#ableism is ridiculous

[peeptro]

Random thought but if someone advises you NOT to disclose a disability that will affect your work performance after you have ALREADY GOT THE JOB, do not listen to them! They are being ableist lmao

#like for an interview I get it but please please please tell your employer you have ADHD as soon as you begin working closely together #they need to know and you have nothing to be ashamed of #bc that’s really what this comes from; it’s ridiculous to advise people AGAINST getting accommodations #once they already have the job #text #ableism

[oddconvictions]

but let's not make fun of james somerton's 'flat' tone and facial expressions yeah??? bc that's pretty common stuff for neurodivergent people and doesn't actually say anything about a person's character

#uncomfortable ableism vibes from posts here on tumblr. #respected how hbomberguy didnt ridicule him for that :-) #james somerton #hbomberguy

[v-a-l]

My favourite detail in OOTP is when Harry finds Sirius at the dining hall Crookshanks is curled up in his lap. Like he’s surrounded by people screaming at him about “Dumbledore’s instructions”, not allowed to go outside cause the ministry and Death Eaters are gunning for him, he’s being called irresponsible and reckless and he’s brushing it all aside cause boy does he know how to deal with people screaming at him in this house, any regardless: he’s still got Crookshanks. He’s got Buckbeak and they remain Sirius’ first and last line of defence

Harry felt something brush against his knees and started, but it was only Crookshanks, Hermione’s bandy-legged ginger cat, who wound himself once around Harry’s legs, purring, then jumped onto Sirius’s lap and curled up. Sirius scratched him absentmindedly behind the ears as he turned, still grim-faced, to Harry.

Harry did not mention his vague suspicions to Sirius, whose cheerfulness was evaporating fast now that Christmas was over. As the date of their departure back to Hogwarts drew nearer, he became more and more prone to what Mrs. Weasley called “fits of the sullens,” in which he would become taciturn and grumpy, often withdrawing to Buckbeak’s room for hours at a time. His gloom seeped through the house, oozing under doorways like some noxious gas, so that all of them became infected by it.

#Sirius Black #one day I’ll write a thesis about the constant ableist language used to address Sirius in OOTP #one day we’ll talk about JKR passing judgement on trauma and coping with it through fifteen year old Hermione #one day I’ll talk about how OOTP is so severely unempathetic to Sirius #It’ll forever remain ridiculous to me that Sirius of all people is the story’s biggest example of tell don’t show. he’s not irresponsible #he’s not selfish #yet we’re told so #again and again #by Molly and Hermione #and it’s consistently in a patronising arrogant way from people who could not even hope to understand what he’s been through #I think it’s particularly telling that no one offers to HELP Sirius. to do anything. in OOTP #JKR’s ableism in her language and connotations with the way people speak of Sirius says So Much #her tell don’t show works consistently against her in that the narrative validates Sirius. #in the end he is right. but it doesn’t matter anymore cause he’s dead

[fruit-kick]

ngl i hate it when u bring up how fucked up the show and fandom treats jermy and ppl respond w/ "he makes out w/ his dog" like idk how to tell you that jermy is not A Real Guy who made out w/ his dog the same way Dolph was not a kid who happened to look like hitler.

like both of those things are deliberate choices made by the writers to justify shitty, bigoted choices in the story and i need all of you to stop falling for it when people bring up the fact that it was fucked up.

also, other hot take that i think should be cold: people doing fucked up things does not justify bigotry. if the writers put in a trans caricature, misgendered them every step of the way, and then threw in a "they kiss dogs" ya'll would know thats bullshit. (or at least i hope you do) so put in the same fucking energy.

#🍊​fruit.posts🏀 #camp camp #jermy fartz #queued #no hate to the blog owner of the hot takes acc #but seeing people post the most abysmal takes on anon #and respond in the comments w/ the most ridiculous statement #it made me wanna punch this fandom in the face so hard #like some of you SUCK. #and i hate it when someone posts something so horrid on anon and i cant block them #literally so annoying to see valid criticisms of the show and fandom be drowned out by mindless discourse #a select few of u lack literacy about anything that isnt shipping discourse #you'll post paragraphs upon paragraphs explaining why a ship is toxic #but the moment racism; ableism; fatphobia; anti-semitism; etc #the moment any of those things come up its either radio silence or 'okay but...' #annoying

[rjalker]

I'm not even in the Dungeon Meshi fandom but literally purely from osmosis, upon finding out someone is cursed to not tell if they're still hungry or not or not, why in the absolute fuck would anyone's first thought be "oh no they might get fat!!!! we gotta micromanage their diet now" instead of "oh no this is a serious problem that could get them killed because the stomach has a finite capacity and if you can't feel that you're full you could literally tear your stomach and die horribly" or conversely "oh no you might accidentally starve to death because you can't tell when you're actually hungry and when it's just the curse".

