#Not saying they are bi

[kkshowtunes]

google citing ao3 as a source is so unhinged

#dowak #bi rodrick heffley #ao3 #fanfiction #doodlebug says things #banger #super banger #banger banger hall of famer #banger 5k #banger 10k #banger 15k #banger 20k #banger 25k #banger 30k #banger 35k #banger 40k #banger 45k #banger 50k #banger 55k #banger 60k #banger 65k #banger 70k #banger 75k #banger 80k #guys this breached containment #i always wanted a popular post but now i get it i’m overwhelmed #also i misspelled a word in it #what is going on ‼️‼️🔥🔥 #jk guys never stop reblogging this #may rodrick heffley bisexualism reign supreme

[whydooldpeopletalk]

Speaking as someone who's been outed many, many times, by both "allies" and homo/transphobes, some of yall are way too comfortable sharing other peoples' queer identities.

"But what if I'm trying to be funny?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm an ally?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is an ally?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm queer?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is queer?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if the person I'm talking about is a stranger?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if it's really obvious?" First of all, ew. Second of all, Doesn't matter.

"But what if they didn't come out to me, I just figured it out on my own?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if they're getting misgendered?" It's just as easy to say 'actually she's a girl' as it is to say 'actually she's transgender and uses she/her'. If that person is pretransition, it's also easy to just bite your tongue and not say anything.

Unless that person has explicitly given you permission to share that information, you DON'T. No matter how certain you are that everyone is accepting, no matter how noble your intentions, it's not your information to share. Getting clocked sucks, getting outed sucks, and they're both an invasion of privacy no matter who's doing it.

#I told this girl I haven't seen hazbin the other day and she said 'you're gay and autistic how have you NOT seen it?!' and um. #This was in front of other people btw #im not actually gay or autistic either #Anyway. there are some things people say on tumblr that they shouldn't in real life. #lgbtq #gay #lesbian #trans #transgender #queer #bi

[dickandballsdotgov]

I love you he/him lesbians

I love you she/her gays

I love you "weird kids" with split dyed black and pink hair and they/it/bun in their bio

I love you boys in skirts and dresses and corsets who are still cis

I love you trans girls who love their masculine features and don't change how masculine or feminine they present

I love you trans boys who still love being feminine and hope you land the best suckerpunch on anyone who says "but isn't that just being a girl"

I love you gays who kiss their boyfriends and girlfriends and partners and joyfriends and all kinds of significant others in the hallways to flaunt that they're not straight

I love you people who wear flags and rainbows to shove your gayness or transness in people's faces

I love you straight guys who love makeup but can't wear it around your friends

I love you people who coin obscure genders and use only neo/xenopronouns(seriously y'all are so cool and I wish i could design flags half as cool as yours)

I love you all aromantic/asexual people

I love you all the people that the lgbtq+ community chooses to outcast to appease the world which would destroy us all

I hate you lgbtq+ community members who choose to attack those who are on your team in an effort to seem "normal"

#lgbtq #lesbian #gay #bisexual #trans #queer #nonbinary #mogai #aroace #aromantic #asexual #i love you all so much youre all amazing #sorry i saw a post with a lot of people saying “im gay/bi/trans and i dont like people flaunting their sexuality” and grrrrrrrr #its like bro we're on your team dumbass

[luyo-mi]

🐙❤️

#may my future riddle and azul book 6 battles be easy and not cause me mental pain #happy new years my children #we made it wooo #🥳🎉🎉🎉👏🎊 #time to spend my new years taking a nap #goodnight my loves ❤️ #kisses all around #twisted wonderland #riddle rosehearts #azul ashengrotto #azul has contacts in okay I don’t wanna hear it #ID ONT KNOW HOW TO DRAW GLASSESS #also don’t even question the tentacles bc even idk where they’re coming for #I meant from sad face #we’ll say it’s magic #why are the emojis so bi gtf

[malyen0retsev]

i wish everyone who made kit connor feel he had to come out a very merry FUCK YOU. you forced an eighteen year old into coming out publicly, before he was ready, when he stated many many times he wanted to keep it private. how many more times does this shit have to fucking happen before some of you fucking clock that YOU CANNOT QUEERBAIT IN REAL LIFE. this is the natural end to the discourse of ‘if somebody is in the public eye playing a queer person they owe us their sexuality’, and it’s DEEPLY FUCKED UP, they do NOT owe you an answer, and this mindset JUST FORCED AN EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD TO OUT HIMSELF BEFORE HE WAS READY TO

#the way kit connor has been treated by people is genuinely horrific #and i'm so SO angry that he had to come out not on his terms and before he was ready just to make people SHUT UP #so congratulations everyone!!!! good job!!!! #and also a very huge screw you to people saying 'he's bi playing a bi character WE WON' you won NOTHING #i repeat you forced an eighteen year old to out himself #THAT IS NOT WINNING. THAT'S OUTRAGEOUS #kit connor #heartstopper cast #sarah rambles

[gay-otlc]

Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.

