#NO HATE TO YOU ANON I value your opinion and I think it is true and correct to Levi’s POV

[ro55ocorsa]

Honestly atp? I would gladly love for Carlos to quite that freaking toxic Leclerc cult that Ferrari is becoming. Like wtf are you talking about with "pausing the contract negotiation" while at the same time already preparing to have Leclerc for almost a whole more decade??? Like wth ??? Especially when besides Mclaren Charlos are the best drivers pairing for Ferrari. I'd argue the drivers aren't even remotely close to be the problem!!!

Also wtf is that ungrateful attitude with Carlos when he brought you your last fucking win! Like I freaking hate this. Also The Charles girlies should just admit they want to fuck Leclerc and get over it. Like I'm so fed up with them. Especially if they are the reason why Carlos will have to leave.

Ferrari will mess up big if they part way with Carlos. I'd argue that if they want Leclerc as their next WC, they SHOULD keep Carlos because he will never be a threat to Charles (not my opinion but the gen opinion I disagree with it). While going with another driver aka Alex will back fire greatly. But anyway if Ferrari wants to mess up not my problem I'll continue to support Carlos 🧡

Also I will not send this ask in anon I don't care about the haters let them come at me 😈

yeah i agree with this. I think Charles and Carlos are a very strong pairing just from the 'they work well together' stand point. That might change if there ever really was a championship on the line, but even if they fight on track they seem to get on well and their own strengths make up for the others weakness. But yeah. It's pretty clear who is most valued at Ferrari. Charles is THE golden boy for them and he is going to be 100% the priority, and Carlos the 2nd driver. Thats how its going to be with anyone until Charles stops driving for them, plain and simple. But I do agree there is often this attitude that Carlos isn't the one who's 'supposed' to win, and I agree he's been treated poorly after literally being THE ONLY NON RED BULL DRIVER to win against Red Bull. I think theres some salitness among the Chirlies cause of that lmao.

I think Charles suffers from 'he's the next big thing' syndrome, people are absolutely sure he can one day win with Ferrari and be their saviour, the whole 'predestiano' mindset has just really gotten to people. So they see Carlos as a threat to that. Which is why replacing it won't solve the Chirlie problem, they'll just move on to whoever ends up in Carlos' seat next if he does leave.

It does suck. Carlos' achievements can feel so undermined sometimes. Like he isn't worthy of being considered because he's 'Just Carlos Sainz Jr.' when he's proven to be a capable driver who really does deserve to be there. You can argue abuout him being just a nepo baby but I mean. Mick Schumacher couldn't stick around. Your name can only carry you so far, and I think Carlos has proved himself more than enough. It just sucks. I understand your frustration. 'They just want to fuck Leclerc' TRUE like i mean i understand the attraction guys but could you please stop trying to ride his dick in every situation like he doesn't need defending from his own teammate lmao.

But yeah. We'll be hated on together!

#f1 #formula 1 #carlos sainz #charles leclerc

[stormoflina]

I used to think that Szobo’s father is so mean and violent (we don’t even know if he actually abused him.. I mean physically abused him)

Psychological pressure that is applied by your parents isn’t really abusive. They just want the best for you, unless if they physically harmed you. Please don’t get me wrong, what I actually mean is that most of our parents are harsh on us because they want us to be and to do the best. That’s why they keep telling us it’s not enough and the other children who are the same age as us are way more better than us.

Here is a link of Szobo thanking his father warmly

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSNvRvKhW/

Considering how he always thank his father warmly I don’t think that his father was so harsh on him or their relationship were really bad, we never know what’s behind the closed doors 🫤

Hi anon!

Thank you for sending me this, your opinion on this I feel like adds a completely new viewpoint to this topic.

I want to say firstly, that there are things that we do know about his childhood and his relationship with his dad, things that can be treated as 100% true facts, because they were either said by Dominik himself, or his father. There are also quite a lot of assumptions, many based on what they said, some just straight up making stuff up for shock value.

His father physically abusing was never once even a possibility, I just want to say this very loudly, because that is a very serious thing and there is absolutely no indication that his father physically abused him. Even that story, which was hot news a couple of months ago, how his dad forced him to wear way too small boots to stop his foot from growing had been confirmed by his dad to be a lie.

I'm not sure if I agree with you on the part where you say psychological pressure is not abuse. There are levels to it, and certain levels to it can be abusive. I'm no psychologist, but what Dominik shared about his father, I would, personally, categorise that emotional abuse.

If you are a child, 10-12 years old and you feel that you hate your father, because how differently he treats you, how harsh he is on you, how much he makes you (over)work, that's not normal.

Sure, he has a good relationship with his father now, but It's most likely because everything worked out. What are the chances of everything working out? Very slim. What if Dominik wouldn't have signed for Liverpool? What if he got an injury that would have made him highly unlikely that he will ever get to a higher level than playing in the Austrian League? What if he wouldn't even made through the Austrian academy he was sent to at age 15? Then, he's left with his whole childhood not only robbed, but ruined as well.

I think there is a fine line between being strict with your child, pushing his limits, because you, as a professional yourself, see that he is destined for greatness or being downright cruel to him sometimes. There was an interview where his dad said that when Dominik moved to a whole other country (!), by himself (!), at the age of 15 (!), where he hardly spoke the language (!), he would call him crying about being homesick. Then, the father would just push the little red button on the phone call. And this is something that he himself admitted. That's just not normal in my opinion.

Now, this is where assumptions come into place, and this is mine. I think it's very much a red flag that his father doesn't even seem to think that there is something wrong with admitting things like this. Why? Because it paid off. Because he thinks this was his doing, his harsh raising and lack of affection that made Dominik into the man he is today. This sentiment is clearly shared by Dominik himself and how can you blame him? He never knew anything else. I think the fact that he, admittedly, realised that his father could be toxic and built up certain boundaries with him is already a huge achievement. I'm not even saying that Dominik should suddenly wake up tomorrow and be angry at his father for making him hate him when he was 12 years old. To be honest, I'm not even sure how one should navigate through such a complex relationship.

#dominik szoboszlai

[tandaforever]

Here is where I ramble a bit.

I looked at posts from the other side (no, not the dark side). I don't do it often and I have most of them blocked that I don't see any of their posts on my dash, so it was a deliberate decision. I don't hate them, trust me, I don't think their opinions are necessarily wrong either but purely for my own sanity I've blocked all of them long ago. But I got curious and so I checked.

