#alloromantic ace

[ace-culture-is]

alloromantic asexuality culture is being expected to hate romance and dating and stuff when in reality you are a hopeless romantic and just don’t want anything sexual in a relationship

#alloromantic #alloromantic ace #alloace #asexuality #asexual #ace culture #ace culture is #actually ace #anonymous

[leikeliscomet]

Ik i said there wasnt an overall alloace experience but I think one thing that gets me is the idea of the hopeless romantic and how I... kinda don't care? I feel iffy about how much alloace content assumes every non-aro SAM ace is automatically a hopeless romantic. I think the assumption is alloace = experiences predominantly romantic attraction bc of little to no sexual attraction = obsessed w/ romance and romance favourable. Like it matters to an extent yes but its not the be all and end all of being alloace. We're still ___romantic when we're single and unpartnered. We have asexual experiences that don't centre romance. I wanna have convos about asexuality that don't begin and end with "no sex :( but its okay there's still romance :D" Same goes for alloaros too. Not all of them are sex favourable. Plus its just weird to assume allo = experiencing sexual/romantic attraction 24/7 when wbk non-aspec people have periods where they don't have sex or date so why would you project that onto your fellow aspecs? Ugh...

#it just feels backhanded how so “its okay they'll still date you to make up for their sexlessness :)” is considered alloace positivity #everyday dating dating dating there's other stuff too pls #she's doing ace posts instead of sleeping again your honour #alloace #alloromantic ace #alloromantic asexual #asexual #asexuality

[playing-my-ace]

I’m tired of the rhetoric that one of my identities cancels out the other.

That because I’m asexual, I can’t have significant relationships.

That a sexless romantic relationship is the same as a friendship and not as important as a sexual relationship.

That without giving my body and physical intimacy, I don’t have anything to offer.

That I’ll never be able to understand love and intimacy.

That I’m not straight enough to fit in that group, but not gay enough to belong in those spaces either.

I’m just tired.

#sometimes I wish I wasn’t ace #it’s not fun having an identity surrounded by discourse #I’m not claiming oppression either and I know other identities have it worse #but I’m allowed to complain about the struggles of being ace #ace #asexual #asexuality #ace discourse #romantic asexual #alloromantic #alloromantic asexual #alloromantic ace #actually ace #actuallyace #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbt #actually asexual #gay #lesbian #lgbtq+ #ace visibility #ace rants #homoromantic #biromantic #ace lesbian #asexual lesbian #gay ace

[aroosprey]

Ace, Aro, OR BOTH?

I have made some ace/aro pride sea monsters,,, as a treat

edit: just so you know this artwork is made by an aroallo artist who doesn't appreciate being erased

tagging it as aspec/aro/ace and nothing else is fine, but if you're gonna tag aroace, don't exclude the other intersections represented here

#aromantic #aro #aroace #aromantic asexual #aroallo #alloaro #aromantic allosexual #asexual #ace #alloace #aceallo #alloromantic asexual #bright colors #lgbtqia #pride art #art #sea monsters #digital art

[fun-k-boards]

EDIT : Sorry if your identity isn't on here, I can't edit the poll after it's been published. If I make another poll like this I'll be sure to add more so more aspec people can be included in the vote, apologies.

EDIT 2 : You guys do know that you can just say no, right? There's no need to backpedal and run around in circles, it is honestly not a nuanced question. Do you think there's too much romance that commonly comes across as forced, or not? If it's a no, then answer no.

#aromanticism #aromantic #aro #asexuality #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #aspec #arospec #acespec #allosexuality #allosexual #allo #alloromantic #alloaromanticism #aroallo #aceallo #alloace #alloaro

[aro-crple-butch]

let ace people exist. let aro people exist. let aroace people exist. let alloace people exist. let aroallo people exist.

leave them be if they choose to have sex. leave them be if they choose not to have sex.

leave them be if they choose to have romance. leave them be if they choose not to have romance.

leave them be if they prioritize friendship. leave them be if they do not prioritize friendship.

leave us be, and let us live our lives.

