#WE ARE NOT THAT NARCICISTIC

[meinewellemeinstrand]

ngl, Richard is my favorite member but personality wise? People voting for him makes me side-eyes them hard! He'd be last in my choice, too egocentric and narcicistic! I think people are confusing fav member and best personality!

Hello anon, I think this refers to @rammingthestein poll about the guys' personalities. I admit I had to think this through a little bit since, well... There's a lot going on here.

First of all, we don't know any of them, we're all just making hypothesis and assumptions here. So the use of the word narcissistic sounds out of place, that's a strong word to be used about somebody we don't actually know.

Honestly, Richard is my favourite member but I didn't vote for him. This doesn't mean I don't like him and his personality, I actually like it a lot and I relate a lot to him. And you know what I relate to the most? His flaws. Since I feel like the worst traits of my personality match his (I am an egocentric selfish bitch too so I'm going to talk about myself a lot here) I chose as best personality somebody I could easily get along with, and that's Olli who reminds me a lot of my partner. So this was a very personal answer and I still like Richard a lot with all his flaws and he would still be my first choice if I had to spend time with one of them.

Second, I'm sorry but if you're talking like this I feel like Richard is not your favourite member. Maybe I'm wrong here, but if you don't like his personality too, what is your preference based on? If you're talking about favourite member I suppose you don't only like him because he's hot and I hope you at least like him for his talent.

Side-eyeing people who voted for him sounds quite arrogant to me. It's a personal preference and I don't think there's anything bad in it.

#alao aren't egocetric people worthy of love?

[fumikomiyasaki]

Osyron and Lydia dating Headcanons:

Osyron:

-Its pretty hard to read what he genuinely feels, he is a bit narcicistic... try to flirt with him and he would mock you but get him with the right thing and he will look away and leave you be signaling he needs to recover from it, he would never blush at all and in a relationship... he is pretty demanding... but to him its like: “You can be happy a god has chose you so you have to make up for it.

-Which is why also he wouldn’t propose or ask you on a date he would be more like: “You have the allowance to accompany me but you have no choice.” He can have a god complex cause he is one

-This is also why he often comes off as pretty mean when he just doesn’t know the politeness of the people down there

-You never have a chance when you think you can control him cause he won’t let you

-So far his type in what we had in discord was... pretty obnoxious people

Lydia:

-She is much more chill however you have to bring a bit more strength to entertain her

-Is more likely to flirt back but hard to fluster in itself, she always make a sassy or snarky comment instead

-sometimes a bit too open about herself, doesn’t mind spilling dirty secrets about her or emberassing her partner on purpose...

-She was married to Osyron but even then she just casually asked him so don’t expect anything big with her

-Also feels above others but compared to Osyron she gives the little people more credit.

-both her and Osyron will offer their partner godhood... but are happier when they refuse it.

-Lydia is really into strong warriors in general

#twisted wonderland oc #twst oc #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland ocs #twst #disney twst #twistedwonderland #twistedwonderlandoc #twst ocs #crystaleon #osyron lumina #lydia sombra

[busylilbee]

I feel the need to state for the record that I am NOT dating @softlygasping I SWEAR

#yes this is not important and doesnt matter to anyone here #but im like dvskzgsksvsoegs #bc TWO people in our personal lives have questioned it and its like #WE ARE NOT THAT NARCICISTIC #oh my goddd why does every mom think im dating their daughter WHY #WHAT AM I DOING #personal #ive had a slightly stressful day (not really just mild) and just banged my knee so im loopy with brain #and saw a text screenshot where YET ANOTHER important person in nt's life #questioned our status #no we are not dating #but when you meet your name twin and youre both disaster trash cans with little to no shame between you #you just go hog wild #but psa to all moms out there #your daughters internet friend who they talk to alot isnt necessarily the gf #just bc your daughter doesnt have a lot of friends doesnt mean she cant MAKE new FRIENDS #okay done omg #im gonna eat some shumai and drink bye

[sygil-legion-sys]

Of course

caught bio Dad in lies/ trying to gaslight us. He’s on thin fuckin ice.

🌙 Luna

#saved the convo too #we're not stuck around him anymore #no reason to tolerate his bs #he's lucky he's getting the full 3 strikes since we moved #or he'd be gone #2 strikes left till we cut contact entirely #luna #narcissistic parents tw #narcicistic parents #Lu

[watchinglikeafangirl]

Analysis of Shu Yi and Shi De

The second season of We best love is about to start in less than two weeks but until then, I fill the gaps by writing this alysis because I like this show for several reasons. The characters and their chemistry is incredible and the way the show is made is lovely. It is a perfect example of a BL without a forced plot twist and an even more artificial created drama.

