#am i misunderstanding how this works??

[mouseratz]

it's interesting how many transmascs on this site can observe the way that feminism has often been derailed by "mens rights activism", because feminism is seen as a threat to men's rights- women's rights are viewed as in opposition to men's rights & therefore incompatible (for the crime of merely admitting how misogyny has a place in our society)

and yet. feel no need to self reflect on the way transmisogyny is viewed, too, as in opposition to trans men. how trans women's rights are viewed as incompatible with trans men's rights, how transfemmes are pretty constantly attacked for expressing their experiences & struggles because merely saying they exist uniquely is seen as an attack on transmascs, is seen as denying the issues that transmascs have.....somehow, the "what about me?" response is all that matters.

that is why "transandrophobia" gets compared to men's rights activism. that is why it's so connected to transmisogyny (which you're apparently not supposed to admit that people within the trans community are capable of); it is a repeat of gendered issues, there is still a refusal to just try to understand what women are saying. a continued insistence of "my issues are more important than yours" (even though that was never really what was being said in the first place. all that was being asked was to listen, to try to understand....but when a woman says it, complains about something, that's what you feel is implied. for some reason. hm, is there a word for that?)

#take it in mind that i am transmasc also #i just DO think transandrophobia is unfeminist and misunderstands like. how patriarchy Works #even though yes of course transmascs face transphobia. even misogyny when it is assumed we are women! #but thats not really something ive seen transfemmes ever deny. and yet its treated like thats the case. #and why are transfemmes being blamed as the perpetrators of oppression? why? #oh. because of the transphobia & misogyny. funny. #i also used trans men & transmasc and trans women & transfemme as interchangeable here for the sake of argument. #i know theres more nuance in person to person/individual but i think it simplifies it for this specific post so i said it that way. ok? ok.

[enviousjam]

Spoilers for the mistholme museum of mystery morbidity and mortality below

Guide babygirl did you just tell the stranger that you are the museum? The mistholme museum of mystery morbidity and mortality? Mistholme, the name that the beast used to control you? You told an army of faeries your name???

#the mistholme museum of mystery morbidity and mortality #podcast #env.typ #am i misunderstanding how faeries work

[anaalnathrakhs]

btw my mom said it. she said it to me looking me in the eyes. i told her about how difficult it was for me to get through those family reunions, and she admitted it was very important to her, important enough that she was just going to do it anyway.

#i know there are compromises out there #and i'm not going to live w them my whole life so i'll be out fairly soon all things considered #and i'm trying to be understanding when people's priorities aren't the same as mine #but i uh. would be lying if i said it doesn't hurt a little wittle bit. #i'm gonna keep handling it because i've been an asshole to my parents for long enough #i largely owe them that. cooperating and spending time with them and engaging in what matters to them. #but then she's says things like ''but whenever you move out you'll still be part of the family and invited if you want uwu'' #it's just ?????? okay thanks ???? perhaps you could also try seeing things from my point of view perhaps???? #it's all circling back to that. they have a very weird way to ''help'' me #throwback to them trying to cure my depression with amusement parks #when i would have liked a little less of that and a little more help and understanding #it feels like they're trying to put bandaids on a cancer #''you don't ask for help'' okay no help is coming. i am not being helped. #the system can't help me cause there's no damn beds no damn professionals no damn time to help everyone #the people around me can't help me because it's not their job or within their wheelhouse to help me #and they've got their own shit to deal with #on that note #i was discussing stuff with my mom #and i mentionned it was indeed pretty difficult to manage your time when you had to deal with school and friends and your parents #and she was like ''deal with your parents???? what do you have to deal with????'' #oh i don't KNOW maybe that i'm officially an associate of my dad and i have to help out w events and some accounting #or maybe i have to pay back the fucking years i spent being an ungrateful child now i do everything you expect me to and it's exhausting #maybe that you constantly remind me i am living in YOUR house by touching my shit instead of letting me deal with shit at my own pace #maybe the fact that despite everything i care about you and i want us to have a good relationship and that takes WORK and i'm exhausted #maybe the fact that you keep giving me advice that is unproductive misguided misunderstanding etc etc #and cold comfort after you did something you knew to be difficult for me #how you keep encouraging shit that i don't want and am unhappy with because it's the ''normal'' way #how you raised me from childhood to be an empty shell in a family of empty shells #broadcasting my misery #vent

[napping-sapphic]

Hey there's this girl in my class who's been writing me (outta 250 ppl in our class).

