#Things People Did That Backfired

[dominote]

i think light yagami is "socially adept" in terms of being able to reason out relatively well what to say and do to come off as a harmless and good and polite young man who is likeable to be around. however i do not think "socially adept" (or "neurotypical") typically comes with having to preface every other normal-passing action and statement with a minor crisis of "ah shit. quick, what would i say/do in response to this if i was light yagami, a normal and nice and respectable young man?"

everyone likes to talk about him talking about kira in third person but can we acknowledge that he also talks about LIGHT in third person. i'm not adding manga panels at 3:57am but y'all know exactly which ones i mean

#light is decent at masking but he is NOT coming off as perfect to anyone who looks at him with a critical eye. like L or near #it's just that a lot of people take him at face value #he's handsome he gets top grades his dad is the police chief his family adores him girls like him etc #and he gets to skate off of that a lot until someone comes around and questions the mask #he unravels so fast once he gets closer to L. he fucks up the misa thing so badly even HE has to admit to L's face #that kira probably didn't think things through with the second kira and kind of panicked #ughhhhhhhhhhh i have so many thoughts about him. he works very hard to come off as socially competent. it's a learned skill not innate #i firmly believe there is some shit going on w light in terms of mental conditions. HOWEVER #i also believe he was relatively 'normal' up until the death note sent a lot of that shit spiralling #lots of mentally ill people live pretty normal lives it turns out! a lot of us can get by and sort of manage! #even if it means masking and coping as needed #i don't think you have to be mentally ill to react to the death note the way light did #i do think it oiled some clockwork that was already ticking though #anyway. light is socially competent to some degree because he tries to be. sometimes it backfires. sometimes he misses. normal stuff #trying to say he is objectively socially adept or inept is futile though #but ig what is death note without black and white thinking and what is the dn fandom without diving into the nuances under the surface layer

[thetarttfuldickhead]

Am inexplicably and unreasonably upset about Jamie not liking scones. Like, obviously he can like whatever he likes and there's no accounting for taste and what does it even matter but also what the hell is wrong with you, my ridiculous muppet man? What else don't you like, huh - is it kittens and puppies? World peace? Fucking joy?

For my own peace of mind I'll be imagining him just saying that because he doesn't want anything from Roy at this particular point in time. Or maybe Simon's scones are JUST TOO GOOD, nothing else can compare, so Jamie just avoids all other scones as to avoid disappointment. Either work and make hell of a lot more sense that Jamie "not even liking" scones. I mean, come on.

#in today's segment of 'absolutely nonsensical things to have Weirdly Strong Feelings about' #but now i have some vague thoughts #about Strange Scones Shenanigans down the road #roy baking scones for himself and keeley #but being all like 'uh no i didn't make any for you because you don't like scones' #EVEN THOUGH HE KNOWS FULLY WELL jamie loves scones #he's just being an ass for roy is an ass sometimes related reasons #it backfires though bc jamie gives him Ze Puppyeyes until roy has to surrender his own scones #OR the simon thing holds water and roy gets weirdly obsessed about also being able to make scones that jamie likes #jamie is having fun pretending he doesn't love roy's scones #it probably gets a little out of hand at some point #keeley seriously questions why she's dating these idiots #how many scones adjacent headcanons did you have today? #none? #too few gentle reader #far too few #just to be clear i have no opinion whatsoever about people liking scones in general! just jamie! #random ramblings #jamie & roy #jamie tartt #jamie tartt/scones

[izabellwit]

been thinking on this and like. mercy being the fatal flaw in dark road instead of saving anyone... Vidar’s kindness in sparing baldr, in keeping the truth from the underclassmen... odin locking baldr away instead of acting on his own words... even xehanort and eraqus, in their own way, seeing killing baldr as a “mercy”..... god.

#fucks them all up SO bad #khdr #khdr spoilers #kingdom hearts #dark road spoilers #the fact both of them become people who are willing to do 'whatever it takes' to either maintain order or fulfill their goals #because the tragedy of their youth was due in part to another's mercy gone horribly wrong #the fact their view of baldr's death is that its a mercy.... that he couldn't have been saved... #and how this ties into the ways they view darkness... #can't stop thinking about Vidar's line. 'go peacefully. may your heart be your guiding key' #no idea if this thought makes sense I've just spinning this around in my head for like 24 hours #so often I see tragedies being framed as a cause from LACK of mercy or kindness #in this case... there was mercy. there was kindness. they TRIED #and all it did was make things worse #all that said tho don't think im for odin locking baldr away lol that absolutely backfired on all them #isolation is not the answer!! holy shit!!!

