#albeism

[spnfandomconfessions]

#spnfandomconfessions #albeism #fandom wank

[kodoandsangha]

[alt id] A man is leaning over a railing while a road and trees are behind him.

Verbiage says I bring a sort of traumatized vibe to the fam that the family who traumatized me don't really like

[end alt]

I'm officially NC with the fam. I have tried to make it work. I have only been met with attempted manipulation, gaslighting, anger and outright lies.

I am hurt and saddened. I've spent a lifetime of therapy attempting to learn skills that would be helpful in dealing with them only to have things progressively worsen rather than improve.

My mother, while claiming to understand my bisexuality, could not deviate from the thought of me being in a relationship with my best friend, despite me repeatedly telling her we're platonic.

She never came to terms with my neurodivergent co-morbidities despite me showing her the paperwork. No. Her response was to treat me like an outcast, something lesser because of it.

So, I'm entering the stages of grief where there's not denial or anger, but there's not quite acceptance either. Part of my brain feels like if I just gave it one more chance, things would be different. But I get that's the mindset of someone who has been abused. They don't change.

So, my midlife crisis is apparently learning to how to walk alone without family support of any kind and trying to learn how to build a found family that is proud of my accomplishments, supportive and periodically checks in on me to make sure I'm doing ok.

#mental health #neurodivergent #actually autistic #autism #autism in women #adhd #disability #lgbtq rights #albeism

[dougielombax]

I’ve been noticing that a lot of TERFs and radfems are also extremely ableist.

Not just towards the physically disabled but also those who are neurodivergent.

I’m hardly surprised tbh but it’s a deeply troubling thing regardless.

Of course. Their already existing transphobic bigotry is deeply troubling too.

But still.

#dougie rambles #personal stuff #trans rights #transgender #neurotypical ableism #bullshit #fucking morons #albeism #bigotry #being autistic #actually autistic #autistic #autistic things #autism #neurodivergent #vent post

[cray-cray-anime]

One thing I hate hearing when people talk about disabled adults is smth along

"They're actually a child on the inside"

Ignoring that scientifically can't be a "kid" on the inside. Like trying to compare them being disabled to being a child. It's just so patronising to disabled people and such a wrong way to think about children.

Whether it's neurological or physical or both, being disabled adult will never be the same as being a kid.

One needs support because they're still growing, the other needs support because they literally physically/mentally cannot.

Heck, even this infantilising disabled ppl happens where they talk and act like they're a little kid.

Help them unesscarily when they didn't even asked. Or stopping them from doing things they're capable of doing. Or talking slowly and loudly or not even bothering to talk to them and talk abt them like they're not there.

#cray-cray-anime post #disability pride #disability month #autism #adhd #physical disability #neurological disability #developmental disabilities #wheelchair #wheel chair user #epilepsy #learning disorder #amputation #multiple sclerosis #MS #infantilism #albeism #blind #intellectual disability #cerebal palsy #muscular atrophia #deaf #i see this being said more for adhd/autism; but heard also for physically disabled ppl #mental illness #visual impairment #patronising #ocd #schizophrenia #idk what else to tag #idk have too much feelings on this to expand on it well

[hchollym]

What are your thoughts on all the deaths in deathly hallows?

Short Version: I hate them, thanks. 👎

Long Version: Get ready for a rant...

I get that JKR wanted to show the cruelty of war and how innocents suffer. However, her choice of characters that suffered was suspicious and problematic (to put it mildly).

Remus = A werewolf (which JKR said was a metaphor for HIV/AIDS)

Tonks = A Metamorphmagus (a pretty obvious example of a nonbinary character, whether JKR admits it or not)

Dobby = A house-elf (which quite literally represents slaves, and he died protecting the white savior of the book)

Lavender = A traditionally feminine woman (who JKR made sure was repeatedly insulted for that throughout the books)

Alastor Moody = A disabled character (who likely had a mental illness as well)

Severus = The character who grew up in a household with a low socioeconomic status & was abused as a child

Don't get me wrong; I fully understand that marginalized people do tend to suffer more during times of crisis (like war), but it was highly unnecessary in this setting.

JKR claims to have killed off Remus & Tonks so that Teddy would be an orphan and the story would come full circle, but that's BS. She only added Tonk's pregnancy into Book 7 for that reason, and she could have easily made Fleur pregnant instead.

The readers had a strong connection to Bill & Fleur (after seeing their engagement and wedding), and they would have represented the tragedy & randomness of war - these were two young, talented, powerful people (who are still not immune to death) who were well-loved and had their whole lives ahead of them. This also would have killed off one of the Weasleys (which JKR was determined to do).

