#YOU OR YOUR NEEDS ARE NOT A BURDEN

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

obviously hanguang-jun would wear sports bras…. right?

Wei Wuxian failed his perception and insight check rolls.

#ask #poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #lan wangji #Flirting works differently when you are Neurodiverse. You need to be told directly or its Not A Thing. (this is a ADHD wwx household) #call that...taking the Initiative.... #He is just trying to be polite but also still stuck on a very specific idea of who lwj is. #'He can't be flirting with me - Lan Zhan would combust if he had a single gay thought!'. #combined with: 'I think I might have a little bit of a crush on lwj but it could just be a desire for closer friendship'. #And now we have a recipe for trying to take on the burden of 'protecting someone' from your feelings #when its really just a problem with communication and being afraid of your own feelings + feeling as if you need to handle it alone. #Which we all know is wwx's major flaw. Call that *~*~Character consistency*~*~ #Anyways - your art gave me a much needed laugh today B*) thank you very much (also whoops I didn't realize I wasn't following you until now

[homerforsure]

Having this half formed thought about how Buck will do anything to save a relationship except fight for it and Eddie will fight for ones he doesn’t even want just so he doesn’t fail at them and let the other person down.

#firefighting being the one exception for buck #he’s just waiting to be left and tries to ask for as little as possible to stave it off as long as he can #and eddie feeling like it’s his responsibility to make things work #and make it work by himself really #neither of them actually do the give and take thing with their significant others #and so imagining buck standing up to say i want this and i will have the hard conversations with you and build it with you to eddie #and eddie saying your wants and needs are not a burden #i can hold you up #we can hold each other up #ugh #buddie #thought spiral

[thepeacefulgarden]

#you are not a burden #you are not too much #you are enough #trauma #grief #recovery #healing #you are allowed to take up space #you are allowed to have needs #chronic illness #spoons #it's okay to not be okay #your feelings are valid #your trauma is valid #your pain is valid #you matter #mental health #self care #self care is not selfish #reparenting

[uncanny-tranny]

You lose the plot when discussing and fighting for minorities when you buy into the specific brand of (specifically christianity) "suffering is Divine, and the more you Suffer, the More Divine you are."

Suffering is suffering is suffering - when you choose to ignore a marginalized group's suffering because they are not suffering enough or are not "good victims," you have lost the plot.

#politics #i've seen this a lot in some trans spaces and it's kind of scary #because honestly the whole 'suffering is divine actually' is pretty victim blame-y and it expects victims or whatever to carry that burden. #...if suffering is divine then is it not sacrilege to refuse that suffering? surely if you're suffering you are either... #...Deserving of suffering or you are Chosen for something Higher Than Yourself and are therefore a sacrificial lamb (not a person)... #...like do you see how that is inherently dehumanizing to have your SUFFERING be sympathetic but not you as a HUMAN BEING #like i need to stress that all you are doing is essentially fetishizing that somebody is suffering... #...and that you deem yourself high enough if an authority to Judge that suffering... #...and if it isn't good enough or they aren't being a Good Victim about it then they are shit out of luck in term of your help... #...i use the impersonal 'you' here but i need to highlight *why* this line of thinking is (imo) actively dangerous..

[goldensunset]

a rather heavy destiny for someone so small, isn’t it?

#kingdom hearts #kh #sora #kh sora #sora kh #kingdom hearts sora #sora kingdom hearts #kh1 #kingdom hearts 1 #i have lotsa feelings about the way sora wasn’t very enthusiastic about his role as hero at first… #like the way it just seems like one huge burden to him and he’s just so racked with anxiety about his friends the whole time… #Ough and the way that like. kh1 era sora is the most expressive of his negative emotions but also has the least of them at that moment #while by like kh3 sora is running on fumes emotionally but has learned how to smile through it all #it’s crazy frfr #my art #mine: kh #i have never properly drawn any sora before that needed to change #also if you happen to know where i stole this pose from i’m shaking your hand. no you don’t #but it’s also thematically relevant so y’know

[starcurtain]

Listen, the greatest appeal of Diluven is how desperately chained Diluc is to his past, to his personal losses, to the expectations of his father's legacy, because Venti is the god of liberation, of hope, the breaker of chains, the capricious breeze that ever uplifts--it's about letting yourself be set free, listen--

#genshin impact #diluven #diluc #venti voice: I could fix him #do you see the design? #my favorite trope is 'single emotional disaster seeking equally disastrous partner' #because the sum is always more than its parts! #'I'll be yours and you'll be free' #and the best part is it goes both waysss #Venti has burdens he needs to be set free from too!! #it's sooo good my dudes

[meganechan05]

"I must maintain Absolute Neutrality. It's tough, but I must endure it alone" -Rita Kaniska (KingOhger. Episode 10)

...I dare you to say that again now, Impartial Marshal.

