#Space Step-dad

[mokeonn]

Before I go to sleep I leave you all with this piece of advice: sometimes you don't actually have to answer big political questions, sometimes you can just say "I am not smart enough to know that, I just know the small things I do to help." Like you can often times completely avoid making a fool of yourself if you just say you don't know.

#simon says #to explain here and not in a reblog: #sometimes when you try to explain big picture solutions you're gonna sound dumb #you might not have done enough research #you might not have a rebuttal to a counter argument #you might not be articulate enough to explain why you think this #sometimes you gotta take a step back and give the simple solution. the one man solution #you do what you can to fight against the problem #you talk to people to help spread awareness and how to fight the bad problem #and you vote and invite others to vote for bigger steps towards solving the problem #like you can talk about theory and how you believe we need to do a huge drastic thing to solve and issue #but people will disagree and argue til you're blue in the face #they'll poke and prod until you mess up or lose your temper and use it against you #and you'll feel dumb and they'll learn nothing #sometimes the best thing to do is step away from the big picture and just say 'idk what the solution is I just know the things I can do“ #sometimes you gotta admit you're not a scientist/expert and you can't answer that #i used this while talking with my Dad tonight #he brought up our climate crisis and space travel as a possible solution #and I said I think that's just addressing the symptom and not the cause and we need to care for our Earth now #and he asked me what solutions I think would fix it #and knowing my incredibly smart Dad who is articulate and ready to throw rebuttles at a moments notice to play devils advocate #and my past experience in struggling in this topic with him before #i just told him I didn't know. all i knew is the little things I can and do do to help #and that hopefully by spreading the word and habits and encouraging others to vote for those bigger solutions I could help make a change #but all I really could do is the little things I have control over #and the topic became much less stressful about the little things we have control over #like planting native plants and recycling and adopting habits that are healthier to our planet #which was 100% more preferable to if I tried to give a big solution. because I would reveal i didn't have all the knowledge needed to argue #and my articulation would make me sound like a stupid kid who only thinks they know what's best #so yeah I basically suggest that if you dont wanna feel like shit after debating someone just step away from the big picture for a moment

[magniloquent-raven]

yall wanna be sad about billy with me? come be sad about billy with me

currently thinkin about how similar billy and max can be sometimes. their anger. their tendency to push people away when shit gets hard. after billy's mom left he retreated into himself, into his pain, turned it into anger so he could wield it like a weapon. after billy died, after he left max, she retreated into her guilt. they both decided being alone with their grief was better than letting people in and risking feeling that pain again.

and what gets me...is the parallel between billy breaking free of the mind flayer because el reached out to him, and max getting free of vecna because of her connection with her friends.

like they both have such high emotional walls, but they both care so deeply, and thinking about billy's choice to die for that little bit of emotional connection vs max choosing to live because of it is. hurting me.

#billy hargrove #max mayfield #stranger things #idk there's also something to be said about billy never really getting free of the cycle of abuse he was stuck in #and so he saw violence and sacrifice as his only option because that's just. what he knows #whereas max has explicitly acknowledged that she doesnt want to be like her brother & step dad #and she's been given the space and time to form these friendships outside of her shitty home life #so for her there's just. more to fight for. #am i making any sense? who knows. i was cryin over running up that hill earlier and then this just kinda happened to my brain

[rainymoodlet]

i mean legit the best example i can give of dan’s purposeful censorship of his life was in that last post tbh

his reality: horrific absolute monster deadbeat dad who made him and his family’s life a living hell

what he says: my dad was mean to my mom :(

#he’s not LYING… he just… refuses to go further fjdjjf #like if his siblings want to vent to him abt their dad??? go ahead #but dan is a Steel Fortress ugh #i could talk abt him for hours i’m sorry pff #it wasn’t that he was expected to be a protector or his mother or younger siblings assigned him that role - he’s just… like that #he decided very early on that he could Handle It - no matter what It was #because as long as someone could handle it they could all be okay #it wasn’t that he was expected to step between his mother and his father he just… did #and earlier in the same day he and his dad could have gone out hunting and sat in odd comfortable but not at all friendly or loving silence #but god… he’s been so repressed for so long #he only knows how to be there for others - i don’t think (even for as insightful and confident in himself #because of his years of introspection that he has) that i can properly even put into words #how much this man has mistaken having a restricted section in his library for healing and Moving On #he still has trouble hanging out with his siblings - he still feels guilt - he still feels like he’s been stuck in some strange limbo #of life. he’s very lucky to be where he is and doing what he loves #but some mornings he wakes up and he’s still that fourteen year old boy #whose face aches and ribs hurt and when he comes to… he doesn’t feel any ownership of the space he occupies #he’s just… there. #daniel is the boy who practices a few smiles as he pushes himself to sit in bed because he can hear his baby siblings running down #the hall to let him know breakfast is ready - and he told them yesterday that the broken nose was nothing and the black eye was fine #and giving them that relief will always come before the sick feeling in his stomach and the fear coiling around his neck #i could wax poetic abt this sumbitch for hours omg pls bless you if you read this AT ALL idk if anything i say abt daniel makes sense fjfhf #child abuse tw // #military yt man marries local selvadoradan beauty whose twenty years younger than him - does their eldest son have some #Serious Generational Trauma?? vote now on your phones!!! 📞 #dan takin a hit for everyone in the house at one point or another: light work no reaction #dan learning there’s cucumbers in his food: 😰😭😢🤕