It's interesting to read how differently this article was received, even on this side of the fence. An eye-opener. And I get where almost everyone is coming from, I do, even if I don't agree with some of it.

Emotions also tend to run very high in our small corner of the internet. But I've always said there's space enough for everyone here and wherever you land on the scale is your business.

But I DO see that in the end, they also want what's best for our boys, or our boy in question. Sometimes it's disguised in a roundabout way, sometimes it's not expressed so kindly, but I do believe that part to be true. Or else why would they still be here? Firmly on the good side?

But being kind and respectful to one another is KEY. It's probably what I value most in a fandom and I've made really good friends who feel the same.

We're all entitled to our opinions and those opinions can certainly change over time too, don't forget. But what I don't like seeing, are those opinions being pushed down the wrong throats (both ways here, I see you anons).

Read the room, people. Trying to convince people or attack people is a waste of time and energy imo.

Find YOUR people, and stick to them. Trust me when I say, it will make fandom life a haven, not a school playground.

My two cents though?

I've been here long enough to know when truths and half-truths are being presented.

I'm not involved in their lives in any way and so I don't feel like I am owed anything. I don't feel relieved, not really, as I recognize the long road ahead nor do I feel cheated.

He said what he wanted to say, and that's enough for me.

If anything, what he said might have been too much, too vulnerable and I hate that I can't shield him from further public scrutiny, further lynching. But that's a me-thing.

Do I believe everything that was said? No.

That person at work I had a talk with a few months ago? I sent them the article, and their mind was changed.

But what was said can be enough to change minds, so it's a start.

The truth, for those who have half a brain, that he's guilty of no crime, IS out there. And that's enough.

That's enough for me.

But more importantly, the amount of respect I feel for this man hasn't changed. If anything, it's skyrocketed.

His strength inspires me.

His goodness still inspires me.

(And yes, even though he's said himself that he was guilty of being an asshole, I don't actually believe all of that. Hell, I'm probably a bigger asshole than he is. There's a bit of an asshole inside all of us lbr.)

He is good.

And I still support him and love him as much as I did before 2021 and even before midnight on Feb 4, 2023.

And I wish him all the best.

I wish him all the peace he deserves. May he find what makes him happy and revel in it.

I'll still be here. Gushing over two men who has always had an undeniable, life long, soul binding connection, since the very moment they met.

Cuz yeah, I'm still a Charmie too. 😘

[gremzoff]

have you ever stopped whining to think that maybe,, just maybe, the hate you receive is true? Without whining and crying about it? That maybe, just maybe you're just not…good enough? Or as good as everyone else? People care about the 'basic' ocs because theyre just? Entertaining? Or maybe the artstyle is good? Have you thought about that? Obviously people will idolize who they think is cool. Also, you're 18? You're an adult now. And youre acting like this? Crying and getting your snot everywhere because you arent getting as much attention as the bigger blogs/creators? Or because your oc isnt that loved? Because the fandom got bigger and so the creators with actually good content are getting more notes? Is this your first fandom experience? I thought you were -12 y/o before seeing the bright "18" (shocked). Every fandom has its flaws, you said it yourself. The bigger the fandom, the bigger the flaws. Hat tipped to you for wanting to keep your peace and no longer interacting with the fandom.

Maybe before going in anon and sending these kinds of threatening/insulting asks calling others immature, you should look in the mirror. Attacking people for their personal decisions and opinions, calling them "12 yo" and immature, this is the real immature act. Why are you doing this, you need to make yourself feel tough? Anyway.

I'm not the only one complaining. If you really cared, you would look around and see I'm far from the only one nor the first complaining about these issues.

This is far from my first fandom experience, I've been in much worse places. I consider that I've grown enough since then to see and point out what's wrong in a community. I see so many new members making posts saying how this fandom feels like a "big family"- but all it takes is actually getting deeper into it to see how rotten the situation is. Idolizing isn't ok. Kissing people's toes isn't ok- and the hypocrisy of some of these people, saying, oh we should support small artists, but then they don't even take time to even look at our stuff- and again, I am not talking only about myself, we are a handful feeling this exact same way, and it's exhausting.

This feeling of anger, sadness, jealousy even maybe, us, small creators can feel towards others is normal. We are human, and we have feelings too, and we shouldn't oppress them. Maybe this is what you fail to realise, the world doesn't revolve around you, others can, too, express feelings. We are allowed to have these feelings and opinions, and real maturity is when you'll accept this fact and scroll past posts that upset you, instead of sending hate.

This has been an exhausting journey. I'm not going to say this fandom has been the worst I've ever joined, like I said, I've been in much darker places. But this is definitely the first time I witnessed such behaviour with my own eyes- sometimes, it almost felt like a cult. And I am not saying this to play around with words and exaggerate my feelings as a shock value, it just takes basic understanding of human behaviour to see what's wrong. This fandom may seem friendly for some, but it isn't the case for everyone, especially if you have experience, and you've been here for a while.

Even if I'm grateful towards this community for some things -like my ocs, my friends, but also the fact I've improved my skills a lot during this journey- , I definitely feel bitter for all the negativity I felt. Between people bashing me for my creations, self doubt and anxiety for not being "good enough", not being able to keep up with posting everyday on my askblogs, or just this uncomfortable feeling of constantly getting thrown under the bus by people who are "more popular". Seriously, nobody would want to meet people who are somewhat known in the community, all that to realise that even in "small" fandoms, people will think they are better than you, and won't hesitate to step on you and almost erase you, but then their fragile ego gets shattered as soon as you dare to speak out about these issues, or worse, express your opinion about not liking their stuff.

I have so many things to say. I hope you get off of your chair and go take a bowl of fresh air outside, because you definitely need it, and probably on the way, look at yourself and reflect on your own behaviour.

#grem stuff #anon #onceler #tw onceler #also you must be determined to send anon hate to me since you went to my alt lmao

[ladypeonies]

Hi, I totally get if you’re tired of this topic and don’t want to get into it! I value your opinion, so I’m asking you, and you can reply if you want to. Regarding Apo and Pond, those rumours have taken off so much, and it seems they originate from people that don’t wish Apo well. So I’m wondering, if it’s nothing to them, would it be a good idea to adress them? Apo never comments on this, and that’s okay, but when a CEO sees rumours painting himself and an employee in this light? One of them sleeping their way to the top and the other taking advantage of a younger beautiful man (as the rumours imply). They’re clearly aware of the rumours, and some of Pond’s ig replies and igs do nothing to make the rumours go away. I’m just curious as to why he doesn’t somehow say it’s not true? Is it an uncommon thing to do in the industry? Do they (Apo) dig their heel in about anyone telling them what to do? (Or is it actually true?) Anyway, your blog is both entertaining and enlightening, so thank you for that! Have a nice day!