[c1nn4-bunny]

Watching someone throw paint and cubes around a bunch of rooms all day is boring; a nap WELL deserved. Yeah, wake me up if something interesting happens — let me know if anyone dies.

#fan art #LISTEN. IF THE MAIN FANDOM GETS TO DRAW WHEATLEY LIKE THIS AND TAG IT THEN I GET TO DO IT TOO ERM #plus he's just yawning if you think this is anything else I'm mauling you like a bear okay #Chris don't look #aperture tag #nigel aperture tag #aperture tag nigel #c: Nigel #I'm watching a thing on the history of the (para)olympics mascots and the guy keeps ending entries with '... here's (mascot) with a gun' #and it's so fucking funny every single time. #Aperture Tag but you took too long to finish a test and now he's asleep at his desk for the rest of the game srry be less boring idk #i didn't feel like rendering a background but i feel like it would have taken from the focus anyway if i did #anyway i think my subtle mission to get people to like Nigel more via what i refer to as The Wheatley Treatment is going well #(ignore how it backfired into me REALLY like Nigel me holding his hand is SO unrelated okay) #c1nn4bunny.png

[ashmp3]

haterism is going to be strong in this post but i hateeeee pathetic weak people that victimize themselves. that kind of behaviour is just despicable to me it makes me ill im not joking. like one thing about me is i would rather die than let anyone feel sorry for me and seeing how some people willingly hope for it omfg...... no words. does it make me terrible person i dont know. but if youre like :( everyone hates me i am terrible arent i ....... my eye starts twitching and i am silent im not coddling you and now youre getting on my nerves so

#like DONNTT try this shit with me virgo friend did once and what happened it - it backfired on her like dont just dont i have zero sympathy #when the only problems you have are the ones you made yourself like im not the one sorry. i think after talking to her she realized how i #feel about it and shes back to being normal-ish so im like see its not hard. anyway do i think everyone should act like me like a rock #saturnian as fack strict firm harsh and austere no i think i would benefit from opening up #but im not talking about that i am talking about pathetic people which i will never be so........... #literally dont make me feel sorry for you thats the worst thing i can feel towards some like its over then its better for me to hate you tb #tt

[tvckerwash]

started a rvb rewatch and I'm remembering the pain of just how little there is to work with when it comes to ct and her personality while simultaneously being reminded about just how deeply she and wash mirror one another

#she and wash have a lot of symbolism going on w red and blue lighting that i just never picked up on fully #ct is the type of character who easily shows her anger and frustration #wash is the type who lets his anger boil underneath the surface and doesn't outwardly express it until its already too late #ct often lashes out verbally vs wash lashing out physically #ct worked w charon bc she was hoping to make a deal to stay out of prison #wash made a deal with the chairman to get out of prison #ct died trying to do the right thing #and wash planned on dying to do the right thing #there's also them being “the worst fighters” #ct went toe to toe against lina for a bit. wash went toe to toe against e-tex for a bit #ct is openly very sus #wash tries to make himself /not/ sus #oh there's also ct knowing exactly what tex was while wash tells alpha that tex was confusing #wash cares about the rules/protocols when it comes to people getting just punishment. ct cares about ppl getting just punishment #they are at their cores the same #gdudfghghti I'm having so many feelings about these colorful halo guys #anyway i stand behind my hc that ct gave tex the data bc wash was waaaaay to obvious #and that ct wasn't sure if she could trust tex in the slightest to do the right thing with all of that data #she had to have faith just like wash had to have faith in caboose and the reds in s6 #their decisions to have faith did end up backfiring on both of them though #ct obvs got killed by tex and wash got thrown in jail bc caboose didn't turn epsilon over #oh and wash stole church's identity and ct got her identity stolen by the innie leader #the comparisons are endless I'm going to stop now lol #ct is more or less just s8 wash #edit to clarify on the hc bit: i don't think ct trusted tex as a person but bc of what she knew about tex she believed it was important to— #give tex the choice to make a decision about what to do herself. and she trusted that tex would do right by alpha if nothing else

[medusasbush]

fun fact about me i’ve lied to every man i’ve ever dated and told them idk how to cook. don’t imagine a domestic future w me cooking for you, boy

#it does sometimes backfire #like when men try to teach me to cook and they are just. wrong #’did u know u can replace oil w water in any recipe to cut calories’ #calories? the thing that food is about? shut up and don’t cook for people nfjdjdjdj

[navree]

the real question is what side would you be on, if you had witnessed infamous ides of march ??

