#Kink critical

[uykununotuzbirtonu]

#dan tai #arospec #store #waifumaterial #secret #balkan #kink critical #advertisement #jacked

[theangryman]

One person was banned almost immediately.

The other person was not banned until they made another post revealing that they were posting videos of their partner.

One person was harassed and bullied and told that they were lying.

One person was given advice, told about how they could improve their situation.

This is why kink is not safe. There is more compassion and kindness for someone who admits to wanting to kick their partner in the face than there is for someone who has received that treatment.

#reddit #antikink #kink critical #kink shaming #cw assault #kink discourse #kink discussion #cw vent #male violence #feminism #sex based oppression #sexism

[femingrab]

#kink critical #radfem safe #terf safe

[safije]

i used to love your page but had to unfollow after seeing your “anti-porn” post :( do you believe that kink cannot be practiced consensually and safely? what do you think of the many, many women in the kink community who have used the practice to heal from trauma? what about the studied biopsychosocial benefits of it?

There are no benefits in kinks that involve humiliation, abuse, misogyny or racism and you know those were the ones I was specifically talking about.

Kink has been used as an excuse in court to strangle women to death.

If you want to self-harm heal by inviting men into your life that get aroused by hurting you then I can't stop you. I'm only letting you know the risks.

#Answered #Kink shaming #Kink critical #male violence

[punkeropercyjackson]

Every single person i've seen saying underaged x way older and incest dynamics are inherently lgbt culture has been white...........Yeah okay okay,i think i get it now

#i'd make a sweet home alabama joke but those are gross as fuck #antiproship #familial abuse cw #pedophillia cw #grooming cw #kink critical #john winchester #dean winchester #sam winchester #bruce wayne #dick grayson #jason todd #tim drake #cassandra cain #duke thomas #damian wayne #stephanie brown #roy harper #anti slade wilson #kim possible #shego #rwby ruby rose #cinder fall #💌 #summerposting #nico di angelo #percy jackson #jason grace #luke castellan and ares and hades and hermes and apollo #pjo

[drbased]

there's so much irony surrounding all the fetish imagery of female dominance it makes my head spin trying to deal with it all. the fact that the whole thing is centered around women looking and acting dangerous whilst actually being forced to perform sexually for men is so ironic and rage-inducing it makes me sick. it's a deliberate parody. it exists to tell women this is what we think of you. it's when you see someone angry and you repeat what they've said in a mocking tone of voice. female dominance fetish imagery is designed to disarm, to confuse, to tell women 'this is definitely what sexual dominance looks like, this is totally how you get back at men, peg the patriarchy teehee'

so women get dressed up in their corsets and stockings and wear a big fake penis. like how girl-children are expected to dress-up and play adult in preparation for being sexually available, whole-ass female adults are expected to dress-up and play male-adult - not in preparation for ever being the male-adult, but in a 'this is the closest you get to being a full, dominant human being'. it's always play, fetishism is play, because women are always infantalised, we're always playing at dominance, playing at being full human beings, because in the male mind dominance = full expression of humanity (it's a dog-eat-dog world, competition is the most important thing, we are most human when we are in fierce competition and not cooperation). back in reality-land women are expected to take off the fake penis and go back to being submissive and catering to men's needs. penetration = dominance and without the ability to penetrate we're nothing. and if we want to earn even a smidgen of the veneer of dominance we have to put on the costume, the hyper-feminine and hyper-submissive (feminine and submissive are synonymous) costume of the dominatrix, just to say yes sir no sir three bags full sir, I agree I'll never truly be dominant, but since you totally understand what dominance is with your big superior man-brain, I'll try on the costume and see what it's like. and just to rub it in, just to make sure women don't really like dominance, men will never truly be submissive.

when women dominate we have to peg without feeling sensation in our genitalia, we're made to be physically uncomfortable, we give men prostate orgasms, we have to flog him, to sound him, to masturbate him, to take on the mental load by telling him how to serve us instead of him just doing it anyway. and the man looks so ugly, his natural erection is locked away in an ugly metal cage, he crawls on the floor, he makes no attempt to be feminine outside of crude imitations of infantalised girlhood. so we think, oh god, is this what domination is?? this is horrible. what a horrible burden the man takes on when he dominates, is that what I look like? do I look so crude and pathetic, is my submission so burdensome? god men take on such a burden taking charge like this. poor men :( and then we go back to the kitchen. we stay feminine as penance.

