#advice wanted

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

any tips for cane users? i just got mine and it's a little hard to get used to walking with it

I don't use a cane, myself (I was just passing on info I found online). But maybe others have actual tips.

#advice wanted #cane users

[thelaughingstag]

Your friendly neighborhood barkeep would like to ask your opinions.

TLDR: What would help foster a more active community in my virtual tavern?

I want to start by saying I am not coming at this from a "social media clout" standpoint. I want to foster a community of engagement and encouragement but here's what I've noticed.

There's getting close to 300 taverngoers! My notifications generally consist of taglist tags (THANK YOU keep adding me please!) and the occasional reblog or heart. Most of the latter are on the posts about writing advice. Totally understandable, a lot of the advice is spot on but... how can we encourage and interact more with our fellow writers?

I've tried a few posts asking for people to share/talk more about their work or show off another writeblr they like but those got pretty much zero engagement. What can I do to help writers connect with each other, interact with other work, and become a closer community?

I've been hesitant to share too much about my work/writing experiences because I don't want it to feel like I built this place as my stage but should I lead by example? I'm not super great at the 'social' part of social media lol.

I would love for my little tavern to be full of chatter and friendship!

#from admin hin #writeblr #writeblr community #advice wanted #lets build up the community!

[spotty-is-slumberous]

So… this is. A bit of an emotional post for me to make, and I’ve rewritten it a few times and cried over it far more, just because I’ve been feeling very lost and hopeless recently, and I just… really want some advice. Some suggestions. … Some comfort, even.

I turn 20 in April. I spent my last “milestone” birthday, the 18th, half-convinced that I was dying because I had undiagnosed POTS, narcolepsy, and intense chronic pain that genuinely made me feel like I was on death’s door… so, uh, I didn’t really do anything special for that birthday. Or my 19th, as I was also in very poor health… though I’ve now come to the understanding, two years later, that this “poor health” is just. Not ever going to get better.

I haven’t done something “big” for a birthday since I was a lot younger. And with the way things are shaping up for me, this might be the last birthday I’m able to share with my family before I’m inevitably kicked out because I just can’t keep up with college and the deal was I either stay in school or work to stay at home, and I can’t get a physical job for reasons that’ll become clearer later on.

So… This all to say, I’d like to do something “big” for this birthday. But… I have some pretty heavy restrictions. I don’t have a wheelchair (The cheapest one I have my eye on is about $300 out of pocket, and I just. Don’t have that money. Ive been trying to save up for that, though, as it would help me get an actual job + let me get out of my house more with significantly less worry… I’ve been begging my doctors to help me get it covered by insurance, but they claim that it’ll just make me regress, which is… a whole other issue) and can only walk maybe 5-10 minutes with a cane before I need to rest. If I push myself, I’ll be bedbound with blinding pain for the next day or so, or I’ll just straight up pass out — or, usually, both. The weather is turning warmer, and I have a severe case of heat intolerance, so I can’t be outside for long.

I’m not a fan of museums or aquariums or the like… Im not smart enough for escape rooms… Bowling is out. Most arcades are out. I don’t live in a very accessible town… I don’t really want to go and see a movie; that just doesn’t feel like “enough” of a thing to go and do… So, my point here is: Does anyone have any suggestions for what I could possibly go out and do? Just random local town suggestions… I like writing and reading and art and animals haha, if that helps spark anything…

Sorry if this is just… dumb. I probably won’t get a lot of answers anyway, I’m just… I want to do something. And I’d just like some suggestions… maybe some reassurance that it’ll get better someday, and I’ll be able to have a normal birthday again… I dunno’.

Thank you for reading :) and thank you for any suggestions

#spotty speaks #actually disabled #disabled #pots #postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome #chronically ill #advice #disability advice #young disabled #disability #disability community #I’m just… lost. I want to feel like a kid and just…. have fun. and not be a burden on anybody #I’ve been sobbing for like the past 30 minutes as I write this ugh #like I said… any advice or suggestions would be good :) #disabled community #disabled advice #advice wanted #suggestions wanted

[pink-fiat003]

Am I Starting to "Idolize" Mass?

I know it's an odd title, but hear me out. I have been Catholic for two years and was finally baptized this past Saturday (alleluia!). I had some really bad issues with my family since they're Muslim but nonetheless I'm finally here. I'm a college student and for the next term I want to take my classes to mostly online so I can go to the Catholic center on my campus much more and Mass. I'm even planning on working with the Church one day. But I've been having a pull that's gradually gotten bigger to where I just want to be in Mass and pray as much as I can. Like I'm still doing my studies perfectly fine, but I just feel so much more fulfilled and "at home" when I'm hanging out at the Catholic center and praying with others. Like I seriously wish I could just pray and go to Mass every day. I even want to try working/volunteering at a thrift store or food pantry so I can practice helping others. I pray to God every day to help guide me to the next stage in my life and guide me to what my purpose in life to do is. Maybe this is just what being a normal, devout Catholic is and I'm just surprised? Lol. I feel like I'm STILL ignoring a part of my heart even after taking the sacraments now. Either way please let me know if I'm going too far with this.

