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teleportzz · 6 months
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hey guys do the allos know that they can have qprs too? like do they know that being alloromantic doesn't mean they can't choose to be in a qpr anyway? because qprs aren't "romance-lite" for aros, they're an entirely separate kind of relationship that anyone can have. you can do this with fictional characters too. you can put characters that aren't aroace or are even canonically dating in qprs with each other just because you think that would be a cool way to play with their dynamic. it's actually very cool and you totally should.
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itsseaberri · 1 year
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ok so i totally like JUST figured out that i am a sex/romance-favorable aroace person from this random-ass chart i found on reddit omg
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i'm definitely more romance-favorable than sex-favorable tbh tho. i probably lay somewhere between sex-favorable and sex-indifferent if we wanna get specific with it
but like!!!! i have never seen anything that described my particular experience with romance/sex so accurately before i feel so seen lmao
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queer-for-science · 1 year
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One of my closest friends I aroace, and he's talked to me about the experience of being made to feel like he's missing out on something or getting left behind in a way when his loved ones enter romantic relationships. But it really hit home for me how much he deals with and expects this recently when I started dating someone new after being single for a few months and I wanted to share.
During the months I was single, we got a lot closer and we both relied on each other more to have our needs for love fulfilled. For example, we both have physical touch as a primary love language, so we did a lot of platonic physical affection and cuddling. We became main supports in each other's lives even more than before. But the day I told my friend about my new partner and my friend met him, he seemed to kind of instantly back off a bit. He and my partner get along really, really well too. He mentioned that he didnt expect my partner and I to make the hour drive to visit him as often because "it's not like the nature of y'alls relationship". I'm having difficulty explaining, but it was apparent that my friend expected to be taking a back seat to this new relationship in my life despite the fact that I know my friend way better and that broke my heart a bit. I immediately thought, how many times has he had to deal with that? How many beloved friends has he lost to this situation? That must be so horrible to go through! I still very much consider him one of my closest supports and while I know it would never be a necessary choice I would absolutely choose him over a partner I haven't had nearly as much time with. I really want to find a way to tell him that he isn't any less of a priority to me just because I'm not single anymore and I think it's important for us alloromantics to remind our aro and aroace friends of things like that. It's even more important to stick to that statement and show them we mean it.
My aroace friends, you deserve people in your life that prioritize you and engage in the kinds of intimacy you need. You deserve just as much closeness and love as anyone else and you will find it if thats what you want. You don't deserve being put on the back burner when your loved ones get into new romantic relationships and it's really shitty that so many people do that.
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onioneyez · 7 months
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Oh hey! Now that I have more followers I can get a better sample size!
Please fulfill this Aro’s whimsical yet endearing curiosity ✨👀
(And even I’ve had 2, but all before age 10. Wonder how common that is?)
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What challenging amatonormativity is:
Emphasizing that there are more types of relationships than just romance
Spreading positivity for people who choose to remain single
Explaining how platonic relationships can be just as deep and meaningful as romantic ones
Deromanticizing actions like hugging, kissing, and other forms of physical intimacy
Talking about the ways that society devalues friendships in favor of romance
What challenging amatonormativity isn’t:
Claiming that friendship is so societally devalued that there’s no way aplatonics can face discrimination or stigma for being friendless
Accusing alloromantic aplatonics of being inherently amatonormative because they care more about their partners than friendship
Claiming that people are faking being aplatonic to get out of accusations of amatonormativity
Implying that you must love your friends and be friends with your romantic partners
Associating aplatonicism with aromanticism because you can’t comprehend someone who’s interested in romance but not friendship
All of these are things I have seen. This is not how to go about your activism. Don’t forget aplatonics, especially alloromantic ones.
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via-rant · 19 days
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FUCK IT!!!
Shout out to all my Aromantic Boys and Men!!
Shout out to all my Asexual Boys and Men!!
Shout out to all my AroAce Men and Boys!!
Shout out to all my Alloromantic Boys and Men!!
Shout out to all my Demisexual Boys and Men!!
Shout out to all my Greysexual Boys and Men!!
Shout out to all the other ones I haven't mentioned!!
You all are very much appreciated in my book!!!
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raethereptile · 1 month
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Advocating for palm kissing to be recognised as the highest form of physical intimacy
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I need the alloromantic queers to learn that amatonormativity will not help them.
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our-aroace-experience · 4 months
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So years and years ago I remember seeing that different ace orientations were connected to ace playing cards. Alloro was the ace of hearts, but I don't remember anything else.
