#Safe Spaces

[myfandomrealitea]

By the way if you're creating a space like a private group chat or a Discord server it is absolutely your responsibility to make sure that space is safe.

It is your responsibility to moderate it. To regulate the behavior displayed within it. To take action when people create harm. You cannot just create this space then wash your hands of any responsibility for what happens within it.

I keep seeing so many teens making servers and chats and groups and then whining that they're getting bullied for not doing anything when people use them to cause harm and upset and I cannot stress this enough.

You are responsible for shutting that down. Or for sourcing someone to do it on your behalf. You have control of that space. You are not just an innocent bystander.

"Anything goes here, if you're offended just leave" is absolutely not an excuse for blatantly allowing things like harassment, bullying, racism, homophobia and other targeted hate.

Discord in particular is incredible for available resources for preventing things like this. There are literally hundreds of server bots you can deploy to auto-moderate and manual moderation is as easy as two little clicks.

If you feel you're responsible enough to be in the position of power of creating a space, you are responsible enough to ensure it is not used for harm.

And if you're not?

Well.

#myfandomrealitea #sephiroth speaks #fandom #reality #proshipping #fanfiction #proship #discord #servers #discord server #discord servers #antis #anti anti #safe spaces #social spaces #moderation

[oddwomen]

St. Petersburg Times (October 19, 1977)

#1977 #1970s #70s #newspaper #literature #black and white #vintage #wlw #lesbian #lesbians #vintage lesbians #vintage couple #queer #queer history #LGBT history #LGBT #LGBTQ #safe spaces #~

[iamdarthbader]

#gen z #teenagers #third space #screen time #parenting #phone addiction #safe spaces

[spacedocmom]

Doctor Beverly Crusher @SpaceDocMom Reminder to all of you who enjoy sex to make sure that everyone involved is an enthusiastically, fully consenting adult and that everyone's safety needs and joy are equally prioritized. Go play but play safe, fun, and fair! emojis: black heart, blue heart, masked, party, party popper, eggplant, peach, taco, two melons, winky face, smile with three hearts 4:20 PM · Mar 16, 2024

#star trek #doctor crusher #star trek the next generation #star trek memes #star trek tng #kindness #support #care #compassion #safety #safe sex #safe spaces #respect #consent #sexy times

[positivityforlesbians]

In case you gals haven't noticed, positivityforlesbians isn't an advice blog anymore. Since a few weeks ago - and it's not decided if this is for the long run or just momentary - this blog will focus on positivity as I cannot find the time anymore to answer all the questions I've received. I may answer the ones still numerous in my askbox but it's uncertain, as I have so many of them while having difficulty both answering to everyone in details (I cannot do otherwise), with little time on my hands, and encountering people who clearly don't understand that lesbians are solely attracted to the same sex. Right now the lesbian community needs positivity more than anything, to be understood, to find community. Positivityforlesbians have been and will stay a safe space for us all as lesbians and I want you to know that, in case you feel alone and in despair.

If you really urgently need advices, like searching for community with other lesbians or because you are in a very dark place mentally, positivityforlesbians' direct messages are still an option, as long I'm available, and of course you can send positive messages in the usual askbox. Life can sometimes make it difficult to have the same level of involvement in projects you had and spaces you were active in, but know that this is a simple change and absolutely not the end of this blog that I know has played an important part in the journey of many followers towards acceptance, lesbian community, activism, and even love. We continue this journey together. Sending you all my affection, stay strong and stay together, always. 💕 💕

#my posts #lesbian safe #wlw #safe spaces

[philosophicalconservatism]

"There are no dangerous thoughts; thinking itself is dangerous."

Hannah Arendt (1906-1975) German political thinker.

#safe spaces

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

Take two now that I'm no longer in Tumblr jail:

I'd like to see if we can get this to the target audience, because... this just won't leave my mind. Please be civil.

*I'm not anti-gendered spaces btw. I'm just multigendered and can't imagine if I'd be comfortable in any type of gendered space or not.

