#Like is there a word for being attracted to the opposite gender AND Non-binary people

[flightlessangelwings]

I know there’s other posts out there but I wanted to make a comprehensive post about being completely inclusive when writing reader inserts. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas so I wanted to share my thoughts and tips that I use myself when I’m writing. Of course I most likely forgot things as well so feel free to add on if you think of something I missed and I’ll add it to the list here!

Quicke note before we get to it: if you spot something on this list that you’ve done before, don’t beat yourself up about it. We all slip up and make mistakes. Just learn from it and keep it in mind for the future! As readers, we understand that it’s near impossible to include every single individual that could possibly read your work, but the point is to be as inclusive as possible with your writing.

Under a cut for length and to make sure you always see the most updated list when you click on it! Reblogs are very much appreciated too, especially if you’re a writer so we can all learn and grow and be better!

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Labeling your reader (a guide to terminology)

Gender neutral (gn)- no pronouns, no gendered nicknames, no mentions of genitals

Assigned female at birth (afab)- no pronouns, no gendered nicknames, reader usually has a vagina

Assigned male at birth (amab)- no pronouns, no gendered nicknames, reader usually has a penis

Female/fem/f- she/her pronouns, traditionally femme nicknames, reader usually has a vagina

Male/m- he/him pronouns, traditionally masc nicknames, reader usually has a penis

Non-binary (nb)- usually they/them pronouns, reader can have either a vagina or a penis

Quick note: terminology changes often and as far as I know this is the most up to date on being inclusive with labeling readers. If it changes or if anyone has suggestions I’ll update this.

If you do want to assign your reader character some type of label, please tag it appropriately. Lots of poc writers like to write black, Latine, Asian, etc readers for example. Or other examples are plus size reader, short reader, tall reader, nerdy reader, shy reader, sporty reader, etc.

Don’t be afraid to write a trans character too! Trans characters can have either the opposite genitalia from their birth assignment or the same, everyone is different! There’s a big lack in trans reader representation!

Please note too that just because reader is labeled one way does not necessarily mean they are cisgender. People can be non-binary and use she/her or he/him pronouns. There’s no need to label your reader as cis at all

And please don’t label your readers' sexuality as straight. Bi/pan/demi/queer people can be attracted to a male character but that does not mean they are exclusively into men. It alienates queer readers.

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Inclusive with skin tones

Please do not use “blush” or “flush” or anything like that! I know that’s one of the top issues when being inclusive with skin tones. But those words have the connotation that the skin turns red or pink, and while everyone is capable of their skin warming, it doesn’t always show the same especially on darker skin. Instead, try something like “you felt your skin heat up” or “your palms felt sweaty” or “you felt flustered.” Focus more on the emotions and what reader is feeling or thinking or physically reacting rather than saying reader blushed.

Be careful when describing bruises or injuries. Not all bruises get bright red for example. Instead, try mentioning blood stain, swelling, or just use “discolored” or “beat up” or something like that.

Not everyone’s skin turns red when slapped so just avoid “your skin reddened” altogether.

Not everyone has pink nipples, just skip describing the color altogether

Or pink lips. Again just skip the color description

While all skin is able to get burned, not everyone’s skin turns red/pink from being in the sun. Instead use more feeling descriptors like “your skin felt hot from the sun” or even describing peeling would be ok.

Don’t say that reader looks like an established character.

“Knuckles turned white” doesn’t happen with everyone so just leave it out. Focus more on muscles straining or something instead.

Avoid the phrase “you look white as a ghost” when referring to reader.

If you want to mention makeup, just leave it general and don’t specify colors or shades or anything like that. Not all shades show up the same on all skin tones.

Overall, it’s best to just avoid skin tone indicators and anything describing color on the skin. That simple thing makes a world of difference in inclusivity. The more you do it, the easier and more natural it’ll feel until it’s second nature! Your readers will be extremely appreciative of it!

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Inclusive with hair

Not everyone can run their fingers through their hair. Textured/curly hair gets caught or someone may not have hair long enough (or any hair) to run their fingers through.

Instead, try something like “fiddled with your fingers/ear/clothes”

Not everyone has hair long enough to tie up/back so it’s best to just not mention it at all. Your reader can just imagine how they want their hair for the scene.

If you want a more formal look, just “you styled yourself nicely” something like that is enough.

Some people enjoy hair pulling in sex, some don’t. Hair touching can be very upsetting for some people, especially people of color. If you want to include it, just make sure to add it in the tags/warnings so readers are aware before they get into it

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Inclusive with language

Please don’t assume your reader doesn’t speak Spanish! (This is aimed mostly at those who write Latino characters because I see this a lot)

If a character is speaking Spanish, you can either use italics to indicate the language change or provide a translation right there. Avoid adding “you didn’t understand” with that.

Instead you can use something like “you didn’t hear” so your reader can interpret for themselves if it’s because they don’t understand or they simply didn’t hear.

Or use phrases like “he said X in Spanish” for either praises, curses, etc. it leaves it more open for all readers.

I know it’s tempting but please don’t use google translate to write in another language. It’s fine or a word or a phrase but when it goes into full sentences then it gets a little funky. Try consulting with a native speaker if you can!

When writing in Spanish, please note that n and ñ are not interchangeable!

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Inclusive with body shape and size

Don’t assume your reader is thin or short and the character can easily pick them up or toss them around. If you want to specify a short reader, please tag it.

Also the opposite: done assume reader is taller than a character too!

If you want character to pick up reader, please include it in your warnings.

Limbs generally don’t weigh as much so something like “he hiked you leg over his shoulder” while laying down is more inclusive (I’m short and can pick up limbs from my clients at my day job so trust me your leg itself doesn’t weigh a lot)

Avoid “you got up on your tiptoes to kiss him” because not everyone is short. Instead just say “leaned over/in to kiss” or “angled yourself to kiss” something more generalized

Usually describing a hug/holding reader/cuddling is fine but don’t get overly specific on how much a character is able to wrap their arms around the reader and fit their arms fully around reader. Writing a tight embrace or an engulfing hug should still be fine since it can be a show of emotions.

Wearing a characters clothes. Not everyone can fit their fav’s size and not everyone will “drown in his shirt.”

Again the opposite is true too: not everyone has curves or thick thighs or big breasts or a big ass. Plus size and curvy readers are important to write too since representation is lacking, but just be sure to tag it properly!

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Inclusive with background in general

For this section, the goal is more to be aware of certain things and to be sure to include proper tags and warnings more than avoiding things completely. Readers understand that there is the element of fantasy in reading fanfiction but sometimes a certain aspect can be triggering or upsetting or can knock the immersion out so it just important to be aware and have tags and warnings before your fic!

Be careful when describing readers family because that can be hard for some readers. Not everyone has a good relationship with their family. Yes sometimes a backstory is needed for plot and people can pretend for the sake of the story. Just be sure to include in your warnings for the story, especially if it’s either a really good or really bad relationship.

If you’re making up family members for reader, be it siblings or kids, try to be aware of what their names are. Typically white names won’t fit every background so just be aware of that. Or try just using nicknames instead!

Religion. Just don’t mention it at all unless it’s properly tagged and warned for.

Around the holidays especially, Christmas fics are very popular but please be aware that not everyone celebrates the same holidays! Be sure to tag and warn for any holidays that they could be celebrating. And please don’t write Jewish characters celebrating Christmas.

Don’t make your reader biologically related to a white character. If you absolutely want to, there’s options like step family, adopted, childhood friends that are closer than family, etc.

Reader’s job is usually something you have more leeway with in order to fit your story but just be sure to tag it appropriately. Disabled readers for example can’t always imagine themselves in certain jobs so it’s just something to keep in mind.

When creating a backstory for reader, try to think outside your own experience and make sure it’s not something that poc readers can’t relate to or wouldn’t have had the same experience from. If you’re unsure just put it in the tags/notes beforehand.

This one is more aimed at Americans but please remember that not everyone reading lives in the US. Sometimes yes, a setting is necessary, but please be open to the fact that people from all over the world read fics. If it’s set in the US, especially when the canon setting is elsewhere, please note it beforehand.

There’s really no need to give your reader an age as it can alienate a lot of readers. Sometimes it can be inferred through context but I find that outright giving reader a specific age is very excluding. There are plenty of people in fandom who are not in their 20s so please don’t assume everyone reading is. And it sends a message to anyone in their 30s or older that they don’t belong when every other fic is a very young reader character. Obviously don’t write smut about minors too but that should go without saying.

If you’re at the point where your reader has a name, it’s no longer a reader insert but an original character. Nicknames or code names are totally fine, but please don’t give reader a name.

And if you are writing an oc, please keep it out of the reader tag. Use the oc tags.

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Inclusive with art and moodboards

Please include poc when making moodboards for your fics!! I know from personal experience it can be hard to find the right pic you want, but I promise with some digging it’s possible.

Follow models of color pages here on tumblr, there’s unsplash, Pinterest (I know it’s not the best site but I have found a lot of poc pics there) and other sites too. Curate pictures to save for later when you can!

When it comes to art for reader insert fics, please don’t default to a white woman all the time. It’s disheartening to see white women used for “reader” in 90% of art or more. It makes poc feel like they aren’t welcome and that it isn’t meant for us. My personal opinion is that reader should be just a shadowy figure or outline or something vague like that. Or use a few different body types and skin tones.

