#allow yourself to heal

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

#octopus #allow yourself to heal #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #recovery

[laydownyourwounds]

Blood and rot glisten in your crooked grin, a love of carnage and war flowing deep in your blood. But those tired eyes speak a different tale. Not a cry for blood and death, but plea to be useful. Your showes of strength and anger only attesting to the deep-seated desire to save everyone you love. Your desire to be the next Achilles only as a want so no one else must suffer. You try so hard to earn your scars so no one else must hurt to have them. But even Achilles fell, and soon those tired knees will hit the ground for the last time. Do not fall victim to the cruel desires of heartless gods like so many selfless before you. As you see the value in all those around you, so too do you hold value and strength without pain. Let the tears fall like rain and leave the broken battlefield, for there is no war to rage.

#pain #im tired #sad #doormat #gifted kid syndrome #achilles #deep thoughts #deep feelings #poetry #you are allowed to rest #lay down your wounds #allow yourself to heal #you deserve someone who fights as hard as you do #warrior #survivor

[uncanny-tranny]

I think it would really benefit people to internalize that mental illnesses are often chronic and not acute. Some of us will never be able to jump the hurdle of managing illness, much less sustaining a sense of normalcy. Many of us will never "recover," will never manage symptoms, will never even come close to appearing normal - and this is for any condition, even the ones labeled as "simple" disorders or "easy-to-manage" disorders.

It isn't a failure if you cannot manage your symptoms. It isn't a moral failure, and you aren't an awful person. You are human. There's only so much you can do before recognizing that you cannot lift the world. Give yourself the space to be ill because, functionally, you are.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #like... anxiety and depression are often concieved of as simple and easy to manage... #...but that isn't the case for so many of us. anxiety and depression just have a lot more research invested into them... #...and while i wish this were the case for literally every other condition it does alter people's perception of you to some extent... #...so while this is NOT solely about anxiety or depression it includes us... #...my anxiety and depression and PTSD have *destroyed* my life. this is chronic and will probably be life-long... #...and that isn't my fault. i've done the fucking work but guess what? that doesn't account for the fact that I Am Just ILL #the least we can do for each other is to be compassionate #be compassionate to those who cannot heal. be compassionate to the people who can't manage their lives. this world is scary enough #recognize that management of symptoms is something not all of us can do - even IF their condition is labeled as 'easy to manage' #i allowed myself to feel angry that i can't heal 'normally' and that was unfair as fuck toward myself #and i NEED people to internalize this so that MAYBE this could help somebody else who is where i was #i NEED them to understand that it's okay that they are where they are - sometimes shit just doesn't turn out how you expect or want #don't beat yourself over you being a person. you are struggling enough. you deserve to rest. just rest please #and just... give yourself space

[transgenderfivepebbles]

hating hod is a red flag tbh. never trust a hod hater

#ramblings #something something.. her story being about learning to move forward and forgive yourself #about how even if you make an unimaginably horrible mistake it doesn't condemn you to being a Bad Person Forever #and endlessly beating yourself up or sacrificing yourself in a search for redemption is pointless #and it's better for everyone to try to be kind to yourself #like people genuinely are out here hating her for getting the head onto ayin and co.'s case but #that's the entire point of her story? it's About how much she regrets it and her journey to heal from that guilt? #she did it because she was young and innocent and her friends were dying out there?? #the central theme is literally The Hope to Be a Better Person #i will never understand. hod is my best friend i love her. hod haters not allowed

[mudstoneabyss]

actually. the specific phrasing that boy Kevin wants to kill older Kevin with "I must disassemble him, piece by piece, so that everything inside of the Old Kevin comes out. Only then can the New Kevin truly begin." is so incredibly the idea that to heal from trauma and "improve" you have to destroy every "wrong" part of yourself, that everything "tainted" by it has to somehow be replaced by something untouched (which isn't possible)