[spinsterennui]

Sad news from the cardinal baby front. This morning I saw the dad go to the nest with a big mouthful of food and look around kind of confused and then leave without feeding them. I also noticed there wasn’t much movement which is unusual too. Then I started hearing little faint chirps and I just managed to see there was a baby on the ground under the nest. I ran inside to wash my hands really quickly, came back out, and put him back in his nest. Thankfully about a half hour later dad came back and fed the poor little guy. The other two are apparently gone; I’m not sure about mom 😢

At the very least, little scruffy bud seems to be doing okay. Just watched dad feed him again — including an enormous half of a caterpillar that wasn’t even digested yet lol. No idea what happened, but since the nest is in a rose bush (not easily accessible for a mammal to climb up) and the nest was not pulled down, I’m thinking a bird of some sort (we have owls around here and hawks).

Here’s the badass little buddy (right after I put him back, I got a quick shot with my phone by reaching and blindly clicking) :

#thank goodness i noticed the little buddy #i’m hopeful since dad is really stepping up #but i’m so disappointed and sad that we lost the other little buds #also does anyone understand why text posts put so much space in between paragraphs now??

[zenlosingit]

I’m seeing a lot of people as of late making posts about how Jason would react to finding out that Dick killed the Joker in the last laugh and bagging on Bruce for reviving the clown.

Which yeah I’m all for cause 1) let the clown die 2) it deserves to be known that Jason was avenged for his death and 3) Dick Grayson deserves to go off

But like, can it also be said that one of the reasons to why Bruce revived the Joker was that like, Dick was having a fucking panic attack from doing it?? Yeah, Dick is known for his overwhelming anger and plans of killing criminals (i.e: Anthony Zucco) but killing criminals, at the end of the day, is a line he generally doesn’t want to cross, regardless of who they are.

So boiling the whole Bruce reviving Joker thing to just be about Bruce and his no killing rule is completely ignoring the fact that having Dick carry this weight of killing someone was causing him to spiral and would have been detrimental to his mental state if Bruce had not stepped in to change that.

#idk I just want it be recognized and talked about #cause like Bruce stepped up to help his son from breaking #I don’t think he would’ve given a flying fuck if Dick had ended up killing the joker #yet he didn’t want his son to carry that burden #and people are just… disregarding that #idk im also looking at this through the lens of Good Dad Bruce (TM) #cause im pretty sure in the comics the spun it like Dick was freaking out that he broke Bruce’s killing rule #and afterwards Bruce let Dick go and left him alone saying ‘he needs to think about what he did’ or something like that #yet I still take away that Bruce just doesn’t want anyone else to carry the burden of offing someone #and he probably let Nightwing go to give him space and process what happened #but that’s my interpretation lmao #batman #nightwing #bruce wayne #dick grayson #the joker #dc comics #dc

[scorpiusmalfoylovesoscarwilde]

my mum's staying for the weekend pray for me

#i dont like people in my space and also shes mean to me #she hasnt been mean yet lets keep this up #shes only been here a couple hours though so #its my mum new step dad my brother and his new giirrllfrriiend #theyre 16 and have managed to stay together 2 months this is the longest relationship hes ever had lmfao #she has 3 nose peircings and red streaks in her hair shes cool #but im praying i dont need hide time #hide time is what i call having my social battery run out but in a painful autistic way because i get real irritable and mean #and usually i hide away by myself for a couple hours cause that fixes literally everything #but my mum wont allow that cause she doesnt get it #mum im autistic plz leave me alone #but she finds it rude #but also finds me rude when i get irritable because im not being allowed space #so uh #dont know what you want from me lady #ah yes to not be autistic #this isnt even a joke she hates it #she wants me to pretend im not and 'act normal' and basically not be disabled by my disability #she wants it to like not be visible to people she wants no one to know including her she doesnt like being reminded so 💀 #unfortunately for her i have a lovely little piece of paper from a doctor saying i do in fact have it so fuck you #anywayz lol #praying i dont need too much hide time 🙏🏻 because i will not get it #autism #so fun