Like what the fuck. Why is the entire fandom not up in arms about the blatant fatmisia and ableism? This problem should be obvious to anyone. But everyone wants to pretend that the possibility of getting fat is the real horrible thing about it??? and pretend this isn't blatant fatmisia????

I mean, the answer is obviously that the fandom hates fat people, but god damn. What the fuck, people.

And from what I've seen of the worldbuilding for this setting, being fat should literally be looked upon positively! But no. Okay.

#Dungeon Meshi #Dungeon Meshi spoilers #fatmisia #like. what in the fuck #Fandom bigotry #Fandom fatmisia #dungeon meshi fandom bigotry #dungeon meshi fandom fatmisia #yes I AM making specific tags for specific bigotry for every fandom from now on #make the bullshit easy to find so people can't pretend it never happened #I don't even go here yet #but Zyg #it's ridiculous just seeing it from the sidelines #fandom ableism #dungeon meshi fandom ableism

[alostlittleriverlotus]

this just in! People who are okay with narcissists are too far into political correctness or narcissists themselves!

Welp you heard it here folks, caring about traumatized people living with a debilitating personality disorder that fucks up how you perceived the world is just political correctness used to worsen the hold narcissism and allow them to continue their cycle of abuse.

Ah yes, you always want to side with the people that complain about political correctness (sarcasm.)

"it seems so hard to live with narcissism, but they won't change" so you have the bare minimum understanding for us to know it's hard to live with, but then still spew bs about us being abusive.

Ableist bullshit about NPD makes me so angry I wanna vomit cause how can you be so...so ridiculous about it all! So hateful and unable to see and comprehend the harm you're doing!

You can say that shit seriously and still believe you're in the right?! Funny cuz if I was like you, I could call YOU narcissists. Funny how YOUR PAIN makes hurting others okay because you hate narcissists. Isn't that your definition of narcissism?! See how easy it is to call anyone a narcissist if you use this dumbass definition?!

I'm just so done with people preaching mental health and trauma healing only to be like that about NPD. Just be fucking normal about literally anyone with a personality disorder or "scary" disorder or psychotic disorder.

What is actually wrong with you people to believe this?! No trauma or abuse experienced will EVER make it okay to say this shit!!!

Angy. I destress now.

#actually narcissistic #npd #anti narcissists are ridiculous #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse isn't real #surviving narcissism #narcissistic #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic personality disorder #ableism #fuck ableists #fuck ableism #ableist #anti narcs are weirdos

[pinkpinkstarlet]

so…are we going to discuss the ableism in cars 2 or what??

@thisismisogynoir @fancylala4 @punkeropercyjackson @champmorado @kaderp @y7kierre

#like #why is it that the lemons are villains here #who are described to lack basic bodily functions to do stuff that normal cars can do #and are ridiculed and oppressed for this systematically and while interacting with other “normal” cars #and have created a closely knit lemon only community (with a few tow trucks to help out more disadvantaged lemons) so they can feel safer #like??? #it feels so fucking gross if you apply that to real life #and other aspects of it such as race #or gender #pls god tell me I’m not the only one who sees this #tw ableism #cars 2 #cars 2 (2011) #cars 2 movie #pixar cars #cars pixar #cars fandom #pinkspidey’s rambles

[iamnmbr3]

Wow. Just saw a critique of a story that deals with the topic of ableism saying that it is ableist since it depicts the central character being persecuted because of a disability but never has any of the other characters say that the ableism is wrong.

Like the argument is literally that because the sympathetic main character is persecuted due to a disability but none of the other characters turn to the metaphorical camera and are like "oh this is actually ableist and bad" somehow the creator is condoning that behavior instead of critiquing it. Even though that CLEARLY was not the intent.

Critical thinking skills really are dead huh? When will people learn that depicting something is not the same as condoning it?!

