#also mentioned transphobia

[glasspalacesstoneshop]

I have a lot of mixed feelings about transandrophobia because yeah there’s definitely TERF/radfem stuff in there that concerns me, a lot. But like watching people call trans men “the weakest link” and also gleefully celebrate your oppression like this:

You do realize we’re not the men in power right? we’re not your systemic oppressors. Like, this isn’t a queer men versus queer women thing where one of them has A Privilege, I’m not able to move myself into a privilege class the same way. Like I have a lot of the same fears as cis women do plus more, and I’m not gonna like. Pretend it’s not real because you don’t understand how intersectionality works

#glass rants #transphobia #transandrophobia #fuck radfems #mom pick me up im scared #not to mention that man bashing is also radfem core. did you know that there’s men who are oppressed? I don’t think you do #discourse

[fizzybizzy]

holy shit dude

#fizzy.txt #also yes this is real I literally scrolled through his tweets to find this #I can't believe that ken is jumping ship but for reasons I never wouldve expected from him #transphobia mention #tagging that since the topic in the image is ken leaving twitter due to its increasing transphobia #Sonic the Hedgehog #finally adding that tag bc I forgot even tho it's been 15 hours

[uncanny-tranny]

The first mistake I see people make is assuming there are completely "nonviolent" ways to be transphobic. It seems like some people conceptualize transphobia as being either violent (which is always physical in some way) or nonviolent (which is "simple" emotional, verbal, or psychological abuse)

It seems, also, that people presume that when somebody has "noble" intentions for their transphobia - "I'm trying to save you!" for instance - it is suddenly nonviolent. Consider, though, how a transphobe would "save" a trans person. Would they allow that person to exist unadulterated (including being able to transition), or would they prefer to put them through conversion therapy, or revoke their access to bodily autonomy, or force them to have children, or anything that will prevent them from transition or even identifying as trans or otherwise tying them down with the obligations that prevent transition or identifying as trans?

There is no true "nonviolent" way to be transphobic because being transphobic relies on denying one the ability to autonomy and personhood. Fundamentally, even the transphobes who "want to save us" only do so in their own self-interest to save them from the horror of knowing that more people than they are alive and thriving.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #it's just very frustrating when i see people act as though some transphobia is more acceptable than other forms... #...simply because it isn't overt with how much it wants trans people eradicated... #...transphobes will do whatever it takes both for their comfort and also to wipe the world clean of trans people #in some cases it looks like infantilism ('youre so young! poor thing you're being MANIPULATED😭') or... #...it could look like outright cut-and-dry violence (conversion therapy or physical abuse). it all depends on the situation... #...what stays the same is the sheer level of hatred and scorn for trans people and the trans condition... #...and it is in that hatred and scorn that you find that ALL forms of transphobia are united... #...so it is just as important to combat ALL forms of transphobia #abuse #abuse tw #abuse mention tw

[briarrolfe]

Apparently my post about content warnings yesterday included enough key words to trigger the AI Tumblr mental health bot

Mental health apps are dicey to begin with but they get much dicier when you start connecting people experiencing mental illness via chat function.

A few years ago at my day job we received a project proposal for a youth mental health app, which the applicant thought would cost less than $10,000 to develop. Their app would connect isolated young people in rural and regional areas who were interested in mental health topics so that they could support each other via text chat, based on their location. It even suggested having them be able to flag their interest in specific topics, like being a member of the LGBTIQA+ community.

A few older colleagues thought this sounded like a good idea, but I, being annoying in the way that I’m annoying, started asking questions like:

How do we moderate the app?

How do we make sure users don’t just get the app in order to bully vulnerable young people?

If it’s based on location, couldn’t one user use two phones to triangulate where another user lived?

Are we sure that connecting isolated people based on nothing but having depression in common is a good idea?

If it’s for isolated young people, how do we prevent them from using it as a dating service?

How do we prevent scamming?

How do we prevent users from outing young LGBTIQA+ people who live in rural areas and are experiencing mental illness?

How do we prevent the app from becoming a dating service for people over 18 interested in accessing vulnerable teenagers?

How do you collect age data from a population who might not have driver’s licenses?

Hey, what sort of data security does less than $10,000 buy, anyway?

It was good to ask those questions because the people proposing the project had of course not thought to ask them at all, which proved that it wasn’t an achievable project with any meaningful outcomes. (When a budget is “$10,000: app development,” you already know people don’t know what they’re talking about.) However, the final nail in the coffin may have been when I started referring to the project as, “oh yeah, the suicide pact app?”

