#also enough with the victim blaming

[thejasontoddarchives]

Batman: Demon (1996)

#jason todd #robin jason #dc #batman: demon #interesting that deep down Bruce knows Jason didn’t do anything wrong #(keep in mind this is pretty much Bruce asking himself that question; it’s the demon working with whatever guilt complex is in Bruce’s head) #yet he worries Jason will still suffer/that he is suffering #perhaps because of the guilt he feels for consciously victim blaming him and he feels that in itself is punishing Jason #even if Jason isn’t aware that it’s even happening #guilt can nag at him all it wants but #keeping his trauma at arms length was always Bruce’s priority #the guilt of knowing that what he’s doing is wrong/hurtful to someone he loves was never enough to get him to stop doing it #also #ironic that his ‘parents’ here are the ones to echo Jason’s future words to him about the countless victims #anyway #a great Halloween read #love the art/scenery in this as well

[recitedemise]

It doesn't need to be said (I am preaching to the choir), but after seeing a very bad faith interpretation of Gale nearly half a year after release, I am going to say it again regardless!

Gale is a victim, not a perpetrator. In his relationship with Mystra, he was preyed on and hurt, not Mystra. Yes, Mystra told Gale not to seek out the missing part of Weave that is a part of her, but Gale had no idea it was Karsite in nature and was not aware he was looking for something that was actively corrupt and dangerous until Act 3. Mystra did not inform him right out the gate. Gale may have went to seek it out despite her disapproval and erred and doomed himself for it, but Gale was also aiming solely to apologize for...wanting to be her equal. And I am saying it one more time: it is NOT Gale's fault for wanting to be on the same footing with his lover. No one wants to feel like they're looking UP at their lover, beneath them and not worthy of them. Gale was groomed. Gale was preyed on and eyed by Mystra since he was a young boy. He was her pupil, she, his mentor, and later, he became her lover. Of course Gale wants to feel equal to her. Of course Gale wants to be more. How could he not want to be more, to live up to his goddess that gave him an OUNCE of her attention? Lord forbid.

Gale is not some manipulator. How the idea that he, a mere mortal, could manipulate Mystra, a goddess, is truly beyond me—a goddess who told him to literally die to earn her forgiveness. While he may have had a more haughty personality in EA and was originally supposed to have tried to usurp Mystra in CONCEPT, a lot and a considerable lot has changed upon release. Gale is remarkably human. He is remarkably honest. He is so bare, so forward, and is practically the FIRST person to reveal to you everything you need to know about him among the party if you prove yourself trustworthy, which, let's be real, is a low bar (you save a child and he's impressed. Like. Truly. The bar is THAT low). Gale is arrogant, sure, but is also remarkably modest with his desires and has befuddlingly low self confidence and self worth. He does not try to manipulate Mystra or the player into anything. He's a dying man who honestly just wants to be told he's worthy of everything as just Gale DEKARIOS, not just as Gale of Waterdeep. He's ambitious because he has lived his whole life with the impression he's only worth something if he makes himself out to be something. There is no manipulation here, just a deeply wanting man who looks at 'the world is better FOR you' like it's worth more than all the riches in the world.

Gale may have his hang ups because he is well and truly traumatized, but that's because he's absolutely the victim in his situation. I get it. He's older. He's a grown man and Mystra talked so 'calmly' and didn't physically hurt him (even though she did turn a blind eye when Gale, you know, was afflicted with and living with a bomb in his chest), but that doesn't make Mystra any less the perpetrator of his traumas.

#OOC. #TBD. #Ugh... Still bad Gale takes in Feb 2024. okayyy... #the person who typed this said gale was a classic manipulator and they def believed #he withheld information and knew the weave was karsite the whole time #okay. so. we just want to believe so badly gale is a bad guy and twist facts to suit that very #bad faith interpretation... man the way people will do anything to point at gale #and just go see hes a dangerous incel or what have you... oh. truly not... #i am also very fed up of people going 'well they talked calmly so they weren't abusive.' #no more. as someone who had to endure my abuser being 'so calm' in their nonstop condescension and manipulations like MYSTRA i am here to #say: cork it. you dont need to be sneering or yelling to be abusive. and for that matter #gale getting angry after he realizes mystra wronged him isnt abusive or toxic either. hes reacting FINALLY to the wrongs of his abuser #like. man. just enough. #i have a lot of thoughts. clearly. but gale was essentially gaslit into thinking he deserved what he got. my abuser also did that to me #and i just think we should stop blaming victims :)

[lord-squiggletits]

Something else that makes me sympathetic to Pharma's situation is like. Idk if there's an actual term for this or if someone smarter and more academic wrote it about some real life context that actually matters.

