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tinsnip · 6 months ago
When we’re new to adulthood, it doesn’t immediately occur to all of us that you’re almost always allowed to leave a situation, because growing up we’re forced to stay in situations until someone dismisses us and/or takes us home, or if we do leave on our own accord there’s someone waiting at home to say “we don’t quit in this family!” Boring party? You can leave. You don’t like the lecture? You can walk out. New doctor not working out? You can end the appointment, you don’t need to wait for them to dismiss you. Bad date? You can just go home. Leaving a situation prematurely might have consequences, but unless you’re under arrest or serving prison time, it’s pretty much always allowed.
--commenter Allison @ askamanager
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traumacure · 7 months ago
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Perhaps a child failed by their parents has their own failure ordained.
original writing by @traumacure | do not repost
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youcantgetridofit · 5 months ago
The former straight-A student turned lonely young adult with no direction or motivation after leaving school and losing the structure and rules and audience and milestones that had always provided a clear sense of purpose and source for self esteem starter pack:
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literatureaesthetic · a month ago
all i want is an apartment in the city, that I live in on my own with a cat, and is filled to the brim with books and plants
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outofcontextsitcom · a year ago
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they really captured that transition to adulthood right 
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studyblr · a month ago
yes hello this is tumblr, your “im-in-my-twenties-and-don’t-know-what-to-do-with-my-life” hotline, how may i help you today
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greentrickster · a month ago
Childhood desire: I want to be popular and famous and for everyone to be my friend!
Adulthood desire: I want to be a cryptid and make people question whether I even exist.
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bffangel · a year ago
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Lorde, Ribs // Willow, The Anxiety, Meet Me At Our Spot // Tumblr User, @inkskinned // YaoYao Ma Van As // Chaka Khan // The More You Moe, The Moe You Know (Part I), Adventure Time // Tumblr User, @inkskinned (again)
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frenchly-anxious · 6 months ago
To all the people who have been told at some point to "grow up, because adulthood is nothing like that", let me tell you that today, I witnessed an impressive number of grown-ass people, all doing grown-ass jobs which sometimes imply life or death situations, who have family, responsabilities, mortgages and whatever, all getting excited and rushing to the cafeteria because "oh my god, they're serving french fries today!" One of them even did a celebratory dance right in front of me and to be honest, as probably the youngest person in the building at that time, it was oddly liberating. Don't listen to those people who tell you to grow up: no one really does and we're all pretty happy about it
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growinguparo · a year ago
what does an aroace future look like? i literally don’t know. none of us know.
the further i venture into adulthood, the more i realize just how much being aro(ace) sets me apart from my peers. i have friends who are married now. everyone else i know intends to get married except like one of my arospec friends. i have friends who are in long-term relationships who are buying things together, making financial investments into their future together. my single friends speak wistfully about the future they know they will have with their future partner.
me? i look into the future and see a huge question mark. 
i’m grey/aroflux and ace. if i were to end up in an traditional long-term romantic relationship, how would that look for me? my romance favourability/repulsion fluctuates immensely alongside the flux of my orientation, so i can’t picture any romantic relationship i’m in being stable for more than a few months. maybe a qpr? maybe, but i can’t picture myself wanting to be tied to and dependent on a singular person anyway; idk if that’s cuz of aromanticism or mental illness or neurodivergence or what. a queerplatonic polycule? that seems unrealistic to even think about, since so few people want qprs and so few people are polyamorous. 
or i could be single for life. it sounds deceptively simple, but what would that look like realistically? how would i get the support i need when all my friends are busy building their lives with their families (with or without children)? how would i avoid always feeling like a third wheel? what would i be building, if not a family of my own? how would i navigate an adult world that caters to married family units? i’m 22 and i don’t even have a ballpark idea of what i want to do with my life work-wise, so the idea of like, putting [the energy that would have gone into building a family] into my work seems doubtful. i think, personally, if i was single for life i would struggle hard.
i can’t picture what a happy aroace future looks like for me. that doesn’t mean i won’t have one - i fully intend to be happy and i do think it’s possible. i just don’t know how. and not being able to picture a future for yourself... if you know the feeling, you know how terrifying, empty, and hopeless it can be.
there’s no model for us aros. no destination. no roadmap. we don’t know where we’re going and we don’t know how to get there. it’s scary.
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projectadulthood · 5 months ago
How to Clean as an Adult
*** For more tips on how to *adult,* subscribe to, a weekly newsletter on growing up. Think of it as your instruction manual to adulting :) 
Growing up, Sundays were the days when my whole family cleaned. Everyone had chores they had to get through. Mine were dusting and cleaning the bathrooms. If I was really unlucky, I also had to water the plants and clean the windows.
