#actually nd

[ghostonly]

Something I wish a lot of people understood is that just because I mention wanting to do something completely doable doesn't mean it's going to happen. Not to speak for us all, but I've got ADHD. I'm almost entirely made up of "I'm gonna"s and "we should"s and "it would be so fun to"s and "one day"s and almost all of it means absolutely nothing.

Wanna know why?

Because when your to-do queue is 700 items deep and you add five new things to it each day, according to priority, almost all of it is never going to happen, even if you would really like it to. There's just not enough time in the world.

So!! If you're friends or lovers with someone like me and you keep wondering if that thing they said is ever going to happen, please ask them.

Because, personally, there is a good chance that if I suggested something would be fun to do with a friend and then didn't follow up on it within the week, I didn't know you were actually that interested, and/or completely forgot about it, and/or it got swallowed by the higher priority to-do items in the queue. If you ask me about it and say you really wanted to do that, your personal investment is going to make that item jump the queue by like 95%

Sincerely, a guy with so much ADHD

#adhd #actually adhd #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #nd #actually nd #communication

[tortiefrancis]

Nobody talks about the hard parts about autism.

Nobody talks about not knowing when you need to eat, drink or pee. Not knowing when you're in pain, or why you're in pain. Not being able to communicate what you need.

Or when change is so hard to deal with you have meltdowns and outbursts. When you can't control your anger and hurt yourself or others. When you can't emote unless you're breaking down.

Or when you can't understand what someone is saying, what you're reading, anything. When you can't even try because trying makes it worse. When you ask for help but not getting what they say just makes you more frustrated.

And so many more difficult experiences we have to deal with that no one likes.

#sam.txt #sam.neuro #sam.disabled #asd #autism spectrum disorder #autism #neurodivergent #nd #actually autism #actually neurodivergent #actually nd

[ndcultureis]

Part of being neurodivergent is constantly getting mocked and teased for wearing out easier than neurotypicals. Where they can fit several different activities into a day, I'm exhausted before I've even finished the first one.

It's because so much work goes into masking. Talking to people in general, let alone when I don't actually want to, is exhausting in itself. Even the brightness of the sky can be overstimulating at times, and that's before I've done my shopping or done what I need to do, where there's too much talking and excessively loud music and workers who are often pressured into getting into your space before you've even walked several metres through the door.

What is considered background noise to some people is all I hear. I can't openly stim or do the things that make these jobs bearable because I'll get those looks from people that remind me that I'm not actually welcome unless I can be "normal".

I have to remember the script that I've created in my head for when I talk to the person I'm seeing. If they stray from what I had planned, I then have to create a new script on the spot without them realising that I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack because it's not going as I had hoped.

I have to make sure my facial expressions don't slip into what's natural, because it looks like i'm bored/disinterested. I have to make sure I'm making eye contact on occasions even when I don't want to because it's seen as disrespectful/impolite. Nobody wants to accommodate my needs more than they absolutely have to, but I spend every hour of every day - sometimes even in my own home - accommodating the people around me.

So yeah, small things can be exhausting.

#neurodivergent culture #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #mod milo #actually nd #actually autistic #actually adhd #sensory issues

[snowflakesincalifornia]

Op turned off reblogs so here’s the post as a pic. And here’s the link to the thread: https://href.li/?https://twitter.com/the_tweedy/status/1600287106072735744

#actually adhd #adhd #actually autistic #autism #autistic problems #audhd things #actually neurodivergent #actually nd #adhd struggles #ableism

[unstablemotions]

when the mental disorder mental disorders

#my honest reaction #mental illness memes #nd memes #actually nd #actually neurodivergent #actually mentally ill #actuallynd #actuallyneurodivergent #actuallymentallyill #my posts #personal

[colombinna]

Being neurodivergent is truly so inconvenient. We need to talk about that more. I had the whooole last half of last week and this whooole weekend to do nothing but study for my big exam on Thursday. I have not even yet managed to finish the remaining 15 pages of one of the texts. And the worst thing is, I don't feel like doing anything else either!! It's not like I desperately need to draw, it's not like I desperately want to play a game, or watch a specific tv show or read a specific comic. No, nope. I'm just absolutely unable to do the ONE thing I had planned my whole time to do - to study about a topic I'm EXTREMELY passionate about and know WHY it's important that I do so - and when I try to push through it I fall fucking asleep! AAAAAAAAAA!!!!! So I end up losing hours and hours on social media, and now executive dysfunction is screwing me all over, I'm taking my meds super late and waking up super late, and the whole day ends up being a mess!!

