#This is starting to be a real problem

[the-final-sif]

what is your opinion on the situation?

I've been at work all day so I haven't been able to sit down with stuff fully, it also seems like Caiti is planning to release a statement later today with more information I think? So I'd like to get her response there, but based on what I've seen so far I think I fall more on the side of "people made some dumb choices and should learn from them" than anything else.

Consent is messy and it gets messier when people start lying or are drunk. In this case, both Caiti and George were drunk. From what I understand, either Caiti had a 21+ wristband from the vidcon party, or her friend group did and assumed since she was drinking with them, she was also 21+.

Honestly, when it comes to the matter of underage drinking, I don't think it's even remotely fair to place blame on Dream/George for that. The blame there lies with Caiti deciding to drink while under 21, and on her friends, Ghostie and the other person present who were both over 21. Unlike Dream/George, both of them knew Caiti and knew exactly how old she was and were letting her drink. They were also letting her drink with no one sober and no one making sure she got home.

Now, Caiti is 18 and also I'm not a goddamn square, I'm not gonna stand here and be like "oh no drinking at 18 clutch my pearls" but like, if people are going to blame other people for that situation, that very much lies with Caiti's friends who knew they had an underage person drinking with them. I feel like people are weirdly assigning blame to Dream/George for not like, iding every person they hang out with (particularly if she had a 21+ bracelet at vidcon, which would mean she already got IDed). While completely avoiding placing any blame on the people who 100% knew they were taking an 18 year old drinking without a doubt.

Putting that aside, from my understanding George's side is he believed at the time that she was having fun, and the most they did was cuddle on a couch with other people there. He believed at the time that everything was cool, and that she later decided she was uncomfortable with what happened.

Honestly, I don't really think that's an unfair reading. At this same party, her best friend was there and from Ghostie's own words, she also didn't realize Caiti was uncomfortable until several months later when Caiti told her. If her best friend didn't notice she was uncomfortable or see anything wrong, then I find it hard to think anyone else would pick up on it.

There's certainly risks taken here that I wouldn't have taken. I think that George needs to do better with checking for consent and maybe vetting the people you're hanging out with. Although I also understand that doing a full background check on everyone you ever meet is an absurd requirement and if, at the time, they trusted the person that they actually invited, I get how that shit happens. Per consent, given that he was also drunk, I get how it may've appeared to him that he had consent. I do think it's still something to work on, but I'm also perfectly aware that in real life, people are often going off vibes and social cues, and sometimes those don't mash.

I also think that Caiti's friends have been pretty shitty throughout this. They take no responsibility for having let an 18 year old drink and then ditching her. They are absolutely milking drama out of this shit and they have a weird obsession with blaming Dream for shit he had no fault in.

As for Dream, I don't think he did anything wrong here. Full stop. If Caiti's best friend didn't notice that she was uncomfortable or unhappy, it's insanely unreasonable to expect Dream to have managed that. He was also drunk and hanging out with people, and he had no way of knowing Caiti was underage. None of that shit was his fault, and his statement seems very measured and reasonable. People are trying to blame him for things that he had absolutely no part in, and the UK group are absolutely trying to pull that shit.

Overall, sounds like several people involved made dumb choices, I hope they learn and grow. Otherwise all of this honestly sounds like shit that should've been talked out privately and not tossed to the internet for speculation. Human beings are messy and will fuck up sometimes. This feels like a case of miscommunication and people making risky choices that left people with some hurt.

Again, I may change my mind with further evidence presented, but that's how it feels to me.

#dreamwastaken #georgenotfound #discourse #sif speaks #sif answers #idk man I think I just have more irl experience with these sorts of situations #like #shit happens in real life #and I think maybe part of the problem with like twitter #is you have a lot of 15 year olds that have never been drunk or fucked in their lives #who are totally sure they know exactly how consent works and how sex goes in real life #I really liked the greendot talk I got about it back in college #I should find a recording of that sometime for people #It laid it out really well that consent is not an on-off switch #It's a door that you're opening #and depending on the circumstances you take risks with how you're opening it #0 risk is like the two of you have a formal plan #and have signed contracts #and then you start to move up through situations that can be more risky that something goes wrong #and someone gets hurt #And honestly for irl consent I found that was so much more of a valuable framework to look at things through

[dylanconrique]

"it's like penguins. penguins, in nature, when one is sick, or when one is very injured, the other penguins surround it and prop it up. they walk around it until that penguin can walk on it's own. that's kind of what the cast did for me." — matthew perry about his fellow friends.