Although the whole thing took two hours max, it ruined my day. On the bright side, our house was always spotless. However, when I moved away from home for college, I often avoided going home for weekends. Why? Because I did not want to spend my Sunday morning cleaning.
Having shared my living quarters with quite a few slobs since I can finally appreciate my parents' cleanliness. While I'm nowhere near as tidy as they are (and, let's be honest, never will be), I'd like to think that I do have a solid cleaning routine going -- which you'll find below.
I also want to share a few tips and tricks when it comes to cleaning. Turns out, the average American spends almost one full day cleaning a month. Hopefully, the advice below will help you cut down on the amount of housework you actually have to do.
How to clean
You don't need to clean so long that you turn into a skeleton. Instead, here's a handy checklist.
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Make the bed
Wash the dishes
Wipe down kitchen counters, table, sink, and stove
Sweep or vacuum the kitchen floor
Every other day
Change towels
Take out the trash.
Change bed sheets
Dust (tables, windowsills, etc.)
Mop the floor
Water the plants
Do laundry
Clean mirrors
Wipe down the microwave, coffee maker, etc.
Get rid of old food in the fridge.
Vacuum the mattress, by the ceiling (watch out for spiderwebs!), etc.
Clean the shower/tub.
A few times a year
Empty and clean the fridge and freezer
Clean the vacuum cleaner
Scrub tile grout in the bathroom
Clean the oven
Clean all the hard-to-reach places like behind the stove, fridge, etc.
Clean windows
Clean fixtures, like lamps and ceiling fans
Once a year
Get rid of expired meds
Organize the kitchen cabinets
Clean out drawers and closets
Defrost and clean freezer
Clean the baseboards
Wash your duvet, pillows, spreads, etc.
Cleaning hacks
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Power clean 15 minutes each day. This will prevent clutter. Ideally, you want to designate a "home" for everything you own so that you can put everything back in its proper place during the day (and, most importantly, at the end of the day). Speaking of putting things back, clean in such a way that doesn't require you to make an even bigger mess, i.e., piles of clothes. Always think: if I stopped in the middle of cleaning, would the room be cleaner or messier?
Clean up as you cook. Wipe the countertop, do the dishes, sweep up... That way, you won't have to deal with a pile of dirty dishes after dinner. Besides, most of the time, all you have to do when making dinner is stir (depending on the dish, of course), so you can save a lot of time this way. By the way, if you wipe down the stove after every time you use it, you'll never really need to clean it.
Layer two trash bags in the bin. When you take out the trash, the next bag will already be there. Your future self will thank you.
Use a sink strainer. Or get one immediately if your sink doesn't have one.A clogged-up sink is no way to start your morning. Also, invest in a suction cup sponge holder -- you don't want your kitchen sponge sitting in gross food water.
Microwave a lemon in water (in a microwave-safe bowl) for up to 5 mins to clean your microwave. Remove the bowl with oven gloves and clean the inside of the microwave. DO NOT microwave water on its own unless you want your microwave to explode.
Keep an open box of soda in the fridge. It'll absorb any nasty smells from old foods. Remember to change it out once in a while, though.
Boil half a lemon with some vinegar and water in your kettle. This will get rid of at least some of the buildup and freshen the kettle.
Simplify your laundry. For example, if you only have 20 pairs of black socks that are all the same, you won’t ever have to match them. Dumping them in your sock drawer is as far as you'll have to go when sorting clothes. When folding laundry, fold the largest items first, leaving socks, underwear, and other small items for the very end. That way, it’ll feel like you’re done with laundry faster.
*** For more tips on how to *adult,* subscribe to, a weekly newsletter on growing up. Think of it as your instruction manual to adulting :)
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brooklyn-not-nyc · 7 days ago
College is such an interesting experience. I can go pee when I want or skip class if I just can’t drag myself out of bed. I grab coffee with a professor and muse about how much I loathed the last essay prompt. I take naps, like I did back in kindergarten, between classes and work. I make friends and lose them in a singular night. I pet dogs that roam around campus and feed the cat in the sewer turkey. I watch professors break down over their pre-school child being positive for Covid. I make out with vaccinated girls on the weekends and spend the next two weeks trying to forget how amazing they are and how I want their future to be just as bright as their smiles. I see people that would always enthusiastically high five me between classes in the hallways of my old high school now give me tight lipped smiles & brief head nods around campus. I scroll through endless posts from my best friends that are 4 + hours away, happier than ever without me around. I gaze at the clock on my birthday knowing that the friends that once texted me at midnight on the dot now barely remember to, if at all, wish me a happy one. I see people grow and change and forget themselves as well as everyone they left behind.
College is an interesting experience because it feels like riding a bike as fast as you can in the summer, wind tousling your hair and the path before you is limitless but it also feels like screaming into a tear soaked pillow, head pounding from crying too much for too long and your bedroom is the only place that isn’t falling down around you.
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