#my writing #kink critical #theory posting

[strezzedanddeprezzed]

  Choice feminism will never yield any real results because it treats the patriarchy-the system that traditional feminism aimed to destroy- as almost nonexistent. Yeah okay, ‘patriarchy’ is thrown around as a buzzword, but it’s never seen as a legitimate means of controlling women by choice feminists. Here’s why.

    Choice feminism assumes that every choice a woman makes is made in a vacuum. A woman’s choice to wear makeup is her choice made without the influence of beauty standards pushed by a trillion-dollar beauty industry made by men. A woman’s choice to do sex work is her choice uninfluenced by hyper-sexualization and misogyny created by the porn industry once again created by men. A woman’s choice to participate in kink culture is her choice uninfluenced by the porn culture and influence men created to keep women submissive. 

          Critical thinking is thrown away just so choice feminists can say ‘look at me! I’m empowered doing things men have always expected me to do and benefit from’. Proving some half-thought-out point about women’s autonomy is more important than breaking free from the financial, political, and cultural systems of oppression the patriarchy created for these feminists. 

          Throwing around ‘fuck the patriarchy’ does nothing when you don’t acknowledge it as an extremely powerful force that penetrates women’s lives and influences decision-making. 

#radfem #radfems please interact #radfems do interact #radblr #andrea dworkin #gail dines #kink critical #antiporn #anti sex trade #anti patriarchy

[theangryman]

it’s funny how kinksters want me to stay quiet about my abuse

my “dom” used to do “no speaking unless spoken to” lol. I’m not shutting up anymore. I’m taking back my power.

I will continue to call out a community that protects abusers. I will continue to call out a community that exploits LGBT people, especially younger transgender people.

The kink “community” is not a community. It is a place to connect predators to prey. If there cannot be frank and honest conversations about abuse and exploitation in kink, then it is not a safe community. It is a community that prioritizes the pleasures of one group over the physical and mental safety of another. It is a community that cannot criticize or police itself - to some folks, kinks appears to serve as some sort of religion.

#antikink #kink critical #kink shaming #kink discourse

[uter-us]

this is under a post a woman made about how when she was 18 she was a "feedee" (a feedee is a kink role fyi) and she critiques how these older men lovebombed her and told her her "body could be better" (to make her gain weight) and she tags it "feederismiswrong" and her caption is "several levels of manipulation," and like she's literally sharing her story. this kink fostered an environment for abuse, and she's sharing her experience with this, and in doing so can prevent other (primarily young vulnerable girls) from getting sucked onto this manipulation

and oml ofc people are so pornsick and a different woman commented the above. like its so frustrating how people will bend over backwards to defend these kinks that literally foster and create a space for people to abuse "consensually" (aka get away w it)

porn is warping brains. the idea that there are "moral" men over-feeding women and telling her that her body "could be better," and making her eat past what her body is able to handle is absurd. and it's so aggravating how this person even felt comfortable derailing a post about someone former ABUSE, to be like "well some ppl actually like it and do it the right way!" like please consider what you're advocating for

#radfem #mvawg #radical feminist safe #sex based oppression #male violence #anti pornography #antiporn #anti p*rn #kink critical #not j a reblog tag

[malfunctioningmeatsuit]

"puppygirl" "bimbo" "girlcock" "DDLG" "hentai" "big booba" "force-fem" "girly" "diaper girl" "futa" "blahaj" "sissy" "frottage" "skirt go spinny" "collared" SHUT UP

These dudes deny that autogynephilia is real and get mad when called AGPs while reducing womanhood to the state of being a thoughtless hyper feminine cock-worshiping bimbo.

All these accounts are run by pornsick men who need to get their asses off pornhub and seek a fucking therapist. Seeing womanhood reduced to "skirt go spinny" DDD cup anime girls peaked me.

