#Social anxiety maximized

[skinks]

so fucking difficult to talk to rude ass people you don’t know that well when they never fucking ask any questions. eventually you’re scraping the barrel for something you haven’t asked them yet because the other option is everybody just sitting in goddamn silence because your side of the conversation isn’t worth any interest I guess

#years ago I read the maxim ‘interesting people are interested people’ #and it’s helped me SO much wrt social anxiety #turns out! if you show interest in other people’s lives they’re more likely to want to talk to you!!!! who knew!

[femmefatalevibe]

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[alienpossession]

Body a Day 30: Pecs

He was skinny and pretty much self-aware, shy nerd. The idea of going to the gym terrified him, especially with the fact that he was homeschooled all the way until what supposed to be his senior year now. But then, the alien that crash-landed on his backyard during the summer changed the course of his life, because not only the alien physically manipulated the nerd, it mentally conditioned him to ensure its expansion

Gone are the days when his days comprises with only hours of tutoring and video games. Even during winter, he still worked himself out in the gym for 3-4 hours per day.

He would hit the gym in the sluttiest possible outfit to maximize the seductive impact he now possessed, and he's not shy to make the advance if he spotted that the other party is interested or taking too long of a glance. Six months normally wouldn't generate such drastic changes in normal people, but the nerd has turned 180 degree different with the ballooning pecs, rippling abs and sensational quads that put people in awe or envy due to its perfect proportion. The tattoos added some nice rugged addition to his look, and the beard and thickening hair helped to make him look like at least a college senior rather than a barely-turned-18 years old high school senior.

He's not shy to show off his body nowadays, and a lot of the town folks wondered how on Earth a studly piece of meat like him never entered formal schooling. Because if there's one thing the town lacks off is a sport hero they can rally behind, and he seemed like he built for that. They all remembered that the reasons mentioned by his parents were mostly about their son social anxiety and also frail physique, but nothing's frail or socially inept exuded from the walking sex god. When confronted about the massive changes (and the frequent sex he has with plenty of the townsfolk), as if glazed or something, his parents just said that the nerd is still their sweet, loving son who cannot possibly do such things accused to them. The townsfolk simply left in the blind that the nerd's parents already mind-fucked by their own alien-infused-son and just see a parents loving their son unconditionally. Other than that, the townsfolk also left in the blind that the people around them that already fucked by the former nerd practically became an unwilling vessel for the budding aliens that grow inside them undetected. Be it men or women, the seed can grow to take control of the human they were laid into, and no one can even tell when the person's already not themselves any longer and the alien already over-ride the control of their body. The parents are one of them, and some of his early sexual conquest too, but sooner or later, everyone will take the seed and get splashed by the water-like substance coming out from his lactating huge pecs that will help the growing process of the seed on their body and getting mind-fucked by it when the time has come. By the time they realized that inside their body, there's another consciousness lurking in the dark, it's going to be too late already to reverse or halt the process as they will succumb to the control of the invading alien. With this rate, he will help everyone on his wrap before Easter next year and then off he goes to university where he can reach wider populace.

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This marks the end of my Body a Day posting activity. Thanks @max-the-many for the prompt, I wouldn't get to 100 posts this fast without the self-push coming to scratch off the prompt list lol. I think I'll take a break (2 weeks or so) from posting unless something really come to my mind. Thanks for all the support!

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[yet-another-leo]

Astro note 5

sorry for being gone for a really long time but here's a new set of notes.

Disclaimer: I am no professional astrologer. I do like to observe so here are some of my observations, there are also a few assumptions I make about some placements. If something doesn’t resonate with you, then leave it be.

💠 a common pattern i noticed with most aqua moons is that they never seem to have good romantic relationships. it's always like the relationship is just trapping them.

my mother and best friend both have aqua moons and they've had horribly failed relationships where the partner was cheating but was also rlly controlling of them other examples are: marilyn monroe, britney spears, princess diana

💠 2H also represents greed. Having jupiter in 2H can be a indicator of a very greedy person

💠since jupiter exaggerates anything it touches, 2H jupiter can also manifest as someone being extremely poor

💠 mercury in 10H or conj MC can manifest as someone having social anxiety, being anxious of being in the spotlight or anxiety surrounding your reputation or social status

💠 neptune in 5H can mean you have photography as a hobby or watch movies as a hobby

💠 neptune in 5H can also indicate having interest in astrology while uranus in 5H can indicate having interest in astronomy

💠 the moon rules over fluctuations

e.g. moon in 6H can indicate fluctuations in health

💠 libra placements with aries, scorpio or capricorn placements in their inner planets might not relate to the "libras are indecisive" stereotype

💠saw someone say that Capricorn NN find their true purpose and success when they travel away from their home because of their cancer SN. I just think that this is more accurate with sidereal astrology because if u use sidereal astrology most Capricorn NN (0º to 24º) are Sagittarius NNs and Sagittarius rules over travel to foreign lands

💠 I've seen many people say jupiter transiting your 1H or jupiter conjunct asc in sr chart indicates weight gain and i know why they make that interpretation, like jupiter maximizes what it touches so jupiter in 1H in transit/sr chart can indicate drastic changes in weight so people immediately think of weight gain, but the key point here is that jupiter basically takes things to the extreme so either you would gain too much weight or you lose too much weight.

💠 i saw this on another post that when your venus conjuncts somebody's asc u will have the hardest time moving on from them

💠 this is based on personal experience, with sun conj. moon synastry, you either love and understand each other or hate each other's guts.

i think it's cuz this aspect means that the moon person reflects the sun person and not everyone can stand seeing themselves in smbody else

💠 one time a guy liked me whose lilith conjuncted my saturn, moon conjuncted my venus and my asc conjuncted his south node. I rejected him cuz he was one of those "nice" guys and till this day he stalks me and actively tries to ruin all my relationships pls just save me from this guy 😭

no cuz i dont understand wtf is wrong with him he ruined his own relationships and friendships cuz of his obsession with me and he still says i'm the one to blame for everything he went through after meeting me he couldnt ruin my new relationship as my partner already knew what kind of person he was

sorry if it felt short anyways see u next time byie 🥰

[Exeunt Leo]

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[tanadrin]

A "new US civil war movie" feels like a bad joke, and also an insult, since most of the people behind it will be safe in a bunker or a foreign country for the real thing in 5-10 years. But I get that being american means being undeserving of sympathy for this kind of thing, so I hope it's at least good entertainment for you (the movie and the real thing).

i suspect you are the same combative, doomer anon who has shown up in my ask box before. further asks in this vein will be ignored. because listen. going through life reading everything people say in a maximally negative manner, imputing malign intent where none exists, and reacting with complete hostility to everyone around you all the time makes you an asshole.

you are acting like an asshole, anon. perhaps you have a sympathetic backstory--depression, grief, anxiety, i dunno--that is an explanation of your asshole behavior, but it doesn't matter, because you are responsible for how you treat other people, both in meatspace interactions and anonymous online interactions.

and i want to be really clear about this because i see this genre of behavior all over the internet, and on social media sites in particular, and i am simply exhausted of patience for it. your overflowing anger, your doomerism (and doomerism is a deeply reactionary sentiment i also have no more patience for), your need to lash out at somebody, anybody, including pseudonymous strangers online--none of that need be a permanent fixture of your life, but it is an attractor state that requires some effort to escape. that work involves cultivating friendships based on shared positive likes, learning to let go of your anger, learning not to interact with kneejerk hostility and defensiveness, and learning emotional maturity (I recommend Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents; though in this case you are the "parent" I think).

all of which is doable--but only if you are willing to not act like an asshole, and decide not to make being an asshole a load-bearing part of your identity. frankly i do not care what you do. i would like it if everyone could be happy, but that's not the world we live in. fortunately for you, your misery comes from your own asshole behavior, and not from externally imposed conditions like war or social breakdown. unfortunately for you, most assholes i have known in my life are deeply wedded to being assholes, view their asshole behavior as a sign of their wisdom and perspicacity.

it is not. it is actually pathetic for a grown-ass human being to interact with strangers like this. like genuinely, deeply embarrassing. grow up.

