sister his niece visiting him and they were worried but they know hes fine so theyre just talking and in a good mood and then—

door slams open. tony stark enter stage left. disheveled suit, fresh from a meeting he definitely was not supposed to leave, having flown in from maibu the second he heard and then had happy drive him and then got impatient because of traffic and ended up sprinting like ten blocks while happy was like what the FUCK

of course rhodeys family are well aware that these idiots are desperately in love with each other so they’re just like lol ok and just leave the room while tony starts fretting over him like he’s about to die himself if he doesnt know if rhodey is okay and rhodey is like tony tony dude tones stop tony im okay tony stop it

until finally tony just fucking breaks down like full on tears in his eyes voice cracking hands clasped as he leans against rhodeys bed and tells him that he was so scared and he is so scared all the time whenever rhodey is out there because all he can think about is losing him and him getting hurt or dying and it’s maddening and this is when they get their heads out of their asses and kiss for the first time

(irony at its finest bc later when they are married and tony becomes iron man rhodey refuses to not have a suit of his own because if tony is going out there in a metal flying tin can then he isn’t going alone and wow what a power couple)

sambucky:

firstly i’m going to go post tfatws, but i’ll make a bullet point before going into it so if you wanna read up until that point you can but most of this will be random little headcanons based post tfatws

also it isnt like a whole plotline thing like the ironhusbands ones ended up being these ones are more random and kinda all over the place but loosely connected

update from after writing this: i lied

let me start by saying my interpretation of why they are the way they are in civil war is because of steve

thats not saying steve is the bad guy i mean to say that they’re jealous of each other because they thought that THEY were steve’s best friend who the fuck is THIS guy i dont want him here go away

children. they are children.

which i find very funny to imagine from sams pov because he literally is a licensed therapist and would 100% recognize why he’s acting how he is but he’s petty enough to do it anyway

and also he literally was helping steve track bucky down but i like to imagine that sam didnt think they’d ever really find him again and it’d just make him and steve like super mega best friends or something because hes a CHILD

and then from bucky’s pov steve goes through all this trouble to find him and protect him and then this random guy is acting like steve’s best friend and gets to sit in the front seat ??? bullshit. absolutely bullshit. worst thing ever. so stupid.

its so funny to me okay its SO funny

its like that schoolyard thing where your friend makes another friend and you hate it so much that you do something stupid like color on their drawing or put gum in their hair or whatever but they’re adults with 1. super soldier serum or 2. a superhero reputation/avengers status and suit with wings. so thats a thing.

post civil war i dont think they get much yk. because bucky is out in cryo and team cap is on the run and i doubt theyre able to return to wakanda much, if at all, and then it’s infinity war and then it’s endgame and after endgame there’s the aftermath and the aftermath is a mess

i like to think they have some moments before tfatws though. not many but enough for that slight foundation thats we can kind of see in episode 2 yk.

okay NOW it gets into post tfatws so!!

SO post tfatws everything is different because now they not only have spent all this time together, but they understand each other in a way that they didn’t before. in a way no one ever has. not even steve, who may have known them before, but he isn’t here anymore and he wouldn’t understand who they are now vs who they were before and it’s different.

bucky finds comfort in sam’s home town. sam finds comfort in watching bucky find a home there and he doesnt know why.

also sam treats redwing like a puppy and lets him fly around on his own and gets pet and stuff and bucky acts annoyed but the longer it happens you can tell he’s like “oh my god why is this thing endearing”

bucky has nightmares and sam knows this but bucky doesnt know that sam also has nightmares until one night when they’re still in sams home town and they’re staying on the boat because sams nephews are having a sleepover with some friends and they didnt want to get in the way or smth idk i just want an excuse for them to be on the boat and somewhat secluded from people but bucky already woke up from his nightmare and is out on the deck to get some fresh out and then oop

sam havin a nightmare too

because fucking of COURSE sam has nightmares he has been through some shit too!! not being able to catch riley and everything that happened since meeting steve and thanos and he turned to dust alone in the bushes ok like yes everyone that died were traumatized undoubtedly (peter my baby boy baby im so sorry that you got the worst of it) but bucky was around people but sam was laying on the ground and probably just watched his hands as he disappeared and he was alone and like. jesus christ ok.

and then steve trusted him with every weight and everything that comes with the shield not knowing how much more the shield has when he gave it to a black man and just like he has nightmares everyone in marvel does its a fact

but bucky finds out like this and he is shocked even though he realizes he probably should have been able to guess that this is a thing and he knows so much more about sam now than he ever did but this is how he learns more. he learns about riley. he learns so much.