Anyway. I’m sure nothing could possibly go wrong with Kokobot because OF COURSE the missing piece of that proposed project was an AI chatbot,

#writing essays on tumblr dot com #I am not doing that role at work anymore for many reasons but #we also did have a documentary proposal that said it’s measures of success would be the end of transphobia worldwide #and someone who claimed that their colouring book would end rural homophobia #and cumulatively it did kind of give me a mental breakdown. Wow… maybe I DID need that app #mental health #suicide mention

[writterings]

ive been actively seeking out transphobic content for a project im doing and it's literally so wild to see what these types of people think. like i dont even mean this in the bluffing way or in the "im a better person than them way" but LEGIT you almost start to feel bad for these people because while they claim us trans people are the delusional ones, they're literally the ones who've built their entire identities and ideologies on hating trans people. this isn't even an exaggeration, their entire accounts are dedicated to transphobia and you can see that they spend like 6-12+ hours posting like nonstop with a quick scroll. and it's like, what's left after that? are you even a person anymore? are you okay? you can choose to stop this at any point, you know that right? but if you ever express that, they'll just call you one of their little made up words like a TIF or TIM or troon or whatever the hell else their cultish "community" has come up with like that actually matters in the real world.

like fr im not gonna lie, seeing this much transphobic content on like 4chan and kiwi farms and even here has made me realize the world actually is a lot more accepting of trans people and many people are on our side -- and this is based on the fact that these stupid transphobes literally act so fucking bizarre that i think even an on-the-fence-on-semi-conservative-trans-issues person would be like "hey. what the fuck. that's not normal."

and, like, in my deep dive i've found that these losers have literally doxxed trans influencers on IG or tiktok and like....these influencers have no clue and aren't bothered bc these transphobic losers actually have no influence or backbone what so ever to actually do anything with this information. doesn't make it right, of course, but like...they're just pathetic and have no reach to the real world? like online transphobia is rampant but when you actually explore their designated spaces it's just like. goddamn i know i got issues but whatever the fuck they got going on needs a cure stronger than touching grass and prozac. like these people legit need to throw out their computers and go to intense therapy for their obsession with hating trans people.

like, overall, i thought doing research for this project would worsen my mental state and even make some dysphoria flare up -- but it's literally making me more affirmed and confident as a trans person because these fucking transphobic losers literally act like they're suffering in pain just because trans people exist.

#one board on kiwi farms literally started ripping into hozier bc he supports 'tro/ons' and then started calling him a woman and said he had #breasts and then there was a debate about whether he was a t/if or t/im (their terms) #and it's like. helllo??? helllo??????????? #my fav is when they continuously misgender a trans person who like. has fully medically transitioned and passes. #like. even they admit they couldnt tell but then make up some bullshit about how they can always tell. #literally this shit is so fucking wild #transphobia mention #also the reason i say transphobia as a general term is bc theyre actually about equal in how much they hate trans men.

[whats-ur-credit-card-number]

I have once again edited an image as part of London-based conversation

#Fallen London #transphobia mention #well. implied. so best to be safe #also to clarify I don't really have anything against bdr and advanced skills lol I just couldn't pass up the joke

[crownebula]

people will really just say the most transphobic shit and hide it behind the label "white transmasc" like that automatically makes it not transphobic

#transphobia #transandrophobia #its one thing to rightfully criticize the privilege and ignorant behavior of a group #as always its necessary to call out bad behavior as you see it #regardless of who its about #but its another thing to just start saying demeaning and despicable shit #just because you think pretending its about a certain group exempts you from being bigoted #saying that “white transmascs are inherently transmisogynistic because theyre men” IS fucked up #saying that “white transmascs need to stop crying and whining about their made up oppression” is ALSO fucked up #and neither of these statements are truly just about white transmascs #youre just being a weirdo and attempting to be socially acceptable about it #(should also mention these are both REAL statements ive heard being said)

[kyluxtrashpit]

Dude if you wanna write het porn then write het porn but stop putting piv, the straightest possible sexual act, into gay ship tags. Homophobic as fuck

Trans men are men and therefore trans men having sex with other men is, in fact, gay sex, hope this helps ✌️

(And same goes for women, in case there was any doubt)

#also not the point but extremely funny to imagine transphobes policing the goddamn renben tag #as if there are more than 2 other people besides myself that write it #and I know them personally #and getting more than one comment means you fucking nailed it #and not to mention *I* basically invented the ship myself and have written by far the most of it #man transphobes really have no lives if you’re uppity over a rarepair like this #sorry @ my followers for putting hate on your dash but I’m using this as an opportunity to clean house #transphobes fuck off #transphobia #ask tag #anon hate

