#WE aren’t okay

[ewwww-what]

friendship so strong it grants you a sixth level spell slot. I have words to say.

#you aren’t always supposed to handle doubt alone. #even if you aren’t afraid of the dark it’s easier to navigate with someone holding your hand #Kristen said ​‘I just love my friends. I love my friends so much.’ #and Fig said ‘maybe I’m not an artist. maybe I’m just a really good friend.’ #and everyone in the world wanted me to be okay and normal about it #queerplatonic love comes in so many forms and this is one of them #fig and Kristen. fig and Kristen. fig. Kristen. #also also #I’ve been so emotional about the fact that all of the bad kids care so deeply about Cassandra despite not worshiping her #‘​I believe in Cassandra because I’ve seen her!’ like they have come eye to eye with a goddess and chose the mutual friends route #god I love it so much #also nonbinary fig believers how are we feeling tonight #fantasy high #d20 #d20 fantasy high #d20 fanart #fh #fantasy high fanart #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #d20 fhjy #fig faeth #fig fantasy high #kristen applebees #kristen fantasy high #faebees #queerplatonic #that’s important to me. that is an important part of this. #undescribed #my art

[resiliencewithin]

Sometimes you’ve just have to feel down.

You don’t always have to fix it. You can’t always fix it/change it/lighten it. Sometimes that’s just the way you gotta feel.

And that’s okay.

Doesn’t mean you can’t try. But, at a certain point, acceptance is better than beating your head against the brick wall of uncomfortable, unmovable feelings. When you reach that point, you’re just piling on new ones.

Let it be.

#mental health #mental illness #I’m sick #my mind does not want to accept this #it is not okay with everything we’re missing out on #everything we’re not doing #all the positive things we’re not feeling #brain! #we #are #sick #can we just chill about it #we are not going to feel good mentally or physically right now #we just aren’t

[mossy-paws]

Coroika Splatoon but it’s PHIGHTING! Roblox

Hi to my Coroika and phighting fans so how are we feeling about this one

cooked these up in a few hours! These honestly didn’t really take that long at all and were really fun to do since I got to play around with some charcoal brushes (I love doing everything in my power to NOT use midtones lmfao).

I tired to mimic the style of the manga a bit and I think i did relatively okay! I have a lot more of these planned so yeah >:3! Really excited to get to do them sometime

Og Panels:

#Coroika is so silly #I love it so much #“I’m tired of straight manning!” - okay there broker stfu we know you aren’t /ref #I’m so great at subtly hinting about what I’m gonna do next guys oh my god #Also I promise I’ll be doing mermaid au stuff soon :3! My motivation has been pretty down plus I’ve been pretty busy so these were just kin #Of a stress reliever for me lol #Plus the mermaid pieces usually take like. 8-11 hours a pop and I don’t like to do pieces in more then 2 sittings so. #Yea. #not really the HEALTHIEST of drawings to make for me but oh well they’re still fun :3 #Anyways tag time #art #artists on tumblr #phighting! #phighting fanart #digital art #roblox phighting #phighting #phighting roblox #phighting art #roblox #phighting subspace #subspace phighting #subspace #phighting! roblox #phighting! subspace #phighting! art #phighting banhammer #slingshot #slingshot phighting #banhammer phighting

[rachgreenes]

I cannot express how happy it makes me that Jenna feels comfortable enough to share her wedding pictures with us. She was so sad and so devastated when she left and she wanted (and needed) so much space and time away from the internet and everyone on it, and while I still miss her, it’s so nice to know that she is okay with us seeing her again from time to time, and she’s okay with letting us know how things are going. I love two best friends who are married and their dog farm <3

#🥺🥺🥺 #jenna marbles #before anyone comes @ me I knowww we aren’t entitled to shit. and that’s okay !!! #it’s just nice to know she is feeling better and more confident again. that’s all :^)

[jamietarttsdaddyissues]

Okay I’m going to say this and I’m going to say this once.

I do not like how the relationship with Jamie’s father was handled in season 3.