#catholic #christian #personal #advice wanted

[dyspunktional-revan]

Mobility aid advice wanted.

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Tl;dr: chronic pain in both legs, currently a cane user but supporting one side is not always enough, also have chronic pain in both shoulders and can’t put work on them.

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I have chronic pain in both my knee areas, plus some other weird leg stuff.

I currently use a cane, alternating between which side currently hurts more. But sometimes they both hurt too strongly, and sometimes I even actually have to put more weight on the leg that currently hurts more because something else makes walking with more weight on the leg that currently hurts less harder.

I also have chronic pain in both of my shoulders. I can’t use the grater, for example, recently stopped cutting vegetables for food prep too because pain. So I’ve known for many years that if I ever need a wheelchair, I’ll need a powerchair, because I won’t be able to self-propel on the manual. Several months ago I had an acute illness that made my leg pain much worse, I was very barely able to walk, and the force I had to put on my shoulders at the side holding the cane gave me so much shoulder pain. For what this post is about I was thinking about forearm crutches, but realized they might put the load on the shoulders too.

#mobility aid user #cane user #chronic pain #disability #disabled #physical disability #physically disabled #dyspunktional #crippled #cripple #crip #disabled community #disability community #visible disability #visibly disabled #mobility aid #leviathan.txt #advice wanted #advice needed #food mention #disabilityposting

[kicksnscribs]

Does anybody have any advice on how to make half of your bedroom into a study/workspace? I start school in a couple of weeks and im trying to set everything up proper but i only have my bedroom to work with and i need all the help i can get to make this work

#advice wanted

[genderdoe-sly]

having a literal allergic reaction to cuddling (a bit of kissing too) was NOT on my 2024 bingo sheet

(if anybody wants to offer advice tho other than 'take antihistamines' [which I did today when it was already happening] please do, but no dms)

#personal #posts by sly #autistic dating #hypo dermatagraphism #dermatagraphism #medical #medical stuff #allergies #autistic #autistic teen #advice wanted #please help me #aspec #a-spec #acespec #asexual spectrum #demisexual #demiaegosexual

[offmychest-official]

TW: Mentions of child abuse

16NB He/She/They from AITAblr has returned to say some shit.

So, I found out my dad's behavior wasn't normal and was infact abusive after 16 years of feeling like a horrible person because of a fucking tunglr post??? I am angry and mad and bitter and really really fucking sad. I thought with my entire being that every slap, body lock, hold and scream that was aimed at me was justified and moral. That I should feel bad and I should feel at fault for that. I thought "yeah, well, dad kind of sucks but he isn't abusive. Mom is great though." But guess what? Mom isn't great! And I just realized that too. She stopped me from calling the police when I was 9 or so when my dad was in a rage. And now I don't know what to fucking do. I was talking to my sister and she doesn't think he's abusive, just an asshole. I'm alone in this and I'm scared. I'm trying to figure out if I should confront him about this or not and if so how to do it. Everytime I mention that maybe, just maybe, he wasn't perfect all the time he comes up with 30 reasons why I'm wrong and 100 on why I should be quiet because I'm just a little kid who doesn't know anything. So yeah. I have no idea what to do. If anyone has any idea I'd be grateful if you'd share.

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#off your chest #child abuse #advice wanted

[pulltheotheroneithasbellson]

help, sewing side of Tumblr! so my sister hand sewed this adorable purrmaid and when she went and flipped it right side out, the two circled corners bunched up horribly.

how can we fix this?

my thought was that the corners need snipped a little, that there's too much fabric trying to bunch on those curves, but neither of us are accomplished at sewing.

#sewing #fabric crafts #hand sewing #purrmaid #help us obi-wan ke-tumblr you're our only hope #advice wanted

[delusionalculture-is]

not a culture, but hi! im the anon who posted this ask, if anyone has any advice, that'd be greatly appreciated!!! i struggle with speaking to others, so hearing advice from fellow delusion-havers would mean a lot to me! ♡

sorry if this ask isnt acceptable, or is off-topic.

This isn't at all off-topic, dw! Honestly, I've also been struggling with similar things, so I'd love to hear from other people as well :3

#delusional culture is #psychotic #actually psychotic #schizospec #schizophrenia #psychosis #delusional #advice wanted

[freedomofthemoon]

Advice wanted:

Anyone know of a not-terribly difficult/expensive way to end up with a notebook with the same thing printed on every page? Like an ethical site to order one from? Or DIY instructions, but if it's not extremely simple I will absolutely add it to the pile of things getting out off indefinitely.