I will never respect the "womanhood" of anyone that acts like this.

#radfem #gendie brainrot receipts #gender criticism #gender critical #men are trash #get help #lgbtq #lgb #lgbt #radical feminism #radical feminists please interact #radfems please interact #radblr #radfem safe #radical feminists do interact #patriarchy #moids #lgb drop the t #agp #autogynephilia #kink critical #radfems please touch #anti pornography #misogyny

[lilliththeghost]

Just thinking back to the time my boyfriend asked if it would be okay to choke me during sex. We were laying in bed. I immediately said "no," turned away from him, and started to cry. He apologized and said he shouldn't have asked. I was still a liberal feminist then and because of the way kink has been normalized I thought I must just be overreacting, and I said through my tears, "It's okay, it's good to ask for things you want."

I was crying because I was scared. He wouldn't have asked if he didn't want to choke me, and the idea that someone I lived with wanted to choke me was terrifying. I know he asked for my consent instead of just going for it, and in my head that made him a Good Guy.

Before we were exclusive, he asked a couple of times if I wanted to be tied up, and I thought, I could probably do that. Then I was sexually assaulted by a different guy. Suddenly being tied up was terrifying too. He asked again after that happened. I told him no. I applauded him for respecting my boundaries.

Through all of this, the thing that worries me most is that he isn't satisfied. Would he prefer someone who said yes? Instead of wondering, why does he want to hurt me?

#radical feminism #radfems do interact #kink critical

[punkeropercyjackson]

'Being anti kink is fascism' mfs when they find out black people don't get turned on by being called ugly,not having power in sexual situations or treated like mindless animals:

#you can't be talking like that white babyplayers #kink critical #trans #transgender #transmascfem #bigender #genderfluid #nonbinary #genderqueer #t4t #t4t nsft #transmasc4transfem #transmasc4transmasc #catkin #dragonkin #ghostkin #demigirl #transmasc #transfem #transmasculine #lemon #sa cw #child molestation cw #dehumanisation tw #animalization tw #bi4bi #bi4pan #💌 #summerposting #antiblackness

[drbased]

Nearly finished Against Our Will and it’s really started to get to me. I stomached the cavalcade of graphic rape descriptions, but as the book progresses she talks more and more about the cultural attitudes surrounding rape, and I began to feel this creeping sense of being overwhelmed. Rape is built into the male-female relations, into the very structure and fabric of society itself, into law and morality itself, that I don't know quite what to do with myself when I try to comprehend it.

I’m incredibly angry at the kink community for making it seem like things like rape kinks and sadomasochism are these isolated things someone can have - like an option on a menu - as opposed to the default understanding of male and female sexuality for centuries. Brownmiller, a jewish woman born in 1935, described having fantasies in her youth that would be described today as a 'nazi rape kink'. Freudian-inspired academics such as Helene Deutsch believed in the inherent masochism of female sexuality, propped up by the biological realities, some real and some imagined, of the female body itself (the pain of menstruation, the pain of childbirth, the myth of the painful 'deflowering' and, of course, the pain of being raped).

Feminists worked hard to destroy the myth of the inherent masochism of the woman, something used to jusify and naturalise rape and domination by the male. To quote her directly 'The rape fantasy exists in women as a man-made iceberg. It can be destroyed - by feminism.'

If you're a 'kink positive feminist', then you are directly spitting in the face of the women who worked hard to de-eroticise your actual rape within the public consciousness; who made sure that your rapist would be more likely to get jailtime; who made sure that when your rape is published in the news, more information is given about you than you being a leggy blonde. Men were eroticising literal rape, violent rape-murder, even, in popular culture before you ever attempted to formalise the concept of a 'kink', and rape jokes became a popular past-time of men the moment that the word 'rape' was seen as something bad for the woman, not for the man. Rape kinks, 'age-play', sadomasochism, rape porn and rape jokes are not revolutionary, they're not breaking some big taboo - they're representative of a culture that wants you to peacefully and femininely and beautifully submit to a man raping you. They're representative of the basis of patriarchy. Being 'kink positive' is literally anti-feminist.

#my writing #kink tw #rape tw #kink critical #theory posting