You have no idea how tough a question this is for me specifically for soooooo many reasons

Pros of being a conspirator - I am French, any action against Julius Caesar is an automatic W for me in favor of our dear departed Vercingétorix (plus I was a chronic Astérix reader as a little kid when I was in France over the summers), tyrannicide is inherently moral because autocratic single person rule is not something I'm a fan of, in general I also quite like democracy, get to be a part of one of history's greatest group projects. Also Antony annoys the shit out of me so being opposed to him would be nice.

Cons of being a conspirator - I like reading about Augustus so I'm partial to his sides in conflicts on a personal level, the Cinna the poet vs Cinna the conspirator debacle is a bit of a turnoff, speaking of the aforementioned Augustus when the grieving hyper-intelligent teenager with all of Caesar's money and connections and personally loyal soldiers rocks up to Rome saying "hey people who murdered my father figure I'm gonna kill every single one of you and leave your families destitute no matter how long it takes me" and starts amassing a lot of popularity and power to get that done I would like to not be a part of the dead people group as I like not being dead, Ides of March had noble intentions but so spectacularly backfired almost immediately by being a direct cause for the rise of autocratic single person rule in the Western world and I can't have that on my conscience both morally and also because that's one of history's biggest Ls. Also Cicero annoys the shit out of me so being opposed to him would be nice.

You see my dilemma.

I'm gonna be on the seer's side, I'm staying out of it, I'm an unbiased witness who's just gonna whistle on through and go about my day and hopefully not die.

#personal #answered #snckt #i'd be in gaul minding my fucking business (assuming i'm not part of the many gallic people caesar killed) #(cuz yes while i'll point out that caesar championed himself as For The People and The People fell for it) #(which is such a huge part as to why the ides backfired as much as it did) #(i'm referring to the people of rome cuz that's who he was pandering to and that's who loved him and that's who made those choices) #(to like the people he full on conquered he was a bit of shit because you know. conquest. which is also bad and not my thing) #i'm not getting involved in murderous hellenistic nepo baby bullshit i'll write poetry or smth #i'll be an impartial maecenas

[seokmattchuus]

hey saw u got asks about the kamdens dad situation and i kinda wanted to share more just since the entire situation is really crazy. basically mr na has been hosting twitter spaces where he’s been sharing incredibly personal family details about things like family suicides and keeps giving these really backhanded compliments to kamden. he said “Tbh, I’m his biggest critic. I was worried about his singing despite him working so hard on his dancing. He worked really hard on his rapping and now, he’s not bad.” he also made some really insensitive comments about how the bit with the native american headdress wasn’t cultural appropriation even tho kamden was the only one who wasn’t laughing at it during the show. kamden actually called him in the middle of his last space to ask him to end it. i felt like i should share just cuz while some ppl r being rude i didnt want ppl calling mr na’s actions wrong to be misinterpreted as talking about a different situation.

I'll start by saying I guess this is a continuation from the earlier stuff? Like, he's just going on and on? But, again, this is a grown man. Of course, it can be seen as off putting, but he's no different than any parent on facebook oversharing on what their kids are up to (maybe not but I don't know how twt really works so I'm not sure what the spaces were like). There's really nothing wrong with any of this, except for the suicides, that's a bit questionable. He's not keeping up with the internet the way most bp watchers are. He's just a middle-aged man talking to the void. He's probably just really into the fact that he can talk to people who know who kamden is (parents aren't exactly known to be the most private about their kids, les be real here). Or the fact that he can talk to people who support his son the same way he does.

The criticisms aren't that much of a red flag either, in my opinion (could be because I grew up in the same boat) but from my understanding, most parents are their kids' #1 critic, and maybe it's just the quote you chose, but that doesn't seem so backhanded. It seems pretty objective to me? He's not coming off as insulting or overly praising. Just stating what it is.

The cultural stuff isn't really my place to comment on because I missed that bit entirely. I don't know what was said.

And I think the person who called had to have been kamden's twin. Trainees can't have their phones. Or at least can't make it known that they have them. Everyone who's ever been on the show makes a big deal of having no personal technology.