#this is the behavior of an emotional adolescent testing boundaries and/or seeking reassurance #but you're not my teenage son so i don't have to deal with it

[feyspeaker]

Hiii! Gosh, I love your work SO MUCH. You recently mentioned in an answer to someone that you have ADHD and because of that, you have lots of rituals for your work in order to stay focused. May I ask what your routine is? I have struggled for years and years as a working artist to control or harness my adhd, and I would love to hear what works for you!! Thank you so much for even reading this :)))

Hi there!! Thank you so much. ♥

I'm probably a terrible person to give advice, because I absolutely do NOT have a handle on my ADHD. I often feel like I'm drowning in it, as I'm sure a lot of other people in the same situation can commiserate with. A lot of my issues are exacerbated by my agoraphobia and anxiety, but I won't go too into that stuff because I am not really in a place to talk about that aspect of my life so much. I do think I've become more aware of it as I have gotten older and am definitely better at managing it than I was when I was younger. Also to start off, I'm not medicated for it.

First and foremost, I tend to need to overstimulate myself in order to get down to painting, though this is only so effective. I play really loud, very noisy music when I work. Angelspit, Combichrist, The Gazette, etc. Heavy electronic, industrial, nu metal kind of stuff. It helps drown out my thoughts so I can focus on painting. I need to Not Think to be able to paint. I have to already know I'm in flow state on something and really into it if I'm going to be playing mellower stuff.

I also like to play youtube videos or shows on things I'm currently fixated on. Like I'll watch nothing but videos on Welsh folklore or horse training or whatever the hell. I really struggle with listening to audiobooks or podcasts because they aren't engaging enough.

I have parental controls on my computer set up so that I can block out any distracting websites, however this is really not super helpful because I have to keep social media open at all times as it's part of my job to manage those things. It does help some though. It might work for you! They make browser extensions for it.

I try to keep momentum on pieces. I can't let a piece sit for more than a few days, or I know it's time to bin it and give up. I either hyperfixate on a painting until it's done, or it's not good enough and it's going to be like an anchor dragging my momentum down. The second I feel momentum waning I know I need to make a change. I've made huge changes to how I take commissions in order to help me with this, as this is my biggest struggle. I hate sending updates on things, waiting for emails, painting things I'm not super invested in, etc. I recognize that I am incredibly blessed/lucky to be in a position to be a little pickier about the work I take on and how I take it. But I do firmly believe in general that a commission based artist should try to make sure they are doing work they enjoy and not just slogging away on something that they don't vibe with at all. That's good advice for anyone, but I do think that us folk with ADHD tend to feel burnout and artblock harder. I know when I have artblock literally NOTHING can get me to paint, so that's why momentum is so important.

I also try to recognize things that I know are going to trigger me into avoiding what I need to do for the day, or causing me to spiral. For example, if I know I need to make a phone call I try to do that first if at all possible, otherwise I am going to end up not getting anything done for the next 6 hours. If I know I'm going to have to have to leave the house for an appointment or something scheduled, I typically just let that day be a wash and don't plan any work for it. I end up physically ill when I have something I have to go out and do (like going to some appointment or even something small like going to pick something up off of FB marketplace) so I try to just Avoid That, but if I can't I will just clear my schedule for the day.

I try to maximize my Good Days by minimizing things that trigger my procrastination/lack of motivation/distractions. But when I have bad days I just try not to beat myself up about it. (Still do, but I'm trying to get better.)

The worst thing is letting a whole day be wasted sitting there, knowing the time is passing. Knowing that there is something you should be doing, but you're not doing it. Knowing that you don't want to be doing that thing, and that you'd rather be playing a game or painting something else. But not doing that either. And before you know it, the sun is setting and you've done no work AND had no fun and it's time for bed. Ugh, I've had so many days like that.

It's important to recognize when that is happening, and to just say "fuck it" and go do the fun thing you want to do instead of toiling for hours in indecision. That's probably bad advice for people who have poor responsibility skills (like actually making sure to get work done on the good days) but I am saying this in good faith. Sometimes when that happens I'll let myself go bake a bunch of bread or obsessively clean a cabinet out so I still feel like I did something that day. Next day, I try to do better.

I don't know if this is helpful at all- I know people with ADHD have a lot of different experiences/tendencies, but this is what helps me. I slipped a lot after my dad's cancer diagnosis several years ago and felt myself really just completely letting go into the ADHD time void because my thoughts and worries were so loud I couldn't drown them out with all the screamo in the world. I started fixating on BG3 really hard near the end, and it's absolutely responsible for me being Okay artistically and emotionally speaking after his passing last month. I think difficult situations can make our symptoms worse, and to an extent we have to ride the wave and be kind to ourselves.

That's perhaps my closing thought- be patient and kind to yourself. Our brains don't really work right but it can be a blessing in that I think the flow state we are capable of is really something otherwordly. So try to identify what helps trigger that in you and foster it.

#ask

[a-d-nox]

Hey nox! Can you make a post on your stance about retrograde planets?

Love your posts 💕

planetary and asteroidal retrogrades

thank you for the compliment!! sure thing, let’s talk about it! and since we reached 100 posts last night, let’s celebrate with this long post!

retrograde is when an object appears to move backward or appears smaller when in reality, it is doing what it always does. the keyword is appears - during a retrograde or having natal retrogrades means that your perception in the area said planet or asteroid is located is altered in comparison to how it would be normally or in comparison to others. anything that is retrograded in your chart can indirectly affect you OR the aspect of the planet or asteroid takes longer to develop. in my aphrodite signs, degrees, houses, and aspects post i presented retrograde as though the effects everyone is about to read are slower to develop than those who have a direct asteroid - this post will be a breakdown similar to that post, reflecting on the planets and five common asteroid i see retrograded in a chart and advice for each retrograde.

feel free to use the following to analyze your natal chart, solar returns, or as a survival guide during retrograde periods! USE THIS AS MOMENTARY FOR TRANSITS AND LONG-TERM WHEN PRESENT IN YOUR NATAL CHART. if you have a retrograde in your chart, i have noticed that when that retrograde is in effect, life seems easier.