#*and this is icarly! #friends #chandler bing #matthew perry #friends lovers and the big terrible thing #THIS!!!!! ☝️☝️ is why friends will reign supreme as one of the best television shows of all time #NOT ONE OF THEM JENNIFER COURTNEY DAVID LISA OR MATT EVER GAVE UP ON HIM #they didn't condemn him for his addiction or pass judgement on him in any way #they ALL realized that this is a real disease!!!! #ALCOHOL AND DRUG ADDICTION ARE DISEASES!!!!!! #and for them to realize that when addiction wasn't so easily understood by most back in the 90s/early 2000s is SO. HEARTWARMING. #they all could have just as easily excluded him from the group when they started to catch on that he had a problem #most other actors in the industry probably would #but no not them #they're family 💗

[zeb-z]

There’s something so important about Gillion - who never heals himself, who rushes into danger, who hides his wounds- facing death and realizing he isn’t unafraid as he was raised to be. He uses his magic on himself to help with the exhaustion, to keep his life intact. And still he tries to comfort Jay and Chip while he’s coherent, being realistic about his chances but refusing to make it painful. Wanting their possible last moments to be light, to be about seemingly inconsequential things, small favorites that still mean the world to him purely because they’re Chip and Jay’s favorites. And then when all is said and done, he makes a raccoon for Jay. He talks about raspberries for Chip. He uses his last saved up arcane energy to try desperately to stay awake, and it works, and it saves him in the final hour.

It’s just. There’s something about how he hasn’t had a chance to rest since the Feywild, really, truly rest. How this whole time he’s been down on himself and taking extreme risks. And now, at what might be the end of it all, he realizes he doesn’t want to die. He wants to live. And not to be able to save others, not to fulfill his destiny, not out of obligation to anyone else - but purely for himself. For all the little things. And though it’s not quite healing in the literal term, his nearly final act was spent trying to save himself - and it worked.

#tw again for tags I’ll say and let me know if I gotta tag any more #but the past 30 episodes have been gillion tidestrider gets the shit beat out of him by the narrative #gillion tidestrider faces passive suicidality and faces old trauma and fresh new trauma #he goes through a shift of his foundation as a person he loses his sister the whole filipe thing and then this Curse #and he goes through with a mindset of ‘these problems exist because I do’ with some heavy implications behind that #it’s been getting easier and easier to choose his own destiny and break from expectations but it’s still not easy #but facing real death. slow and creeping and painful. he realizes he wants to live #not live because destiny demands it but because his friends do. because he does. because he wants to know more and share more of himself #I just. there’s something about all of it yknow #jrwi riptide 98 #jrwi 98 #jrwi #jrwi riptide #gillion tidestrider #z speaks #at what point should I start tagging spoilers like. 100 maybe?

[ninjasmudge]

reminder to please please not draw any LMK characters with yellow skin unless specifically drawn in full LEGO style

i dont want to sound callous bc i know theres new people in the fandom who might not have known, but this has been a problem since the very start, giving chinese people yellow skin is a racist stereotype and not something that can be overlooked. chinese people have repeatedly asked the lmk fandom to avoid coloring them yellow, or a heavily yellowed skin tone, but its still common

adding a link to shiroxix's skin pallet as a ref you can use to help if youre unsure, and heres a ref i made from colors ive used if anyone would like to use it, (no credit needed)

also! its important to take into account the rest of the tones in your picture when color picking, for example, if the rest of the picture is very vibrant, a brighter and more saturated tone will match, but on a piece with more muted tones the same color could look too yellow

#mk #lego monkie kid #monkie kid #lmk #and like. im not chinese so if i need to be corrected on some of those thats fine all screens are differnt #but its really common and every time i see it i have to cringe cause like. its 2023 #this is also still a major problem in the comics industry and ik a lot of people are jsut starting #so im trying to not do it in an acusing tone #but some people should really know better i feel like. this isnt something petty its a real issue

[iammorethananame]

Me: *financially independent and uncomfortable accepting monetary help*

Also me: *fiercely anti-captalist and anti-rich people*

Still me: *staring wistfully at @theidiotwhowritesthings's sugar daddy!Joel Miller AU* I want one

#Joel Miller x reader #sugar daddy!joel miller #🎶guess who had car problems again 🎶 #i guess tcoy!joel is specifically my anti-car anxiety blorbo #for real though he'd have a whole team of mechanics on call just for his family/friends #no phone tag with the towing company #no hold music everytime you call #regular updates so you're not left wondering all day #drop off service so you don't have to wait for your roommate to get home just so you can drive five minutes away to the shop #anyways it's been a bit of a week and i have my car back but i also have ✨ anxiety✨ #and that bitch keeps poking me and asking if my car's rEaLlY fixed or if it's going to refuse to start and leave me stranded at work #missing tcoy!joel hours #time to reread!