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General inclusive tips

These aren't specific to skin tone or anything but rather little things that can help your reader feel more immersed in your story in general. I know some writers have a specific image in mind when writing but these are little things I’ve noticed that can knock the fantasy out for me so I wanted to share some thoughts and pointers. These are lower pressure points and not as big a deal but I did want to include them anyway.

Instead of specifying food or drink, write something like “your favorite (whatever)” or don’t even mention what they make or eat. Just say they made something or they ate something, your readers can fill in for themselves that’s on the plate

If a character buys reader flowers or something, don’t specify the flower. Either leave it vague or use “your favorite flowers”

Instead of a specific outfit, leave it vague or don’t mention at all. Sometimes a certain kind of outfit is required for situations (like a formal event or ball or something), but even then you can use something like “a gown in your favorite color” or “a formal outfit that flattered you well.”

Adding on with the clothing point: please tag if you’re describing clothing in a fantasy type setting. While clothing itself has no gender, sometimes trans and nb people can get hit with dysphoria if you’ve got reader wearing a skirt or something like it with no warning. Either just leave it out, leave it vague, or warn for it!

In the case of an AU or a fantasy setting you have more wiggle room with clothing but still try to leave it more vague if possible.

Same with shoes. Not everyone likes/can wear heels so keep that in mind

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To wrap up, please be aware when writing your reader inserts. It’ll get easier with practice the more you consciously do it! And please listen to poc writers/readers when we ask for inclusivity! And support writers of color too! Thank you for reading and taking it all in because I know this was a lot!

#din djarin x reader #the mandalorian x reader #frankie morales x reader #javier peña x reader #javi gutierrez x reader #joel miller x reader #agent jack whiskey daniels x reader #marcus pike x reader #marcus moreno x reader #santiago garcia x reader #poe dameron x reader #billy russo x reader #boba fett x reader #the darkling x reader #will miller x reader #benny miller x reader #frank castle x reader #marc spector x reader #steven grant x reader #tasm!peter parker x reader #cassian andor x reader #inclusivity #x reader #fanfic #fanfiction #poc writers #writers #support poc

[old-acc-discourseisdumb]

Transitioning is not a light switch. Very few trans people come out and immediately lose all ties to their biological sex and don’t identify with it or their history at all. It’s a slow process which can take decades. Even with less extensive processes such as changing a sexuality label, it shouldn’t be shocking someone can’t leave their old community behind just like that. A trans person who doesn’t pass or still wants to place emphasis on the huge impact their birth sex has on their love and identity might refer to themself as gay even though they’re attracted to the opposite gender only. A trans person might still experience queer and gay love for the opposite gender because trans love might not look the same as cis love.

Coming out shouldn’t mean being disqualified from your previous community when so many trans people aren't welcome elsewhere. A trans man should be 'allowed' to be a lesbian, especially if he doesn't fit into male dating spaces. He may still benefit from lesbian spaces and have important things to say about the experiences of a lesbian, so why shouldn't he embrace that?

Words aren’t just words. They have history, meaning and community. That doesn’t mean the word’s meaning has to be rigid and have no exceptions. If anything, it means there will be exceptions, mostly people who aren’t ready to leave that behind, and may never be, but want to express the version of themselves they are trying to become. It’s not up to you to disqualify and kick out trans people from your single-gender spaces when they aren’t ready to go elsewhere, it’s not up to you to stop trans people from engaging in the culture they were raised in, and it’s not up to you to enforce new binaries. Which by the way man/non-man is a binary which many people don’t fit neatly into. Let trans people identify however we want.

#lesboy #mspec lesbian #genderqueer #trans #male lesbian #queer #lgbt #my posts

[royalberryriku]

That one post™ I read recently about being transfem gays and transmasc lesbians got me thinking about gender and sexuality and mine specifically and just... I have so many thoughts and feelings about this.

So many queers assume gender to be this: woman, man or non binary (assumed to mean agender). Yet, so many of us just don't fit into that at all. I know it's not out of malice too, and sometimes we even do know that it's not that simple and try to include bigender, gender fluid, etc in that, but even so, we always go back to assumptions; to a set bias of binary of which we struggle to undo the rules we've set in our own heads and perspectives.

Suddenly, we have limits of which do exclude other queers and even sometimes ourselves, we have hypocritical definitions and fall into a habit of drawing lines around what is This and what is That. And I get it; we want to know ourselves better, to word our experiences more exactly and describe to those around us what it's like to live as someone like us. But here's the thing; that's always not going to be 100% possible. There's always going to be differences and variation even within the same definitions and labels. No matter how similar we may be in regards to a shared experiences and shared struggles, there'll always be exceptions.

Gender and sexuality are like that. I'll expand on this below:

For those who are not transgender or who just generally struggle with this topic and don't know much about it, here's an outline:

Gender identity is, in a very general sense, one's perception of their identity as a person; it's that question of who they are and what they want to be referred to and seen as. For example, if you go up to a cis lady and start making her out to be a man simply because she has short hair, she'd get offended, right? Same case with transgender people, if you start pointing at their chest or at a beard or something like that and start assigning an identity that doesn't align with who they are, they'd get offended for the same exact reason; because they are [insert gender] regardless of appearance.

Now, with that understood, I'll continue with this discussion of sexuality, mine specifically, and then move onto my gender and it's lack of conformity.

I'm bisexual; I'm attracted to all genders, all sexes, all everythings. In fact, more so than most people I know, I have a very diverse range of things I'm into and attracted to. But not every bisexual person is like that. Some bisexual people like only certain things and some only like specific genders. We all have our own different preferences and no two people will have the exact same sexuality; because we are all unique in what we like. And even in saying that for myself, this was a journey of discovery after spending years as asexual, then a lesbian, then a heterosexual man, then someone who used both straight and lesbian to describe by love of women as someone whose gender was indistinct and now as bisexual having now realised I do love men and other genders as well. All throughout this process, I was surrounded by a community, one I still feel very connected to and have some overlap with as well. It's interesting and beautiful how these people both differ from me and yet how also similar we still are, even now.

Sexualities are here, as terms, to help us find more people who are similar; to find solidarity in a shared experience. However, it isn't to find those exactly the same because, see, that just doesn't exist. That's why lesbian and gay can actually have some overlap, that's why woman and man aren't opposites, that's why gender isn't this "one or the other" thing; because experience is far too varied to ever be narrowed down to such a degree. It's always going to be general; an inexact estimate of similarities that more or less fit a vague definition.

My gender on the other hand? Now that's even more complicated. As I said before, most assume it's a "one or the other" deal, even with non binary in the mix, but the thing is that these terms are general; they are vague and can overlap. I'm a trans man, but I'm also non binary. I am a man, and sometimes I want to be perceived as the same as a cis man, but not always. This also is something that means I may fit under being gender fluid. However, on top of that, I am more often than not two or more things at once. I'm a man, but I also see myself as a butch lady at the same time. This also fits under the definition of being bigender. Yet, on top of that? There are also times when I just feel removed from gender identity as a thing all together. This also fits with agender.

Now, for those who may not be so familiar with all these terms I'm throwing around, I'm essentially saying my identity in regards to the question "are you a man or woman" or even "so are you neither" is very fluid, but it's also both and sometimes even neither or all of the above. The hard thing is this; we have this pre-established subconscious bias that these things are all opposites, that there's a definitive line that divides them. However, in my own experience, this just doesn't apply to everyone and especially not to me who struggles to know where I'd even begin to draw such a line for myself. Woman and man are simply not opposites to me because I am something that overlaps. I'm a man, 100%, not leaning or "a bit"; I am absolutely, entirely a boy. However, my gender would be something that shifts to the same as, say, a he/him lesbian that may not feel that they are a man per se. The difference is I'm both, and many lesbians and trans men do fit into that both category and have throughout history. Take Leslie Feinberg for instance, the author of Stone Butch Blues. Or the various other cases of butch lesbians and trans men overlapping in history or being mistaken for one another. There is a blurred region that can't be asked or told "oh but which are you" or even "so you're neither" because, at least in my case, I am both. I am 100% of both and it would be inaccurate and a lie to say I am neither, as much as it would be inaccurate or a lie to say I'm one of the other.

And you know what? It's okay if we don't understand what that means or where that fits. It's okay if all of what I said about myself has confused the living hell out of you. You don't need to understand me just like I don't need to understand you or anyone else to simply coexist and respect that we're going to have different preferences and views. I'll never know what it's like to be entirely in a binary, to be able to conform because I am simply unable to if I am to truely be myself and allow whatever that is to just exist. I also don't even necessarily have to understand it, as long I allow myself to exist.

I could honestly go on and on about sexuality, gender, romance, self identity and overall the value of finding community while also loving the value of one's own uniqueness, but I'll settle with this for now. All I'll say in regards to that is that this all also applies to being aromantic, demisexual, demigirl/boy, omnisexual, polysexual, xenogenders, pansexual and many, many other terms. These are all simply here to better understand ourselves and create more understanding of experiences that may no fit into other pre-existing terms. That's awesome and something to embrace. You don't even necessarily have to worry about understanding these or remembering them all. At the end of the day, these people are all simply fellow queers and define themselves in a range of both different or similar ways to the more well known sexualities and orientations, stretching back to heterosexuality and the norm of cisgender experiences. These are all simply terms to describe the differences between each of these lived experiences; all these different people in different terms aren't so different from you and you aren't so different to them.

