-You can't be AuDHDer because you are queer and trans and you had s3x with your partner.
And stuff like that.
But when I don't mask, when I show autistic and ADHD joy, when I stim, when they see my special interests, they say I'm "weird", "childish" or "stupid".
When I show my difficulties, when I need support, when I have repetitive and racing thoughts, they say I'm "picky", "selfish", "spoiled".
When I have a meltdown or a shutdown, they say I'm "mad".
When they know that I am neurodivergent, they say I'm "ill".
I'm not ill, mad, spoiled, selfish, picky, stupid, childish or weird.
AuDHD is a disability, difficulty, joy, special interests, hyperfocus, mood swings, hypersensitivity, etc...
Disability and ADHD angel pins arrived today ✨ these charity pins will be available when my shop updates in August. Right now I’m thinking the update will be August 5 so I have time to finish pin grading. You can follow my shop, newsletter, or social media to be notified when the update is live.
all of these + a few more just went live in my etsy shop!! feel free to check them out or share with ur goth friend <3
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Do you know about Weird Pride Day? It's a thing, and it’s today, March 4th!
I don't know exactly when it happened, but I embraced weirdness a long time ago. I still have a journal of mine from middle school, and this is what I wrote on the inside front cover at the time:
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THINK AS I THINK by Stephen Crane
"Think as I think," said a man,
"Or you are abominally wicked;
You are a toad."
And after I had thought of it,
I said: "I will, then, be a toad."
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Now admittedly, I found it way easier to apply this to accepting others who were different in some way than to myself for a long time. I was friends with the closeted gay kids and the gothy kids and other "outliers" even though I didn't necessarily identify with any of that myself. I still masked hardcore for most of my life, though.
What finally made me proud to be weird instead of ashamed was finding out there's an actual name for it and whole community of other weirdos like me! I'm not broken, I'm just autistic, and we're supposed to be the way we are!
So now, I'm not afraid to be weird. I'm teaching my kids it's okay to be weird, that our whole family is weird! I own it, and no one can use it to hurt me anymore.
More here: https://oolong.medium.com/weird-pride-day-232465b67dd9
Hey, for all my self-diagnosed ADHD folk: As someone with ADHD that is diagnosed, as long as you have put the research in, Match will proudly consider you as someone with ADHD!
Now it's not somebody able to give a diagnostic criteria, nor can it diagnose, but it does know what it's like to struggle with ADHD. If you are so sure that you have ADHD and you have taken the time to do research and identify with the traits of it;
You very VERY likely have ADHD, and it is not shameful to self-diagnose as such, and it is not harmful. You are your own person, and if you have ADHD, you have ADHD. If you want it diagnosed, get it diagnosed. if you are scared of that, you don't have to be diagnosed professionally to be able to proudly say you have ADHD.
As a neurodivergent person, I feel things very deeply. I can’t hold emotions in my body so I express them outwardly through movement. I flap my hands, hop in place, sway to music only I can hear. I used to try to hold all of the stims in for fear of how people react, but I don’t do that anymore. I’m done with being ashamed of how I express things!