At the beginning it was to have sum information about a trip she couldn't go to, but now she keeps writing me without a reason n all my friends think it's bcuz she likes me but she didn't make my gaydar blip or anything... Actually she looks hetero 100%

How do I understand if she's being gay or just polite wtf please send help🙏☠️

Ahh the good ole “is she flirting” dilemma gotta love it

Unfortunately (again) i am really not the person to ask as i am both Oblivious™️ and lacking like most of the other context to this but if I had to give advice i would say:

Don’t discount her on stuff like gaydar like maybe mine is just faulty af but i get it wrong CONSTANTLY lol I learned really quick to just not try and guess and let people tell me themselves. And then also just be patient with it! Maybe she’s interested in you romantically or maybe she’s interested in being your friend! And both are great things to have :) either way if she keeps reaching out it sounds like she’s been enjoying talking with you so maybe just persue the connection naturally and see where it goes!

Idk maybe try inviting her out to a casual lunch and see how it goes, it’s hard to tell if a relationship will develop without first developing the base relationship at all imo

I’m really sorry I can’t be of any actual help but good luck with it all!!

#asks #for those keeping count i am now 0 for 3 in terms of advice asks😌 #putting the useless back into useless lesbian frfr #i usually tell my irl friends things similar to this when they ask me advice #but then they say ‘no that’s not how it WORKS’ #so i can only assume i’m misunderstanding some fundamental part of dating at all times #idk like even if you start dating early i always feel like you gotta be friends first #so there’s no harm in trying to be friends with someone while ALSO trying to figure out if a dating relationship is on the table #again though i’ve been told i’m missing something there so i’m probably wrong somehow lol #oh and by friends first i mean just like establishing a friendly connection beyond like school or work communication #do NOT mean people have to go through months of friendship to date #to clarify #idk im really out of my depth with this kind of thing if you can’t tell😓 #🍀 <- four leaf clover to wish you luck!

[9w1ft]

What is up with people calling Karlie "alliterate"?

Idk what that word means google wasn't quite clear. Like why are they tearing her down? This post I just saw said "who pretends to code" If a person has a whole company/organization dedicated to coding I'm more than sure she isn't pretending to know about coding. Like dude are you jealous because she has a skill you don't? Yk to be honest I kind of hate how karlie gets caught in the middle of all this drama while Taylor is out there living her best life. Like Taylor managed to keep her public persona squeaky clean while Karlie is being hated on left and right by swifties. And swifties can be really toxic

alliteration is when you have a lot of words starting with the same letter in a sentence. it happens in english language marketing a lot but also in poetry. you can read about it here! so enty refers to her as the aliterate model because her name is Karlie Kloss.

separate from this, the ‘who can’t code’ part, i think with the way celebrity gossip is traditionally formulated, i think enty and others poke fun at celebrities in the way they refer to them, almost playfully. like i think it’s just a hollywood way of being catty, and he pokes fun at plenty of celebrities.

unfortunately for karlie, i think that people who are predisposed to hating karlie then take this language from enty or others literally, feed into it, and get all nasty when talking about her as if it makes them sound more in the know to be an ass 🙃 i always get secondhand embarrassment with this stuff.

#in this day and age sites like his have such a wider audience and i always struggle with whether or not he has taken the best measures #to accommodate for what happens with mass misunderstandings #because i think at its core hollywood gossip was mostly just a bunch of publicists and industry members having fun with each other.. #but it was mostly based on a shared understanding of how hollywood works. and that’s why the way of writing these things would be amusing #but with the way misinformation gets weaponized these days and can lead to harm.. i am sometimes made to wonder if its worth the catty jokes

[acesammy]

Not to be someone that earnestly loves things but on god you guys. Supernatural was often successful on purpose

#It just bothers me when people are like ‘everything good about supernatural is on accident’ #bc like. No? #There was a learning curve for sure #they did the second ep and kripke hated how the monster looked. Lesson learned.. they generally stopped showing the monster #unless the effects worked for it #(re: ghosts) #It’s not perfect but think about how fucking successful it is at being a decent horror show #considering it was on /the CW/ #and I am NOT saying it’s scary #do not misunderstand me #I am saying it plays well within its genre #which IS horror in the early seasons #like think abt ghostfacers #the horror elements of that ep are INCREDIBLY successful #think about the magnificent seven #that is genuinely stomach churning to watch #think about like how deeply bleak season 4 is #it is OFTEN successful #/on purpose/ #idk sometimes I’m just like. Watch some special features I BEG of you #that being said I do think the good parts in later seasons often were on accident #Or the poignant parts at least #much of the humor stuck the landing p well #Sorry for being cringe #lea speaks #Spn