But, so we've already established among Pharma stans that the circumstances at Delphi were blackmail/torture with no real way out that wouldn't involve Pharma being responsible for people getting killed (either killing patients for the deal or having everyone die bc he failed his end of the deal).

And I feel like while "he's still in the wrong because he killed people" is part of it, another sort of implicit part is the idea that Pharma should've been willing to take more personal risk, maybe even risk dying? I mean, Ratchet does ask "why didn't you just detonate it near the DJD" (to which Pharma responds that he did try to get Sonic and Boom to do it, but they refused) so like

Idk I feel like we do have this social notion of martyrs as a very romantic ideal, people you can praise for being so brave and strong and righteous that they ended their own lives for their cause, while you can also coo about how sad and tragic it is that dying is what it took for them to do the right thing. But at the same time I feel like in reality, having an expectation that people become martyrs is kind of a toxic social norm bc like. It's very easy to demand that others sacrifice their lives for some Ultimate Moral Good when you yourself aren't experiencing the same hardships as they are. And ultimately it is kind of fucked up to tell someone "the moral thing you should've done was risk your life/kill yourself" because asking someone to pay their life to do the right thing is no small request. And sure, the typical response would be to call them a "coward" for caring more about saving their own skin instead of doing the right thing... but again, death is a really scary thing and self-preservation is a really strong instinct, so it kind of feels like having this binary view of "you're either a Brave Hero who sacrifices your life for everyone else or a Dirty Coward who's too scared of dying to do what's right" is kind of fucked up?

I guess the best way to describe it is that if someone willingly gives up their life as a sacrifice to others, it can be a noble thing because it's a choice they made willingly, but if it becomes a Moral Standard that in order to be a Good Person you have to be unafraid of throwing your life away and if you aren't willing to die you're a Cowardly Bad Person, that's when it becomes toxic.

Idk, I guess how this ties back to Pharma is that he was never in a position where he expected to make these kinds of moral decisions/ultimatums. He's a doctor who doesn't even get into combat, his job is to heal and not to kill, he's behind the front lines in a hospital that's supposed to be a safe, neutral place for him to heal people. So in the face of suddenly having a "murder people on behalf of me, or I murder everyone you swore to protect" ultimatum thrust upon him, I understand why Pharma wasn't """"""""""brave enough"""""""""" to "do the right thing" (whatever that would've been in the case of Delphi). You could argue that maybe a frontliner soldier accepted the burden of possibly dying for their cause and they've become used to it as someone who lives that reality every single day, but I feel like for Pharma, who's a doctor and a protected non-combatant (from what we can tell), that sort of risking of his life/living with the fact his life could be snuffed out any day isn't something he would've been prepared for at all.

And for me personally, from an outsider's perspective, it strikes me as kind of unethical to go "oh well he should've just detonated the bomb himself even if it killed him" bc again, there's a difference between witnessing a moral conundrum as a bystander versus being the person living with it and being under time pressure where it's do-or-die. Just as part of my personal standards, I feel like death is such a huge consequence/burden of someone's actions (literally you are no longer alive, any potential you had left is cut short, you cease to exist on this plane) that it feels rather callous to go "Well you should've just been willing to die for your beliefs if you really cared that much!!!"

