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#THIS IS NOT HEALTHY
getvalentined · 7 months
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I'm gonna say something really important here that was inspired by one specific event but applies to several others I've seen over the last few years. This is not vagueblogging to call someone out, this is a pattern I've seen a few times now that I'm genuinely concerned about.
If a series, whether books or television or films or video games, is so all-consuming in your life that a new installment going in a different direction from what you want is enough to make you have an emotional breakdown, you need to unplug from that series. If you sincerely refer to characters in this series as "[your] people" or "the love of [your] life" or "[your] family," not as a figure of speech but as something so genuine that having them handled in ways contrary to your preference makes you feel like your way of life is under attack, you need to distance yourself from those characters.
I'm saying this as someone who literally can't get into fandom debates anymore because I get so wrapped up that my heart rate spikes to the point of danger to my person. Because of a specific experience with a specific person (related to events outside fandom, but triggers are triggers) I have a very real trauma response to these discussions, and I can't engage with them anymore. I'm not saying this as "it's just a show calm down" or "why do you care so much about a video game" or as any kind of insult or passive aggression; I'm saying this as someone who understands firsthand that feelings get caught in specific places, and sometimes we just can't seem to pull them loose.
If you feel like this over a work of fiction, you need to get help, because there is something wrong. Something in your head and your heart has gotten caught on this work of fiction, and you need to pull it loose for your own wellbeing, but when it's gone that far it's all but impossible to do on your own.
I need to be very clear that I'm not talking about special interests or hyperfixations. I'm not talking about people who throw their lives into loving a specific thing, learning everything about that thing, expressing their interest in that thing, and so on. There's a line between passion and obsession, and a difference between what appears to be an obsession but is harmless and what appears to be passion but is an unhealthy level of obsession.
It's easy for those of us on the outside to write this kind of behavior off as just more entitled fans being entitled, but there's a point where what looks like entitlement exposes itself as something very different, something much more dangerous. If you're feeling this way—you need distance and assistance. If you're seeing friends behave this way—they need help, not rallying cries to "speak [their] truth."
I cannot express this strongly enough. No fictional character, no fictional story, no fandom is worth your health. Not one. Period. You are a real human being who deserves to be alive and safe and happy. The creators of a work of fiction are not attacking you or belittling your efforts by continuing to create within the boundaries of the fictional universe they created.
To put it as simply as I can:
If a work of fiction that you did not create existing in a state that you can't control is seriously damaging your mental and emotional wellbeing, you need to step away.
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PLEASE PLEASE I MEAN PLEASE TELL ME YOUVE SEEN CHARLIES NEWEST TIKTOK COS HES LEGIT DONE NOTHING IN IT AND IM SITTING HERE KICKING MY FEET GIGGLING
LIKE WTF
literally my husband 🙏and also cant wait until the new pjo episode im actually not ready for the hurt im gonna go through but at least i can see my bby on the screen
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remilovesabed · 1 year
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watched renfield cant stop thinking about teddy lobo
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lupinmoonlight · 1 year
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Detention with Professor Lupin
It was a chilly evening in Hogwarts, and the Forbidden Forest was shrouded in a dense fog. Yet, that did not stop Y/N from venturing into the forest alone. She knew she wasn't supposed to be there, but her curiosity and love for adventure had gotten the best of her.
As Y/N made her way back towards the Hogwarts castle after her brief and unauthorized stroll in the Forbidden Forest, she had hoped that she had not been noticed. But just as she was about to cross the castle threshold, she was stopped by a familiar voice.
"Miss Y/L/N, can I have a word with you please?" It was Professor Lupin, and the concern in his voice was unmistakable.
Y/N’s heart sank as she turned to face him. She knew she had been caught, and by someone she greatly respected and admired. Her eyes dropped to the ground as she braced herself for his lecture.
"Can you tell me what you were doing in the Forbidden Forest, Miss Y/L/N?" Lupin asked, his tone firm but not unkind.
Y/N took a deep breath, knowing that making excuses was not going to get her out of trouble. "I just wanted to explore a little, Professor," she said, still avoiding eye contact.
Lupin's gaze was intense as he took a step closer to her. "Do you realize how dangerous it is for a student to be wandering around the Forbidden Forest alone, Miss Y/L/N?" he said, his voice rising with concern. "You could have been hurt, or worse, encountered a creature beyond your abilities to handle."
Y/N nodded, feeling ashamed of herself. She had not considered the risks, only her own curiosity and love for thrill and adventure.
Lupin's expression softened slightly as he noticed Y/N's remorse. "I understand your curiosity, Miss Y/L/N," he said gently. "But it is important to remember that rules are in place for a reason. Your safety is my utmost priority as your professor."
Y/N felt a pang of guilt as she realized how much Lupin cared for her. She knew he was right, but she couldn't help feeling a bit rebellious. Lupin held her gaze for a few moments before motioning for her to follow him.