[salad-juice-enjoyer]

/sarcasm

No dude you gotta trust me this VN is actualy good. Yes it was by channers to spite another VN that contains a non-binary MC. Yes the happy endings are the one where you successfully convince said MC to detransion and the ones where you don't are the school shooting ending and the future loser ending. But you gotta believe me bro, it was made with actual love and effort and stuff. /s

#Isaac babbles #GVH #goodbye volcano high #snoot game #tw transphobia #tw enbyphobia #tw exorsexism #tw school shooting mention #And also if I accidentally stepped over a boundry as a cis person‚ lmk #I wish all channers a very face consequences for your actions #god i'm so tired #greatest hits

[the-kestrels-feather]

Donna Noble is out here threatening homicidal maniac aliens because they were disrespectful to her daughter, meanwhile my mom won't even change my contact in her phone to my proper name.

#personal #i know there are trans people with far worse home and family situations and im not trying to negate that but like. #its the little things like that that i see and its just kind of a punch in the face reminder that the only support i get from her in regards #to me being nonbinary is apathetic.like if she's telling a story about me before i came out she wont use the right pronoun/name in the story #or when shes talking about how she was talking about me at work and uses my birthname/pronouns (i okayed this we live in a red county) she #wont change the name/pronouns. or how she gets weird any time i mention top surgery or how instead of calling someone out for deadnaming #or misgendering me she just also starts doing it or how she still introduces herself to people as “[deadname]'s mom or #its just annoying #anyways im ranting in the tags now. sorry. #donna noble #rose noble #unsupportive mother #casual transphobia #doctor who

[sp00ky-scary]

Random thing about James Somerton's videos since everyone is talking about them right now. I watched a few of his videos a while back and by a while back I mean like 2 years ago but I stopped watching because his videos just lacked passion I guess. Like they felt more like someone being forced to read off a script for a topic they didn't care about and now with the context of most of his work being plagiarized and about topics he sometimes knew very little about that vibe makes a whole lot more sense.

#bros vibes were also just kinda off #especially with all the moments that were basically misogyny and transphobia #which turns out those bits he did write himself #which is gross #i disagree with people saying that it should've been obvious that he was plagirizing some stuff because his whole thing was that his channel #was an easy way to learn more about queer history #not to mention the internets idea of queer history is very america centric and a lot of queer history is inaccesible #hbomberguy #james somerton

[craycraybluejay]

Please don't follow me if you use the terms tme/tma or 'theyfab' or are otherwise radfem-aligned, save us both some time

This includes reblogging. Just like. Don't be near me in general if you fw radfems. It is not hard.

#anti radfem #tw transphobia mention #tme/tma #terminology that immediately alerts you to what kind of person op and their circle are #also gonna start softblocking people with anything like 'propara dni' i do not need this many followers #i just want some people following me that dont post shit that makes me want to rip my hair out (negative) #and mutuals that i could reasonably go have lunch with and have a nice time in which neither of us upset each other #like idk tumblr is not a popularity contest and honestly i could cut my follows in half and still have too many

[uncanny-tranny]

People who compare transition to self harm or use real people they know who've self-harmed as a metaphorical comparison to transitioning aren't making the gotcha they think they're making - they're just showing that they don't have the compassion or maturity to engage with either topic at even a conversational level.

And, frankly, it's infuriating as a person who does see those who self-harm as my equal who doesn't need to be used as a cudgel against another group of often vulnerable people.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #self harm tw #self harm mention tw #sh tw #transphobia #transphobia tw #and as someone who has self-harmed AND transitioned it's been inherently different. it's not a comparison #and if you wonder why so many trans people have engaged in self harm: social factors. family. abuse. mistreatment #mine stemmed from unrelated abuse largely and also because i wasn't being treated well #absolutely unresolved dysphoria in trans people can inspire that - i know that already. ask me how (don't)... #...but it also isn't inherent to identifying as trans. dysphoria of any kind can make people desperate for any escape... #...and you help them by allowing them space and giving them tools that empower *them*... #...like for me the second a huge part of my dysphoria resolved through transition i was able to start actually fucking LIVING #because for all my life i'd been only able to operate at 50% at most. and now it's more like 80-90% just after transition

[dysphoric-culture-is]

Question— if gender is a social construct, then how does body/sex dysphoria exist, especially stuff like phantom limb that many trans people get?/gen. Although I guess I’ll never know, I think that if I spent my whole life on a deserted island and never had any human contact I’d still feel something off about my body and stuff. Like, having more or less pieces of paper doesn’t actually affect you, it’s the value that you put on those pieces that make money important, but I don’t think that’s how gd operates?