MERCURY: retrograde occurs three or four times a year for around three weeks.

i believe that if MERCURY is retrograde, people have a slower manner of speaking or i always find that they need speed to be faster (2x on youtube videos type vibes). this is a time in which people may write slower. they likely have a harder time in school or learning something new, they may be the least likely to change things when they have found what works for them. they may be forgetful or rather unorganized, these people seem rather nervous to me - you can usually see it in the hands, they may be unsteady, nail bitters, hand talkers, etc. this is all a means to let out extra nervous energy. they may also experience paranoia or social anxiety worrying about what others think and feel towards them. gossip may be a downfall for them or stir up worse situations for them. they may have an issue with profanity as well; it could be the mouth of sailors and truckers OR someone who doesn’t ever say curse words at all and gawks at those that say them.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: deep breathing exercises. creating your own shorthand when writing notes. affirmations (you’re smart, grades aren’t everything, you gave it your best, you tried today and you’ll try tomorrow, you’re safe, etc.). trying one new thing a week - how do you know it’s the only thing that works if it took you this long to find it? couldn’t there be another option as well? try a fidget tool. make to-do lists. don’t comment when provoked or just to do so - think before you say things. evaluate how you go about your life - improve where you can. breathing before you speak; people who curse a lot have a lot of penned up energy, gotta let that out if you are trying to not curse as much (especially if you are trying to do so because of children around you) OR breathe when you hear someone curse and you don't like it - not everyone says, acts, or reacts like you and that’s okay - it’s part of the human experience.

VENUS: retrograde occurs roughly every eighteen months for around a month and a half.

VENUS retrograde people may be late bloomers in terms of love and relationships - that’s perfectly fine. never try to lower your standards just to fit in and reach a milestone. that being said, i find that a lot of venus retrograde people struggle to come to terms with their sexuality and oftentimes clothing is used to shelter it. they may take longer to find a style that works for them. they may not be trusting toward women - it may take time to warm up to them. they could be maximalists or minimalists have no in between. they may not like social functions finding them uncomfortable or anxiety-invoking. they may not feel pretty or graceful very often as well.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: take time away from social media. don’t be afraid to explore sexuality or style at your own pace (remember you are beautiful - it’s scary to try new things but scary doesn’t mean bad, ugly, and/or unworthy). spend time with the women you trust and feel safest with. practice decluttering for the maximalist and practice gifting yourself something you truly want (NOT WHAT YOU NEED lol) for the minimalist. self-care. if you have to go to a social event, give yourself a time marker. ex: just for one hour, when dinner is over, etc OR tell yourself you have to say hi to ___ before you can leave or set a number of people you want to say hello before dipping. AFFIRMATIONS (you are kind, you are beautiful, you have lovely hair, etc.).

MARS: retrograde occurs roughly every two years for around two to three months.

MARS retrograde people are people that not as assertive as the rest of those around them. it’s usually because they have low energy, they easily get tired of trying to assert themselves or make others hear them. they may be quick to anger and have a hard time reallocating that anger into doing something productive. it’s hard for them to turn strong emotion into a passion. these people may also have an issue with blood - heavy periods, irregular periods, fear of blood, anemia, etc. they also may be uncomfortable around masculine energy. they are likely not impulsive rather they stick to what they know. i feel like MARS retrograde people are always collecting injuries - it doesn’t matter what they are doing. opening the mail? paper cut. working on the computer? tennis elbow or carpal tunnel. out for a walk? they fell or have some type of foot problem now. there could be struggles with independence or leadership (i feel like pissing competitions are most common in mars retrogrades)…

my advice for surviving this retrograde: brainstorm everything you want to say to assert yourself and pick the best option. sleep, relax - a few “lazy” days never killed anyone OR have a lowkey day a walk instead of a run, meal prep. or do something that will help you out for when tiredness kicks in again. if people don’t get what you are trying to tell them or telling you "no" when it's a good idea and you know it is going to work - stop trying to assert yourself and just do it (sheila buff is quaking). but no seriously it’s better to ask forgiveness than permission as they say. try yoga, swimming, or walking to release excess energy! brainstorming random ideas - journals are your friends - track your mood, keep a dream log, and write down good ideas you have (you can always return to these ideas when you get the energy to do stuff again). if you have issues with blood you are not alone - i hate getting blood drawn (my recent trip to the ER, i needed an IV and the guy was like "scared? don't worry, i don’t like needles either THATS WHY I DON'T LOOK WHEN I PUT THEM IN" AND I WAS BRUH STOP IT. but we did a count and I didn't look at my arm the rest of the day lol. so find what works for you: counting and not looking works for me. I don't care if they say my blood pressure is high from the anxiety lol. you aren’t alone in period issues either - talk with your doctors! MARS retrograde may not be the best of times for asserting yourself with doctors (unless you are a MARS retrograde native) BUT perhaps it's a great time to look into symptoms yourself! you know your symptoms best! if you tell a doctor and they refuse to test you or tell you "your symptoms can’t be that bad," THEY ARE GASLIGHTING YOU! find a new doctor - your feelings are valid - if you say the pain or the symptoms aren’t normal then your are right! it’s okay to not like or feel uncomfortable around masculine energy - stick to the masculines you trust or hang out with feminines! try something new each week. for the love of the gods PLEASE AVOID ANYTHING THAT MAY RESULT IN AN ER VISIT: no bungee jumping for the first time, tubing, hand gliding, etc. practice patience; people will always be at your throat with this retrograde, just breathe and smile all the while calling them an asshole in your head :).

JUPITER: retrograde occurs roughly every year for around four months.

feeling unlucky? i feel like that’s a common trend for JUPITER retrograde people. there is often a struggle with optimism - these people are realists or pessimists by nature. they may also struggle with growing up - this could be related to separating from parents, getting a job, leaving a home town, or even going away for school… expanding from these pre-existing notions tends to be hard on them. it may even be a struggle to start dating - they may be late to the dating realm or getting into a relationship compared to those around them. this retrograde can show a person who is either super devote or an atheist. they are less likely to "pay it forward" to others - it may be due to past experiences, “no good deed goes unpunished.” their judgment may be either too realistic or too impractical. they may be a glutton or on the other extreme end someone who believes they didn't do enough to deserve a prize.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: be proactive - sometimes having a ritual helps. it may sound crazy but doing something like a cleanse, a cinnamon ritual, a simmer pot, a tarot reading, etc. every first of the month may help change your mindset from pessimistic to optimistic. growing up is rough but hey we all do it and time waits for no human - walk before the universe shoves you along unwillingly. change is good. i’m not gonna lie to you dating sucks… people are weird. my only advice is not to take things so seriously, if you are looking for romance :/ get a book - it’s definitely not perfect day one of any dating scene. if you are dating then everyone is allowed to date other people including you - when you are exclusive is when ya’ll shouldn’t be talking to other people. don’t assume exclusivity on day one, its 2022 lol. and definitely don't rush into a relationship to catch up to those around you - it’s not a competition. religion is great don’t shit on others for not sharing your beliefs or lack thereof though. pay it forward is good vibe energy - every day is a new day, don’t think that others wouldn't do the same for you OR you’ll pay for it later - embrace the positive and move forward. practice active listening to others - you may be a realist while some one else is a dreamer, a healthy balance is somewhere in between. treat yourself to something healthy - something you’ve wanted to try OR for the glutton, look around in an area you haven’t been recently in a closet or a cabinet is a favorite you have long forgotten, rediscover the joy you felt when you find it again for the first time. number a list of things you want to do (all in your price range and capabilities) use a random number generator and go do what it lands on. take the scenic route or a different route home than you normally do. play a card game.

SATURN: retrograde occurs roughly every year for around four to five months.