I'm not gonna summarize the story here cause I believe you've watched the show already and I just want to say that I write this text after the first season finished and after the special episode came out. Let me tell you, I'm scared what's going to happen next season but I look very forward to it.

Anyway, let's start with the characters and especially Shu Yi. Shu Yi is a short-tempered, impulsive, narcisstic, childish and ambitious person. He snaps as soon as anyone criticizes him or seems to know his reason for action out. It's more like a protection of his emotions like Zheng Wen said: "He looks like he doesn't care much but he always keeps things to himself" which we see when Shu Yi visits Shi De's home for the first time. He is nervous but doesn't admit it ("Why would I be [nervous] if you're not") until Shi De confirms "I'm very nervous". Only then, Shu Yi says "I'm just as nervous as you are", so he's very closeted about his emotions which is also why Shu Yi gets very defensive when Shi De knows why he jumped in the pool and looks a bit surprised that Shi De has figured him out when Shi De says "You don't have to act strong when you are sad." Talking about the scene in the pool, this scene is also a great example for Shu Yi's impulsiveness. He gets sort of friendzoned and is very heartbroken about it. What does he do? He immediately jumps in the pool to die. Why not? Shi De saved him anyway but more to that later. There are many things in which Shu Yi is impulsive and simply demands things or acts like he does whenever he wants to. He asks Shi De to sing him to sleep because he's "used to listening to some music before going to sleep", he tries to get Shi De's phone but this attempt ends rather in an embarassing funny scene than him getting what he wants but the thought came out of the blue and he just goes through with it. Also, he screams at the city how much he likes Shi De which is extremely impulsive and shows how much he lives and feels in the moment. He's a very spontaneous person and so euphoric about his love confession that he just screams at the city. It also shows that he is narcicistic because he simply doesn't care about others. He doesn't even care that Shi De is embaressed because he wants to make it clear and felt like rather screaming at the world than repeating it again, so Shi De will definetely believe him. Shu Yi is childish too which is only shown in the first two episodes when he pulls a few very harmless pranks on Shi De which don't have the wished effect and Shi De is just happy about it because he knows now that Shu Yi sees him which is all he ever wanted. Shu Yi's always playing games and gets very angry when he doesn't win. This behavior comes from his nature being all in, all the time. He's so much invested in the happiness and the kick of adrenalin that he doesn't care about anything else. And of course, he's very ambitious about it. He wants to win against Shi De his whole life. In the flashbacks but also in the present and even after they are together.

Shi De in contrast is a very closed, shy, sensitive and selfless person who likes to overthink every step he takes. Overall, Shi De lives more in his head than in the real world which he says about himself "I feel like I'm still dreaming. I still can't believe you like me" which is why he sort of forgets to tell Shu Yi that he's going to America or at least hasn't figured out a way to do so. Also he is a person who gets shy very easily like in the scene when he first admits his feelings to Shu Yi but Shu Yi's reaction is not the most positive one so Shi De pulls back and says it was a joke. He's sensitive and immediately cries after Shu Yi kisses him on the bridge. Again, showing that he dreamt of this moment for so long that he can't believe it's actually happeneing and he gets all emotional about it. Like Shu Yi did but his tears were there out of a different reason. Shu Yi was overwhelmed by himself, admitting his feelings in such a grand gesture and he was also frustrated because Shi De pulled away. And Shi De cried because he couldn't believe this was happening to him. Like a teenager receiving his first kiss. He's all about befriending Shu Yi and made a whole plan for this but didn't expect Shu Yi to actually fall for him and is not prepared for it, so he pulls away when Shu Yi tries to kiss him. Because he lives so much in his head that he doesn't go through with it. Even after his mom encourages him, he does nothing because he thinks the moment has passed and it would be a waste of energy. But the whole plan before the kiss was rather selfless and now he's supposed to show his feelings and be completely real. The whole time he tried to get closer to Shu Yi in order to become his friend and even offers him advice on how to deal with the heartbreak and all that. He loves Shu Yi so much that he cares most about his happiness and only kisses Shu Yi in the pool so he'd feel worthy of some love. Shu Yi felt like he was dying and never going to receive true love and Shi De just kisses him to safe him and to return the favor. Shu Yi saved him way back when and Shi De loves him since that day. He feels like he has to return the favor and wants to save Shu Yi emotionally too, so he helps him get over a heartbreak and ignores his romantic feelings towards him. This selflessness even gets more shown when they talk about the fact that Shi De likes Shu Yi but Shu Yi doesn't like him back and he just accepts it painfully. Shi De even gives him the advice to not look for a woman because of him but because he truly likes one of them. He is so selfless, he takes the whole resposibility and says "Yes, I like you. But it's none of your business." A very strong statement if you think about how much this must've hurt him. Letting your love go and say that they shouldn't care about your romantic feelings because they can't do anything about it is pretty rough and very sad.