#squiggposting #pharma apologism #this is only like tangentially related to pharma honestly #not to compare blorbos to real life but like. it reminds me of this phenomenon where privileged ppl in privileged countries #will tell ppl living in zones of war and strife 'oh well if you don't like your gov so bad just revolt against them' #like oh yes tell me how easy it is to stand up against the threats of torture and death #surely the only reason people would want to avoid that is bc they're cowards or don't want to stand up for their beliefs #contrary to what nationalism would have ppl believe. 'wanting to not die' isn't a moral position #everyone wants to live. no one wants to die. it doesnt make you a bad person to be scared of dying #esp (going back to blorbo's) in a situation like pharma's where every option he had ended in death #the death of his patients or the death of everyone at delphi or his death personally #on top of the fact he's a noncombatant who hasn't been desensitized to violence/risking his own life #and is dealing with a trained group of killers that he can't possibly match on physical terms #so yeah actually i don't blame pharma for what he did #he made shitty decisions in a shitty situation but was ultimately a victim #also if you want to view the blackmail deal from a framework of abuse #it is also fucked up to basically tell someone they werent brave enough to just kill their accuser or ask for help #isnt the entire point of such situations that the victim is both powerless to stop the abuse #and too afraid of asking for help/thinks they cant ask for help. and thats why they dont just get out #idk sometimes the best moral judgement is to forgive someone or view it as 'complicated' #sometimes regardless of the good or evilness of their actions the best choice is to not make a judgement #or to err in favor of a forgiving/'i cant speak for your experience' judgement #anyways the fact is that the rosy fantasy of being a brave noble soldier who sacrifices for the cause #rarely stands up to reality where youre just terrified and powerless and dont know what to do #and suddenly the rosy glow of The Noble Cause isnt comforting in the prospect of horrible torturous death

[squipdop]

sorry im a god gale truther btw i DO think he should get to usurp mystra and ascend to godhood and i do think that should be an absolutely awful thing to happen to him but also literally everyone else. sorry

#bg3 #not main tagging this further bc its. mad man 1:30am rambles #but listen. mh. #ok so. heres the thing. #while i do think. their relationship was absolutely fucked. and yeah we can argue for grooming and or abuse. #i also dont QUITE enjoy how ppl make gale like. the poor poor totally blameless victim. like. mh #how to phrase this so it DOESNT sound victim blame-y. but like. #from how i interpret the things he told & what the game shows. #my mans REALLY struggles with No's and rejection. and i wouldn't just put that as a Mystra Aftermath Thing #he WAS forbidden from trying to ascend/was told by her she wouldnt make him an equal. and his response basically was. #'but let me prove i am worthy of this' #which yeah. plays into the fucked up self worth. ill get back to that. #plus the uh. touch the orb scene? he just. grabs your hand and pulls it towards him because he WANTS to show you this. Now. #any rejection within the relationship? I Should Blow Myself Up #he got that gifted kid energy of everything always came easily to him and yet it wasnt ever enough and the relationship w a literal goddess. #certainly didnt help that. #so hes constantly reaching for more. and thats a fault of his because he will do that even if told not to because #at the same time he thinks of himself as smart enough to actually Get to that More. #and yknow w the orb? he literally. got So Badly Burned. is it deterring him? nnnnnnot really. #and i think. godhood would. idk i think he could do it. and i think it still wouldn't be enough. #and having an all powerful deity who ALSO a) still never is satisfied with his amount of power and control and b) thinks he know better than #anyone and could do better than anyone #sounds like its gonna fucking suck #anyways im rotating this all in my brain + ofc the delicious bloodweave combo of ascended astarion + new god gale bc thats just. ough #the mess. of this combo.

[yuridovewing]

im sure im gonna be singing this book’s praises but rn i just wanna get this out of the way- i get the feeling that gar face didnt age well

#naturally theres the whole ‘’oh hes got a disfigured face and hes the evil one’’ #thing #but also him being an abuse victim. i dont remember how much they go into his family #or if they leave it at just that one chapter #i dont think ill harp toooo much on this bc like. its an issue worth talking about yes #but at the same time i dont really blame a kids book for not grasping all the nuances of child abuse #and i dont think appelt was going ‘’disabled abuse victims are bad’’ or anything. theyre common tropes unfortunately #but. im only on the first gar face chapter idk lol #from what i remember he serves his purpose as an antagonist well enough #the underneath liveread #edit on his second chapter: yeahhh sorry underneathheads i am remembering how much i didnt care for him lol #like. again he serves his purpose well in thr story from what i remember #hes a good contrast to how the animals and shapeshifters are written #but hes just kiiiinda boring to me. im kinda glazing over the alligator king chapter

[xnoel]

TW: Rape mention, victim blaming, slut shaming (a 15-16 year old), homophobia, sexualizing women.

Since some people are confused about why Build apologized on Instagram and why BOC announced that he's temporarily suspending his activities (and I'm fucking tired of everyone saying "Build only said one shitty thing 8 years ago, he was just 20 years old") I'm making a post about the many fucked up things he's written on his social media accounts throughout the years (he was 20-26 years old when he wrote the them), or at least the ones that people have found.