#anon #i still see this whole 'expecting him to react like a chronically online person' take because all the issues with him are exactly that #he's a grown man who probably works most of the day and has no clue about what is 'hip' online #hell i myself find myself confused as fuck when i get on twt and people are on some hate train and reasonings are news to me #if i'm out here getting lost i have no doubts that man is just rambling and wondering why people are upset #he is not one of us #let me repeat. he is. n o t. one of us. #we cannot hold him to the same standard as a popular influencer messing up on the internet #can people be upset? yes. uncomfy? yes. but this is no diferent than parets/grandparents spilling everything related to their kids #the info dumping is just a parent thing #the person who called probably did because it's all backfiring on kamden and people are getting on him as if he has a say #i just think everyone's a bit too jumpy about it #like the way people piled onto him that fast was bit insane #people on twt are straight beefing with a trainee's dad and then playing it off as his fault for not keeping up with the times #it's a fucking mess and it needs to stop - honestly #boys planet #boys planet problems #totally meant to post this the other day after work and forgot my bad

[chaosgenasi]

warning i am having hishari thoughts again

#basil.ramblings #i keep thinking about that gateway. and how people had specific positions that they took around it. #and there were various sets of armor all matching in theme but it wasn't specified if ashton's dad wore the armor of the 'lyth' i.e. stone #priest or if he wore something else. i still think he was the 'charismatic leader' of the village esp bc his armor matched the gateway #which i thought was interesting. #or maybe even ashton's mom?? she didn't take her position around the gateway but she was described as 'saintly.' she could've been involved #in the ritual as well on some level #i wonder if they were trying some sort of dark aramente shit. like getting control over all the elements?? #bc if there was a 'stone' priest then there could've been priests of the other elements as well #and ashton saw not only the ground breaking apart and was obviously influenced by earth elemental energy #but they also saw violent air/wind and light?? #also i Do wonder if the light ashton saw was somehow connected to leyline energy. i will die on my solstice hill #my first thought with the glowing gateway was something feywild related too and ashton's mentioned fey shit before #but i'm not sure if that's bc they thought hexum hit them with something magical or they thought that's what the potion of possibility #was or what.... i referenced the fascinating wild magic barbarian flavor text in regards to genasi barbarians but elves are mentioned too #also the whole. they delved into things they didn't full understand concept. still thinking abt ashton's dad or mom having ruidus dreams #but like what were they trying to unleash!! what were they worshipping!! gosh #also also i do wonder if ashton was used during the ritual at all / if something backfired / if it was 'successful' but again they were #messing with shit they shouldn't have. also curious on how the armor survived?? did they find bodies?? #i want to connect all the dots but we don't have all the dots yet kdsjfh #bells hells thinks that they're trying to free something on ruidus so. if the people of hishari were attempting a ritual of a similar #nature; not necessarily connected to ruidus or anything but. idk that'd be an interesting connection for ash's backstory #( in terms of learning more about hishari so they can prevent a similar ritual from happening )

[soigneetcharmant]

some asshole was randomly transphobic like. at me tonight for reasons i can’t explain. i’m (onstensibly?) cis but my friend asked if he knew my name and he was like. “are you a he/she or a they/she or a they/them or a he/him” like. aggressively. and then said “like what’s your she-name?” and just kept up the barrage of questions. like buddy. i don’t have time to unpack everything you just said. and then he was just like “sorry if i offended” maybe just. don’t be an asshole?

#like. gender is fake but for all intents and purposes i present myself as a woman and have not had any sort of gender-related treatment but #and it wasn’t like he was sincerely asking my pronouns like. he was aggressive about it. #it’s just a lot to unpack lmao like i wasn’t dressed super femininely i was wearing track pants and adidas and a denim jacket and my hair #was up but?? anyway. this is what people are talking about when transphobes start policing the appearances of people who are using women’s #bathrooms will backfire on more masc-presenting cis women because i was just living my ducking life as normal. #transphobia / #idk i just. had to write this out to process i’m like. shaken and feeling weird about it but i’m fine msotly just pisssd about transphobia #generally. also he was just an all around asshole and works on wall street so. #but there’s a difference between not assuming someone’s gender (which he did anyway since he used ‘he’ for me earlier in the night but i was #confused abt that) and aggressively asking someone if they’re a ‘he/she’?! #anyway like i said i’m shaken up but obviously this is a one-off thing that i don’t experience regularly

[orcelito]

Sooo Fang's alive. None of his stuff is stolen (as far as he can tell). He's got a point of exhaustion bc he was just Catatonic for like the whole night (but not sleeping!) And like . Oof lmao.

But Thus Begins his character transformation from a relatively free spirited person to someone with the weight of destiny on his shoulders. Turning from someone who's run for all his life into someone ready to face his destiny head-on, bc that seems to be the only real way he's going to maybe survive.

It's pretty great lol. He's gonna get Kinda Intense, depending. It'll be fun!