Hi,

From a PR point of view commenting on dating rumours even if they are stupid, baseless and vile is a trap and a nightmare. If one comments, one put the spotlights on them, meaning if other people weren’t paying attention to them, they will once you do.

Suddenly something which was in bored people and haters’ sphere becomes mainstream. It’s like one waving a red cloth in front of a bull, one is looking for trouble.

And if they comment on ONE dating rumour, they have to comment on ALL of them, because the moment they don’t, they imply since they commented once then that particular one is true.

It also means that one has to explain themselves, justify, open the door and discuss their love life, which is no one business but their own.

Today it’s Apo and Pond tomorrow it could be Apo and the vogue editor, because those people hate him and imply that he doesn’t have enough talent or charisma to succeed on his own. And what do you think will happen if they address it, haters will stop? They will go, ‘They deny it, so let’s stop spreading those rumours’.

No, they will continue and even if Pond gets married next summer, they will still keep saying it, they will create another narrative. It’s the only thing they have against Apo and they will keep using it, he knows it.

Indeed, those rumours have taken off in certain areas of this fandom, but the majority in the fandom don’t see it in their TL, simply because they choose carefully with whom they interact. Haters are loud, it doesn’t mean there are many of them.

People are so easily manipulated, they’re repeating the most outrageous lies coming from people who are laughing their ass off for making them believe that crap. People should be very cautious, they behave like there are no haters on the Thai side.

If one day they comment on it, it's only because it's jeopardizing the work, the brand etc. But, thankfully people, fans, etc., see it for what it is utter nonsense and also none of our business.

I wasn’t going to respond at first, but I thought it could be a good opportunity to discuss dating rumours in the entertainment industry because as you said I’m tired of this subject. And every time I talk about it I get asks trying to prove how real Apo and Pond are because they have seen it on Twitter's slums.

Thank you for your kind words.

LP.

PS: Dear anon, don’t worry, didn’t think, you believed they were an item.

#mileapo #lpanswers #apo nattawin #mile phakphum

[hoghtastic]

Hello everyone! 😊 Hope you’re enjoying the holidays! And while I don’t really like spoiling the festive mood with negativity, I got sent some screenshots about things being said about this blog which aren’t true and as I personally value transparency, thought I’d share it with you guys.

So, about the first screenshot, I’d like to say that either the person is blatantly lying and didn’t really send anything, or (giving them the benefit of the doubt), Tumblr might have “eaten” their ask. Because all asks about this matter that landed on my inbox got posted, as well as any other asks. And no, I never made up any of them, as the person seems to be implying. Now, this is first and foremost a gossip & opinion blog, and some of the things discussed here are things people already found on other sources (like Reddit), so there’s no way to prove whether they’re really true or not. I’ve always been the first to advise people to take with a grain of salt everything they read online, anyway. And those who’ve been accompanying the blog know that’s true. So no, this blog’s purpose was never to “make up bad stories” or spread lies about anyone. Most of the time, people discuss what’s been posted on IG. Maybe things got overanalysed? Sure, but that’s not lying. There are as many interpretations as there are people anyway, and no one owns the truth. Except when things can be proved, which also happens a lot of the time here — the art theft incident, the “you snooze, you lose” trolling, the drunk video, to name a few. Are those lies as well? People can argue about the seriousness of these “offences”, but it’s undeniable that they happened, no one made them up just to make Johanne look bad.

So, it’s one thing if people don’t like this type of blog and don’t agree with the topics discussed here, but no one is forcing them to be here anyway. Now, to project your own way of being and accusing others of lying/making things up when it seems to be the other way around, is something I won’t accept. You don’t have to like me or my blog, but a liar & a hypocrite are two things that I’m not.

Which leads me to the second screenshot, which is a reply from someone who was not so anonymous and constantly “attacked” on an old blog for defending Johanne and have different opinions. Again, if you’ve been following the blog for a while now, you’ll see that I, personally, have offered this person nothing but kindness and respect, as well as all the other anons. No one has ever been treated poorly or silenced for having differing opinions here, as civil discussion has been the only “rule”. I’ve always intended for this to be a safe, healthy space for everyone and I still stand by my words. We don’t have to agree about everything all of the time, but we can still be respectful of each other. And that is something this person wasn’t. They had to “tell them bitches off” as if their opinion is the absolute truth? Who are they anyway, to feel entitled to tell other people off? So when this person was previously attacked and dismissed for thinking differently, I did feel sorry for them and always tried to do better, and yet, I’m still a bitch? Good to know. 🤷‍♀️ If these people can’t seemingly keep away from a blog they hate and/or don’t know what the “block” button is for, then I’ll do it for them.

I’m sorry for the rant, but some things really need to be said, especially when people go behind my back accusing me of everything I’ve worked hard not to do. At least have the decency to tell me directly? Those who know me, know I’m always open to communication, to accept different views and to discuss politely, and that’s what this blog has and will always stand for.

Thank you to the anon who let me know of this situation, to everyone who read so far & to all of you who’ve helped the blog grow and make it a fun place to be! 😊 Have a wonderful day, everyone! 💖

#admin speaks

[mrs-monaghan]

I love your blog so much! When I first started supporting Jikook, which was a while back and joined the tumblr I remember hating it here because no one actually said what I genuinely believe they felt. Everything had to be roses and sunshine all the time.

Back in 2016 I pointed out to a blogger how I think JK and Tae are not on good terms and are awkward together and I was chewed out and called a solo Stan for saying an observation that was later proven to be true. Even after they reconciled I remember thinking this is a work in progress bc their interactions are cringe and awkward but every blogger would uwu their moments and not call out the elephant in the room which was this is awkward as hell.

You don’t sugar coat things because you aren’t afraid of being called an anti or a solo Stan. You call a spade a spade and will even call out members behaviors if you think them questionable. I enjoy your level of honesty, it’s refreshing. You actually value differing opinions.

you are a breath of fresh air and I don’t think there are many bloggers like you out there.