She also could have stayed with her original idea to kill off Arthur & Molly instead. They could have died during the battle (also representing the randomness of war & effectively killing two of the Weasleys), and if Molly died protecting Ginny from Bellatrix, then the books would have come full circle from Lily dying to protect Harry (since a mother's sacrifice was a huge focus in the series). It also would have given Harry & Ginny yet another thing to bond over.

But no, she chose Remus & Tonks instead - one of which was a character that had suffered (physically and emotionally) for most of his life, yet when he finally had the chance at happiness, he was killed. That's not a satisfying end to his character arc; it's cruel.

I understand some of her choices (like Fred), whether I like them or not, but I also hate the way she killed them off. Percy literally just reconnected with his family, and JKR made it so that he has to live the rest of his life riddled with survivor's guilt, blaming himself because he feels like Fred died because Percy distracted him.

Some people find this scene in the books to be "touching" because Percy made Fred laugh, so at least they had one last good moment before Fred died smiling, but I totally disagree. Percy will always be traumatized by this (way more than if Fred had died when he wasn't around Percy). On top of that, there's no way that the thought didn't at least cross George's mind (and probably others) that it was Percy's fault & should have been him instead (which Percy likely agrees with).

Percy was being punished for his past choices, and having a character grow and apologize for their mistakes just to make them suffer mentally for the rest of their life is also not a satisfying ending to their arc; yet again, it's just cruel.

The point is that some characters needed to die (that's a commentary on war), but it didn't need to be - and shouldn't have been - the ones that JKR chose.

Thanks for the ask! 😊

#ask me #anon ask #anti jkr #anti jk rowling #deathly hallows #hp #tw: homophobia #tw: racism #albeism #misogyny #my thoughts #my opinion #remus x tonks #percy weasley defense squad #remus lupin

[puraiuddo]

Hey disabled folks! Here’s your reminder to advocate for yourselves no matter how difficult!

Because...

18 months after being fired from a job where I was treated horribly and my requests for disability accommodations were ignored, leading to a severe deterioration of my condition (horrific pain, multiple emergency room visits, countless doctor’s appointments, and 4 months of twice-a-week physical therapy)...

11 months after filing a disability discrimination complaint with the state government...

And 10 full months of continuous back-and-forth legalese where I was forced to drudge up evidence of how I was mistreated, listen to the company’s various attempts to character-assassinate me, and spend quite a few nights wondering if it was all worth it...

I finally got the ruling of PROBABLE CAUSE, which moves my case to a settlement or a public hearing.

And now the wretched, ableist scumbag who trampled all over my rights and health for over a month has been caught red-handed and is now officially responsible for her company forking out thousands of dollars to me and/or dragging its name through the mud in a public forum.

Let me tell you: VICTORY IS SWEET and worth every minute of the battle to get there.

#albeism #disability #disability discrimination #disability advocacy #purs post

[burning-thistles-bt]

#lolling memes #bt memes #feathercloud #featherkit #snowkit #snowpaw #snowflight #deaf character #deaf characters #burning thistles #burning thistles au #albeism

[saybiwithme]

Extremely baffled by someone on tik tok saying that disabled people should be cured to not inconvenience others and then saying it’s ‘compassionate’ like no it isn’t??? Fuck right off.

#albeism #speaking as someone with epilepsy what the fuck #they also said ‘I don’t use pronouns’ and said trans people weren’t people like omg bro what the actual hell

[bunnylemonn]

seems that my mother's view is that it is perfectly okay and healthy to say that you're disabled.

so long as you don't acknowledge and accept the limits of your body because of that disability bc that's just accepting defeat and giving up.

#albeism #actually disabled #disabled #disability pride #cpunk #amazing that my disabled mother speaks in nothing but ableism #sick and tired

[imjustangryandbored]

I could talk about being severely abused as a child and an ❤️‍🩹🥺empath🥺❤️‍🩹 would pop up and tell me about how my abusers must be narcissists

#you’re talking to one.. #empaths #empath abuse #empaths are being albeist again #albeism

[gremlin-in-your-gears]

Ok hot take but lack of sunglasses on pi crew and lack of wheelchairs is low-key albiest

#picrew #albeism #wheelchair #sunglasses

[kodoandsangha]

"You seem normal on here, for what it's worth"

Internet conversation.

Talking about how I had a really rough day yesterday with my autism and ADHD.

I wasn't communicating effectively, was having difficulty processing. It's left me emotional today - small menty b territory.

I mentioned it in a public forum. Someone actually replied the heading to me.