SATURN retrograde people likely had to grow up very quickly - during this retrograde you may need to be more mature. they are likely always early or always late. there are likely a lot of self-restrictions - this could be due to a lack of self-approval. they may feel as though they too experienced a lot of unluckiness similar to JUPITER retrograde. they may experience a lot of delays - usually self-provoked, they may hold themselves back in the area where this planet transits or sits in their chart due to a fear of failure or generalized fears/anxieties. they may receive a lot of bruising and other injuries, especially broken bones. they may be haunted by their past. they may experience sickness: chronic or acute - most common is depression (which may cause a lot of isolation from others) and frequent common colds. this is likely to cause a lot of frustration with themselves due to a hatred of being limited. they may have a lot of responsibilities and work hard to reach their high expectations. in philosophical states, their views may be more conservative wanting the harshest justice to be served. and last but not least, fatherly turmoil - it is highly likely there are a lot of issues surrounding a relationship between this person and their father.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: revisit childhood in a safe environment like therapy or a shadow-work journal. do something that you have wanted to do since childhood. show up somewhere late for the early bird and show up somewhere early for the late comer. buy yourself something you’ve been wanting but have been saying you’ll wait until something big happens. take a leap of faith. rest and care for yourself - have a lot of downtime, eat well, and do low-intensity exercise. know that there is no time like the present to start taking care of yourself - limitation now is not limitation life long. people who don’t take care of themselves when they feel bad only drain themselves more in the long run - take care of yourself! it’s not terrible to not reach all of your goals in a day. make three goals a day - no more, no less and certainly not something you can’t complete in a day (like buy a house, see the world, etc. it has to be manageable!). be reasonable with your views - it’s okay if others do not agree with you. life would be boring if we all had the same thoughts and beliefs.

NEPTUNE: retrograde occurs roughly every year for around five months.

NEPTUNE retrograde people typically struggle with their thoughts - during this retrograde you may feel like you can’t think straight or that you are more critical of yourself. these people frequently struggle with spirituality - not knowing what to trust or if it’s a good idea to be all in with a group mentality when it comes to following faith. these people typically have a different taste in music compared to everyone else - they may only listen to jazz or classical or something rather underground OR their taste in music doesn’t appear to match them at all. they may feel creatively blocked or like they only have creativity to help them express themselves. they may daydream or use substances frequently to help escape from their reality. they may lack intuition or have an intuition that others do not believe in. they may be incredible with makeup and use it to become a “different person” or have a strong dislike towards makeup. they may have very odd dreams or feel as though they are incapable of dreaming (not true, everyone dreams but not everyone can remember what they dreamed). these people may have a hated or fear of swimming due to past experiences where they nearly drowned or did drown. they may have a story attached to them about being completely incoherent - ODs, drowning, coma, concussion, anaphylactic shock, etc.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: write down your thoughts and analyze during this retrograde, if it’s natal, OR after the retrograde ends, if it’s transit based. don’t feel as though you are required to be part of a group. listen to new music. make a list of ideas as they arise. scribbling is safer than gazing. if you are using substances please do so in a safe environment or write down what, when, and where from you are taking this substance on an appendage (this is not me saying that you should, this is me stating be safe if you do - if you believe you may have a problem, reach out and seek advice from others who you feel will not judge you, it may be an outsider and that is okay - i too am here, you are never alone if you need guidance when seeking help). be careful with makeup use - you may find that it shocks others and even yourself and can be dangerous for those who struggle with dysmorphia. keep a dream journal. monitor symptoms after injuries and tell others about your allergies!

URANUS: retrograde occurs roughly every year for around five months.

URANUS retrograde people typically struggle with their originality - during this retrograde you may feel as though you are stuck in a rut when it comes to your life and how it looks. naives may feel as though they lack freedom or have too much of it and feel rather alone and that no one cares for them in this world. they may not feel like they are capable of standing up to others. they may have deep and rather harsh thoughts about humanity. they may be prone to accidents yet preserving like surviving a devastating storm that left others harmed, dead, or stranded, they may experience electrocution (extreme ex (and the first person i thought of while rereading my post before posting it): Ted Bundy has a natal URANUS retrograde and was sentenced to death via electric chart), etc. they likely feel apart from the world - whether by choice or otherwise is the question. these people are often estranged from select people in their life - a father, a mother, grandparents, a whole side of the family, etc. they may experience unexpected and chaotic things happening around them. these things often disrupt their day-to-day life: natural disasters, divorces, health woes, etc.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: try something new and different from your norm. travel, eat something you’ve never tried before, pick a new aesthetic, change up your look! go somewhere new - get away from your routine. reach out to someone you’ve not spoken to in a while. stand up for yourself even if it’s “i don’t appreciate that” you owe no one an explanation. and if they start talking back to you - tell them “my feelings are valid. i recognize that you disagree. we can talk at a later time.” and walk away - anything that happens after that statement is not your fault. you are okay and you spoke your mind and that is something to be proud of! be careful about who you share your views with. don’t give up on finding your people - they are out there! it takes time. if someone abandons you: IT IS NOT AND HAS NEVER BEEN YOUR FAULT. you guys can (could’ve) fix (fixed) things if they stay, you guys can’t fix things if they aren’t there. THAT IS NOT YOUR FAULT - THEM LEAVING IS NOT YOUR FAULT. on the flip side, it is okay to leave those who you feel don’t make you a better person, who harm you, or alienate you! you deserve more! prepare for anything! prep a go-bag for your car, always have a week's worth of food in case of an emergency, meal prep, check your expiration dates on medications you need to live, buy a generator, make sure you have a list of emergency contacts, pay attention to the weather, make sure you have gas in your car and air in your tires, TAKE CARE OF ANYTHING THAT HAS TO DO WITH YOU BEING STRANDED OR COULD LEAVE YOU STRANDED! take survival course or read a book of wildness survival.

PLUTO: retrograde occurs roughly every year for around five to six months.

PLUTO retrograde people may experience a lot or very minimal death and change in their life - during this retrograde you may experience a death or life-changing event. these people may be extremely sexual beings or not sexual at all. they are likely not the most willing to eliminate the things in their life that are no longer the best for them. they may lack a lot of motivation compared to others. they may not let others get close to them due to not feeling safe or not feeling secure enough to expose themselves. they may be extremely ruthless or lack a spine when it comes to asserting themselves. they may have issues with people with power as well. they can be easily provoked. power to them may be or look like something to be destroyed or something that is too over the top, like a dictatorship.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: as a pluto dominant person, i can tell you, change is natural as is death - both are scary but in time things regulate and become still again. take advantage of resources like therapy to help cope and also downtime. people who are in mourning or are always on the go with change in life forget to stand still and breathe! it’s okay to take a break and rest! get STD/STI testing. do a juice cleanse and take your ACV and cranberry pills. make sure you are being safe. cleanse your space, declutter, and go through old contacts/following list it is time to remove the things that no longer serve you. clean out the closets, following lists, the memory bin, photos, and detox from all that stuff you’ve been dragging along! it’s okay to let go - if a lot of feelings arise ask yourself: is this a positive feeling (keep) or a negative feeling (next question)? is this a thing i would like to fix and have the ability to do so (keep) or something that can’t be fixed (get rid of) or i can’t fix it myself (take it somewhere to be fixed or contact who you need to fix things with)? after talking with the person who i needed to fix things with or getting the object mended - do i feel like this object/relationship was worth the time and energy expending? if yes, keep and continue to use the object or talk with the person as you get used to them being in your life again. do a weekly check-in with yourself to ensure you are still happy with your decision. if not get rid of the object OR block and delete the contact! we do have time for energy vampires around here! this is a great time to take your time - think through things! tell someone about something you haven’t told anyone about. be careful when asserting yourself or take a note from the URANUS retrograde handbook: “stand up for yourself even if it’s “i don’t appreciate that” you owe no one an explanation. and if they start talking back to you - tell them “my feelings are valid. i recognize that you disagree. we can talk at a later time.” and walk away - anything that happens after that statement is not your fault you are okay and you spoke your mind and that is something to be proud of!” go on a yoni or phalanx retreat. power structures will always exist try to evaluate the good and the bad of the one you exist in. if you see more bad than good perhaps it’s time for a big change! look into other places with other power structures and investigate/plan how you can make your life happen there!

