Does anyone else “save” their hyperfixations? Like I’ll be thinking “no, I don’t have the time to focus on Shakespeare right now, I’ll just constantly think about wanting to learn more Shakespeare but never actually take the time to learn”. I tend to save stuff I’m really interested in for when I’m a little less busy/stressed/have some requirement met. Honestly, now that I’m describing it, it sounds like I may be executive dysfunctioning my hyperfixations. Whoops? If anyone else ever does that, feel free to reply.
Passive aggressive maybe, but like...healing and getting better isn't easy. When I see people make posts about "LOL google says I should make a schedule to help manage my ADHD but I can't make a schedule bc I have ADHD" it's like. People saying that stuff know it's hard. That's part of why you gotta do it.
Sometimes healing is easier. Sometimes it's something really small that becomes routine. But sometimes it's hard! Sometimes you gotta push yourself to do something and it sucks! But I don't know what to tell you, other than that you don't need to be good at it right away.
Using the calendar example, I have ADHD + semi-frequent memory loss, so it can feel really difficult to try and make a calendar when both of those things can directly get in the way. So I started with making sure recurring events were in it, like therapy and med reminders. Now I'm usually able to remember to put in appointments or other one-time events in as soon as I know about them. It takes a lot of work.
I don't know. I just think sometimes people on this site are sitting in mud and complaining about being dirty. You really do need to try.
If anyone ever tells me again that I'm not concentrating hard enough or I'm not focusing hard enough on doing my tasks or work or whatever, here watch this. No brain is the same and our ADHD brain looks different when focusing/concentrating!!!
The problem with being ADHD and having trouble reading long, rambling sentences and paragraphs that go on and on is that having ADHD makes you more likely to write in long, rambling sentences and paragraphs that go on and on do you see the problem I am encountering
I've seen a lot of autistic/adhd people complaining about "arbitrary tone indicators," stuff beyond /s and /j.
And yes, /s and /j is super helpful for us, because it's hard for us to tell when people are being sarcastic.
The thing is, all the entitlement I see in "stop using other tone indicators!!" makes me a little upset because not all tone indicators are for autistic and adhd people.
Please understand that.
For example: /nm (not mad). If you have autism, you might see that and think, "I can tell that you're not mad, why are you using it?"
Same with /nbh (nobody here). That one's used after a vent like "oh my god someone is pissing me off" in a chat or server so that people don't think they're being vaguely talked about.
The thing is, those two tone indicators are super helpful for people with anxiety disorders. Or any other disorder that might make you think that others are mad about you and talking about you when they aren't.
I might be autistic but I also have generalized anxiety and it's so helpful to me when I see people confirm that they're not mad, they're not talking about me.
And if you're autistic/adhd and you really don't want to learn other tone indicators? No one can make you, of course. But please don't stop people from trying to make life a little easier for other people.
hey! i’m kicking off the #ADHDInvasion hashtag for adhd awareness month with a comic about CONSEQUENCES, and how my lifelong failure to react to them has been a huge source of frustration for me and for the ppl in my life who rely on me. even worse, it makes me seem apathetic or careless to others, when in reality it weighs really heavily on me - i just struggle to show it.
the best way i’ve found to deal with this is accepting that shame-based motivation DOES NOT WORK AT ALL for me (which is hard to do, when it’s all that’s been modeled for you by parents/educators/bosses) and try to replace fear/shame based consequences with positive outcomes: i.e. instead of “everyone will be so disappointed in me if i don’t do this,” sometimes it’s more helpful to think “if i do this on time, i’ll feel so relieved, and everyone will be happy that i pulled through.”
check out the roster here and make sure you don’t miss the comics from all the other artists participating!
why closed captioning should always be provided on every video:
Deaf People Exist
auditory processing disorder is a Bitch
people with ADHD can find it hard to concentrate on what is being said without the words in front of them
^autistic people for the same reason
autistic people may also find it hard to interpret verbal messages within the context of the video, so it's useful to have written alternatives to fall back on
do you know how painful it is to be excluded from every joke, every video, every conversation because others just Can't Be Bothered?
some people live in a conservative household or with family who don't share the same ideals, and they may not have privacy to view things on their own, so they may need to watch things with the volume extremely low or muted