Why anon, asante sana!

No need to Google. That means "tyvm" in swahili. You learnt a new language. You're welcome 😉

Wait, do some of you even know how I got here? I feel like most you just clicked on the Jikook tag and decided you like what I have to say without any clue as to how I got here. I'm shocked no one has accused me of using Storm because that's exactly what it looks like

I honestly dk where u guys came from but I'm not going to ignore asks when I get them just to avoid looking like something I'm not. It is what it is ig. But its still so funny to me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Kisses anon. I appreciate your appreciation

#ask shaz #bts ask

[melis-writes]

It’s surprising to see how many readers don’t like or flat out hate Victoria in some post comments and submission. Personally I love how you’ve written Victoria as a character with a unique personality with challenges, successes, a whole family, and a backstory that could be an independent standalone character from the main male characters and she doesn’t get overshadowed. I enjoy that she could be paired with Al Pacino’s different characters in prompts and still works cause it’s fun a dynamic non-canon scenario. It’s so refreshing to see fanfics that’s not just “Y/n” over and over again cause I don’t like to self-insert “your name” into fanfics but we could still read from your OCs pov

I could understand how some may not like some of Victoria’s actions or decisions like any other character but I’m loving her spicy attitude and the interesting dynamic she adds to the GodFather story. I appreciate the effort of character development you put into OCs like Victoria and continuing with Celeste 🥰 🥰 Team Victoria forever!!! Gatekeep Gaslight and Girlboss 💅🏼💅🏼💅🏼

-From a very dedicated Meli supporter 😘🫡

To be honest, everyone has their own opinion about Victoria and that's fine. ❤️ The beauty of it is that everyone will experience her story, her actions, her lifestyle and her decisions differently and I completely respect that, but Victoria's character has also been rudely slandered in the past and called "annoying" or any other unhelpful criticisms which I absolutely don't accept. There's definitely a way to word how you feel about a character, their mannerisms and their role in the story you're reading without writing/sending literal anon hate which sadly I have seen in the recent past for Victoria.

I didn't create Victoria to be a likeable, relatable and quirky character. She fits in the world of Moth to Flame for The Godfather as one would expect a character in the canon world of The Godfather to. I love how you mentioned Victoria does have her own challenges, successes and a backstory without being overpowered by other main male characters. It's true! 🥰 She's a human being, she's not a stone cold monster who would let something like lies, betrayal and manipulation go past her. Victoria has emotions, her own values and morals too. There's things that get Victoria upset and there's things that don't even get under her skin.

I think somewhere along the way, some may have misunderstood this and expected Victoria to be cold, ruthless and a demon but we can't forget she's a mother, an aunt, a daughter, an academic, and a whole lawyer. Victoria had a life before she married Michael too, and she still does. She's not Michael 2.0 and she isn't designed to be. To be fair, it's not in my interest whatsoever to have Victoria be a likeable character or not just as I won't write out character personalities for the sake of being able to relate to them. I mean, Victoria's a corrupt lawyer and in the mafia... Should not be relatable. 😂

Of course Victoria isn't perfect. She's only human and she's not made to be a "perfect" character. She has her flaws and she has things she needs to work on; don't we all? At the very least they are mentioned and Victoria recognizes them too. You step into her perspective and see how Victoria reacts, speaks, and acts in Moth to Flame. Sometimes we may not agree with what she's said/done but it all adds to the story! That's what it is.

I also agree with what you said about the prompt shipping! 💞 It's for fun, it's unique and based on reader submission and I love interacting with you guys and playing around with suggestions/input!

GATEKEEP, GASLIGHT, GIRLBOSS -- VICTORIA CORLEONE 💅🏻

Lots of love to you and thank you for sharing your opinion on Miss Victoria!! ❤️❤️❤️

#moth to flame fic #victoria ferrari

[femme-et-traditionnelle]

???? Is there someone who's been bothering you in the anon asks???? How dare they! I wish hateful people would mind their own business and didn't spread their misery everywhere they go.

You are SO beautiful. You are pretty. And everything about you shows not only your outer beauty but inner beauty, too, and that's so important. Honestly, I'm not lying, I think that you're a very beautiful young woman.

And your husband is very lucky.

ALSO! CONGRATULATIONS! YAY! As they say in Turkey, 'may you both grow old on the same pillow.' I wish you many years of domestic bliss and happiness, and I hope your marriage brings you both lots of joy, I'm sure you both appreciate it and know the value of the true family.

Hugs, kisses, cheers!

~laces-and-pearls

I am not sure what happened. This came up at weirdest time also. But it's been really wonderful days recently, so I didn't care much.

Thank you so much for your kind words and endless support 💕

Whatever my opinion of myself is, my husband really boosts my self esteem and confidence, he is truly amazing and I am so so so happy to have him 😟 This is the start of a new chapter, and I am so ready for it ❤️

I haven't been on Tumblr much recently, but I have seen that you are going through difficult times. I wish you could catch a break. I am praying for you, so that you and your family are safe, and your health improves, and many sweet and happy days come your way 🙏💕

#personal #ask #question #marriage #wedding #catholic #prayer

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

An unpopular take, maybe, but I simply don't find the Matty Healy / Taylor Swift discourse interesting or useful. I get the critique that modern political culture overvalues speech acts (a very trenchant critique I've heard in the past is that now people believe posting on the internet is activism), I get Matty's meta critique of consumption in the internet era, I get the ironic humor of The Adam Friedland Show podcast, I don't think Matty is vile or antisemitic or racist or whatever. I just, personally, find the way that those critiques are made and who they're turned on to be so navel-gazing. If you strip away the layers of meta commentary and irony, I feel like you just wind up in a place where you're saying, oh, the problem is that these people in marginalized communities who didn't understand that my statements were made in the context of an ironic meta commentary on performance of values on the internet are terminally online and got too upset on the internet. And like, honestly? sure. true to a certain extent. People have certainly gone way overboard in their responses to these things. But in the broader context of our current political state, it feels like it's just contributing to the Left once again eating itself, unable to distinguish between an imperfect ally and an enemy. Is the problem really terminally online teenagers who wrote a cringey, boundary-less open letter to Taylor Swift? Is that what we want to spend our time and mental energy calling attention to and critiquing? Or is that mostly just a problem for famous people who are slowly being driven crazy by having to see people constantly misunderstand them on the internet?