popular asteroids that i often see retrograded:

aphrodite (asteroid 1388)

aphrodite retrograde people may experience extremes like stalkers or not being adored by others at all. they may feel unseen and unappreciated by others, making it extremely difficult to appreciate themselves. they may experience a lot of drama with none of the other perks that aphrodite herself gained (attention, romance, etc.). they may not be the most jealous person but rather the person who is too insecure to be jealous - people who say “i knew it was too good to be true” or simply walk away because there is no reason to fight for what they want anyway.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: avoid social media. self-care and self-love exercises - because you can really only ever count on yourself to show and give yourself what you deserve. when you do something you appreciate, smile and acknowledge you did that! buy yourself a gift. try to remove yourself from drama, you won't be letting anyone down by doing so. affirmations. let someone know when something hurts your feelings or bothers you - don’t just walk away or brush it off. if it bothers you and they care about you, then it should bother them as well.

chiron (asteroid 2060)

chiron retrograde people may not realize they are suffering until it is too late. they carry the bulk of all burdens without realizing that they have become someone’s personal mule. they may feel as though no one sees their skills or appreciates their talents. their empathy and gestures of nurture get overlooked because it is "just a given that they are that way" - meaning they are likely surrounded by people who use them. they likely feel as though no one is there when they need someone.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: daily check-ins. evaluate relationships with others: distance yourself from those using you. appreciate a job well done by you! someone’s gotta acknowledge it, right? self-care when you feel you need someone and no one is there: watch a comedy movie BUT if it life-threatening, please call or text a hotline like 988! you matter.

eris (asteroid 136199)

eris retrograde people may unknowingly cause trouble by doing something they thought would be overlooked. they may not like confronting others because it feels uncomfortable or they feel attacked whenever they speak up for an injustice they faced - they may experience a lot of gaslighting. they may hate rivalries with others. they may feel as though they are alone even when surrounded by others.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: tread lightly, as they say, eris retrograde is like walking on thin ice. you may be doing nothing wrong yet everyone is sensitive to your actions, if not, simply your presence. know that i have yet to meet someone who does not have eris in aries and retrograde - it’s a very slow-moving asteroid. thus nearly everyone around the world feels the same way.

hermes (asteroid 69230)

hermes retrograde people may be surrounded by a lot of mischievous people and tend to take the fall for others' wrongdoings. they may feel as though the pace of their life is uncomfortable for them. these people tend to be good but get a bad wrap (kind of like eddie munson from stranger things). they may experience fertility issues. they may not be the best at balancing their life and managing their time. they may have travel-related fears (fear of flying, fear of water, fear of car accidents, etc.) due to past accidents or incidents they have experienced.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: if you are hanging around a bad group stay away from them. if it is something illegal (*group* related) and you find you can’t just leave please reach out, other resources exist in the system. i get that the word "system" may be daunting but it’s better to get out alive or with a minimal sentence and a say in your sentence than to be stuck and face a longer trial and sentence. please read the MERCURY section as well because MERCURY is the roman aspect of hermes. fertility is a problem for more people than you think but we are blessed to live in a world where there are options: adoption, fostering, surrogacy, IVF, etc. get a planner and set a date to prepare for the week ahead. exposure therapy.

vesta (asteroid 4)

vesta retrograde people feel like they lack a cause to be motivated by or feel they belong to. they may feel like everyone else or as though they try their best to fit in with others and met the milestones society sets. they may not be devoted to others after the others do something extremely kind to them. they may not be an acts of service type of person - their love language is likely not one that promotes much giving. they may despise domestic life and homestead upkeep. they may not have a solid definition of pure or have a skewed opinion of pure, holding everyone to a high standard of pure or none at all.

my advice for surviving this retrograde: don’t be too hard on yourself - everything exists on a continuum, you don’t need a big cause to feel like you have something worth to believe in and feel motivated by. you exist on your own timeline, there is no pressuring you into anything, if someone is truly are your friend they won't and shouldn't be pressuring you. say "thank you" or smile at the person who does something helpful or kind for you. please do not be too harsh with others - your expectations of those you know or barely know need to be in check; too high and you’ll have fear, hatred, or dislike, too low and you’ll have chaos, disrespect, or disappoint towards others.

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[zoobus]

The practice of wives, consorts, or retainers following a husband, lord, or ruler in death has been attested at many points in history and in every region of the world, including Asia, Africa, Europe, and the Americas. In the Confucian cultures of China and Korea and the Hindu cultures of India and Indonesia, however, a woman's suicide following the death of her husband was widely venerated as the highest manifestation of female chastity—through rituals, commemorative hagiographies, and public monuments that bestowed the significance of a religious cult on the virtue of sexual loyalty to one husband. In both India and China the sexuality of women was considered a dangerous social force, and widows who were not under the control of a husband aroused much suspicion and anxiety because they were understood to be especially prone to transgression. In both cultures, handbooks and oral maxims based on moral regulations from ancient ritual texts instructed all women to preserve their chastity through practices of gender separation, female seclusion, veiling, and gendered divisions of labor.

Another type of suicide prevalent in the Chosŏn era and during the Japanese occupation of Korea was chaste suicide. There are many accounts from the Chosŏn era of women taking their own lives to follow their recently deceased husbands into death. This practice was strongly based on Confucian virtues of the ideal wife of chaste wife (yŏlbu). Beginning early in the Chosŏn era, widows would not remarry but instead commit themselves to lifelong service to her deceased husband’s family. Moreover, a deepening Confucianization from the seventeenth century rendered the ideal of chaste women more prominent and instrumental, and the concept of women’s fidelity became gradually enmeshed with the idea of bodily self sacrifice, serving as the ultimate proof of chaste widowhood and criterion for wifely virtue.

As Jungwon Kim explains, a wife’s loyalty to her husband was deemed to be equivalent to a man’s loyalty to the king, and both were considered essential for social order. Although some Confucian scholars spoke against valuing widow suicide over staying alive to serve the surviving family, most literati esteemed it as the highest expression of wifely duty.

Every time someone hints that they think without Christians we wouldn't have misogyny or price women at their virginity, I fight the urge to derail with widow suicide worship. Imagine what "choosing suicide" in such a period would be like. Imagine how this practice would shape society even after it ended. The clownish ignorance and arrogance that Christianity owns the ability to systematically oppress is exactly that - arrogant, ignorant, clownish.

Side note, I don't care for this second source suggesting that widows killing themselves in a collectivist culture that explicitly tied their worth to killing themselves was an act of selfish egoism on the woman's part.