What they both have very much in common is that they are not very much open about how they look on the inside though they hide different things. Shu Yi keeps his emotions to himself but is honest and Shi De keeps his thoughts to himself but shows his emotions.

Their relationship is very special and their friendship develops from zero contact to kissing quickly but still in a realistic way. Shu Yi hates Shi De at first but I still don't think it was real hate, but more to that later. Then he just thinks that Shi De is a mean person, using the video against him and tricking him into becoming his page boy. But in the infirmary and after a few bonding time moments Shu Yi actually calls him "friend" which makes Shi De the happiest person on earth. We all know, the kiss in the infirmary when Shu Yi "was asleep" changed everything for them and Shu Yi says he doesn't want to fall for a man which is interesting because he's not saying "I'm not gay" or stuff like that. In fact the word "gay" is never said in the whole series. He simply says that because he knows it would be easier to live in society when he would be with a woman. Being with a man would cause some problems with very unkind people and would affect everything in his life. It's an interesting and totally comprehensible thought and distances We best love very much from the often used "I'm not gay"-conflict because none of them tries to put a label on the relationship and I totally admire this show for that. It's refreshing and shows exactly that love is about the feelings and nothing else. Shi De's mom says something very nice about it: "If you feel satisfaction when you look at him, then you've found the right person." ... Anyway, after Shu Yi says that, Shi De decides to leave his life but Shu Yi is angry at him. He sees Shi De's feelings as his business because he himself developed some for Shi De. And then we get the scene on the bridge which every fan is dying for. Again, underlining that love is about the feelings when Shu Yi says "Because it's you. I have no choice."

The aspect Shu Yi accepts to become Shi De's page boy shows how much he depends on Shi De. Even if he doesn't see it, he does. Like Yu Xin says, Shi De has been there his whole life to always save him from difficult situations and he is curious about him. Shi De follows him everywhere and I think Shu Yi just wants to know why. His whole ambition depends on Shi De which is why he never wins against him. He could if he really wanted to. But Shi De is his motivation. A person who is always better that you can be very frustrating but when you're at the top, you won't feel like you have a goal worth fighting for. So, Shu Yi wants to figure Shi De out and that's why he accepts the job. Because he doesn't need a job. We've all seen, Shu Yi is very rich. He doesn't need money and it's not like he cares much about others. So, the only explaination is that he wants to get to know Shi De (because Shi De would've never released the video) and the hatred from the beginning wasn't really one. In fact I think Shu Yi never hated Shi De. Shi De is too nice of a person to be hated and even Shu Yi is not that cold. He hated that Shi De was better than him but doesn't hate him as a person because he relies on him in everything.

What I ask myself is if Shi De has a emotional disorder too or why is he acting so strange? First, he falls for a kid that showed slight concearn towards him. Secondly, he decides to beat this kid in every discipline just to be noticed. And he keeps going on like this for more that ten years. Thirdly, he maipulates Shu Yi to become his friend. He would even break a couple off and take advantage of it (I don't belive he was joking when he said that). Or maybe he's just very socially awkward but it seems a bit weird and he lived in a fantasy for most of his life. A fantasy that could've easily become reality if he would've just talked to Shu Yi instead of making him angry and hating him. What was Shu Yi supposed to think? How would he ever realise Shi De likes him? And the way he tricked Shu Yi into becoming his page boy was so cheeky. Filming someone during a heartbreak just to have a reason to spend time with him is a bit odd and I think Shi De enjoys himself a bit too much sometimes. He does this move with basically blackmailing Shu Yi in such a sassy way and turns into the bastard Shu Yi thinks he is, it's very funny but not socially smart. Shi De is such a weirdo that I ask myself if he has an emotional disorder or he is just very, yeah, weird.

