#MomForAMinute

[momforaminute-x]

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#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #https://gofund.me/575e9fbc

[purlturtle]

Purlturtle's social media handling

This is how I curate my social media - sharing this in the hope to help others!

First, turn off push notifications. Do social media at your pace - meaning, you decide when you open the app or browser tab. Don't let a symbol in your notif bar, or a little red number in your app symbol, dictate your usage. YOU decide.

Then, ignore the algorithm at all costs. Ignore every "for you" page. Ignore trending pages. Ignore "your friends are following X" messages. Again, you decide who and what comes into your timeline. Check if there are third-party apps that will prevent ads etc. in your timeline - that's something I do for Twitter, and it is SO much better for my peace of mind. I see only tweets from people I have decided to follow, and nothing else. I venture into Tumblr's "for you" page only when I'm terminally bored - and frankly, I could probably use that time for better things. Like knitting, or writing, or eating a snack.

Next, unfollow, block and mute liberally. Learn to recognize types of content and types of posts that upset you, and avoid them through unfollowing, muting, or blocking. Let's say news about turtles bother you, upset you, or even trigger you: mute/filter the word "turtle", "turtles", any variation as necessary. Unfollow accounts that post predominantly about turtles. If someone keeps pushing news about turtles on you, block 'em. Even if they do so with the best intentions: if it bothers you, block 'em. You don't owe anyone your ears, your eyes, your compassion. You don't owe anyone any explanations, either. Insensitive comments? Clowning? Insults? Block 'em. Let's say seeing people's go-fund-mes upsets you because much though you'd like to contribute, you can't: mute/filter the buzzwords. It's okay, I promise. The culprit here is not you preserving your mental health, it's a system that forces people to fundraise for their health, safety, shelter etc. Self-protection and self-preservation go first, any day. (I have muted the names of several countries, even, because the news coming from there is so dire, and I can't help, and even just having to constantly scroll by requests for help or donations or "spread the word" upset me. "The world needs to be watching" doesn't mean I have to put my mental health in jeopardy.) Be rigorous. Be ruthless. Protect yourself.

Lastly, leave a site or community entirely if it's not a good place for you. I was on Reddit for quite a while, and the subreddits I was in were generally nice and kind places (r/LGBT, r/momforaminute, that kind of thing). And still they dragged me down too much. So I left. Completely. It wasn't easy, and it felt like giving up - I was trying to do good things there, after all! But there were plenty of other people doing the same thing, and, self-protection and self-preservation go first. Leaving was the right thing for me to do.

A lot of social media is designed to channel your attention to what's most profitable to the owner. Take back the steering wheel, and send your attention only to where you want it. Look up "how to mute a word on Twitter" or "how to block someone on Tumblr" if you don't know how to do these things - all that info is out there!

I love being on social media, I love the friends I've made here. And by employing the above strategies, being on social media is recharging my happiness instead of draining it - and that's how it should be!

#social media #how to #self-preservation on social media

[arkon-z]

I'll probably be fine tomorrow, but I'm just going to be annoyed about it right now. Maybe I was looking forward to another road trip with my best friend, and maybe I was getting excited about splitting a hotel room with her so we could actually have some extended fun together. But NO, suddenly her partner changed his mind and now he wants to come, so obviously she's going to stay in a room with HIM instead of us. I thought I was over my stupid jealousy, but I guess not.

I am SO TIRED of chasing after everyone's attention. And I don't know if I really am upset or if I'm getting another hormone spike (but it's the wrong part of the month for that), or maybe I'm just all wound up from reading r/momforaminute. Seeing those posters get mom sympathy from strangers just makes me cry and I don't know why. Maybe it's all the love and genuine support. And it's not even me that's getting it! Why am I like this? Is something wrong with me?

#rant #it's one of the most wholesome subreddits i've ever seen #and i don't know why it's got me like this

[moonarchnight]

r/momforaminute - Post deleted

I went and read ALL the rules for momforaminute its a reddit meant to help people who are victims of a mother wound. I went there confessing I didn't want to be strong anymore I want to be loved. Because I was thinking I'd get comforting messages that I wish I could hear from my mother just once. They removed my post when it was being held for moderation and never told me why. It was not nsfw It was not advertising, spam or belief pushing It was NOT a letter to MY mother

It was not a question it was not a survey not crowd funding No links No s*icide or harm topics no medical advice / guidance Was not about death or grief Was not requests to chat Was not a fetish thing It was not about abuse, I made sure it wasn't explicitly about abuse and was focused on my feelings

They have NO rules against karma and it was NOT an auto mod since auto mod is instant.

I didn't ever violate their rules in the past, never posted before on their reddit in the past not even the comments section, I only ever browsed and read before. My post history on my whole reddit account is me asking about dentists in my town and relating and comforting to someone with tourettes. Thats it.

It followed EVERY rule, I waited 24 hours for them to even get around to looking at it, and they STILL removed it. I have seen posts that say the exact same things I did, the ONLY difference is I mentioned being AUTISTIC of finding out my autism diagnosis. This is NOT the first subreddit to pull something like this.

I don't know whats going on, its not that they aren't accepting posts because other people are still posting. I don't know wtf their problem is. Literally the only things I can think of is A. its the karma and an unwritten rule and some mods are karma snobs or B. someone is ableist on the mod team. Reddit really is just a cesspool of echo chambers and hate for no reason denying access and help to people all the time I have had similar issues with AITA and Offmychest when I mentioned disabilities then too..and again I suspect ableism at play. Anyone else have any idea of whats going on or can share any experiences?

#reddit #autism #neurodivergent

[momforaminute-x]

Mom, I work at a fancy restaurant and got coffee spilled all over my work shirt. I don’t have money and it’s the only shirt I have. I tried soda water and that ain’t working. What should I do??

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Mom #I work at a fancy restaurant and got coffee spilled all over my

[momforaminute-x]

"7 Teachers were pregnant at the same time in Kansas elementary school". Hey Mom.. is this a daydream?

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #"7 Teachers were pregnant at the same time in Kansas elementary scho

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Hey mom, can you give me fashion advice? I can’t decide which skirt to buy

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Hey mom #can you give me fashion advice? I can’t decide which skirt

[momforaminute-x]

Cute Pregnancy Announcement onesie

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Cute Pregnancy Announcement onesie

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Someone customized this corgi resin diorama for his mother

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Someone customized this corgi resin diorama for his mother

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Mum, I’m barely holding it together. I tried to be reckless and let off steam, but instead I just ended up looking into a distorted mirror of my own three decades of trauma, and breaking down about it.

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Mum #I’m barely holding it together. I tried to be reckless and let

[momforaminute-x]

hey mom, i finally finished one of my overdue summatives!

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #hey mom #i finally finished one of my overdue summatives!

[momforaminute-x]

hey mom, i finally tried cross stitch for the first time. what do you think?

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #hey mom #i finally tried cross stitch for the first time. what do yo

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Hi mom! I finally finished my art project that I've been working on for months

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Hi mom! I finally finished my art project that I've been working on

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Hey mom I'm really nervous about my art. I know I just posted here very recently, but posting it made me feel so much better, so I thought I would post my art because I think I'm decent at it, but I still get nervous due to annoyed responses I get

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Hey mom I'm really nervous about my art. I know I just posted here v

[momforaminute-x]

Mama app, like the support all the moms on here give us ❤️ thank you all

#MomForAMinute #mom for a minute #Mama app #like the support all the moms on here give us ❤️ thank you