#aspec #a spec #aromantic #aro #aro spec #aromantic spectrum #asexual #ace #ace spec #asexual spectrum #aroace #aro ace #aro/ace #aromantic asexual #aroace spectrum #alloace #allo ace #alloromantic asexual #aroallo #aro allo #aromantic allosexual #not a reblog

[our-aroace-experience]

So years and years ago I remember seeing that different ace orientations were connected to ace playing cards. Alloro was the ace of hearts, but I don't remember anything else.

Is that still a thing?

i haven’t seen them around as much anymore but as far as i know they are still used sometimes!

for context, aspec people sometimes use playing cards to represent their identities, here are what the different cards mean

Ace of hearts- asexuals who feel romantic attraction

ace of spades- aroace people

ace of diamonds- demisexual and greysexual, or anyone who isn’t 100% ace or 100% allo

ace of clubs- questioning aspecs

the reason they aren’t used as much anymore is because not everyone who is aspec will fit into these 4 categories, but if you want to use them, feel free!

#our aroace experience #aroace asks #asexual #aromantic #aroace #ace pride #aro pride #ace #aro #questions #demisexual #greysexual #alloromantic #aspec

[entropy-sea-system]

If you're alloace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than aros. If you're aroace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than non-ace aros including alloaros! If you're alloaro, you need to understand that rep for non sam aros, neu aros, etc. Is practically nonexistent. And so on.

If you're aro and/or ace and allotertiary you need to fucking understand that atertiaryspec ppl like aplatonics are also not represented at all despite being part of the aspec!! Yes we all need rep. Yes aspec rep as a whole is needed more regardless of the identity! But please don't erase the fact that some of us literally have way less rep than some other aspec identities and respect that we are allowed to be upset about how we are ignored in favor of another aspec identity all the fucking time.

#aspec #asexual #ace #alloace #aromantic #aro #alloaro #non ace aro #atertiary #anonrose #aspec rep #a spectrum #a spec #aroace #aromantic asexual #aromantic allosexual #alloromantic asexual #arospec #aromanticism #acespec #aterspec

[redysetdare]

I keep seeing posts where people are saying "Valentines doesn't effect asexuals!" "romantic relationships have nothing to do with asexuality!" And while i understand the point they are making is to stop conflating Aromanticism with Asexuality, it is still extremely annoying to find people don't understand the nuance that comes with asexualities connection to romance - because it DOES have a connection to it. It DOES have problems in relation to romance. To say it doesn't is ignoring a huge set is experiences that ace people face.

One of the most common experiences for asexuals is the struggle to be in romantic relationships because they are asexual. a lot of romantic relationships expect you to have sex. if you're someone who doesn't have sex then unfortunately that causes a lot of people to lose interest in you romantically as well.

There's also non-sam aces, and let me tell you it's so very strange to hear someone bring up non-sam aros but then ignore the existence of non-sam aces in order to prove some point of it somehow being ace peoples fault that aro and ace are viewed as the same. Some non-sam aces do not date either. they are still ace and they can still face similar problems to aromantic people because of that. they are still effected my amatonormativity.

Aces DO have connection to romance. Asexual DID have a reason to trend on valentines day along with Aro and Aroace. Asexuality is effected my romance and amatonormativity. Sop acting like it isn't. stop acting like aros and aces have absolutely nothing in common. We can work together and have similar experiences and still be seen as separate identities. there is overlap. stop treating this as black and white where one identity can only be effected by one kind of problem. It's naive at best and down right hateful at worse.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #i might get hate for this one but as an aroace who for a while was a non-sam ace (before i found out about aro) #romance DOES effect aces #not in the same way that it effects aros but #treating aces as if they can never know or understand amatonormativity and have never faced similar issues? idk it's ignorant to me #some of the way ppl in the aro community talk about asexuality and aroace identities is just...idk frustrating #i understand the frustration on their end but also i need you all to not fall down the rabbit hole of becoming acephobic #and blaming ace people for all the problems that allos caused #and understand there is nuance to identities and just because someone is asexual alloromantic #doesn't mean they aren't effected by amatonormativity or that they have no issues related to romance at all #asexual and Aromantic are not the same thing but also stop acting like they have no overlap at all period #we used to help each other man. stop throwing some of us under the bus to try and make a point #romantic expectations are not an aro only problem