If they wanted to go the route of forgiveness they absolutely could have. If they wanted to go the route of his dad going to rehab they absolutely could have. Those are not inherently wrong or bad. It’s a show about forgiveness and I get that. It’s a comedy and Jamie is not the main character - I get that too.

My issue is this: the show went out of its way on multiple occasions to show just how violent and abusive James is. Just to give a few examples:

Repeated physical abuse

Repeated verbal abuse

Planning, funding, and likely pressuring the sexual abuse of his 14 year old son (a minor and below the age of consent in both The Netherlands and the UK regardless of the age of the girl in the red light district)

The willingness to beat Coach Beard (basically a stranger to him) with a metal pipe in a 3 to 1 fight in a back alley which could have realistically resulted in his death (and calling Beard “son” right before the final blow)

Jamie literally gave up his dream - a job as a professional footballer on a top hometown team - to leave the country on a trashy reality show just to get away from his father. The show traced a large portion of Jamie’s issues back to his relationship with his father. Not all of course - but that was a big theme of his growth and development.

So even if we entertain the notion that this stint in rehab was successful and James is sober - that’s great. That’s a storyline I wouldn’t mind hearing - IF we had the appropriate time to show it. But the thing is, we didn’t. This season was disjointed and rushed in many ways - and I’m not complaining - I still loved it. But if they’re going to tackle a topic this serious, they need to do it right. They need to be clear that alcohol was not the only problem James had and that sobriety does not absolve you of accountability. As important as it is to portray the message that all human beings can change, including addicts, it is equally as important to show the serious work that addicts in recovery put in to address the hurt that they caused through their addiction. It is not easy work to battle addiction and to mend relationships - sometimes part of recovery is accepting that you can’t mend things with everyone you’ve hurt and that is the right of the victim to decide how they feel.

We were shown none of this. What we got instead was:

A speech from Jamie’s mom about how he is still amazing despite his dad while still somehow crediting Jamie’s talent to his dad’s abuse

Ted telling Jamie to forgive his dad as he’s mid-panic about his safety and his dad’s location

Ted making a point to say the forgiveness was for Jamie’s sake, not for James - which was ALMOST good until they ruined it

Denbo and Bug suddenly supportive despite being just as violent as James in 2x09

James suddenly in rehab for 0.2 seconds

Jamie reaching out to his dad via text despite having no idea his dad is in rehab - something that is realistically compromising his physical and emotional safety

A quick clip of Jamie bonding with his father before the season/series ends for good

The reason I connected with Jamie so intensely from season 1 was the shared experience of abuse from my father. I want to be clear that I know I’m projecting - that’s what fandom is - and I in no way expected the show to end exactly as I wanted. However, this is what I would have liked to see as 1) an abuse survivor 2) a licensed therapist and 3) a person:

The message that you can heal without forgiving those who hurt you OR that you can forgive them and still not allow them back into your life (ESPECIALLY if it compromises your safety)

The message that sometimes people don’t change for the better and you can grieve that relationship while still fostering healthier ones elsewhere.

An emphasis on support systems and chosen family when someone doesn’t have the reality of a parent or partner getting better (we saw this with Bex seeking out Rebecca and Rupert’s assistant)

Instead of Man City suddenly cheering for Jamie, which felt insanely unrealistic, having the cheers of Richmond fans drown out the boos and verbal assaults of the Man City crowd - further emphasizing that despite the pain he has attached to Man City and his father, he has a home with Richmond.

So to wrap up this very long rant, I feel very disheartened by this part of the season. I still love Ted Lasso and always will - there were so many parts of this season I absolutely adored and wouldn’t trade for anything - but I feel that they dropped the ball on this one. Most people don’t get to repair relationships with abusive parents. Is it possible? Of course. Is it important to depict that it can happen? Absolutely. It’s a show about forgiveness. But they didn’t need to do it like this for Jamie’s storyline. They could have kept the speech about forgiving James for Jamie’s sake and deleted all of the rehab/texting afterwards. I still wouldn’t have been thrilled but it would have made more sense to me in context of the show. And it would have meant a lot more to me as someone who’s father is unlikely to ever stop being a risk to my safety.

This just felt bad. Jamie Tartt had one of the best arcs I’ve ever seen in media and he deserved better than that.