#reading back that phrasing I do think that'll be the way brinknor takes it #this arcs seeming like it'll be so. breaking the cycle of abuse and violence and coming to terms with yourself #and maybe understanding that you can never remove the parts of you impacted by trauma and start again completely ''pure'' #but you can treat yourself with the kindness you should've been given #which i hope it is that because. and understand i am biased. but i'd love that direction for Kevin #it feels much more satisfying than any more. angsty way this arc could go imo #like he's been through enough! #because of the way Kevin is portrayed in fanon. not as frequently anymore but still pretty common. I worry about coming off as woobifying #by saying I want him to heal I want him to have nice things I think he deserves them #when he's also simultaneously Not A Good Person #yknow the poor little innocent cinnamon roll baby etc etc fanon #but. well for one im Not Like That about him. but my main point of bringing that up is. him not being a good person is why I want to see hi #get better and generally have a good life. why does someone have to be good to deserve to heal from trauma #especially when trauma is a big reason for the way they are #like its fiction yeah yeah i'm still tired of mentally ill people having to be ''good'' to ''deserve'' to get better yknow #i mean especially in fiction you tend to either see mental illness as the poor traumatized one who's allowed recovery because they're nice #or the insane psychopath who cant be ''fixed'' so ''deserves'' bad things-up to deserving to die!- for it #i didnt mean for this to be a rant erm. oops #wtnv #wtnv spoilers #joyousposting

[def-ace-ing-it]

There’s something about the batboys having kids.

Bruce had never expected to live long enough to have children, let alone see them have children of their own. He is hit with grief all over again as he holds his first grandchild (!), knowing deep in his heart that his parents never got to see him grow up, never got to see this family he created on his own. This tiny ball of life is in his hands, possible because he raised these boys into men able to become the fathers they’ve lost, and Bruce is suddenly eight years old again, on his knees as he makes a vow and it’s suddenly all worth it.

Gotham may never get better, but as long as there’s this: the possibility of new life being brought into the world and loved in a city of smog and unbalance, it’s worth it.

Because Bruce is a grandfather, his parents and Alfred are great-grandparents, and his children are parents.

These boys, brought up in dirt and pain, held together by a bird’s song and determination to make the world a better today and tomorrow for all who follow.

These boys, who’ve faced the horrors of loss and desperation, watching their bones be broken just to get up the next day and do it again and again because it makes the world safer.

These boys, his boys, held the weight of the world on their shoulders, suffered trial and tribulations, and seen the worst of the worst of the worst, and decided to do good. Decided that no matter how much harder this path was, it was worth it to see families thrive in the face of it all.

And then they did it themselves, creating families of their own in the world that trusted them to protect both young and old, and they felt safe enough to have that for themselves, too.

His boys. His stubborn, fearless, empathetic boys.

They’re older now, not as old as they could be but not as young as they should be, and Bruce is no longer the spry man he was. His age is catching up to him, as are the numerous fractures and spinal injuries he obtained, and he will have to retire from hero life (and he can do that now, something eight year old him thought was impossible to achieve).

But now, the passage of time is daunting, anc looking down at the bundle of joy (a chance, a start of something new-) in his hands, eyes locked on him and chubby fingers reaching for the chain on his neck with his parent’s wedding rings, and Bruce knows that it was worth it. He is old and tired, but his sons are alive and well, and there is now the possibility to grow old enough to know how his legacy extends into the future.

Bruce is a man of fists and Kevlar, forged in a pain long past, but now everything is different.

There is a new way forward, and it’s defined by love, not grief.

There is something about the batboys having kids.

#something something. sins of the father being reflected onto the son. allowing yourself to heal and break the cycle. something something #yes im very Normal about them how could you tell? #batman #nightwing #red hood #red robin #robin #bruce wayne #dick grayson #richard grayson #jason todd #tim drake #timothy drake #damian wayne #damian al ghul #batfam #batfamily #kats gone insane dont mind her

[buckttommy]

gonna be honest, friends. a lot of you would be so much happier with your fandom experience if you went outside + stopped complaining about things/people you don't like. genuinely.