#speculation nation #fang #his crush broke a door down when she thought he was in danger & saw him Absolutely covered in his own blood #but they were trying to help him so like it's okay #the Oracle did smth with some thread to collect his blood tho which im 😠 about that bc i dont trust it #i dont like randos just Keeping My Blood like wtf lmao. not to mention his blood is apparently maybe kinda valuable lol #oh yea fang lost a LOT of blood. hoo boy. she first found the room he was in with a MASSIVE puddle of the stuff #all black blood too so like that's definitely a fun look #the oracle's sister told Tal the knight & the crush to not let him take the feather stuff bc it'd lead to his destruction #and she LIED to him about it & said they hadnt said anything else. poor trusting Fang just taking her word for it #im delighted by it bc that's gonna b some fun conflict later bc he Does Not trust the oracle or her sister #(ft him being STABBED in the psychological torture chamber + them going a bit too hard on being like #'All Of You over here worship that false god?!' like Damn he doesnt but that's still not a good look for them) #also from what he understands his father stole this feather (which belonged to an old god) from the fey queen #which resulted in their whole people being cursed & cast out from her domain. 'until you return what's ours' #in Fang's mind. he needs to get the feather back from his dad. and then return it to the fey queen #and Maybe Then the curse can be lifted. by righting the wrongs of his father maybe he can make things Better. #but here the oracle's sister is trying to undermine that. trying to take the feather for her own gain. #& maybe she's right and that it would lead to Fang's destruction to have it. but hes still major being left out of the loop with this #so like. THATS gonna be fun. this cant possibly backfire later! #Fang toeing the line of possibly becoming some lord of shadows. taking down his father & becoming the new leader of their people #bc Maybe. with the right intentions. he can change things for the Better. & hes not gonna manage that being a complete nobody #so he needs power. first to overthrow his several hundred year old father (what the Fuck dude) #& then to maybe lead his people to Something Better. #the only thing of course. is that Power Corrupts. Fang's incredibly kindhearted now but will that stay the same? #only time will tell...

[sendmyresignation]

stop jessica hopper is literally personally responsible for the newsweek article in the fall of 1992. this makes an incredible amount of sense.

#okay this did make me laugh out loud like of course. but also again hopper was like literally sixteen #and also her intentions were in at least partially something i can recognize and understand #i too think the media blackout was very naive and much too informal #also the way people were labeling her a traitor and such and that the innocence of riot grrl was gone... #like marcus repeats over and over that the media blackout was an unspoken thing nobody formally decreed #everyone was just supposed to be clued in to a rule that was inplied but never truly mentioned. of COURSE this is going to backfire #but the issues of privacy are different those exist in a different sphere of ethical quandary #my posts

[boyczar]

The phrase “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all” has done irreparable damage to the human race. We have not learned how to acceptably criticize others and we have not learned how to gracefully accept it from others. It reeks of codependency. We need to make maximal effort to undo the damage that may have been inflicted upon us in childhood. If we equate a criticism of our BEHAVIOR as an attack on OURSELVES, then we have some work to do. If this notion that we are separate from our actions makes you uncomfortable, you need to do some reflecting, and that’s not me “coming for you”! We also need to stop just throwing around criticism when we are heated or feeling resentful. Criticism is a tool that we all NEED. Desperately. In order to change for the better. But we need to know how to wield it. If you have a genuine criticism of someone’s choices (someone you care about) learn how to tell them calmly, so that they might be able to take your concern to heart and use it for the better. The goal should never be to cause pain. Learn this before it’s too late.

#being afraid to voice criticism in a healthy manner has cost me a lot #too much or too little #you sacrifice your own well being or someone else’s every time you don’t voice a criticism you have #judgment is not a bad thing. it is IMPOSSIBLE to rid yourself of judgment. #that is where we gather positive discernment from! #but learning how to voice it in a way that someone can digest is vital to yourself AND to them #enabling people is the worst thing you can do for everyone’s mental and emotional well-being #learning how to accept the critiques that those who love you have for you is an imperative skill if you want to be authentic in this life #but this is a two way street #if you learn how to be graceful when giving out criticism and it backfires bc that person is too emotionally immature to take it #then that is proof that they still have work ahead of them #and if you get criticized from a place of love and you still blow up or disregard what someone has to say to you #then that is a sign that you still have some work to do #life is complex but we make it simpler when we trust that those we love have their best intentions for us #mine #especially important for neurodivergent people to learn how to give & take it appropriately & not internalize it NEGATIVELY #i say this as a neurodivergent person #we often have a lot of maladaptive coping skills that helped us survive our disfunctional homes #and that’s okay bc we did the best we could with what we had as children #but it is time to treat ourselves and others with love and respect and leave behind the traits that hinder us #such as the inability to accept or give out criticism