#like i mostly get impacted from this as a straight trans man #and the way people- even my friends- have acted like my attraction to women is now morally worse since i came out as trans #but this also affects like. bi/mspec men? it's shitty to shame them for their attraction to women! #and even cishet men. acting like objectification or predatory behavior is just inherent to male attraction to women #let's shitty men off the hook because 'they can't help it' or whatever #or victim blames anyone abused by a cishet man because 'what did you expect from being in a relationship with him' #yeah so like. sapphics stop saying this challenge #transhet #anti-transmasculinity #again i'm tagging because that's my personal experience with that sentiment but it has a ton of other issues too #antimasculism

[thigh-high-swag]

Feeling extra subby today i just want someone to put me on my knees and maybe spread my legs open with their foot and put their fingers in my mouth i would do so much for fingers in my mouth

#angel says 🫀 #queer nsft #t4t nsft #bi nsft #nb nsft #autistic nsft #mlm nsft #trans nsft #gay nsft #transmasc nsft

[sarasade]

One of the most generally useful things to come out of Hbomberguy's plagiarism video and Todd in the Shadows' similar video on misinformation is how they bring transparency to the internet phenomenon of "I made up a guy to get mad at".

Seriously, I've seen people make up a lot of stupid shit on the internet over the years and it's often just a manipulative attempt to paint a group of marginalized people in a bad light.

That's the TL;DR version of this post. 

ANYWAY here is the long version

Those videos are mostly about James Somerton's plagiarism of other queer people's work. However I'd like to talk about that 20-30% of Somerton's original writing- and oh boy. It's mostly about complaining about White Straight Women and misgendering well-known trans creators such as Rebecca Sugar and calling Becky Albertalli a straight woman while it's pretty common knowledge that she was forced to out herself as bi because she received so much harassment over "being a cishet woman who appropriates LGBT+ stories".

One thing that irks me especially is how in his Killing Stalking and Gay Shipping videos Somerton brings up how straight women/ teen girl shippers exploit gay men for their personal sexual fantasies. This gets brought up several times in his videos.

Being all up and arms about Somerton being a "White Cis Gay Who Hates Women and Queer People tm" is not that useful because the kind of rhetoric he's using is extremely common in fandom and LGBT+ spaces on Tumblr, TikTok and Twitter. We really don't need to bring Somerton's identity to this since he is in no way an unique example.

It's hypocritical to make this about an individual person when I've seen A TON of posts, tweets and videos where queer people talk about these Sinister Straight Women who are supposedly out there fetishizing and exploiting queer men. It's pretty clear to me that this is just an excuse to shit on women and queer people for having any sexual interests. At worst these comments are spreading misinformation about BL, a form of media that has been excessively studied by both Asian feminists and Asian queer women.

This all sounds really familiar and I think it's good that people are calling it out as what it is: misogyny and transphobia. I'd also point out the potentially racist motives behind being this hypervigilant about Asian media.

People can absolutely be misogynist regardless of gender or orientation. I really don't know why we need to create some kind of made up enemy to get mad at. I actually think it's almost sinister how "anti-fujoshi" people call Slash shippers and fujoshi misogynists or claim that they have internalised misogyny while being dismissive about women's interests and creative pursuits under Japanese obscenity laws, China's censorship, book bans in American schools and various other disadvances that are part of being a queer and/or female creator.

I think we shouldn't be naive about the bad faith actors who want to turn queer people against each other. For example Fujoshi.info mentions anti-gender (TERF, GC etc) movement using this kind of rhetoric as well.

Anyway if you want to read more:

- about the false info around BL fandom fujoshi.info

-There is the scholar Thomas Baudinette who studies gay media in Japan. Here is a podcast with him and the scholar Khursten Santos

-James Welker is a BL scholar as well. Here is a podcast interview about the new international BL article collection he edited.

-I've already talked about this Youtube channel by KrisPNatz and his great Killing Stalking video that actually engages with the themes of the manhwa

- There is also HR Coleman's thesis DO NOT FEED THE FETISHIZERS: BOYS LOVE FANS RESISTANCE AND CHALLENGE OF PERCEIVED REPUTATION where she interviews 36 BL fans and actually breaks down why fetishization has become such a huge talking point in the fandom discourse. Spoilers, it's mostly about young queer people and women being worried that they will get judged and pathologized for their interest in anything sexual.