Is that still a thing?
i haven’t seen them around as much anymore but as far as i know they are still used sometimes!
for context, aspec people sometimes use playing cards to represent their identities, here are what the different cards mean
Ace of hearts- asexuals who feel romantic attraction
ace of spades- aroace people
ace of diamonds- demisexual and greysexual, or anyone who isn’t 100% ace or 100% allo
ace of clubs- questioning aspecs
the reason they aren’t used as much anymore is because not everyone who is aspec will fit into these 4 categories, but if you want to use them, feel free!
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animeomelette · 10 months
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celestial-artisan · 17 days
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Cakes and sexuality
There's a buffet restaurant full of cakes of all sorts- The two most popular ones are the chocolate cake and the cheesecake, but there are many others as well. Cakes are also sorted into two types, ones with a stronger flavor and ones with weaker flavors.
When you enter the restaurant, you get a ticket saying 'typical menu', with one of the popular cakes written on it.
Heterosexual: You eat the cake written on your ticket.
Homosexual: You eat the cake not written on your ticket.
Bisexual: You eat both. It's a buffet, so why not?
Omnisexual: All cakes are great, but you do take note of the flavor before you eat it.
Pansexual: You don't care about what flavor the cake is- Cake is cake. You can even put a blindfold around yourself and eat whatever you feel like.
Polyamorous: You eat two cakes at once, flavor of your choice, because why not? The combination's nice.
Demisexual/demiromantic: You need to know enough about the cake before wanting to eat it. You don't feel the urge to eat random pieces of cake.
Asexual, alloromantic: Cakes with strong flavors aren't to your taste. You go to the line of cakes with weaker flavors and pick one you like.
Asexual, aromantic: Cakes aren't for you. This doesn't mean you hate people who like cakes. You go to a different restaurant and have whatever food you like.
It's that simple. Cakes. Everyone has different preferences, and it's nothing to get worked up about. Basic common sense to simply respect each other, right?
Unfortunately, this isn't what's happening in our world. Just because you eat the cake not written on the ticket, people are condemned, berated, and abused. You're deemed wishy-washy or a fake when you say you like to eat more than one cake. People don't understand when you say weak-flavored cakes are fine- "Why can't you eat the strong ones, then? Those are 'real' cakes!" You're either called a cold-hearted psychopath or swamped with people trying to find you 'the cake' that can 'warm you up' when all you want is no cake.
But I want to tell everyone reading this, you're not alone. Whatever way you want to eat(or not eat) your cake(s), I fully support you. 'Cake is cake', and people who don't like cakes or can't eat them? Cool!
Have a nice day and don't be deterred by whatever may block your way- I'm sending a week full of good luck to you!!!!!! :D
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creapysummer · 1 year
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things that my allo friends don't understand
-I want to date people but I don't want to kiss people
-I want to date people but I don't actually want to date people
-aesthetic attraction
-I find people pretty but would never want to be romantically involved
-physical looks aren't the only thing I find attractive about people
-I find people attractive but im aroace
-shirtless people scare me
-I find hands really attractive
-VOICES ARE A BIIIIGGGGG THING FOR ME
-not just how their voice sounds but also their manner of speaking like the rhythm that they talk to
-i just want to say; running/messy makeup especially eye makeup SDJFKKSK
-I kind of want to be people I find attractive
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ace-culture-is · 7 months
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alloace with no ace friends culture is your friend sending you a picture of a person you find aesthetically attractive and awkwardly replying 'step on me' (or something of the like) because you are completely unable to articulate your grand desire to cuddle with them until you melt and that's how your friends respond to attractive people. (bonus points if you don't understand the appeal behind being stepped on but still use the phrase frequently despite this.)
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arthyritis · 2 months
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Allo = not aromantic OR asexual OR on either of those spectrums.
Aroace = aromantic/asexual or anywhere on BOTH of those spectrums.
Aroallo = aromantic/spec and allosexual.
Alloace = alloromantic and asexual/spec.
Hate of any sort will not be tolerated on this poll. This is out of simple curiosity from an aroace person. No obligation to reblog, but it could make a difference :)
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FINALS
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Jonathan's art made by cleonaturin on Artstation.
Propaganda under the cut
Why vote Tori Spring:
(by @secretlyafrog7)
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Why vote Jonathan Sims:
(by @twinkle-twinklesilmaril)
He's confirmed biromantic ace by the creator
He loves cats
He's too curious for his own good
He reads statements about supernatural occurrences as if he's living them himself then dismisses them (to convince himself he doesn't believe them)
He is both intelligent and an idiot
His voice is amazing
His hair is prematurely greying (probably due to stress)
He has nice character development (in my opinion)
I'm currently enjoying The Magnus Archives (I'm in the 9th story right now), this contest made me discover it! He's the most submitted character and he gets a boyfriend. So yeah, that's what I wanted to add!
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Are you...
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Alloromantic is an umbrella term for people who experience romantic attraction or are not on the aromantic spectrum. Alloromantic people regularly experience romantic attraction to other people.
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