**Bigender, genderfluid, etc. Any gender experience that includes man and woman whether it be at all times or at changing intervals. I'm not talking about nonbinary genders because in my mind that's a slightly different question. (I'd ask that too if we could have two polls in one post.)

#genderfluid #gendered spaces #female only spaces #male only spaces #safe spaces #feminism #transgender #multigender #bigender #omnigender #woman only spaces #man only spaces #trans

[onstrangerthighs]

👑 After Billy encounters a demodog while on his way to pick up Max from a sleepover, Steve takes a walk to Cherry Lane with a flashlight to check on him, and it soon becomes an unintentional routine. Billy has yet to call him out on it, so Steve isn't sure if he knows (he does). Steve doesn't know how to bring up what he's seen through Billy's window. He's starting to understand what Billy meant when he said that he's no stranger to monsters. He also starts leaving a light on in his house to let Billy know he's always welcome. Steve may be facing a different kind of monster, but they're all the same in the end. They thrive in the dark and prey on the lonely. Billy won't be lonely anymore; he'll make sure of it.

📸Jonathan sees the bruises that Billy's jacket can't hide. He follows Billy whenever he can, like a friendly shadow. If Billy notices, he doesn't say anything. He does, however, walk around with a small smile and a pep in his step. He's a walking masterpiece that sticks out from the drab background plaguing everyone else in Hawkins.

🤝No one understands Billy better than Patrick and Jonathan when it comes to his life at Cherry Lane. They just get it. Patrick has a curfew, so he can't stay up late, and both Jonathan and Billy have work, but they find a way to meet up whenever they can. Patrick and Billy are partners in lab and in pranks. Patrick calls Neil regularly, pretending to be a scorned ex-lover. Billy calls Patrick Senior at his job (accountant) just to annoy him. They're also on the basketball team together. Patrick secretly enjoys watching Billy get under Jason's skin. Jonathan occasionally stops by to watch them. Billy asks him if he wants to join the team. Jonathan looks at he and Patrick, all sweaty, and goes right back to his sketchbook.

📔Nancy meets Billy at the library every night at a certain time, so if he doesn't show then she'll know something is wrong. She also gives him Murray's address just in case he needs a place to go. She and Billy have a book club with Patrick and Eden, where they suggest different books to read every Wednesday. Sometimes they read to the little kids.

📢Heather covers for Billy at work if he can't come in. She'll stay with him at the pool after closing times. She helps him with his injuries and doesn't ask questions. When he's ready to talk, she'll be there. She switches shifts with him so he won't have to deal with Karen and the other creepy mothers.

🍍Argyle is always up for talking with Billy. Most of the time, it's just Argyle going on about the first thing that pops into his head. Billy chimes in whenever he feels like it. Argyle always has a story about annoying customers, and of course, everything is funnier when they're both high as hell.

🫧Carol lets Billy borrow her makeup. She takes him to the mall and they try on clothes together. Sometimes, they sit in his car, and she tells him he can let it all out.

🥋Tommy takes him to their favorite diner. Whenever Billy is filled with extra energy, Tommy lets him use his punching bag. They watch cartoons and throw chips at each other.

📣Chrissy fixes his hair into braids and ponytails. Billy reminds her that Neil doesn't like that, and she replies, "You want it. Do you really care what he wants? I don't." If he wants a hug, then she's more than happy to give him one (or three). Chrissy is also kind of a cuddle bug, and Billy is her favorite person to cuddle with because he's warm. They both talk shit about their parents. "Neil's mustache looks fake," or "Are you sure your mother's hair isn't a dead skunk?".

She drives Billy to her safe place, a hill under the stars. She says they can share it. She tries teaching him cheer routines and even gets out a uniform for him whenever they sneak into the gym. Patrick occasionally joins them to practice his free throws.

🍨Robin lets Billy into Scoops Ahoy, and they eat ice cream. They talk about crushes. They have inside jokes about their fellow classmates. Sometimes, Robin brings alcohol from her mother's stash and puts some in the ice cream for them to enjoy.