#the whole story is about criticizing ableism and highlighting the struggles the main character faces. smh. #no other characters stand up and say it's bad bc the STORY IS A SOCIAL CRITIQUE. the other characters are the ones being portrayed as wrong #even tho in universe no one says that #this is how creators end up getting bullied into outing themselves or sharing other personal information about trauma or other stuff #to defend themselves against these ridiculous takes #sometimes irl there is no one to step in and say “this is wrong” and its ok to show that in fiction #does this person think James Cameron supports sinking boats because no one in Titanic looks at the camera and says “oh this is sad actually #not every story that centers a character with a disability has to focus on ableism or even include ableism. if you prefer stories like that #that is fine. but to say that a story that DOES depict it is problematic. for depicting and criticizing a real life issue. is ridiculous. #that's not activism. #discourse

[sharonisthebettercarter]

Homelander is old enough to be a pedophile, so yes, the bitch is grown.

no, because that's literally not how trauma works and has nothing to do with his mental state or maturity.

trauma has ways of destroying human psyche forwards and backwards and undoing mental growth. just because the body grows, doesn't mean the brain does.

this is a gross oversimplification for the explicit purpose of being dismissive that stems from a place of bias and prejudice. not liking homelander as a person/character doesn't mean that his trauma, or how it stunted the growth of his mental state, is invalid

in comics, if someone gets zapped with an aging beam but still has the mind of a child, it is the same deal. and no, that person ain't 'grown'.

sweetheart, please do at least *some* research before you go touting about ableist talking points, if you don't understand something then you shouldn't be casting judgement.

and even then, who says it's our place to judge?

#homelander #stunted emotional growth #ableism #psychology #psa #awareness #abuse #trauma #seriously #this is getting ridiculous #the boys

[heliianth]

being on sonic tumblr and the sonic reddit is so funny bc they couldnt be more different if they tried

#did u know mfs over there HATE chaos sonic they HATE beepo. ridiculous #the disdain for prime in general would be a little funny if 90% of it wasnt just like. veiled ableism over sonics character #and not understanding what arcs or a target age demographic are #heliichats

[luigis-slut]

So did any other autistic people have ABA therapists encourage your parents to have you participate in a "variety of activities" as a young kid to prevent you from developing special interests?

Did that prevent you from practicing an activity long-term, thus keeping you from being good at anything? And as an adult, did that inhibit your ability to develop hobbies and find interests that you're passionate about?

Because that’s sure what it did to me.

#autism #ableism #ableist nonsense #aba #anti aba #anti ableism #I mean its not like i didnt develop hobbies and find things that im skilled at #but i feel like the fact that my parents/ABA 'therapists' were trying to prevent 'autistic behavior' limited my potential #I'm glad that my parents encouraged my art skills to the point that it became my career path #and that Im at least skilled and talented in THAT #but i wish i could go back in time and trade all of those sports activities out for ONE sport and music #I did soccer. baseball. dance. karate. ice skating. etc. None of it stuck. I remember almost none of those skills now. #Because id only do it for a year or two before I was encouraged to try something else before it became a special interest #I feel like id be in a much better place now if i was simply allowed to have special interests #aba is abuse #aba is meant to eradicate autistic traits for the convenience of parents. not to produce healthy adults #Im trying to develop new hobbies now. But with the way i was raised its extremely difficult to learn and keep practicing #this certainly isnt the worst thing that ABA has done to me. But its one that i dont see many others talk about #i wish i had been allowed to have special interests. I wish i had been allowed to be autistic without ridicule #the fact that my family STILL looks back on my 'variety of interests' as a good thing is also depressing #the fact that they keep saying 'its a good thing we got early intervention' makes me upset #I know that they mean well. Theyre glad i can communicate verbally and could graduate college #But they treat my autism like its cancer. The constantly tell me that the abuse was justified. That i NEEDED it #this is why we need autism ACCEPTANCE. Not awareness. ACCEPTANCE.

[pharawee]

🖇️BL WATCHLIST AUGUST

🎬Be Mine Superstar - VIKI | IQIYI - I’m already so in love with this show.

🎬Wedding Plan - YOUTUBE (CUT) | IQIYI (UNCUT) - A cute little trope-y show, as predicted. I wonder how spicy it'll be. It's Mame after all (affectionate).

🎬Dangerous Romance - YOUTUBE - The plan is to watch this for Marc, Papang, Pawin & Pepper. So far so good.

