#Seen and heard

[beme-teen-mental-health]

We asked our BeMe Teen Advisory Board what they’re watching these days to help boost their mental health -here’s what Tristan said.

See what other movies & shows other teens are streaming in our new #SeenAndHeard feature in the BeMe app.

#seen and heard #john green #fault in our stars #movie review #beme app #feel better #mental health

[silcorynard]

🥞 PANCAKE - what is their comfort breakfast?

Toasted bread with butter. If the bread is toasted just right, still warm, and the butter slathered on thick enough to puddle as it melts? Delightful. It is a simple-enough meal, and though real bread and real butter can be expensive in Zaun, this meal (or the nearest thing to it) can be the best way to start the day.

🎂 BIRTHDAY CAKE - when is their birthday? do they like celebrating it?

His birthday is in the first week of winter, right before the constellations change. He sees little reason to celebrate his own birthdays as the years go by. Perhaps just a glass of something potent, as tradition dictates, drank alone. He’ll gladly celebrate the birthdays of others, yes, but not his own.

🍩 DONUT - favourite sweet treat?

Sultsina, a rye pastry, filled-fried-and-folded. He has little ties to his culture anymore, but this simple treat is something he allows himself on tough days, or when he needs to ground himself. Any eatery in Zaun that can replicate the recipe near enough to his recollection of his parents’ style of making them will find themselves visited at least once a quarter by an appreciative Silco. 

Jinx likes drizzling hers with chocolate and sugar sauces, sprinkles, and marshmallows. He’s indulgent.

🍟 FRIES - do they order food often? or they prefer to cook their own food?

Silco barely ever cooks. He seldom has the time or energy to do so, and may occasionally need to be reminded to eat. He usually orders from or has deliveries made from trusted vendors in the area, or from the downstairs cafeteria of his office building.

☕️ HOT BEVERAGE - do they prefer hot or cold drinks? what is their favourite drink?

He prefers his drinks cold, or at near enough to room temperature. Pressed fruit juices, mostly, but clean water trumps all.

🍓 STRAWBERRY - do they eat their fruit & veg? what is their favourite fruit or vegetable?

Fruit and vegetables can be hard to get in Zaun, but it is easier in his district to do so. Being an Environmentalist means his businesses are geared towards the growing of such things. He usually prefers leafy green veggies, as they’re one of the easiest crops to produce (he is money-minded, yes, and careful of what is fair and right in his portion), or potatoes. Potatoes are so versatile.

🍰 CAKE SLICE - favourite cake flavour? are they specific about types of cakes?

He prefers simple things. He blames his age, or the conditions in the mines, for the fact he doesn’t need anything extravagant, but it is mostly due to his mindfulness and caution in political matters. Cake is not a simple thing, an expense that cannot be justified. For him, at least. 

But if he’s had a cigar or two, he might be persuaded to have something sweet, even if it’s just a pastry, something with creamed rice or jam. But a cake might be pushing it, even then.

🍧 SHAVED ICE - do they still have any objects from their childhood? what significance does it have to them? what would their reaction be if they lost it?

He has kept only the memories. Everything he owned - from his own possessions to those left behind by his parents - were sold at The Last Chance. He has left everything behind, and pushed forward. After Vander’s betrayal, Silco even got rid of a number of things that reminded him of his youth, including a cigarette case and lighter. 

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#silco rynard #a matter of opinion #Seen and Heard

[goldensunset]

a real blorbo is someone you can both write a lengthy and serious/sad analysis on yet also constantly and i mean constantly make stupid jokes about

#peach rambles #hall of fame i guess #this post was about volo pokémon. among others #i have seen almost every fandom i’ve ever even heard of tagged here. good for y’all ig

[yeesiine]

Making someone feel seen, heard and understood is the loudest way to love them.

#mood #seen #heard #understood #love

[its-tickety-boo]

These two idiots kill me because what Crowley is hearing from Aziraphale is, “I am able to look past your demonic nature because I love you so much, but if there was a way, I would change that part of you” and what Crowley wants to hear is, “I look at all of you and I love all of you”

Meanwhile Aziraphale’s actually saying, “I love every version of you that I’ve known, but I miss the smile you had when I met you and I would give anything to bring that joy back”

#communication? these bitches never heard of it #they’re so tragic and for what #good omens #ineffable husbands #aziraphale #anthony j crowley #crowley #good omens season two #good omens s2 #good omens season 2 #miscommunication #ineffable idiots #ineffable divorce #I’ve seen so many variations of this post and they all destroy me

[juliaridulaina]

Sense ombres//No shadows//Sin sombras

L’ànima és una meravella, però està farcida d’ombres fosques. Hem experimentat, escoltat i vist massa coses horribles. De vegades encara sembla que no en tinguem prou i ens posem a visualitzar més horrors en films i sèries que pertorben profundament, tot i que sembli que no passi res a dins nostre. Però sí que passa, s’hi queden ombres fosques de tot l’horrorós experimentat, vist i escoltat. Hem…

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#El alma es una maravilla #el horror vivido #for to have enough will #L’ànima és una meravella #l’horrorós experimentat #No shadows #para tener la voluntad suficiente #per tenir prou voluntat #seen and heard #Sense ombres #Sin sombras #the horror experienced #The soul is a wonder #vist i escoltat #visto y oído

[cemeterything]

#🐉 #based on some common descriptions of anger ive seen and heard #for me anger is a wound i keep scratching. somebody put a goddamn cone on me.

[twentyfourhrs]

I was fighting the urge to eat then I got a message from ******….. the universe and I are like this 🤞🏼😍

#seen and heard

[bixels]

I watched Starship Troopers tonight.