[probablyasocialecologist]

Over the last decade, trans civil rights claims (particularly those of trans women, and especially those of trans women who love women) have become the scapegoat for an increasingly pervasive anxiety: that young people, or social media, or young people on social media, are incapable of rational thought, and their modes of reasoning need to be radically suppressed for the good of their blameless victims, which are sometimes figured as “women,” sometimes as “the university,” sometimes as “children,” and sometimes as “lesbians.” In order to defend this facially rather improbable account of the world, the gender critical movement must maintain a constant state of battle-readiness: always ready to swarm some graduate student on Twitter, to circulate some collection of memes that prove that trans teenagers are more likely to detransition than is widely believed, or to smear anyone who contradicts any of their positions as a rapist, a pedophile, an apologist for rapists or pedophiles, a misogynist, a wife-beater, a homophobe, or all of the above. These interventions, which are daily occurrences, have intensified a climate of mistrust and paranoia in British universities, but what is most striking to me is that they resemble maximally punitive pedagogical interventions: claiming to speak against dogma, and in favor of complexity and independence of thought, a class of teachers aims to intimidate, belittle, humiliate, and silence a class of students, instead of—as might have otherwise been expected of them—doing their job and actually teaching.

[...]

Ironic, too, is the fact that “gender critical,” laughable as it is as a designation of an intellectual position, displaced a term that was, at least in principle, defensible on its merits: trans-exclusionary radical feminism, or “terf.” That term, which is now only spoken on the BBC or in the Guardian in hushed tones and with the proviso that it is apparently “a slur,” identified a strand of radical feminism (not a ubiquitous radfem position, through probably at present the dominant one, at least in the UK) that wants to exclude trans women from the category of “woman,” and therefore to exclude actual trans women from women’s spaces. Yet because that position was easily identified among those that opposed it, those who were hailed as “terfs” demanded to be referred to by another name, and the demand was largely met. The broad censorship of the word “terf” is part of a worrying dimension of contemporary British culture in which the bearers of an idea being criticized are to be deferred to in respect of the language used to designate the position. My invitation onto Andrew Doyle’s GB News program was rescinded after I referred to Ann Coulter as a fascist, an observation that Andrew claimed revealed I was “not serious” about open discussion. But I am relentlessly serious about Ann Coulter’s fascism. One might also consider the fate of the term “eugenics,” the subject of a powerful recent apology authored by UCL workers: the term “eugenics,” inflected by histories of genocide, cannot be heard today except as negatively valued, yet it was not so for the figures who espoused those positions, and must not be abandoned as a term of historical analysis. Anyone who has not yet done so is encouraged to read the website “terf is a slur,” to see a number of anonymous Twitter accounts, many of whom seem to be teenagers, and most of which took place several years ago, saying cruel and obnoxious things about terfs. They might also wonder why “Tory” is not a slur, since it is so often followed by the word “scum.”

Only one other brief comment on the term “gender critical movement” is necessary before advancing: the group often refers to itself as, simply, “women,” as in the hashtag Women Won’t Wheesht, or the writer J. K. Rowling’s claim that “women are organizing.” But this isn’t a good name for the movement, because the core advocacy group contains a number of men—Graham Linehan, Jesse Singal, Alan Sokal, Colin Wight, Colin Wright, Milo Yiannopoulos—all of whom are white—and because polls suggests that while, on the whole, UK men are receptive to GC talking points, UK women aren’t persuaded by them. These findings have been affirmed in a recent report by the Equalities and Human Rights Commission, even as the EHRC has been increasingly subject to GC capture in the last two years.

#gender critical #lgbt #transgender #university #feminism

[ramblingsfromthymind]

ramblingsfromthymind~

exactly what the name suggests..

hi! my name is manishika sahoo, but i prefer to be called mithi.

i am a 15 year old living in bangalore, karnataka, india currently in my summer vacation. i am waiting for my 10th board results (expecting around 80-82% which is... severely disappointing for me). i am going to start my 11th grade in the end of may (pcmb or pcb+psych, not sure yet) continuing in cbse board. new school (yikes!) and i'm probably gonna have like no close freinds because of my social anxiety.. ah the woes of a shy introvert (not in a cute way)!!

i am an intj. a libra.

for my fellow marauders fans- i am a remus and lily kinnie. my fav characters are mary, lily and sirius (in that order).

for my fellow percy jackson fans- i am a hades kid who would join the hunters of artemis if i had the chance. currently reading trials of apollo but by percy jackson and the olympians and heroes of olympus my favorite characters are reyna(icon honestly), nico, piper(overhated queen), annabeth and hazel (in that order).

i was born in october 2008, in farmington hills, michigan, usa.

i love literature, music & film (the holy trinity fr). i love reading, writing, dancing, singing, ranting in comment sections lol, plants, art, maximalism, girls (what's not to love honestly), chocolate, paneer (my life fr), coffee, platonic love (underrated), pinterest (hands down best social media app), aesthetically pleasing college vlogs on youtube (very specific but they own my heart. channel recs- mia aston, alicia jade, carys rachel, dakota warren, dobochobo, dustin vuong, grace garagan, linh truong, moya mawhinney, romney ellen, via li).

my dream uni is nyu (been stuck on it since 9th grade)

i want to be a successful writer, singer-songwriter, actress and youtuber in my future. my fall-back plan is to study psychology and enter academia.

i post a lot of varied content on this blog but most of the common themes include content related to feminism, being queer (i am a lesbian), writing, the marauders fandom, etc. i currently have two series of posts on here - 'extract(s) from my journal' and 'shitty poetry'. i try to be open with my thoughts here and want to create a safe space for all (unless you're a dramione/jegulus/tomarry/drarry/bellamione/any other nonsensical ship/darkalina shipper or a terf or a homophobe or a transphobe or just a hateful person in general, then you're not welcome here).

my youtube channel: @heyy.im_mithi

my (other actual non-tumblr) blog: mithisramblings.blogspot.com (name: ramblings of thy truly)

my ao3 account (i plan to solely write sapphic marauders content because we are starved of it. recently started a marylily fic!): heyy_im_mithi

my pinterest (it's on private until i turn 16 unfortunately): @heyy.im_mithi

#life #writing #aesthetic #feminism #marauders #poetry #poem #blog #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #journalling #tumblr blog #percy jackson #pjo #percy jackon and the olympians #heroes of olympus #harry potter #anti jegulus #anti drarry #anti dramione #anti tomarry #pinterest #mithi #youtube #youtuber #youtube channel #small youtuber #blogger #girl blogger #lgbtq

[etirabys]

Mildly interesting thing about the meditation retreat I went to a few months ago that led me to my latest attempt to quit social media:

It was about 10 people total, in the woods. The organizer was an intensely charismatic guy who gives off a field of Wisdom (while also disavowing wanting to cultivate standing as a Wise Person). Older guy who seems dad-shaped. He also, like many people who are interested enough in spirituality to run Buddhist retreats, didn’t seem to have a maximally coherent worldview. I was probably the stemlordiest person at this retreat. I liked everyone, though – there was a philosophy camp vibe I miss from college.

At one point, in the Q&A section after a lecture on Zen Buddhism, people were asking him questions. There was something odd about most of these questions – they were too easy. Nothing that really got at the strangeness and inconsistency of what was being explained. And I asked a followup question about something he’d said. (It’s not as interesting without the context, but it was something like: “Why is it bad practice by your lights to stop meditating because you decided during meditation to stop, but good practice to stop meditating because it was the end time set by the you who had put the event in your Google Calendar? Is there a principled distinction between these two ego instances?”)