#it's very important to me that billy has friends #people in his corner #safe spaces #my HCs #billy hargrove #steve harrington #jonathan byers #patrick mckinney #nancy wheeler #heather holloway #argyle molina #carol perkins #tommy hagan #chrissy cunningham #robin buckley #harringrove #byergrove #byergroveton #implied child abuse #stranger teens #HC tag

[rorywritessmut]

As a low empathy AFAB person, it’s weird being in feminist groups sometimes. I was originally diagnosed with NPD before ASD. I see Narcissism and Narcissist thrown around so much in these spaces and it makes me want to leave. As a low empathy person I feel as though I don’t belong even though I’m not a manipulative person. Narcissist and an emotionally immature person are not the same thing. People with NPD are not automatically bad people with nefarious intentions. I sent two years beating myself up because of the stigma surrounding NPD and cluster b personality types. Stop using narcissism as a scape goat for shitty people. Thanks.

#tw narcissism #actually narcissistic #not anymore #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #low empathy #actually audhd #afab #misdiagnosis #feminism #safe spaces #uncomfortable #just stop doing it #I was abused by a diagnosed NPD person #don’t come at me with your trauma #mentions of narcissism

[respectthepetty]

There's something about Mangkorn taking Yai to his safe place after Yai apologizes to Mangkorn and submits to him at night

Then going to Yai's safe place after he realizes Yai is jealous and upset over a misunderstanding during the day

That shows that Mangkorn genuinely cares for Yai and wants their relationship to be an extension of the safety these spaces provide to them all the time.

For two evil idiots who can't communicate, they actually communicate very well.

Dang.

#big dragon #big dragon the series #mangkornyai #mangkorn x yai #Safe spaces #Night and day #A safe person

[thegayneurodivergentagenda]

The way Pran admits "I'm upset" is so close to my heart because he's emoting and expressing directly it shows so much character growth it's insane how he went from nothing is wrong to being direct and it's because he's safe and he feels tired and he wants to tell that to phupha's second wife his husband .

#bad buddy #safe spaces #partners #bad buddy brain rot #patpran #bad buddy our skyy 2

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

“How is it possible that today’s academic left has supported rather than protested campus speech codes as well as the grotesque surveillance and overregulation of student life?” -- Camile Paglia

Probably because college administrators, who are the primary source of this stuff, are also overwhelmingly even further left than academics themselves, infiltrated and took over gradually, and came in under seemingly nice but highly ideological trojan horse terms, like "diversity," which acted as a rhetorical shield from, and weapon against, those who objected to what they were up to.

#Camile Paglia #free speech #academic freedom #freedom of speech #speech codes #paternalism #safe spaces #trigger warnings #infantilization #academic corruption #religion is a mental illness

[oddwomen]

Gay? Become free. The Village Voice (June 25, 1970)

#1970 #1970s #70s #The Village Voice #newspaper #classifieds #literature #safe spaces #black and white #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBT History #gay #lesbian #~

[machetelanding]

#triggers #trigger warnings #responsibility #the world #obligation #tiptop #safe spaces #life #grow up #anti sjw

[spacedocmom]

Doctor Beverly Crusher @SpaceDocMom You don't have to declare a gender in my sickbay unless you feel it's relevant, your gender identity needn't be certain (it's okay to still be finding yourself!), and no gender-based harassment of any kind will be permitted for any reason. Sickbays should be safe spaces! emojis: black heart, blue heart, masked 3:15 PM · Nov 23, 2023

#star trek #doctor crusher #star trek the next generation #star trek memes #star trek tng #kindness #support #care #compassion #health care #healthcare #medicine #gender identity #gender #trans lives matter #trans men are men #trans women are women #safe spaces #spoons #spoonies

[1shirt2shirtredshirtdeadshirt]

In case anyone thought I was joking or embellishing when I said I had an IDIC poster hanging on the wall in my (mini UN) classroom:

Receipts.

IDIC, baby.🖖🏳️‍🌈 It's what we're all about.

#star trek #tos #idic #infinite diversity in infinite combinations #i have an agenda #and im not afraid to push it #LOL #diversity #safe spaces #trekkie #trekkies #octrek #1shirt2shirtredshirtdeadshirt #vulcan #vulcans #vulcan philosophy #star trek tos