This whole show seems like Shu Yi is the protagonist but they just tricked us into believing that. Shi De is the real protagonist and Shu Yi is just portrayed in his perspective. I mean, they both are the main roles but it's more about Shu Yi from Shi De's point of view. That's why there aren't as many examples for the bad sides of Shu Yi because Shi De thinks "he's just cute". It all starts with Shi De's voice talking and then Shu Yi gets introduced. But the first scene we see Shu Yi is a scene in which Shi De is also seen. And Shi De's mom gets introduced at some point. We don't know Shu Yi's dad. We only know him from one scene and this scene seems to be important because it's the moment Shu Yi's dad comes to the picture. Shi De never knew him before, but now he does and we see him. And the special episode underlines this even more because even if Shu Yi is in the wrong when he saw Shi De sitting there with a baby in his arms, we never get the feeling that Shu Yi is in the wrong. Shi De is always blaming himself and only sees the mistake on his side. He apologizes to Shu Yi several times and thinks he did something very wrong. I mean, he broke his promise but what I want to focus on is that Shu Yi is never portrayed as wrong. Even though he misjudged the whole situation, Shi De thinks him being mad is his fault.

We best love is really good because of the acting, the story and the characters. It all makes it a masterpiece with special feelings. Like I said, there's no drama in the usual way. Shu Yi overhears Shi De is going to America but he doesn't go away in silence and is mad at Shi De who wouldn't know what happened. No, he stops hiding and instantly asks him like normal people in a healthy relationship would do as well. Who is mad at their partner without telling them why? That's not how relationships work and that's also not how this show works. It's a big pluspoint for me because I'm sick of all the senseless drama to fill another two episodes. Every movie or series is like that and I'm relieved We best love is not. Also, the non-existence of the inner conflict and homophobia is nice to see. I mean, of course, many people have problems with outing themselves because of their environment or they struggle with admitting it to themselves and that's very much okay. And it's good that shows address these problems but not every environment is homophobic and not everyone has the struggle of self-acceptance. It was nice to watch a show that has none of these conflicts and made their love seem rather normal than something out of the ordinary.

I'm waiting for the second season and I hope they will figure everything out and be completely honest with each other because they still keep a lot to themselves.

#we best love #we best love: no 1 for you #we best love: fighting mr. 2nd #shu yi #shi de #shi de x shu yi

[wellthatwasaletdown]

Also remember that time someone who worked with Harry said that he kept a list of people who said no to him//

i heard these claims about so many narcicistic celebrities and they didn't even deny it. we need to realize that he isn't an artist, he is just a celebrity. he will do anything to be richer and more famous. he was always like that, "being artist" is an aesthetic and marketing technique for him.

👆🏻

[pyrodarknessanny]

Whilst the topic of treating women with  respect is a hot button issue at the moment it got me thinking about my own experiences in life. and whilst I can say that I am one of the lucky ones who’s not been assaulted   things have happened around me that  had they gone differently  my story would be very different indeed. it also saddens me  that I know so many close friends and family who were not so lucky , many of them were children when they were first abused. and yes I do know  “not all men”   but   as the brothers , fathers , uncles , cousins ,friends and co-workers  the weight of this falls on you to call out  the  unacceptable behaviour of your peers. I’m going to list this instances in chronological order. and keep in mind that  I am a  goblin , short, weird , don’t care for looking nice and makeup and such  but still  ive been put on the spot numerus times in the past by  “nice guys”™ high school , senior years .   met some one I thought was decent online . we had an on again off again  video call thing going it spanned years  and started innocently enough  however in the latter years  when I was super depressed it turned quite toxic and manipulative   where he would refuse to   pay attention to me, controlling the calls , there was a time zone difference  so I was up till 4am most nights  hoping that this person would be around.    When we did get into calls  he had me doing  increasingly  dangerous things .   he’d even convinced me to  send him a  substantial amount of money of the last 12 months of our contact.          I’ve since cut them off  cold some years ago now but   they’ve certainly had an impact on me

 In between this on again off again online thing   when I was single I’ve and no less than 3   older male friends  try to hit me up because their  partners at the time were out of town. one even messaged me one night when I was high and tried very hard to convince me that it would be a good idea to drop round.       I don’t talk to any of them now but  each one I told to stay faithful to their partners and denied their offers.    