[wigglys-dikrats]

can i just say that dylan saunders has the most dad energy

#his laugh is a Dad laugh #he’s so chill and kind #i cannot imagine him evening stepping on an ant #but at the same time i feel like he has the ability to kill people with the right stare #either way i trust him #he’s great #dylan saunders #starkid #team starkid #space babies #dikrats #dumbledore #pincer #tootsie noodles #ja’far #tom houston #gerald monroe #dylan saunders appreciation #dad #father #i’m rewatching the starkid among us stream for the thousandth time

[cthulhudonuts]

So my DnD party’s Paladin and Rogue recently got together…

#my art #dnd stuff #dnd campaign #digital art #i put too much effort in #shoutout to them getting married in an elevator #on the moon #after killing my characters evil vampire step dad #and then immediately going to fight Vecnas space army #and then the moon exploded #fun times…

[bittersweetstargazer]

pov txt's album was so good you almost majorly injured yourself listening to it

#background. #cleaning up bc yesterday was easter and we had ppl come over and there are a lot of dishes that I have to clean #I was emptying out the dishwasher to make space #I needed to put a wine glass back in it's spot but said spot is in a high place that's taller than I can reach #so I needed to grab the step ladder #I was listening to the new album and having a great time #so good in fact that I didn't notice that he step ladder was damaged (which it wasn't the day before) #and so I open it up and it's like shaky and fighting me #which should have been my FIRST CLUE bc it doesn't rlly take a lot of effort to open #and it's open and I'm like okay then and I get to the top step (which is the one that's broken) #and I have the wine glass in my hand and I'm reaching up when I feel the step under me start to bend and buckle under my weight #because it was BROKEN. #I realize that is not how step ladders work and very carefully put the glass down on the counter first bc I didn't to break if I fell #and then I placed my hands on the counter and leaned forward so I was holding most of my weight on my arms #and then very carefully stepped down until I reached the floor #my heart was pounding bc I knew anything could have happened had I not noticed in time #and when I checked one of the screws holding the ladder in place had been unscrewed and at first glance #it seemed totally normal but only after inspecting it did I notice the loose screw #my dad said he'd check it out but ugh I still have so much stuff to clean up

[sky-kenobye]

Heard the sentence "not to yuck on anyone's yum" and I think that's a feeling a lot of people should learn

#i was gonna add 'in fandom spaces' but actually it works everywhere #i dont think my step dad understands that concept

[oifaaa]

I mean, you could just

Disconnect and send an ask

Does that work ?? I didn't think you could send asks when not logged in but I'm also too lazy to check so

#ask #anon #i have 2 step verification on #and i also just so happen to live in a dead space signal wise #so really im an idiot who cant log back into tumblr if i log out #so not doing that lmao #also if you wanna know how my life is currently going #i thought i was gonna have a nice off day #now my dad has me hearding cows #funnnn

[elenadoeslife]

your first love hits different

#another day another vent-in-the-tags post #i came across a picture of me and my fiest boyfriend of five years today. picture must've been 10 years old at this point #found many more pictures of him and us on my dad's old pc #i can just feel my body pull and heart ache when i look at him in the pictures #wondering what my life would've looked like if i hadn't broken things off between us #we tried to stay friends and a couple of months later we went for a drink. when daying goodbye he moved in to kiss me #i was hesitant and stepped away. he couldn't bare having me in his life while not being together so he cut off all contact #don't get me wrong in any of my thoughts- i love babe whole heartedly and he's the only man for me now and in my future #it's just that nagging feeling burried deep. the 'what if's. what if i felt more confident about my body back then? #what if i hadn't moved on so quickly? what if i had let him kiss me? #i tried texting him telling him i was approved for gbp surgery (i broke things off because i was very insecure about my body) #he congratulated me and sincerely wished me all the happiness in the world but also asked me not to contact him again after this #it's been 7-ish years but every now and then i wonder how he's doing and what he's up to #he doesn't really have social media apart from facebook (and that page is private) and i only stayed in touch with his former best friend #but i'm not gonna ask him because i know they haven't spoken in years either #i've had plenty more relationships after him but i rarely ever think about those guys #am i okay? is this normal? lol #i should get my head out of this rabbit hole asap #add: the picture is almost 15 years old lol. my math ain't mathing. we met in 2009. not that it's important #i think i just moved on too quickly and didn't allow myself time & space to grieve. that's why he keeps popping up in my thoughts now & then

[fishyartist]

Tumblrina 2 me btw. Would ride up and say some shit like “I’m not trans but I believe in their beliefs” or maybe say some shit about leaving to “steal some shoelaces” then kicking Joe Biden in the sack or something