But I digress, the point here is that regardless of gender or sexuality, nothing is set in stone and nothing can truly all be defined with one single definition. No matter how rigid the definition, no matter who is excluded or included, no matter how much it fits you or someone else, it won't fit everyone perfectly and there'll always be differences even within those labels. That's a fact of life and the beauty of it. It's part of why I am protective of the word queer and gay; a word that means different and a word that means happy. Because to live as truely to yourself as possible, enjoy the splendor of those little quirks and unique bits to yourself, to fall in love with yourself regardless of if you're the same or completely different or what or who you are? That's beautiful and wonderful. It's something to be proud of and celebrated. And it's something I wish for all of us to be able to one day appreciate; falling in love with ourselves and our unique existences.

#transgender #queer #nonbinary #gay #bisexuality #asexuality #lesbian #writing community #gender #writing #politics #gender identity #essay writing #writers on tumblr #sexuality #homosexuality #non binary #agender #genderfluid #genderqueer #bigender #transmasc #transfem #self love #solidarity #pride #trans men #trans women #trans is beautiful #trans rights

[acidh2otoby]

Resident Evil Sexuality / Identity Headcanons, part 2

Ingrid Hunnigan

Lesbian / Female

Hunnigan is a strong headed lesbian that falls under the more masculine side but still identifies as female

Any time Leon tried to flirt with her in the beginning, she wanted to jab in his face but couldn't because he was in a different location

The only reason Leon stopped was because Hunnigan made the small joke after one of his flirts saying, "I pull more girls than you without all the stupid pick up lines"

Jake Muller

??????

It must be a Wesker thing because Jake confuses me as well

From one point of view I think "There really isn't enough screen time between him and any other character other than Sherry or Chris, who Jake clearly has a rivalry with"

From the other I think "But there's a chance he's queer of some kind"

But I honestly don't know...

Jill Valentine

Lesbian / Non-binary

You cannot tell me that Mx. Valentine is not a lesbian that doesn't identify as a specific gender

Like, c'mon, LOOK AT THEM

That was theirs and Chris' bonding in S.T.A.R.S. was both of them finding out they were attracted to opposite genders and Jill being non-binary

That's why they're both tight with each other because gays protect each other, it's a code

Karl Heisenberg

GAY / Male

If you think Heisenberg is straight, you are fucking mental

The part of his greatest plan of getting his revenge on Mother Miranda(r) that he didn't tell Ethan was trying to win his heart and running away with him, CONVINCE ME OTHERWISE

The moment Heisenberg saw Ethan, he thought, "I'mma make this bitch mine"

Leon Kennedy

(I love him and his stupid food-loving ass)

Bisexual / TRANSGENDER (female-to-male)

Leon's bisexuality has a preference, a preference for men, Ada is his only exception otherwise, he'd be gay

He's SO TRANS, it baffles my mind how much transness oozes off of him

Leon's flirting isn't to necessarily gain a female's attraction but more-so just because it boosts his ego just a bit because he knows he's hot

Piers Nivans

GAY / TRANSGENDER (female-to-male)

Riddle me this, Batman... have you, in your entire life, met ANYONE with the name Piers?

Doubt it, Piers rats out his identity faster than a bullet from his sniper

Also, he's SO in love with Chris, it's so fucking obvious

I said it once and I'll say it again, FRIENDS DON'T LOOK AT FRIENDS THE WAY PIERS LOOKS AT CHRIS

Rebecca Chambers

Aroace / Non-binary

I never remember Rebecca ever trying to gain anyone's attraction on purpose and actually kind of avoided it

They had love for people, but never romantic, they looked at Chris like he was a big brother and not a potential boyfriend

They didn't even show any attraction to Billy, who was more than nice to them while my dumbass was wishing I was getting saved by Billy every 20 seconds

Also, Rebecca being non-binary just clicks in my brain a certain way that works for me

Rosemary Winters

Pansexual / Genderfluid

Rose doesn't quite understand why it should matter who you're attracted to and even got into a few arguments about it

Being born from someone that had a virus also fucked up her genes pretty good, they were born female but their puberty process and mental gender never matched

They never blamed their dad for the weirdness of going through puberty but they did find it a bit annoying

Sherry Birkin

Straight / Transgender (male-to-female)

Sherry started her transition really early and didn't even realize what it was until she was in her 20s

It was also William that helped her be comfortable with herself even as a kid, because Annette sure wasn't about to

Leon made sure that she was okay with herself as well whenever he saw her

Sherry was able to twist her words to be able to get surgeries from the government for free, making excuses that missions would be hard if she didn't have the right kind of body

Sheva Alomar

Bisexual / Female

Sheva also has a bisexual preference, she prefers women over men

Not to say there's only one guy keeping her bi but she's threatened past boyfriends with it, makes her laugh every time

She definitely had a crush on both Chris and Jill in the beginning but it calmed down when she had to actually work with them (mainly Chris)

Steve Burnside

(I RAN OUT OF FUCKING PICTURES OF USE IN THIS STORY AND HE'S THE LAST CHARACTER FUCK!!!)

Bisexual / Transgender (female-to-male)

I think we can all agree that there was definitely something queer with Steve in all versions of him

Steve doesn't have a specific preference and is kind of a hopeless romantic

The sad thing about Steve that kinda separates him from the other trans characters here is that he never got a full transition before he died 🥲

Did I ads that part to make people feel sad for him again? Yes I did because I genuinely liked his character

#lesbian #nonbinary #gay #bisexual #transgender #aroace #pansexual #genderfluid #resident evil #ingrid hunnigan #jake muller #jill valentine #karl heisenberg #leon kennedy #piers nivans #rebecca chambers #rosemary winters #sherry birkin #sheva alomar #steve burnside

[the-delta-quadrant]

so after only reading up about diamoric in a wiki article the other day and being confused, i went to the sources and found multiple coining posts, which showed that the wiki boiled it down a bit by saying wlnb and mlnb attraction isn't diamoric.

but i'm still confused.

here it says:

A diamoric person is a person who centers NB people and NB partnerships in their life.

Only non-binary people may use diamoric as an identity. Only NB people can call themselves diamoric. Technically, any NB person who seeks partnerships of any kind with any gender could call themselves diamoric, but it’s most useful and meaningful for NBs who wish to proclaim their prioritization of other NBs.

An NB person who is most interested in, happiest, and most comfortable with other NB people may find it a useful self-identifier; they are diamoric. Even if they would be content dating men or women, but they don’t want to define themselves by that, and would rather define themselves by their love for NB people and for being NB - they are diamoric.

ok cool. that sounds like it would be an equivalent to sapphic and achillean, and thus not to be used by binary men and women. makes sense.

but literally above that part, says:

A diamoric relationship or attraction is one that involves at least one non-binary person.

A genderfluid person’s attraction to a woman is diamoric.

now here i thought diamoric was just defined as nblnb. if that were the case, that would be like calling a woman's attraction to a binary man sapphic?

An enby’s hook-up with an androgyne is diamoric.

A man’s queerplatonic partnership with a demiboy is diamoric (and could also be achillean if they chose to use both).

A genderfluid woman’s romance with a genderfluid man is diamoric (and could also be gay, sapphic, or achillean depending on how their genders line up in time.)

A bigender person’s marriage to an agender person is diamoric.

A triad between a woman, a demigirl, and an agender person is diamoric.

A man’s attraction to an enby is diamoric.

this goes against what wikis say (that diamoric is only for attraction experienced by non-binary people and not for attraction from binary people towards non-binary people), but it also literally goes against the other part i quoted, saying that only non-binary people can use the term diamoric and how it's meant for nblnb, not mlnb (or wlnb). this does sound like astroidian (mlnb) and maedic (wlnb) would absolutely count as diamoric orientations.

A lesbian dating an agender person is a lesbian in a diamoric relationship.

but in a previous post, it was defined like this:

Love or attraction of any kind for, of, shared between or involving non binary people.

here it is again, explicitly stating that it's not just attraction from non-binary people, but also for non-binary people. with this definition, wlnb and mlnb count as diamoric.

This includes platonic, romantic, and/or sexual love and attraction.

It includes any platonic, romantic or sexual feelings or relationships an NB person has, whether with other NB people or with binary people.

This word is an equivalent to sapphic and achillean but further expanded to encompass any relationship or attraction which is neither same-gender nor “opposite-gender” due to an NB person’s involvement.

and this again sounds like mlnb and wlnb are diamoric in their attraction to non-binary people. that attraction doesn't easily fit in same vs. opposite gender attraction, and non-binary people would be involved as the recipients of that attraction.

so i'm confused. these posts seem to kind of contradict each other. one of the posts even contradicts itself by listing mlnb as diamoric but then saying that mlnb can't call themselves diamoric.

it seems like the person who coined diamoric wanted it to be two things at once, an umbrella term for every attraction and relationship that doesn't fit the same vs opposite gender dichotomy as well as a specific nblnb term equivalent to sapphic and achillean.

and with that it's even weirder that on wiki articles trixic and toric are listed as diamoric orientations when diamoric is either defined as nblnb specifically or as any attraction/relationship not within the same vs opposite gender dichotomy (meaning the article should also include maedic and astroidian along with trixic and toric as examples for diamoric orientations).

whichever way you see it, the wiki definitely got it wrong one way or another, but the coining post(s) themselves are also not really helping my confusion.

in my book, diamoric does describe any attraction/relationship outside the same vs opposite gender dichotomy, in my book maedic and astroidian are diamoric orientations, in my book, wlnb and mlnb are diamoric. in my book, my partner (binary guy) is diamoric for being attracted to me as it's not same or opposite gender attraction. in my book, diamoric isn't limited to nblnb, especially because there are actually now other terms that are way more commonly used for nblnb specifically, like enbian, which was coined two months after diamoric. it makes exactly zero sense to me to say that diamoric includes every situation where a same vs opposite gender dichotomy doesn't apply but then say that...certain people where a same vs opposite gender dichotomy doesn't apply can't use it. thankfully there's enbian as a term so the half-arsed nonsensical gatekeeping of people who fit the definition of diamoric and are literally in the example list becomes kinda useless.

