#add

[thechaoticdruid]

Man I really envy people who can spit out oneshots in less than a day. What's your secret honestly? I can have a whole day free and barely get anything done because my brain is bouncing off the walls.

#fanfic problems #fanfiction #writing problems #add #writer with adhd

[eclectic-ways]

They should publish books in this format.

FYI: There are apps and plug-ins of this Bionic Reading for Google Play, Chrome, Microsoft Edge (Internet Explorer), Firefox, iOS (Apple) and on WEB

#bionic reading #bionicreading #adhd #living with adhd #adhd things #adhd brain #adhd tips #adhd warrior #helpful #brain fog #living with chronic illness #living with fibro #spoonie witch #life hacks #life hacks for adhd #life hacks for spoonies #chronic fatigue #adhd stuff #attention deficit disorder (add) #add #attention deficit #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #spectrum #dyslexia #dyslexic #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #focusing problems

[mothmonologue]

My life is a constant cycle between "I need to rest before I burn out" and "I'm wasting my potential, I should work harder"

#moth monologue #mental health #psychology #perfectionism #gifted kid burnout #gifted kid #university #college #studyblr #add #adhd #actually adhd #adhd inattentive #burnout

[typhlonectes]

#adhd #ADD #mental health #memes #nature #animals #opossum #possumcore #possums

[thehmn]

It might simply be that I don’t frequent ADHD forums enough but I haven’t seen a whole lot of talk about learned social withdrawal.

As a child I made friends left and right but as we all turned into self-conscious teenagers it slowly became more and more difficult for me. Plain and simple, other people thought I was weird. For some reason I never got bullied which I think is related to something my teachers kept telling my parents “She’s such a sweet, bright child and we can tell she’s not malicious or trying to be disruptive on purpose but we can’t teach her anything”

Basically people couldn’t figure me out. I had good social skills with both children and adults, I had a good moral compass, i felt compassion and empathy for others and was willing to go against my friends if I felt they were being bullies, I taught myself English and my drawings showed good observation skills. Because of all that it was decided I should start school a year sooner than most kids and my parents were very proud. Unfortunately that’s probably one of the main reasons why I was never diagnosed with raging ADHD as a child. People soon realized I didn’t do well in a school setting but assumed it was because I “wasn’t done playing” and my ADHD symptoms were interpreted as childishness.

So as I got older my classmates started to distance themselves from me. They were always kind and friendly but they didn’t know how to deal with me and ever since then people have always been worryingly comfortable with calling me weird to my face. I get the impression it’s because they think it’s a choice on my part. To them I’m clearly of “normal intelligence” so I must be acting like this on purpose and my parents would repeatedly tell me to “just act normal” as a child when I told them I was struggling to make friends. I tried so damn hard but kept failing. I knew something had to be different about me and when I first heard about ADHD I thought “That’s me! That’s how I feel!” but my parents said that was impossible because I wasn’t hyperactive.

Because nobody wanted to help me I eventually learned to just stop trying to make friends and keep to myself. I was so tired of being told by friendly, well-meaning people that I was so weird and quirky and unique only for them to distance themselves once they realized it was permanent and not something I could turn on and off for parties. I always enjoyed being alone so it wasn’t a huge loss but it did feel incredibly lonely at times.

Things got a lot better when I became an adult, mostly because adults are generally more chill than teens so my ADHD behavior isn’t as embarrassing to them and ironically they’re often surprised to learn I don’t make friends easily. Unfortunately I learned to be withdrawn in my formative years so new friends are still a rarity. Before I really sat down and put my past into context I even started to wonder if I had autism despite not connecting with anything autistic people said about their experiences. I went as far as to be tested but wasn’t surprised when the diagnosis was negative because of course it was, I kinda already knew that. I was just looking for an explanation.

So while there can be overlap between ADHD and autism (I have just such a friend) my experience is also that oftentimes people with ADHD simply learn to stay away from social situations and entertain ourselves which ends up looking like autism to outsiders.

