I'm becoming a legal adult this summer, got any tips?
How to Adult, a summary by me. Not everything is in here but if I'd known this stuff at Legal Age instead of Calculus, I'd be a vastly happier person.
Learn about taxes, learn about Credit, never go into debt for anything that isn't a major appliance, car or house, no not for a commitment ring especially- moissanite is star-stuff and sparklier than diamonds anyway. Check your bank balance often, especially to make sure your automatic car payments go through.
Read "the Five Love Languages" and related books. Super duper helpful for communicating in any context, not just romantic love. THis'll help you keep jobs, mend relationships, be a better friend, and so on.
Never EVER take on a roommate/datemate because you feel sorry for them/want to help. TRUST ME. DO NOT.
Learn about clear communication with "I Statements", read up on Consent, learn about Boundaries, learn about codependence, and learn Dating/friendship Red Flags such as Manipulation, isolation, ultimatums, negging, and so on,
and until you're like 23 do not date anyone more than two years older than you, (no really, trust me they don't find you Mature/not like the Others, they find you vulnerable and they were looking for it, do not fall for it. You're fresh, young, and vulnerable, we all are at that age, and creeps hunt for young things to prey on. Just date near your age for a while.)
Unlearn your ableism, unlearn your racism, don't try to be too Woke, don't chase people who aren't pure enough with torches and pitchforks, watch out for white supremacists, and you'll be amazed what has roots in white supremacy. Take plenty of time off instagram/social media, it's fictional. Filters and lights, smoke and mirrors.
Antivaxxing is all about hating autistic people for something that isn't true- don't fall for it, or oils, or crystals. Use a certain amount of common sense re: modern medicine FFS. Lavender for peaceful rest, salve for a little infection, antibiotics for a bad infection, vaccines for not being stricken by the long term effects of horrible diseases. I don't care what your pastor says, they're not an MD and they do not know how vaccines are made. I guarantee anything they do know is outdated.
Thinking critically doesn't mean being "liberal" it means thinking critically- of all of it. Even the stuff you want to be true. Right, left, and center. Pay attention to what you KNOW... and what you're just repeating..
ALWAYS wear eye and lung protection for sprays and power tools. You have ONE pair of lungs and damage there can be cumulative. Be that annoying person who insists on safety, you'll save lives. Always wear a helmet if a helmet is suggested, never get on a motorbike with anyone not in leathers and a helmet, never ride in a car or vehicle without seatbelts.
NEVER drink and drive, for any reason. Uber exists now, or freaking walk to a hotel. Never drive too tired. Never drive with your phone in your hand. Other people want to live too. A drink every night or frequent bingeing can be functioning alcoholism. Don't be afraid to talk about it with a doctor. Weight =/= Health =/= moral superiority, make it into a wall poster if you have to. Your body doesn't have to be beautiful or even Healthy or Able to have worth, it is worthwhile because it contains YOU- I just happen to think all humans are pretty darn gorgeous, but it's not a qualifier for worth.
Weed can give you severe psychoses/mental health issues you didn't know you had latent, and make your existing mental illnesses worse, try a real doc and actual medication first. Keep your vaccines up to date. Always STD test regularly, and wear/use whatever protection. Doctors work for YOU. If one will not listen, especially if you're not a cis male, WALK OUT. (or crutch or roll. You know, as you do)
All that said, try lots of different jobs or activities responsibly, take that basketweaving class, try photography, rent a sewing machine from your library, buy that supersoaker you wanted as a kid and couldn't have, take that job shoveling poo to be allowed to ride the horses around the stableyard, work for a season on a tall ship, find out what Experimental Archaeology means, go learn to swordfight with a HEMA club...
have fun, be kind as you can, to as many people as you can, as much as you can, Yes even the ones who aren't as woke as you, are too religious for your taste, or have backwards ideas, or drive you nuts. Be Kind.
