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defiantsuggestions · 3 months ago
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If a child is so afraid of getting in trouble that they don't come to their parents when they make a mistake that could possibly put their health or even their life in danger, then those parents have failed.
If something goes wrong, and the first thing that child thinks is, "oh god, my parents are gonna kill me," then the parents have failed.
If a child is afraid of their parents, if the child sees their parents as an active threat instead of a source of safety and guidance, then the parents have failed.
A parents job is to protect, to teach, to guide.
If a parent makes themself a danger to the child, in any capacity, then that parent has failed.
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kerokerokeroppi · 6 months ago
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hey so you guys really liked my post about being autistic so i’m hoping you can help support two autistic trans gay adults eat because our food stamps were slashed to $85 dollars last month and we got nothing this month, and nothing is pending this month. like most people, we need to eat.
i’m applying for food stamps as quickly as possible, but we need money for this month and possibly next month while this whole situation sorts itself out. we are desperate and making these posts is getting really emotionally taxing.
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i am a black trans man who works three jobs to provide for this household, and the one thing i’m not able to cover each month is food. almost all of my paychecks go to rent, electric, water, air conditioning, transportation and feeding my dog who lives at a friend’s house because my landlord charges an extra $100 dollars a month to keep any animal in apartments, and our apartment is currently a one bedroom that’s cramped as much as it is.
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both of us are willing to trade the following:
- artwork
- tarot card and oracle reading  (castor will do these!)
- help with schoolwork and homework (this includes essay writing!)
- written work (i.e; fanfiction and character essays)
- feet pics, i guess.
- pendulum and dice readings
- cosplay props and wigs
- sigils
- voice acting and voiceover work
we can do more than that, all you need to do is ask.
how to donate:
v*nmo: tuxedosam
c*shapp: $tuxedosam
k*-fi: https://ko-fi.com/cloverhayes
v*nmo: @Clover-Hayes 
p*ypal: https://www.paypal.me/cloverhayes
teespring: https://cloverpatch-designs.creator-spring.com/
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mythicalcoolkid · 2 years ago
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Even if you don't think/know that you have [disorder] (or even if you know you don't!) you're allowed to use coping strategies meant for or associated with that disorder. You can use ADHD tips for your poor memory. You can stim even if you're not autistic (stimming has a lot of overlap between disorders honestly). You can use chronic fatigue tips if you have depression. You're not stealing resources. If it helps you, it helps you, whether you were the target audience or not
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defiantsuggestions · 4 months ago
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Having a child is a long term commitment to a heavy, heavy responsibility which demands energy, attention, and time.
To have a child is to bring an entire person into the world. This person can not consent to this. This person is inherently vulnerable, hardwired to depend on you, and must be taught the skills neccessary to one day care for themself.
When you have a child, that child's well being is entirely on you. It's your job to keep them safe, to keep them fed, cloathed, and happy. It's your job to make sure they feel loved.
When you choose to have a child, you are signing up to spend years and years of resources on that child. That is your choice. The child was not alive and could not agree to your decision to drag them out of the void of nonexistence. The child was not asked if they wanted to experience an entire lifetime of conciousness, and all of the potential suffering and agony that comes with that.
That decision is entirely that of the parent who has made the choice to have a child.
You are not "granting the gift of life." You are not doing this hypothetical child a favor by having them. You are doing this for you, because you wanted to be a parent. You wanted to have the experience of raising a child.
This means that if you have a child, you owe that child. You owe them time, and love, and safety, and care. You asked for this, it is now your responsibly to follow through.
Children are not a toy. They aren't a fancy new car for you to parade to your friends. They aren't a fashion accessory for you to put on the shelf when you lose interest. They aren't a mini you. They aren't a magic cure-all to your trauma, and they aren't there to fill some void in your chest.
They are a vulnerable person who is easily abused and neglected and who will be at your mercy throughout much of their development period.
A parent owes their child. Failing to follow through with the responsibility they signed up for is a failing on the parent's part. Making the child feel guilty for the crime of existing is the fault of the parent. A child is never a burden.
Abusive and neglectful parents are failures as parents. They could not do the bare basics of what the job entails and then they blame the child for a crime that the parents themselves committed.
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kerokerokeroppi · 8 months ago
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(3/26) hi so the person who helps me run my bank account won't let me have more than half my stimulus check which means i only have a little under a thousand dollars to move three people into an apartment and one up to new england from arkansas
my landlord is refusing to help me fix the broken things in my apartment and my thermostat and constantly stuck in the mid to high 70's so its always too hot. i am the sole provider for this household, i work three jobs and i need all the help i can get. im black, lgbt, neurodivirgent, disabled and very, very tired.
THIS POST explains everything in detail.
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here's our amazon wishlist for all four of us
($945/$4500)
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princessbowsette · 3 months ago
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oh to trauma dump and have someone just listen to the horrors of your childhood and validate that yeah they were actually that bad
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