#adhd #add #autism

[autisticfiend]

A quick reminder that the bullet journal method was designed as a disability tool by a person with ADD. It's meant to be practical, and can be helpful especially to neurodivergent folks. Don't let the Instagram pictures or grind culture make you believe you cannot use it. The method will not work for everyone of course, but it is largely what you make of it.

#fiend's post #fiendish disability tag #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #actually adhd #actually autistic #adhd #add #neurodivergence #disabled #actually disabled #disabilities #papertag #bullet journal #bullet journalling #bujo #journal

[yaaams]

#cowboy standoff #where are my meds?? #adhd #ADD #autism

[bl0w-m3]

#adhd #add #hobbies #bpd #actually bpd #mental health #bpd shit #actually borderline #bpd shitposting #bpd problems #mental illness #bpd mood #bpd meme

[guardianspirits13]

As a neurodivergent person, what is the worst sensory hell you can think of?

For me it's getting my teeth drilled for a cavity and elementary school band concerts

#neurodivergent #neurodivergence #adhd #autism #audhd #autism spectrum disorder #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #add #sensory issues #sensory problems #sensory processing #disphonia #audio processing disorder

[thispageisrendering]

i am convinced that "eccentric" is just the pre-discovery-of-neurodiversity word for neurodivergent. yeah hes "eccentric" oh you just mean he has autism. that's why he's weird bro. he just has adhd. anyway in other news i think i might be eccentric?

#autism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodivergence #adhd #add #ocd #dyslexic #dyscalculia #dyspraxia #hyperlexia #tourettes

[bisexualgoth]

idk if that's a hot take or what but i genuinely do not give a flying fuck if kids online self-diagnose with adhd. if they browse those "how to do x with adhd" sites or look for+find support in adhd-specific communities or buy nice planners bc it helps them at school or buy those spinning rings to fidget with literally how is that any of my problem. I'd rather 5000 people without adhd better their lives by using things intended for people w adhd than one kid with adhd feeling lost and depressed bc they're convinced they're just lazy.

#and I'm saying this as someone w a professional diagnosis btw #adhd #actually adhd #add #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #self diagnosis #444

[dragonpyre]

Me: *makes someone laugh*

Me: this is good. I’m getting a good grade in neurotypical. Something that is both normal to want and possible to achieve

#text post #asd #adhd #add #autism #neurodivergent

[dreamingaboutsakuratrees]

learning you're neurodivergent later on your life after growing up being treated as a neurotypical is a constant state of "oh so am I not [stupid/slow/lazy/useless/dumb/broken], I'm just neurodivergent and need to do things differently" followed by a wave of anger and frustration for not having been told that. for not having been reassured, as a kid, that you're none of those awful things you think about yourself, you're just different. anger for having been left to believe that there was something wrong with you.

this rant doesn't actually have a point. I'm just angry that I've been told -I'm still being told- that I'm just lazy and dumb when I actually have add and I'm on the spectrum.

#add #adhd #adhd mood #being autistic #autism #autistic feels #autistic spectrum #autistic adult #asd #neurodivergencies #neurodivergent #neurotypical #disabilties #disability #disabled

[derekhalesbian]

genuinely how i feel sometimes

#adhd #NOBODY TAKES IT SERIOUSLY EXCEPT PPL WHO ALSO STRUGGLE WITH IT ITS SO FRUSTRATING #kitty needs to chill #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #add #actually adhd #actually add #if i see one more person acting like adhd isn’t an actual debilitating neurological disability #i’m going to fucking scream and no one can stop me #i also would like to point out i said ‘ppl without adhd’ and not ‘neurotypicals’ for A Reason #bc i see some fellow neurodivergents acting like adhd is just…. not a thing #or not as ‘bad’ as other neurodivergencies #or maybe not as impactful would be a better term #and if you’re going to tag this as ‘me but with [other thing]’ please just make your own post

[shadowsfascination]

Tumblr folks,

I'm looking for neurodivergent people who are willing to share their life hacks on personal hygiene with me. How do you get yourself to frequently take a shower or brush your teeth in the morning? Stuff like that.