#Rita “I am impartial but I refuse to leave Morf with a heavy burden” Kaniska #Rita “I am impartial but I will absolutely do my best to gain Himeno's affection” Kaniska #Rita “I am impartial but I refuse to let any harm come to this yeti mascot” Kaniska #Rita “I am impartial but I will delete your records just so you can live a good life in another country” Kaniska #Rita “I am impartial but I will answer your beck and call should you need me” Kaniska #IMPARTIAL MY A— #kingohger #king ohger #ohsama sentai kingohger #rita kaniska #rita kanisuka #himeno ran #hymeno ran #morfonia #himeritamoru #himeritamorf #moffun #kingoh doodles #comic doodle #super sentai

[angelofviscera]

on self sacrifice as love

I will mitski / love and pain (also known as vampire) edvard munch / snow and dirty rain richard siken / the kiss eva claessens / garden song phoebe bridgers / in blackwater woods mary oliver / the prodigal returns karen swenholt / rest energy marina abramović / red door julien baker / poems from an email exchange hanif abdurraqib

#its like. being so conditioned to take on the burdens of the ones u love and the overwhelming vulnerability that comes with love but also #the fear and the pain and sometimes losing yourself a little too much because all of what you see of yourself #is how youre reflected back at yourself through their eyes #so its not like. an inherently negative or toxic thing but its this sense of sadness at always needing to be in pain and have pain because #you view love as giving someone permission to destroy you and just trusting them to make it an easy clean up #mitski #phoebe bridgers #julien baker #web weave #web weaving #poetry #art #edvard munch #love #my web weaves

[furiousgoldfish]

anyone else feel like they would rather stop existing than ask for help?

#child abuse #abusive parents #the pain of rejection #the shame of being a burden #the guilt of not being strong enough #the catastrophizing #the knowing that you're more likely to be shunned than helped #the terror that people will feel annoyed and yell at you #the feeling of not deserving help #the knowledge that there's nobody who'd care enough to help #the trauma of remembering what happened in the past when you needed help #hearing 'nobody cares!!! nobody cares!!' in your brain #feeling like help doesn't exist

[difeisheng]

wu xie and xiao hua in book canon are so deeply strange and entangled in a deceivingly but increasingly fucked up way that no adaptation has actually managed to get across yet

#i'm rereading part of sha hai again and xiao hua is quite honestly very unsettling when he's talking to li cu #the gist of that conversation really was xiao hua telling a teenager #''we're tossing you to the wolves and we have no other choice. and i need to push you down this path because wu xie has to stay alive'' #and xiao hua KNOWS the cost of being a child with the burden of a world like this falling on your shoulders like atlas and the sky #but there's no room for argument and no going back. he doesn't bother to dream of things like that #jesus fucking christ #dmbj #sha hai #xie yuchen #wu xie #huaxie #sure why not #ashton originals

[palaceoftears]

S3! Mahidevran sultan + The burden of love and duty

I'm ready to burn in hell to keep you safe.

Orla Gartland / Anne Carson / Japanese Breakfast / Benjamin Alire Sáenz / Margaret Atwood / Sarah Kinsley

#this is a messy mix of a web weaving and a mahi edit but anyways. just trying something new #is this about the burden of her old memories? #or is it about her duty as mother of mustafa & the burden of just being alone as a parent & as a counselor with a sehzade thats is learning #and a Sultan that will never get it #or maybe the burden of feeling you need to do anything for your sehzade's future. at the cost of your conscience #??? well actually is about mahi carrying the burden of the whole show on her shoulders /j #I'm not really sure tbh. but there's really something about having your whole life dedicated to raise a good ruler to the empire you're an #slave of #that's crazy to me like oh god #and having NO WAY to win because you're just doomed by the padisah's favouritism and your son's love for his father #like when is my girlie resting. she gave her all #sisyphus type of role as kosem's... #mahidevran sultan #magnificent century #muhtesem yuzyil #perioddramaedit #my edits #mc edit #graphics #graphic edit #web weaving #(kind of) #forgot to say I kinda tried drawing thingies here #they look weird when you zoom so don't look at them very much. they only work if you see them from the distance #filter credits to crownedfilters in ig

[fryingtimes]

Just realized how tragic Pepito really is because all three of the parents Pepito met all have dead children, and Pepito knows about them. Pepito's not just in the shadow of Bobby, but also in the shadow of Tilin and Juanaflippa. Idk it just made me really sad, and I know that Sunny also met a parent who's lost an egg (and em knows about bobby so depending on how you view Jaiden's parental status) but Pepito's 3 for 3.