sometimes bucky has those like “oh shit” moments where he’s like “maybe i was kind of a dick to someone who didnt deserve it” and he already had one of those with sam about the shield but he has another one because he assumed shit about sam when they were being all childish and jealous about someone else being friends with steve but like fuck

steve and sam probably got it

the not catching someone. the way it felt to try and to reach out and to miss and to have to choice but to watch as they fell.

what’s different is that steve got bucky back. he got to have that relief, eventually, even if there was the pain of knowing bucky had been taken by hydra, but at least he knew bucky had made it.

sam didn’t have that. riley didnt make it.

therefore, bucky has his “oh shit”

and bucky was already going soft around the edges with sam (as clearly seen in the last two episodes of tfatws, ESPECIALLY the finale because like did tou SEEZ ALL THE HEART EYES oh my GOD) but it’s this that really makes something in him melt and he just. he loses the last remnants of whatever tension or resentment or whatever negative feeling he may have been clutching onto.

there wasnt much left. but now theres none. now its all washed away.

its gone, and he gets it.

sam is a licensed therapist and he knew the reason he was being all dumb and childish and jealous with bucky was because steve had another best friend but also because steve’s other best friend was the guy that had been a big factor in how him and steve understood each other and how they bonded and it

it had kind of felt like they lost part of that when they found bucky again in civil war and he kind of wanted to blame bucky for it even though he didnt actually blame him at all so all it translated to was that dumb kind of jealous thing instead

but now it’s just them. its sam and bucky and it isnt steve and it isnt about steve and it shouldnt be because its about them. its about the boat and the water and the way they sit and watch the waves while the silence settles over them and the way that bucky says, “im sorry.”

its the way sam says, “me too.”

and bucky says, “you dont have to be.”

its the way they stay there until sarah comes to get them for breakfast and sams nephews convince them to play with them and their friends and the world is still shit and there is so much to do but

but its this and its them and that can wait

it can wait

they can take their time if they want to

maybe they’ve earned that much, at least

(it isn't a fast development because they're a complicated pair and there's so much to the two of them that need to figured out individually before they can even realize how well they work together, but the steps are so much easier knowing that they have the other in their corner and bucky knows that sam's home town is a place he's welcome to go and sam helps him make his own dreary little apartment into something that feels real and tangible with a bed and a couch and when they've become something that resembles stable and they've found a balance and they're okay, that's when they realize that maybe they can try for the more that sometimes bubbles under their skin and that they started to think about the more they spend time together. the warmth that sam feels every time he sees bucky playing games with his nephew and the smile that bucky has to fight to hide and still can't fully suppress when sam stands tall and proud with the shield in its rightful place, and it takes time, it takes work, it takes carefully placed bricks to build the foundation they need, but they get there, and when they do...

when they do, they're already happy, and it just makes them happier, and that's what makes it so much better.

that's what makes it worth the wait.)

#ironhusbands #sambucky #headcanons #asks

[mcu-but-its-vines]

Rhodey: Who is that kid? Is he cool?

Tony: Who, Peter? Yeah, he’s cool.

Rhodey: Hey kid! Who’s your favorite superhero?

Peter: uhhhh... Matilda?

Rhodey:

Rhodey: okay, he’s pretty cool.

#marvel #marvel cinematic universe #mcu #avengers #marvel headcanons #rhodey #james rhodes #war machine #iron patriot #tony stark #iron man #peter parker #spiderman #superfamily #iron dad #ironhusbands

[writtenonbone]

“What are they fighting about,” Natasha asked as she gestured to Tony, Thor, Bucky, Sam and Steve. It seemed very passionate but they were all yelling so it was difficult to make heads or tails about it. This wasnt what she expected to come home after two weeks. Tony’s neck vein™️ was making an appearence and that usually meant something awful.

Rhodey grinned, a downright wicked one that rarely came out. One that Natasha had seen once (1) and it ended with Tony literally inventing a literal lightsaber. “I convinced Sam to convince Thor to say Chicago Deep Dish Pizza is better than New York pizza,” Rhodey took a bite of his chow mein, “they’ve been at it for a good thirty minutes.”

Natasha returned his grin and plopped down next to him to enjoy the show, “hand me those potstickers.”

