Minnie Bruce Pratt, an acclaimed poet, essayist, and activist who wrote, among other things, about losing custody of her children when she came out as a lesbian, died on July 4 of an aggressive brain tumor at age 76. Read on for more about her life and her experience of lesbian motherhood.
Just letting y’all know we had our baby!!! It was quite an ordeal that involved a short NICU stay, but baby and I are both doing great!
For privacy reasons I won’t be posting photos or exact name details, but I will say our baby is named in part after a favorite bi rockstar, which feels very fitting. I likely won’t be very active here for a while (feel like I need to nap for a week lol), but I’ll keep the queue running as much as I can.
Operation +1 to our family took nearly 5 years, but it is FINALLY a success!!!
It's almost my birthday, and I would absolutely love it if you could take a few seconds to share this post and consider donating if you're able! <3
Emryn and I met through this fandom and can't wait to raise a little Shadowhunter of our own - hopefully sooner rather than later, with a little help! <3
Hetero couples arguing that there should be a "father figure" and a "mother figure" for a child is honestly one of the reasons why lgbtq people don't want kids LMAO
As we close out LGBTQ History Month, I want to highlight some documentaries that look at the history of LGBTQ parents and our children and are available for streaming—several for free! Watch trailers (and in some cases, whole films), and find streaming info:
Just thinking today about structural inequality and how insidious it can be for LGBTQ+ families.
For example, there are different levels of NICUs (neonatal intensive care units) at hospitals, with many hospitals only being able to deal with the basics, and if your baby has something worse happen, they would need to be transferred to a hospital with a higher level NICU (which costs precious time). Also if your baby is born very premature, only higher-level NICUs can treat them.
In our area, the only hospital with a higher-level NICU is a catholic hospital. Our midwife has warned us away from going there, because “they don’t handle gay people well.” It’s pretty common in the US for catholic hospitals to be higher rated, with better equipment, services, and general resources, than public hospitals.
So this is a form of structural inequality in which we have to choose between lower quality care, but maybe being treated better, or potentially better care at catholic hospitals, but we may not even be able to access that better care if staff are biased and treat us poorly. Plus if something terrible happens we may not have a choice, and would just have to hope that our baby wouldn’t be given worse care simply because we’re queer.
Just fun things we’re having to think about as we’re planning for our baby.
If a transgender person asks you to deadname and misgender them in front of certain people. Misgender them and deadname them in front of those people. It doesn't matter how icky or gross it may feel, it doesn't matter you'd rather be honest. It doesn't matter if there's more of you there. Certain people aren't safe, and honesty IS NOT the best policy when honesty could put them at serious risk. It doesn't matter if there's a crowd, because when there isn't shit goes down.
Be an ally, do what they ask. Understand that the trans person knows more about their situation than you do, and this includes who's safe and who's not. Some one can be "trans friendly" to other people, but not to people they know or specific people. Do as the trans person asks, yes it's uncomfortable, but it's 10 times worse if the person we don't trust finds out. 100 times worse if they have access to us when you're not around.
Respect trans peoples safety. Misgender and deadname when asked.