For what it's worth, my opinion is driven at least in part by my assumption that this attention and backlash is at least in part intentional. For as much as everyone has been talking about these two people, I guess not very many people have actually paid attention to what Matty Healy/The 1975 are currently doing, but they've been releasing a series of videos called "A theatrical performance of an intimate moment". In the second video in the series (ironically dropped the same day as the Taylor/Joe breakup news), Matty decides he wants to be transported in a suitcase to avoid attention (something Taylor Swift famously did) because the fame is getting to him, he doesn't want to be touched, and he "doesn't want any more bracelets that say that I'm gay", said while pointing to a bead bracelet that looks like the friendship bracelets that people are making for the Eras tour. And in a later episode, he specifically talks about needing to find a girlfriend. So, real relationship or not, it seems kind of clear to me that there is at least some level of performance/performance art occurring. I'm open to being happily surprised by whatever the point of this art turns out to be, but I'm not optimistic.

Lots of really interesting thoughts anon - and I think we come from slightly different perspectives, but I'll try and tease some of the points out.

I loved your summary - I don't quite agree, but it makes it very easy to discuss. You think these sort of discussions boil down to people saying: "The problem is that these people in marginalized communities who didn't understand that my statements were made in the context of an ironic meta commentary on performance of values on the internet are terminally online and got too upset on the internet."

And I have two different thoughts about that - which address quite different aspects. The first is that I would always reject the idea that it's a problem that people don't get 'ironic humour'. There is nothing more tedious than people wanting to be edgy, but also wanting everyone to love them. I think people can and should have whatever reaction they want to the Adam Friedland Show (I listened and I fucking hated it - quite boring on top of everything else). But that in order to do useful politics and understand the world there has to be a gap between someone's personal reaction and someone's political analysis. That's what I find the Gary Younge article 'racism is a system of power not a series of gaffes' so useful at articulating.

The other point is that I don't think it's useful to characterise the fandom response as coming from 'marginalised communities'. Some of the people talking are from marginalised communities, but nowhere near the majority. And I think it's really important to push back against fandom's tendency to paint itself as a whole as marginalised in some way (this is a much bigger issue that I was talking quite a lot about with the Niall and fanfic debate).

I do think that part of the problem of this discussion (and why I find it interesting - even if I agree that there are very tedious elements) - is that there can be so many different views and assumptions that underlie where people end up that aren't articulate.

I really reject the idea that this is the left eating its own - or that it has to be. Partly that's because I see this as being much more about fandom and how fandom operates than about politics. But it's also because I think there are really basic answers to the question of how you distinguish between the enemy and an imperfect ally. It's incredibly important to both solidarity and coalition building that we are able to say 'I disagree with this argument' without that automatically meaning 'the person who is making it is bad and wrong'. Collapsing the two together is fundamentally unuseful - and ultimately individualising.

You ask both what the problem is and what the stakes are - which are great questions. I don't think fans without boundaries are a political problem (although there are many political elements). I absolutely wouldn't write about this or draw attention to it in any other space but a fandom one.

But I do think the stakes are much higher than you do. If I thought this discourse was only having an impact of Taylor Swift and Matty Healy then I wouldn't think it was worth talking about. One of my opinions that I haven't necessarily spelled out - is that it's really important within fandom to understand that the objects of fandom and what people think of hte objects of fandom are not that important. I sometimes do get annoyed/frustrated/upset with other people's views about 1D members, but I do try and make sure that I remind myself that it's OK that people disagree about celebrities.

If there are stakes in fandom behaviour, it's not about the implications for the objects of fandom, but the implications for the fans. And I guess one thing that I assume, is that people are unlikely to treat themselves, or the people around them more generously than they treat celebrities. That a culture that encourages polarised thinking and responding to polarised thinking by attempting to control others - has an impact on the people who are participate. Now that's not necessarily evidence based - it's just a vibe. But it's the reason that I do think the only useful response to this is to emphasise that this isn't the only way to navigate the world. And anything else is just talking about the issues because they're interesting.

But I do think it's worth saying that the idea that you get a say in who someone else dates is really fucked up and can have really fucked up implications for people who believe it. Not just because of how they might treat people - because the corollary is that other people get a say in who you date.

Having said all that - I won't go fully into the second point. I'll just say that one of the things that I find interesting about both Taylor and Matty Healy is that they're both very aware of their image, but it manifests itself in different ways (Taylor is very controlled, Matty Healy is much more chaotic, but often more meta). And on top of that I think in this circumstance what we're seeing is also influenced by the fact that we're all people as well as images - and being human is a pretty messy reality.

#Thanks for letting me know about the videos #I found them (and the timing) #really interesting

[stillness-in-green]

Hi! I just found your blog and I love your takes on Mha and the villains. I really appreciated how you pointed out the double standards of those who are hating on Geten for his allegedly eugenicist beliefs but then it's crickets when Dabi arbitrarily kills everyone he deems trash. And I'm saying this as a Dabi stan. You can dislike a chara for whatever reason, but bashing one while coddling the other who's got a very similar mindset and has done objectively worse is plain hypocritical. Criticism should be fair. I wonder how much more vitriol Geten would have gotten if he was confirmed a woman instead of a conventionally attractive guy though

Thanks, anon!

(More placed under a cut in deference to people who are perhaps tired of my harping on this topic.)

Yeah, like, to be as fair as I can manage, there is a very concrete difference between Dabi murdering random people in alleys for what boil down to personal reasons, not under any group’s auspices, and Geten espousing a set of beliefs that he thinks his group wants to implement on a nationwide scale.  That's true and fair, and a distinction worth preserving regardless of one's opinions on the characters' specific actions.

What really bugs me, though, is the total double standard in how much effort goes into making every excuse imaginable for Dabi, poring over every panel to find the single most generous interpretation of his words and actions, while Geten (and the MLA, and the non-League villains in general) get these sneering, off-the-cuff dismissals that tacitly refuse to consider any mitigating circumstances whatsoever.

Like, wow, okay, Dabi was brought up in an abusive home!  He all but burned himself alive at thirteen!  How sympathetic!  But Geten was raised in a cult, and that will fuck a kid up too.  So maybe it’d be nice to see people remotely as willing to try and understand why Geten is Like That as they are to dig up all the Psychology 101 buzzwords to deflect blame for all Dabi's murders and blatant sadism.  For people so adamant about not taking Dabi at face value, they sure are willing to accept everything Geten says as 100% fact, despite the wild discrepancies that surface the instant you start trying to apply Geten’s views to the MLA at large.