#ironhusbands #tonyrhodey #kinda? #i have this whole like headcanon that rhodey liked to rib the new york boys about chicago deep dish pizza #ESPECIALLY TO TONY #also avengers tower au where they all actually like each other #tony stark

[presidentrhodes]

tony stark's 10-step guide to charming your college crush

step 1: take a graduate level rocket science class that he is in even though it is irrelevant to your physics degree and the problem sets eat into your free time

step 2: arrive late for the first lecture of said class so that you can strategically slide into the empty seat next to him at the back of the hall.

step 3: when called upon to answer questions, intentionally fumble and pretend you know nothing about astrodynamics (note: your academic credibility may take a hit but, remember, you're playing the long game).

step 4: inquire and find out where he lives and try to bribe the campus housing office for a mid-semester transfer to the same accommodation. if step 4 fails, move onto step 6.

step 5: once you're moved into the same accommodation, hang out in the common areas during your free time to maximise your chances of casually running into him when he's cooking or doing laundry.

step 6: figure out his friends circle and become chummy with the person seemingly closest to him. this person is both your window of opportunity to get to know your crush better and also your potential competition down the line.

step 7: strategically position yourself next to him during group assignments to maximise your chances of being put to work on the same team.

step 8: discover his interests and build something cool around it that's bound to impress him. for example, if you discover he is into robotics, build a basic artificially intelligent claw in your dorm and call it dum-e. then casually invite him over one day to examine it. if he's isn't impressed, move to step 10.

step 9: if he's impressed, offer to let him work with you on creating a new iteration. the more input he's allowed to have, the higher your chances of spending memorable time together in the privacy of your apartment. (warning: before enacting steps 8 and 9, be sure to have adequate living arrangements with minimal disruption)

step 10: if steps 1 to 9 do not yield satisfactory result, send him an encrypted handwritten letter asking to meet in the Quad at midnight. once he shows up, give him a bouquet of his favourite flowers and a box of treats from that one chocolatier he loves. read his body language and when the time is right (you'll know when), confess your feelings and pray skywards for the best.

james rhodes' two-step guide to asking your local genius buddy out

step 1: ignore tony's 10-step guide. it's ridiculous.

step 2: ask them out after class and take them to your favourite café for an impromptu date and take it from there.

#tony stark #james rhodes #ironhusbands #tonyrhodey #rhodeytony #iron family #headcanons #my posts

[marvel-lous-things]

Rhodey: am I gonna regret asking why you're walking around in Pepper's six inch heels

Tony, too proud to admit he just likes feeling tall: ...it's a kink thing

#marvel #mcu #tony stark #iron man #incorrect marvel quotes #marvel headcanons #marvel memes #james rhodes #war machine #ironhusbands

[tonystarktogo]

exCUSE Me, I need to know about the other 13 times, because that last headcanon made me really really happy-

14 times James Rhodes [henceforth referred to as “Rhodey”] made Tony Stark cry 

[in no particular order because JARVIS wasn’t around for most of the events and neither of those two morons is in any way a reliable source when it comes to the logical continuity of their relationship’s development]

1. That time they got into a fight so bad, Rhodey called Tony “Stark” for sixteen days 

2. That time Rhodey got into a fight with Howard Stark over the phone

3. That time Tony let Rhodey cook unsupervised and he added “only a little” chili

4. That time Rhodey remembered DUM-E’s birthday and insisted they celebrate it

5. That time Rhodey refused to accept his Christmas present because an all-expenses paid cruise across the Atlantic was “too much”

6. That time Rhodey got into a fight with Howard Stark in person

7. That time Rhodey insisted they watch Les Misérables

8. That time Rhodey tried to impress his date and got banned from Costco for life instead

9. That time Rhodey said the three forbidden magical words: “You’re family too.”

10. That time Rhodey mixed up OC tear gas in their chemistry classroom – if anyone asks, it was a complete accident

11. That time Rhodey insisted Tony needs to spend more time outdoors and they both found out Tony’s allergic to pollen 

12. That time Rhodey refused to let Tony down any more shots after the sixth glass of tequila.

13. That time Rhodey got a look at Tony’s ideas, scribbles and sketches for the first time and said “I knew you were smart but this– Tones, this is brilliant. You’re brilliant.”

14. That time Rhodey found out that Tony is ticklish and hadn’t yet been on the receiving end of a personalized Why You Do Not Tickle Tony Stark To Death lesson.