i came across this chef on youtube, june xie, who is the most creatively frugal cook i’ve EVER seen, and if you’re having a difficult time making your food budget stretch or thinking up new meals without spending a lot, you should really check her out. she’s done videos showing how she makes a week’s worth of meals for $25, $20, and even $15, as well as one for vegans and one for a low-carb diet.
sometimes her recipes include a lot of time and prep, or fancy equipment like a vitamix, but in this video she took a challenge to make a week’s worth of meals from a food pantry box and a produce share box, with minimal cooking time and no fancy equipment. she’s an amazingly skilled chef, but her food is super easy and accessible while still being really interesting, like a microwaved corn flake tamale pie.
she’s also super cute and funny, as well as pretty open about her mental illness issues, and when her partner isn’t around she ‘taste tests’ her dishes on her cat. even my short attention span loves watching her hour-and-a-half long videos.
you know how when the new year just happened and you'd write the date in your notebooks at school and you'd for the first few days keep writing the old year forgetting that you're in the new one? like 2009 even though it's 2010? today I typed 2022 when making work notes and it took me five whole minutes to realize it's still 2021. this, for the first time, writing a future date instead of a past one was so amusing to me but also made so much sense because of how crazy these last few years have been. before I used to get really surprised by how quickly the years would pass by. but now I've accepted it. fine it's 2023? I'll believe you.
If we want our clothes to last longer, we need to take good care of them. I've discussed washing your clothes by machine before, but I haven't talked about washing your clothes by hand yet.
Some reasons why you'd want to wash your clothes by hand:
No access to a washing machine
Clothes made from delicate materials
Garments with lots of embroidery
A need to save money, water, or electricity
New garment with running dyes
Bras that lose their shape when machine washed
Knowing how to wash your clothes manually is a useful skill. Let's take a look at how it's done!
Washing your clothes:
First of all, always check the labels in your clothes if you're not sure how to wash them. The symbols on these labels may vary by country, but most regions will use an icon of a hand reaching into a tub of water to indicate an item needs to be washed by hand.
Generally speaking, if an item can be washed by machine it can also be safely washed by hand. This is because machine washing is much rougher than hand washing.
Worried the dye on your garment might run? Do a spot check: get a moist cotton swab and rub it on a dyed spot on your garment that won't show if it's damaged. Did the colour rub off on your swab? Either take your item to a dry-cleaner, or soak it in a tub with cold water, vinegar, and salt to set the dye. If your cotton bud is still clean after your test, the dye probably won't run when you wash your item.
If an item is indicated as dry-clean only, submerging it in water is risky regardless of whether you're washing it by machine or by hand.
(Image source) [ID: symbol of a hand reaching into a tub filled with water.]
Once you know it's safe to wash your clothes by hand, you'll need water and detergent.
First check your item for stains: if it's very stained, it will have to pre-soak before you wash it. Use either cold or hot water depending on the type of stain. Not sure which to use? Check out this stain treatment guide.
Done soaking? It's time to get washing!
Fill a tub with water. If your care label specifies a temperature, then follow the label's instructions. If it doesn't mention anything, use tepid water.
Add about a teaspoon of detergent to your water. Try to find a gentle detergent that's suitable for hand washing. Baby shampoo or a gentle liquid soap will also do in a pinch. If none of those are options to you, you could also use plants containing saponine like soapwort or English ivy. Just make sure you're not allergic first.
Submerge your garment in your tub with water and gently swirl it around. Avoid scrubbing, twisting, or rubbing the fabric as it may damage your clothes. Do this for a few minutes until your clothes are clean.
Once you're done washing your garment, pour out your tub, rinse it to get rid of any leftover soap, then fill it with tepid water once more. Put your garment in this new water and rinse out the soap. The easiest way to do it is to pull it up from the water, then push it down again. Keep doing this until there's no more soap on your garment. You'll know you're done once no more bubbles appear when you submerge the item in water.