#personal #dumb #my art #immediately after finishing i was pumped to watch some analysis vids on it #cuz i heard a lot of the drama about the original author being a pro military fascist and the director going “fuck that” and making a satir #scrolling through youtube search results was not promising. lots of male film buffs i would Not trust even on a first glance. #“The Critical Drinker” (pfp of a bearded man drinking alcohol) lol. #and then I saw cinemawins did a video on it and was like oh nice i haven't seen his stuff in a while but he's a pretty leftist creator #scrolled through the comments #second panel face #this sucks i'm outta here. #just leagues and leagues and leagues of anime pfps and right leaning people dogpiling on him for “not understanding what fascism is” #idk it's pretty alien and weird to me watching this movie and going “wow yeah that was pretty obvious huh” like literally the from opening #to the teacher preaching militance and only giving voting rights to “those who serve their nation first and earn it” #and then seeing droves of people online going #WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? It's not anti-fascist and even if it was it's #the director's fault for desecrating heinlein's incredible sci-fi epic vision. ermm media literacy is dead.

[pollyanna-nana]

Did anyone else notice that seemingly one of the first things they did after bringing Thistle into the kingdom was cut his hair short?

And given what Marcille says about how important hair is to magic…. That’s probably not a coincidence.

#polly speaks #dungeon meshi #dunmeshi #dungeon meshi spoilers #delicious in dungeon #thistle dungeon meshi #thistle posting #I haven’t seen anyone talk about this yet so I wanted to put it out there #obviously he grows it back out but Hmmmmm #Did the Tallmen advisors to the king know abt hair’s relationship to magic?? possible that they heard about it from somewhere and didn’t #want to take any chances

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[scrambleseggy]

When people think women aren’t capable of misogyny I have to laugh because misogyny isn’t men just being creepy and weird and rating women on reddit. It’s not just statistics on violence and crime stories, even though that is a big part of it.

It’s also republican moms and mean girl sisters who encourage competition between women as peak femininity. It’s also women who think having friends is an equivalent to a bravo TV show that includes hair pulling and slut-shaming. It’s also women who tell you certain things make you ugly and “look like a man.” Women who make fun of feminine features in men. It’s women who think the best way to deal with a patriarchal system is by trying to befriend it so they can try to benefit off of it by “not being like other girls” — the way people boil feminism down to the proximity of femininity and masculinity on the internet really bothers me. Some of the worst misogynists I’ve known in my life have been the republican women I’ve grown up around.

#it kinda reminds me of terfs whos entire politics rely on things they think makes a woman #and its the most dystopic 1950’s housewife shit youve ever heard #feminism #transandrophobia #last tag bc some things ive seen regarding arguments in it seem a little relevant #it’s something I want people to keep in mind #the whole manosphere shit goes beyond just meathead podcasts dudes #like we should all know this by now???

[thisisstillme]

Things Seen & Heard in January

I have been giving myself a lot more downtime in 2023. The good thing about it is that I have had more time to watch TV, listen to podcasts, read & write, which means I can share some of those with you lovely lot. 📺 Watch The first series of White Lotus was brilliant and somehow, they managed to do it again with the second series. This time, we are at the White Lotus resort in Sicily…

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#Beauty #film #Podcast #seen and heard #TV

[dudethatsmyundeaduncle]

Had this Headcannon that when Multi-Lingual Dick and Jason get drunk they start singing Ballads in Spanish. Yeah some classical shit like Vicente Fernandez but also the most wild Selena you've ever heard.

#is this a post about Latinx Jason todd? Bitch it might be #Don't ask me about it tho cuz I'll deny it to my core #I imagine jason drunk off his ass belting No Me Queda Mas like he fuckin wrote the song #Dick's got Como la Flor Energy but he has ugly Sobbed NMQS too #they are so infamous for their drunk spanish ballads that they actually rub off on TIm #imagine young justice suprise when the whitest kid you've ever seen wasted on 7/11 liquor is hiccuping his way through a selena song #worst accent you've ever heard sounds like a dog from New Jersey learning to bark and yet the emotion is kinda on point #TIm denies it #refuses to believe he has ever done it #Dick and Jason get a copy of the video and someone edits a mash up of all three of them warble singing that banger #anyway this was a nothing post of nothing I made for myself #fr just for me #DC #Batman #Batfam #Jason todd #Tim drake #Dick Grayson

[kedreeva]

I'm so sorry, I'm absolutely losing it. I went to my neighbor's today to find out what I would need to do to care for their puppy this weekend, and This Fucking Thing appeared ajgldfkjhfg she is a turkey hen. you know, the birds who quite famously look like this

with no feathers on their heads, or very little, mostly along the spine/top of the head... and this gal just rocks up with not only a LITTLE bit of feathering, but almost completely covered. Even her WATTLE had feathers.

I'mc rying

i said, what the hell is going on here? and they were like

her name's Fluffy

#turkeys #turkey #birds #bird #I can't #I wheezed laughing #MA'AM PLS #I have seen some hens with a LITTLE extra feathering #like a thicker mane down the spine #or a little extra around the ear feathers or something #but never like this #this gal heard “bearded hen” and got the SPIRIT all right #look at her little fuckin' eyebrows!!!! #GOD if I wasn't neck deep in peafowl breeding I would take her to breed feathered-headed turkeys #I would just keep picking the ones with the most feathers on their heads until they were plumed

[buildoblivionthenwewilltalk]

#said with love of course #tbf one time it was actually the master 😅 #maybe this time lads #THIS time it’ll be the ra- *gun shots* #doctor who #spoilers #the church on ruby Road #oooo just seen another punter with the meddling monk #if we keep this up we’ll get through the whole deca #other names I’ve heard in the last 15 minutes #romana #rassilon #tecteun #iris #Brax #never change nerds