He didn’t answer it to my satisfaction. And, here’s the interesting thing – I backed off. Not in a “hmph, I’ll drop it” way, but with a slightly apologetic smile, as if I were the fool for having pressed him. The feeling that drove that apologetic expression was anxiety that I was not allowing him to save face.

I had not realized, until I asked that question and backed off from it, that I wanted him to save face. In that moment I realized that I was invested in the social construction of this retreat as an event where a wise guy taught us stuff, we respected him, and went away satisfied. I wanted us all to have a good time, and this was more important than coming to a resolution on what consistent philosophy about the ego could underpin the meditation practice. It seemed, perhaps, that this was why everyone else was asking him softball questions.

It’s hard to summarize what I learned from this. One of them is simply that “pretending to be satisfied to strengthen a social dynamic that feels good to everyone” is something I’m even capable of. I don’t think I’ve done it so distinctly before. I think this conformity is something I’m more capable of as I grow older. Another is that this is probably going on all the time, in ways I can’t see right now. In extreme cases, this must be present in cults.

#rambl #meditation

[kazeofthemagun]

More on Vodya Houses:

[Massive trigger warnings for racism, slavery, ableism, eugenics, AI, unethical science.]

The concept of Value: idea that every living being has to contribute towards global "value" in some way: either by production of goods, maintaining the ecosystem, research (production of global knowledge) or, failing that, slave labor. Value is often perceived egotistically, with whatever benefits the Vodya House being "valuable" and the rest, not. This leads most Vodya Houses to harbor an innate disdain for other forms of life, especially those that take no part in Vodya's own ecosystem and thus, serve no purpose in its existence. According to the Value Doctrine, the only type of value to be had from such life forms is slave labor.

Beings that are considered unable to provide Value legally lose rights to their own existence. This belief leads to horrific ableism, both mental and physical, among the Vodya, with heavily disabled individuals often being culled. Lesser degrees of "devaluation" predispose the individual to be shifted lower in the work hierarchy, eventually leading to slavery. Most proud members of the Vodya race would much rather die than be reduced to servants, however. This is hypocritical towards their own beliefs, as they openly preach slavery to be the more valuable alternative to death.

The Council of Value: each House possesses their own Council, which usually consists of the Chairs of their respective Cathedrals (with Cathedrals as homes to specific fields of scientific research, such as: Biosynergetics, Technosynergetics, Logistics, Physics, Chemistry, Thaumaturgichemistry, Mathematics, Geosystemics, Medicine, Social Systemics.)

A Chair is most often the lead Mind of their respective field, as in the scientist with the highest overall equivalent to our "impact factor", which is a scoring system used in science.

The Council of Value is the defacto ruling body of the House, the advisors of the Head of the House, who is a political representative and practically always a Chair themself. The Council's job is to decide on the optimal course of action for the House's development, as defined by the maximization of Value. The Council decides whether to approve experiments and pathways of development, evaluating the resource cost vs potential resource production. For this purpose, they often employ the House's Nexus Mind, an advanced risk management AI program.

Notable Vodyanoi:

Pist Shaz XI, Eleventh Head of Shaz. Chair of Technosynergetics, with multiple advanced achievements in related fields. A self-proclaimed Lord of the Seas, he ran House Shaz in an authoritarian manner with several contigents of neural-chipped and bioengineered thralls at his command - couresy of his collabiration with the Shaz Chair of Biosynergetics. He also possessed several squads of specialized Wonderlandian mercenaries as his private army. Ever since he began work on the Ocean Puzzle, he had spent most of his time in a private palace away from the main settlement of House Shaz, both for safety reasons and out of vanity. He was 300+ years old at time of death.

Xel Ort V, Fifth Head of House Ort at tender young age of 37. Heir to the House as per aristocratic nepotism - Ort are more traditional and value genetic lines. Royal children tend to be genetically engineered to inherit most desirable traits, maximizing intellectual ability. She does not yet possess Chairhood in any of the Council's fields, being an undergrad in the Cathedral of Thaumaturgichemistry. Despite this, her achievements are already remarkable and she had set out to further her Mist research in Wonderland, finding work with Anarchy. Still, being saddled with this much responsibility at a young age had left her with major anxiety issues and shaken her personal Value, as well as her political position. Currently on a quest to reaffirm her worth both to herself and to the Ort Council; Struggling with the concept of Value versus morality.

#aw yeah bitchass fish lore #[[headcanon #vodyanoi #[[Vodya - The Noble Seas #[[Bolt of the Deep Blue ║ Xel Ort V #[[Self-Proclaimed Sea Lord ║ Pist Shaz XI #btw they aren't really fish they're just water elementals with traits of echinodermata #*sparkles* ALIENS

[madamlaydebug]

What is Addiction?

Addiction is when a person continually takes a substance - or engages in a behavior - with a destructive impact on their health and life.

In Ancient Rome, when a person couldn’t repay a debtor they were forced to become their slave, or ‘addictus.’ This is the origin of being “a slave to your addictions.”

Addictions take many forms; some of them may surprise you. Do you struggle with any of these?

Alcohol

Body piercing

Book collecting

Exercising

Food

Gambling

Hoarding

Narcotics

Plastic surgery

Pain

Pornography

Prescription drugs

Rejection

Relationships

Screens (smartphones, computers, tablets, TV’s, etc.)

Social media

Sex

Shopping

Tattoos

Tobacco

Video games

Working

Addicts crave the behavior or substance, even when they know it causes them physical harm, mental harm, and/or harm to their relationships. Addiction can lead to criminal behavior, poverty, homelessness, and death.

Addiction is not defined by how much a person engages in the behavior but by the impact it has on their life. A workaholic may be very successful in the office, but at home their relationships are failing and their anxiety is increasing.

What Causes Addiction?

People become addicts through many different paths, but seeking pleasure (or avoiding pain) is the ultimate driver.

Whether a person is addicted to heroin or video games, their goal is to alter their mental state and reduce subconscious-stress.

Some people believe that taking drugs leads to addiction - but this is only part of the picture. Not everyone who takes narcotics becomes addicted to them. Therefore, there must be another factor involved - the human factor.

Research involving mice found they became easily addicted to cocaine when kept in isolation. But, when the environment was enriched with social activities, interesting food, places to explore, toys to play with and new mice to meet… they stopped taking cocaine! Just like mice, humans get depressed, miserable and bored when trapped in an unfulfilling life.

Unresolved Emotions

Addiction often stems from trauma. Adverse experiences during childhood (e.g. divorce, emotional neglect, poverty) predispose us to addiction later in life. Addiction is a response to painful or traumatic events, not simply a poor choice that people make.

Demonizing addicts is counterproductive; they need to be treated with care and compassion to maximize their chances of recovery. Brain scans on people with a range of addictions reveal the same neural circuits are involved, and they all share feelings of shame and low self-value.

People develop addictions to try and cover up issues and uncomfortable emotions:

To cope with stress and life events.

To escape the pain of past trauma.

To create connections with others.

To achieve a sense of control in life.

To avoid facing feelings of inadequacy.

To hush internal voices of self-loathing.

Overcoming Addiction

There’s no one size-fits-all solution for all addicts, but here are some general tips:

1. Find the Right Help

Addicts using opiates and narcotics need help. Addiction experts can provide the highly specialized support needed for this kind of recovery. Addicts can also be aided with behavioral re-training and dedicated recovery groups.