#i turned off replies and reblogs because I'm tired of people defending a grown ass man i've already seen enough of that #kinnporsche #vegaspete #build jakapan #i'm sorry for putting this in the tag but i just want people to be properly informed about what's going on #you can accept his apology or not idc i just want people to know what he did #kinnporsche the series #i mainly made this post so i can link it to people and have the translation tweets collected #oh yeah he also apologized for being racist which i haven't see proof of so that must be something people haven't found yet! #also i know the original tweet is deleted in some of these but i saw the originals before they got deleted. it's real. #tw rape mention. #tw victim blaming. #tw homophobia.

[nyaskitten]

DISCLAIMER (because I know some of you fuckers would be at my throat about this) I DO NOT HATE RAY OR MAYA, NOR DO I THINK YOU SHOULD, THESE ARE JUST OPINIONS SHARED BY ME AND A FRIEND, OVER A GAY LEGO SHOW, IT ISN'T THAT SERIOUS AND SHOULDN'T BE TREATED AS SUCH !!!

Okay, so I was talking with a friend and they brought up some interesting things about Ray and Maya, the most important being how if anything, they were the worst offenders in the Serpentine War.

Honestly? I agree! Like hell, we don't know if Wu locked any of the Serpentine away, but we sure as hell got to see Ray and Maya doing it! If anything, Wu and Garmadon are the most innocent of the bunch. Sure Wu was PRESENT when the Anacondrai Generals were banished, but he was alongside Garmadon who was DOING the banishing and fuck it, neither of the brothers handed down the verdict, it was Mystake, Garmadon was just in charge of reading the spell.

So theoretically unless we get any in-universe confirmation that either Wu or Garmadon locked away any of the Serpentine, they're free, off the hook!

Also, we saw Maya lock away the Venomari in the Toxic Bogs, a place so dangerous that no one would ever dream of going there or finding a way out. Meanwhile, Ray locked the Anacondrai in a secluded desert, which eventually resulted in the cannibalization of the entire tribe.

It just feels odd seeing people get all pissy over Wu and the Serpentine Wars (despite little-to-no involvement with sealing away the Serpentine) and then somehow excuse Ray and Maya?

TL;DR: If you're gonna claim Wu is somehow a shitty person for the Serpentine Wars, you have to hold Ray and Maya accountable as well, they were the only EM's we actually watched seal any of the tombs!

#REALLLY hope people agree with me and I DON'T get a bunch of anon death threats over some stupid gay lego show #GOD I know what I'm signing up for by posting this but FUCK IT I'm going in head first and you fuckers can't stop me!!! #ninjago #wu ninjago #ray ninjago #maya ninjago #ALSO another issue I have is that some people tend to forgive their poor parenting because they were kidnapped? like yeah it sucked for- #-them and I swear I'm not trying to victim-blame or anything but also I'm unsure how two fully grown adults who are perfectly skilled #and trained couldn't overpower some dude with a sword??? you guys have tons of swords and your kids were far enough that you could take him #-down and save your kids

[pumpkingeorge]

I'm not really into Zelda and the lore is a bit fuzzy to me, but my brother is and we were talking earlier.

I suggested that a way to stop Ganondorf would be to kidnap him while he's still a baby and raise him in Hyrule. Killing him would be a little fucked up since he's, y'know, a baby...and killing him off early would only bring his eventual rebirth even faster. (Not that kidnapping a literal baby is a much better moral option by any means dhsd)

My brother knows way more about Zelda lore than I do and he was stumped about this plan. Sure Ganondorf is just a little cursed, but there's also the nature vs nurture concept. If he constantly doesn't have "You have to destroy Hyrule and get the triforce!!" into his skull every waking moment of his life, then maybe that could help him out a little? Just put him in Hyrule and give him a normal life. Let him go fishing or something? Teach him how to make pie?

Someone that is smarter than us can weigh in?