[grinchwrapsupreme]

doc martin is just 60% louisa storming over to martin to tell him what an ass he's being and fundamentally misunderstanding him as a person and a doctor and 40% martin doing his job. and sprinkled in between the two is the writers looking into the camera and going "perfect for each other aren't they?" while they wring each others neck'

#i enjoy everything in this show EXCEPT louisa and martins 'romance' #which is a shame considering the amount of time they spend trying to make it happen #and a shame too because if they didn't try to make it a romance then louisa could be a genuinely interesting and enjoyable character #doc martin #martin ellingham #louisa glasson #i don't know if its your classic 'writers actually think this is how romance works' #or if it's 'writers simply do not know how to write a #actually i know they can write a female character because they write pauline and martins aunt and other female characters just fine #they just don't know how to make louisa more than moral outrage and misunderstanding #honestly even that would be fine with me if they didn't make martin respond to it with 'i am in love with you also louisa' #like what basis do they even have for a romance #i didn't mean to get into it i'm just watching it rn and it's pissing me off because i'm on the series 2 christmas special #which comes right after the love confession #like damn give it a rest

[eyeofthechasm]

Love it when i post smthn and like everyone but my followers somehow find it

#not trying to sound like whiny #but like wgat the fuck tumblr 😭 #i never see any of my mutuals interracting w my posts or anything #is this a common problem or am i just misunderstanding how tumblr works #yapping tag

[girlwithfish]

like when he asked how im doing he didnt like my response i guess and it turned into an argument which is so weird like its so easy to just ask how u can b there for the other person or say some simple bs like ur doing ur best but it turned into an argument... red flag fr

#all i said was im not doing the best but im getting by etc and then he said some weird stuff abt how he feels hes contributing #and then i say im just in a weird place but im working thru it its just a rough week and then he gets kind of accusatory towards me for some #reason saying he cant just sit there and watch me ruminate or all this stuff thats like a drastic exaggeration it feels? Idk #Like the one time i had a moment last time i saw him was too much for him i guess and thats fine but #i dont like how he exaggerated and also twisted what happened tbh. like acting like i sat there for hours upset or smth is really odd #like if its too much for him thats fine but i dont like the reframing and acting like all i talked abt is how im 'not over my ex' its just a #gross misunderstanding or misinterpretation of what i mactually going thru #which doesnt really affect him That much honestly. imho like #its not like i just sit there and cry or am upset i dont really go to him for emotional support or rely on him he doesnt have to do that #much for me in terms of support IMO. obv ik #being w someone whos been abused blablabla can b a lot but it feels weird when he seemed understanding initially in the beginning and #knew what he was getting into #and just exaggerating abt me is kind of annoyinggggg #nah hes done😭 #were just not a good match and i dont think hes very emotionally mature and #also in general not equipped for a relationship like. shit car barely showed any care for me when its only been a month got too comfortable #w me never rly has taken me out has no food at his place like get it together 😭IDK

[nico-the-overlord]

I still find it crazy we can create our own signatures to sign legal documents. Hell I could probably try and add a star or smth and make it all cutsie, and still use it to sign off on things

#unless I am misunderstanding how it works but #idk #it just feels so cool #nico rambles

[secretmellowblog]

Ooof one of the recruiters that came to my 3D animation college seemed cool until they revealed their VR company also does a lot of work making training programs for the US department of defense???????????

Dear god imagine going to college to study how to make kid’s cartoons and working for the “help train the military to explode children” company instead ajsjsjd

#ooof #oof oof oof #im hoping I’m completely misunderstanding what they said but I don’t think I am #I already got hired working for a clothing company #(I study 3d modeling /graphic designing #but just??????? oof #i never know how to raise these issues with the administrations #tho I do think I managed to get them to stop sending nft people to campus #since I kept bugging them about it XD #But yee : ((((((( #really don’t like the connection between the U.S. military and the games/animation/vr industry at all ajsjsjd #: \

[jrueships]

IF URE NOT FROM.MEMPHIS. AND U HAD LEAGUE PASS. WERE U ABLE TO SEE THE GRIZZLIES PRESEASON GAME. NOT THIS ONE AGAINST THE HAWKS. UT THEIR FIRST ONE????????