-Great podcast about Danmei and censorship with Liang Ge

#Also I don't mean that you can always tell if someone is a transphobe or a TERF based on a couple of things they have said. #My point is that sometimes ok people can have very regressive ideas too. #This is not a call out post about how we should go around accusing anti-fujoshi people #todd in the shadows #hbomberguy #sarasade text #even I've got those “Fandom is mostly straight women fetishizing gay men” comments once and it begins to sound kind of passive-aggressive #when you're a bi woman. Lot of fandom stats at AO3 show that fandoms are montly bi women. who are these people calling straight exactly hmm #also straight women are completely ok leave them alone. I know I know Yes I'm so brave for saying this #cw: transphobia

[shmaroace]

the aroace experience of not telling people you're aroace because you don't want to explain it to them for an hour

#i usually say it's complicated or i'm basically bisexual or smth like that #(the bi thing esp. because i'm biaroace) #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace #aspec #1k #2k

[deancasforcutie]

The way Dean’s queer joy and revelation at others just being outside the stereotypical control images is also ours

Honorable mention:

#remembering reviewer Tess McGeer's post about ''this daunting undone softness from a character witnessing queer romance''... girl say that #what if instead of diminishing the healing and empowerment this lovingly crafted queer narrative has brought me I just didn’t? 🤯 #anyway a very happy Visibility Day to our resident bicon I'm so glad to have back 💕💜💙 #dean winchester #castiel #carlos cervantez #supernatural #spn #spnedit #the winchesters #destiel #dean is bi #spn is queer #mine

[royalarchivist]

Mine: Refer to me however you want!

Mike: Yeah, for me too. I think I use all pronouns too.

[They high-five and fist-bump each other]

Mine:

[via @barbmine]

#Mine #Barbmine #Mikethelink #Mike #I LOVE THEMMMMMMMMMMM THEY'RE SO FUNNY #Mine funniest person alive fr #also YOOOO LETS GO?????? #I didn't know Mike was ok with any pronouns #and Mine too??? that's awesome! #Also for those who don't know: Mine is Mike's wife! #They're both bi #They're so cool I wanna have a silly sweet partnership like this someday *clenches fist and stares off into the sunset* #As per usual: not a native Portuguese speaker so can't translate the full thing #please feel free to hop in with translations and/or corrections! #Though I'm pretty confident about these. Wouldn't post it if I wasn't #I'll be real idk how to translate viado LMAO #It's like. Not what google translate will tell you it means #idk imo I think ''homo'' sounds right but ONCE AGAIN: I'm not a Portuguese speaker #Poor Mine I laughed when she first posted this image ages ago and I replied to her saying it gave me a good laugh and she was like #''WAIT I PROMISE IT DOESN'T MEAN WHAT GOOGLE TRANSLATE SAYS IT MEANS'' #it's all good Mine I'm bi too I am not phased lmao #I don't personally use that word but I do not care when other queer folks use it

[500tabsopenatonce-500tabso-pen]

Twitter is being predictably normal about the maia arson crimew thing

#everyones totally cool with her being polyam therian but they’re shitting their pants over it saying it’s a bi lesbian. like ok. #(I am also cool w the therian and polyam thing I just can’t believe that’s where the goalpost is #I’d think being mspec would rank lower on the list of bullyable things than kinning and Literal Crimes yknow) #maia arson crimew #yeehaw on main

[redysetdare]

I think queer stories would be better if people stopped assuming that queer representation hinges on if two characters are romantically involved at all. Like the moment you accept characters as being queer without needing romance to prove said queerness then i think we'd find ourselves with a lot more unique, nuanced, and interesting queer stories. but by limiting queerness to only romance you are stifling queer stories.

#text #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #you can't get mad at the idea of cookie cutter queer stories while also saying that it's 'queerbaiting' if two characters dont kiss. #this isn't just in reference to aspec identities or gender identities either #I think a character can still be valid gay representation without ever kissing someone to prove it #a bi person doesn't need to kiss both boys and girls to be valid bi rep #there are more ways to express and share queer identity that dont require a love plot to be tacked on to validate the queerness #don't relegate the queer experience to only love stories. they can be so much more than that. #romance mention

[attentiondealer]

lucy: “i am in love with this man”

also lucy, literal five seconds later: writes some of the most homoerotic sentences i’ve ever read to mina

#dracula #dracula daily #i’m just saying #it’s kinda gay #lucy and mina bi and polyam queens so true #vanna’s views

[dawningfairytale]

i’m not saying “imogen i know what you are” i’m saying “imogen it’s okay if you like girls in a bisexual way and were using ‘im an ally haha’ bc you felt like an outsider among queer friends only that you weren’t actually an outsider in that way you just hadn’t realised it yet-”

#heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper #imogen heartstopper #imogen heaney #also both guys youve liked in the show were bi #i’m not saying it’s a sign but i am now projecting onto her until i’m disproved (if i’m disproved)

[variousqueerthings]

asexual in a bisexual way

bisexual in an asexual way

#the blur is real #that is -- am firmly and comfortably asexual at present point in time #but the possible experiences of bi and ace are incredibly flexible and overlapping from person to person #and they often see a kinship of experience/places where they meet #ace stuff #bi stuff #queer stuff #asexual #bisexual #and ALSO that fucking around with labels is good for the soul/part of what queerness as philosophy is about #it's all bi-aced as they say