[ace-culture-is]

ace culture is planning to tell your parents you just don’t want to get married ever instead of actually coming out to them

alloromantic ace culture is planning to say that but it being a lie

#asexuality #asexual #ace culture #ace culture is #actually ace #anonymous #alloromantic ace #allo ace

[leikeliscomet]

In the same way allosexual =/= always having sex, alloromantic =/= always dating. There is no overall alloace experience because who and how aces have romantic attraction varies. Lumping gay, bi, pan & lesbian aces with straight aces in terms of privilege when homophobia is still alive and well, when compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity... are directly tied to compulsory heterosexuality doesn't make any sense.

#which alloaces get to date freely? which alloaces get to be 'pure uwu' beans u speak of cus its really not everyone #aspec community would benefit from reading up on theory from other queer identities bc there's a lot more similarities then they think #alloace #asexual #alloromantic ace #asexuality

[accelldraws]

I noticed that many of your characters are part of LGBTQ+. I wonder if Miya is too. If so, what is she? Or will this be revealed in a comic later?

Totally not going for Val and Miya ship.

you may assume everyone is pan until otherwise specified :)

#misc #im ace/aro so i probably wont be writing many romance arcs #but it is fun to tease the alloromantics hehe

[sunoficarus]

This is a PSA: ACE ≠ ARO

I’m both tired but also kinda of sad to see the same stuff constantly getting mistaken, ESPECIALLY because I see it THE MOST from THE QUEER COMMUNITY

ASEXUALS ARE NOT ALWAYS AROMANTIC

I really can’t believe I have to say this but asexual just means no sexual attraction. Asexuals can be Aromantic or Arospec, but they can also be alloromantic!!

like, asexual people can totally have different boundaries for what qualifies as romantic or sexual in nature, that’s fine, but painting all asexual people as not interested in romantic stuff not only invalidates a lot of ace experiences, but it also erases Aromantic experiences.

Aromantic and Asexual are SEPARATE IDENTITIES

#Asexual #ace #asexual culture #acespec #aspec #aromantic #aromantic men #aro #aromantic culture #aromanitc #arospec #aroace #aromantic asexual #aromantic allosexual #alloromantic asexual #aroallo #alloace #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #lgbt pride #lgbtq community #queer community #lgbtqplus #lgbtqiia+ #pride #queer pride #ace pride #asexual pride

[iread-studies]

My Italian university just published a magazine AND one of the articles is by an endocrinologist who talks about the causes of asexuality AND he says that sometimes it's caused by illnesses but it's also a valid sexuality.

You guys, he mentions the spectrum!! He mentions alloromantic asexual people!!! He mentions demi and greysexuality!!!

I don't think I've ever seen anything similar in print in Italian. AND BY A UNIVERSITY.

I'm so excited.

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I don't want to dox myself so if you'd be interested in reading it (it's in Italian) DM me.

#asexuality #alloromantic asexual #demisexual #greysexual #ace #studyblr #uniblr #collegeblr

[freebagels]

Fandoms be like

You see, if these characters desired each other carnally, it would prove that the feelings they share for each other are not platonic but romantic. Because obviously that's the only way how it works.

#ace #asexual #aromantic #aroallo #aspec #like...yeah #yep #uhuh #i mean it both ways for alloromantic aces and aromantic allos

[like-this-post-if-you]

like this post if you’re asexual and alloromantic (basically anything besides aromantic), or aromantic and allosexual (basically anything besides asexual)

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#asexual #alloromantic #aromantic #allosexual #queer #lgbtqiia+ #ace #aro #likes #askboxlikes