#IM TRYING TO FIGURE OUT IF IM BEING GASLIGHT ON ACTUALLY HAVING LEAGUE PASS OR NOT #DO U GET A L L THE PRESEASON GAMES WITH THE PASS?????? #OR JUST SOME?????? #HOW DOES PRESEASON WORK #IVE NEVER HAD THIS SHIT BEFORE THAT #HELP 😭😭 #i just wanna know if i have to call or not #bcs what if i do and then i sound silly bcs actually it was a me misunderstanding problem #which wouldnt be a surprise as i am quite stupid #and this does involve technology #BUT STILL #....can yall see the houston game xoming up? #AND ARE NOT FROM HOUSTON ? #im so confused 😭😭 #I HATE NOT KNOWINF THINGS!!!!!!.

[snickerdoodlles]

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#i am thisclose to making a post on how generative AI works #im baby level in my understanding of it #but the misunderstandings i do see here are driving me up the wall #also i just saw the stupidest tag in the world on ao3 and my eyes twitching just thinking about it #that’s not how it works!!! this anger and action literally cannot drive the change you want to make!!!! #i don’t disagree with the cause but the fight is so misguided it straight up no longer has any relevance #people are far too enamored with the lie of ‘one underdog vs the system!!!!!’ to put any energy into actual/useful action 🤦‍♂️ #q*

[sadlynotsappho]

hey if anyone here knows anything about typewriters, i've got a problem with my Hermes 3000 (i apologize in advance for any completely incorrect terminology, i don't really know shit about this but i'll do my best with the manual i found on the internet)

1: the platen knobs are just not there (picture from manual with red circle drawn over what i'm 90% sure is the platen knob)

2 (the big problem): according to the manual, line spacing should just be automatically done while moving the carriage back (unless I'm horribly misunderstanding this)

it doesn't do that. i have to move the line space selector back and forth a few times every time i want to go to a new line, and it's not very consistent. or i can just twist the platens, which sucks because there's no knobs and i don't think they've ever had knobs

3: i fucking hate this mint green color its awful whoever decided to design it that way is evil

here's the manual i'm reading btw

#typewriter #typewriters #hermes 3000 #hermes 3000 typewriter #typewriter help #broken typewriter #i'm just putting shit here now #i dont even think anyone's posted anything with the tag “broken typewriter” #unless i am horribly misunderstanding how the tags system works on this website #which i probably am #ANYWAYS #if ya know how to fix it #or if you know anyone who knows how to fix it #please please tell me

[pegglefan69]

feeling at peace with decision that I should Probably Find a New Therapist Soon, or at least Stop Seeing This One. Also smiling tranquilly + looking forward to finally transcribing & posting a really hot passage from an essay in this leathersex book I'm reading... probably tomorrow depending on my energy levels. Maybe I don't need therapy right now maybe what I need is to talk about Weird Gay Things with Weird Gay People

#whether or not current therapist would judge me for the Mildest of Weird Gay Stuff is not the hugest problem #the actual problem is that upon reflection i dont think she actually Listens To Me #or even Remembers when i am telling her avout foundational traumas or like. basic facts about myself. #i didnt realize how insane it was that she wrote down somewhere that i was a lesbian when i was 8 #(in reality: interpreted as a masculine little girl & 'therefore a lesbian' when i was SIX. & treated with open hatred by adults) #until i mentioned it to max tonite...like that is a fundamentally HUGE misunderstanding #when i've told her multiple times that i've always been & always understood myself as a gay boy. Literal my first conception of my gender #also that sugar daddy comment she made was really inappropriate in several ways ..??! #Anyway. #if it was just a cultural mismatch as different kinds of queer people with wildly different childhoods we could Maybe make it work- #-If She Listened To Me #& i don't think she does. #so that's that i guess #dial p for post