Also in high school - this happened at my  part time job. boss had a mate who would often sell him stuff for the store ,  bit of a flipper. one of the other senior staff thought it was FUNNY  to tell him that  I was fair game. so this guy who is well in his 40’s   would seek me out at work and harass me. usually when I was at the back of the shop bagging the bulk produce into smaller retail portions. mind you I’m  an 18 yr old autistic person .  had to find excuses to  avoid this person   make it look like im working  in the areas that had security cameras on them or   hope that there were customers so he couldn’t  talk to me.       I had spoken out about this  to the boss and  the owner of the business ( as it was one of his friends)   but they  all thought it was a harmless game. guy bailed me up at the back of the store one afternoon as im bagging  up animal feed.  Store was dead quiet  so not a lot of escape options   I had had enough of it by that point  and put him in his place.   Fortunately  for me he was a little old Asian man  had he of been some one of my dad’s stature  that scenario would have played out MUCH differently.  

Hey now speaking of family! growing up in an abusive household sure dose   wounders for building character huh? im on good talking terms with my family now but growing up  was interesting.

Our house hold was one of hard disciplines.  We didn’t just get smacked we got absolutely belted.

Or our things were broken… actually it was only ever MY things that got trashed out of discipline. my 4 brothers always got off Scott free. Whenever there was a fight or argument ? it was always me that was in trouble  regardless of the circumstance.

Good lessons to teach the kids eh’

My real dad  was off the sceen,  we were more or less raised by our step dad but   when he got an upper management job at his place of work , shit at home  got  bad.    The abuse turned from physical   to psychological .     nothing was ever good enough.   You were always trash  or a disgrace. and praise was only ever given to  the brothers.          So  yeah more good lessons  for  impressionable teens.   shitty ex #1 -  met them at a convention , seamed like a reasonable kind of guy we hit it off and it was great.    Very quickly realised something was off about them. tried very hard to control me .  would say one thing and then do something else entirely. caught them out on numerous lies and on more than one occasion said some very concerning things about minors.       Moments that stand out the most .   was staying at my place for a party , either a birthday or Halloween .   at my house with my family and close friends , had the gall to try and control my behaviour  because  he thought I was being too weird , he did this in front of my mother and best friend.     Another time , it was my birthday and he promised  to buy dinner out . started out as  we would go to this fancy casino restaurant .    ended at a Mc Donald’s with me catching the train home by my self  fuming.     I should have ended that one much sooner than I did but I didn’t want to come across as “mean” or unreasonable  so it let it drag out for another 6 months before I told him to fuck off.

 Dude then proceeded to cyber stalk me and  several friends there after. he was super bad at this and  finaly backed off when I threatened to call the cops. YEET!

 Shitty ex #2 -  technically we only dated for a few weeks decided that it didn’t work for either of us but stayed good friends .        had to tell them  frequently  about what things were and weren’t appropriate  for the friendship afterwards ,    eneded turning into one of the biggest narcicists ive ever seen.

 Miscellaneous things.   Im mentioned before about peer pressure and that its on the boys to call this shit out when they see it. I’ve had  to be the voice of reason for a number of male friends   when they were getting  a bit too obsessed over  girls who had zero interest in them.        One guy in particular  could not leave it alone  , this girl he was white knighting for    was a friend from school , she had a partner but he  swore black and blue that   he could “save her”  from making shitty decisions.     I think he eventually gave up on her when she ripped him off over some digital art that was a trace job and he lost  a good sum of money but   it was disturbing to hear just how obsessed he was with  her.

[one-abuse-survivor]

#1 thing i hate about trying to talk about my abuse is the ableism. people acting like i deserved it because im autistic/adhd/chronically ill. people acting like the reason my dad abused me is because "Thats whats narcisissts do" (we dont even know if hes a narcicist btw) just fucking throwing vulnerable people under the bus because they want their to be some reason to hurt a child, completely unable to accept that some people are just horrible because they like it. im so tired of the ableism...

This sounds really exhausting, nonnie. I’m sorry you have to deal with these comments :/ I too hate the way people throw vulnerable people under the bus so they can find reasons why someone would become an abuser. I wish they’d understand that anyone can be an abuser and that no one has to be an abuser.