#truly... discovering The Great Outdoors was like an automatic cure for all my fandom angst #sad about [x]? go outside. mad about [x]? go outside. #it's like they laced fresh air with xanax or something. i'm immediately healed #and then with the other thing — the whole complaining thing — it's like. it's not just “oh this is my blog and i have the right #to blah blah blah“ (which. like. you do. unequivocally) #but when you complain it's like. it's not even about you sharing your vibes with everyone else #it's about like. you allowing this thing that is ultimately inconsequential to have an impact on your mood #and maybe this ties back to the whole “go outside” thing #but sometimes i get really mad about something in fandom and then i'll be like you know what? #it actually does not matter. we're all just doing our best and trying to have a good time #and then i'm healed #so. you know. #if you find yourself getting upset about things that are ultimately not your concern / will not matter in 60 years / will happen anyway #do yourself a favor #and get some fresh air #jack.txt

[strawberrystepmom]

being loved by someone who makes an effort to understand you does make u better as a person tbh

#i think about this a lot in context of self shipping especially #love can't heal you it can't fix anything that's wrong with you it can't even make things hurt less but it can help you understand yourself #it can help you understand others better #it can help you accept others for who they are and allow them to impact your life in unexpected ways #and tbh i dont love opposites attract tropes bc i feel like they have made people think they can't be with someone who is like them at all #or it wont work #tbh this is just me thinking about satoru bc im sappy leave me alone #i havent talked about satoken in any actual capacity in a minute let me have this

[thevirgodoll]

you should never fight someone for their healing. it has to be a decision from within. sometimes one must reap to have an epiphany.

as much as you want to help save a person from themselves, you’re only prolonging their healing process further. you're encouraging self sabotage not only for them, but for yourself.

you have to stay in your lane. just as you found your own way to your destination, you have to allow others to do the same.

healing doesn't involve telling others how to heal, but showing others by example what the other side can look like. they have to make their choices on their own.

you are a catalyst for change by changing yourself. stop trying to control everyone around you. rest.

#we all have to learn this #not sure why people feel like healing means they must control every person that isnt where they are at #i blame toxic positivity culture as well as the stigma of allowing yourself to FEEL #society doesnt really give us a chance to just “be” so #allowing someone else to be their own sabotaging person is hard #but we all gotta pay the piper #thoughts

[eliounora]

routine post to everyone with unsympathetic mental illnesses like personality disorders etc. I don't care what you've done, I would hold you in my arms

#a lot of talk about Healing is about protecting others/stopping to hurt your loved ones and how you alone are responsible for getting better #but you also deserve support and to forgive yourself #and you are allowed to feel what you feel. and you're allowed to mess up #quoting one again the bard herself. florencr welch. happiness will hit you like a bullet in the back #nor's rambles

[rowanthestrange]

I appreciate ‘I’ve never found any use in psychologists’ sounds like the refrain of the mad, but consider we might have been a little less mad if the psychologists had in fact tried to be of use.

#the situation necessitates becoming an expert in self-healing #of course that does mean accepting some frustrating truisms #such as pilates a few times a week #eating correctly and regularly #and drinking enough fluids #in addition to working with the nuances of your own brain #but alas #if you hope someone will tell you something about you #you don’t already know yourself #if your brain already allows you a functioning sense of self-reflection #that doesn’t tend to actually pan out that way #and if you are simply in need of someone to vent to #i’ve found animals considerably more validating #because at least you already know they don’t really care about the words coming out of your mouth

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

#you’re allowed to quit #creature #skateboard #so tired #so very tired #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #recovery #stand up for yourself #leave #quit #quitting is ok

[bewitchedbewilderedbisexual]

i don't really think this is a redemption arc for the buckley parents. i think to look at it that way really short changes what happened this episode. buck has forgiven them for himself. he left that alternate reality where he was 'loved' for himself. in this world he has accepted who his parents are with all their shortcomings and is making a relationship based on that truth. he knows that's not his true family but it is his family. cutting your parents off isn't easy and it doesn't have to be all or nothing. you can have a relationship with them with cards on the table being true to yourself in knowing they can't give you what you need so you don't have those expectations of them so you choose to take what they do give you and find fulfillment in the family that sees you as enough, always.