As for if Geten had actually been revealed as a woman?  Well, I wish he had been, honestly; I loved Worst Girl Geten for the couple of months we thought we had her.  But I do 100% believe the vitriol would have been even worse.

Anyway, maybe one of these days I’ll actually write up the full stand-alone post on the MLA and Geten and quirk supremacy—I’ve talked about it a lot before, but always buried in posts about other topics, and it’d be nice to have something I could just link to that’d be a stand-alone post on the topic.  Until then, though, I think I’ve about said my piece on fandom’s Bad Geten/MLA Takes.  The vagueblogging is wearying in ways just focusing on the canon and my own transformative efforts are not.  But thanks for the ask, anon!  Rest assured; this space will continue to be a Geten Appreciation Zone.

#bnha #geten #todotalk #fandom double standards #stillness answers #stillness really feels like she spends far more time talking about Dabi than she really wants to and is ready to Not Do That for a while #please and thanks

[faeiapalette]

My biggest problem with Ayato is his stans. 😭

I don't mind if his stans want to make a thousand posts a day about how much they love him, but what does bother me is that they always try to throw in his face that he "is the only canonical/true route". I even read that "the real Yui" is only the Yui that appears in Ayato's routes. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I swear, his stans are so annoying. Yui is the "real Yui" in all the damn routes, NOT just Ayato's. All routes are equally canon because at the end of the day it's us fans who decide who we prefer to see Yui/MC with. In any case, Yui/MC loves all the guys in her harem in equal measure, there is nothing she has done or said for Ayato that she hasn't done or said for the other Diaboys. And in fact, she has died more times protecting Yuma than Ayato, (that's never mentioned by Ayato's stans, why is that?)

Something I can't stand either is that they say that Ayato's Dark Fate route "is the best route of all the games", literally in Dark Fate you have routes like Carla and Shin's, who are new characters and yet have better development and a much more interesting background than Ayato could have had in four games.

Same anon, same. (Wow… the statement about Yui 💀. The idolism got to that point? Come on 😅. And i thought the level of entitlement couldn’t surpass the “Ayato is the main character”.)

Though my problem with them is

1, They think they have the priviledge. To whitewash (idk how this word works yet, like is it only apply to skin color? Or does it mean “bleaching one’s wrong doing” too? I’m going with the 2nd one) their oshi; for example, “Ayato has never engaged in harmful coping mechanism and never project it on others.” In Bold. That’s blatant lie. Check out Sakamaki Saga for more detail plus his LE route too! I don’t remember much about HBD MB and DF but i think there are some. Mainly in the first two games.

While they reacted like sodium meeting water whenever the other boys did an equal bad thing. Some even make up tell tales about them. Way to go.

To say “not a positive opinion” about other boys, but non-Ayato fans can’t. “Ik everyone has their opinions but why don’t keep them to yourself if they’re not positive ones??? Don’t wonder why Ayato stans reacted that way because everyone would defend their fav Diaboy. Acting like he isn’t the Sakamaki most prone to put his life on the line for others pfft. Girl, you will obviously get such negative”reactions if you start drama. You claim you don’t want to but you did start it already because you spread hatred in this fandom with your “opinions”.

Lady and gentlemen, look at that mindset. These priviledged people allow themselves to shove fake facts into other people’s face. They be dissing your fav boys everyday and people applause them for that. Then when you raise your hand to voice out your not-a-one-way-tunnel thoughts, they brand it as “negative”. Why negative? Oh. Cuz you don’t support Ayato and put him on an altar; instead, you tell them that “Ayato’s at fault too”. That means you hate him right? You want to discredit him, right? You want to start drama, right?

2. Some of them just love to assume. Pulling things out of no where. If you have time do take a look at the previous asks on my blog. Oh my. If you say smth on the level of “perceiving” they’ll think that you’re “complaining” and attack you. And this one will be the complement for

3. They prone to put things in boxes. Because they don’t understand perceptions and perspectives, plus, they’re so used to reacting, they won’t be able to see that you’re only giving an opinion that could be the complement for their opinion to create a complete picture. They’ll think that you’re reacting. That you’re attacking them, their oshi, anything of such. So they attack you.

4. They value fairness, but only if Ayato’s in the picture. For all the rest… nope.

Prove is what you just said anon. “Ayato’s the real route”, “Yui’s the real Yui in Ayato’s route”, ect. I don’t have to say more than that.

(Oh your last statement. 🤔 True true some characters “have better development and a much more interesting background” plus mindset; AND, by “interesting” i don’t mean that i’m encouraging their twisted behaviours and wrong doings. Just that they would be fascinating subjects to do research on. This note is for the Ayato’s fan who haven’t been able to see things seperately yet so that they don’t jump onto me and attack me for things i never said. 👌

Though i barely check the T boys out… Maybe later. Carla’s question for Yui at the Tsukinami Prologue and for Subaru in Subaru DF pique my interest. Defi will read.)

#Diabolik lovers #anon ask

[iwritenarrativesandstuff]

hey i know you do hexaco analysis and i was wondering if you like any other typology systems? if so, what's your opinion on #dazaiso4sweep on pdb? my apologies for bringing up that accursed site.

Hey hey anon!

Ok so I do want to clarify: HEXACO is actually not typology at all! It's a psychological personality inventory that has been pretty extensively statistically tested and the scales tend to correlate nicely with certain measures of behaviour and future outcomes (it's kind of like an expanded Big 5 - though there's always contention over the usefulness of measures that describe personality traits, especially since manifestations of a trait in one culture can lead to a formal definition that may not apply in another culture. There's been some concern about the way Openness is defined for this reason.).

The difference lies in that typology categorizes people - it's an "either or" result. HEXACO is an inventory, which means everyone has all these traits - instead, it places people on a scale, or six scales in this case - it's a "score" result.