#loz #honestly the last zelda game i played was wind waker #good old gamecube i love it #i liked sailing :3 #i mean i like loz but not enough to engage with it properly #and time bullshit hurts my head x.x #also i'm not victim blaming the gerudo here they got the shit end of a raw deal #they live in a harsh environment and their only male is doomed to get his shit kicked #i don't know what to do about the curse thing that is above my loz lore level. that is a lot harder to undo i think #is ganondorf even actually born or does he manifest into the world as a whole ass adult? #if that's the case then uh...i dunno #it is hard to steal a baby when that baby is a 50+ year old man #idk how old he is

[autisticlee]

sometimes I think about how I was legitimately the most hated and bullied kid in my entire class, and probably entire school. I knew this as a fact. there was nothing I could do about it. not just by the kids either, but the teachers/staff as well. all because I was autistic and unable to speak and they didn't want to treat me decently. and I ask why. (rhetorically of course, because I know all the excuses given as answers)

being an autistic kid and knowing damn well this is true, that you're the most hated person in the entire building with not a single person on your side, knowing you're the main target for everyone's aggression every day, is....truly something. you know. like carrying the weight of everyone's hatred and negativity on your back alone, being their punching bag, internalizing their hatred for then. from ages 4 to 18. nonstop. never getting better. never knowing why. not being able to stop it. never getting any help. on your own and alone. blamed for it all.

yet i'm simply told to "get over it/stop caring" and get blamed for it fucking me up and having a lasting effect. lmao ok. let me just forget more than half my life existed at this point and magically get better! thanks!

#those assholes are lucky I didn't have the heartless soul to take revenge on them or something. #instead it just became internalized trauma 🙃 #lee rambles #autistic #autism #actually autistic #school trauma #what would they have done if i lost my shit and lashed out at them???? #the most i was ever able to do was take a plastic knife and stab an apple at lunch while glaring at a table of the kids #that scared them enough to leave me alone for a few days. then theh forgot and back at it again #why is it always the victim's fault and the bullies win? even years after the fact. why cant my brain “get over it” like people tell me :/ #and yes i was able to get a therapist. no it hasnt helped yet. i do all the coping stuff she suggests already #basically distractions and whatnot. no it hasnt cured me. #she always tells me i have good coping mechanisms. im doing a good job. i deal with things reallt well. ok why am i still a mess 🙃 #its almost as if theres no cure and only pretending #what am i rambling about. this sounds like an emotional rant but i genuinely feel nothingness atm. just reminiscing how fucked up it all was #why were things like that allowed to be put onto one single child and why did they never get any help or justice and are blamed #s i g h s #also ive always felt like no one believed me when i said i was the most hated and bullied kid at school. it is 100% true lmao unfortunately

[rascheln]

The Monster Falls Apart & The Monster Exposed: forehead kisses and touches

#the monster falls apart #the monster exposed #ogeretsu tanaka #hadakeru kaibutsu #revisted this series because it's both hot AND heartbreaking AND fulfilling (and idc for her more recent series sdfhfnf) #anyways I really love kan-chan. I love the way his story is told from multiple POVs and how his character changed over time #I love how his story with Yumi is not just a black and white 'this person is evil this person is a helpless victim' story because it's more #complicated than that. it's about the cycle of abuse and about trauma and about how both of them were not right for each other. #sometimes loving someone isn't enough and you can't magically make them go back to the person they used to. #like I think Yumi stayed out of guilt and a false sense of pride even when he was for all intents and purposes emotionally cheating #and I think the biggest act of love Kan-chan was still capable of at that time was letting Yumi go and breaking up with him. #And then there's Shuuna. ah man. I like that he's sooo out of his depth lol #he's soo in love and he has no idea how to tackle the whole mess that an older Kan-chan is but like #the love they have for each other and the way they DO manage to get through to each other? yea. #you can really feel the difference in maturity at times and that's also a really well done characterization!! #I liked the one author's comment where it's said about him that he went through love on easy mode until he met Kan-chan haha #also the flashbacks... that's a lotta baggage. like I don't blame Yumi for not knowing and it makes sense Kan-chan won't forgive himself #but still. he was never just some evil guy who did that shit out of pure malice when he was experiencing so much abuse and pressure. #(which doesn't make his actions any more okay but it makes his character more complicated and tragic.) #oh and one final thing I love about this series and the connected stories: the thing about life is that it goes on and the people who leave #our lives still continue living in this world. and you may choose or just happen to never meet again. #and no matter who hurt who the memories of each other will remain. the bad. but also the good. #and hopefully you get to continue on making new- making good memories.