I have been trying to document everything that's been happening at work, but it's a lot of info to keep track of every day. I'm very slow at typing on my phone and prone to distractions, so I think I'd be better off switching to physical pen and paper. It would save a lot of effort if I could just fill in blanks in a form every day and just circle stuff or fill in blanks for the simple stuff, like who was I'm charge at the time or what role I was assigned to that day.

If I could find such a thing, it would also make me way more likely to actually keep a journal tacking physical and mental health symptoms, which could be revolutionary. I am...not good at picking up on patterns (I was in high school before I learned that the phases of the moon marked on paper calendars aren't folksy predictions like a farmer's almanac) and however I feel in the moment is how it's always been and ever will be. Makes getting appropriate treatment challenging.

#journal #journalling #product recommendation #advice wanted

[baku-usagi]

Dear fellow autistics.

How do I apologize for saying something that hurt my partners feelings when I know I wasn't wrong?

What I said was technically correct and true, and due to some misunderstanding or what have you, they are hurt by it. I don't want to apologize, I don't know how I would without sounding like a jag weed. "sorry you feel that way" sort of shit. But I don't want to leave him feeling bad either.

What do I do?

#Autism #autism advice #Help! #advice wanted

[mxdnxght-moor]

I’ve gotta get this out there.

TW: vent (nothing too serious. Mentions of hopelessness and references to depression)

It’s really easy for me to feel incredibly hopeless right now. If I’m honest, I’m not doing great. I’m in an impossible situation and I have no idea how I’m gonna get out of it and make my life what I want it to be.

It’s a massive collection of things that pile up to make my life a living hell right now. I need a PURPOSE, a reason to make each day worth living. As of right now, I have no meaning. Nothing to my own name and nothing in my control.

I don’t have my diploma (bc of the pandemic yay), I never learned to drive (also the pandemic, but also driving anxiety that I’ve recently gotten over), and worst of all, I don’t have a job, mostly because of the prior two issues.

I need a way to fix this. I’ve applied to so many jobs around me, but since I can’t drive, I can’t apply to any that are too far which limits my options. It’s not as simple as “Oh, Virge! Just get a job!” like it’s THAT easy. It’s not. Not for my situation.

I need to get my GED, I need to get driving lessons, and I need to get a job. I at least need enough to get my GED and lessons, bc then I can take that and try to get a job. But how do I do that?

I’m not ashamed to say that I need help. I just have nowhere to get it. Nowhere that’s obvious or easily accessible, anyway. I could sell some of my art, whether that be my drawing or my writing. But how?

I’m getting real sick of this. Of being stuck like this. I need to get out of this. I just don’t know how.

#vent post #personal vent #tw vent #advice wanted #advice needed

[angrybatgaming]

I always feel kinda bad when I see a random sitting on a bench in Sky, and my anxiety stops me from interacting with them. Either that or, like tonight, I don't plan on staying on for very long. I'm just there to do dailies and a quick candle run.

But today I had someone light candles with me and repeatedly honk at and follow me around. If I didn't have work tomorrow, I would have gladly stopped to say hello. Now I feel like an ass for walking away...

Just me being self-conscious, but are there any emotes I can use to say "I really can't stop right now"? Or is it just better to keep moving. They were attempting to follow me EVERYWHERE. At least until I apparently reached a spot they couldn't go because of the spirit gate. Maybe I should have at least stopped to see what they wanted? I dunno...

FYI I have to get up Fridays and Saturdays at 4:30 am for work. So I keep game time on Thursday down to an hour or so if I play in the evening. No more than 2 hours.

#Sky: Children of the Light #rant #I feel like an ass right now #advice wanted #am I overthinking this? #I don't know how new they were #didn't really get a look at how many stars were on their cape #they had the default hair but wore one of the current season capes #and they had the bird call that sounds like a trumpet #I fucking hate anxiety #and I hate my conscience #gonna go punch Jimmeny Cricket now #you have NO IDEA how many damn videos I had to go through to find that one #most were Squidward saying jerk instead of the donkey sound playing #and others were a 'RIP headphone users' donkey sound #Youtube

[pink-fiat003]

Is This a Mortal Sin?

I come from a Muslim family and my relative is a Muslim but he isn’t fasting, so when I go out to eat and comes with me and insists it’s his life and can do what he wants. Which is fair, I’m not a Muslim. But that means I have to lie to my family about him fasting, and I feel so so bad even though I’m not a Muslim and they keep asking me because they take their faith really seriously, unlike him. Should I confess this? Is it just a white lie? They know I’m Catholic btw. They’ve caught him eating before so they’re even more suspicious of him now, and he went to my baptism even though he has no interest in converting at all. So I know they’ll think I’m influencing him but I’m used to them being upset with me. I just don’t want him to be pulled into it. Please let me know, thank you.

#posted from my Reddit account #catholic #christian #personal #advice wanted

[ladytitanium]

how do you motivate yourself to do something that's so big and scary you feel paralyzed with terror every time you even think about doing it but it's necessary

#the goodsola has spoken #legitimate question #advice wanted #please help me