Sending a huge hug ❤

#ask #vent #abuse #abuse tw #victim blaming #ableism #ableism tw #abusive father #NPD stigma #Anonymous

[processingabuse]

I feel like I need to talk to more people who have experienced what it's like to live in constant fear. Trying to describe this to people is so hard to do, because it's like "so you never had even a second of happiness or relief? That sounds hyperbolic." Of course some good things happened to me over the last twenty years and I'm not trying to minimize that, but I was always at least a little bit afraid because my life was not my own. I don't know how to explain that to people who have known me for a long time. Fear is not even a word I would have used to describe what I was feeling, I wouldn't have thought to myself "I need to accept that I must live in fear", for me it was just what life was like. I didn't have a choice. I honest to God didn't know that the control and the constant screaming were not normal or ok, if anything we were the best family and anyone who did things differently was not doing it right (yes I actually thought this, my parents excelled at isolating me and brought me into their narcicistic delusions). I would really appreciate it if anyone who relates to this messages me (only if you're comfortable of course) because it is so hard to explain.

#trauma #traumatized #gaslighting #parent abuse #emotional abuse #child abuse #abuse #narcissistic abuse #cptsdhealing #living with cptsd #just cptsd things #cptsd thoughts #cptsd #cptsd tag #tw cptsd #cptsd vent #cptsdrecovery

[scrapyardboyfriends]

Yes, I agree with you. We all need less anxiety in our lives - and voting Trump out would be one way to do it. He's a narcicistic nuisance with too much money. This is 2020s big chance to pay us pack for the pandemic.

Hey at least this ask aged well! Go us!

#jenny answers old asks

[12thhouseangell]

How would your bf hurt you before you were together? And how exactly did you manifest him changing?

Well before we were together he was what many women know as a fuck boy. He was very narcicistic and living through his ego. He was partying a lot, drug dealing, doing drugs and drinking every day and sleeping and hitting on every woman in sight.

He would express true emotions to me, fuck me and then never make any attempt to contact me or see me and then hit on other women infront of me after expressing these feelings. He would show me his true self and others his ego. I saw past his mask and that made him really nervous. He wasn’t ready for love and it made him uncomfortable.

This went on for many years. I was naive and In love and did not have standards. But I was very forgiving, too forgiving lol!

So in 2016 he decided to move to Australia and I was like okay - I can finally let him go and heal. I can finally work on myself. I thought I would never see him honestly.

So when I started stripping, making money, moved into my own place and making moves - he hit me up and we decided to meet up after not seeing each other for a year or so. He was going through a lot at the time and was experiencing a huge ego death. It was his time. I had prayed for it for years and it was happening. He went through major depression, lost a lot of weight, wasn’t eating. It was really intense.

But he’s come out of it as a totally new person. He isn’t afraid to open his heart and is now mature and sober.

I had prayed for years for him to come into his heart space and it happened when I let go of control and focused on myself xx

[maphatingcharacteroftheday]

If we collectively reported shadman out of here can we report Onision away from here too? (I think this time minors can since there doesn’t seem to be porn as of now just narcicistic posts, but they don’t have to)

It's worth a shot!

#mod gemini #asks

[raram3n]

(via https://open.spotify.com/track/3peHeqaa3c0bDIA3whCWR0?si=s0_zN66mTWOrVec1dHOulQ)

You can spread all the lies about me lol. We all know the truth is you’re a narcicistic asshole. 

[nymph1e]

Maybe there should be a fixed time limit on how long political parties are allowed to exist? Like the party can only stay formed for twenty years, after that the name can no longer be used and no more then half of the previous members of the party can form up together in a new one. I think that would stop people from just voting one way because their entire family has voted that way for generations and so we might actually end up getting real people in power instead of just narcicists with their pockets lined with bribes like always.

#politics #auspol #australian politics #i dont wanna vote tomorrow t_t #it requires me to leave the house early on a saturday #and my electorate is so far up labours arse that my vote will count for jack shit

[kendrixtermina]

SU’s true villain

Despite its cute, feelsy and  magicky aesthetic, SU  actually strikes me as very smart Sci Fi at times - 

The aliens are kinda humanoid but also really aren’t in a lot of ways, it’s the first time I’ve seen a disparity between their biology and the society built around it much like we have, at one point Steven happens upon a war crime scene but because h’s used to human stuff doesn’t realize what it is whilst Garnet is reacting with visceral horror etc. 

Like the common belief among the “crit” community seems to be that the show is naive and bit off more than it could chew, but that’s not it at all.

Actually I feels its doing something very intellectual, sophisticated and ambitious that I’ve never seen another show do to this extent - The true villain of Steven universe is the system.