[astraltrickster]

You know there IS a lot to be said about how social media favors simplifying information into short bites and the algorithms are very much preying on the human tendency to be drawn to sensational takes and rapid-fire dopamine hits but some of you take that criticism and just veer hard into being really ableist about ADHD, like - not everyone who gets bored and understimulated easily and has to really struggle to stay engaged with things that don't immediately hook them and might want to avoid that struggle as much as possible in their leisure time after having to do it all fucking day at work or school has "TikTok brain poisoning".

But, in fact, fuck it, I'm gonna take it a step further and say, if anything we should be wrapping this into the conversation about how the environment is disabling people - physically and mentally - and then blaming and exploiting them for being disabled. Yeah, actual ADHD may have a known genetic cause and understood neurological mechanism, but...as an adult with ADHD, who does love the curb cut effect, I do catch myself wondering if this current wave of ADHD/autism "curb cuts" is really just because the things that are growing more popular are just near-universally beneficial, or if it's partially because this online environment is actually inducing ADHD/autism-adjacent traits in more people through actual, literal, clinical addiction. Which we ALSO shouldn't be ableist about!

And no, I don't mean this in the "WE MUST STOP SOCIAL MEDIA IT IS A PLAGUE BEING DISABLED IS A FATE WORSE THAN DEATH" kind of way, and anyone who treats this that way will catch a block and these hands. I don't even know for sure whether it's really happening, or just an illusory effect of those traits being more okay to talk about and having more spaces to see people's mostly unfiltered thoughts - though the political landscape irl, election results and the like, do seem to imply to me that it's at least a little bit of both.

We do not appreciate enough that the quick and easily accessible dopamine hits generated by social media can become a literal, physiological addiction. Like, this is the actual, literal chemical pathway by which addiction happens. Yet, unlike other potentially addictive things, at this point in our culture, you are, at best, considered a social pariah if you're between the ages of 11-65 and don't use social media at least somewhat regularly, and at worst it can actually materially harm your career prospects to abstain.

I honestly suspect there's a lot of overlap between symptoms of ADHD (and some autistic traits, for that matter) and symptoms of clinical social media addiction, and this predatory, potentially addictive use of social media algorithms, especially in the post-No Child Left Behind education environment leaving people with limited tools to question misinformation and spot baseless sensationalism...much like overwork-related burnout, genuinely strikes me as a mental parallel to how we're "handling" covid: demand that people live in the environment that can cause an acquired disability, and then when someone gets it, either deny that it's a problem (long covid is "just something you have to push through, it's normal to still be tired after getting sick", burnout from overwork is "just buy this nice home spa product and you'll be fine tomorrow", and loss of attention span and new sensory-seeking behaviors are at best "oh everyone gets like that sometimes" and at worst "well maybe you're just stupid"), or when that's impossible, blame the person experiencing the problem ("well you should have worn your mask and sanitized your hands more! You did? You should have worn a better mask! You couldn't afford it? You should have budgeted better!" or "well you should have taken care of yourself better before it got to this point!" or "well you should just put that damned phone down sometimes, it's easy!").

And holy fucking shit, even in disabled spaces, we STILL treat addicts like shit. There's this horrible, pervasive attitude that they don't really count, because they brought their problems on themselves by engaging with the thing in the first place when they should have known the risks (unlike the guy who lost a limb in an extreme sports accident, that's totally different*).

(*Note that I recognize that there are tons of abled people - and even some disabled people - who absolutely would also blame this theoretical guy as a reason to discredit them, but I'm talking about a specific brand of individual hypocrisy I have seen many times within the disabled community, anyone who reads this as "yeah! NO ONE would say that about someone with a PHYSICAL disability!" - after reading the previous paragraph no less - can also catch a block and these hands. The fact that some people would be equally ghoulish about both doesn't take away the fact that enough people do carry that double standard to make a significant impact.)

In fact, even if I'm 100% wrong and there is no even semi-common problem with clinical social media addiction...we very much do use that very same anti-addict victim-blaming template to demonize victims of predatory online fuckery anyway. "It's your own fault because you just refuse to put down the damned phone." Because it's so easy to break a habit, let alone an addiction, right? And of course, you end up victimized by disinformation and predatory marketing practices because you know better. [/sarcasm]

What people need is coping strategies, not shame, because shame doesn't magically make people stop being disabled or having symptoms of a disability, but coping strategies can help make those traits and symptoms a lot less distressing and exploitable, whether they're innate or induced.