#I’m thinking about their families. Danny’s r easy the fandom is ripe w Fenton opinions #less about mansons or foleys pr grays #like there’s some stuff but there’s a lot more room to explore the space #I also wanna give them uncles and aunts and cousins and extended families but I’ll worry about that if/when relevant. #but the family units they actually live with matter more so that’s where my thoughts lie #anyways! so #mansons give me big ‘’coparenting after a divorce must be rough’’ ‘’…we aren’t divorced’’ energy #like get divorced 10 years ago. they make each other worse and no one enjoys it #ida had a huge life where she was poor but moved around a lot+learned+did alot and I think whichever of sams parents she parented resent it #and rebeled from that by leaning super into the hussle culture capitalism tar pit #then maybe ​one of tuckers parents is technically a step parent… bio parents had a healthy divorce/breakup to friends coparenting arc #but like written in a way that doesn’t think of either parent as worse or weird shit like that #like ‘’technically’’ as in legally but tucker considers all three equally his parents #idk. I have some worried about writing that well but I’ll look into it on my own later #Valerie’s other parents probably gonna be a ghost. lots of potential for angst and/or a sweet reunion there #probably the latter I love that sappy shit #but bc that parent’s gone Val+her dad became super super close+trusting #they for sure have shared hobbies but I haven’t decided what yet #thinking something related to athletics or photography? #that’s probably closest to fanon based on my understanding of fanon tropes #where like. lying to their dad about hunting ghosts it is a major struggle for Val emotionally.

[mars-ipan]

shoutout to everyone who struggles with hygiene. we are all trying so so hard it’s not our fault being clean is such a sisyphusian task keep pushing that boulder babes one day our arms will be so strong it will feel like nothing at all

#and before ANYONE comes in here deliberately misinterpreting me: #i am not saying that being unhygienic isn’t an issue or is perfectly healthy #i’m not telling people with hygiene problems that they shouldn’t try to improve on them #i am just. a person whose depression typically manifests in not cleaning myself #who wants to tell people like me that we are not inherently gross people #we just gotta keep trying and one day the habits will stick #eventually we’ll brush our teeth every day. eventually we’ll shower and wash our hair when we need to #eventually we’ll clean our living spaces biweekly #we’ll get there. and even if we’re not there yet and even if we won’t be for a long time #we are still worthy of love and respect as people #i also wanna share my progress :) #since i got my wisdom teeth removed i’ve actually been brushing my teeth twice a day!! #this has been for like. a month i think? #i’m also cleaning my mouth guard every night #this is a big deal for me!!! i almost forgot to brush my teeth this morning tho o.o i caught it dw #it turns out that wanting to keep an area that has been operated on from infecting results in better habits #i’m hoping i can hold onto this habit even after my sockets close up :) #esp bc i get my problems from my dad and uh. hoo boy the dentistry bills…. i do not want that #but anyways!! i’ve been making progress and this is a big step!!! #if you also struggle with hygiene i bet you’ll be making a big step soon too!!! #and even if you don’t soon you will someday! and i’m proud of you in advance ^^

[iliveinprocrasti-nationn]

i hate going “hey i might not be up to hanging out im just not doing well mentally” but also i know if im either constantly panicking or completely out of it while we’re hanging out then it won’t go well

#got into a fight with my mum because she was like ‘well why r u still scared when we’re not seeing massive waves and hospitals aren’t #overrun and this 80 year old family friend has had it three times and is fine every time #and do you look at what people who don’t have the same opinion of you are saying’ #my response to this was ‘no I do look at the scientific articles that come out though and most of the ones about covid are finding it does #damage to multiple parts of the body’ #like. i already have fibromyalgia. we’ve removed the cancerous tumor but i still have iodine radiation and have to hope the cancer cells #they found in my blood vessels didn’t go far enough to spread and if they did that the iodine destroys them #like. is a kid with fibromyalgia not enough. im not doing chemo so it’s fine right just get me sick #does she not fucking remember how it destroyed her husband. she watched it we all fucking watched for weeks as he withered away from this #fucking disease #and then everything we didn’t see we got in twice daily calls from the hospital as they told us how his kidneys failed and they were excited #when he could breathe on his side for two hours instead of just on his stomach and then it killed him #am i the only one in the household who remembers seeing my dad as a barely breathing corpse when we forced him to go to the hospital because #he couldn’t say three words or walk a few steps without panting like he’d just done a sprint #im tired of her making me feel crazy for not wanting this disease im not irrational or insane for this i promise i promise im not #im tired of her coming in 5 minutes after i leave an argument going ‘don’t be angry with me. it’s just that-‘ and then making my only safe #place in this house a part of the argument too #fuck it it’s fine I’m out in a few months anyway #vent tw #sittin g in a corner rn so that the only open space is in front of me and i can pull my legs up to my chest and my fan is on and my windows #are open and im tired of being called crazy and paranoid and irrational #covid tw