As they made their way to his classroom, Lupin kept a watchful eye on Y/N, his concern palpable. Once they reached the room, he swiftly made his way to his desk before leaning on it, crossing his arms over his chest. “Sit,” his tone grave and serious. 
The tension was palpable as Y/N sat in front of him, avoiding his gaze. Lupin was not only angry but also worried about her safety. He had known Y/N since she was a third-year student, and he felt a strong sense of responsibility towards her. "Look at me," he said firmly. 
Y/N slowly lifted her gaze and met Lupin's eyes. They were filled with a darkness that made her throat feel tight, yet she could discern a deep sense of concern and protectiveness. 
"I know you're brave, but you don't have to prove it to anyone," Lupin said, his voice softening. "You have nothing to prove to me, or anyone else for that matter. You're important, Y/N, and I don't want to lose you." 
Y/N felt a lump form in her throat as she realized how much Lupin cared for her. “Do you understand?” he asks as he leans towards her. She nodded, unable to get a word out. 
“I could not hear you,” he points out as he looks down at her. “Yes” she lets out, barely a whisper. “Yes what?” Lupin insists. “Yes, sir” Y/N says, correcting herself. “Good girl,” he praises, his voice soft but firm. “You’ll be writing lines,” he instructs as he sets a piece of parchment and a quill before Y/N. “I will not put myself in danger again and I don’t have to prove anything to anyone,” he enunciates as he made his way back to his desk. 
Y/N nodded, her gaze fixed on her quill and parchment. She wrote her lines dutifully, but she couldn't shake off the feeling that Lupin was still watching her.
Every so often, Lupin would glance at Y/N, his presence made her feel anxious yet safe and comforted. Despite the tension in the room, he was still her professor, and he wanted to make sure she was learning something from her punishment. When she had finished her lines, Lupin dismissed her with a nod. "Remember what I said, Y/N," he said, his eyes conveying both sternness and concern. "You're important to me.".
Y/N left the room feeling humbled and grateful. She knew that Lupin had been hard on her, but she also knew that he had done it out of love and concern. As she walked back to the Y/H common room, she couldn't help but think about the scars on the Professor’s face, a reminder of the sacrifices he had made in his life. She found comfort in knowing he protected her, but she also had this strange feeling in her stomach, finding herself wanting to break the rules once more to spend more time with her Professor. 
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I love Oscar I really do I love him so so much I want him dead I want him to take the stone and become scratch's host like some dreamy Jane Prentiss I want him to suffer in the meantime I love him so so much I want John to choke him to death I want him to--
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torifuckingspring · 6 months
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everything is shit but no matter what the minute i open rwrb i'm smiling
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earthfairysstuff · 14 days
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the way this woman could run me over with a car and i would thank her. it’s not funny?? nor healthy???
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she terrifies me but that’s fine, she’s beautiful, i would marry her if she wanted, no hesitation. we can rule the world together, my love
she’s such a badass, i love her so much, i- *incoherent noises*
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yonemurishiroku · 9 months
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Did I ever say that I prefer the “Implied” relationships in which a friendship can appear like two long-lost lovers who haven’t recognize each other yet with their natural intimacy and ridiculous blinding trust - rather than the canonically, confirmed romance? Because I do.
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thesillyestwilly · 5 months
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How I feel knowing that some people have a rape kink.... 💀
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p0is0n-is-th3-cur3 · 2 months
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i'm running on like 4 hours of sleep in 48 hours lmao
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raylatdp-astridhttyd · 11 months
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Decided to finally watch she-ra and now I'm in a Catra phase in my life where I can't get enough of her...I need it to stop because daydreaming about her in the middle of class is not normal
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reptarshusband · 5 months
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So dead. I need to sleep for a full week
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goopi-e · 5 months
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You ever see a person in a fandom whose takes and headcanons about a certain character align with yours so wonderfully, letter to letter — except they use these hcs to justify shipping that character with someone so incompatible, while hating on a ship that would've been exactly the same, but better? Like, how the fuck did you come to that conclusion? Are we interacting with the same media? Are you blind? Or am I stupid? It's so incomprehenpsible it, quite literally, gives me a headache and drives me to tears, which is a very normal reaction to have towards a work of fiction.
It's like seeing an enemy and realizing that you would've been friends in another lifetime.
Anyways, this is the sole reason I took a several-years long break from [redacted] fandom. Yes. Because of one person. Who never interacted with me.
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dollmelaniee · 7 months
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im missing chapa and miles alot rn.
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cantgnn · 2 years
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I could be doing so many other things right now but instead I’m drawing goldric. Sigh
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xaiquyn · 29 days
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I'm addicted to Infinite Craft
Full on insanity
Look at my discoveries and tell me I'm sane
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And even some of my non-first discoveries are fucking weird
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I have a problem
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