#ReRe answers #IronBros #IronHusbands #platonic or romantic #Tony Stark #James Rhodes #Rhodey is a good friend #Rhodey is a good bro #friendship #MIT era #for the most part #fluff #hurt/comfort #angst #it's a wild ride #mostly fluff though #humor #can't forget about that #headcanon #ReRe writes #call-of-memories

[salty-ironstrange-shipper]

Tony wore a wedding dress to his bachelor party and no one will ever convince me anyway

#this works for any tony ship #ironstrange #pepperony #ironhusbands #science bros #ok those are all the good ones #incorrect-ironstrange #ironstrange wedding #ironstrange headcanons #headcanons

[avengersandco]

Tony Stark is the type of parent who tells his kids ‘I love you’ after every single conversation he has with his child, and says it casually multiple times a day in general, because he never heard it from his father and he never wants his kids to doubt his love for them

#tony stark #iron dad #tony stark headcanon #tony stark is a good dad #superfamily #mcu #marvel #stony #pepperony #ironhusbands #winteriron #all the tony ships! #I will fight you on this #top post

[ironhusband]

Tony’s absolute shit at cooking but after Rhodey came back for his first leave, he’d had his five minutes of glory. He thought it would be nice if Rhodey had a warm meal waiting for him when he got home so he cooked dinner for him. He knows Rhodey would probably hate it because he has impossibly high standards after mama’s cookings, but he knew Rhodey would appreciate the gesture so he did it anyway. So Rhodey comes home and eats the food like a man starving and both of them are genuinely surprised because. Rhodey liked it? Tony starts cooking for him more, and Rhodey is convinced Tony has taken cooking lessons, but no, his food is just suddenly good. About three months later, Rhodey finally goes home to Philly and he texts Tony “what have you been feeding me?” Turns out, Tony isn’t that good, but military food is that bad. 

#tony stark #ironhusbands #james rhodes #rhodeytony #rhfe #tonyrhodey #ironhusbands headcanon #rhodeytony headcanon #iron husbands #iron man #war machine #iron patriot #james rhodey rhodes #Rhodey

[shipskicksandgiggles]

heard u needed a distraction, can u tell me about your mit tony&rhodey headcanons? please? ▼・ᴥ・▼

YES I CAN babe you don’t know how long I’ve been wanting to go off about these little nerds are you ready???

so first of all, Tony is not the trouble maker people think he is. we’re talking about a kid who was taught manners at an extreme level, and was always told to be quiet so he has like,,,, no friends for a while. he barely even leaves his dorm room unless it’s to go to class or get food, and he doesn’t have a roommate his first year

rhodey however is a little shit from the start. he’s not much older than Tony, but he was raised in Philly. you know. where the motto is quiet literally “Fuck Around and Find Out”

this little shit argues with people constantly. he’s like 16 years old and his classmates don’t think he’s capable of anything

obviously he’s smarter than all of them, but that’s a given

they have one class together their first year. it’s quantum physics. Tony noticed a mistake in some upperclassman’s work and corrected him without thinking

the guy gets pissed, and started freaking out, calling him names, threatening to beat the shit out of him, etc. and Tony has a panic attack

Rhodey notices and punches the guy in the nose before hauling ass back to his dorm room with Tony in tow because this kid is going to get himself killed, and goddamn it he wasn’t going to let that happen

they don’t talk much at first

well, Tony doesn’t talk much at first. Rhodey never shuts up, so he talks to him about everything from growing up a genius kid in Pennsylvania to how his mama talked him through sneaking food out of the dining center

Tony loves it

he warms up to him pretty fast, and soon he never shuts up either. he talks about the Jarvis’, his aunt Peggy, the projects he’s working on, the book he read last week. having someone who listens to you is one hell of a thing

Rhodey teaches Tony how to stick up for himself in class

Tony makes sure Rhodey doesn’t give anyone else a concussion

they get into shenanigans more after they move in together. they store spray paint above the hall closet and the components to make smoke bombs in a false cabinet in the bathroom

campus security hates them

they manage to find love hidden in languages and codes only they can understand. they bounce off each other in ways that would make you think they’d known each other forever

Rhodey proposes in front of the classroom where he punched that one guy in the face. Tony yells at him because he was going to do that in front of the wall they’d vandalized the night they’d kissed for the first time

in the future, they encourage their kids to go to MIT, just because of course they’re going to be geniuses, but also because they kind of wanted them to recreate their parents chaos 30 years later 

#asks #answers #ironhusbands #mit era rhodeytony #anon #headcanons

[the-almighty-pen]

Tony might not be alive to gloat about him saving the world, but Rhodey sure as hell will.

