#This isnt also to say other characters aren't dealing with trauma

[pumpkinrootbeer]

I really wish we could be nicer to trauma stories. Just, in a general sense. People are so hypercritical and often just mean in how they talk about characters who are in this weird transition period of growth. Characters like Yang, Blake, Ozpin, Ren, hell, Whitely. Fuck, Weiss in the first two seasons was just coming out of a super abusive household. Of course she acted like that! And yeah, we as the audience didn't know that, but people still call her early character whiney and that rubs me the wrong way. We see these characters who are just struggling so much with whatever they're feeling right then but if they don't handle it in an uwu soft way, they get demonized. It just seems really unfair. Let these characters be angry, and pissed off. Let them be scared and hurt and frightened. Let them make mistakes, and over isolate themselves. Let them be human! It makes for better stories, honestly. It makes it more real! Trauma is messy, and getting through it, getting better is even messier! Sometimes you lash out, sometimes you hurt yourself, sometimes you hurt other people! Sometimes you do all of those things, or none of them. Sometimes it hits you right after the traumatic event, sometimes it doesn't really start affecting your behavior until years later. It's complicated and ugly. I'm not talking about people who criticize the writing or, like, overall story structure. I'm talking about specifically people who make say "x character shouldn't be upset by this" or "x shouldn't be angry! They're being really whiny" when 9 times out of ten 10 they're dealing with impossible situations and are making human decisions. It just rubs me the wrong way I guess.

#Rwby #rwby vol8 #lie ren #yang xiao long #ozpin #blake bellodona #whitley schnee #weiss schnee #This isnt also to say other characters aren't dealing with trauma #Just that I see a lot of people hammer of these guys for not being uwu baby soft about it #:V #It's messy guys #Let it be messy #This is mostly written bc of ren #And how people are treating his arc

[aloy-sobek]

Oh YES to the CPTSD feels. I'm seeing people say some weird and gross stuff about Liam choosing to play traumatised characters and not going for the sugary sweet happy endings and as someone with PTSD I'm dumbfounded. Traumatised people aren't bad, people living with trauma instead of totally recovering or being cured isn't bad. That's REALITY for a lot of us. And we're still worthy of respect and love and our lives aren't necessarily pits of despair and loneliness. Caleb's journey is good.

Trauma recovery isn't a magic fix. And for Caleb, he doesn't have a licenses therapist and medication. His recovery isnt going to be the "ideal." Hell I have been in trauma recovery just over 4 years now. I will live with PTSD for the rest of my life. On a good day I will have the spoons to deal with what they world throws on me. On an average day I might still have some emotional flashbacks but have better tools. But on a bad day? OOF.

Also recovery doesn't look the same for everyone. Caleb's closeness with Essek is HUGE. They love each other deeply. And deep connecting love doesn't have to be romantic. Its fun when it is for sure. But that trust he puts in Esseks? Huge steps Teaching Luc magic!! Omg that huge part of his recovery! Going from fearing being the thing that tortured him, to being a kind guiding teacher for a young man? Massive growth.

Growth in romantic love with trauma and ptsd can be a beautiful story, but I dont think that was the story Liam wanted to tell. The story of Calebs growth that he wanted to tell was around trusting people again, and more importantly trusting himself

#Critical Role #Critical Role Spoilers #Spoilers

[sometimesrosy]

Hello Rosie, I really like reading your analysis. And I have so many questions in mind but there has been one for some time that has concerned me, you may have already answered, in which case I haven't seen it, my favorite character is Bellamy and i love his evolution over the seasons, I like to know what people think, and even if we aren't all agree, I respect their opinions. There is one that I see a lot of appearing: [1/4]

[2/4] it's the fact that " Bellamy doesn't have his own storyline, each time it revolves around Octavia and Clarke". And I don't know I'm mixed because I think he has changed a lot, with Octavia he learned to detach from her, it took time but the development is there. With Clarke it's different but I don't see why it's bad that he wants to protect her given the importance she has for him. The same for his protectiveness towards others.