Much of Sci-Fi and Punk is very system-critical, but usually the way it goes about it is either to still use a personal villain who can be beaten and conflicted wth to embody society - or, “society is to blame” just gets thrown out as the final aesop for the viewers, an observation why the personal villain was tragic - it feels like this greater scope background thing that isn’t gonna change anytime soon. 

But Steven Universe? Actually shows the changing of a system with all its components. He’s been fighting the system from day one, first by growing up from a child that is barely aware of it to being in a position to understand it, by helping the CGs deprogram themselves from its influence and heal from the losses of the war, by winning others to his side and helping gems like the off-colors to unify, and now a logical step is to try & get some of the leaders on his side

That’s also why I do’t think that White diamond will finally get the “This one is definitely unredeemably awful” treatment - but she’ll be a harder nut to crack since she probably created the system and believes it is necessary (unlike Yellow and Blue who were just raised with it)

Beating a personal enemy is very cathartic, but it’s not really how the world works. Take away George Bush, and the far right nuts still continued to get worse.  Also IRL you don’t always get that catharsis either because people get away with shit, or because they’re so narcicistic they’ll always twist the facts so your to blame and they arent

No, things won’t be solved by killing one person and certainly not by mudering everybody who disagrees

In the real world you need to live with your enemies after the war, unless you plan on killing them all, and then the question is less “What do these bastards deserve” but what will create a stable society so all your gains actually last and solidify. It’s not that “you will be as bad as them who opressed you”, it’s that you’re doing this to build a better world and your actions impact what it’s going to be like. 

Rome wasn’t built in a day but it burned down in a single night - civilization is fragile and it takes time and work to restore. The controlled, deliberate change of reform always beats the chaos of revolution with the associated risk of even worse rulers taking over..

Like watch some ted talks guys, the power of friendship changing evil people is totally legit, and pointing that out through someone willing to give time to that because thats how they chose to help fix the world do that is NOT the same as telling you people who wronged you are owed your time and attention. 

I mean due to his mom, Steven’s approaching the Diamonds from an in-group perspective, so that’s more like a younger, woke-er person talking sense into their older relatives who didn’t really quuestion society before. 

A lot of your classical sheeple are all about appearance, so being looked down at by their peers can make them fall in line. 

#steven universe #su

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Major PSA Some of Y'all Obviously Weren't Taught

BULLYING IS BULLYING NO MATTER HOW MANY EXCUSES YOU TRY TO USE TO VALIDATE YOUR BULLYING. IF YOU FEEL AS THOUGH BULLYING SOMEONE IS THE ONLY WAY TO GET WHAT YOU WANT FROM THEM THEN YOU NOT ONLY HAVE SEVERE POWER AND CONTROL ISSUES, BUT YOU ARE ALSO MANIPULATIVE AND A FUCKING CRUEL INDIVIDUAL.

NO, JUST BECAUSE YOU WOULDN'T BE HURT BY IT DOESN'T MEAN OTHER PEOPLES FEELINGS ARE INVALID

I JUST SAW A VIDEO OF AN INTERRACIAL COUPLE DANCING. The woman was a bit stiff, but was enjoying the company of the man who was attractive and fully capable of dancing. NEARLY ALL OF THE COMMENTS WERE MAKING FUN OF HER FOR BEING STIFF OR MAKING HARMFUL COMMENTS ABOUT THE WOMANS WAIST, HOW SHE DIDN'T DESERVE TO BE WITH THAT MAN. HOW "IT LOOKS LIKE TAX SEASON".

YES BELIEVING THAT WOMAN DOESN'T NEED TO BE WITH HIM BECAUSE YOU ARE "A BETTER FIT" AND "KNOW HOW TO HANDLE HIM" IS BULLYING, SELFISH AND NARCICISTIC AF. YES, MAKING JOKES ABOUT HOW SHE DANCES, OR DOESN'T DANCE, IS FUCKING BULLYING. AS LONG AS THEY ARE HAPPY IT'S NO ONES FUCKING BUSINESS. AND AN ENTIRE COMMENT SECTION OF 100+ BULLIES COULD CAUSE SEVERE MENTAL DAMAGE TO ANYBODY, INCLUDING YOUR FUCKING SELF.