#queer #mogai #lgbt #lgbtq+ #gsrm #lgbt+ #genderqueer #nonbinary #trans #maverique #enby #non binary #nblnb #nln #nlw #nblw #nblm #nlm #mln #mlnb #wln #wlnb #diamoric #enbian #trixic #toric #maedic #adonic #astroidian

[pride-database]

The Multiple-attraction spectrum/M-spec.

Bi flag, by Michael Page:

According to the author, pink represents same-gender attraction, blue opposite-gender attraction, and purple the intersection and overlap of the two.

Meaning of Bi (—often followed by the type of attraction it refers to: sexual→bisexual, romantic→biromantic, and so on):

The most comprehensive definition of this orientation is attraction to 2 or more genders/to more than one gender.

Bi can overlap with other orientations that exist to refer to attraction to multiple genders, such as Pan and Ply (which you can find below). When going by the above definition, Bi can be seen as an umbrella term containing these: some people refer to this as the Bi+ spectrum, which is synonymous with M-spec.

Other definitions of bi in use are:

attraction to both one's same gender and at least one different gender;

attraction to men and women;

attraction to two genders (that can be any two).

These last three definitions don't apply to all bi people, but are nonetheless used by some.

Things you should know about bi people:

Bi people aren't just "confused", or "can't pick a side".

Coming out as bi shouldn't be assumed by other people to be just "a stepping stone towards identifying as gay".

Bi people are not "half gay, half straight". In fact, some may even have a preference for one gender above the others, and it doesn't make them "less bi".

It is also incorrect to refer to them as "straight" when they have a partner of the opposite gender, and "gay" when of the same gender. Bi people are always bi, no matter who they're in a relationship with at the moment.

Not all bi people are duogamous (=having two partners simultaneously, one male and one female). It doesn't make them less valid as bi.

A common misconception is that bi people are "promiscuous", or will cheat on their partner with someone of a different gender; these are harmful stereotypes. Just because bi people have more choice in partners, doesn't mean they get laid more often than people who only like one gender (and even then, there's nothing bad with having an active sex life). And many straight people cheat as well, but no-one goes around saying "straight people are naturally cheaters"!

Additionally, someone's bi identity intersecting with being polyamorous (being in a relationship involving more than one partner, with knowledge and consent from all people involved) shouldn't be a reason for shaming. Bi polyamorous people aren't responsible for creating or perpetuating these negative stereotypes.

A note on "bi" and non-binary exclusion:

Despite what the root bi- (meaning "two" in Greek) would make it seem like, this label has never necessarily implied a gender binary (the belief that there are only 2 genders, male and female).

In fact, the 1990 Bisexual Manifesto says «Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders».

Pan flag, by Jasper Varney:

The pink stands for women, the blue for men, and the yellow for non-binary people.

Meaning of Pan (—often followed by the type of attraction it refers to: sexual→pansexual, romantic→panromantic, and so on):

There are two common definitions in use:

1) attraction to all genders

2) attraction to people regardless of gender. In other words, gender does not play a role in the attraction; rather, there are other elements a pan person's attraction focuses on.

Difference with bi:

Whereas bi means "attraction to 2 or more genders"—which practically means bi people can be attracted to from as little as 2, to as many as all genders—pan always means "attraction to all genders". It is less ambiguous, so some people prefer it over bi to specify this.

Also, following the second definition of pan, it usually excludes the possibility of having a gender preference, since pan people often refer to their attraction as "gender-blind". (Note: that does not mean pan people don't see people for what gender they are; it's only in terms of potential attraction).

Things you should know about pan people:

Pan people aren't attracted to "anything that moves"; pan isn't synonymous with paraphilias. The meaning of the Greek root "pan-", which translates to "all", stands for "all genders", nothing else!

Don't refer to the pan orientation as "attraction to men, women, and trans people". Trans men and women aren't a third gender!

Pan people aren't just "bi but trying to feel special". The choice of the label pan over the label bi is purely a personal preference; they also convey slightly different meanings. Some people even use both simultaneously!

Pan people at large don't think bi people are transphobic. This has been a long debate, and hopefully it's been sorted out for good: "pan" is more explicit about there being more than two genders, so some people feel more comfortable with that, but that doesn't mean they don't understand the history of the bi community and how it has always included non-binary people!

For other common misconceptions, refer to the ones about bi people.

Ply (a.k.a. Poly) flag, by Tomlin:

The pink stands for women, the blue for men, and the green for non-binary people.

Note: "Ply" is usually preferred to "Poly" as the shortened version of Polysexual/polyromantic/etc., because poly is usually short for Polynesian.

Meaning of Ply/Poly:

Attraction to multiple, but not all, genders.

Not to be confused with polyamory.

Difference with bi:

Ply people, like bi people, are capable of being attracted to more than one gender. However, bi people can like up to all genders, while ply people specify that they don't like all genders, only some.

For example, a ply person might be attracted to men and non-binary people, but not to women. Each ply person's range of possible attraction is different, so it is best to ask.

Hopefully this helps clear out the distinction. Shout-out to all my fellow m-specs! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

#mspec #m spec #multisexual #multiromantic #bi+ #bi flag #bisexual flag #bi #bisexual #biromantic #bi erasure #biphobia #bi history #pan flag #pansexual flag #pan #pansexual #panromantic #panphobia #bi pan solidarity #poly flag #polysexual flag #ply #polysexual #polyromantic #bi+ community #bi community #pride flag #lgbtqia+ #coming out

[hellomynameisbisexual]

This is the same with identity: As a Black person, I am constantly made to believe that being bisexual is antithetical to my identity. Being Black and out means being constantly expected to "choose" an identity and "put one first."

Even though race and sexual identity are two separate classifications, people are conditioned to believe that there is only one way of being a Black person or an LGBTQ person. The two are somehow incompatible.

It sounds ridiculous in theory, but we see the reinforcement of that belief all the time, as recently as with Andrew Gillum. That reinforcement is commonly used against Black people, but also anyone that dares to live outside of the boundaries.

The concept that someone is defined by more than just one singular identifying classification is intersectionality, coined by academic philosopher Kimberle Crenshaw in 1989. Over 30 years since, the term is increasingly popular but is still not widely recognized. People still claim that the term is inaccurate, because the recognition of each person's intersectional identity is "divisive," "ahistorical," and "shallow."

Even bisexuality itself is held to a binary. Since the suffix bi- means two, people feel that bisexuality can only mean being attracted to two genders.

This limited view of the word is often weaponized against bisexual people. "You can't like both genders," I was told growing up, "you can't go both ways at once." Other people would assume, again based on the prefix, that being bisexual must mean "dating two people at once." These are conflations that try to set a limit on how bisexuality can work.

Despite having a slight majority in population over lesbian and gay-identifying people, bisexual people are still not given credence over their own identities. Even other bisexual people, such as Amber Rose, have claimed that they aren't "comfortable" with other people's bisexuality. People are conditioned not to fully grasp concepts if they aren't in binaries, these very narrow or disqualifying definitions of the term are the most accepted understanding of bisexuality.

Just recently, we've seen that we can be Black and bisexual, male and bisexual, non-binary and bisexual, nuerodivergent and bisexual, bisexual and in a different-gender marriage, bisexual and primarily dating people of your gender - and more.

Society has always tried to enforce boundaries. Living outside of those boundaries conflicts with how we see the world.

Bisexuality is a prime example of that - the term is more than just "two," or some non-conforming way of sexuality, or some abstract concept, or a "B" in an initialism. That doesn't mean it isn't all those things, too - but that's not its limit. 

For some, bisexuality is their dual existence of heterosexual and homosexual attraction. For some, it's possessing "characteristics of both sexes," as Merriam-Webster defines it.

Someone who have dated more than one gender in the past can be bisexual, as people have done all throughout history. It could be someone's umbrella term to include those attracted to multiple genders, such as pansexual and omnisexual people. People may separate sexual attraction from emotional attraction, and only identify as biromantic - or it may be combined.

Bisexuality could simply be the "potential for romantic or sexual attraction to genders similar to one's own and dissimilar to one's own," as one academic definition explains.

It's all a spectrum. It may not make sense to you, but that's the problem - society has ingrained anything that don't fit into their boxes as nonsensical. It's not about you making sense of it, it's for us to figure out and live with.

As Kristen Stewart once said, "You're not confused if you're bisexual. It's not confusing at all. For me, it's quite the opposite."

Like anyone else, we aren't linear beings. All people are made up of different classifications - that intersect to shape our identity.

Even Rose admitted that her inability to be "comfortable" with bisexuality in others was likely an internalized issue: "Maybe I'm not secure enough to be with [bisexual men]," she said at the time. (Note that both of her comments were from over years ago.)

Maybe, if all people interrogated why they are inclined to define bisexuality - or any identity - a certain way, they could figure out why that is.

Words are binary. Humanity just is not and won't be.