[3/4] He matured, he had a pretty good arc in s3 ( for me ) and it's the continuity of s4 where he tries to repair his faults and understands that he can't save everyone. In s5 he's mature, makes thoughtful decisions, and even if he tries to reason with his sister, he clearly takes opposition to her. With s6 it's also a continuity of that, their relationship is at its lowest but it tended to improve at the end.

[4/4] And yes he spent most of the time trying to save clarke, but i think that is one of the decisions where we understand that he makes this choice for him first, because he needs her . If it's not having his own storyline, then I didn't understand anything, and i'm a bad Bellamy stan. What do you think about all of this ?

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Thank you @wardasmo 

When they say that Bellamy doesn’t have his own storyline they are absolutely, 100% incorrect. It’s a ridiculous statement for the character who is the secondary protagonist and has had MULTIPLE storylines focused on his development as a character and a hero.

They are simply wrong. They have an agenda, and they create a story to back it up, whether that fits with canon or filmmaking or storytelling or what have you, doesn’t matter to them, because they only want to be right, to stan what they stan, and say there’s some sort of injustice there that makes the story wrong and them right.

And it’s ALL BULLSHIT.

And you know it. You have already stated his storylines, which is the opposite of not having any storylines. You are right. They are wrong. But they’re so certain they are right and will allow no subtlety of discussion, that they make you think they must know something you don’t.

They don’t.

You’re the one whose following Bellamy’s narrative, character development and storylines. They are not.

Stan/antis are NOT good at understanding story, because they erase whatever they don’t like and focus only on what they do like. They aren’t INTERESTED in the story. They are interested in the communal activity of worshipping whatever it is they love. 

You have already explained some of Bellamy’s storylines. I can add more.

season 1. Bellamy faces his mistakes, after a life time of protecting his sister, and learns to share the. burden, and also gains freedom and power he never had before, dealing with the high price of that.

season 2. Bellamy, after losing his delinquents, is afraid to take power, and gives it away to Finn, disastrously, before deciding to take matters into his own hands and saving the delinquents himself.

season 3. After the trauma of MW, Bellamy refuses to lead and instead gives his power to Kane. He is retriggered by the destruction of MW and Clarke’s betrayal and then gives his power to Pike. S3a is a fight for Bellamy’s soul between Kane and Pike. Octavia and Clarke are not a part of it. 3b he’s finally accepted his own power and leads the mission and promises to do better to make up for his mistakes.

season 4.  Was about learning how to let go of the need to save everyone, to allow himself some happiness, to trust himself.

season 5. Was the season where Bellamy Blake became a hero. He learned from everything that happened and saved EVERYBODY’S asses. He used his head AND his heart. He refused to take responsibility for his sister’s actions. He told everyone what to do and he was right.

season 6. Ahh see, now. Bellamy’s hero’s journey is over, and NOW he’s that hero, and he gets a love story. He’s been separated from his true love for many major reasons, and he’s willing to sacrifice that love to do the sensible thing and stay with Echo, but when he almost loses Clarke again, he is no longer okay with not having Clarke and he goes after her and admits that he needs her, that he loves her, that he can’t let her go.

And YES. That means season 6 was about a partner, a girl. Clarke. Bellamy Blake has a romance story. This has actually been his romance story the whole time. And it’s finally coming to fruition.

Bellamy is the heart. I believe his story does in deed work around his relationships, and not only with Clarke and Octavia, but also Monty and Murphy and Echo and Raven and the rest. 

A character interacting with other characters and making connections that change them is NOT A FLAW IN STORYTELLING. Holy crap. What are they even thinking?

Let me tell you what my theory is about that theory that Bellamy doens’t have a storyline (ridiculous, he has more than anyone but clarke.)

I believe that is a theory built around the concept that Bellamy should be the star of the show, the main character. That Clarke should NOT. That Clarke is “the hero,” bothers them, because a woman should not be the heroic center of the show. A man should. Women are supposed to have stories about relationships, and families, and MEN are supposed to be the statesmen and saviors and warriors.