"We all have the same 24 hours on the day" you speak for your abled self, I barely get 10 these days!

#neurodivergency #ad #attention disorder #autism #actually autistic #ocd #obsessive compulsive disorder #actually ocd #actually ocpd #obsessive compulsive personality disorder #actually ad #mentally disabled #executive dysfunction #neurodivergent #actually nd

[morsobaby]

Sunlight in art and media: Spectacular, my favorite color, powerful and beautiful, an ageless timeless classic, an eternal truth, warmth and beauty and aesthetic

Sunlight in real life: Get the fuck out of my face. Why do you hate ME specifically. My head hurts. My eyes hurt. Save me. But also please don't go away I'll get depressed. Why is life

#My thoughts #Sunlight #actually nd #actually ocd #Yes I have sensory issues

[lisascr3ature]

i think autistic people should get money from the government as compensation for having to endure a hellscape of a world not made for us on a daily basis because life in general is so much harder

#autism #actually autism #actually autistic #autistic adult #actual autistic #actually nd #neurodiversity #neurodiverse #actually neurodiverse #actually neurodivergent #actual autistic adult #mental health

[solidwater05]

It's ADHD awareness month so l thought it'd be nice to explain why someone with ADHD might consciously make horrible decisions despite being aware of the consequences

So, let's image a situation. A person with ADHD is doing a mildly entertaining activity, let's say doomscrolling. This person also has a task to do. I made a graph where the brighter the color, the higher the satisfaction that the person gets from an activity

[ID: A graph showing a line that divides into two separate lines. The main line, and the bottom line, are a dull yellow. The top line starts off black, and turns bright green as it gets further away from the bifurcation. /End ID]

So here, doomscrolling isn't super gratifying but hey, it's better than nothing. The person has the choice to keep doomscrolling, even though it's honestly pretty boring, or they could do the task they need to do. When they're done with that task, they'll feel a lot better, so they should do that, right? Just do the task because there's literally no cons? Well. Look at this other graph:

[ID: The same graph as before, but cropped to only show the bifurcation itself. This way, the top line seems to be completely black. /End ID]

This is how a person with ADHD perceives the choice. They can logically know that they'll feel better if they do the task, but executive dysfunction makes it literally impossible to get any sort of motivation or satisfaction for gratification that doesn't currently exist. So the choice goes from 'feel meh or feel good later' to 'feel great in comparison or never feel good again'. And what's the obvious choice here?

#neurodivergent #adhd #actually adhd #adhd awareness month #adhd acceptance month #actually neurodivergent #actually nd #ice speaks #i hope this makes sense!! #i tried making one of those fancy posts but it's still distinctively Mine so i feel like it's too informal and unclear :(( #oh also this is based 100% on personal experience #maybe I'm literally the only person who does this. idk #oh I'm rambling #as always this is not proofread i cannot be bothered with that

[bitchwholoveslife]

"The Good Doctor set back autism acceptance by 50 years" No, it's just showing how ablist people actually are once you get past respectability politics. People are making fun of Shaun explicitly and solely because of his less pleasant autistic traits. They say, "I support autistic people" while mocking Shaun for his monotone voice, awkwardness, lack of eye contact, meltdowns, and inappropriate reactions at inopportune times. The Good Doctor did not set back autistic acceptance, it just shows how most folks' ""acceptance"" of autism is purely for looks, and stops once an autistic person starts showing their traits instead of masking until they die.