#bisexuality #bisexual community #lgbtq community #lgbtq #bi #support bisexuality #bisexuality is valid #lgbtq pride #pride #bi tumblr #bisexual #bi pride #bisexual nation #bisexual pride #bisexual education #bisexual youth #support bisexual people #bisexual men #respect bisexual people #bisexual rights #biphobic gay people #biphobic #biphobia

[cynicjovial]

I had written this letter for twitter originally but here it comes here too, for pride or whatev

alright, i guess i have gathered my thoughts a bit, although not all of them so uh. It's pride month. And In the last couple of weeks or so, I'vebeen thinking a lot about myself, and I'm the opposite of Marina (I don't know at all what I want and who I want to be) but one thing I'm sure? Sort of? I know of it? Oh this is going dogshit already Well, I'm trans! Well.... I wasn't keeping it a secret. But I never used that word to describe me. I guess I was afraid? I always tip-toed around the fact that I wasn't cis, but for some reason, I didnt want to tell myself. But hell, if someone asks you if you're cis and your first response is not "yeah" but "hmmmm mmwell hmmm i guess hmm kinda hmm i mean..." youre probably not! So yeah. I just want to say it clear and loud. I don't know if I will identify with the word trans or another one in the future, but it's time i look at myself in the mirror and say Girl, you are Definetly Not Cis. Like, at all.

Truth is, I've been suffering from dysphoria since I was in middle school. And I knew I was into women and not into men (at least cishetmen) since elementary school. But as some of you know, I never let myself explore my feelings. I came to my sexuality when I was 19. I bottled everything. I don't think it was fear at first.. But since I was 15, I had body disphoria, and no matter how much I was attracted by my body, I could tell something was off. And at around 21 I started bottling these feelings for real. This time I was really afraid. I was afraid of being transmasc? Why? I honestly don't know, this bitch is stupid. I would dread the moment thinking that id have to come out as transmasc despite me not wanting to being one, you know, something cis girls think a lot of the time. And cis girls also do a lot of google researches about ftm surgeries and hormones in the incognito tab. So yeah. I'm sitting here. I'm not really sure how I feel, but I don't feel like an absolute.

Will this be temporary? Maybe? Is this what feels better? Well, a bit better than before, so it's a step forward From now, I'll think of myself as a Bigender Lesbian. I accidentally clicked both gender buttons at the same time so now my gender took a fucking screenshot. My attraction has always been beyond the simple "woman" (quoting a trumblr post,  "“non-binary” means a thousand different things to a thousand different people and therefore anyone of any sexuality could theoretically be attracted to a non-binary person in some capacity.") but I expressed that already in the past, so i guess the new part here is just about the gender I still use she/them as pronoums for now, and I'm currently researching if I fit the criteria to ask for free T therapy (im kinda afraid to give my doctor more than one task at the time, since its more than a year that i want to be tested for autism and i don't want to disrupt that) But yeah. uuh.. I think I said everything I wanted to. Hi

#personali posti #long post #and my two genders are lesbian and gayass 'boy' (allegedly)

[mimikyuno]

Wow thanks for the casual panphobia in that last post

i was for real waiting for this ask 😭

“Pansexual is just another word for bisexual except now you’re being biphobic (and transphobic and homophobic) about it.” is what the post said - and here’s why i agree!

i have seen pansexual defined in millions of different ways since it first appeared. at first, pansexuality was created with the aim to substitute the bisexuality, because young LGBT kids mistakenly thought the the “bi-“ prefix (which in greek means two) meant that bisexuals were attracted to only 2 genders, so they took the prefix away and put pan- in its place, which also comes from greek but means “all” instead of “two”. just by doing this, they clearly created the pansexual label in opposition to bisexuality, advertising the neologism as being more inclusive, and i remember the definition at the time being like “attraction to men, women, trans men, trans women and non binary people” (i think you can still find this definition online somewhere lol!)

bisexuals at the time started to vocalise their discomfort with this new label, as it erased bisexual history and the true meaning of bisexuality, and they highlighted the biphobic origin of the name of the label. trans people were also very uncomfortable with it, why would you need a special label to be attracted to trans men and trans women? trans men are men and trans women are women, not some elusive extra gender. some nb people also pointed out a similar issue, u dont need a special label to be attracted to nb people… even other sexualities (like lesbian, gay, straight etc.) can be attracted and be in a relationship with nb people without it affecting their sexuality/gender identity.

at this point, instead of reading the bisexual manifesto or acknowledging the concerns of actual bisexuals/trans ppl/nb people, pansexuals came up with a new definition, the (honestly TERRIBLE) “hearts not parts”, which was called out for (again) being biphobic because like: are u saying bisexuals only care about “parts”? this defintion was not only biphobic, but also homophobic too; same gender attraction has always been seen as nasty and impure and being only about sex, and to make bisexuality (historically associated with gay people, it is the LGBT community after all) all about sex is a bit (a lot) 😬 yikes

so then the definition changed again; now it’s bi = attraction to more than one gender and pan = attraction regardless of gender and like. im sorry but that’s literally the same thing, just worded differently

so my (and many others’) question is: what’s the point of having two names for the same thing? the post i reblogged was about the dangers of microlabeling, and it being a reflection of individualism and a symptom of late-staged capitalism, and pansexuality is a stark example of that. the word bisexual is enough! as a word, it has history, depth and carries a sense of community; on the other hand, pansexuality was first born out of a misunderstanding of bisexuality and has biphobic, transphobic, and homophobic roots in its (very short) history; the definition differs only in meaningless semantics, and it does not carry any of the history nor sense of community. so like! what’s the point? is it really so important to have both? is it necessary? does it benefit anyone, apart from corporations who can now also sell pan flags and movie studios who now can call it "representation" just bc they claimed in a tweet that a character is “pan” because they want to fuck an alien but otherwise show no signs of same gender attraction? idk stuff i think about a lot i guess!!

anon - im sorry you were hurt! this is my personal stance on this and im open to dialogue, but if you feel uncomfortable and dont wanna engage in a conversation about this feel free to unfollow, i completely understand! 💌

#as a lesbian i dont want to talk too much over bi issues tho tbh! #i had so many conversations about pansexuality with my bi friends over the years and this is the general consensus in my circle #also two of my bi friends used to id as pan for years and they have shared lots of insight on this with me #still #bi friends if you wanna add smth please do #i was here on tumblr when the word pansexuality first appeared and i was all for it till i actually listened to bi people #also as a nb lesbian the old definition used to bug me immensely lol #ANYWAY #happy pride month ig lmao #anonymous #ask

[daydreamtoropova]

Hello! Aroace here and I saw your recent poll, in which you said that if you weren't aroace you'd probably be into any gender because you "care about people's personality and not their gender." You likely didn't mean any harm in it, but you seem like a chill person and I think you'd appreciate knowing that that wording carries some seriously damaging implications. The "hearts not parts" mentality inadvertently casts gay, lesbian, and even straight people in a negative light simply for their innate attraction to only same-gender people. It does not diminish their capacity to appreciate anyone's personality.

Oh my god, I'm so sorry! I did NOT mean that. I have gay friends so I didn't mean to paint them in a negative light. I see where that went.

My thought process was just "Huh. Well if I wasn't a repulsed AroAce person, what would I be?" And thought about it and thought pansexual. Because there is sometimes, as an AroAce (before you actually know the term) of "Oh, do I like this guy? He has a nice personality" but I also had it with "Oh, do I like this girl? She has a nice personality." I was mostly just curious as

The demographic of AroAce people (that's why I put man, woman, non-binary/other. I consider myself genderless so that's that)

What thought process do they go through until they figure out they're AroAce (I went through phases about "liking" boys and girls and whatever gender characters so at first I thought I was Pan who just wasn't interested in anybody equally. And I was kinda curious about if that was just me or what other people thought about that)

For AroAce people who are in QPR relationships and etc., and what gender are they with

That's like the most part. I was just curious about how people think about it. I didn't mean to insult or hurt anybody. I just saw myself as pansexual because I don't care about gender and if I wasn't AroAce I'd probably like to experience both genders. I'd imagine people could also imagine themselves being gay because they're more comfortable with their own gender. Or imagine being straight because they're more comfortable being the opposite gender. And so on.

Thank you for telling me as I didn't mean any harm to it and would like to keep my peeps around. I'll edit the poll to include a link to this post. Thank you for being nice when telling me about this!

Link to the poll in question.

#aroace #lgbtqia

[madelineariah]

2023/April 7th - First Feelings

I first realized I was transgender when I was twelve years old.

Prior to this, I’d never really considered the difference between boys and girls. I spent a fair amount of time in elementary school having boys as friends and girls as friends. When I got to middle school, that was when the differences started to become more apparent for me. It led me to discover this superstition that if one could lick their own elbow, they could turn into the opposite gender.

When I realized I wanted this really badly for some reason, I began to scour the internet for answers. I found out that some animals could actually change sex during their life cycle, and then I found out that humans could change their physical appearance using hormones and/or surgery.

At fourteen, I came out to my parents. They didn’t take it well at first – thinking it was a phase. My teenage years were rough as result, and it wasn’t until age 18 that I was able to start living as a woman full-time. Thankfully, my parents became more accepting as I entered my 20s, and I am fortunate enough to be on good terms with them even now at 29.

It was at 26 that I changed my legal name and legal sex. Because my home state had allowed a change to non-binary, that was what I changed to. I did so because while I see myself as more female than male, I don’t feel like the binary has ever really fit me.