Repeat this rinsing process in a fresh batch of water if necessary.
Your garment is now clean!
Drying your clothes:
Once your clothes are clean, you'll have to dry them.
Start by carefully squeezing the excess water out of your garment. Be gentle, and don't wring your clothes as it may damage the fabric.
You'll either have to hang your clothes to dry, or lay them flat on a towel until they're dry. Which method to use depends on your garment.
Check your garment's label for drying instructions. What symbols you'll find will once again vary by country, but most regions will show some variation of a square with either a circle or lines in it.
Does your label have a square with a circle and dots inside of it? Your garment can be machine-dried, which means you can be pretty rough with it. Both line-drying and flat-drying are fine.
Does the square contain vertical lines? Your garments needs to be hung up to dry.
Does the box show a horizontal line? You'll have to flatlay your garment.
Does the box have diagonal lines? Whatever you do, dry your item in a shady spot. Sun exposure will fade your garment.
Does your garment come without instructions? If it's something you're used to tumble-drying, it can handle hanging on a line. If it's heavy, knitted, something with a lot of lace, or anything else that might turn out wonky when hung to dry, flatlay your clothes.
(Image source) [ID: four laundry symbols: a square with a circle and two dots, a square with three vertical lines, a square with one horizontal line, and a square with three diagonal lines.]
Now you know how to wash your clothes by hand! Remember: practice makes perfect. It becomes much easier once you've done this a few times.
What to Eat When You Know You Need Too But Just Can't Think About That Right Now
Do you have peanut butter or another nut butter? That + an apple + crackers covers protien, fat, and suger and gets you some plant matter. Even just a spoonful of peanut butter or your preferred alternative is better then nothing
Instant oatmeal, you can add dried fruit and/or peanut butter to add calories and protein which will fill you up longer
If you have veggies like carrots, broccoli, or cherry tomatoes throw them in a bowl and you can slowly snack on them. If you've got cheese and something like pepperettes congrats you now have a meal with most major bases covered
Instant ramen + an egg + any frozen veggies like peas or carrots. Just chuck the latter two in while you boil the water. Now you have something filling with veggies, carbs, and protein and it takes about the same amount of spoons and time as normal instant ramen
If solid food or the act of eating is an issue heat up some broth add any spices you'd like and stick it in a mug. If you've got the energy smoothies and shakes also work, if not meal replacement drinks can be a lifesaver
If you've got granola and yogurt then try the two together. The fat and protein in yogurt will give you more energy and keep you feeling full longer then milk
Haven't eaten in a long time and feel too gross to eat? Try drinking something sugary, your blood sugars probably nosedived and that causes nausea, dizzyness, and other unpleasant stuff that makes eating difficult, getting something sugary into you helps correct that and makes eating easier
In general if you find eating difficult anything with protien and fat will help you feel full longer, so if your struggling to eat try and go for foods with those because its going to lessen the shitty gross "I feel to hungry to eat" feeling that can happen. The most important thing though it to get food, any food is better then no food.
I'm really sad on the inside. And I know I'm not the only one. Everyone I know is sad too. So where is all the happiness? Where does the happiness go? Have we killed it with our expectations? Have we scared it away with all our hopes? Would it stick around if we did more than just dream and talk. Would I have my happiness beside me if I walked the talk? The opposite of sadness isn't happiness, is it though? The opposite of sadness is no sadness. At this point I'll take that. I'll accept that possibility, I'll be grateful for it. No sadness and no bad dreams. No sadness and no tears that sting. No sadness and no feelings of loneliness. Again, am I asking too much of sadness too? I mean, it does have to do its job after all. What is my job then? What must I do.
As if on cue, Meredith suddenly remembered the name of a woman that had helped her in her younger days. Meredith wasted no time providing Odessa the details she needed to locate the woman’s home in Glimmerbrook. Odessa followed Meredith’s instructions, but she forgot the most important instruction...do not disrespect Tempest.