#allosexual aromantic

[ugly-anarchist]

Why is it that when I talk about a personal experience involving alloarophobia perpetuated by an asexual, people are very quick to go "No! That person wasn't ace! They were just lying to troll you! They just wanted their argument to seem more valid!"

Like... no. There's plenty of aces that fully, 100% think alloaros don't belong in the aspec community. There's aces that have some absolutely rancid takes about aros. There's aces who actively speak over aros about our issues and act like authorities on aromantic stuff despite not being aromantic themselves. There's aces who use us as scapegoats. There's aces that view aromantics as sad losers or psychopathic monsters. There's aces that believe romantic love is what redeems sexuality and makes someone a good person/human.

You wanna know why there are aces like this? Because they're not aromantic or they're not alloaro. Because society deems these views to be correct and they have no reason to unlearn it, especially because in some cases it benefits them.

Like, I get it. You wanna believe the aspec community is just acceptance, peace, and happiness for all, but people are still people. People can be cruel, people can be hateful, people can have cognitive dissonance so strong it burns away all their braincells and they just parrot their own oppression back to other even less acceptable identities because they want to feel better about themselves.

These people exist, stop saying they don't.

#alloarophobia #alloaro #aroallo #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aro #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual #aspec

[pansyboybloom]

there's nothing wrong with being a man and wanting to sleep with men and not date them. it doesn't make you proof queer men are sex-crazed. there's nothing wrong with being a woman and wanting to sleep with women and not date them. it doesn't make you proof queer women are predatory. being alloaro doesn't make you a derogatory stereotype. you deserve respect, no matter what

#alloaro #aroallo #aromantic #aro #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual #gay #bisexual #pansexual #lesbian #mlm #wlw

[aro-crple-butch]

As someone who is aroallo I find it interesting (in a negative way) that everytime a non-canonically aspec character says something that either implies or states they aren't interested in romance, a relationship, or so on people default to headcanoning them as aroace, never aroallo, or just aro, or some other aromantic identity that isn't asexual.

Like... they didn't mention sex at all? They didn't say they weren't interested in that? It's fine to headcanon them as asexual but so many of these people are saying that whatever they said means they're canonically aroace which.. no it doesn't... once again they only mentioned romance how does that make them asexual? Why are you literally equating aromantism to asexuality? Why are you saying those things can't be separate? Those things can be separate, do they know that? Do they remember aroallo people exist?

#post #aspec #aromantic #aroallo #alloaro #aro #aromantic allosexual #allosexual aromantic #not all aromantic people are asexual #aromantism ≠ asexuality #aromantism #Sorry I'm just really pissed off right now #like I want representation too!

[bra1nwashed]

something i hate to see but sadly see a lot of within the aromantic allosexual community is the hate towards men.

cisgender homosexual men are valid allo aros.

cisgender heterosexual men are valid allo aros.

transgender homosexual men are valid allo aros.

transgender heterosexual men are valid allo aros.

if you disagree with any of this, get tf off my blog. you are part of the reason our community is so overlooked.

#aromantic spectrum #aromantic #aromantic pride #arospec #allosexual #allosexual aromantic #alloaro #aroallo

[lovelessrage]

If you want to be accepting of aroallos you have to be okay with people who only feel sexual attraction, who only love through sex, who only connect through sex and only feel through sex. Sex isn't dirty or shameful, and is completely whole on its own; it doesn't need to be dressed up in "but"s and "if"s to make it acceptable. It can be nothing, and it can be everything. It can be part of your daily routine or be incredibly important. Aroallos are diverse, and those of us who can't "simply love in other ways" don't owe you the comfort of being loving so you can accept we're sexual.

Your sex negativity has no place here, and a bunch of you are a few keywords away from calling us whores or sluts on the daily. Check your biases.

#aroallo #aromantic allosexual #loveless aroallo #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #alloaro #allosexual aromantic #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec #scowl corner

[papercranesandpride]

I am so pissed. The whole reason we're trending is that stupid poll about if a aro cisgender heteroSEXUAL man is queer. By definition, an allo aro. And STILL, even when the entire point is recognizing allo aros as important parts of the community who exist, aro just cannot be trending without ace and ace is automatically categorized by tumblr as going with aro instead of them being separate things. Gee, I wonder why allo aros feel alienated and unrecognizedand like we're not part of our own community when even aro positivity excludes us and says that we don't belong.