[james-stark-the-writer]

you know, i appreciate the work Susan Sontag has done for people appreciating Camp and stuff but i feel like if you are still using Susan Sontag as the authority on Camp in the year of your lord 2023, using notes that were written in 1964, as if the landscape of art and our relationship to art hasn't fundamentally changed since then,,, it's like, you need to catch up babes, a lot of those points are still really relevant, i'm not saying throw it out, but like update your understandings of Camp beyond that one authoritative text that's at this point almost 60 fucking years old. Susan Sontag is not the fundamental authority on what art today is or would be considered Campy, build off of those basics, please dear gods, evolve your understanding of what Campy art today actually looks like rather than trying to apply a prescriptive label from a text that can kinda boil down to 'Camp is whatever you feel like, and you'll know it when you see it because it won't be like traditional art' because the attempt to define it is so wide, calling every non-traditional piece of art campy is fucking pointless and not how anyone is obviously using the fucking label, people are very deliberately talking about one specific feeling they get from the piece of art, and it's got very little to do with aesthetics, at least as far as TV shows are concerned (movies are a different conversation), and much more about presentation and tone and intended effects and what the whole fucking point of the piece of art actually is, which is a lot more than what is afforded to most things considered Campy, like 90% of the shit people call campy at this point is just called campy and then it's left there, because it's a "oh you can't say anything about it because it's campy" like at this point it almost functions as a conversation ender because anyone you're talking to about any aspect can just go "yeah that's meant to be that way, it's campy" and it's like. okay, where do we go from here? should the piece of art not be analyzed as a work of art? does it not deserve to be evaluated in good faith and treated like any other piece of art? i understand the urge to defend the use of the term, as like "oh we're using it because people are misunderstanding art and what it's trying to be", and as a Riverdale-truther (as in genuinely love it as a piece of art and what it says and does, it's not fucking campy i swear to god, none of you fucking know what pulp art is!), and as a TASM2 truther (best Spidey movie after ITSV, and definitely best general movie after ITSV, and i don't care what your opinion is) i understand the urge to want to defend it as camp, but like, what's the piece of art actually doing and trying to say, what are the deeper layers at play? or are you really just satisfied saying something is Campy and stopping your analysis of the piece of art there? is your soul really okay correcting someone's interpretation of a show and saying it's campy and not doing anything beyond that? what does it being campy actually change? what the fuck does it actually do for the piece of art, if the piece of art is even campy at all?

#yes i am in fact Riverdale-posting bc i saw a video essay calling Riverdale campy and talking about Susan. #james talks #anyone that tries to say 'Riverdale is good because it's bad' or 'Riverdale is supposed to be bad' is my mortal enemy actually #james rambles #DON'T READ THIS I JUST NEEDED TO GET THE THOUGHTS OUT #yes i am in fact aware i am using camp as a prescriptive label when i say don't call Riverdale campy. you're so smart. thanks for noticing! #if the implication wasn't fucking clear my point is that saying it's campy and meant to just be entertaining is doing a huge disservice— #to the actual piece of art and treating it like it's not actually trying to say and be something. #you don't have to drag people over to your side inch by inch to open their eyes! just spill your perspectives onto the floor! #the world will catch up with you someday! #you don't have to do the work of getting people to see something as campy to try to get them to see the show through a different light! #it's not even efficient bc like i said it just becomes a conversation ender bc the implication is that the analysis is inherently wrong— #because it's misunderstanding the intent in why some part of something is the way it is but like! you don't have to waste your energy— #trying to correct people (don't even try it. i am in fact deeply self aware.)! #spend more of your time trying to explain why you think it's good instead of complaining about how nobody else fucking gets it. #i get that you want more people to see what you see but that doesn't come from trying to inch them over the line bit by bit! #it comes from explaining your view and understanding of the show! #you don't have to try to convince them it's campy! just actually analyze the fucking piece of art & the people interested will flock to it! #also it's been years since i've actually read notes on camp so it's likely i've got some shit wrong bc i'm not fact-checking this rant. #but like the point isn't even really about the text but how other people use it. #and yes i'm aware this sounds inherently contradictory and incoherent. thank you for noticing. welcome to human existence. #to quote (paraphrase) Vivian Strange tho: if it exists it deserves to be analyzed. #treat every piece of art like it's worthy of analysis and respect and this goes from your fucking godfathers to your sharknados. #it goes from your fucking shawshanks to your mamma mia! to your Riverdale to your PLL to your euphoria to your whatever #anyway just really exhausting to hear people say something is Campy or meant to be bad or whatever and just stopping the convo there. #like what now girlie? where do we fucking go from here? do you have anything meaningful to contribute?