#i have screenshots from twitter to attach to this but for some reason tumblr won't let me #text #bitchwholoves.text #nd shit #actuallyautistic #actually autism #actually nd #actually neurodivergent #the good doctor #shaun murphy

[iamshmolphrog]

cough cough, ahem.

AUTISM is not like THIS:

with the "bad" autism on one side and the "okay" autism on the other

AUTISM is like THIS:

A SPECTRUM! IT'S AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDER!

#sort of vent? #kind of #autism #autism spectrum disorder #autistic community #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #actually neurodiverse #actually nd #actually autistic #mentally fucked #autism awareness #its a spectrum

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

*unbolded version under the cut*

there is nothing wrong with seeing your autism as a disorder.

there’s nothing wrong with seeing your autism as a disorder AND disability AND neurodivergent AND be proud of it.

disorder is not a bad word.

saying “autism is a neurodivergence not a disorder” ignores nuance and is actively erasing level 2/3 autistics.

here is to autistics who sees their autism as a disorder.

…

unbolded:

there is nothing wrong with seeing your autism as a disorder.

there’s nothing wrong with seeing your autism as a disorder AND disability AND neurodivergent AND be proud of it.

disorder is not a bad word.

saying “autism is a neurodivergence not a disorder” ignores nuance and is actively erasing level 2/3 autistics.

here is to autistics who sees their autism as a disorder.

#actually autistic #actuallyautistic #level 2 autism #level 3 autism #actually neurodivergent #actually nd #severe autism #moderate autism #autism #autistic

[notabled-noodle]

what the neurodivergent movement is about:

no matter your brain, you deserve autonomy

no matter your brain, you deserve dignity and respect

the way you function shouldn’t be stigmatised or frowned upon

everyone should be given access to the supports they need

what the neurodivergent movement SHOULD NOT be about:

we’re not disabled, we have different abilities! stop calling us disabled! etc

neurodivergency is always a gift!

uwu we’re all cute and bubbly and wonderful people!! being neurodivergent is so quirky!

we’re not disordered!

the moment you start saying things from that second list, you are excluding a good portion of the neurodivergent community who struggle on a daily basis. you exclude those of us who aren’t gifted, who can’t function well, or who rely on disability support to survive.

you can call yourself whatever you like. just don’t make generalisations about the community that exclude those of us who are sick and tired of being excluded from a hell of a lot already

#I have seen too much of the second group lately #no I am not differently abled I am DISABLED #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #neurodivergency #nd #actually nd

[adhbabey]

not everything spiritual or "weird" is a delusion or delusional attachment (challenge impossible).

But no, seriously, do NOT assume people's spiritual beliefs are delusions and vice versa, do NOT say people's delusions are spiritual.

You do not have the right or consent to reality check people without permission, and people are not "crazy" or "delusional" when they have beliefs that exist outside of proven science.

It drives me CRAZY, that people, especially skeptics, call people terms like "delusional" or call people insults, just because they have different beliefs than you.

You literally are an ableist cunt if you do this shit.

#babey posts #spirituality #actually nd #witchblr #madpunk #idk what else to call this #just stop doing it please #i just saw someone call otherkin a cult and delusional like shut the fuck up #PLEASE STFU #they are different things and NO ONE besides those that identify that way WANT YOU TO CALL PEOPLE THAT #everyone wants you to stop using terms like DA and delusions like that

[unstablemotions]

me when i show symptoms of my disorder (i cannot believe this happened again)

#actuallymentallyill #actuallyneurodivergent #actuallynd #my posts #personal #actually mentally ill #actually nd #actually neurodivergent #actually disabled #actuallydisabled #nd memes #mental illness memes #disability memes

[starberry-skies]

[Image Description: A meme. Black text on a white background reads: "autistics when one part of their environment is slightly changed without their knowledge and no way to change it back". Surrounding the text is stick figure gore; where stick figures are drawn to be bloody, killing, or overall angry. /End ID]

#actually autistic #actually autism #autism #actually neurodivergent #actually nd #nd memes #autism memes #autistic humor #stick figure gore #ask to tag #chirping #autism tag #described #100