[lightningidle]

Fig's line "I don't think I'm an artist, I think I'm just a good friend" has not left my head at all. Just...

You're Fig Faeth and your horns came in over the summer and you pick up the bard class as a form of adolescent rock 'n' roll rebellion, and it works! It's exactly the outlet you need! You give a guy you just met drumsticks and you start a band and it's good enough that within a year and a half you're touring. You are, in every sense, good at being a bard.

And then, finally, your junior year, you start to take it seriously. Your art goes from an outlet and a form of rebellion to a practice. A discipline. (Can rebellion exist within a discipline?) Your classmates know what they want to do with their work. They all have a thesis statement. And yeah, there's cohesion in the music you make, but you've never had to think about why you make it. You've never sat down and dissected what it is about bass that speaks to you. You've never poured over your lyrics to pick at any deeper meaning. Why should you? You don't play music for a grand design, you do it to... huh, why do you do it?

(Your art is the one form of self-expression that feels as safe as Disguise Self does, because even if you're pouring your heart onto the page and then screaming it in front of thousands of people, it's not like you're really making yourself known. You can sing I'm lonely, I'm scared, I'm furious, and your fans will sing it right back, and there will still be the distance between performer and audience to keep your heart safe.)

Now you're being asked to look inward to explain the artistic choices you're making, and you can't help but recoil at that, because you'd rather do anything than look inward. Meanwhile, your classmates have no problem with it, so you start to wonder if you're a real artist at all. Can your art be authentic if it only exists to bolster a thesis statement? Has your art been unauthentic this whole time because you've never really thought about a thesis statement before? Is that what makes it art, and not just the next track on somebody's teen angst playlist?

You can't think about yourself— acknowledging your own existence makes you want to puke. So if your music is an extension of yourself, (and it is, even if it's just because the spotlight reveals only what you want it to,) you can't think about your music. You can't. You have to. Your grade depends on it.

You're Fig Faeth, and you keep multiclassing because you'd rather be a good friend than a great artist. If introspection is what great art demands, then fuck it. You must not be a bard at all.

#Dimension 20 #fig faeth #fhjy #Idle Chatter #my last two years of college were when I started to get more and more nauseous about my own art #because I wasn't being taught how to make the art I wanted to make #the whole curriculum's focus was on gallery art #which infuriated me! I wanted to make art that didn't have to involve twelve layers of meaning and metaphor to be considered good!! #so I drove myself into the ground time and again trying to make (miserable) work that I thought would fit the criteria of a Real Artist #anyway it's been 4 years and I'm just now picking at why I don't enjoy creating anymore so Fig's whole arc has hit home in a major way #ALSO. AAAAALSO. THE ADHD STRUGGLE WE SEE WITH BOTH FIG AND KRISTEN. LOVING SOMETHING BUT STILL STRUGGLING WITH FOLLOW THROUGH #BEING TOLD YOU'RE NOT DOING ENOUGH WHEN IT'S SO FUCKING HARD JUST TO GET WHERE EVERYONE ELSE IS AND NOT UNDERSTANDING WHY IT'S HARD FOR YOU #it was easy and now that the rubber's hit the road it's hard for you but not for others so it must be YOU that's the problem #you must be lazy or stupid or just not suited to this after all even though it's part of a pattern that has been happening all your life #if you were good enough or cared enough then surely the discipline would come easily to you! the way it comes easily to all your classmates #SCREAMS I gotta stop before I write a second essay in the tags. I'm so normal you can trust me to be normal about D&D characters

[writeouswriter]

Girl, help, the book authors are trying too hard to be "hip" with the fleeting "teen lingo" and trends again, immediately dating their works before they're even released

#eye twitching seeing certain modern slang in for real published books unironically #tiktokian slang that is out of date within weeks #it's a pet peeve of mine but so is modern books mentioning tiktok or stuff at all esp. when not relevant in general #god it pulls you out of the illusion #turns it into this very set in stone time frame rather than letting it just be or resonate on its own which is fine sometimes if natural #you can't avoid some mentions of some things when setting it today but in these cases it's so forced #hello fellow kidz.jpeg vibe in book form #books #this isn't even specific to ya books i've seen it in adult books as well #booklr #petty as i am i once stopped reading a first chapter excerpt for mentioning spotify by name on page 1 i'm sorry #this other book though oh they've used online phrases and boomer insult 3 times and brought up tiktok twice it's on thin f-ing ice #ignore me i'm petty but don't ignore me because this is a legit problem in the media industry #don't even get me started on text speak in the dialogue or texting sections yeah #it's not quite as bad if it's some fake variation of an app or just generic about being online but mentioning by name oh i'm gonna explode #most times anyway #i have yet to see it handled well #this was about slang though so tangent but !! gaah