2. Increase Self-Value

All addicts can benefit from increasing their self-worth. Any activity that improves physical or mental health enhances esteem. Getting a massage, eating vitalizing alkaline foods, and going for walks in nature are acts of self-care that enhance how we feel about ourselves.

“Because the one thing you want to do is to LOVE, and that love should begin with you” - Dr. Sebi.

3. Be Ready to Give Up

The addicted person must be ready and willing to give up their addiction; if they are forced to give it up they are likely to relapse.

What are you ready to give up?

[theantarwitch]

Clothing & Wearing Magic – Part 1

Something common within the witch community is to read the advice to enchant necklaces and rings for various purposes, and although it is also common to read about putting sigils hidden in clothes or the soles of shoes, there is much more cloth to cut regarding the subject. So I will classify it in several parts. Remember that it is only indicative, examples may be missing and there are a thousand enchantments that could be better, but it is only to give an idea.

Part 1: Location.

Different parts of the body have different biological functions, and while a charm on the hand or foot (for luck, for example) can have similar results, checking “where” it is implemented is important to maximize its potential when resort to correspondence. When several things correspond to the same end, they are potentiated, add their skills, which gives more lasting, strong and effective results. That is why I have divided the location based on the different parts of the body.

Headgear: Hats, earings, glasses, sunglasses, scarves, headphones, masks, etc. These elements tend to be linked to primary sensory characteristics and intelligence, it can be said that the head is dominated by the Air element, so what reigns here are the abilities to see/hear/smell/speak, eloquence, ability to talk, how the brain works in social mode. So any enchantment intended to enhance (or nullify) these abilities will benefit if applied to a head outfit, as well as strengthen Clairsentience. It also includes your own hair, hairstyle and hair color, which makes it more versatile.

Hats, beanies, veils, tiaras, headbands, hair clips, etc: By covering the head they function more as protectors, a natural barrier to energy. Since the top usually has the most "pure" energy, people who are sensitive to energy changes (or energy vampires) may benefit from enchanting hats. It can also serve to strengthen Claircognizance. Above all, it can help with charms dedicated to the brain, social anxiety, mental illness, etc. (pls mundane before magic okay baby? Love you).

Earings, ear piercings, headphones, hearing aid, cochlear implant: Ear charms. Hear truths, ignore lies, ignore gossip, hear dangers. It can benefit to strengthen Clairaudience.

Eyeglasses, sunglasses, eyebrow piercing, contact lenses, prosthetic eyes: Eye Charms. See the truth, not be affected by glam spells, barriers to spells and energies, focus, strengthen Clairvoyance.

Masks, scarves, mouth/tongue/nose piercing, brackets, necklaces, tracheostomy tube: It can help to verbalize our ideas, control stuttering, anxiety to speak, to say what should be said, in addition to strengthening Clairalience and Clairgustance.

Hand elements: Bracelets, watch, rings, nail color/design, wristbands, gloves. The hands are givers and takers of energy, you literally manipulate energy all day long, so the spells here can focus on that manipulation. They are the most common to enchant for their versatility and ease of exchange.

Torso Elements: The torso carries the center of our energy (and organs), so it is usually the area that requires the least protection (spiritually speaking, it is dominated by the four elements, but mainly Earth and Fire), since it carries accumulated energy, which is difficult to affect. The organs, the amount of "life" (biological activity, electricity, blood), accumulations of bones and organic material (organs, food, fluids), make it the defensive point of the body. Even so, it can be benefited by spells depending on the clothes.

Underwear/ binders/ necklaces/ medical equipment such as CPAP, colostomy bag, etc: They are linked to what is closest to the body, therefore, they can be enchanted for everything linked to internal desires, fears and, for medical equipment, to improve health (enchanting equipment can also help them work better, last longer in optimal condition, reduce symptoms and so on, but remember, be careful, pls).

Outerwear such as hoodies, jackets, poncho, coats or whatever you are wearing as a top layer: Being in direct contact with the outside world, you can benefit from enchanting it with protection, or spells for bravery, courage, strength.

Leg Elements: Pants, belts, canes, walkers, wheelchair, skirts, orthopedic legs. Ruled mainly by the Earth element, it can help to strengthen mobility, agility, speed, dexterity spells, not to move from your place, to remain firm.

Foot Elements: Shoes, slippers, orthopedic shoes, ankle bracelet. As with the legs, the feet focus on mobility, but they are also the ones that transport you through different energy spaces, they are the ones that can most easily receive the influence of the energy of the place, so it can be beneficial to add enchantments of protection. Socks are usually responsible for collecting odors, and due to their "nature" of being easily replaceable, it is not wrong to think that enchanting them can also help absorb bad energy, which will go down the drain when washed.

Part 2: Materials. 

Part 3: Designs and Colors.

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Let’s Talk : Social Media.

Social media has gradually become the IN thing at the moment. We use it for everyday life. Comunication, business, socialization etc.

Social media is an amazing tool that can used to greatly improve ones self.

It has opened people up to a new way of thinking & earning.

There are so many content creators and businesses making millions of dollars off of it.

However I believe the effects of social media may do more harm than good if not managed properly.

How does it affect us negatively ?

1. Absorbing Negative/Limiting beliefs : I want you to Imagine walking into a coffee shop & everyone you pass by, starts sharing their opinion with you.

Mr A has his beliefs on money, sex, marriage, society, love. So does Mr B & Mr C.

Now, imagine having to listen to over 100 people with their own unique opinions at said coffee shop.

Imagine that for a second. Wouldn’t that be overwhelming? Having to consume so much information that has little to no benefit to you?

Well we do this, everyday.

Is it great to hear a different opinion once in awhile to stimulate your mind & redefine your values/beliefs ? Yes.

But we must remember these are personal beliefs that people generate in their lifetime due to their own unique life experiences.

Information overload is a thing.

Your Mental health is very important. What you listen to & watch affects you way more than you know. Love yourself enough to limit your screen time. You deserve it.

2. Unrealistic Standards : Social media has slowly become a contest of who has the best life, the hottest body, the cutest boyfriend.

A lot of times we may not even truly desire some of these things but we are trying to keep up with everyone else. As humans we are naturally social creatures. We want to "fit" in. We want to be understood & accepted.

However, social media creates unrealistic & unreasonable standards that most people can’t meet & that’s okay. It’s normal to have a bit of belly fat, it’s normal to have acne, it’s normal to not have a bbl, it’s normal to have bad days & it is normal to not own a house at 21.

I’m not saying you can’t improve yourself & strive to be the best but you can not hate yourself into success. You have to love the current version of yourself while working on becoming your highest self.

3. Distraction From Personal Goals: This is a no brainer. The more time you spend on social media, the less time you spend focusing on yourself. This also perpetuates the cycle of everything that was mentioned above. Negative self image, limiting beliefs, insecurity, anxiety, depression, self hatred etc.

Ways to make social media serve you

1. Monitor your screen time & set time limits on your apps: This helps you study which app you use the most & shorten that time.

2. Deselection Process: Weed out people/accounts that only offer drama & negativity. The same way eating fast food & junk all day is a threat to your physical health, consuming negative content all day affects your mental health. (example:theshaderoom)

3. Maximize it : Use social media as a way to grow & get better everyday. Examples : If you want to become a fashion stylist, follow other fashion stylists on instagram & learn from them. Learn a new language on Youtube. Advertise your business on tiktok. Connect with likeminded individuals. The benefits of social media are endless.

You can let social media use you or you can use social media.

xoxo, Vivacious.

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