“Oh, I’m sorry. Did you’re best friend Save The Whole Universe? Invent Time Travel? Defeat Thanos? I didn’t think so.”

#james rhodes #rhodey and tony #tony stark defense squad #tony stark #ironman #war machine #ironhusbands #ironhusbands forever #infinity war #marvel #mcu #marvelmcu #avengers #avengers: endgame #headcanon #tonystark

[stankrhodes]

RhodeyTony Headcanon

I would love to see Tony singing Can’t Help Falling in Love to Rhodey on their anniversary. Imagine how soft and serene the moment is. Rhodey doesn’t have eyes for anyone else but Tony. There're tears in his eyes and okay he has this big, goofy smile on his face, but he’s in love, and he and Tony have been in love for years so it’s okay. 

#rhodeytony #rhodeytony headcanon #hc #fic hc #rhodey #tony #james rhodes #tony stark #ironhusbands #singer! tony

[proof-of-a-stark-heart]

#justironhusbandsthings

The first thing Rhodey does when coming home has always been turning the lights down low. It all started when they were rooming at MIT, and Tony would stay up “studying” (read, tinkering) while Rhodey had late aerodynamics courses. Tony would inevitably fall asleep on the couch, tucked under the patchwork quilt Mama Rhodes had made. Rhodey would shake his head, turn off the overhead lights, and carry Tony to bed.

nowadays, JARVIS can do it (and will, on days when Rhodey isn’t coming home) but he has learnt that this, this is something the dear Colonel wants to, needs to, do.

and so, when Rhodey comes home late and finds his husband sleeping on the couch, tucked under a threadbare patchwork quilt? Rhodey will shake his head fondly and turn the lights down low, before carrying his husband to bed.

when asked about it, later, when the dust has time to settle, Rhodey won’t say that it was desperation and a refusal to believe he’d been left behind that led to him continuing to look for Tony in that G-d forsaked desert; he’ll answer the heavy question flippantly, say I don’t think he’d die without us ever finding out which one is actually the best Go Fish player. 

There is actually some truth to that sentiment. They’re very competitive.

The real, actual truth about Go Fish? Rhodey’s better at that and at Bridge, any other card game Tony’ll handily smoke him at (board games, however, Rhodey’s the undisputed king)

Unless it’s Ludo. Tony loves Ludo. 

speaking of MIT, when Rhodey hears he’s got a new roommate? he curses quietly, once, before resignedly accepting his fate. when he meets the new roommate - big, soulful brown eyes, tousled black hair, looking like a kitten could bowl him over? Rhodey curses again and then decided there’s nothing for it - he’s gotta protect the kid.

it doesn’t actually happen that quick, it just sounds so romantic when he says it like that. what actually happens is that Tony, two years younger than the next youngest on campus, nervously keeps to himself, more or less pretending he doesn’t exist, until three months into their cohabitation when Rhodey gets the worst food poisoning of his life and spends three days puking.

during those three days he had two assignments to turn in, both worth a big percentage of his grade.

he got an a on both assignments, one of the professors going so far as to congratulate him in his nigh-on groundbreaking ideas.

Rhodey’s pretty sure he’s never had a groundbreaking idea about aerodynamics before, and when musing on this out loud he can’t help but notice his new roommate hunching even deeper over his textbook.

Rhodey decides he can probably like the kid, no big.

the thing is, Tony’s rich - like, ridiculously rich? While Rhodey didn’t grow up poor, they weren’t well off by any means. Christmas, their first year rooming together, that’s when Rhodey properly realizes there are different kinds of wealth.

Mama Rhodes had insisted on gifting Tony something for Christmas, despite Rhodey’s insistence to the contrary. Mama Rhodes, being a mother hen of rank, decided Tony needed a quilt.

Rhodey manfully pretended not to notice Tony’s tears when he opened the gift, but did take careful note of the way Tony swept the quilt around himself, more or less nesting in it.

the quilt didn’t cost much more than time to make, the fabrics coming from worn-out clothing and the like - monetarily, it had no value.

just the same, Rhodey did notice when Tony received a car from his father, and Tony did nothing but grimace in disgust.

#ironhusbands #tonyrhodey #tony stark #james rhodes #rhodey #iron man #marvel #war machine #jay writes things #original #headcanon #fanfiction