#pepito noo you're just a baby you don't need to carry the burden of your parent's traumaaa #qsmp

[wiltking]

ok but wait why is this werewolf/special field agent mystery romance hitting so close to home with cooper's GI issues

#the burden of needing small frequent meals 🥴 but ignoring that when youre out and about so you dont bother others or appear weak 😝 #the random nauseating pains. lets fucking go lmfao #the wolf at the door #(started this one while i wait for my library hold of subway slayings 💅) #book thoughts #big bad wolf

[lyriumsings]

baldurs gate is so funny it’s just

laezel &shadowheart: let’s break you outta this religious cult!

wyll & gale: let’s break you outta this unhealthy relationship!

astarion & karlach: let’s break the people who broke you!

that’s it that’s the game

#halsin is like let’s break you out of this monumental weight you keep putting on yourself #i could write pages on halsin tbh like #he really glosses over his own pain and like he’s not looked after #like the comments you can make about him being good for helping carry stuff #the way he can say ‘my heart can wound’ #if you end things with him and then take it back (i reloaded the save i just wanted to see DJSJS) #and it broke my heart like people just see him as this big strong guy to push responsibility on to #who can protect everyone all the time and he can but like no!! i’m protecting YOU get in my pocket #acknowledge your past trauma don’t gloss over it #he’s very similar to astarion imo #in the way that both kind of seem like they don’t need help #or act like it rather but to different extremes #halsin cares about everything all the time and shoulders the burden #astarion elected to not care about anything ever and preserve himself bc no one else would #i’m obsessed with their poly and how they both desperately need to be cared for in vastly different ways that are somehow still so similar #lyriumsings txt #bg3 #spoilers #anyway this was supposed to be a silly post i got lost in my feels DKSJDJDJS

[eye-of-yelough]

what do we think of “i’ve been emotionally empty for so long but since i met my soulmate, i’ve started feeling things again. (the feelings are sadism, megalomania, possessive obsession and sick, twisted, conquestsexual lust)” as a horror trope

aka: we complete each other (oh god. oh fuck.)

#this is about gortae. of course #being ‘loved’ or whatever word he would use by gortash is inherently horror. to me #gortash’s feelings toward aeryn are only getting more weird and convoluted and creepy and i love it #emotional. naive. burdened with love and empathy and a moral compass but no backbone to use it. #you are weakness personified and you disgust me. and i annihilate the weak. #you were born the day my heart died which can only mean you stole it. (no i DON’T want it back) #you are my heart and that makes you an extension of me. my vanity won’t let me destroy you #brother you need to leave people’s hearts alone they’re NOT YOURS. oh gortash/aeryn/karlach heart motif we’re really in it now #your daily dose of idiocy #aeryn and gortash #durgetash

[mejomonster]

On a serious note, I do feel mysterious case lotusbook has a lot of sincere themes about getting older, realities of responsibility and dreams realized, how it's difficult to succeed and not always the direct path one expects, how there's value in little aspects of life. Almost every li lianhua scene seems to be about that to some degree. The murder cases aren't particularly deep as far as super complicated to figure out or Able to be predicted super well (since they don't always give all the details in the initial setup), but the themes about who was killed and why do connect to li lianhuas situation.

#mysterious lotus casebook #lb #by all this i mean: a lot of the positive things li lianhua AND di feisheng say are fairly good advice tbh #like a fei? hes like you need to be fair in your decisions for your actions to be worthwhile and earned #li lianhua: sometimes being the one taking all responsibility was bad for you and the people you led who felt burdened #by You taking the burden. and stepping back can be a respectable choice. #cooking is more difficult than fighting. keeping yourself alive is Hard and its the hardest thing we do #and its admirable even when youll never be a hero never be able to achieve what those around you might #your peers are worthwhile if they choose diffetently than you (qian wanmian isnt lesser for not choosing to lead a sect and instrad #dissolving it. di feisheng doesnt think li lianhua is no longef worth his time even though hes weaker now. li lianhua is still someonr he #wants to see alive see brlieve in himself see passionate about things. the monks think its never too late to #reconnect to people again. that people who love you will want you and accept you even when you fail. #even fang duobing by knowing li lianhua gets the experience of someone who wants him alive #and fondly smiles and Is proud of him. evrn if hes learning and fails and moody #fond of him in a way his family wasnt that strangers lied about due to his status #in a way that he clung to li xianyi for ALSO seeing value in him when he felt he didnt live up to expectstions of the world #its the Kindness of little moments of acceptance. of being kind to yourself and kind to others (even down to #not wantjng to kill suspects but take them to trial. not wanting scapegoats blamed. which arent usually done in wuxia) #its the fact this show is quite about gentleness and healing (i see the Love and Redemption screen writing ismilarities) #rather than about power struggles. do you know what i mean?