SO I think it’s internalized misogyny that is telling these Bellamy stans that if BELLAMY isnt’ the main hero and isn’t who the story revolves around every season then the story is wrong. Because Clarke SHOULDN’T be the hero. 

Despite Clarke being the hero. 

SO, since Bellamy has 25% of the storylines to Clarke’s 25% of the storylines, people feel like Bellamy is being shorted. Overshadowed. Ignored. Despite the season being ABOUT Bellamy’s emotions and character development HEAVILY. 

I think the idea of Bellamy being at the center of the romance plot line this season bothers them. He’s the romantic hero, and Clarke’s the action hero. And that is backwards for them. They’re jealous, and erasing Clarke as the hero in her own story.

I think it’s icky.

#the 100 #bellamy blake #is the hero #no storyline? what are they crazy? #do they just ignore him being the coprotagonist or what?

[altmediabuzz]

' When Prayer, Love And Light Aren't Enough'

💫New Age Passiveness

Recently a friend asked how to deal with one of his friends who he felt was displaying Cognitive Dissonance while discussing many of the harsh truths about the world we are living in today. His intentions were good, but being the empath that he is , he realized discussing these topics was quite difficult for her, and they in fact made her so uncomfortable that she didnt want to discuss them at all.

While dialogue and communication are key elements in any friendship/ relationship, it is important to understand timing and when, where and how some of the tougher topics should be discussed. Please dont let this deter you though.Some people swallow red pills easily, while for others they may be a little bit more hard to swallow.There are many different reasons people choose to deny harsh truths, or even better yet accept them and express ambivalence towards them. It seems however their are some personality types within two particular Spiritual Beleifs that are more likely to do so. In my experience those two beleifs are 'Christianity' and ' New Age' Spirituality

I suggested he send his friend prayers positive vibes and uplifting energy( ofcourse, right?) But....to also give her her space..still making it clear that he was there for her if she needed him...to not push discussing the topics they disagreed on as much for awhile and focus on the ones they did . to work on strengthening their friendship bond , and remember that they are on the same team. To try to have empathy..but not to be swayed. To discern and decipher if there is any truth in her opinions through her feelings, words and actions and what the universe might be trying to teach him through her apprehension.

As one of my favorite motivational speakers Teal Swan says ' a lot of these 'love and light ' ' kumbya' 'que cera cera' , ' whatever will be will be' ' live and let live' 'New Agers ' who were previously just sitting back and 'letting be what will be ' are realizing that in this season,they have to take a little bit more of an affirmative and active stance in order to help change the world for the better .

This is the Age of Aquarius .The dawning of a new day .Lies to be exposed, truths to be revealed and justice to be served. The collective consience is truly being stirred. Some new agers are not used to this concept and this is a rude awakening for many of them.Some ,after being awakened to many of these harsh realities that have been kept clandestine from the population at large ,even feel extreme levels of guilt for' turning a blind eye' to the injustices of others for so long.

Many of the ' New Age ' spiritualists I know have suffered some kind of trauma which caused them in many ways to dissassociate from society ( similar to abused children who develop dissosiative identity disorder to cope with the anger, pain and confusion their abuse leaves them with). Sometimes the fear/ pain of the darkness is just too much for them to handle until theyve healed enough.Then will they realize by conquering that fear and having the courage to fight back, that they have actually taken the first step toward victory in the battle of spiritual warfare.

Some say there has to be negativity in the world because there needs to be balance in the universe and both darkness and light must be present for balance to be acheived ( yin-yang energy). Others are all about combating it outright ( doing more than just trying to balance out the negative energy in the universe by doing positive deeds). But a lot of this is new for many of them. They have no idea the depths of the evil that exist in this universe and the IMBALANCE and abuse of power that goes on in higher realms. And the ones that do realize might be too intimidated to fight or address it.( Again , many , likely due to previous trauma). Doing this would actually increase the positivity and love and light within them and help them to strengthen their spirit to face these dark entities and forces and tackle them head on, thus helping fight the good fight along with the rest of us .