#ted lasso spoilers #jamie tartt #James Tartt #anyway #you don’t have to agree with me on this #this is just my take #clearly I’m personally triggered a bit by it lol #I’m not looking to argue or anything just needed to vent #a lot of things felt off this season and I know there’s a lot of behind the scenes reasons for that #some we’re aware of and some we aren’t #but this is one of the ones that hurt #I have a few others too but since this is a Jamie blog I’m just posting about the Jamie ones #don’t even get me started on Sam being told to forgive the people who committed a hate crime at his restaurant #and no further acknowledgement of that trauma and safety issue #and no explanation of how he got onto the Nigerian team with Edwin Akufo actively sabotaging him #okay I promise I’m actually done now #long post

[legendrarry]

Ohh don’t mind him, he's just having a gay panic while also looking damn fine!~

#messy Draco doodle becuase I can't sleep #I just can't get enough of him okay?!? #yes he is simping over Harry Potters ass but aren’t we all?? #draco malfoy #drarry art #drarry #draco art #harry potter #my art!

[fluffyballme]

i feel like… a lot of you forgets that book magnus is taller than alec….. and that information does something for me…….

#im not okay #im thinking about this too much #like??? hello??? #why aren’t we talking about this more???? #malec #malec fanart #magnus x alec #magnus bane #alec lightwood #shadowhunters #malec as parents #alexander lightwood

[zahri-melitor]

Also while I'm sharing new 52 discoveries that have surprised me it's definitely the 'Jason Todd can shoot people in the knees during n52 and that's considered to be a reasonable compromise by the characters in that comic that Follows The Rule' discovery.

I thought. That was a JOKE. And now I have had to read multiple writers using it with my own eyes.

It's not like DC Comics have ever had a plotline about the disability and effects of knee injuries, particularly being shot in the knee, to the point that it's used as part of the justification for Bart Allen's change in costume from Impulse to Kid Flash oh wait

Maybe it's just the part of me whose work involves reading many many medical reports about various knee injuries, but you do realise these are long term, lifetime problems? and that knee replacements have about a 20 year lifespan before they need replacing again? And that every replacement they have to cut away more bone? And how much knee replacements cost?

Because you know, I mostly work with cases that are just long term osteoarthritis or meniscal or ligament tears, but I'm shuddering thinking of how much extra fun you could have with a whole bullet shattering bone in there on top of tendons needing repairs...

#z canon read throughs #I know comics aren’t real #but putting actual holes in people feels to me like the Wrong Compromise #why are we compromising that guns are okay at all? #in the books about the man with very specific gun trauma?

[somebluemelodies]

i can’t believe that was the FIRST tape like you’re telling me there’s gonna be MORE ????

#this poor cubito is getting experimented on and we’re gonna be seeing all of it aren’t we #GODDDDDD #i am severely not okay rn #qsmp roier #qsmp

[desperatehoney]

We need more forcemasc content that doesn’t involve hormones

#forcemasc #plllsssss #so much of it is this and it’s okay but we need some more diversity for those of us who aren’t taking hormones

[god-u]

people on twitter are being real weird about chance.. that man is dead so idk what the point in some of those posts are now. if anything i’m really keeping his family in my thoughts. it’s crazy seeing anyone my age go out like that and i’ve lost family the same way. i’ve lost friends from shootings and more. it’s okay for people to feel shock about something like this. you aren’t better than anyone for saying you don’t care because he was *insert -phobic* when you probably have family who disregard your own identity for the same reason but you’d still cry if some shit like this happened to them because of the little good you experienced with them even if the bad outweighed it

#many of whom are still supporting artists who let their music and movies play in israel or constantly listen to abusers #so it’s okay when YOU separate the art from the artist but if you don’t like them then everyone has to hear it?? #saying this as someone who is trans and clearly affected by racism and misogyny #things chance was dumb enough to support before being exposed #if you don’t care just don’t say anything #but you really aren’t as moral as you think you are #if my mom passed of course i’d cry despite being subjected to her abuse growing up and her still denying my identity #that man was not an abuser even if he was shit in other ways as far as i know #it’s easy to keep quiet and literally just say nothing #you can acknowledge both things or simply not speak at all #it’s not hard but we also aren’t going to dismiss the fact that he had terrible beliefs #chance perdomo

[dejwrld]

*invisible ink* the black reader community will never feel like a community again compared to how it felt during the summer of 2021.