Tl;dr: Yeah, the companies behind the major social media platforms ARE a plague, now stop using that as an excuse to be ableist, forgetting what the real problem is, and crying about how Idiocracy was a documentary.

#internet culture #internet safety #social media #disability #serious tag #also i feel like 90% of the people who say ''idiocracy was a documentary'' never actually...watched the movie? #it wasnt about education being eroded and politics being sensationalized and humanity's innate mental design flaws being exploited #to keep an underclass too stupid to think there's a better option for them #it was literally blatantly saying ''stupid people shouldnt breed'' #it was literally an ode to victim-blaming and eugenics #IT STRAIGHT UP CLAIMED THAT MODERN MEDICINE TO LET PEOPLE SURVIVE TRAUMATIC INJURIES IS BAD ACTUALLY #BECAUSE THEY MAY HAVE BEEN STUPID ENOUGH TO NEED TO REMOVE THEMSELVES FROM THE GENE POOL #so like maybe thats not the comparison you want to be making #just saying

[rhymingwithpurple]

Also I think They/Them benefits from being a horror movie, as in, you KNOW you just sat down to watch a horror movie. So the whole time you're thinking like "what's gonna happen to these kids"

#and then of course. where they are is horror enough #and the additional Horror happens to everyone who deseves it #i did not really see victim blaming I'll be honest. #also did anyone else have a reaction to the killer's Name?? i was like. oh. of all the names. oh. no yeah okay. #because plotwise it did remind me of another movie #3rd in the series. of movies.

[aidenknow]

At least people now know that the victim’s testamony isnt a lie

#Aiden Rambles #Drama #To the victim I must apologize that I fumbled in handling the info regarding about your testamony #Which is awful to my part on the unprofessionalism I did #Also I’m going to say again #I’m not doing this to save face and trying to get back to my ‘good graces’ #I’m doing this because of the people Fortress hurt #But I get why people get skeptical and untrustworthy with me on how I handle it #I just feel like I had enough with Fortress’ lies and manipulations to me and other people #And I blame the people who believe in Fortress’ exaggerated and out of context accusations

[ardenrosegarden]

I'll preface this by saying I recognize the themes of loss of innocence etc. of Olle killing the Skogsrå, however there are many times in games where I'm like. You literally would have done the same...

#I think the first I noticed was with Undertale tbh. #I get the message. like. I know. #but also...a 10 year old killed you? #not to victim blame or w/e but you're old enough to pay taxes why are you battling an elementary schooler to the death? 🤔

[brokenfoxproductions]

So apparently Pennsylvania psychiatric institute in Harrisburg Pennsylvania has a policy where if you complain about a provider and you say something that could be construed as insulting, like me saying that the new person I saw was rude and condescending and that her saying something transphobic to me on Wednesday made me feel like there were no good psychiatrists left in this area, can be grounds for them to refuse to allow you to come back for treatment.

So I'm no longer allowed to see a psychiatrist where I was going, despite the fact that they know that I don't have enough refills of my medication to last until I'm able to see someone after I move, because I insulted a transphobic nurse practitioner by calling her transphobic and condescending and not a good provider.

This is fucking bullshit.

#pennsylvania #transphobia tw #psychiatrist #mentalhealth #ableism #transphobia #retaliation #mental health services #Pennsylvania psychiatric institute #upmc #specifically she didn't let me talk until halfway through the appointment when she blurted out #“oh EW you have PRONOUNS?!?!? OHHHHH ewwwww” #then she accused me of asking for help with my anxiety so I could abuse xanax #because I have 12 years clean from opiates and heroin #despite me not asking for Xanax or anything else in particular other than mentioning my allergies #i also said that I don't want to go back on a beta blocker bcs it made my heart weaker #and she said that my ptsd will get worse if I move because she thinks I cause people to hurt me #specifically “whatever you did to make people hate you enough to want to abuse you or rape you isn't going to stop” #this was again my first visit with her ever like I meet her for the first time and she basically victim blamed me #and she literally said ew repeatedly like I was gross because I'm queer #but I'm not allowed to go to a different psychiatrist there now because I was rightfully upset by this shit #I told them this is why their reviews from patients on Google are so low #I also literally told them that they're part of the problem because they handle things like this #all of their good doctors quit after a few years and the ones that stay are just shit #trauma #childhood trauma #ptsd #victim blaming #gaslighting #stigma