I'm sorry, I know we're all celebrating aromantic being trending and we're all supposed to be happy about it. But no. I'm pissed off. What is the point of aros being visible on this website if half of us aren't visible at all? Is it really a win if all it's really conveying is the never-ending belief that one cannot possibly be aro without being ace?

#allo aro #aro allo #aroallo #alloaro #aromantic #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual #aro #arospec #aromantic spectrum #aro spec

[thisvegetabledoesntfallinlove]

MY FELLOW AROMANTIC SIMMERS I AM LOSING MY MIND

so the latest update to the sims 4 added sexuality customization. i was like “oh cool we can probably, like, make gay sims now instead of having everyone be bi. cool. good for the gays.”

I dared not HOPE that they would even think about aros but DUDE. THEY ADDED THE SPLIT ATTRACTION MODEL

YOU CAN NOW MAKE SIMS THAT ARE ARO, ACE, OR OTHERWISE HAVE SPLIT ATTRACTIONS VIA THE NEW SEXUALITY TAB IN THE CREATE A SIM (its under the same tab as the custom gender options)

[image ID: a small cropped screenshot of a notification from the sims 4, in which a sim says “I am not interested in romantic relationships.” end ID]

NO MORE DO WE HAVE TO SUFFER WITH THE (modded in from sims 3) UNFLIRTY TRAIT. THIS IS SO MUCH BETTER. IT STRAIGHT UP DELETES THE OPTION FOR ROMANTIC INTERACTIONS, BOTH PLAYER MADE AND AUTONOMOUS, FOR THE SIM AND FOR ANY SIMS INTERACTING WITH THEM WHO KNOW THEIR ROMANTIC ORIENTATION.

and!!!!!! then I thought!!!! no! it couldn’t possibly be! this is wonderful but they couldn’t possibly have moved the sexual interactions out of the romance tab, where they’ve always been in every sims game! if you only check the sexual attractions and leave romantic attractions unchecked it probably just like, doesn’t let you do them! they couldn’t possibly!

NOPE

[image ID: a cropped screenshot of the sims 4 showing some interaction options listed under the “friendly�� category in the interaction tree. the highlighted interaction is “ask to be WooHoo partners.” end ID]

WOOHOO PARTNERS. FWB. A COMPLETELY NEW RELATIONSHIP TYPE THAT UNLOCKS WOOHOO INTERACTIONS WITHOUT REQUIRING A ROMANTIC RAPPORT LIKE YOU’VE ALWAYS NEEDED IN THE SIMS.

[image ID: a cropped screenshot of the sims 4 showing three different WooHoo options listed under the “friendly” category in the interaction tree. end ID]

LOOK AT IT. IT PUTS THE WOOHOO OPTIONS UNDER THE FRIENDLY TAB.

this is alloaro representation! this is legitimately alloaro representation, with gameplay dedicated to alloaro relationships!

fuck EA and the Sims for their cashgrabbing DLC nonsense and etc but whichever individuals on the dev team are responsible for these features, you have my respect

#actually aromantic #aromantic #allosexual aromantic #alloaro #aroallo #alloaro representation #aroallo representation #queer #sims 4

[aroxbetchio]

SHIT i forgot i made this last year as a halloween aroallo flag, while i don’t necessarily identify as aroallo anymore i wanted to share it

#elliot’s posts 🐍 #aro #aromantic #aroallo #aromantic allosexual #alloaro #allosexual aromantic #arospec #arospec tag #aro tag #aroallo flag #flags #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #halloween

[lovequeerindigo]

“i could never have a fwb, one of us would just end up catching feelings and getting their heart broken.” skill issue.

#my post #aromantic #aroallo #actually arospec #alloaro #actually aroallo #allosexual aromantic #aroallo community #aromantic allosexual #aromantic community #actually aromantic #arospec #aro #actually aro #aro community #aro thoughts

[nonmahogany]

really sick of all asexual (not aroace) content being tagged as aromantic as well by default

they’re not the same pls i beg

#i’m so tired #i want aro content that’s not aroace #or even aro content that’s not even related to aro at all and is literally just ace thoughts #thinkin about this while they’re trending #aro #aromantic #aroallo #aroace #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual #asexual

[positivelyqueer]

I love allosexual aromantics - y’all are wonderful and I’m glad I get to share a community and part of my experience in loving with you.