As I flesh out this blog, I am going to talk a lot about the challenges I faced starting in my teenage years and continuing all the way into the present. A lot of these memories are very painful for me, and finding the right words is going to be difficult at times.

Society has never been very kind to people like me. Many people assume the worst in me, and many others will only recognize me as a girl if they think I am attractive. This has led me to do many reckless and risky things to try and appear attractive to others – often with consequences to my health and well-being.

I feel like, in order to be comfortable in my own skin, certain conditions have had to be met:

My face needs to appear feminine at all times. I want my face to be as soft and smooth as possible, and I get very dysphoric when I have blemishes or if even the slightest amount of facial stubble is visible. One thing I didn’t mind about the pandemic was I could keep my face covered to hide the dysphoria I felt. As for the hair atop my head, I keep it longer in winter and shorter in summer, but I always agonize whether my hairstyle fits the shape of my face or not.

My arms and legs need to be smooth as well. Hair removal in these areas becomes an obsession for me. I often do not feel comfortable showing my legs, and I often wear tights under shorts to cover them up.

While I have conditioned my voice to be more feminine, I can’t help but feel like I sound like a smoker. I have a mid-tonal, nasally, almost throaty voice that is only mitigated by the inflections of my speech. Some people say they love my voice, but I can’t understand why.

At the core of my feminine self are the facets of flexibility and bodily motion. Women are naturally predisposed to a greater flexibility than men. As a child, I became obsessed with stretching – even after having spinal surgery (more on that in a future post). As I get older and my mobility atrophies due to some chronic health problems (again, more on that later), I become a lot more critical of my body and my “worth” as a transgirl. It has in the past led me to push my body to the point of injury, and I regret that I couldn’t stop myself from being that way.

Throughout my life, I have sought validation and approval from others by showing off my body to them. I can’t undo these actions, and I have to live with the fact it has shattered my self-worth more than it’s helped. When others reject me because of my body, it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to call myself a woman. Yet when people accept my body, it leads to me allowing those people to sexualize me and to take advantage of my vulnerabilities.

Throughout my life, I have considered myself an object for others to enjoy. I have dehumanized myself over and over again. It has taken me to some incredible extremes that I’m sure will raise a few eyebrows when I bring them up in the future.

Once you take all of that away, however… I don’t know what truly defines me as a woman. I am aware it has nothing to do with social roles – men can like girly things, and girls can like manly things. It’s like… being a woman is something that is intimately felt for me.

When I close my eyes and introspect upon my spirit and how it relates to the universe, there is a feminine shape which stands before me. There is a feminine self which resides within me and embodies the identity of Madeline Ariah. I feel affirmation in being perceived as feminine. The label of woman isn’t what makes that true for me, but it’s the closest thing I have to codifying that existence.

Even if I can’t be the ideal woman, I want to be the ideal me. I hope that isn’t too much to ask, to want, to strive for…

#journal #diary entry #transgirl

[chaos-storm]

´´It´s not gay enough.´´ I say as I make one of the main characters of my book a lesbian in a happy relationship where both of them end the story alive and well

#The main character is non-binary and aro/ace #Then we have Thalia who´s lesbian #Sylas is bi AF but I haven´t written anything into the story yet where he talks about his sexuality #Thorowal is the closest we get to a cis/straight guy but he´s not straight #Like is there a word for being attracted to the opposite gender AND Non-binary people #And I don´t mean AFAB NB people - NB people in general

[ackermanslov4r]

I wrote something like that a while ago,but since i can't seem to find it again i'm just going to rewrite it :)

To begin, I don't really think Levi has an ideal type , since he never seriously thinks about getting in a relationship. It's not that he don't want to experience love ; he just don't think that it's something for him,and he wants to spare himself the pain of eventually losing the person he loves.

But,as for everyone,there is obviously some type of person and personality that Levi would have more facility loving,or disliking.

First of all, I personally don't think he cares about gender ; if he ever falls in love,it's because of a person's personality and whole being,and not their gender. Man,woman,non-binary...as long as both of your personalities fits each other,Levi doesn't care. It's the same for physical appearance , it's not something Levi pay much attention to.

If Levi ever gets in a relationship,it would definitely be with someone he'd known for a long time,with whom he shares a strong bond that took years to build. If you're not someone patient,who's willing to wait the time needed (literal decades with Levi) to make sure all the good conditions are reassembled to begin the relationship, Levi will probably not try something with you. As someone who has lost many people, Levi won't engage himself emotionally,especially not romantically, if it's not with someone he truly trust and know he will spend the rest of his life with.

However,patience is not the only criteria required. Levi is a man who,despite his cold demeanour , loved too many people who aren't in his life anymore. Levi's ideal type would be someone able to understand all the issues that comes from these loses , such as a fear of letting people too close to his heart in fear of abandonment , or him acting as he doesn't care about you because he tries to protect himself by acting like that. He has a very complex personality,so the most important thing for his significant other would be to understand him,and above all,accept him and care for him,no matter what. Completely understanding each other,most of the time without sharing a word,is the utmost necessary thing for Levi,and it can only comes after years of building each other's bond before the relationship.

Levi doesn't need someone with the same cold personality as him , he simply needs someone able to understand his. He could as well date an introvert than an extrovert ; as long as they understand when he wants to do certain things. I do think Levi will be more attracted and will benefits more with a s/o who's personality is quite the opposite of his ; dating someone extroverted,who smiles easily and is outgoing will definitely have a really great influence on Levi.

Levi,with all the things he experienced,will not look twice,however,at someone with a childish behaviour. He needs someone mature,able to understand him and with whom he can have profound conversations,as well as normal ones about simple things like the weather. He needs someone with whom he's able to stay silent for hours without feeling uncomfortable, someone who won't try to make him jealous on purpose , and above all,someone who always somehow has the right words.

Being in a relationship with Levi means sharing an high level of intimacy,the type you only read in book or see in fairytales. It's understanding each other with a single look,knowing what the other needs by the way they're standing. Once again,this type of relationship is only something you can get after knowing each other for a long time.

To conclude ,Levi needs someone able to make him feel seen,feel loved,understood. He needs someone who will hold him tightly during the night and kiss his scars. He needs someone who can see through his cold persona , someone who can see the sensitive and caring man that's behind it,the man who got hurt too often and never fully recovered. Being with Levi would be a relationship with complete and unconditional love,a soulmate type of love. It would not be something easy because of his many issues,so this is why Levi's ideal type would need to be someone who's strong,caring,patient,and mature.

#not proof read #attack on titan #levi ackerman headcanons #levi ackerman #aot hcs #levi headcanons #captain levi #anime #levi aot #levi ackerman x you #levi ackerman x reader #levi x you #levi x reader #levi x y/n #levi ackerman fic #levi ackerman oneshot #levi imagine #levi ackerman x reader hc #levi hc #levixreader

[rat-bisexual]

A lot of bisexual history has been erased so I figured I’d remind you all of some quotes and clear up any misunderstandings about bisexuality.

Bisexuality has been described as attraction regardless of gender for decades

"I am bisexual because I am drawn to people regardless of gender"

-‘The Bisexual Community: Are We Visible Yet?’, 1987

“In the midst of whatever hardships we [bisexuals] had encountered, this day we worked with each other to preserve our gift of loving people for who they are regardless of gender.”

-Elissa M., “Bi Conference,” Bi Women, 1985

“To be bisexual is to have the potential to be open emotionally and sexually to people as people, regardless of their gender.”

-Office Pink Publishing, “Introduction,” Bisexual Lives, 1988

“Being bisexual does not mean they have sexual relations with both sexes but that they are capable of meaningful and intimate involvement with a person regardless of gender.”

-Janet Bode, “The Pressure Cooker,” View From Another Closet, 1976

“Over the past fifteen years, however, [one Caucasian man] has realized that he is ‘attracted to people — not their sexual identity’ and no longer cares whether his partners are male or female. He has kept his Bi identity and now uses it to refer to his attraction to people regardless of their gender.”  

-Paula C. Rust, “Sexual Identity and Bisexual Identities,” Queer Studies: A Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Anthology, 1998

“In the midst of whatever hardships we [bisexuals] had encountered, this day we worked with each other to preserve our gift of loving people for who they are regardless of gender.”

-Elissa M., “Bi Conference,” Bi Women, 1985

“To be bisexual is to have the potential to be open emotionally and sexually to people as people, regardless of their gender.”

-Office Pink Publishing, “Introduction,” Bisexual Lives, 1988

Bisexuality doesn’t have to mean a person “sees gender”

“[S]ome bisexuals say they are blind to the gender of their potential lovers and that they love people as people… For the first group, a dichotomy of genders between which to choose doesn’t seem to exist”

-Kathleen Bennett, “Feminist Bisexuality, a Both/And Option for an Either/Or World,” Closer to Home: Bisexuality and Feminism,1992

"Some bisexual respondents bypass the issue of 'degrees' of attraction to women and men by defining bisexuals as a humanistic, gender-blind way of relating to others. They see bisexuality as a way of loving the person, not their sex, or being nondiscrimintory in their attractions to others. For example, Ludwica wrote, 'I feel as if I'm open to respond to the person, not just the gender.' "

-"Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics: Sex, Loyalty, and Revolution" by Paula C Rust 1995

“I believe that people fall in love with individuals, not with a sex… I believe most of us will end up acknowledging that we love certain people or, perhaps, certain kinds of people, and that gender need not be a significant category, though for some of us it may be.”