Psychology no longer likes categorizing, as hardly anyone fits neatly into a single category, and a lot of that kind of work was based on psychoanalytic theory, which relied a lot on introspection and dream analysis, which is now... largely bunk. Still cool, though, and I think there's nothing wrong with the MBTI or Enneagram for analyzing fictional characters - I used to do it all the time in high school (actually I spent an embarrassingly long time - several years - trying to make firm definitions and a revamped MBTI test specifically for this purpose). I still think they can be useful tools for initial crafting of characters tbh - it helps differentiate ways of thinking and core values and stuff like that. I just hate that it's still sometimes used in the hiring process, when it should never have been used for that in the first place. It tells the hiring manager nothing meaningful and it does not dictate what job you should have or how well you will blend with a group. It should NEVER be used for any decisions with real-world stakes. (Sorry, this kind of thing really irritates me. Personality tests have no place in the hiring process if you've set up your interview properly.)

The benefit of using scale measures of traits is that they align better with what we know now to be true - people cannot often be neatly categorized, but instead, we tend to have varying levels of traits or behaviours between us. That's also the way the mental health field is moving as well, as we discover more and more that many symptoms of mental illness (not all, but a substantial amount) are simply unmanageable extremes of "normal" -> typical traits and behaviours. I know. Shocker, right? (That was sarcasm.)

Now, the way I'm using HEXACO is very much a bastardization of it. HEXACO does give an output like the one I do, with traits being ordered from highest score to lowest relative to each other. However, I cannot administer a test to fictional characters, so I was forced to assign a value from 1 to 5, which is already an issue in that I am only using whole integers, while the actual test uses decimals in between values which are determined by an average of each item on the scale.

Ok, going much further beyond is probably way too technical (I'll just tell you that HEXACO also uses percentiles, which, if you know what percentiles are, it'll become quite apparent why I can't do that - if you don't know what that is, don't worry about it).

Oh my god I'm so sorry what was your question again?

Ohh ok. Well, I'll just say I have an entire revised MBTI-adjacent set of definitions I made in high school which I still enjoy using to get a handle on my characters but since I never shared it with anyone I don't think that really counts, haha!

Also I'm glad you called pdb "accursed" because it really is. I've never gone on there and agreed with the choice, or even if I did, I never liked the reasoning. Dazai as a type 4 huh? I don't know... I get why, but I'd want to also look at the type 5 tbh. 4 has a lot to do with feelings of alienation and sadness for that reason, which works well, but a 4 also can't help but emotionally express that alienation as a core part of their identity. While Dazai flaunts his "inhumanity" on occasion, more often than not, he appears more ashamed than anything. The 5 deals with detachment, and of collecting information to feel prepared to deal with and make sense of the world - they may in fact withdraw until they feel they are equipped to deal with life, which of course means that they may never feel it's time to emerge at all (that would tie with Dazai's notorious lack of initiative taking). The stress line makes more sense for 5 to me too tbh: Dazai is going to be an unhealthy version of whatever type he is, and the stress line leads to 7 - essentially craving external stimulation and excitement to avoid thinking about or dealing with problems. Idk. I could be wrong but really enneagram is always going to be swayed by personal interpretation. Mind sharing your thoughts on this anon? I'm curious as to whether you agree or if you have doubts.

One more thing: if you do like this sort of thing, I wonder if you've ever heard of DISC? It's a type-personality test meant to indicate how you work with others in an organization. Kind of neat! (Again, I caution against real-world applications... but everyone loves a fun test, right? :D)

Here's HEXACO if you want to try, and DISC for fun!

Sorry for the long-winded reply!

#thanks for the ask! #hexaco analysis #personality analysis #this kind of stuff is fun huh? :) #storyrambles

[yutahoes]

been thinking of my filo friends ever since i started noticing them changing their pfps/headers to pink one by one, and was very nervous about this election...

i hate tyranny so much and i feel so bad that there's nothing i can do other than asking you guys about how you feel..

those political fuckers should just hold hands and rot in hell together

Thank you for checking on us Filipinos and I'm sorry if this answer is too late, I just don't know how to answer this without getting too emotional. 😭

This is lengthy and kinda controversial so if ever this account got deactivated, then something might have happened to the freedom of speech of our country. I hope I can eloquently share my thoughts about this matter. If not, I'm really sorry. I'm still emotional over this.

To be honest, I'm not a political person. Until the last minute, I never told anyone about the person I would vote for but I've always known that I'm part of the pink movement. When the first results came in, I was angry. I remembered just looking at my phone at 11 pm and just wishing that it was all a fever dream but it was so hard for me to sleep that night. What's harder is waking up knowing that it isn't a dream. The hardest one is attending class and teaching Values that Tuesday afternoon. After class, I cried so hard. I feel like I failed my students and I was just thinking about what will happen to them in the future.

At this point, I'm already in the line of accepting that the person I voted for, who is the most deserving one, in my opinion, will never be the President. But what's hurting me is how my own countrymen were so blind in electing a person who had every means to study in all these prestigious schools but didn't even finish a degree. If a person with no diploma could be the president of the country, why bother studying? I feel like all my hard work in finishing a degree is nothing.

As a teacher, it pains me to know that education isn't important to the country. That hurts me real bad. Another thing is that almost all my students, Grades 1 - 3, were supporting him. And I had this evil thought, "Why am I still teaching you if your parents voted for a robber? A criminal?" But it's my goal as a teacher to deliver change. Yet it just breaks my heart.

I'm sorry if I shared too much. I cannot comment too much on Facebook because my parents and relatives voted for the winning person. They were all telling me that the problem is that I graduated with a degree and apparently, I don't have respect for them. (Which is true because how can I respect people who voted for him?🤷‍♀️)

To my Filipino moots, sorry kung nafail kayo ni ate. Nakakapagod mahalin ang Pilipinas. Nakakapagod ipaglaban ang Pilipino. Pero sana kapag kayo na ang boboto, alam niyo ang tama. Pasensya na kung di namin mabigay yung magandang kinabukasan, sana ipaglaban niyo yung inyo.

To my non-Filo moots, thank you for the concern. We really need a big hug right now. Check on your Filo friends or moots, they might need someone to talk to.

To you, anon, thank you so much, and sorry for sharing too much. I believe in karma and justice. There's a special place in hell for people who abuse their power, for people who only think about themselves.

We'll just keep on hoping that they are right and we, the youth, are wrong.

#long read #to my filo moots

[thebluelemontree]

Do you think some people in the fandom tend to associate morality with beauty?A big part of people seem to be okay with the shady staff commited by charactes like jamie and jon because they are conventionally atractive and fit better the ideal image of a hero.To me it seems like they give a much harder time to sandor and tyron that have similar beliefs/characteristics to the heroes of songs, and tend to exagerate their flaws ir straight up despising them .