🎬 I Feel You Linger in the Air - GAGAOOLALA | YOUTUBE - This is my BL holy grail and the only thing I will talk about for the rest of the year.

🎬Laws of Attraction - YOUTUBE | IQIYI - I'm but a poor interfan in Europe so I'm watching this sans subs on Saturday and giffing accordingly. I get most of the plot but I have to wait for official subs to drop days later. I usually don't watch stuff twice so... this is how much I love this show, ok?

🎬Low Frequency - IQIYI - Somehow this show works for me, despite its sometimes weird editing choices.

🎬My Universe - IQIYI - Lots of couples each with their own self-contained mini series (if you can even call it that). I'm intrigued.

🖇️UPCOMING

⭐Love in Translation - 19 AUGUST - This is by Atime26 who I adore (remember Our Days?) so I'm really excited for this. Prayer circle for a way to watch this for interfans and timely subs.🙏

⭐Man Suang - 24 AUGUST | CINEMAS - Just as with After Sundown, there's no chance of watching this anytime soon (not in Europe at least) but we might get more promos at least.

🖇️FINISHED

🎬Be My Favorite - YOUTUBE - I'm ok with this ending. I like it well enough but I think I need a break from gmmtv.

🎬Dinosaur Love - YOUTUBE | IQIYI - I'm so confused. This show just fizzled out instead of having an ending? Or are there more eps coming? And where did that spicy scene from the trailer go?

🖇️(STILL) CATCHING UP

🎬Club Friday: Moments and Memories - YOUTUBE - Yes to Na and Bank but I don't have the time to watch this as it airs.

🎬 Make a Wish - Good news. I have actually managed to watch another ep of this. I'm not a binger at all so at this rate I might finish by the end of the year. I love Fluke and Judo though so I'm determined lmao

🎬Destiny Seeker - I have this open in a tab, I swear!

🎬Bed Friend - I will finish this before Middleman's Love!!

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#jane watches stuff #bl watchlist #there might be more shows dropping in august #i'll keep this list updated #crazy handsome rich will also be released but i won't watch it #the ableism (no matter if it's based on a popular source) is highly off-putting to me #and the dubbing is just ridiculous

[coolerdracula]

girl in my class called DID a “social contagion” and was talking major shit about it being super rare & people faking etc. I hate singlets 💗

#ableism #like I agree that kids online often jump into it too fast but judgement of that should not be in the hands of people who don’t know shit - #- about it. plus the response to that should be compassion not judgement & ridicule whatever #bearer of the curse

[sneefsnorf]

people on here love neurodivergent ppl until they get confused on what's satire or not. or just like. need a joke explaining to them. then theyre stupid idiot babies that are ruining the funny shit. and its such fuckass nonsense

#sneefs text #let me be clear when i mean neurodivergent i am talking about like. autism. cognitive disabilities. intellectual disabilities #amything that affects social communication #its so fucking annoying #''i love autistic boy pussy'' you call the autistic boy stupid because he displays traits of autism you dont like #''support people w intellectual disability'' you wont take the time to explain a joke theyve asked about in a respectful/non patronising way #its all surface level #AND YES OTHER ND PEOPLE DO THIS TOO. youre not exempt from ableism abd publicly ridiculing disabled because youre autistic #so fucking annoying #SORRY 4 THE RANT. I GOT ANNOYED #obviously theres lots of nuance here and i didnt word everything perfect or whatever. just thought about some of the stupid shit ive seen

[antisocial-author]

So are we as a fandom finally ready to discuss the fact that the way Chara has been regarded by said fandom is heavily ableist or are we going to keep treating them like the root of all evil

#chara dreemurr #undertale #ableism #fandom ableism #i say 'we' so the sentence sounds better not bc i associate much with the fandom #for. understandably. not liking the ableism in how it regards chara dreemurr #most discussions of ableism in this fandom are about papyrus which is. reasonable! #he was infantalized and that's a serious issue as he is neurodivergent coded #but. i think there is something to be said about the 12 year old who is CANONICALLY mentally ill #being reduced to nothing but 'pure evil incarnate who likes to stab people' #like i get it. we don't learn much about chara and what we do is a mixed bag #but treating a traumatized suicidal little kid like they forced you to commit mass homicide is ridiculous #they weren't the best person. i will be the first to admit that. but generally kids aren't! #especially kids who are traumatized and struggling! #just. i have so many thoughts on chara dreemurr and none of them are fandom positive