[keepin-it-on-the-d-l]

The “Gen Z and Uncultured Dndads Listener” experience is not getting 30% of the references they make but their laughter is so infectious that I’m laughing anyway

#emphasis on uncultured bc I only recently started playing video games and at this point I am too afraid to ask what army of two is about #it took me two listen throughs till I looked up what a blade pose is #didn’t know Jodie foster was a real person until I was done season one #‘you know how in blade runner-‘ no no I do not #is this too niche this might just be a me problem #dndads #dungeons and daddies #dndaddies

[junebugtwin]

even while it was happening, you knew it wasn't going to last

#parahumans #worm #lisa wilbourn #tattletale #feeling BAD about my girl lisa in the club tonite #i am convinced she is the most tragic main character in worm #which is a bold statement i know #but i just cant handle even thinking about her shit FOR REAL #she knew the cops and robbers shit was bullshit! from the very beginning! #of course she did! Coil fucking forced her to work for him at gunpoint and she totally understands that #if she doesn't do what he wants shes going to end up in a torturebasement!! #she knew aall of taylors funny little problems n Issues from the start! she tried SO hard to keep her alive and at least a little happy #struggling and clinging and digging in her claws as she watches this girl somehow get Worse(?) #and every time taylor takes a step towards the void guess who sees it in excruciating detail even when taylor can't/wont!!!! #and in the end it doesn't matter!! all her schemes and plans don't amount for shit!! she doesn't save the girl! #she doesn't save the girl. #my art

[traumainpyjamas]

JENO \\ NCT DREAM 엔시티 드림 'Smoothie' MV

#nct dream #smoothie mv #jeno #i apologise for the person i'm about to become #excuse me nct dream WHAT?? Is this what we are now? argh #loved the artistic vibes of the MV #AND THE SONG! i'm obsessed #the whole album is so good! #i have zero regrets of ordering it. now i just hope it arrives....tried a new store...i live in suspense #prepare for more gifs and more breakdowns.....if i have the time...real life has been bothering me #I just had to start with mr. problemo here #lee jeno #he is a problem #i'm weak for jeno #nct dream smoothie #nct jeno #nct #gifs

[wesavegotham]

I would have more sympathy for people complaining about "Damian being treated as Bruce's only real child because they are related by blood" if Damian didn't literally spent probably over 75% of his existence doing something far away from his father while Bruce doesn't even comment on the fact that he hasn't seen his son in months and has no idea what he's doing.

#And don't even get me started on Bruce not ever really feeling sad about not being able to spend more time with his son in canon #Because prioritizing his job as batman is bruce's choice #And he actually doesn't seem all that sad about missing the first ten years of Damian's life #He's mostly pissed that Damian was trained to kill and that's it #He had no problem being mostly absent in the four years he knew about Damian's existence #Seriously there is not a lot of textual evidence that Bruce is sad about not having witnessed damian's first years #Out of a desire to have spent more time with him #I checked for that myself and even asked other people who actually read comics #Bruce feeling sad about this is fanon so people trying to paint Talia in a bad light for “keeping his son from him” piss me off even more #If Bruce had learned about Damian and would have been made to raise him earlier he would have left Damian in Alfred's care #Like let's be real

[fae-morrigan]

Okay, I wasn't going to say anything about it, but y'all are just being ridiculous now, so I have to say it.

A common criticism of Jay Nakamura is the idea that he only got romantically involved with Jon to get Jon to help him with what he was doing. And this is meant to be like, an indictment of Jay, that he somehow manipulated Jon into helping him out and that's bad, but like... lets pretend that's true for a second, okay?

The explicit text of Son of Kal El is that Jay is a displaced indigenous refugee who is trying to liberate his country and his people from a western-sponsored dictator (and the literal slavery he has imposed upon them).

So according to this take, Jay had to romantically manipulate Jon into... helping him take a stand against colonialism. He had to trick Superman into helping him do something i hope we all agree is objectively correct. Specifically by bribing him with romantic affection.

I just wanna know: In what universe is that an indictment of Jay and not Jon?

Like, that's a world where Jon had to get something out of the arrangement to consider doing the objectively right thing. That's fucked up! Extremely fucked up! And I would never villify Jay, who again I remind you escaped actual enslavement, for needing to do that to get help for himself and his people! Why would you?