Sometimes? Beauty bias is a thing. If very shallow takes are frequently showing up on your dash, maybe reconsider the blogs you are following. It's just a thought. You may have accidentally gotten into a bubble with a very small minority within the fandom, and those attitudes might seem like they are more commonplace than they actually are. I'd like to think a majority of the general fandom has a fairly humane view of most characters, no matter what they look like. Most readers are aware that GRRM wrote all his characters in shades of gray and appreciate that. Most readers are informed enough to understand how things like trauma and abuse can affect a person's psyche and behavior. Acknowledging that truth isn't the same as saying problematic behavior is okay. The extent of that compassion and capacity to forgive bad acts will vary over a wide range. Some you might agree with. Some you won’t. 

Every individual brings their life experience and biases to their value judgments. IMO, we all tend to seek out and select for characters with qualities that are already congruent with our beliefs. People naturally tend to be less harsh on characters they're horny for that speak to them or that they identify with. Conversely, we're probably more likely to have less charitable opinions of characters the more incongruent they are with our beliefs. How that relates to beauty, I think, is simple. When you compassionately vibe with a character, it's just more likely you will find their beauty, regardless of how that character is actually described in the text. I don't think a character written to be conventionally attractive or fitting a certain fantasy hero profile means as much as you think it does. GRRM can say Jaime is canonically handsome, but I don’t think most readers actually find him attractive unless they feel for him first.  Anon, I think you should probably cut people some slack, too, because you sound a bit judgmental with your phrasing. Maybe that wasn't intentional, I'm just saying it came off that way to me. What I'm reading sounds like you are bothered by people not being compassionate enough toward characters you feel deserve more compassion or are sometimes unfairly maligned. That's fine. Nothing wrong with that. But you already concluded those who gravitate toward Jaime or Jon are doing so for shallow reasons; therefore, they must be papering over their misdeeds and misplacing their compassion on characters who deserve it less. In your eyes, they aren’t doing a good enough job of holding Jaime or Jon accountable, and they must be the same people who irrationally hate on Sandor or Tyrion. Yeah, that can be true with some individuals, but I don't think that's a fair conclusion to make in most cases. I can think of many reasons why someone might care a lot about Jaime or Jon and they have nothing to do with looks. They are also not required to devote equal energy to Sandor and Tyrion. Just because you don't get why they are vibing so hard with X or will go to the mat for Y, does not mean they are somehow causing your faves to get a raw deal. I don't know if you noticed, but Sandor and Tyrion have pretty big fan bases, so... ... look, just block the ones that are being gross about them, okay? Don’t let this shit bother you so much. Keeping score on how much grace or condemnation some characters receive versus what they deserve is really just your perception from where you are standing. Just make sure your dash is cultivated in a way to be able to see how much compassion and understanding there really is out there. People are also allowed to enjoy things in a totally lighthearted way without having to be mindful of morality all the dang time. So what if they like Jaime or Jon’s conventionally attractive good looks? Why is that a sin? Let us thirst for whomst we thirst, while we exercise our right not to dwell on every instance of problematic behavior. It’s all made up shit anyway! I mean, I can’t possibly spare more than a single brain cell to that kid my fave cleaved in half when I’ve got so much thinking to do about his big naked muscly body and stupid huge dick XD 

#1 #2 #3 #4 #5 #on fandom #compassion #judgement

[magicalgirlmindcrank]

muslim anon again (final to you message btw)

i dont like how this is how you decided to talk to a muslim individual pouring their heart out to you. your opinions and how you expressed yourself is gross and im appalled by it. you say that an attack was deserved, yet youve acknowledged it multiple times via posts youve reblogged how islamaphobia and anti terrorism laws have ruined lives. how could you be okay with something happening, yet hate the effects of it? you even tell me that im right, yet you continue to explain the corruption of america without considering how im feeling. you clearly didnt consider anything ive said.

“yeah this attack thats killed many and traumatized anyone left alive TOTALLY isnt gonna worsen the bigoted views of others. in fact i think this attack was deserved. but anyways, i will say its sad how muslim people are effected by islamaphobia :((( anti terrorism laws are bad :(((“ you cant have it both ways. you cant support the attack that was used as fuel for bigots’ hatred for my people. how can you act like you care about our lives if you support the attack that was used against us. i cant even express my own religion to others without fear of being discriminated against

i literally poured my heart to you about the struggles of muslims, arabic speakers in general, and how the tsa racially profiles/discriminates (we all get seen as suicide bombing terrorists), and yet you just kept babbling on about how corrupt the government is about the oil and about politics? the only response you should have to a muslim individual speaking about islamophobia is “im sorry youve dealt with that. you dont deserve to have things like this happen to you.” and MAYBE if you had some braincells, youd say “hey maybe someone’s retaliation that was used as fuel for bigotry and constant warfare thats lead to deaths and torment of minorities shouldnt have happened.”

but no, you mansplained (i mean this in a gender neutral way) about how corrupt and bigoted america is to someone whos DIRECTLY effected by said bigotry and corruption. how can you consider yourself an ally to my people and i if this is how you talk to me? again i hate the government as much as you do, but the way you spoke to me is deplorable. id much rather listen to some idiotic edgy teen make a 9/11 joke for shock value than listen to you earnestly explain your abysmal opinions. you dont want to listen to minorities. you only want to listen to yourself, you fence sitter. do better.

Simply put: America can Deserve retaliation and then also use it to justify more horrors, because this country sucks in a predictable manner. What happened that was a tragedy, it was also justified. It was also used to justify a lot of shit that wasn't justified. All of these things can be true. It's like when a kid hits their bully back but they're the one that gets expelled. Did the kid deserve to hit their bully? Yes. Did it only cause more problems for them? Also yes.

Also I'm not gonna lose any sleep about one random Anon that says they are Muslim saying they disagree when I know Muslims personally that do agree. Even if I do give you the benefit of trust on this matter, which I do, No people is a monolith. Of course there are Muslims that would disagree with me. It'd be insane to claim otherwise. You are misinterpreting what I am saying.

Additionally even if you claim it's gender neutral don't ever say I'm mansplaining especially when I'm mostly agreeing with you.

#also calling me a fence sitter when I'm taking a hard stance?? #c'mon #10$ says you respond to this too