I can't even. Suddenly, I'm not normal for disclosing? What the fuck dude?

#autism #adhd #actually autistic #autism in women #neurodivergent #albeism #mental health

[milly-the-devil]

I hate when I’m reading or watching a story that ends up defining characters by their humanity. You know some dehumanization and ableism is right around the corner and I fucking hate it. 

#writing #dehumanization #albeism

[shonpota]

Not to be albeist but I think when I said my disability makes me feel like a dead person, I do mean it. I sometimes can't feel or even move from head to toe and my head, neck, tongue and chest can hurt a lit and i can't even shut my eyes. I wonder if dying feels like this. This is from personal experience and I wish people stop invalidate it.

Sometimes even being alive on next day is a relief.

#albeism #disability

[insight7out]

Discrimination: Breaking Down Barriers

Discrimination is a word that carries a lot of weight. It's a problem that has been around for centuries and continues to affect millions of people around the world. Discrimination can take many forms, including racism, sexism, ageism, and ableism, among others. It is a social problem that is deeply rooted in our history and culture, and breaking down the barriers of discrimination requires a going effort from individuals and society as a whole.

At its core, discrimination is about treating people differently because of their race, gender, age, ability, religion, or other characteristics that make them different from the majority. Discrimination can be overt or subtle, intentional or unintentional, but its effects are always harmful. Discrimination can lead to unequal opportunities, unequal treatment, and unequal outcomes, and it can have serious consequences for individuals, communities, and society as a whole.

One of the most common forms of discrimination is racism, which is the belief that some races are superior to others. Racism has a long history in many parts of the world, and it continues to be a problem today. Racism can take many forms, from overt acts of violence and hatred to subtle forms of bias and prejudice. It can lead to racial profiling, unfair treatment, and unequal opportunities, and it can have serious consequences for the mental health and well-being of those who are targeted.

Another form of discrimination is sexism, which is the belief that one gender is superior to another. Sexism can take many forms, from gender-based violence to unequal pay and opportunities in the workplace. It can also lead to gender stereotypes and biases that can have a negative impact on individuals and society as a whole.

Ageism is another form of discrimination that is often overlooked. Ageism is the belief that one age group is superior to another, and it can have serious consequences for older adults who may be excluded from employment, healthcare, and other opportunities because of their age.

Ableism is discrimination based on a person's disability or perceived disability. Ableism can take many forms, from physical barriers that make it difficult for people with disabilities to access public spaces, to negative attitudes and stereotypes that perpetuate stigma and exclusion.

Breaking down the barriers of discrimination requires ongoing effort and commitment from individuals, communities, and society as a whole. This can involve education and awareness-raising to help people understand the harm that discrimination causes, as well as policies and laws that protect against discrimination and promote equality and inclusion.

It's important to recognize that discrimination is not just an individual problem, but a social problem that is deeply rooted in our history and culture. To truly break down the barriers of discrimination, we must work together to create a more just and equitable society for all.

In conclusion, discrimination is a serious problem that affects millions of people around the world. Whether it's racism, sexism, ageism, or ableism, discrimination can have serious consequences for individuals and society as a whole. Breaking down the barriers of discrimination requires ongoing effort and commitment from all of us, and it's up to each and every one of us to do our part to create a more just and equitable world.

Harshit 

#discrimination #racisim #sexiscm #communities #albeism

[mirrorofliterature]

amatonormativity is one of the most harmful forces in society, actually.

it’s incredibly structural, and invisible, and if you don’t live outside striving for the monogamous ideals, it can be incredibly normalised to a very toxic extent

amatonormativity:

- contributes to abuse (people staying in relationships because they are manipulated into thinking that some romantic relationship is better than none)

- high divorce rates

- unhappy marriages

- unhappy relationships

- inability to live alone

- devaluing of friendship

- is underpinned and underpins ableism (disabled people’s humanity is often judged on their capacity for sex and love, particularly romantic)

idk, maybe we should take this seriously? all a lot of freedom movements - particularly feminism - are striving for are giving people choice on what to do with their lives.

amatonormativity is the societal norm. it is real, it is not good for anyone. relationship anarchy is cool.

anyway.

#amatonormativity #aphobia #arophobia particularly #and discussing the social stigma on polyamory obliquely #tw abuse mention #divorce #I just think measuring how human someone is based on anything other than the fact that they are alive is always going to end badly #I saw a post earlier saying that aphobia is largely albeism #and oof I agree #particularly when it comes to people who have disorders like NPD or BPD #they are so dehumanised #like just treat other humans with basic respect and dignity? #literally the bare minimum