However doing this before its ' proper' timing can be just as detrimental as fearing the fight against evil itself. Let these people get their strength ,courage and wisdom up . And again focus on discussing positive topics for a while if you can unless it's something extremely detrimental to their immediate health of course . Try to honestly understand their perspectives and points of view as well as the reasonings behind them. Be patient, Be nurturing, Be understanding Be the light you want to see 💙💫✨

🙏Christian Passiveness

When addressing Christians ( I myself being one) I get the sense from many of them that their stance is to ' let the Lords will be done' ' let go and let god' , and ' give it to god' etc. Which is a comforting concept when being overwhelmed with circumstances such as stress, general day to day anxiety or a physical illness. But once a relationship with God has reached a level of maturity and acheived enough strength for that person to withstand their own personal battles, it is then they should be ready and willing to step in and help fight the good fight as intercessors for others who cannot or simply refuse to do so.Ofcourse never alone, but with the courage to know that the Holy spirit isnt only BESIDE them ,leading and guiding their words and actions.But also INSIDE of them.

Many say with their mouths they beleive in a higher power but dont express those sentiments through actions. Yes there is only so much a mere mortal can do.But with meditation and prayer ask God/ the Universe just what your role should be to help the healing of our earth in this particularly tumultuous era and season. Realize that you are not alone and have your spiritual brothers and sisters fighting the battle of good vs evil along with you.Realize what an integral peice of the puzzle you are due to your unique God given talents, skills abilities, and experiences. Know that while communing with the Most High Infinite Creator ( through prayer, meditation, song, dance, whathaveyou) you are doing in fact one of the most powerful and effective actions possible to fight the dark and evil forces running rampant in this world. However ask for the discernment on just how much you could and should do in ADDITION to prayer.

Prayer is seen by many as passive and cowardice.( and many scoff at the mention of being in somebodies' thoughts and prayers') however taking the time out of your busy schedule to think of someone and wish well for them while sending them positive energy and reminding them of their value and worth is one of the most effective ways one can show another humanity and compassion.

This however, should preferably be balanced with action. The bible states that ' faith without works is dead' and that we are to be the ' hands and feet ' of Jesus on this earth. What are we doing to edify this concept? Are we sitting back, while this world is going to Hell in a Handbasket? Comfortable in the notion that as a Christian at least we are 'lucky enough to be chosen to spend eternity in heaven' and passively waiting for what many people refer to as Christs second return? Or are we actively out in our neighborhoods, communities and even online reaching out to those left broken and beaten down by the ways of this world as we await? Are we as the book of Exodus advises us to do combating evil by exposing it so that justice can be served? And by that contributing to the freedom of those afflicted by this worlds suppresion?

Yes no matter what the ' Lord's Will will be done'. But dont underestimate the power of 'free will'. The gift God has given us from the beginning of time. We aren't puppets being controlled by strings or mind controlled brainwashed zombies tricked or otherwise manipulated into believing our spiritual beliefs . You make a CHOICE to believe or not to believe them .( At least most of us do, unless we were raised in a Religious cult or suffered some sort of Satanic Ritual Abuse since the day we were born...but that is another blog entry for another day).Dont think of your life as simply a movie you are watching on a screen or play you are seeing on a stage with God acting as the director. Realize that you are the main character and how much of an active role you play in directing your own life as well as influencing and impacting others around you.

During this season of ' Great Awakening,many all over the globe fortunately are coming together, being brought together by a common interest, to fight the good fight in this spiritual battle of GO(O)D vs. (D)EVIL.

No matter our gender, race, nationality, religion or socio-economic status , people are coming together to help spread the great awakening. Knowledge that will be difficult to hear, but once truley understood, cannot only provide healing for us individualy, but as a collective as well.

Bottom line, know the power and authority that lies within you. Acknowledging it while determing to remain passive is the oposite of ' love and light' its actualy continuing to contribute to the pain and darkness that exists in this world. Instead Pray and ask the Most High God/ the Universe what you can do PHYSICALLY to help spread love and light not just ' send' it. Pray and meditate on when and how to begin doing so.Dont let negative energies and dark forces rob you of your desire to help change the world we live in for the better and to realize the power and ability you have to do so.

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