#maybe i am projecting because i really relate to this storyline #becoming an adult is realizing how flawed your parents are #you don't have be okay with what they did #but you can allow yourself to heal by not blaming yourself for it #it's not your fault they didn't do right by you #and they can still remain in your life

[recovery-is-an-act-of-revolution]

hey!! in case you didn’t know, or you needed to hear it, or you just needed a reminder:

you are allowed to be angry at people for saying hurtful things!!

even if they didnt know it was hurtful even if they didnt “mean it” even if they had good intentions even if other people have said worse yes, even if [fill in your “what if” exceptions here]

this can apply to a lot of different things. maybe someone made a comment about your body without knowing you were insecure about that or even that the comment would be hurtful. maybe someone said something ableist or racist or homophobic or transphobic without thinking, or without knowing that was a bad thing to say or believe, or maybe someone made a “joke” that was upsetting to you.

you are allowed to be upset. you are allowed to be angry. you dont have to water down your experiences with things like “what they said wasn’t that bad,” or whatever else it is you’re telling yourself is a reason you shouldn’t be mad at them. you are allowed to be angry. you’re allowed to dislike someone because of it!! if someone made one hurtful comment, you are allowed to dislike them for that. you don’t have to justify it, and you don’t need to feel guilty for being upset

#healing #recovery #self worth #gentle reminder #positivity #trauma recovery #ed recovery #self healing #be kind to yourself #anger is a gift #anger is okay #you are allowed to be angry #trauma healing #mental health #mental wellbeing #validation

[volivolition]

Yoooo Voli I made ya a Electrochemistry × Volition playlist https://open.spotify.com/playlist/19Au6o98AzOf4hEGLMHKtB?si=7kBYYWAhSR-TuLPYicpgYg&pi=a-iR4K2sFbQsWA

also I can't DM you bc you don't follow me, LEMME IN PLS :3

oh hi hello! oooh, hold on, lemme add the link so its clickable. some cool songs in here, thank you for sharing :D!!

also yeah, sorry! :'3 DMs make me nervous and uncomfortable unfortunately, and i much prefer communicating through asks and comments if thats cool!!

#coffee is an EXTREMELY good one for them. i understand the vision of this one PERFECTLY. ''just a sip!'' ''maybe a cup of self-control'' #politely considering the implications of love like you. ''if i could begin to do something that does right by you'' as echem and ''i could- #even learn how to love like you'' as voli. i cant put this into words. echem self aware he's fucking it up. voli not letting himself give #into vices like love. traits they look at each other at first with a scoff (''you keep suggesting vices that will hurt harry.'' ''maybe let #yourself have a good thing sometimes you killjoy!'') but they better each other. echem looking forward to better things; little joys #voli learning to allow those little joys and love. is this anything?? i just want them to help each other heal. #and then dead girl walking. thinks about it and smirks to myself slightly. yeah. yeah i get it lmao. #left brain right brain is just a big musical number with several skills taking different lines #left brain: logic; ency; viscalc; voli; authority?; esprit; endurance?; pain thresh; h/e coord; interfacing; composure #right brain: rhetty; drama; concept; inland; empy; suggestion; phys inst; ECHEM.; half lit; savvy; react speed #shiv isnt here because she will not be involved in this lmao. percep is just chilling. it's senses baby!! it's not getting in on this lmao #this is so sad for my empath and voli bestie agenda but alas. #anyway may i suggest: 'A Lovely Night' from La La Land | 'Bad Little Boy' from Adventure Time | 'Weak' by AJR | 'Sweet Talk' Saint Motel #and on my bullshit as usual: ''From Eden' by hozier because ''chivalry fell on his sword / i slithered here from eden'' is so volichem :] #volta transmissions

[lesbianasukalangleysoryu]

forgive me but i must speak my truth

vegas cooking for pete hits so hard because he steps out of his comfort zone to learn a new skill for pete—and incidentally finds a personal sense of fulfillment. it speaks to the way that loving someone can make us better, can help us grow and discover ourselves.

don’t get me wrong the act of cooking itself is incredibly thematically relevant. but let’s not lose sight of the courage and humility it takes to try something new and submit to the probability of failure. and it is the failures that make a gesture like this so potent.

it shows not that vegas was secretly a good person all along, but that he has the capacity to become a better person. and for me, that’s sort of vegas and pete’s whole thing, that together they have the opportunity to reconfigure their respective self-images.

#vegaspete #vegas theerapanyakul #by better person i don’t mean less murderous #more like better to himself #able to evolve beyond gun’s expectations #(gun’s interruption is the beautiful sort of setback that allows for a character to go #‘oh now i have to actually apply this lesson i’ve learned’ #easier said than done) #i love that vegas’s emotional healing is just like #‘what if i loved one (1) more person unreservedly’ #loving others… loving yourself… two sides of the same coin methinks