Ruth Hubbard, ‘There Is No ‘Natural’ Human Sexuality, Bi Women’ ,1986

“Some women who call themselves ‘bisexual’ insist that the gender of their lover is irrelevant to them, that they do not choose lovers on the basis of gender.”

-Marilyn Murphy, “Thinking About Bisexuality,” Bi Women, 1991

“Some of us are bisexual because we do not pay much attention to the gender of our attractions.”

-Bisexual Politics, Quiries and Visions, 1995

Bisexuality is inclusive of all genders

“Who is this group for exactly? Anyone who identifies as bisexual or thinks they are attracted to or interested in all genders… This newly formed [support] group is to create a supportive, safe environment for people who are questioning their sexual orientation and think they may be bisexual.”

-“Coming Out as Bisexual,” Bi Women, 1994

“It’s easier, I believe, for exclusive heterosexuals to tolerate (and that’s the word) exclusive homosexuals than [bisexuals] who, rejecting exclusivity, sleep with people not genders…”

-Martin Duberman, 1974 “The bisexual community should be a place where lines are erased. Bisexuality dismisses, disproves, and defies dichotomies. It connotates a loss of rigidity and absolutes. It is an inclusive term.” -‘Essay for the Inclusion of Transsexuals’, Kory Martin-Damon, 1995

“Bisexual — being emotionally and physically attracted to all genders.”

-The Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network, “Out of the Past: Teacher’s Guide” 1999

"Bisexuality is much more than, and different from, the sensationalized 'third choice, best of both worlds' phenomena it's made out to be. Bisexuality is an inclusive term that defines immense possibilities avalable to us, whether we act on them or not."

-"Bi Any Other Name", Loraine Hutchens and Lani Ku'ahumany, 1991

"Bisexual consciousness, because of its amorphous quality and inclusive nature, posed a fundamental threat to the dualistic and exclusionary thought patterns which were- and still are- tenaciously held by both the gay liberation leadership and its enemies."

-"The Bisexual Movement's Beginnings in the 70s'', Bisexual politics, Naomi Tucker, 1995

Bisexuality historically and currently includes transgender and nonbinary people

“With respect to our integrity as bisexuals, it is our responsibility to include transgender people in our language, in our communities, in our politics, and in our lives”

-Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queries, and Visions by Naomi S Tucker, 1995

"Bisexuality is here defined as the capacity , regardless of the sexual identity label one chooses , to love and sexually desire both same - and other - gendered individuals . The term other-gendered is used here deliberately and is preferable to the term opposite - gendered , because other - gendered encompasses a recognition of the existence of transgendered and transsexual individuals , who may embrace gender identities other than [male and female]"

-"Bisexuality: The Psychology and Politics of an Invisible Minority" by Beth A. Firestein and Dallas Denny, 1996

“From the earliest years of the bi community, significant numbers of TV/TS [transvestite/transsexual] and transgender people have always been involved with it. The bi community served as a kind of refuge for people who felt excluded from the established gay and lesbian communities.”

-Kevin Lano, “Bisexuality and Transgenderism,” Anything That Moves, 1998

"Bisexuality means having the capacity to be attracted to people of both major genders ( don't forget: there are gender minorities, too) ." “As with the word Bisexual, they usually also imply that relations with gender minorities are possible.”

-‘Bisexuality: A Reader and a Sourcebook’, 1990

“There were a lot of transvestites and transsexuals who came to [the San Francisco Bisexual Center in the 1970s], because they were not going to be turned away because of the way they dressed.”

-David Lourea in “Bisexual Histories in San Francisco in the 1970s and Early 1980s,” Dworkin, 2000 Journal of Bisexuality

"The actual lived non-binary history of the bisexual community and movement and the inclusive culture and community spirit of bisexuals are eradicated when a binary interpretation of our name for ourselves is arbitrarily assumed."

-"Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out" by Lani Ka’ahumanu

"In the bisexual movement as a whole, transgendered individuals are celebrated not only as an aspect of the diversity of the bisexual community, but, because like bisexuals, they do not fit neatly into dichotomous categories."

-"Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics" by Paula C. Rust, 1995

#bisexual #bisexual history #bi pride #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq history #lgbt history

[mrsbrekkers]

could you do a jesper x reader where the reader is more on the emotionless side and is always lowkey angry at the world and jesper is always happy/flirty?? I love that type of trope sm!!!

first request yEEEEE. i got this during work and practically jumped up and down 1; because i love jesper. 2; i actually didn’t think people who request. 3; because it gave me something to do when i got home lol

i hope this is up to what you were looking for! i didn’t quite have an idea for backstory in terms of your request, so i left that up to interpretation. plus, i haven’t written jesper before +++ this is the first one-shot i’ve written IN AGES

pairings; jesper x reader / kaz x inej + nina x matthias ( mentioned )

reader is non-gender specific because jesper is a bi-con and i want this to be seen as either female, male, non-binary pals, whatever one identifies with!

warnings; like one or two swearwords? guns, the usual soc stuff? and not edited in terms of grammar, etc.

word count; 2026 ( p proud mom here )

one shot under cut!

BOATS WERE MADE TO CREATE LAUGHS

The world was cruel.

Anyone who’d lived long enough in the barrel knew that, and still, somehow, Jesper Fahey managed to be as happy as he was. Whether it be after he’d lost all of his money gambling, or during a job gone wrong? Jesper Fahey never seemed all too affected by the barrel and the shit it’d throw at The Crows. Maybe it was because he was good at hiding his affliction. Maybe he’d become used to it, and simply decided to have a better onlook when it came to such affliction. Whatever it was?

The same couldn’t be said for Y/N.

Becoming used to the affliction wasn’t in the cards for them, but hiding it was. Keeping a stoic face, always observant. There was rarely a smile on their face. Inej had coined the stoic look as ‘The Brekker Stare’. Kaz had started it, but slowly Y/N grew to use it as well. It was easy to be emotionless. It made one more equipped to face danger and problems that arose. Or, that’s what Y/N’s excuse was when they were teased about using ‘The Brekker Stare’.

Missions were always the hardest to keep that stoic look on. Especially when paired with Jesper. It wasn’t that Y/N hated the boy, quite the opposite actually. They admired his ability to stay so joyful in a place such as the barrel. Sometimes they wished it was as easy as Jesper made it seem. Maybe that’s why they’d rather be paired with Nina, but that spot was reserved for Matthias - courtesy of Kaz Brekker and his secret want for them to work out their relationship. Inej was a good choice for a partner, but she worked either alone, or with Kaz. Rarely with anyone outside of those choices. Wylan made a good partner too, but Kaz and his reasons.

That left Jesper and Y/N.

The mission seemed simple enough - sneak into The Emerald Palace to gather information on what Rollin’s next move was. Eavesdropping seemed easy enough for The Crows. Inej was doing what she did best: moved quietly. Wylan posed as a new waiter, his hair tailored by Nina to appear brunette. Nina and Matthais acted as a drunk couple at the gambling table a few away from Jesper and Y/N.

“This is going to go horribly wrong,” Y/N spoke as they’d gone over the plan numerous times in their head. One, how would the Dime Lions not notice who they were? Nina was a good enough tailor, but she wasn’t a phenomenal one. Certainly not Genya Safin phenomenal. She was a heartrender after all. Two, they may not even receive the information they’d need. Three, if they were caught, that information would be useless.

“Oh come on Y/N, don’t be so down about the world. It hasn’t killed us yet,” Jesper responded. To which, Y/N simply gave a glare. Surely it hadn’t killed them, but it’d killed enough people for them to be mad at it.

“It won’t go horribly wrong as long as the two of you don’t bicker like children,” Kaz said with a wave of his cane between the two.

Gambling, a wonderful way to gather information. Whatever Kaz’s reasons for this mission was, Y/N wasn’t going to question it. They’d rather do their job, get their cut, and then return to the Slat. It was easier that way, but Jesper decided it wasn’t easier that way tonight.

“I’m raising, what do you think darling?” Jesper asked, his eyes glancing up at Y/N, who sat on his leg. 

“Raising with a hand like that?” Y/N asked out loud, raising an eyebrow. “You’re asking to be stung, dear.” They were bluffing, but doing a beautiful job so. Jesper had a royal flush - which in terms of luck tonight, was the best he’d had.

“Oh come on darling, it’s a wonderful hand. Money grabber at that!” Jesper said, his lips pouting out. Y/N would never understand how men could fall for such an act, but it seemed they didn’t have brains.

The men around them smirked, amused. They seemed to think they’d won, and with everyone raising and placing their hands down, Jesper chuckled. It was easy to play drunk men, and with Wylan continuously supplying them with alcohol, even easier to gain information.

“Boss is going to kill me,” one of the men murmured, making Y/N’s eyes shoot over in their direction. Their attention seemed taken then, eyes narrowing. Glancing down at Jesper, they nodded in the direction of the man.

“And why would that be?” One of the drunk men across the table asked. It seemed the men would do the work for Jesper and Y/N.

Easier for us, Y/N thought. Indeed it was. Words spilled from the men’s mouths, and before they’d known it, they learned of a job Rollins planned to have lined up. It was going well, until one of the men decided to become handsy with Y/N.

“A pretty one you’ve got here,” he spoke, causing Y/N to scowl. Pretty is not what you’ll be thinking when I break your nose. “Mind if I have a go at them?” The man added his hands finding their place on Y/N’s waist. Before Jesper could step in, Y/N’s leg lifted, the man doubling over at the pain that seared through his groin. 