I THEN SEEN A POST OF A PERSON TRYING TO OUT A MAN AS HOMOESEXUAL BECAUSE HE WAS POSTING UP WITH A GIRL AND DENYING HE WAS HOMOESEXUAL. HAVE WE LOST OUR FUCKING MARBELS SO MUCH SO THAT OUR SUSPICIONS COME BEFORE THE PERSONS ENTIRE LIFE???? HAVE WE REALLY ALLOWED PEOPLE TO VALIDATE OUTING SOMEONE WHO MAY OR MAY NOT BE HOMOSEXUAL JUST BECAUSE THEIR SUSPICION TRUMPS THE SAFETY OF THE INDIVIDUAL BEING QUESTIONED??? NO BODY OWES YOUR THEIR FUCKING SEXUALITY, NOR DO THEY OWE YOU AN EXPLANATION FOR WHY THEY ARE SEXUAL. AND THEY ARE NOT HOMOPHOBIC FOR NOT BEING OUT OF THE CLOSET, MOTHER FUCKER. YOU ARE HOMOEPHOBIC AF FOR THINKING THE BEST ROUTE OF ACTION TO OUT SOMEONES SEXUALITY ASSUMING THEY WILL STILL GO HOME SAFE AT THE END OF THE NIGHT SHOULD THEIR FAMILY FIND OUT.

POPULAR POSTERS ON HERE STRAIGHT UP NEGLECTING OTHER PEOPLES EMOTIONS AND CONSIDERING THEM INVALID WITHOUT EVEN EXPLAINING PERSPECTIVE AND SUCH. WHEN SOMEONE COMES TO YOU OUT OF, "Hey, I really feel this way and wanted to talk to someone about it...can you talk to me about it? I want to understand. Please ignore this if you aren't comfortable talking about it." AND YOUR KNEE JERK REACTION IS TO STRIAGHT UP INSULT THEM FOR COMING TO YOU AT ALL, RATHER THAN GUIDING THEM IN A PROPER CONVERSATION WHEN THEY ARE TRYING TO UNDERSTAND AND LEARN, THEN YOU ARE A FUCKING BULLY AND WILL PUSH PEOPLE AWAY FROM TRYING TO GROW BECAUSE YOU APPROACHED IT IN A FUCKED UP MANNER.

NO, YOUR TRAUMAS DO NOT GIVE YOU THE FUCKING RIGHT TO INTENTIONALLY BULLY OR HURT SOMEONE, EXPECIALLY IF THEY WERE NOT THE REASON YOU GOT FUCKING HURT. NO, MAKING OUTING POSTS DOES NOT MAKE YOUR MORALITY SUPERIOR JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE HURT YOUR FEELINGS. NO, TALKING SHIT ABOUT PEOPLE AND CONVINCING PEOPLE TO STAY AWAY FROM THEM WHEN THEY CANNOT REPLY TO YOU IS NOT HEALTHY, IT'S SOCIALLY ABUSIVE, AND IS NOT OKAY. NO, YOU CANNOT PUSH BLAME ONTO OTHERS FOR YOUR OWN REACTIONS TO SITUATIONS. YOU MAY ONLY BLAME PEOPLE FOR THE ACTIONS THEY CHOOSE TO TAKE. AND NO, BEING A BULLY AT ANY CAPACITY IS NOT A FUCKING FLEX, NOR IS IT FUNNY.

IT'S LITERALLY THE REASON PEOPLE KILL THEMSELVES, YOU UNDERSTAND? WITHIN A 30 MINUTE TIMESPAN, I HAVE SEEN VASTLY POPULAR MEME ACCOUNTS STRAIGHT UP TURN TO BULLYING WHEN THEY HAVE ZERO FUNNY SHIT TO ACTUALLY SAY. AND THEN THEIR FOLLOWERS BLINDLY BULLY BEHIND THEM AS IF THE PERSON ON THE SCREEN ISN'T A REAL PERSON. AS IF THEIR LAUGHTER IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE PERSON THEY HURT.

DON'T BE A FUCKING BULLY. THERE ARE WAYS TO COMMUNICATE THINGS TO PEOPLE. THERE ARE WAYS TO BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING TO SOMEONE WHO MAKES A MISTAKE AND IS SIMPLY WANTING TO GROW FROM IT. THERE ARE WAYS YOU CAN MOVE ON AND BE MUCH HAPPIER WITH YOUR LIFE BY NOT BEING SUCH A DICK TO OTHER PEOPLE.

IF YOU DON'T LEARN WHEN PEOPLE ARE BEING DICK'S OR ASSHOLES, THEN DON'T BE THE THING YOU DESPISE.