People (correctly) call gender a social construct because, like money, it's a concept that humans made up and have developed over thousands of years.

Societal standards about gender (AKA gender roles) dictate how people think about gender, and those standards are very cisnormative. The normal value and qualities given to gender by societal standards don't leave room for trans, nonbinary, intersex, and gender non-conforming people. For example in Western society the traditional thinking goes: long hair=boobs=feminine=woman and beard=no boobs=masculine=man etc even if that's not true.

So body dysphoria can exist because the social construct of gender says that certain body parts or features 'belong' to certain genders, and so anyone that doesn't fit that can experience dysphoria.

For example, a transfem who's spent her whole life growing up in a society that thinks p*nis=man is probably going to have bottom dysphoria (especially if she was assigned male at birth because of her genitalia).

And for your example of the island, trans and intersex people who live in more accepting places (with cultures that recognize gender diversity or that that don't equate gender with body parts) might be less dysphoric. Trans people who live alone may also be less dysphoric because they aren't being judged based on their bodies. That being said when the average person is cis and your body doesn't function/look the same way as theirs it can still make you feel dysphoric or weird about your body!

So if you lived on an deserted island there's no way to know if you'd still have body dysphoria if you'd never had any human contact but chances are that even if you felt off/weird, you wouldn't even have a sense of gender. The sense of weirdness is still valid but your no-human-contact self probably wouldn't be able to understand it.

The way people experience their dysphoria, just like the way people think about gender roles or value money or perform social customs etc, is very much influenced by their culture.

And so people with no/low dysphoria often just don't care as much about the traditional construct of gender. They know their body parts don't control their gender no matter what people say and it doesn't bother them that much. For people who do experience body dysphoria though, even if you know that body parts don't equal gender they can still bother you a lot (especially if people have invalidated you [or you've invalidated yourself] based on them).

Hopefully mod understood your question and this helps anon! Dysphoria is different for everyone and it's a tricky question.

#so yes a lot of this boils down to the fact that gender is a social construct but also cisnormative #and if you don't fit the norm and you know that then it can cause weird/bad feelings #dysphoria tw #gender dysphoria #dysphoria #not dysphoric culture #ask #mod answers #gender #gender studies #body dysphoria #sex dysphoria #cisnormativity #transphobia tw #internalized transphobia tw #tw genitalia mention #trans #lgbt+ #queer #nonbinary #intersex #long post

[ohfugecannada]

Just saw a post by @/mscl*ritea saying drag queens arnt a marginalised group and are “just employees”, while also saying trans is a cult amoung other awful and baffling things after Kevin Bacon voiced support for drag queens on his social media.

Anyway, reblog or reply if you think drag queens are more than just “employees” and deserve a place in the lgbt+ community!

#transphobia mention #queerphobia mention #gotg #guardians of the galaxy #Kevin bacon #footloose #drag #drag queens #drag Queen #lgbtqia #queer #MCU #like holy shit I’m sorry but if you think you can educe drag to just a job #and remain ignorant about the artform’s importance throughout queer history #than you are either painfully out of touch or transphobic #or both! #also I’m not even gonna get into the whole trans cult shit because you should know by now how much of a transphobic dog whistle that is #also please don’t go harassing or interacting with the user who said this directly #just report and block them #getting in an argument with these kinds of people just ain’t worth it chief #lgbt

[darling-valentine]

every now and then I remember that time my transfem friend and I were talking about her trauma and her transition and suddenly she said "but yeah you didn't go through any of that because trans men don't get harassed or bullied and have it overall easier" and I just felt so deeply upset at how she just assumed all the pain I went through couldn't exist because I somehow had it easier. I didn't even say anything because I didn't want her to think I was angry at her, because if I do then suddenly I'm an Angry Man that's exaggerating

#not to mention im latino and she's white #how can you say 'yeah you didn't suffer bullying' to a latino neurodivergent trans man that you've known is mentally unwell for years #maybe its because she idolizes me a lot but please i just want people to see me like a person and not like some concept they can define #also it's really sad seeing people say 'trans men have it easier' like I didn't get beat up and socially and psychologically bullied #ever since i came to Spain because of racism and homophobia and transphobia and ableism and every form of bigotry you can think #and even to this day i still have to deal with all that #even when i think im safe I'm never really safe for one reason or another #and being a man doesn't make me any less vulnerable #valentine.txt #valentime #sorry for the rant gamers I'm still upset and i haven't talked about it to her because I don't want her to feel bad