#majority of discourse could be solved privately #and if you guys don’t come to an agreement just block each other #and don’t talk about it again #a lot of writers on here want an audience #they thrive off getting attention from tumblr drama #like all of us aren’t going to get along #and that’s okay #we do not have to be koombayahing all the time just because we all writer black reader stuff

[straight-to-the-pain]

Genuinely don’t mean this as any sort of callout post but it’s interesting to me how there’s been a trend in newer (?) whump blogs putting really long disclaimers in their bios and pinned posts, saying that they don’t condone violence, that they aren’t responsible for other people’s actions, that they know it’s bad and it’s just fiction.

It’s honestly making me wonder how much purity culture has seeped into the fabric of even the Whump community, that people feel the need to explicitly state what I would have accepted as an easily presumed given. When did we get to a point where we have to preface any conversation by stating that we don’t condone irl violence, lest someone accuse us of immorality?

#whump community #whump meta #I’m not like saying this to disparage anyone who has done that #because I get that everyone is scared of the purity police #but like this is definitely something that keeps cropping up more and more #like it’s so sad to me that we can’t just assume that people aren’t evil abusers unless told otherwise #also like makes me worry about how people are actually gonna spot abusers because like #they aren’t Gonna be wearing a sign that says that they’re bad and evil #like yeah I love violence and also I love to hurt people irl nobody is gonna say that #except for me I love violence and also hurting people irl and I’m not a coward /j #I actually think irl torture is also fun and sexy #s talks #this isn’t discourse okay I just want people to feel more confident in their interests #without feeling pressured to justify it at every given opportunity

[zsbrainrot]

I have mixed feelings about the timeskip but Rei with his hair grown out lives in my head rent free.

#I do like that we know they’re okay 10 years later #I just feel like it limits their options for ovas/season 2 #unless they just do a bunch of episodes out of timeline order #and/or a daughter daddies sequel which is just pure slice of life #and I would HAPPILY take either #but my GOD Rei is such a dilf in the timeskip #like #he was already a dilf but in the timeskip he’s a DILF ya know? #I also really want to see his timeskip hair down #kazuki would be a dilf too if not for the goatee lmao #buddy daddies #my art #buddy daddies fanart #rei suwa #I also hc that Rei gets tattoos and piercings #I know tattoos aren’t as much of a thing in Japan but listen #it’s my brainrot I can do what I want

[mintandcreme]

These are GFriend songs that give me the same vibes as Twinkling Watermelon Characters/Ships (by the way, GFriend is my favorite group 😭)

Twinkling Watermelon as a whole: The Beginning of Love, Emotional Days, Labyrinth, Crossroads, My Buddy, From Me, Eye of the Storm, Three of Cups, Night Drive, A Starry Sky, Here We Are Ha Yichan: Life is a Party, Stairs in the North

Yoon Cheongah: Glassbead, Crush

Cheongchan: You are my Star, Dreamcatcher, Neverland, White, Mermaid, Sweety, Love oh Love, Sunshine

Ha Eungyeol: Gone With the Wind, Memoria

On Eunyoo: Room of Mirrors, Contrail Euneun: You Are Not Alone, Someday, Fall in Love, Rain in the Springtime, Summer Rain, Falling Asleep Again, Beautiful, Tarot Cards

#GFriend #If anyone needs an explanation #I will gladly explain #Twinkling Watermelon #I went through their entire discography for this #Ha Yichan #Yoon Cheongah #Ha Eungyeol #On Eunyoo #Cheongchan #Euneun #Yichan x Cheongah #Eungyeol x Eunyoo #I might have missed some songs that match them tbh #Some of them might not be accurate but they still remind me of the ship or character so… #I just realized the amount of rain/umbrella #And sun/star imagery in Gfriend’s songs #Some of my favorite songs aren’t here #But it’s okay #How’d I forget Here We Are?