#meta #dc meta #jon kent #jay nakamura #Me personally I think if a man of color has to 'manipulate' a white man into standing against racism & colonialism #by pretending to like him and kiss his ass and take care of him #that could never be anything but a scathing indictment of the white man whos inaction without personal benefit is the real problem #When you try and cast Jay as the villain in the context of SOKE you tell me you think his goals are unreasonable #WHICH IS A FUCKING TAKE FOR SURE. #and I am very glad it is Objectively not what the text says #The text tells us Jon was totally willing to help Jay before their relationship began #and that the romance comes as a result of them getting to know each other as people #hence why we see Jon looking at Jay differently starting in issue 3 after Jay embarasses himself in front of Lois

[unresurgeance]

"we need more complex women" you guys couldn't even handle Sally Acorn

#me on my death bed with the remaining strenght of my last breath: sally acorn deserved better #I'm jumping on the meme train cause I'm seeing so many of them yet not one with the main girl #was she a victim of poor writing for a while? absolutely #even when things started to get better in the storytelling department and she actually acted like a real person with some crazy #family problems trying to survive a world at war and bear the weight of life of some of the people she personally had to train did you show #her some kind of mercy?? did people try to understand the whole f*ckery going on there? absolutely not #y'all are literally scared of complex female characters tf you talkin about? #sally acorn #archie sonic #sth

[loveableabomination]

Being ace but also being people-pleasing enough that I think I'm not ace cuz I like to make my partner happy...is a mind-fuck.

#ace #asexual #trans #lgbtqia #trans man #ace trans #ace pride #ace problems #sex doesnt disgust me per se #for the most part #but I want it to be done fast #like yeah yeah just get there already #so we can get to the cuddles and lovey dovey stuff #can I actually just have lovey cuddles without the sex? #like for reals #that'd be great #but I know that isn't how the vast majority of people are #finding another ace? #ridonkulous #finding another ace around my age who likes me and who I like back? #may as well start my search for unicorns cuz I'll find one of those before a relationship #and y'know what I'm cool with that #dream home is a house in the woods far away from people #so I can wander barefoot in the forest without people wondering what in god's name I'm doing walking barefoot with coffee in hand #and if I'm being honest probably also a book #walking while reading is underrated #I used to rollerblade up and down the street while reading #I will forever associate Charlie and the Chocolate Factory with rollerblading and the scent of the fields by my house #anyways yeah #im an urban hermit dreaming of being a forest hermit

[sandinmybed]

pride month isn't over until I say it is. will byers with pride flag for the soul.

💙🩵🤍💚💚

will byers my beloved!!! used gouache for this, I'm getting better at gouache guys 😎 the background wash/pride flag is watercolour. the reference picture I used was will at rinkomania watching mike and el run off :( I say I love him and then only paint him sad lmao.

wip shots because a few people told me they like those

you can probably see once again that this is my very tiny sketchbook that I did the mike watercolour in lol.

#my art #stranger things fanart #byler fanart #will byers #will byers fanart #stranger things #byler #gouache #gouache painting #traditional art #lgbt art #gay #pride month #pride art #portrait #if anyone comes into my mentions and tries to do flag discourse because i used the toothpaste flag you can stop that before you even start #people have real problems and will wouldnt give a shit #also it makes a gorgeous background #art #painting

[nashvillethotchicken]

Ldpdl need some friends he ain't fuckin or kin with and bad. Like real bad

#he need a 9-5 so he can make an 73 year old friend named otis #interview with the vampire #smth about having a real old ass work friend just make you normal in the head in a way that therapy dont #je also dont need to work cus hes the disordered peoples princess but i digress #he need a secretary job so he dont start biting walls and talking about metaphors #louis de pointe du lac #iwtv #amc iwtv #ldpdl #like its crazy he really aint got no friends he not like me fr #like he got lestat but that nigga crazy in a bad way #and armand is crazy in a neutral way. a Neurodivergent way #he need to go be a cashier at the walmart a couple miles out that would fix him #i genuinely think if ldpdl worked an office job or night shift at a wendys hed be 87% less like that cus the fumes from regular hoes #would make him immediately less self absorbed #itd be like smelling salts but for rich redbones #like i need him to hear from a chatty but ultimately well meaning office gossip in a break room so bad #like he need to know that people got problems #also i think hed like the human interactions. itd be like cat videos to him #he need to go to night school #he need a trade. he need to go to electrician school. truly anything that aint hanging with them crazy ass people #he need to be like every black woman i know and get so many advanced degrees