#Alloaro #allosexual aromantic #aroace #aromantic asexual #aromantic #queer #positivity

[ugly-anarchist]

Just because aspec also includes aplatonic, aqueerplatonic, and other "a" identities doesn't mean that aspec ISN'T for aros. It doesn't mean that we aren't included in that umbrella.

Me saying "the proper umbrella term that includes both aces and aros is aspec" doesn't mean those are the ONLY identities that are represented by aspec

And there is literally no need to create a new word exclusively to represent both the arospec and acespec communities nor should you be using "aroace" for all aromantics.

I don't speak for all non-ace aros but I, as an alloaro, don't want to be included in the "aroace" or "aro/ace" community because I don't relate to asexuals literally at all nor do I want to be a part of their community.

People treat aromanticism as a subcategory of asexual or something that cannot be separated from asexuality ever for any reason, and I'm sick of it.

#aromantic #alloaro #aro #arospec #aroallo #aromanticism #aspec #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual

[pansyboybloom]

"There is no platonic explanation for this" actually there is. kiss your friends. fuck your friends. marry your friends. reject the idea that intimacy solely belongs to romance. go fuck your friends!!!

#aromantic #aro #allo aro #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual

[zemathememequeen]

Hi I saw you're poll about whether people realised they are aro or ace first and I have a question. Is it not an automatic thing that if you're aro you're also ace? Like I don't get it of you don't like anyone romantically why you would wnat to have sex? If people do that completely valid I just didn't really think about it? Like I just assumed it would be that if ur aro then ur automatically ace too.

Please don't at all think I'm trying to be rude or anything I'm just wondering and if people are ark but not ace then good for them,that's chill I just wanted to ask. It might just be my utter lack of understanding of attraction as a whole cause while I'm a lesbian I'm also 17 and have never had any kind of sexual attraction (I have considered that I may be ace before but I'm also a kid so that might also just be why).

But yeah anyway that's my question I hope it makes sense and doesn't come off as rude. Have a nice day:)

Not only can aromantic people not be asexual, there is even a term for it: allosexual aromantic, or alloaro for short. It is a very broad label as alloaros can be any sexuality that isn't ace.

It's important here to recognise that while sex can be an expression of romantic intimacy, it certainly doesn't have to be. Sex is just an activity that people can engage in for a variety of reasons. For some it's an expression of romantic love, for others it's about friendship, and for others it's just a fun way to spend their time. None of these are any more or less valid than any other.

I myself am not alloaro, so I certainly can't speak on their behalf. But I do hope that some people in my notes are willing to explain their own experiences of being alloaro.

#alloaro #allosexual aromantic #aro #aromantic

[the-delta-quadrant]

hihi can you do alloaro for the moon phases lock screens?

alloaro moon phase lockscreen!

#queer #mogai #lgbt #lgbtq+ #gsrm #lgbt+ #aspec #aro #aromantic #arospec #aroallo #aro allo #alloaro #allo aro #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual

[thereallyreallylatebird]

As an aroallo woman, I feel a sort of kinship with alloace men. We're both going against gender norms just by existing.

I'm breaking the expectation that women are more interested in romance than sex.

They're breaking the expectation that men are more interested in sex than romance.

They're experiences that are both opposite and parallel, that leave me with both a perfect understanding and no understanding at all of what the other is like. So, hats off to you, alloace men. As someone who is in many ways your opposite, I see you.

#also I want to acknowledge that there are aroallos who are still more interested in romance than sex #and alloaces that are more interested in sex than romance #but this is more about how our identities are perceived than anything #like honestly I'm kind of neutral about sex #but in telling someone I'm aroallo that's not what they'd assume 9/10 times #aroallo #aromantic allosexual #aromantic #asexual #asexual alloromantic #alloromantic asexual #allosexual aromantic #alloace #aceallo #alloaro #queer #gender norms #thereallyreallylatebird