“Touch me again, I dare you.” The commotion had caused men a part of the Dime Lions to step forward from around the room. Realizing they’d been compromised, Y/N glanced over at Wylan, nodding and then grabbing Jesper’s arm. “Close your eyes,” They said before a flash bomb went off, the room ringing as the two exited the back door, Kaz waiting mere feet away from it.

“Remember what I mentioned about not bickering like children?!” Kaz asked, rolling his eyes. Maybe if you didn’t pair us together, Brekker, we wouldn’t bicker. But Y/N knew better than to say that outloud to their boss. It was asking to be punished in some out of the box, Kaz Brekker way.

“The men got all handsy with Y/N! I must say that was rather attractive back there! Showing them who’s a badass!” Jesper yelled across the commotion as they began to run down the alleys of the barrel, leaving Kaz behind with Inej who’d jumped down as silent as the night. How she did that, Jesper and Y/N would contemplate together.

“This is not the time Jesper!” Y/N yelled, rolling their eyes.

“Oh come on, no flirting with me?!” 

“Jesper, we’re being chased by Dime Lions wanting to murder us, no I’m not going to flirt with you right now!” Then Y/N slipped down one of the alleyways, pulling Jesper’s arm. Coming to the edge of the canal Kaz had prepped with a boat in case this happened, Y/N jumped down into the boat with Jesper.

“Go,” Y/N said to Rotty who had been waiting. Then down the canal they were going. Out of breath and going down the canal, the trio rest in silence for a few moments.

“For a mission gone wrong, I’d say that was pretty successful,” Jesper said, showing the money he’d managed to grab from the table before the two of them had to run.

“Money? That’s what you call successful? It’ll be gone by tomorrow night at the Crow Club, we both know that,” Y/N said, huffing as they became situated on the boat. It was small, but it made do for the three on the boat. Their face held the usual stoic look, but just the smallest bit of anger broke through.

“The Brekker Stare is happening again, but is that . . . is that anger I see?” Jesper teased his face falling into the same look Y/N currently held.

“Jesper, this isn’t funny. We almost just died. Kaz is going to kill us. Are none of the consequences we’re going to experience angering you?” Y/N asked, their stoic face falling into semi panic. They were so going to experience the wrath of Kaz Brekker when they were safe and back at the Slat. Or the Crow Club. Whichever one they were found at first.

“All the information we just gathered? Is worth nothing because Rollins knows we were there. What was the one thing we were all supposed to manage?” Y/N wasn’t sure who they were mad at more. The man at the Emerald Palace was one of the people they were mad at, but also Jesper for always somehow, even after almost dying, being so flirty and happy. They’d never understand it.

“Getting out silently,” Jesper huffed. He knew Y/N was right, but he couldn’t help himself. Having a crush on your mission partner never made things easy. “But come on, you got to see me looking this dashing tonight,” he reminded, winking.

“I’m really beginning to think you don’t care for your life,” Y/N said with a small shake of their head, just the smallest laugh leaving their lips. Guns and all, Jesper still seemed oblivious to the fact that they’d just been shot at and found out by Pekka Rollins.

“Was that a laugh?” Jesper said with wide eyes, smirking.

Dammit. “No, no it wasn’t,” Y/N said, composing them-self.

“Oh yes it was, and it was angelic. You should laugh more. Do less of The Brekker Stare and more of The Y/N Angelic Laugh,” Jesper deemed, smiling like an idiot.

Then they couldn’t hold it in, and Y/N let the laugh completely consume them. “The Y/N Angelic Laugh? You’ve already coined it?”

“Indeed I did, and I will be taking full credit for this one. Inej took The Brekker Stare from me. This one is coined by me, Jesper Fahey, from this day, until the last.” Jesper had spent years trying to make Y/N laugh, and he’d almost deemed it impossible - but he always had his ways, and they finally had worked.

“I think I’ll be asking Inej to recoin it, thank you,” Y/N spoke as they exited the boat, thanking Rotty. They tossed their green outfit off, their usual black attire hidden underneath. Unaware of Jesper behind them, checking them out per usual.

“I think not. Inej wouldn’t believe I even made you laugh. Do you want her to know you can show emotion that isn’t being angry or pessimistic?” Jesper asked, standing from the boat. He loved teasing Y/N. It was among his favorite pastimes.

Y/N simply rolled their eyes, kicking Jesper in the shin. “I’ll have you know that the girls have seen me laugh.”

“Why don’t I believe that for a second?” Jesper asked. Because it isn’t entirely true. But why would Y/N give Jesper that satisfaction? They weren’t sure. Maybe it was because for once, they were experiencing feelings they hadn’t in a while.

“Because, the girls wouldn’t tell you if I had laughed.”

“No, no. Nina tells us everything. She tells us when Matthias checks her out, how Kaz does his little glance at Inej every time we’re about to leave for a mission, about how I stare at you for too long. I think she’d tell me about you laughing,” Jesper declared, making Y/N stop in their tracks.

He was good. They’d give him that. “You stare at me for too long?” Y/N turned their boot skidding along the wet concrete of Ketterdam.

“Oh yes, Nina declares it’s because I find you attractive, which I do, but you already knew that,” Jesper said, shrugging.

“Hmm,” Y/N simply said, their lips quirking for a moment in thought. “Fine, they haven’t heard me laugh,” and that was the only thing Y/N said before turning back to walk towards the Crow Club, leaving Jesper there with a dorkish grin.

As Jesper began to follow, he chuckled. “I made Y/N L/N laugh,” and with a skip and pull of his coat in victory, he declared he’d hear that sound again.

#jesper fahey #jesper six of crows #jesper x milo #soc jesper #six of crows #crooked kingdom #kanej #kaz x inej #jesper x reader #shadow and bone #one shot #kaz brekker #inej ghafa #nina zenik #wylan van eck #wylan van sunshine #fluffy #fanfiction

[its-tea-time-darling]

ok, so bc it‘s pride month i feel it‘s ok for me to sway a little from the maze runner content i usually post on here, and i wanna talk to you guys about bisexuality

like there‘s so many people who have so many misconceptions about bisexuality it‘s so sad???

so, let‘s get some things cleared up

bisexuality means whatever bisexuality means to that 1 specific person

there‘s a lot of different definitions of bisexuality out there

a specific bisexual ALWAYS has the last word about what it means to them

the one that i personally find the most beautiful is the one given by bisexual legend robyn ochs (now 62), and it goes as follows:

„I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”

for the vast majority of bi people, bisexuality is NOT BINARY

it‘s weird that so many non-bi people think that, and bi people have been reiterating that bisexuality is not binary for a long, long time

there‘s a lot of people who are non-binary and bisexual

the following is an excerpt feom „the bisexual manifesto“, from 1990:

„Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: That we have „two“ sides, or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, do not assume that there are only two genders.“ (emphasis mine)

here is an image of the entire bisexual manifesto published in the „anything that moves“ magazine bc it‘s so good (tell me in the comments if you need an image description i don‘t have the energy to do one right now)

moving on from the „binary trap“:

a lot of bisexual people fear that they‘re not queer enough

so much so that the following is one of the most polular bi memes of all time: (same here, tell me if you need an image description please)

just to reiterate:

bi people are bi regardless of their dating experiences

bi people are bi regardless of their relationship status

bi people are still bi when they are in opposite-gender relationships

same goes for bi people who are in same-gender relationships: still. bi.

sexuality can change over time. if someone who labeled themselves as bi now uses a different label that doesn‘t invalidate the time when they were bi (my best friend used to be bi, now she is a lesbian, and that. does. not. invalidate. either. sexuality.)

bisexuals do not need to be „50-50“ to be „true“ bisexuals

that is such a weird concept

to a lot of bi people, which genders they‘re attracted to fluctuates with time

we jokingly call this the „bi-cycle“ (like a bicycle do you get it it‘s funny)

some bi people feel like to them, gender doesn‘t matter in their attraction

some people feel that gender matters greatly in their attraction

this is put beautifully into words by Naomi Tucker in „The Next Natural Step“, 1995 (see, bisexual activism has existed for a long, long time!)

all ways of experiencing bisexuality are equally valid

i personally am of the type „gender such wow amazing much different for every gender“

like my attraction to women feels different to my attraction to agender people feels different to my attraction to men feels different to my attraction to non-binary people fells different to - you get it.

to me even how i perceive my own gender changes with the gender of the person i‘m attracted to (wiild i know right)

bisexuality, pansexuality, polysexuality and omnisexuality are. not. enemies.

they‘re all valid, they may overlap, they may be very distinct in the eye of a specific person WHICH IS ALL VALID

they are all non-monosexual identities (attraction to more than 1 gender)

they are all very cool

going on about labels: „bi-curious“ is a super cool label and i love everyone who uses it (i do not love people who take it upon themselves to label other people with it though)

like a guy i dated once told me i was only bi-curious bc i hadn‘t kissed a girl yet and i was like ???

very cool books about bisexuality include the following ones:

„Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution“ by Shiri Eisner, 2013:

„The Bi-Ble: Essays and Personal Narratives about Bisexuality“, Vol. 1 and 2, 2017 and 2019

„Purple Prose: Bisexuality in Britain“, Kate Harrad, 2016

that‘s it for today, i hope you enjoyed this post

take care everyone i love you

#bisexual #bisexuality #lgbtqia+ #pride month #robyn ochs #the bisexual manifesto #bisexual history