I'm looking for anything that can help; tips/tricks, apps, life hacks. Give it to me, pretty pretty please with a cherry on the top :)

#neurodivergence #adhd #autism #add #life hacks #executive dysfunction

[xiexiecaptain]

The biggest thing I've learned to help manage my ADHD in regards to getting things done is to Follow Those Impulses

(I'm not saying this will work for or is even a good strategy for everyone, but in my own situation it's helped me.)

I'm like allergic to consistency in schedule and cannot enforce one on myself so all it leads to is self-loathing and failure. Trust me, I've been attempting to will-power, shame-fuel my way through it since I was a preteen (I'm currently almost 30.) It does not work for me.

Obviously medication can give me a huge leg up on stuff. But beyond a certain point my brain is simply not wired for long-term sustained consistency.

As in many of my issues, I've found that working with myself gets better results than fighting myself.

When I follow those sudden impulses of interest and motivation, I get things done.

To the outside, I look absolutely haphazard. I'll pause a show I'm watching mid-sentence, stand up, and go empty the dishwasher because my mood/brain/chemicals *ping*ed that it was suddenly do-able and not a huge overwhelming task. Or I'll be putting away laundry and that *ping* will go off and I'll spend three hours re-organizing my closet.

To a neurotypical, this looks like distracted and disorganized behavior.

To me, it's following the way my brain naturally works in order to accomplish tasks.

My ADHD manifests in that I experience very small and unsustainable windows of motivation and interest. So when I feel that window crack open, doing the Thing right then (when the situation enables me to) can mean the Thing actually happens. Even if it's not the thing I'm "supposed" to be doing.

With a neurotypical in that situation, they might be putting away clothes and think: "Oh, I should organize my closet. I have time this weekend, I'll do it then," finish putting away their clothes, and then organize the closet when they had free time that weekend.

I used to try to do things that way too. Because it was how I was taught that "responsible, real people" did it, and had "finish one thing before you start another" drilled into my head. But I'm literally not wired to work that way. And I've been working on undoing that internalized ableism of believing one way of doing things is better and I need to change to adhere to it. I don't and shouldn't be expected to to my own detriment.

For me with the closet example, the weekend would come and I would spend 5 hours screaming at myself to stop working on whatever did have my interest in order to go organize the closet. Sometimes I might ended up doing it. More often, I would not be able get myself to do it even after all that. I would just sit there, yelling at myself, hating myself despite my brain literally not having the chemicals to initiate the activity (let alone follow through) and nothing would get done. Not even the thing I wanted to focus on instead.

The only thing I did accomplish was hating myself for not being able to do "simple" things like other people (read: neurotypicals.)

This is basically how I spent the majority of my schooling; doing simple tasks felt like running in sand. And I internalized all the messages that told me it was my own fault I couldn't run as fast and in as straight a line as those running on pavement.

The past few years, I've been trying to follow impulses more. And its honestly been really helpful.

I get more done even if it isn't a "consistent" amount or I can't always count on having a specific thing done by a certain date.

But the big thing is that I spend less time hating myself for not doing what I "should" be and more time actually doing things when I have the motivation for them. More shit happens, I'm undoing some of that self-loathing.

tl;dr: My advice for fellow adult ADHD-ers is:

Try to learn what your natural rhythms are and, where possible, try leaning into them. Without judgement, try working with your natural tendencies rather than battling them at every moment. See how it feels, see what you accomplish (and not just in the capitalistic "productivity" way--spending 3 hours hyperfocusing on researching the history of wheat germ counts!) See how your brain and body feel.

Your brain is wired different, let yourself operate different.

#adhd #add #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #adult adhd #adhd inattentive #adhd tips #adhd acceptance #original posts